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Content by Kimberly Schehrer
501 Mission St.
Santa Cruz, California 95060
www.thinkafi.com
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Why Motivation Is Not Your Teen’s Problem
5 Surprising Steps to Academic Success
My heartfelt appreciation to my daughter Ashlyn for her
contribution to this e-book. She typed the manuscript, provided
editorial notes and participated in several brainstorming
sessions, which resulted in some key insights to the book.
Above all else, I am deeply grateful for her support, inspiration,
and encouragement to make my vision of an e-book a reality.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
High School is a Tough Job!
3 Strategies for Your Teen’s Success
Common Thought Distortions
The Power of Active Listening
Why Boundaries Matter
Help Your Teen Succeed by Getting Organized!
Help Your Teen Succeed by Managing Time!
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Why Motivation Is Not Your Teen’s Problem
5 Surprising Steps to Academic Success
Your teen is struggling in school. He is missing assignments. He doesn’t
appear to put forth much effort on his schoolwork. His grades are slipping.
He is irritable and anxious. His self-esteem is declining. You feel
frustrated, confused, and overwhelmed. What can you do?
High school is a tough job!
Your teen has begun a serious and difficult journey—to become an adult.
High School is the laboratory where she will discover and examine her
values—and struggle with the key questions of life: Who am I? and What
do I want to be in the world? She is constantly comparing herself to her
peers and worrying that she won’t measure up. Academic performance
has taken on a new level of pressure, especially if she is college-bound.
Study habits that worked in middle school may no longer be productive.
You have expectations for her—you want her to succeed!
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All this adds up to a lot of stress.
I have been an Education Consultant for over ten years and through
my experience I have discovered the key factors that hinder most
teenagers in their academic success. Committed to helping teens
succeed, I developed a system that has changed the lives of many
families and helped numerous teens face, and conquer, their academic
struggles. But before we delve into the solutions, we first have to
understand the problem.
Your teen needs YOU (even though she disagrees!)
The first key to helping your teen is to realize that it is highly likely that you
are misinterpreting their behavior as not caring, lazy, or defiant. What is
really behind that behavior is typically something quite different. More
likely, she is overwhelmed by the new demands put on her. The truth is
that your teen needs support and encouragement from you even though it
appears she isn’t listening. The good news is there is a LOT you can do!
In this e-book, you’re going to learn 3 key strategies that will help your
teen breakthrough to the success he wants and that you want for him.
Become aware of the limiting beliefs that
sabotage their confidence
Help them get productive by using a few
simple organizing tools
Show them how to prioritize and
manage their time effectively so they
can succeed!
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The Story of Abby
Abby is an intelligent 15-year-old
who is staying home from school
today (again) to catch up on missed
assignments. Her grades are
slipping from a ‘B’ average to a ‘C’
average. The skills which worked in
Jr. High School no longer support
her. She is irritable and overwhelmed. Except for her friends, she hates
school. Abby’s self-esteem continues to decline because she is struggling
with the increased demands of high school and she feels inadequate and
“stupid.”
Unbeknownst to Abby, her core belief is, “I am unworthy”. Abby believes
her worthiness comes from the outside, from her external success. Rather
than opportunities for growth, Abby views setbacks and obstacles as
“failures.” Consequently, she fears failure because she wants to avoid
feeling inadequate. In her mind, the answer to feeling valuable is simple:
Perform perfectly and avoid failure.
Perfectionist tendencies are born from a fear of failure. A behavior pattern
for Abby is that she waits until she has enough time to put forth a lot of
effort into her homework. Perfect work is no small feat!
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The problem is that Abby never finds the time to work on her homework
because after school, she has cheerleading practice until 5:30 in the
evening. When she returns home at 6:00 pm, she showers and changes
clothing. She has a half-hour to work on homework before dinner at 7:00
but 30 minutes certainly isn’t enough time for Abby to be perfect.
After dinner, Abby works on a few easy assignments due the next day.
The History paper due on Friday can wait until another day. Before falling
asleep Abby tells herself, “I work most efficiently when I wait until the last
minute.” Her statement is a false rationale to justify her behavior. It also
serves to reduce Abby’s stress about not having worked on her paper as
she intended.
Friday is finally here. While Abby’s friends are elated to end their school
week, Abby is feeling sad. She perfected procrastination on her History
paper and consequently, she didn’t complete it.
She is given a 0% for the
missing assignment, which
negatively impacts her
overall grade for the
quarter and her self-
esteem.
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What are your teen’s limiting beliefs?
Awareness of false assumptions is the initial step to changing
perspective, developing self-acceptance, and achieving better grades in
school. Your teen needs support to bring his limiting beliefs into
awareness.
Core beliefs are deep and basic beliefs which are developed in childhood.
As your teen navigates his world, he filters his experiences into a core
belief category. One general core belief is “I am worthy”. Some common
assumptions that your teen may use to justify that he is unworthy, are that
he is “incompetent”, “stupid”, or a “failure”. These judgments cause your
teen to feel sad, disappointed, or hopeless. With enough negative
perspectives on his experiences, the fear of failure may arise.
The fear of failure often drives your
teen’s behavior to avoid failure at any
cost in order to protect him from
further negative emotions. The irony
is that the negative core belief and
fear results in self-sabotaging
behaviors that actually justify the core
belief instead of challenging it to disappear.
Often, teens are unaware of deep-seated beliefs (sometimes parents too!)
or the fallacy of their negative perspectives which reduces their sense of
self-esteem and their level of happiness. As a result, your teen self-
sabotages his achievement in school. Abby serves as an excellent
illustration of a faulty core belief structure and its impact on her self-
esteem and school performance.
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Common Thought Distortions
“Your life is what your thoughts make it.” – Marcus Aurelius
All or None Thinking: Your teen thinks that they are either a
success or a failure. For example, your teen may have a 4.0
and then takes a tough class and on his first test he receives
a 70%. He then thinks that he’s a failure and then judges
himself as “inadequate.”
Over generalizing: Clues that your teen may be over
generalizing is when she uses extreme
words like “always” or “never.” For
example, your teen overhears another
student talking negatively about her to
his friends, and then your teen
automatically thinks to herself that “no
one likes me.”
Catastrophizing: Your teen takes a negative event and
concludes the worst case scenario. An example would be that
your teen gets a C- on his trigonometry exam and thinks to
himself that he won’t pass the course, and if he doesn’t pass
the course he’ll have a low GPA, and then he won’t be able to
get into college, and then his life will be ruined, and so on.
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Personalizing: Your teen experiences a negative situation
and thinks she is completely responsible for the result. For
instance, your teen may give study tips to a friend and the
friend ends up scoring below par. Your teen feels responsible
for that grade, even though she had no control over how her
friend studied.
Blaming: Your teen blames other people for his choices. Take
the previous example, only in this scenario your teen is the
one who does poorly on the test. As a result, he blames the
friend that gave him study tips instead of taking responsibility
for his own choices.
“Should” assumptions: Your teen may have certain
expectations of herself. For instance, “I should be accepted
into Stanford if my GPA is high enough.” “I must get an A on
this exam to get into Stanford.”
Minimizing the positives and maximizing the negatives: It’s
your teen’s first day of high school and he likes his classes
and teachers, and even made a few friends. However, he was
tardy to the last class period and instead of focusing on the
positives of the day, he feels stressed about the one negative
thing that happened.
Jumping to conclusions: Your teen makes a conclusion
without clearly defined facts. For example, she notices two
classmates looking over at her while they’re talking, and she
automatically assumes they’re talking about her.
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The Power of Active Listening
“…Listening [is] not only to the words,
but also to the feeling of what is being
conveyed…” – Jiddu Krishnamurti
Remember that your teen actually
believes these distorted thoughts. For
them, the feelings that go along with a statement like “Lilly will hate me
forever” are real. It’s more helpful when you handle the issue with
gentleness and compassion, using the technique of active listening. This
approach guides them into other considerations instead of simply telling
them, “That’s irrational – Lilly isn’t going to hate you forever.”
One of the best methods to discern your teen’s limiting beliefs and to offer
different perspectives is by active listening. This process will reveal some
irrational thoughts, false assumptions, and may unveil his core belief.
Active Listening has a huge impact and will definitely result in your teen
feeling supported and valued.
Steps to Active Listening
Engage: Be open, give direct eye contact, say “yes” or nod
occasionally, avoid negative body language, and be free of
distractions.
Suspend Judgment: Don’t give a rebuttal and refrain from
reacting with an emotional response.
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Clarify: Ask your teen relevant questions to encourage him to
expand his perspective and feelings and help you learn more about
your teen’s inner reality.
Reflect: Periodically, paraphrase what your teen has said so he
knows you are present and understand his perspective and
feelings.
Summarize: Repeat your teen’s main points. This shows that you
have really heard and acknowledged them.
If your teen’s emotional charge hasn’t lessened by the end of his story,
then he probably will be too sensitive to receive alternative perspectives
on his experience. It is best to revisit the situation at another time after his
emotions have calmed.
The Story of Michael
Dad: How was school?
Michael: It was humiliating!
Dad: What happened?
Michael: I don’t want to talk about it
right now.
Dad: Okay, but if you want to talk, I
am available to listen when you’re ready. (Engage)
Michael: Okay... Mrs. Franks hates me. We got our English paper back
today and I got a 65%. What’s worse is that before she passed out our
papers, she said, ‘Overall, the class did pretty well on this assignment.
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There were only a few students who scored below the curve.’ She didn’t
have to bring attention to that - and I sit by William! It was awful.
Dad: I don’t understand, what does this have to do with William? (Clarify)
Michael: William always gets ‘A’s so it was super humiliating for him to
see my grade. I put a lot of time into that paper. It doesn’t matter how
hard I try, it’s never good enough for Mrs. Franks. I can’t wait until the
quarter ends!
Dad: Do you feel like giving up in that class? (Clarify)
Michael: Yeah, I do because she hates me anyway.
Dad: It sounds like you think Mrs. Franks might have been biased with
how she graded your paper and it also sounds like it felt humiliating to
receive a 65% on a paper you spent a lot of time on. (Reflect and
summary)
Michael: Exactly!
Dad: Hmm. I’m sorry this happened. Can I offer some of my thoughts?
Michael: Sure.
(When offering different perspectives, it is best to do so with an attitude of
proposing a different view and not with an attitude that you are correct,
which makes your teen wrong.)
Dad: I know that you think Mrs. Franks hates you, but could it be that she
knows your ability and her expectations of your work were higher than
what she felt you demonstrated?
Michael: No, Mom. She hates me. I just know that. (A common fallacy of
teens is believing they know what other people are thinking.)
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Dad: Okay. Could it be that while you put forth a lot of effort on your
paper, maybe Mrs. Franks’ instructions were not clear to you and so your
emphasis was placed on other areas of your paper?
Michael: Maybe. She isn’t very clear.
Dad: Now that you have identified that, maybe in the future, you can
clarify with her your understanding of what she expects from her students.
Inner Game, Outer Game
Self-confidence is directly correlated to your teen’s sense of self-esteem.
While beliefs are important to the inner game of self-esteem, self-
confidence is gained from your support of his outer game. The inner game
consists of self-esteem and self-acceptance while the outer game
represents your support, setting boundaries, organization, and time
management.
Try this. Ask your teen to list ten of his strengths, which may range from
being creative to having a great sense of humor. If your teen has difficulty
expressing ten strengths, you may prompt him with the question, “What
does your best friend think are your strengths?” or you may want to add a
few of your own to his list. Suggest that he post the list near his computer
as a reminder for him.
Over time, your teen will become more aware of his false assumptions
and beliefs which set him back instead of setting him up for success, and
perceive his experiences more positively. He is likely to gain a greater
sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem because he is more aware that
he is in control of his thought patterns and consequently, his feelings and
reactions.
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Create realistic goals
A short-term (3 months) and a
long-term (9 months or longer)
school goal is also helpful and
the goals should be written in
increments.
For example, if your teen has a
‘C’ average in school, a realistic short-term goal would be to choose one
subject area where he would like to improve his grade to a “B’. An
unrealistic short-term goal is to receive ‘A’s in all classes. A long-term goal
may be at the end of the school year, he would like to have a 3.2 GPA, but
again, make sure it’s realistic.
Having a few clearly defined academic goals helps you and your teen to
find solutions. If he is really struggling in a class, hiring a tutor may be
helpful or meeting with his teacher to obtain further explanation are
possible solutions to offer your teen. However, it’s important that he
choose which option he is willing to agree to.
If you decide for him, he may feel pushed and resist all possible solutions.
As your teen begins to see more positive results, his self-confidence will
increase. With a more positive outlook on life, more self-acceptance,
greater self-esteem, and a boost in self-confidence, your teen will be
happier and struggle less—and be in a place where he can succeed.
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Why Boundaries Matter
“Honoring your own
boundaries is the clearest
message to others to honor
them, too.” – Gina Greenlee
Boundaries are important for
many teens because boundaries provide a structure. Consistent
boundaries will help a teen feel safe because they can count on you as a
parent who cares. Boundaries offer clear expectations for your teen as
well. Setting boundaries promotes more independence whereas enabling,
discussed below, has the reverse effect.
Negotiate boundaries with your teen. Discuss what your expectations are
and ask your teen what his perspective is. You as a parent are ultimately
the decision-maker, but it is important to allow your teen to have some
input in the decision. For example, you may say, “Our expectation is that
you have a B-grade at the end of the quarter, so if you have a C on one
paper and an A on an exam, which turns into a B average, that is okay.
But if we see multiple C’s, your cell phone will be taken away for two days.
Negotiation allows your teen to feel he has some choice in the matter. It
also gives him a sense of accountability which can serve to inspire him to
commit to his end of the deal.
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The Consequences of Enabling
Enabling is responding to your teen in such a way that puts a band-aid on
the problem and so the teen never really learns how to independently
resolve it. For example, Abby’s perfectionist tendencies and poor time
management skills frequently cause her to not complete assignments.
Enabling Abby is allowing her to continue with the extracurricular activities
and then take a day off school to catch up on assignments. She continues
her pattern of avoidance and has no motivation to change her habits.
Too strict vs. Too lenient
Too strict: Your teen is struggling with school and continues to receive
poor grades. You tell your teen that every time he receives a C- on a
paper or exam, he will be grounded. This probably will not help the
situation because the next time your teen takes a test in the class, he may
be focused on the possibility of getting grounded and begin to feel
anxious, instead of being focused on the test material.
Too lenient: Not having any clear consequences or definition of what’s
expected of your teen. Thus, there is no incentive for your teen to change
a negative behavior pattern.
In addition to boundaries, organization is essential to your teen’s success
in school. Disorganization causes late assignments, missed assignments,
a sense of overwhelm, and reduces creativity.
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Help your teen succeed by
getting organized!
“I’ve learned time
management, organization and
I have priorities.”
– Tory Burch
Organization is a huge support for success. A structure helps reduce
stress and increases time efficiency on important tasks, as well as
increases your teen’s sense of independence. If your teen is organized, he
no longer has to depend on you for information about his assignments,
materials and supplies, or his activities.
One thing you can do to prompt your teen to become more organized is to
help them see the value of organization. If your teen forgets homework
and turns it in late, he will get points taken off of the grade. You could
point out to him that it doesn’t make sense to have points taken off since
he actually did the assignment. Being organized also reduces overwhelm,
and increases creativity because his energy is free to focus on
assignments.
Help your teen set up a quiet study area. While your teen may want to
resort to his bedroom to study and complete homework assignments,
there should be another area in the home where he can go to complete
homework. This keeps your teen from being isolated and encourages your
teen to ask a question if he gets stuck. If you are immediately available, it
is also more likely that he will ask a question. If your teen insists on
studying in his room, then it is helpful to have a desk and not work on
assignments in bed.
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Let your teen know that his brain is trained to fall asleep while in bed and
so he won’t get as much studying done. For many teens, studying in their
bedrooms gives more permission for them to lose focus and not get back
on track; therefore, assignments may not get completed.
Most families have a calendar to view their activities and appointments. A
super-helpful tool for your teen is to have their own calendar so she can
see at a glance what her schedule is and when assignments are due.
Your teen may also benefit from having a consistent homework time and
recording it on the calendar. Having a paper calendar is best because
mobile apps may distract her. For instance, she picks up her cell to type in
when her paper is due and notices she received a text from Aaron to call
him. She then becomes so engrossed in the conversation that an hour of
study time has elapsed without any studying done at all!
Another key to productivity is writing a daily To Do List. Putting the tasks
down on paper will help your teen to stay focused and accomplish the task
as opposed to only having a mental idea of what he needs to do.
Equally important is acknowledgement, which sometimes gets skipped
over. Before going to bed, suggest to your teen to jot down her
accomplishments for the day. This is valuable because it helps your teen
to consciously acknowledge her accomplishments, feel good about
herself, and establish a new pattern of behavior that supports her success.
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Tips and Supplies
In your teen’s study area, it is helpful to have the following supplies:
Day planner
Folders & Labels of different colors
Binder
Post-It notes
Filing box
A folder for Work in Progress
Highlighters/paper clips/stapler/etc.
Having color coded folders for each subject is helpful. One side can be for
handouts given during class and the other for completed homework.
These folders can be placed in one binder, or your teen might prefer a
multi-subject notebook. A day planner or notepad app on a smart phone is
helpful to record any changes stated in class. Sometimes it is helpful to
put up a reminder on the bedroom door asking “Did you remember all of
your homework assignments?” Your teen can quickly check his backpack
for all necessary content.
Another tip is having a separate filing box for old assignments. It can be
beneficial for your teen to empty his backpack every week to sort through
old assignments, review an exam or notes in preparation for a final, or file
extra papers that may be needed in the future.
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Help your teen succeed by
managing time!
Now that we have reviewed the benefits of
being externally organized, let’s look at the
pay-off of the ability to manage time.
Overall, the skill of time management is equivalent to having an effective
strategy. Most teens need to be taught how to manage their time for better
focus, clarity, and to increase productivity.
Teens have difficulty realistically estimating the amount of time an
assignment or task may take. To help your teen gain an internal sense of
the passage of time, have them time themselves on various routine tasks.
For example, ask your teen to time herself with a chore, such as emptying
the dishwasher or taking out the garbage or driving to a certain location.
First, say, “Roughly, how long do you think it takes you to complete {fill in
the blank of the chore}?” Then suggest your teen set a timer to see how
close her estimate was to the actual time.
By having your teen pay attention to time and guessing how long a task
will take him, and then noticing the time it actually took to complete the
task, he will gain an internal sense of time within approximately three
weeks, which is the amount of time it takes for a new habit to develop.
This timing technique will continually improve your teen’s ability to
realistically gauge time on assignments.
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A lot of teens feel overwhelmed by the amount of homework which needs
to be completed within their school week. When your teen is in a state of
overwhelm, it may be extremely difficult for her to prioritize tasks because
she may just want to jump in and tackle assignments without planning,
which results in lower quality output. Your teen needs you to help her
prioritize assignments and to write out an estimated amount of time
necessary for each task to decrease her overwhelm and anxiety. For
instance, your teen may have the following assignments due the next day:
1. Spanish – Workbook pages 29-31
2. Algebra - Chapter 17 (25 problems)
3. English – 3-page essay
As discussed earlier, it is helpful for your teen to write a To Do List for
each day. Afterwards, help your teen prioritize homework and estimate a
realistic time to complete all assignments.
Here’s the story of Olivia
Olivia: I have so much to do tonight and not enough time to get all my
homework done!
Mom: What all do you have to do?
Olivia: Spanish, Algebra, and a three page essay. I hate writing!
Mom: I know English isn’t your favorite subject, but I think you should
tackle your essay first because you are more alert now. You have to write
a 3-page essay, how long do you think that will take you?
Olivia: I don’t know (Sigh). Maybe an hour-and-a-half.
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Mom: Okay. It is almost 7:00 now, so your paper should be completed by
8:30. Your strengths are in algebra and Spanish. Algebra should probably
take you no more than 45 minutes, so that puts you at 9:15. Spanish will
take you approximately 30 minutes. Does this sound about right for you?
Olivia: Yeah.
Mom: Great! Let’s write it out. Remember, your homework for the
remainder of the week looks like a lighter load. Pull through this tonight
and tomorrow evening, you should have more time to relax.
1. English essay – 7-8:30 (1.5 hours)
2. Algebra – 8:30-9:15 (.75 hour)
3. Spanish – 9:15-9:45 (.5 hour)
Your teen may also need assistance with breaking down a large research
project into smaller chunks of time on a daily basis. With your support, he
can plan the different stages that need completion which reduces stress
and provides guidance. Having a written plan or outline helps to keep your
teen focused on the areas that need his attention.
Smart study skills benefit your teen by helping him to become more time
efficient and self-sufficient. One easy study tip with textbook material is to
turn the headline of each section of a chapter into a question. Your teen
will then skim the material to locate the answer to that question. This
technique is best combined with studying the teacher’s lecture notes.
Another study tip for a final exam is to encourage your teen to study a
chapter or section in a different room for each section.
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The Story of Andrew
Andrew used this technique and when he ran out of rooms to study, he
had to resort to the bathroom to study the last section. His parents
laughed at this situation, but when Andrew scored an ‘A’ on his final, he
had the last laugh. This method works because the rooms serve as files
for memory stored in the brain. Text material is chunked and associated
with each room and thus, recall is much quicker and easier.
Summary
“Happiness is when what you think,
what you say, and what you do are
in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Let’s review the five powerful ways you
can help your teen succeed:
1. Understanding your child’s
limiting beliefs and false
assumptions is the key to
helping your teen use negative
experiences and challenges to
build self-esteem; to grow instead of to fail.
2. Active listening is crucial to making your teen feel understood,
helping her become aware of limiting beliefs and guiding her to a
more balanced perspective.
3. Boundaries are essential in helping your teen feel safe and to
create realistic expectations.
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4. Organization is the external structure that provides your teen with
the independence and efficiency that insures his productivity.
5. Time management frees your teen to focus on tasks and
assignments with confidence that they will be completed on time.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kimberly Schehrer has offered
Educational Therapy for teenagers
for the past ten years. She is
passionate about education as a
whole paradigm, including the social,
emotional, and academic dimensions
of a student’s life. With a Master’s
Degree in Counseling Psychology and
three years of doctoral studies, her
main area of study and practice has been Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy.
This type of therapy assumes our thoughts are responsible for our
emotions and consequently, our behaviors.
Her in-depth and diverse experience includes a position at the Children’s
Health Council where she did teen assessments, evaluating intelligence
scores and personality development. She also conducted research at
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Stanford University, examining depression, and counseled teens in two
major high schools and a middle school in Silicon Valley.
The depth of her understanding and empathy comes from her own
academic struggles in school. Early on in her academic career, her self-
esteem was low because she was working diligently but receiving minimal
results.
One of Kimberly’s success stories is a 7th grade student who was failing
his classes and labeled as a behavioral problem. After six weeks of
working with her, he made “Student of the Month” for Most Improved, and
within three months, he made the Honor Roll. By nine months, he
maintained his Honor Roll status, became self-sufficient and no longer
needed my expertise.