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ICPS Training & Practice for Educators & Teachers

#6 - Dialoguing

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What is dialoguing?

• Parent/teacher guides the child in applying ICPS concepts to solve a real-life problem.

• Helps children try again if their first attempt to solve a problem fails.

• Helps children learn to cope with frustration when they don’t get what they want immediately.

Dialoguing is a communication skill

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Basic Principles of ICPS Dialoguing

1. Child and parent/teacher must identify the real problem.

2. Each must understand and deal with the problem.

3. Once the real problem is identified, the parent/teacher must not alter it to meet his/her own needs.

4. The child, not the parent/ teacher, must solve the problem.

5. The focus is on how the child thinks, not what he/she thinks.

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We want to help children, parents

and teachers

“move up the ladder”

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The ICPS Dialogue Ladder

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ICPS Dialoguing Procedures

• The nature of the problem that arises will determine the exact procedures for dialoguing.

• Teachers do not need to memorize a set of specific questions.

• 5 basic principles guide ICPS dialoguing.

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ICPS Dialoguing Procedures

• Child-Child Problems

• Teacher-Child Problems

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When not to dialogue

It is not possible or even necessary to dialogue every problem.

Always remove children from harm.

Sometimes a crying child just needs to cry or an angry child just needs to be angry.

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Practice is Important

Review:•Vocabulary words•Dialogue ladder

Practice:•Dialogue, Dialogue, Dialogue

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Practice, Practice, Practice

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