2011 gems leaders’ conference love is intentional !
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2011 GEMS LEADERS’ CONFERENCE
LOVE is INTENTIONAL !
Verbal complimentsor
Words of appreciationare
powerful communicatorsof
LOVE
If a child’s primary love language is words of affirmation,
ournegative, critical, demeaning
wordsstrike terror
in their psyche.
Love is kind.
• The manner in which we speak is exceedingly important:
• “A soft answer turns away anger.”
• Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs.
• How many of us mess up a new day with yesterday?
• The best thing we can do with failures of the past is to let them be history.• We can choose to live today free
from the failures of yesterday.• Forgiveness is not a feeling – it is
a commitment.
For some,
love is quality time,
which focuses on what we are
Hearing
and
Doing -
Requiring us to:• Listen sympathetically,and to• Ask questions with a genuine
desire to understand the person’s thoughts, feelings and desires.
We are far more efficient at thinking & speaking than listening.Listening tools:•Maintain eye contact,•Don’t listen and do something else at the same time,•Observe body language,•Refuse to interrupt.
As a child gets older and develops
new interests,
you must enter into those
interests,
if you want to meet their needs for
quality time.
• Be in touch with your own
feelings.
If you want to learn quality
conversation, -
• begin by noting the emotions you
feel away from home:
EVENT• Tailgater• Queue jumper• Uncontrolled child• Late person
FEELINGS• ?• ?• ?• ?
Essential ingredients for quality activities:1.At least some want to do it,2.Others are willing,3.All of you know why you are doing it – to express love by doing together.
Relationship• Leader to leader• Leader to girl• Girl to girl• Leader to
parents
Activity• ?• ?• ?• ?
• Gifts are visual symbols of love
and include -
• The gift of self or the gift of our
presence.
Acts of service require:• thought,• planning,• time,• effort, and• energy.
Jesus said:“serve one another in love”
• Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.• Love is a choice and cannot be
coerced.
• Wise parents in any culture are touching parents.• Jesus called the little children to
come to him.• What are some appropriate ways
of touching in our culture?• A high five? Pat on the head? Hug
in a crisis?
LOVE IS A CHOICE