Three RELATIONSHIP HELPS I should employ:

1. A LOVE LANGUAGE strategy

Matthew 22:34-40 (NIV)

Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”  Jesus replied: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

 

Galatians 5:14 (NIV)

The entire law is summed up in a single command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”  

The trouble comes when you assume that everyone must demonstrate love the same exact way you demonstrate love because that is the only RIGHT WAY to demonstrate love…  

The 5 Love Languages:  1.Words of Affirmation

The 5 Love Languages:  1. Words of Affirmation2.Quality Time

The 5 Love Languages:  1. Words of Affirmation2. Quality Time3.Receiving Gifts

The 5 Love Languages:  1. Words of Affirmation2. Quality Time3. Receiving Gifts4.Acts of Service

The 5 Love Languages:  1. Words of Affirmation2. Quality Time3. Receiving Gifts4. Acts of Service5.Physical Touch

Three RELATIONSHIP HELPS I should employ:

1. A LOVE LANGUAGE strategy

Three RELATIONSHIP HELPS I should employ:

1. A LOVE LANGUAGE strategy2. A FAIR FIGHTING strategy

Matthew 5:9 (NIV)

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. 

  

James 3:18 (NIV)

Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.   

  

The trouble comes when you are so determined to be HEARD that you forget to LISTEN...  

Default Communication:  1.PRESENT the OFFENSE (person 1)

Default Communication:  1.PRESENT the OFFENSE (person 1)

2.RESTATE the OFFENSE (person 2)

Default Communication:  1.PRESENT the OFFENSE (person 1)

2.RESTATE the OFFENSE (person 2)

3.ATTACH EMOTION to the OFFENSE (person 2)

Default Communication:  1.PRESENT the OFFENSE (person 1)

2.RESTATE the OFFENSE (person 2)

3.ATTACH EMOTION to the OFFENSE (person 2)

4.APOLOGIZE for the OFFENSE (person 2)

Three RELATIONSHIP HELPS I should employ:

1. A LOVE LANGUAGE strategy2. A FAIR FIGHTING strategy

Three RELATIONSHIP HELPS I should employ:

1. A LOVE LANGUAGE strategy2. A FAIR FIGHTING strategy3. A LOVE & RESPECT strategy

Ephesians 5:22-28 (NIV)

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)

…each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 

The trouble comes when you are so consumed with the FAILURE of your spouse in their God-given responsibility, that you FAIL in your God-given responsibility...  

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Which of these three strategies do you need to employ immediately?