25 reasons not to settle down before turning 25

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25 Reasons Not To Settle Down Before Turning 25

Stephanie Hayman in Wellness Nov 25, 20! " #$!!am

%nfortunately &or fortunately', ( am si) months away from turning 25 * or, rea+hing my

uarter-life +risis.

( have /een tol that it all goes ownhill after 251 your meta/olism slows own, you get

tire at a progressively faster rate an the sun is truly setting on those +arefree, fun ays.

Hitting 2! was a /it of a +onunrum. y mother marrie my father when she was 2! an

ha move out of my granparent3s house.

4t the same age, ( foun myself waing through the +asual ating waters, nowhere +lose

to fining the man who woul ieally put a ring on my finger.

(3m +ollege eu+ate, woring my way up the +orporate laer an also have a BS egreein /ar stool lingo.

4s ( +reep +loser to the ta/ooe age of 25, ( reali6e the lessons (3ve learne in the atingworl +an now /e looe upon an appre+iate.

7irst an foremost, your 20s are a +ru+ial time perio that allow you to e)plore who you

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really are an what you want. By e)perien+ing ups an owns, vi+tories an efeats

within the relationship s+hemati+, you give yourself the a/ility to learn more a/out what

you want in a lifelong partner.

8ou also give yourself the opportunity for introspe+tive an aventurous e)perien+es of

singleom, whi+h allow you to learn more a/out yourself.

Here are 25 reasons why you shouln3t settle on 9ust any guy /efore turning 25$

25. 7o+us on your eu+ation

Don3t get so hung up on a guy that you negle+t your stuies. There is nothing you will

regret more than not putting your /est foot forwar in s+hool /e+ause you sa+rifi+e your

time for a guy &who you were pro/a/ly totally in love with at that point in time'.

( ha one su+y semester my sophomore year of +ollege /e+ause ( was too /usy evotingmy time to a guy with whom ( was enamore. :learly, he is no longer in my life, /ut the

istra+tion still +ost me an ;4< in a++ounting.

2!. The first guy who says, ;( love you< usually oesn3t

=et3s get real1 (3m not saying that there aren3t genuine guys out there who a+tually meanwhat they say, /ut the ones who say the ;right< things ruin it for everyone else.

(n +ollege, ;( love you< is a really ni+e way of saying, ;( want to get in your pants, so (3m

saying e)a+tly what you want to hear.< =earn how to tell the ifferen+e.

2>. =ay the founation for your +areer

Wor part-time 9o/s, intern an /uil +onne+tions that will lea to /olstering yourr?sum?. ae sure that you have evelope into a whirlwin of strength that +an evour

a +onferen+e room, strie a eal or tea+h a +lass /etter than any/oy else.

22. 4+hieve a level of inepenen+e

4s Ne-8o so elouently state, ;There3s somethin3 oh so se)y a/out ina woman that

on3t even nee my help, she sai she got it, she got it, no ou/t.<

:onfien+e an inepenen+e is ire+tly proportional to se)iness. These are assets that

will attra+t uality guys * the in that won3t /e intimiate or threatene /y you, that


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is.

2. =earn to stop playing games

@ames are meant to /e playe on the playgroun an are not valua/le assets foremotional an physi+al growth with another person. Don3t get hung up on the ;he ignore

me for two ays, (3ll ignore him for three an show him who3s /etter at this< types+enarios.

(t3s /oth unhealthy an immature. Someone who3s worthy of your time an attention willnot o this &an neither shoul you'.

20. A)periment

4 +lose frien on+e tol me, ;8ou nee to go out there an ate someone +ompletelywrong for you in orer to reali6e who the right ones are.< Though ( in3t ne+essarily

agree with that philosophy, it3s e)a+tly what ( woun up oing.

(n fa+t, we +ouln3t have /een less +ompati/le if ( ha trie. Though it wasn3t the /est

ever situation, it was pro/a/ly one of the most important life lessons that (3ve learne so

far.

(t showe me that my pi+iness an is+riminating nature was ne+essary for meC in

terms of ating. A)periment with people an situations an figure out what3s important to

you.

#. 8our frontal +orte) isn3t fully evelope

8our frontal +orte), whi+h is the part of the /rain that is ire+tly relate to 9ugment +allsan e+ision-maing, oes not rea+h full evelopment until a/out age 25.

Thin a/out it$ a e+ision that you mae at 2> +oul /e rai+ally ifferent two years own

the line, on+e your /rain rea+hes that full +apa+ity of maturity.

. Eiss a lot of frogs

4gain, fin out what intrigues you * not only emotionally, /ut physi+ally, as well. =earna/out yourself an what piues your interests /ehin +lose oors.


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F. =earn that you +an3t +hange people

@et over the notion that you +an +hange a guy. ay/e you +an +hange his style or his

+hoi+e of restaurants, /ut eep own, you +annot +hange who people inherently at their

+ores.

(t is also unfair for you to want to tear own a person to suit your own nees. (f people

are set in their ways, they most liely will not +hange ue simply to your reuest.

G. =earn to /e you, wholly an unapologeti+ally

( mae terri/le, +orny 9oes. ( love to sing, /ut my voi+e +oul +ra+ glass. ( always eat

uesaillas with a for an nife. ( +ry while wat+hing Hallmar :hristmas movies. (tmay tae a while, /ut learn to love every oun+e of yourself, in+luing all of your uirs

an flaws.

8ou +an only fin your true +ounterpart or soulmate on+e you a++ept who you are an

trust that someone will appre+iate your personality an soul.

5. Do things with your girls

The worst thing you +oul o is loo /a+ on your teens or early 20s an not have great

memories with your /est friens. Don3t /uget all of your time for a guy without eually /alan+ing out that with time with your /esties.

These people are the ones who will always support you, laugh with you until you +ry an

ry your tears uring har times. They are the ones with whom you nee to mae /eautiful memories.

!. Wor on yourself

@et to a point in life where you are satisfie with what you3ve a++omplishe. Be+ome amarathon runner, rea all of ;the +lassi+s< an learn a se+on language. Do something of

whi+h you +an /e prou an evote your time to at a pivotal point in your life.

>. Reali6e that ;on+e a +heater< means ;always a +heater<

Don3t thin that even though your ;ream man< +heate on his girlfrien with you, he

will leave her for you. 4s ama6ing as you may /e, an as wonerfully as he may treatyou, he +an never /e fully truste.


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Big shout out to the first guy ( ate uring +ollege for tea+hing me this important lesson$

There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

2. 7in someone who is your /est frien

(3ve ate plenty of guys to whom ( was /oth attra+te an with whom ( got along. This

in3t ne+essarily mean that ( +onsiere them people to whom ( +oul tell a/solutelyeverything an +onfie in +ompletely, though.

=oo for someone with whom you +an share all of life3s aily, silly moments an tearown the an+e floor at the lo+al /ar. =oo for someone with whom you +an spea

intelle+tually /ut also /e +ompletely stupi.

. =isten to your gut

8ou +an tae avi+e from family, friens an other respe+te iniviuals, /ut no/oy

nows you /etter than you now yourself. =isten to the gut feeling you get * it may tell

you that he3s ;the one< or it may tell you to run lie hell.

Aither way, always trust yourself /e+ause you3re usually right.

0. Wait for guys to grow up

Biologi+ally speaing, males are a/out five to seven years /ehin maturity-wiseC tofemales.

(3m not saying that you nee to ate someone oler than you to /alan+e that out, /ut

fining someone who3s mature &in terms of personality, finan+ials, +areer, et+.' is worth

waiting for.

#. Deman respe+t

Don3t settle for a guy who treats you with meio+rity. 8ou nee to +omman respe+t

/e+ause you eserve it.

(f this pre+eent is not set up front, you will win up /eing a oormat. Be strong an

learn that respe+t is +ru+ial to any healthy relationship.

. 7igure out your future


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Do you want to /uy a house in the su/ur/s prior to getting engage Have four is

De+ie e)a+tly what you want /efore you fully +ommit to someone.

8ou +an always +hange your min, /ut it3s important to fin someone who shares your

aspirations.

F. 7inan+ial inepenen+e

(nvest in sto+s an money marets. Ila+e your money in savings a++ounts an :Ds. See

if your +ompany has a !0&', an invest funs there, too.

J/tain your own finan+ial se+urity /efore settling own with someone. (n aition, it

oesn3t hurt to figure out if your signifi+ant other is savvy when it +omes to saving vs.

spening.

G. =earn to +oo

Jne of my granmothers always ass me, ;When you get marrie, will you now how to+oo for your hus/an<

( always respon with, ;( will /e a/le to, an he shoul /e a/le to o the same for me.<Be+ome +omforta/le in the it+hen so that you will /e a/le to +ontri/ute to this fa+et of

life. Ilus, goo foo is usually the way to a man3s heart.

5. Kalue time with your family

7amily is forever, /ut some mem/ers won3t /e aroun forever. (n your more

impressiona/le years, it3s ey to spen time with the ones you love.

They will help guie you throughout all wals of life an provie you with a level of

+omfort that is har to +ome /y in any other way, shape or form.

!. Believe in ;what3s meant to /e, will /e<

This is pro/a/ly the harest philosophy to truly grasp. Enow that everything happens for

a reason an everything you e)perien+e in life up until this point is what mae you, you.

Avery little e)perien+e, no matter how insignifi+ant, has shape you into the person you

are meant to /e+ome, an the person with whom someone else will fall in love.


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>. :all your own shots

This is a privilege, so mae sure you are a/le to o it. Jn+e you3re in a serious

relationship, engage an marrie, you must mae ual e+isions for the rest your life.

8our single ays are meant for you to o whatever you want. Have fun oing that while

you +an.

2. Wait for ;that feeling<

( /elieve in the feeling you get when you now that something or someone is ifferent1

that he or she is meant to /e a part of your life an will remain there.

(t3s at that point that you +an ete+t an inherent +onne+tion with another human /eing.

When the hair on your arms stans up, you get a shiver own your spine an the /utterflies in your stoma+h, you now that something even greater than your min has

ete+te someone spe+ial.

. Rea+h a level of self-a+tuali6ation

4++oring to aslow3s hierar+hy of nees, this is the pinna+le that a human /eing must

rea+h in life. (t3s a point where you are wholly an +ompletely aware of yourself an allthat you are.

(t is at this point that you have entere un+onitional love with yourself an +an then she

an share that love with a man who is worthy of you.

25 reasons not to settle down before turning 25

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