30 day action plan

8/12/2019 30 Day Action Plan

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By Jon Sinn


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!Welcome to YOUR very own 30 day actionplan for getting started with the 5 minute

Chemistry System!

!In this Action Guide, were going to give youa specific and different piece of advice,

exercise or Field Mission that will help you

master the 5 Minute chemistry system in 30

days.!This is truly EXCITING!


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! For the first few days were going to be focusingon your fundamentals, these are the basic thingsyou need to have down before you even starttrying to create chemistry with a beautiful

woman.

! After weve gone through the fundamentals,were going to cover the basics of socialcomfort.

! After weve covered that were going to moveinto applying the attraction and Likeness stuff aswell!

! Plus well have tons of exercises and missionsalong the way!!


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!Lets face it, all of us let our personalgrooming and hygiene get away from us some

time.

!On the first day of this program our only goalis to assess and fix (if needed) our grooming

in these areas:

!Hair, Eyebrows, Scent, Shave, Weight.!If any of these things are a problem fix them

ASAP.


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! The way you standand sit says a lot

about you.

! Most guys engage inone of two types of

bad body language.

! Either they slumpand slouch

! Or they are too rigid.! Instead we want to

adopt good posture

as shown to the right


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!It has beenscientifically proven

that people prefer

dealing with thosewho smile to those

who frown so use

today as the starting

point to make a big

smile your default

expression.


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!Heres your first Mission!Your mission today is to go

out to a mall make and

hold eye contact with atleast 20 people.

!Make sure you smile!!If you can try to hold eye

contact until they lookaway.


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!Heres another mission and it requires you tofind your nearest Nordstrom.

!Nordstroms provides FREE personalshopping.

!Your mission is to set up an hour of freepersonal shopping and then while there ask

the stylist to make you look sexy.


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!This is a longer termmission.

!For the next 2 weeks youMUST say hi to everyoneyou pass by.

!It doesnt matter if its onthe streets, in a mall, at

a coffee shop, or on thebus. If you pass someone

you greet them every

time.


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! Were moving out of the fundamentals andinto practicing social comfort.

!Social comfort is about; being friendly andneutral/non threatening.

!Once youve started a conversation, its timeto transition IMMEDIATELY to social comfort.

!The 5 Best Social Comfort Tactics are:Transitioning, Using Questions, Groundingyourself, Enthusiasm, and Using a correct

conversational ratio


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!Social comfort is all about making peoplefeel comfortable with talking to you.

!Start today by making 1 minute of sociallycomfortable conversation with someone youcould ignore like a pan handler, barista or

waitress, or coworker.


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!The most important tactic to learn for socialcomfort is the idea of transitioning or

smoothly moving the conversation from topic

to topic.!Today practice transitioning by using the

Phrasal Transition: That reminds me of

!Try to use this transition 3 times today.


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! Another Valuable Skill in SocialComfort is learning to use questions.

! In general questions are used in 3ways:

! 1. To set up a story or topic ofconversation.

! 2. To tease!

3. To Relate and build commonalities! On a piece of paper write down 3

ways you could use a question to do

each of these.


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! The easiest way to talkabout yourself is throughwhats called grounding.

! This is where you takereal stories from your lifeand explain how theyhave shaped yourbehavior.

! Your exercise today is towrite down a personalgrounding story. Then useit with a safe (non coldapproach group)


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! Enthusiasm iscontagious.

! In todays missionyour goal is to be asenthusiastic aspossible abouteverything.

! Try to find the goodin everything and

person you findtoday and get reallyinto whatever youare talking about!


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! You approached her, sothe burden of keeping theconversation going is onyou.

! In the beginning expect todo around 75% of thetalking in the interaction.

! Dont rely on asking herquestions or on her

volunteering informationon her own.

! Make sure you fill ALLawkward silences


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! Once youve establishedsome social comfort, itstime to break that comfortgenerally by teasing.

! Remember that as soon asyou can tell theconversation has hookedits time to tease

! I can already tell you and Iare never going to getalong.

! Youre too much of a nicegirl for me

! Youre such a brat!! Your mission is to tease one

girl in a safe group and noteher response.


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!RememberAttraction is just thefeeling of wantingmore of a person orthing.

!The 5 best tacticsfor attraction are:Being Non-reactive,

Role-Playing,Emotional Fluidity,Pre-selection, andBeing frame control.


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!Frames are the underlying meaning of aninteraction.

!When two frames meet, the stronger frameabsorbs the weaker frame. This process isknown as frame control.

!Exercise: Find the pre-suppositions.!Whenever you are interacting with someone

today try to ask yourself what needs to betrue in order for what they are saying to

make sense. These are called pre-

suppositions and are key to frame control.


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! Because attraction is an emotion,before we can even begin to buildattraction we must first establishemotional fluidity with the

woman were attracted to.! Emotional fluidity means that you

are able to influence the womansemotions.

! The opposite of love is not hatebut apathy.

! Breaking rapport is a good way toestablish emotional fluidity as ishumor, and your goal today is toapproach one woman and teaseher.


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! Pre-Selection is very important forattraction.

! Most people employ a group thinkmindset. Thus they think if one

girl find you attractive, you mustbe attractive.

! Pre-selection can happen twoways

! 1. Verbalize! 2. Demonstrate! Exercise: Write down 5 different

ways you could demonstrate pre-selection to a woman youreinterested in.


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! Role-Playing is emotionalstimulation at its finest.

! Role-Plays allow distanceand objectivity to allow

for escalation andemotional stimulation.

! Example: Im going tomake you my girlfriendfor the next 5 minutes.Then pretend to go on ashort date beforebreaking up with her.

! Mission: Use a role playon a girl in a safe group.


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!Exercise: Come up with a story fromyour life you think is interesting.

Then write it out in 3 different

versions!A short -30 second version that covers

the 5 Ws (Who, what, where, when,

and how).

!A medium version-60 seconds!A long version 90 seconds!Then try the various versions with

DIFFERENT members of a safe group.


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! When two people interact, one personbecomes more emotionally reactive thanthe other.

! We generally only emotionally react tothings that we perceive as having value.

! Being Non-Reactive means to control ouremotions and project an image ofconfidence no matter what we feelinside.

! Non reactive is not non expressive.Enthusiasm is still key.

! Mission: Go to a strip club and attemptto talk to a stripper without looking ather body. If you can ignore boobs you canbe non reactive to anything.


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!Unlike Social Comfort and Attraction,Likeness is NOT a phase of an interaction,

but rather something to be built throughout

the early part of an interaction.!Therefore its important to note that you are

going to be building Likeness at the same

time as attraction AFTER you have built

social comfort.


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! The easiest way to build likeness isthrough school or work connections.

! Even if you and the girl dont sharethe same occupation or attend thesame school you can still build

likeness by knowing what the

experience was like

! Kids at UCLA party on Gayley, Kids atUSC party at frat row.

! Exercise: Attempt to build likenessthrough school/work with a safe

group.


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! There is no excuse for notbeing able to build likenesswith food or entertainment.

! Know where in your city has:The best hamburger, The BestGrilled Cheese, The bestSushi, The Best small concertvenue, The Best Kareoke Bar,The best dive bar, and thebest rooftop patio.

! Exercise: Figure out wherethese are in your town.Thenmention them to a member ofa safe group.


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!Every city has people EVERYONEknows.

!Make it your job to know thesepeople if even in a peripheral role.

!Exercise: Make a list of localcelebrities to meet, email or

facebook. Then discuss one of them

with a member of a safe group as ifyou two are friends.

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! One of the best ways to buildlikeness is through offering tohelp introduce the girl tosomeone who can help her.

! One thing I ALWAYS try to dowhen meeting anyone male orfemale is think who do I knowthey should know? I got thisfrom networking books and itsthe best way to build likeness I

know.! Exercise: Connect a friend from

a safe group with a friend fromanother safe group whom theycould help.


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! When youre trying to buildLikeness with Pop culture youwant to go for something thats alittle more obscure.

! Everyone like Incubus, noteveryone likes R Kelly.

! Exercise: Make a list of 10 thingsyou like that are pop culture andthen discuss all 10 of them with

a safe group.! Take the most successful topics

and talk to them with the next 5women you approach.


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! By now youve practiced adecent amount in a safe groupand have done a few approaches.

! What we want to do now is stepup our approaching so we canpractice this skillset with womenwe dont know.

! You want to aim for 20approaches a week, so divide 20by however many days you can

go out and do approaches:! For example: 20/2= 10

approaches for two nights. 20/7=2.8 approaches per day.


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! Now its time to pick an opener.! I personally recommend using an opinion opener

like drunk I love yous.

! Hey help out with something do you think itcounts if you say I love you when youre drunk?

! Girls respond! Check this out my friend Dave got really drunk

last night and ended up telling hi girlfriend that

he loved her and she didnt say it back, do youthink that counts?

! There are tons of openers online and in thebonus on approaching included with 5 MinuteChemistry.


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!Mission: Todays missionis to approach 10

women, start a

conversation, tease themand then end the

conversation and walk

away.


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!Mission: Todays goal is to talk to awoman in a safe group and

attempt to build social then break

it by teasing and attempt to buildattraction using at least 2 of the

attraction tactics you practiced in

earlier days.


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!Mission: Todays mission is also a test.approach 5 women, and have a

conversation with each of them of at

least 5 minutes where you try to A:Build social comfort-33% pass B: Break

Social Comfort-33% C: Build

Attraction-34%.

!If you get an average above a 70% youpass, if not continue this exercise until

you pass.


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!Now its time to practice the wholeenchilada.

!Mission: Approach 10 different women andattempt to build social comfort-25%, breaksocial comfort with a tease-25%, build

attraction-25% and then sprinkle on some

likeness-25%.

!You pass if you receive an average of over70% if you fail keep trying until you pass and

then you will be able to create chemistry

with any woman anywhere!


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! Youve made it throughthe first 30 days of the 5minute Chemistryprogram!

!This shows that youre adedicated student whomakes things happen.

! By now you can instantycreate chemistry with anywoman anywhere and Id

love to hear about it!! Send me a success story at

[email protected] waiting to hear fromya!

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