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  • NeedsFocusedTeaching.com

    5 Quick & Powerful

    Techniques to Relieve

    Teacher Stress Right Now

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    Coping Strategies for Stressed

    Teachers

    5 Quick & Powerful Ways to Relieve Teacher

    Stress Right Now

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    In this FREE (But Extremely Useful) Report You’re About to

    Discover the Special Technique You Can Use to REDUCE

    ANXIETY and STRESS-PROOF Yourself Plus 4 Additional Stress

    Management Strategies

    But first, some comments from a few of our Quiet Mind for Teachers

    satisfied customers:

    “I now feel much more content, calmer and happier even when I have a lot going on.” “I used to feel that my life was in a rush all the time. I was stressed and anxious over silly things and felt life was passing me by. I now feel much more content, calmer and happier even when I have a lot going on. I am able to take things slowly now and think much more positively.” Sue Howarth, Teaching Assistant

    “I am able to stay calm in stressful situations and to focus on NOW rather than worrying my life away. I am enjoying life again.”

    “I was very stressed before the course. I worried a lot and was unable to relax. I felt responsible for the happiness of my whole family. I am now finding it much easier to stay relaxed and not become stressed. I am able to stay calm in stressful situations and to focus on NOW rather than worrying my life away. I am enjoying life again.” Steph Jack, Bursar

    “I feel as if the stress is like drops of rain on my waterproof jacket – they just run off rather than soaking in.” “I used to constantly mull over what had happened at work and repeat scenarios over and over in my head. I worried about what might happen in the future and couldn’t switch off at all. I felt totally overwhelmed. Now, even though work and home life is just the same, I am able to deal with it effectively without dwelling on things. I am also able to switch off and detach from situations without losing empathy or compassion for those I’m dealing with.

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    I feel as if the stress is like drops of rain on my waterproof jacket – they just run off rather than soaking in.” Linda Smith, Head Teacher “Better sleep, anxiety way down, no longer being upset with the craziness at work (student fights, fowl mouths, dangerous urban setting)” “It has been a Godsend. I continue to be thrilled by the positive impact it has had on my life. Better sleep, anxiety way down, no longer being upset with the craziness at work (student fights, fowl mouths, dangerous urban setting), physical pain mitigation, improved sense of smell and taste, weight loss without any dieting. . . If it sounds miraculous, it is because sometimes it feels that way. I feel like I'm getting a life back and am so grateful!" Barbara Hinners, Teacher NJ

    To find out how you can take part in this career-saving stress

    reduction program for teachers and learn powerful tools you can use

    for the rest of your life, register for one of our web tutorials here:

    http://needsfocusedteaching.com/webinar-sign-up-2/

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    Introduction

    I know you’re busy and short on time; you’re at the sharp end of education so you’re

    bound to be. For that reason, I’ll keep the preamble to a minimum and get straight into

    this.

    Bottom line: stress is a killer.

    It’s the main reason why so many teachers are leaving the profession and, let’s be

    honest, it’s the reason why you’re reading this.

    Because without getting too melodramatic, I’m guessing you’re already concerned about

    the effects your ridiculously heavy workload is having on your life.

    Effects such as being increasingly irritable with your students, your colleagues and

    perhaps even those close to you. Feeling overwhelmed by the constant demands on your

    attention and time. Feeling annoyed that you no longer seem to have any time for

    yourself or your family. Finding it difficult to concentrate. Dismayed by the senseless

    paperwork. Annoyed at the ridiculous stress and strain of constant student testing.

    Angered by the lack of support & needless pressures placed upon you. Feeling drained and

    tired out but unable to sleep when your head finally hits the pillow after yet another

    evening of planning, marking and other school work.

    With all this pressure you may have already noticed a few cracks. Perhaps you suffer from

    headaches? Maybe you’re worried about the fact that you find it so difficult to relax. You

    might have already seen your doctor about stress-related illnesses? You may even have

    had thoughts of leaving the profession.

    If ANY of that is true… you might want to read the rest of this little report very carefully

    because I’m going to tell you about some powerful tools you can use to alleviate the

    pressures you’re facing right now as well as how to stress-proof yourself against further

    difficulties and responsibilities. I’m also going to show you how to achieve a state of deep

    calm and relaxation whenever you feel things are getting too much.

    But I’m getting a little ahead of myself. Let’s start by looking at why it’s so important that

    you learn how to protect yourself from the ravages of stress…

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    The human body is not actually designed to cope with the type of stress associated with

    the teaching profession. Our innate mammalian stress reflex, the ‘fight or flight’ response,

    was originally intended to protect us from genuinely life-threatening dangers such as

    hungry wild animals.

    I’m sure you know how this automatic reflex operates – your body, in response to a

    dangerous situation, releases stress hormones (such as adrenaline and cortisol) so that

    you are prepared and ready for immediate action – to either run away or defend yourself.

    Heart rate and blood pressure is increased (to get more energy round your system),

    muscles become tense (to cope with the strain you’re about to put them under) and non-

    essential systems such as your digestive organs – are temporarily shut down (because

    they’re obviously not needed at this time).

    The key word here is ‘temporarily’ - this process is supposed to be a short term

    intervention because stress hormones are detrimental to your health over time.

    Fortunately, once the danger subsides, hormone production is shut off and everything

    reverts back to normal; you can relax again. If you’re ever lucky enough to go on safari or

    watch a wildlife film showing grazing animals such as zebra, you may see this process in

    action. When a predator appears, the animals spring into action and run like crazy (the

    stress reflex has kicked in) - but as soon as the danger has passed, they immediately go

    back to munching on grass as if nothing has happened. The automatic reflex shuts down

    automatically and the animals revert back to their normal, relaxed state.

    In teaching, of course, the stress we face is different to that encountered by our ancestors

    and life-threatening situations are very rare (unless you teach in Gateshead). Having said

    that, the thing that makes this type of stress so dangerous and damaging is that it is

    CONSTANT. It’s relentless. The goal posts keep changing and the bar is continually being

    raised.

    Managing difficult students and trying to get them interested in learning, dealing with

    unsupportive parents, putting up with school leaders who don’t seem to care, being

    walked on by bureaucrats who don’t know what they’re talking about, meeting crazy

    deadlines or any of the million-and-one other pressures you face each day in school (not

    to mention the additional pressures you face at home – ill/elderly relatives to care for,

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    children and spouses to look after, money worries, your own health etc. etc.) – results in

    a near-constant stream of toxic stress hormones circulating round your body.

    Did you get that? When you’re under continual pressure, the stress hormones in your

    body aren’t given chance to subside. Unlike the zebra, you rarely revert to your fully

    relaxed condition – your body experiences a never-ending succession of mini-fight or

    flight reactions leaving you in a perpetual state of TENSION and ANXIETY.

    The longer you live like this without doing something about it, the more unhappy,

    unhealthy and VULNERABLE you become.

    You see, when you consider the effect of these stress hormones on the body - increased

    blood sugar, raised heart rate, muscle tension and shutdown of non-essential systems and

    organs – is it any wonder that so many of us today are suffering from stress-related

    illnesses and complaints?

    High blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, strokes, migraines and irritable bowel

    syndrome are well known stress-associated problems but it is now believed that almost

    ALL illnesses can be attributed to stress in some way.

    Research suggests that raised levels of stress hormones can cause inflammation in the

    body and this can aggravate conditions like arthritis, psoriasis, eczema and skin rashes.

    This inflammatory response can also have a debilitating effect on our immune system

    making it harder to fight off colds and other infections.

    Then there is the issue of unrelieved chronic muscle tension. This has been shown to

    cause tension headaches, back pain, joint problems, tendonitis and bones being pulled out

    of alignment resulting in further pain.

    Finally there are the knock-on effects which can spring from chronic exposure to these

    health complaints - depression, panic attacks, irritability, obesity, social withdrawal,

    insomnia etc.

    Many of us cope with stress and the problems it causes by reaching for cigarettes, alcohol,

    food or even drugs. Of course, a glass of wine can help us relax, and a bar of chocolate

    can cheer us up (mmmm, chocolate), but ‘self-medicating’ excessively by consuming any

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    of these things in excess can lead to further health problems that in turn create even

    more stress. And even healthy coping strategies - such as exercise and offloading to

    friends, can’t be relied on 100% as they merely mask the underlying causes of your

    stress.

    So it becomes something of a downward spiral once stress starts to impact on your life,

    and the magnitude of the problem can’t be overlooked. According to the Health and

    Safety Executive in the UK, stress is now the biggest cause of sickness in the UK with up

    to five 5 million people ‘very’ or ‘extremely’ stressed through work. It is estimated that as

    many as one in four will experience some kind of mental health problem in the course of a

    year.

    The very fact that you downloaded this report would suggest that some or all of these

    issues are of concern to you. And unless you do something about your situation, it isn’t

    likely to improve.

    So what’s the answer?

    Well, in the next few pages I’m going to show you how you can effectively stress-proof

    yourself from here on in by learning an incredibly powerful method of relaxation by

    getting connected to all the peace, calm and clarity that lies inside you. And I’m going to

    give you four additional strategies to further equip you against the immense pressures

    you’re under.

    But first, let me tell you a little bit about myself so that you can trust what I’m saying

    here.

    First and foremost… I get it. I understand. Believe me, I understand. I’ve been extremely

    close to the end of my rope on many occasions.

    As a young teacher I was passionate, committed and devoted to my students… but

    hopelessly ill-equipped to deal with the stress & strain of the teaching profession. True, I

    am now the author of a best-selling book on classroom management (cue the shameless

    plug for Take Control of the Noisy Class) … but you must understand that I really

    struggled with the pressures of teaching before I finally started to get a grip on things. I

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    hated pointless paperwork, tough students frustrated the hell out of me and I could see

    no point whatsoever in the constant hoop-jumping and box-ticking exercises.

    I truly came very close to leaving the profession because of my frustration and it was only

    a lack of money which kept me in the job. A period of resentment followed during which I

    had to literally drag myself to work each morning and spent every minute of the day

    complaining bitterly and getting more and more depressed.

    My first big turnaround came simply as a result of becoming better at my job. To cut a

    long story short, I had a few breakthroughs with some very troubled and badly behaved

    students and my confidence started to go up. The more success I had, the better I felt.

    It’s obvious, I know, but progress is a tremendous antidote to stress. It removes the

    feeling of helplessness, of not having any control. Incidentally, if you are looking for some

    really effective (and quite novel) strategies and tools in the areas of classroom

    management, student engagement, connecting with tough students, time management

    and other teaching related topics, pop over to my blog when you get chance. You’ll find

    everything you’re looking for there. Here’s the link: www.needsfocusedteaching.com/blog

    My second big turnaround (really big) came much later – after I had left teaching and had

    set up my first training business – Behaviour Needs Ltd. Again, I’ll not go into detail here

    but let’s just say life had got on top of me and I was finding it hard to get out of bed in a

    morning; I was on the verge of a breakdown. This time it was ‘life stress’ rather than

    teaching stress but I’m sure you’ll appreciate and understand some of the pressures

    because they are common to most adults at some stage – house moves, relationship

    breakdown, financial hardship, parenting issues and caring for dying relatives (my poor

    mother had dementia and cancer while my dear father had Parkinson’s and leukemia). In

    addition, my elder sister was desperately in need of a kidney transplant and I was rapidly

    developing stress-related health issues of my own. All in all it was a very difficult time.

    Actually, there was nothing out of the ordinary really – most people experience similar

    trials and tribulations in life - it’s just that over a period of about 5 years, I was

    experiencing everything at once.

    Things came to a head in 2010 when my partner, Sally, and I were almost killed in a

    bizarre knife attack while we slept at our home. From here, for another couple of years we

    added Post Traumatic Stress Disorder to our list of difficulties.

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    But I’m a firm believer in the old adage ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ and

    that every problem carries with it a tremendous opportunity for growth… should we

    choose to look for it.

    My big growth opportunity was finding a way to deal with the incredible anxiety I was now

    under and I’m delighted to say that eventually, after trying almost every imaginable

    therapy and technique, I discovered true, lasting, life-changing peace and happiness.

    My life changed totally after learning the techniques I’m going to tell you about in a

    moment and ANYONE can experience the same incredible benefits.

    Oh, and let me clear here - my circumstances didn’t change – certainly not immediately.

    The same stressful stuff was still present – the time pressures, the people pressures, the

    health pressures, the financial pressures. It was all still there. Life didn’t change… I

    changed.

    You see, you can’t escape stress. You can’t change the world so that it suits you. You

    can’t change the weather. You can’t change other people. You can’t control events. Life

    doesn’t work like that. The more you try to control life, the more you try to bend it to suit

    you, the harder it becomes.

    There will always be unwelcome reforms and changes in education. There will always be

    crazy deadlines, ridiculous amounts of paperwork and curriculum initiatives which make

    no sense. There will always be students who refuse to behave appropriately, parents who

    offer no support and colleagues who make things worse. There will always be managers

    who don’t have a clue, don’t offer support and use bullying tactics to get what they want.

    You can’t escape these things. And even if you manage to achieve a breakthrough in one

    area, something else will come along to take its place. You can’t escape stress.

    But what you can do is change the way stress affects you.

    You can make yourself more resilient. You can learn to remain calm, relaxed and

    composed in the face of chaos and adversity. You can learn to be happy even when life

    isn’t going the way you’d lie it to.

    Let’s find out how…

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    I want to now tell you about the incredibly effective stress-management technique I

    learned a few years ago - and have been practicing ever since – which completely

    changed my life for the better and enabled me to cope with the extreme stress I was

    facing. The technique is MINDFULNESS and I practice it in various ways, including

    meditating.

    Mindfulness can be defined as simply paying full attention to the present moment. Sounds

    simple, and it is, but it is paying attention in a very specific way which creates the magic.

    This unique quality of awareness is the golden key that unlocks the door to absolute

    freedom from stress, anxiety, unhappiness and worry.

    What you can expect from mindfulness:

    1. You’ll stop getting so wound up

    As I’ve already mentioned earlier in this report, you can’t stop stressful events from

    happening. Life continues to do what it does – stressful things happen, day in day out. But

    when you practice mindfulness you begin to notice that things which would normally wind

    you up simply don’t bother you as much. You’ll be able to face the same situations and

    circumstances without the same level of anxiety, depression, anger, irritability and

    confusion. You’ll experience life without being so tied to the turmoil.

    A friend of mine – who trained to be a meditation teacher with me - describes the feeling

    you get from practicing as being ‘Teflon-coated’ and I really can’t think of a better

    description. Stressful events no longer get their teeth into you; they just slip away.

    From a practical point of view this means you’ll become far less reactive. You won’t get so

    annoyed and you’ll be able to respond to difficult circumstances coolly and calmly. It really

    is quite amazing that a few minutes doing something so simple can bring about such

    profound results.

    2. You’ll be able to relax much more easily

    With surprisingly little practice, mindfulness can lead you to a deep level of relaxation and

    peace within a matter of minutes; a state of profound stillness where NOTHING can

    bother you. This can be a massive relief if you’re going through a difficult patch or just

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    need a break. It’s like going to your own private oasis; your mental chatter slows down

    and you settle into a very calm state of being.

    In this stillness even sounds won’t disturb you and stress and worries simply melt away.

    And the best thing about this is that these benefits continue LONG after your actual

    practice – you can feel waves of peace and calm washing over you throughout the day

    which makes it MUCH easier for you to relax.

    3. You’ll sleep better

    As your ability to overcome the effects of stress improves and as your busy mind starts to

    settle and become more peaceful, problems associated with sleep naturally subside.

    You’re likely to find yourself dropping off to sleep much more easily and waking up during

    the night less frequently. This was a major event for me having long suffered from

    insomnia and Restless Leg Syndrome. The first day of my mindfulness training course I

    slept right through the night for the first time in years.

    4. Your immune system will work better

    People who practice mindfulness regularly have been found to be better able to ward off

    infectious disease and develop serious illnesses far less often than non-meditators.

    Psychosomatic Medicine (2003), Perspectives on Psychological Science (2011), Journal of

    Alternative and Complementary Medicine (2010 )

    5. You’ll experience more freedom from negative emotions

    Anger, grief, sorrow, fear, anxiety and depression can prevent us from enjoying life and if

    not addressed they can lead to illness. While you can’t force the world to change and

    make all the problems go away you CAN learn to feel calm & peaceful in the midst of

    these things. People who meditate regularly tend to find that negative emotions no longer

    bother or affect them the way they once did.

    6. You’ll probably start to feel happier

    Research using brain imaging shows that parts of the brain associated with happiness

    actually change when people meditate. Networks linked with happiness, empathy and

    compassion become stronger and more active while those relating to anxiety, stress and

    general unhappiness appear to weaken and dissolve. Biological Psychology (2004).

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    One of the biggest improvements I’ve noticed since learning to meditate is coming to the

    realisation that happiness doesn’t depend on material ‘stuff’ or situations. It doesn’t really

    matter what we’ve got (or not got) because ultimately it’s only our thoughts about these

    things which make us happy (or unhappy). Meditation helps you see that you have total

    choice over your thoughts and that by changing them, you really can change your world.

    Shakespeare wrote a wonderfully perceptive line in Hamlet which explains this beautifully

    ‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’

    He obviously meditated a lot in between best sellers.

    So… whichever areas of your life you want to improve, be it:

    ✓ to reduce the effects of stress and be able to relax deeply

    ✓ to stop out-of-control emotional feelings from running your life

    ✓ to improve your sleep and overcome insomnia

    ✓ to reduce feelings of anxiety and depression

    ✓ to feel a general sense of increased happiness

    ✓ to have more energy and a greater sense of health and well-being

    … it’s highly likely that meditation and mindfulness can provide you with a realistic way of

    getting through all the blocks to achieving these things. And the most amazing thing is

    that you can see results from just a few minutes practice each day.

    I’ll explain how you can find out more about these techniques at the end of this guide in a

    special program I’ve put together just for teachers like you. For now, while it is beyond

    the scope of this report to give you a comprehensive training in mindfulness, I’ve included

    a special mindful breathing technique which can help reduce your anxiety levels and make

    you more resilient when under stress. Practice this for a few minutes a day and you

    should very soon start to see an improvement in your ability to remain calm and in-

    control when facing a difficult class or stressful situation at school. You’ll find the

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    breathing technique at the end of this guide along with three other techniques for

    managing teacher stress…

    Stress Management Strategies for

    Teachers

    1. Whole-Class Behaviour Files

    Most teaching courses train student teachers to be adept at organizing the ‘teaching’ part

    of the job. When new teachers qualify they very quickly develop special mark-books,

    subject files, schemes of work files, assessment sheets, report banks, lesson plan

    templates etc. etc.

    But there is, of course, much more to the job than just teaching. Increasingly, a large part

    of the busy teacher’s day is taken up managing behavior problems and dealing with

    associated pastoral concerns, external agencies, parent contacts etc.

    Teachers seldom get shown how to handle the sheer mountain of paperwork related to

    this part of the job despite the fact that it takes up a large part of the working day and

    causes endless stress, headaches and frustration.

    The best way of coping with this is to have a separate file – specifically for behaviour and

    associated issues.

    The benefits are enormous and it will make your job a whole lot easier if you don’t already

    do this. Being able to lay your hands on important information from impromptu meetings,

    documented evidence of behavior incidents and having a comprehensive record of

    conversations with outside agencies and parents is very useful.

    How to make your behaviour files

    1. Have one file for each class you teach – otherwise you’ll find one file will fill up too

    quickly.

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    2. Have dividers labeled as follows…

    i) Students’ Timetable

    In this section you keep a timetable for each child so that you know at any time of the

    school day where they should be.

    ii) Teachers’ Timetables and contacts

    In this section you keep a timetable of all the teachers so that you know where to find

    them at any time of day. Also have a sheet with email addresses and other contact

    methods for each member of staff.

    iii) Map of the school

    iv) Students’ Contact Details

    In this section you have a separate page for each student in the class – phone numbers,

    medical details, specific behavior problems (if any), and any other relevant information.

    v) Record Cards

    Have a copy of each child’s completed ‘Record Card’ (hobby/interest questionnaire).

    You can read about them in my book ‘Take Control of the Noisy Class’

    vi) Parent contact log

    In this section you have a sheet for each child and record any phone calls or

    conversations you have with parents.

    vii) I.E.P for each child

    This document (Individual Education Plan) details recommended strategies for dealing

    with a individual students as well as specific short term targets the child should attain in a

    given period of time.

    viii) Pupil Log

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    I find these INVALUABLE. They are so simple to use and yet so beneficial – for writing

    reports and feeding back to parents, staff, outside agencies etc. I strongly advise you

    start keeping these.

    All you really need is a blank sheet of A4 paper for each pupil with their name at the top

    so that you can log information about a child when you teach them. You don’t have to

    write in them every day – it’s just there as a place to log important events, conversations,

    achievements, incidents etc. as and when they occur.

    Whenever a child has caused trouble in a lesson, conversely, been helpful or hard-

    working, simply turn to their page, and under the date write a sentence or two about

    what happened such as “John was using foul language repeatedly throughout the lesson”,

    “Stephanie had to be removed from class today for refusing to follow instructions” or Jake

    finished his work early and helped two other pupils.

    Over time, these comments build up to form a comprehensive record of a child’s

    performance so that whenever you are in a position where you have to give feedback on

    the child, you have at your disposal this wonderful record rather than having to rely on

    your memory.

    Hot Tip: If you use plastic wallets to hold individual sheets of paper in your files they will

    end up being wider than the actual dividers – so you won’t be able to see the dividers

    without leafing through the whole file – very time consuming. Instead, you can use

    masking tape to extend the dividers outwards by sticking a piece of tape to the divider

    folded over on itself. You can then write on the tape instead of the divider and it will stick

    out past the plastic wallet for easy visibility.

    2. Learn to Deal Effectively With Requests From School

    Managers and Other Colleagues

    Sometimes we need to say “no” in order to protect our time. We say “yes” to others

    because we want to please them but sometimes our desire to please can lead to us taking

    on more than we can cope with. When eventually we can't continue, we feel guilty and

    both parties suffer. A desire to please often prevents us from saying no in the first place

    and preventing ill feeling or stress.

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    Next time you're asked to do something outside your normal duties:

    i. Make sure you understand exactly what is being asked of you before you

    respond. Perhaps the task is more time consuming than you thought. On the other hand,

    it may not take much effort at all. Think it all through carefully - knowing all the facts can

    save you from embarrassment or frustration.

    ii. Remember that others may take you for granted and even lose respect for you

    if you say “yes” to every request. You have a right to say no. Be polite but definite if

    you say no. You only build false hopes with wishy-washy ‘maybe’ responses.

    iii. Keep your answers and reasons short. This way, you can say no without feeling

    the need for a lengthy justification. ("I'm sorry, I'm not available that night.") On the

    other hand, some say that giving a longer answer with reasons reinforces your credibility.

    Let the situation decide.

    iv. Always try to provide suggestions or alternatives for the person who is

    asking. This is a key point and stops people thinking you're just being awkward. You

    should always look for a suitable alternative or helpful suggestion.

    When in doubt, it's easier to say no now and change your mind to a yes later, than it is

    the other way around.

    What about when you have to say ‘yes’?

    Sometimes saying ‘no’ is simply unavoidable but that doesn't mean you have to be any

    less assertive. Here are some techniques to use when you have to say 'yes':

    - Tell the person you can agree to their request this time, but suggest the two of you

    discuss how they might plan better for the next time.

    - Tell them yes, but remind them they owe you one. For example, they might cover you

    for a lesson/break duty next time you need time off.

    - Tell them yes, but take control by saying you'll come back to them with a timetable. For

    instance, say, 'I expect I'll be able to do that for you by the end of the week'.

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    - Put a condition on your agreement such as 'If it would only take an hour, I'd be able to

    help, but I can't give you more than that.' You can always respond to requests by asking

    for a bit of time to think about it. Sometimes we make decisions without really considering

    whether we have the time to do a job, or whether we really want to do the job in the first

    place. Give yourself some 'think time' to look thoroughly at what's involved.

    3. Exercise

    Exercise is one of the most important coping mechanisms to combat anxiety and stress.

    By discharging negative emotions and stress hormones through physical activity, you can

    enter a more relaxed state from which to deal with the issues and conflicts that are

    causing your anxiety.

    The benefits come in many ways: the sheer distraction from your worries, the effects on

    self-image, and the biochemical and physiological changes that accompany the exercise.

    Exercise increases blood flow to the brain, releases hormones, stimulates the nervous

    system, and increases levels of morphine-like substances found in the body (such as beta-

    endorphin) that can have a positive effect on mood and pain.

    I know exercise can seem a daunting prospect for many people so let me try and convince

    you that exercise should play a part in your life…

    Firstly, exercise increases your energy levels. This is because it causes an increase in the

    number of mitochondria (tiny energy-producing organelles) in your cells. In numerous

    studies and surveys, people who exercise regularly have been found to have higher

    energy levels and significantly less tension and stress than they had before they started

    exercising.

    Studies have shown that definite psychological changes take place in people who

    undertake regular exercise. They seem to find it easier to accomplish their daily tasks and

    become more effective in achieving their potential in all areas of their lives. Participants in

    exercise studies have been found to be more emotionally stable, better able to cope with

    stress and much more self sufficient and confident.

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    Exercise also enhances the production of Nor-adrenaline, a hormone found to be

    responsible to lift your mood and combat sensations of fatigue and depression giving a

    much more balanced emotional state. This accounts for the fact that so many emotional

    disorders have been successfully treated with exercise.

    Even moderate exercise can raise levels of brain chemicals such as endorphins and

    improve a person's mood. One such substance is phenylethylamine, or PEA, a natural

    stimulant produced by the body. It is related to amphetamines but does not have the

    long-lasting effects that make "speed" or "ice" such deadly drugs.

    Researchers now argue that this increase in PEA causes the euphoric mood often called

    "runners' high." And because depressed people tend to have low PEA levels, the

    researchers say this is an explanation of why exercise has a natural antidepressant action.

    Finally, exercise burns fat. Yay! Studies in both animals and people have shown time and

    time again that exercise helps burn fat and make you lean. And the benefits of exercise

    don’t stop when you leave the gym, take off your walking shoes or get off your bike.

    Studies have shown that after 30 minutes of exercise you will continue to burn calories

    throughout the day at a faster rate than normal because the exercise speeds up your

    RESTING metabolism. That means you not only burn extra calories during the exercise,

    you burn extra calories when you rest as well!

    So there you have it. Now you know why you simply have to start exercising!

    4. The Special Breathing Technique You Can Use to

    REDUCE ANXIETY and STRESS-PROOF Yourself

    The simple mindful breathing technique I’m going to share with you here is a natural

    tranquilizer for the nervous system. The effects are subtle when you first try the exercise

    but become more obvious with repetition and practice. Variations of this controlled

    breathing method are actually used by elite athletes to improve performance and by the

    military to help soldiers remain calm in traumatic conditions.

    The technique is called Box Breathing and is best explained with the aid of the following

    diagram...

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    As you can see, the pattern is simply a box (hence the name), whereby you inhale to a

    count of 4, hold for a count of 4, exhale to the same count of 4 and hold again for 4. You

    can start at 3 if this is difficult, or take it up a notch if easy. You should be reasonably

    comfortable throughout the exercise – don’t stretch yourself so that breathing and/or

    holding becomes a strain.

    Note: Box breathing is best done in a relaxed setting – it is a way of ‘preparing’ yourself

    for stressful situations rather than a remedial technique to be used in the middle of

    arguments and other stressful events - for the simple reason that it’s best not to hold

    your breath in such circumstances. If you are interested in a breathing technique that can

    INSTANTLY RELAX & CALM you when faced with confrontation and stressful circumstances

    the following web session will be of interest to you…

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    About Rob Plevin:

    Rob provides resources & runs training courses internationally for teachers, lecturers, parents and care workers on behaviour management, student motivation, stress management & mindfulness. His live workshops are frequently described as 'unforgettable' and his materials are used in thousands of schools worldwide. He can be found at www.theliferaft.org, www.biglovechallenge.org & www.needsfocusedteaching.com

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