6 steps for genuine friendship

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6 Steps for More Genuine Friendship

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About The Center for Christian Life Enrichment (CLE)

• Located in the northern suburbs of Chicago• 50+ years of experience and a decade of graduate

education between our 5 therapists• Emotionally-focused approach to counseling• Cutting edge blend of psychology and Christian

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Today’s Presenter: Andrew Mercer, M.A., LPC

• Therapist, speaker, and group leader at the Center for Christian Life Enrichment

• Working with individuals, families, and couples to discover a greater sense of life purpose and meaning

• Leading dynamic growth-focused groups

• Marathon runner and Triahtlete • Avid blogger- www.askmerce.com

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By: Richard Lamb







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Step #1: Share from your Heart

SadAngryScared

Feeling Focused Communication

SASHET: The six families of feelings

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• Talk about what you are feeing in the moment.

• Stay focused on what is happening between you and the person you are with.

• Avoid distractions that numb your presence and aliveness.

Step #2: Stay In The Here And Now







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• Be Authentic• Share what is true• Have more genuine self

disclosure• Avoid:

• Preaching and teaching• Giving advise• Talking about others• Meaningless chatter

Step #3: Be Yourself







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• Take a genuine interest in the other person.

• Get to know something about the other person you will be able to remember.

• Encourage them to talk about themselves.

Step #4: Ask Meaningful Questions







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• Pay attention to yourself and the other person.

• Monitor your social insecurities that may distract you.

Step #5: Listen Well







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• Express upset in the moment and learn how to resolve differences.

• Stay current and up to date with what is meaningfully happening in your life.

Step #6: Stay Clear and Current







Contact Me:• 847-272-3684 ext170• [email protected]• askmerce.com• facebook.com/ADMercer• twitter.com/AndrewMercerLPC

Additional Resources:The Pursuit of God in the Company of Friends

by Richard Lamb

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