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7 Tips on Proper Handshake EtiquetteBy Debby Mayne Updated 08/09/19
Do you ever wonder what to do when you first meet someone? Should you
extend your hand or wait for the other person to do so? These are common
questions most people have.
It's important to learn the proper way to shake hands because making a good
first impression is essential in many social and business situations. A
combination of good timing and proper technique will elevate you in the eyes
of the person you are shaking hands with.
Shaking a person's hand allows you to establish your friendliness and
accessibility, whether you are meeting your neighbors or starting a new job.
Practice with friends or family members before you start shaking the hands of
strangers. Remember that people often initially judge you by your handshake,
so make sure it shows your confidence and pleasant personality.
Occasions you will need to shake hands:
Initial introduction
Job interview
Seeing someone you havenʼt seen in a long time
Greeting guests when you are the host or hostess
Greeting a host or hostess when you are the guest
Saying goodbye to a friend or business associate
Meeting in-laws or future family members
Whenever someone else extends his or her hand
Know When to Initiate
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The person in a higher position of authority or age should be the first one to
extend a hand. For example, if you are interviewing for a job, the interviewer
should be the one to take the lead. When meeting future in-laws, the father-in-
law should start the handshake.
If you make a mistake and initiate it, donʼt withdraw your hand because that
would be rude and might be awkward. Always follow through with a
handshake. Smile and continue with the introduction. Donʼt apologize.
Stand and Look the Person in the Eye
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If you are sitting, rise before extending your hand. This shows respect and puts
you on the same level as the other person. Make eye contact and offer a
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sincere smile to show that you are happy to be where you are.
Be still and face the other person to prevent giving the impression that you are
in a hurry to get away. If you are walking, try to stop, turn, and face the other
person, unless it creates an awkward situation.
Offer a Greeting Before and During
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When your palms are damp, you can delay extending your hand if you
introduce yourself while blotting your palm on the side of your slacks or skirt.
Your greeting should include his or her name and a pleasantry, such as, “Itʼs so
nice to meet you, Ms. Jones.” If you have more nice things to say, include them
at this time. Donʼt go overboard and gush, or you may make the other person
uncomfortable.
To remember the other personʼs name, you might want to say it several times
during the conversation: once during the initial handshake, shortly afterward,
and again while shaking his or hand before you part ways. This will make a
very strong, positive impression because people like knowing you care enough
to remember their names.
Your Handshake Should be Firm but Not Crushing
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You donʼt want to offer a limp hand because it gives the impression of
weakness. However, this does not mean you should crush the other personʼs
hand. Be firm but not overpowering. If the other person offers a limp hand, give
a gentle squeeze. This can be a cue for him or her to grip more firmly.
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The Handshake Should Last About 2-5 Seconds
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Most people prefer shorter handshakes. Be observant and follow the lead of
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the other person, particularly if he or she is in a superior position to you in
business or social position.
If the other person continues holding onto your hand longer than five seconds,
politely withdraw your hand. Maintain eye contact and a pleasant expression
afterward to maintain a positive interaction.
Be Aware of Your Other Hand
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Most people use their right hands unless they have a reason to use the left.
Ideally, your left hand should be visible and unclenched. Donʼt have your left
hand in your pocket because this appears defensive. In most business
situations, you shouldnʼt use your left hand to touch the other personʼs arm or
cup his or her hand. However, in a personal setting, you may.
Shake Hands in an Up-and-Down Motion
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The handshake shouldnʼt go back and forth or side to side. Donʼt pump the
other personʼs hand more than three times, or the greeting may become very
uncomfortable.
Something Else to Consider
Now that people are more aware of germs, you may find yourself facing a fist
rather than an open hand. They're not spoiling for a fight. They're initiating a
fist bump instead of shaking hands.
Even if you don't care for the practice, show respect for the other person and
do a proper fist bump. It's easy. Just make a fist and make gentle contact with
the other person's fist.