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    A Clear Minded Focus

    Written by Sen on January 3rd, 2012

    When you have a deep awareness/understanding of your mind (and body), where you understand all its

    dimensions, its limitations and its personality, you are finally in a place to have a clear minded focus on

    what you truly desire to experience in your life going forward this clear minded focus is the culmination

    of your whole movement of becoming aware (or awakening from unconscious identification). In this

    place you are clearly knowing of the realities you want to experience and your being is entirely (100%)

    focused without any doubts, double-mindedness, uncertainties, vacillations, inferiority, guilt or

    ambiguities. I refer to this as phase 4, or the final phase, of awakening in my post Awakening,

    transcendence and return of focus basically, your journey from here on becomes about choosing what

    you want to experience and allowing it to happen. Of course, all physical manifestations take time to

    condense, but your clarity of focus allows this unfolding to be swift because you are no longer

    vacillating in your intent.

    Clarity in the midst of options

    This physical world is full of options when it comes to the experiences you can have, and these options

    keep expanding (the options you have now are far more than the options available 100 years back), and

    each option has a depth to explore. The more options that are available, the more likely the mind is to be

    confused, almost overwhelmed by the various choices available it can be something as simple as the

    type of mobile phone that suits you, or as life changing as the type of relationship/career that suits you. In

    the absence of a deep self realization, without understanding the aspects of who you are as this physical

    body/mind and non-physical life energy, its very easy to be lost in this confusion which leads to a lot of

    stress, and allows for a sense of meaninglessness to creep in (which is nothing but the brains strategy

    to deny the conflict/confusion).

    Self-realization allows for a clarity in the midst of all these options and choices. You start living life on

    your terms, rather than be swayed by the masses. You dont subscribe to an option because everyone is

    subscribing to it, you take up an option purely as a conscious choice to experience that option. You are in

    a place of full responsibility, where you consciously choose the life you desire to experience rather than

    be dragged into a life situation for the sake of meeting expectations or fulfilling a societal norm. Such a

    clarity is not possible unless the power of awareness in you has become strong and stable, so that it can

    clearly see all the aspects of your human consciousness, of your body, of your mind and of your being. In

    this place you are quite unshakeable because you are not influenced by other minds, you are deeply in

    touch with your own presence, you are truly standing on your own two shoes, conscious of your power

    of deliberate creation and your mind is very steady in its focus with respect to the reality it wants to

    manifest.

    You choose whats best for you

    There is no global standard for success. Success is a personal thing, you define what success means to

    you. The definition of success is a place where you feel good about your reality thats all. There is no

    global standard for what feels good, because its not the external that makes you feel good but your

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    personal perception that makes it so. Its up to you to find out what is it that you want to experience,

    what type of reality you want to participate in.

    Each mind is a world onto itself, because each mind has a unique way of perceiving this world of course

    there is a common physical world out there (because we are part of one mind, one consciousness), but in

    truth, you see this world the way your mind sees it so in that sense your world is personal to you. So

    you need to decide what you want to see, or experience and express its totally your choice. Its like

    choosing the food you want to eat at a huge buffet, you can either be overwhelmed about the plethora ofcuisines showcased, and end up staying confused and frantic through out your lunch, or you can make

    some specific choices and focus on enjoying your lunch. What you choose to experience will keep

    changing as your realities keep changing, but at every point you will come to a clarity within yourself

    about what you want you are no longer at the mercy of circumstances, you become a deliberate thinker

    or a deliberate focuser, where you focus only on the realities that you want for yourself.

    There is no such thing as one best lifestyle, you define whats your best lifestyle its a totally personal

    thing. You can choose to live as a hermit in a small shack in Alaska or you can choose to live a glam filled

    life at Las Vegas, You can choose to enjoy a monogamous relationship in the institution of marriage or

    you can choose to live in an open relationship, you can choose to be a vegetarian or you can choose tolead a non-vegetarian life as long as you are making a conscious choice, in full cognizance of reality,

    in total alignment with your minds natural make-up and your bodys natural proclivity, its all good.

    There is a limitation of time, because your present body has a fixed duration of existence, and the

    choices you make will determine how spend this time but if you get flustered and think you need to

    experience everything within this limited time, feeling that you are always missing out on something,

    you will mostly just end up living a restless life some people do this in an unconscious way, where they

    have no steadiness in their life, they are just loose, restless and vague all the time. There is no one best

    thing in life, and all experiences are temporary/fleeting, this physical body eventually dissolves (so you,

    as the life stream, can start again in a new intention) this physical life, its just a journey, there is noend point or final achievement to reach, the very deal of this journey is to enjoy the journey itself. Stop

    following others, stop following your gurus, stop following your friends, stop following your parents, stop

    following an outside mindset, and be a light onto yourself find out what is it that you want for yourself,

    thats a huge part of what self-realization really is. And you cant come to this clarity without the power

    of awareness.

    Doubts and meaninglessness indicate you dont know who you are

    If you are always doubtful about your choices, its a clear indication that you are not really sure of who

    you are. If you find life meaninglessness or boring, its a clear indication that you are confused withinyourself about what you want to experience. Life is alive energy, its very dynamic and its a vibrant

    force, and if you dont sense this essence of life in you, it just means you are bogged down by fears and

    inner conflicts which dont allow you to experience your true self as this human form. Its one thing to sit

    in the caves of Himalayas out of a conscious choice and enjoy that experience, and its a totally different

    thing to escape into the caves of Himalayas in a bid to deny your physicality. You need to be honest

    with yourself if you are living in denial or if you are living in deliberation. Denial is a sign of

    unconsciousness and deliberation is a sign of conscious living.

    When you have been living an unconscious life for a long time, it can take a few months, may be even a

    couple of years, once you start becoming aware, to gain a sense of clarity about what you want toexperience in life and to be free of the doubts, conflicts and negativity in the mind that are suppressing

    this clarity in focus. As I mentioned, this clear minded focus comes as a culmination of your awakening

    from unconscious movement. The phase of letting go of the mind, is a precursor, to gaining this clarity

    only when you let go of the mind, for a while, can all the limiting, and negative, conditioning/beliefs,

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    that are not congruent with you, dissolve in this place of freedom you can see clearly what your natural

    make-up is and thus you can start living the ideal you. Without first going through a phase of letting go

    of identification with the mind (which allows you to see through all the patterns that are not congruent

    with you), its quite impossible to come to this phase of clear minded focus. Thats why I call awakening

    as the process of aligning with your natural expression as this physical form, thats what this process

    really is about to live your fullness as this human being that you are in this present reality, this is how

    you do justice to the intent in life energy that created you.

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    33 commentsAlliswellsays:

    January 3, 2012 at 5:21 pm

    Sen,

    What is your opinion on destiny?

    How does life plan out? Meaning is life already following its plan and it is preset? or being created

    daily?

    For example when someone dies, is the time of death already in the works at birth?

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 3, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    All physical forms that get created, get created in an intention produced in life energy

    nothing is created without an intention preceding it. The natural make-up of your brain, and

    certain natural conditioning in your body, gets created in this intention. So in this sense, the

    intention in life-stream that came forth in this expression as this physical body, creates certain

    boundaries (natural conditioning) in the body and these boundaries actually can give

    direction to your physical life, if you align with them. Everything physical comes with aboundary, only the non-physical is limitless. So in this sense, the natural make-up of your

    mind, and the conditioning in your body, are like your destiny but its totally upto you

    whether you want to live aligned with it, and you have this choice on a moment to moment

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    basis. When you are in alignment with the natural make-up of your mind you feel aligned,

    when you are disconnected from your natural-makeup you end up in incongruent realities. So

    basically, you have the choice to align with your life-stream or stay opposed to it life is not

    asserting anything, and in this sense you are not forced to live any destiny, and the choices

    you make in this physical world ultimately decide the course of your life. However, when

    you are not aligned with the natural make-up of your mind, you dont follow your natural

    calling, and hence there is always a sense of disconnection or suffering within.

    In fact, even the desires that you come up with are basically coming from these boundaries,

    or the natural make-up of your mind. So basically even the flavor of your desires are part of

    the destiny/intention in which you were born. So when you align with your desires, you are

    actually aligning with your life-stream, and in that sense living your destiny. Also, once you

    are physical, you can make choices based on your experience here, sometimes consciously

    sometimes unconsciously, so there is on such thing as a fixed pre-scripted life its not like

    a pre-scripted game its very dynamic and your choices here on the physical ultimately

    decide your experience. Sometimes life energy comes forth as some physical forms with an

    intention to die at a certain time, usually such a physical form is not endowed with a brain

    that has a capacity for awakening or awareness, to make any real choice its just a likea machine thats keyed up to move and stop. But if your brain has the capacity to be

    conscious, it can make deliberate choices. So its not black and white, where everything

    is pre-scripted life is always happening in the Now, and your choices in the Now cause

    your life movement for the future.

    Alliswellsays:

    January 3, 2012 at 6:12 pm

    How do you respond to Gods Plan then?

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 3, 2012 at 6:28 pm

    The wholeness of life energy is essentially all there is, and thats basically who we are the

    one being or one consciousness, that moves into life streams based on its intention. So

    essentially, even though there is a body/mind that you identify with, in your essence you are

    wholeness of life This life energy is what I would use the label God for, if anything so

    in that sense who we are essentially is God. The intention of the life stream that created this

    body is what I would call the plan, and when you are in alignment with your natural

    make-up you stay aligned with your natural expression, intention, purpose or plan. However,

    you have the choice to stay opposed to your natural expression, this is what it means to stay

    opposed to your life-stream. Moreover, its not as if every moment of your life is pre

    scripted, your moment to moment experiences purely come from the choices you make

    you can either be in resistance or in your wholeness. This is what Id described in my

    previous reply.

    Alliswellsays:

    January 3, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    Thanks Sen..

    Reply

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    January 4, 2012 at 3:03 am

    dear sen,so does this mean our life is partially prescripted and partially dependent on the choices we

    make on a moment to moment basis?its a lil confusing..

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 4, 2012 at 5:54 am

    An intention precedes creation, so each human body is created in a certain intention in the

    life-stream to express/experience itself. This intention creates the natural make-up of the

    brain and the body (the internal conditioning or natural conditioning, also narrowly called

    Genetics present in the DNA structure). So, in this sense the natural make-up of your mind,

    and the genetic coding in your body, is your destiny because you are born with it and it

    defines the intention that created you. However, once you are born you are also subject to

    external conditioning from the outside and from there its your choice whether you align

    with your natural make-up or if do things that are opposed to your natural expression in this

    sense nothing is pre-scripted but determined by your choices here. You keep adding to the

    intention in your life-stream based on the desires that you come up with in your physical

    life (your true desires are also coming from the natural make-up of your mind). If you align

    with your natural make-up you easily live out the intention that created you plus you feel

    joyful, passionate and effortless in your movements because you are in alignment with

    your natural expression. If you stay mis-aligned it feels like a conflict within, and hence there

    is a sense of being lost. Also your moment to moment experience is determined by your

    choices in the moment, whether you are in alignment with your life-stream or if you are

    opposed to it thats your choice, because you can oppose your natural expression based on

    your external conditioning (fear-based conditioning or lack based conditioning). Its just that

    when you move in opposition to your life-stream, it feels like a lot of strain and conflict.

    Rafaelsays:

    January 4, 2012 at 11:42 pm

    Sen, what is your view/ opinion on scientology?

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 5, 2012 at 10:16 am

    Ive no idea what Scientology entails, or what its about, other than the fact that Tom Cruiseis in on it so I cant really make any observations on it. Hopefully it teaches its followers to

    become more aware and understand their true nature as the creator of their life, and thus gives

    them an understanding to connect with their natural expression, or inner guidance in which

    case it can be empowering. If on the other hand it gives them some new conditioning or

    boundaries, then its not serving any real purpose towards liberating the person and it would

    just be a means of shifting between belief systems.

    Dori Moody says:

    January 5, 2012 at 12:44 am

    How can one line up with their desires if they dont know what they desire?

    Reply

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    Sen says:

    January 5, 2012 at 9:59 am

    Whats important is that you start becoming awareness of the reality that you childhood and

    adolescent years are over, and you are full grown adult now. The mind can unconsciously

    keep carrying a child identity in it, looking at itself from the perspective of its childhood

    and gaining an identity from it you cannot truly enjoy the freedom of your adulthood aslong as you cling to your child identity. The inferiority complex that you feel is rooted in

    your identification with childhood behaviors, in a simple sense you are yet to come to terms

    with the reality that youve now become a grown up adult frankly if someone judges you

    for your school grades, it just shows an incredible childishness, and immaturity, on their part.

    When you bring an clear awareness to these thoughts you will see the inherent silliness in

    them.

    You have a unique mind, with unique capabilities, aptitude and talent as an adult, you can

    have the awareness to start understanding your mind and aligning with its natural make-up.

    You job is to just live your true potential, you dont have to prove yourself to anyone or liveanyones expectation of you just move towards becoming the best version of who you are,

    through an alignment towards your joy, your passion. Stop looking at yourself in such a

    limiting manner, to judge yourself for the type of school you went to or the grades you got is

    the most incredibly limiting way to define yourself. So you were not good at academics, its

    no big deal, there are many successful men, and women, who did badly in school if you

    didnot know Albert Einstein was so bad at school that he had to drop out, and his mother

    taught him at home he is one of the most ground breaking physicist this date, when he was

    interviewed once about the source of his intelligence he said Everyone is actually a genius,

    but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will always feel stupid about itself

    what he meant was each of us has our unique talent, ability and potential, but if we startcomparing ourselves to others, we will always feel bad about ourselves be who you are,

    stop comparing yourself with others, live your originality. Your journey here is not to keep

    comparing yourself with others, but to know yourself and express who you really are,

    allowing your potential to come forth into this reality. A sword is big and mighty, but it still

    cant do the job of a needle each one of us is unique in our own way, and we have a place

    here in this life because we are born in the intention of life, you are worthy being just as you

    are. Stop trying to improve yourself through comparison, rather move towards aligning

    yourself with who you naturally are this is what makes you powerful.

    Jelsays:January 7, 2012 at 6:50 pm

    I can so relate to Anil in many ways- where circumstances are different, but traumatic childhood is

    the same. I have spent the last 20 years since my first depressive episode at 16 trying to understand

    myself and the world and how to live in it. It has taken me years & years of therapy and led me to

    question everything from anarchy to zen. It has been a long hard journey travelling through so

    much negativity.

    Three years ago, I give up a high paying but stressful job. I was burnt out and was still looking to

    the outside world for wholeness. This last 3 years have been more hellish than ever, as I have taken

    a very self-destructive path but at the same time seeking truth.

    Now I find myself in the ahh moments of understanding the nature of the mind, body and our life

    force. Your teachings have been of enormous help in clarifying this process. However I find myself

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    in deep resistance to moving forward and aligning with my life-force. Instead of being grateful for

    the journey, the insights and awareness that is now emerging- I am angry, judgmental on all the

    huge mistakes I made on the way and so annoyed that I didnt grasp these truths much earlier and

    saved myself from such pain and struggle. Any suggestions on moving on?

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    Sen says:

    January 8, 2012 at 9:52 am

    If you see, your whole journey was been about struggling, be it in a job, or in your spiritual

    search. Its only when you were totally exhausted, and burnt out, that you were able to

    surrender, and in one sense you kinda let go and relaxed due to exhaustion. When you let

    go, it allows an opportunity for your life-stream to start guiding you back to your alignment

    and natural expression, and this is one reason why you were able to come across some clear

    understandings of life in this place. You can look back and wonder why you kept struggling

    so much, or you can look at positively and realize that your struggles helped you understand

    all the things that dont work for you, so that enables you now to have a clear mind and

    know what you really want from life and who you really are. This whole journey is aboutself realization and alignment, first you realize who you are (as this human form and as life

    energy) and then you start aligning with your human dimensions. I think you are present in

    the right place where you have the openness to finally allow yourself to be who you are, and

    thus come to your natural expression.

    Jelsays:

    January 9, 2012 at 11:45 pm

    Sen thank you so much for your response most helpful. What would you say is the difference

    between struggle and effort?

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 10, 2012 at 7:05 am

    Struggle is an effort based means of living where your actions are always coming from a

    place of fear, lack or misalignment with your natural makeup. When you are aligned with

    your natural expression, your actions always feel effortless, as if you are in a flow, because

    you have the momentum of your life-stream behind you.

    Jelsays:January 11, 2012 at 8:31 pm

    Thank you so much Sen.

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    Anil Khanna says:

    January 16, 2012 at 11:09 am

    Dear Sen, i tried everything but i dont know why m not getting any benifit from anything.negative

    thoughts, helath prblems making my life hell. i m tyring to keep myself posotive but whenever i am

    in public or in office all thoughts again making me depressed & m thiking negative & start

    comparing my self with others & when i m at home only that time i feel little bit good because that

    time only i feel i am secure. till date no docotrs able to help me i tried diff diff antidepressant &

    others natural remedies but nothing helped me.

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    i dont know what should i do . see if there is anything practical exercise which u can suggest me.

    believe me i have never seen any happy day in my life. now my age is 29 & its a gud age for

    marriage but my past , my health , my depression not allowing me to even think about marriage. pls

    consider my last post & suggest something for me .

    waiting for your reply

    Regards\Anil

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    Sen says:

    January 16, 2012 at 6:47 pm

    Anil, when we are kids our brains lack the power of awareness, so this causes us to live in an

    unconscious manner, drifting about, following the conditioning and programming meted out

    by the society (parents, teachers, culture, media, friends etc). Moreover, in this state of low

    awareness we also make a lot of misinterpretations about life, about ourselves, and develop

    several limiting/negative thought patterns. This is what unconscious living is all about, andbasically you have no choice when the level of awareness in your brain is low. But as we

    grow up, our brains develop the capacity for self-awareness and self-reasoning (unless the

    brain has a physiological retardation that prevents it from having the capacity to do

    self-introspection or self-reasoning). The fact that you are aware of your minds negativity,

    shows that your brain, now, has a good level of awareness, and hence you have the choice to

    start living consciously in an aligned manner. Its still a choice that you need to make, but

    since your brain has the awareness now it has the possibility of this choice.

    You will have to start with your attitude your words indicate a strong presence of

    self-loathing and defeatist attitude in your mind. No amount of medicine, or techniques, cancure a bad attitude the change happens when you make an aware choice towards letting

    go of the negative attitude. It starts with no longer falling for excuses, or defending negativity

    in you, just make a commitment that you will no longer fuel negative thoughts its a choice

    you need to make, it cant be forced upon you, neither can this happen overnight, its a

    gradual process of slowing letting go self-defeating thoughts using your awareness of them.

    Its not about trying out techniques and strategies, because ultimately when your foundation

    is rooted in negativity all the techniques you try out will also be coming from the same

    negative place. Whats required is to change the foundation to positive and there is no

    technique for it other than to use your awareness to stop fueling negative thoughts. Once you

    make a commitment towards no longer fueling negative thoughts, you will soon reach a pointwhere you feel stable in your being and from this place you can think more clearly and attract

    realities that assist you towards positive growth. This commitment cannot be forced through a

    technique, its something you have to make a choice towards.

    Inquisitive Beingsays:

    January 19, 2012 at 6:44 pm

    Sen,

    Your articles are deeply awakening and I have grown very fond of your website and the simplicityin which it addresses the complexity of its message.

    What are your views on education, the learning process, art, inspiration, and lifes calling?

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    Warm Regards

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 21, 2012 at 5:57 pm

    There are two facets to physical life experience and expression. Education, learning and

    creative expression are means through which we can find a way to express our naturalmakeup and in the same way understanding our true nature is a means to ensure we have a

    balanced experience of life. Its possible to be lost in our creative expression to the extent that

    we lose out on having a balanced experience of life, and its possible to be lost in experiences

    to the point where we disconnect from our creative expression. So a balance between the two

    is required. Lifes calling is basically coded in you as your natural makeup, when you are

    aligned with your natural makeup you are in alignment with your life-stream, however in

    order to have a positive experience of life its required to not only be aligned without lifes

    calling but also with our physicality in order to savor the experience of life.

    nvibes says:

    January 20, 2012 at 10:08 am

    Can you explain a bit more about how to let go of guilt, especially for actions you took

    unconsciously and could not help?

    Ive had an experience where I acted in ways that were not wrong as such, but placed too high

    expectations on someone else to give me something that they could not give. But at the time I could

    not see myself, I thought what i was asking for was right, it felt right to me.

    So now,as I am deeply aware of being able to take unconscious actions and decisions, I struggle to

    take decisions, do things without thinking them through deeply because Im concerned about whatmy intention is/which voice to listen to/whether i am taking an unconscious action? Even very

    small decisions, although some of this is beacuse I want to make the right/best decision for me so

    i do not have to listen to my self critical voice telling me off for making the wrong decision.

    So it means I may take too long to make a decision and lose out on opportunities.

    My real question is, how do you take conscious actions/decisions when you dont even know that

    you are unconscious/acting unconsciously? Or is it the case of accepting that I may always to some

    degree be unconscious and its simply a learning game of continuously discovering layers of

    unconsciousness as it arises? Henced lots of mistakes will be made along the way.

    Reply

    Sen says:

    January 21, 2012 at 12:14 am

    You can learn from your past behavior by understand the unconscious patterns in you that

    instigated some reactive actions, but its totally unproductive to dwell in guilt because its

    not about becoming a perfect human but about constant growth. The more aware you

    become of your unconscious patterns the less likely you are to repeat them, so in that sense

    everything has a value and life continues to find opportunities to grow.

    You cant ever know if your decisions are right or wrong, because you cant predict the

    future. What you can control is your vibrational content, the less intense your resistance the

    easier it is for you to attract situations of well-being. Awareness is just a light you need to use

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    to understand your resistance patterns, and thus let go of them so that you feel more spacious

    and open within. The very fact that you are growing in awareness ensures constant betterment

    in your life situation, and you just need to allow the journey to keep unfolding without being

    too hard on yourself for any decisions that you feel went wrong. Remember its not about

    becoming perfect but about allowing for constant growth. You have to allow the fear of being

    wrong, so that you can move freely in life instead of worrying about every step you take.

    Every situation has an opportunity for growth so there is nothing wrong with anything.

    Treetersays:

    February 16, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    Im struggeling with understanding my brain denying conflict. I have been In a relationship for over

    a decade and up til recently it has been my main focus. It is the main reason for my suffering that

    has brought me to where I am today. However my mate says its because im parinoid. I feel a strong

    urge to move on and avoid theses patterns of conflict. Then there is a stronger urge to stay because

    of my current limitations. It does not make sense to me and I know I carry some preconceived ideas

    to vows and headship. And I obviously do not have deep awareness yet. Im so confused when my

    reality seems pleasant one moment and then a complete mess the next. Brain conflict or life streamdesires? What is your understanding on vows and headship? And what else to I need to understand

    better to get unstuck?

    Thanks again!

    T

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    Sen says:

    February 16, 2012 at 11:32 pm

    Treeter, for a while you will need to let go of the need to cling to the good feelings, and

    allow yourself to fully open up to all the bad feelings that are arising within (the suppressed

    negative energy and the momentum of negativity in the mind). Your current reality will

    always help you unearth all your suppressed negativity and bring it to your consciousness

    instead of feeling bad, realize that this is a detox process and allow the negativity to be

    unearthed, allow it arise, stay in an awareness of it, and see it dissolve on its own gradually. If

    you just stay as a space of awareness, this whole detox will happen pretty quickly and you

    will come to a place of inner wholeness ensures a positive experience of life for you. Until

    you come to a place of inner wholeness, your reality will seem to constantly reflect the

    negativity within you, so that you can bring it to your awareness if you have the attitude of

    learning, you will no look at this as a drag, but would look at it as a constant growth.

    Its natural to want to cling to the good feelings, but when you do so you are no longer open

    to releasing the negativity because you are not fully allowing of it to arise within you. When

    youve released most of the negative momentum in the brain, and released the negative

    energy in your inner space, you just feel the permanent presence of inner wholeness, its not

    something you need to keep seeking, it just becomes evident/permanent when the cloud of

    negativity has been released.

    Treetersays:

    February 16, 2012 at 11:44 pm

    Awesome and thank you for the explaination so glad I asked! And OMG! Does it ever happen

    before you realize and act in awareness, that something so obvious was over looked? My bad? But

    if you ask me it was totally my life force that I did not listen to but I learned to trust for future I

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    hope!?

    So tell me more, and I want to know your understanding on vows and headship are they

    obsolete/covered in total awareness?

    Thanks,

    T

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    Sen says:February 17, 2012 at 12:02 am

    Treeter, one can use force of fear to control a mind (for example, through vows and headship)

    but one cannot control the heart. If your heart is no longer in a relationship, no amount of

    vows is going to make any difference, it can basically just be a means through which a fearful

    mind feels forced to stay in a relationship. A relationship thats no longer an avenue for joy

    or love, is most a source of drain than anything else, and to continue in it because a chore or a

    habit rather than the hearts desire. If you still find love in the relationship below the

    negativity and you sense that once you are free of negativity within you can find joy in the

    same relationship, you can just allow the negativity to be released within you and see how itshifts your relationship. If you sense that there is no love left, you can be sure that as you

    start letting go of your own inner fears, you will automatically feel inspired to move out of it.

    Treetersays:

    February 17, 2012 at 5:04 am

    Sweet! : )

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    Jim says:

    February 26, 2012 at 6:08 am

    How were you able to get clear so (relatively) quickly?

    Many people try for years and years and make little progress. And the little progress they do make,

    seems to disappear. Would appreciate your thoughts on this.

    Thanks

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    Sen says:

    February 26, 2012 at 6:56 am

    Jim, if we can do away with distractions for a small period of our life, and spend some time

    simply being aware of ourselves of our mind, of our body, of the world in general, it brings

    a deep clarity. The problem is that everything can become a distraction, even practices for

    becoming more aware can become distractions. Our inner space is an unfamiliar domain

    since we most of us are used to being focused on the outside since the day we were born so

    the brain is circumspect about exploring this inner space, and it would rather just stay

    distracted on the outside engaging with the outside, and in many cases there is an unknown

    fear to explore ourselves deeply because we may be afraid of accepting what we may find,

    and so to stay engaged in the outside seems like a safer option to the brain, so we keep

    ourselves as distracted as we can. Most of us are afraid to even spend 10 minutes sitting with

    ourselves without doing anything, we feel restless to just be with ourselves and we

    immediately try to do something to keep ourselves occupied in some way.

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    Even people who decide to make the inner journey are still hooked up on distractions they

    take up all forms of practices and meditations which become techniques to keep the brain

    occupied, without really allowing themselves to connect with themselves. So they go on for

    years and years, repeating the same practices, hoping that these practice would somehow take

    them to some unknown state of bliss so basically they have some vague idea about what

    clarity or enlightenment means, and they just keep chasing this vague idea. Its amazing

    how a word like enlightenment can create so many imaginations and misunderstandings in

    people mind and keep them occupied pursuing it as some vague goal for years together. Sopeople make enlightenment into a life-long goal, by holding onto to vague ideas that its

    rare state of reach, they dont even know what they are looking for and they keep looking

    away, thats why they keep looking forever, these are the people who are not willing to see

    reality in a simple way. Enlightenment simply means to know yourself in your wholeness

    which means knowing your physical aspects and non-physical aspects, by knowing yourself

    as the brain/body and knowing yourself as the life-energy that makes up everything. Its not

    so difficult once you know that the purpose of bring awareness within is to discover who you

    are clearly not as some fancy/extra-ordinary idea but a very simple and clear looking at

    reality as it is.

    Some people get this inner clarity quickly because they have willingness to be let go of

    distractions for a while and just bring a deep curiousity to discovering themselves in this

    attitude, they can read or listen to teachings without making them into belief-systems, and

    using these teachings pure as a guidance to help them look more clearly. In one sense, this is

    age of information, owing to the internet, there are so many teachings available to you in the

    comfort of your home without you having to waste time or energy travelling to some teacher.

    Teachings that took years to gather can be gathered within a few months owing to all the

    books and web-information present today. And yet, the primary requirement is a willingness

    to find out in your own experience, discover yourself by yourself, and use teachings only as a

    guidance or pointer to do so. I would say I was fortunate to understand this very early owingto a teacher called Adyashanti (he has a website), and hence did not fall into any spiritual

    trappings or techniques.

    To let go of all forms of ideas and imaginations, and be willing to bring a simple inner-

    observation or self-awareness is all it takes to really get a clarity about yourself (your mind)

    and about life. You can use the teachings which are present already, given by several

    teachers, you dont have to believe them, you need to use them to see how they resonate

    for you, use them as a pointers not belief-systems. Most people become like parrots

    repeating what a teacher said, instead of trying to get a sense of it within themselves in their

    own experience. There is a deep power when someone speaks for their own experienceinstead of regurgitating words/teachings given by some teacher they heard, or some courses

    they took up.

    In the absence of self-awareness you cant discover yourself, and for self-awareness to grow

    on needs to be free of distractions, for a while. You cant be distracted and self-awareness at

    the same time, initially. When you have a sense of clarity within you, about yourself, you can

    then freely indulge in this world, in all the various activities that interest you, in all the

    experiences that feel aligned with your natural preference/expression. The willingness to

    keep yourself away from distractions, by investing some time towards self-discovery/self-

    realization, speaks about how authentic you really are about coming to a clarity withinyourself its not about becoming a hermit for life, its just about spending a small period of

    time getting to know yourself so that you can move through the rest of your life from a place

    of clarity.

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