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A Feelings and Faces PresentationTHE HAPPY TO BE ME GROUP
•Ashley Van Dyke
•Ryan Dubicki
•Rebecca Trainor
•Palmer Fry
•Tessa Lamirande (Therapist)
My Feelings• POSITIVE (UP FEELINGS)
– SILLY– BRAVE– HAPPY– COOL– SURPRISED
• I COMMUNICATE MY FEELINGS– VERBALLY (USING MY WORDS)
– NONVERBALLY (USING BODY LANGUAGE, FACIAL EXPRESSION, AND BODY POSTURE)
• NEGATIVE (DOWN FEELINGS)
– SHY
– SCARED
– HURT
– GUILTY
– EMBARRASSED
– SAD
– ANGRY
– WORRIED
Silly Ashley
• I feel SILLY when…– My friends make me laugh– When I’m playing outside with my
friends– When I think about funny things
• (I also act silly when I am feeling anxious or guilty)
Silly Ryan• I feel SILLY when…
– I play outside with my friends
Silly Becky• I feel SILLY when…
– I play with my friends– When I am feeling
hyper
Silly Palmer• I feel SILLY when…
– People make funny comments/jokes
What a SILLY Group
Brave Ashley• I feel BRAVE when…
– I feel like a super hero (“I have Ashley Power”)
– When I think that I can take care of myself
– It is night time and I think in my head that I can fight off bad things
– When someone makes a mean face at me and I handle it appropriately
Brave Ryan• I feel BRAVE when…
– I use self-control when I am angry!
Brave Becky• I feel BRAVE when…
– I go hiking in the woods
Brave Palmer• I feel BRAVE when…
– I stand up to people who are bullies
What a BRAVE Group!
Shy Ashley• I feel SHY when…
– I am around people that are older than me…
• I actually do not get shy very often!
Shy Ryan• I feel SHY when…
– I have to perform in front of a group (e.g. doing a skit in the talent show)
– Meeting new people
Shy Becky• I feel SHY when…
– I meet new people or go to a new school
Shy Palmer• I feel SHY when…
– I talk about things that make me uncomfortable
What a SHY Group?
Scared Ashley• I feel SCARED
when…– I think that ghosts
exists– I am alone in the dark
• When I feel SCARED I know I can…– Think about something
else
Scared Ryan• I feel SCARED
when…
– I am alone in the dark
Scared Becky• I feel SCARED when…
– It is dark (e.g. going to the bathroom at night)
– People that do bad things (e.g. people you hear about on the news)
• When I feel SCARED I know I can…– Tell an adult how I feel– Think positive thoughts– Take a time off
Scared Palmer• I feel SCARED
when…
– I think about getting into trouble
Happy Ashley• These are the things that make me
HAPPY:
– My pets– My family members– My friends– My birthday– When I know that people love
me– Holidays– Having good self-esteem– My teacher and therapist at
school– When people compliment me – When people talk and listen to
me– I am myself and nothing can
change me!
Happy Ryan• These are the things
that make me HAPPY:
– People treat me with respect
– I am complimented– I earn rewards
Happy Becky• These are the things that
make me HAPPY:
– When I earn my stars on my behavior chart
– Special Olympic Bowling (trophy)
– When my friends include me– Getting along with my family– Cheerleading– When I get compliments– When I can read as long as I
want
Happy Palmer• These are the things
that make me HAPPY:
– I get to earn rewards for doing well with my contract
– Having special titles (e.g. secretary)
All Smiles!
Hurt Ashley• I feel HURT when…
– Someone calls my names and hurts my feelings
– If someone pushed me and hurts my body AND my feelings
– If I get left out (when my sisters do not want to play with me)
• When I feel HURT I can…– Tell a grown-up and TALK IT
OUT– Tell the person “I don’t like it
when you hurt my feelings or my body.”
Hurt Ryan• I feel HURT when…
– Someone calls me name
– Someone hits me– Someone lies to me
Hurt Becky• I feel HURT when…
– Someone hurts my feelings (e.g. name calling)
– Someone bullies me– If I fall down
• When I feel HURT I can…– Take a time off– Talk it out with an adult– Tell the person, “you hurt
me”
Hurt Palmer• I feel HURT when…
– I get a cut or fall down
Guilty Ashley• I feel GUILTY when I…
– Hurt my sisters– Call my friends names– When I lie– If someone gets blames for something I did
• When I feel GUILTY I should…tell the truth!
Guilty Ryan• I feel GUILTY when I…
– I hurt my friends feelings when I am angry– I call my mother a name– When I lie
Guilty Becky• I feel GUILTY when
– I act dishonest or sneaky
• When I feel GUILTY I should– Tell the truth and take
responsibility
Guilty Palmer• I feel GUILTY when I…
– Know that someone broke a rule or didn’t follow a direction
Sad Ashley• I feel SAD when…
– People tease me or make fun of what I say/do
– I argue with my sisters– I think of scary things (e.g.
ghosts)– I get left out of a game
• When I feel SAD I can…– Tell a grown-up– Tell the person to “Please
stop”
Sad Ryan• I feel SAD when…
– I hurt my mother’s feelings
Sad Becky• I feel SAD when…
– People hurt my feelings– I do not earn my
rewards/privileges– My friends leave me out
• When I feel SAD I can…– Talk it out– Time off– STOP…THINK…ACT
Sad Palmer• I feel SAD when…
– I ask someone to play and they refuse
Angry Ashley• I get ANGRY when…
– My sisters tease me, leave me out, come in my room– People call me names
When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I can: I can:
• Tell a grown-upTell a grown-up• Work in my anger workbookWork in my anger workbook• Take time offTake time off• Walk away from the problem Walk away from the problem • STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT• USE MY WORDS (do not use my USE MY WORDS (do not use my hands for hitting)hands for hitting)• Relaxation (stress balls, deep Relaxation (stress balls, deep breaths, count to 13)breaths, count to 13)
Angry Ryan• I get ANGRY when…
– My brother yells at me– My brother “antagonizes” me
When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I can: I can:
• Work in my anger workbookWork in my anger workbook• Take time offTake time off• STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT• USE MY WORDSUSE MY WORDS• Count to 20Count to 20
Angry Becky• I get ANGRY when…
– People act like bullies– I argue with my sister and brother– People lie
When I get When I get ANGRYANGRY I I can:can:
•Time off (calm down)Time off (calm down)•STOP…THINK…ACTSTOP…THINK…ACT•Talk it outTalk it out•Ignore and walk awayIgnore and walk away
Angry Palmer• I get ANGRY when…
– I trust a friend with a secret I have never told anyone except family and they tell
What an ANGRY Group!
Embarrassed Ashley• I feel
EMBARRASSED when:– I trip or fall– I make a mistake
• When I am EMBARRASSED I can…– TALK IT OUT
Embarrassed Ryan• I feel
EMBARRASSED when:
– New people come over– I make a mistake
Embarrassed Becky• I feel
EMBARRASSED when:
– I do something wrong
• When I am EMBARRASSED I can…
– Take a time off
Embarrassed Palmer• I feel
EMBARRASSED when:
– People talk about inappropriate topics
Cool Ashley • I feel COOL when…
– I have a lot of friends– I earn my stars– When people like to
talk to me– People compliment me– When I earn special
rewards
Cool Ryan• I feel COOL when…
– I drink a cold drink
Cool Becky• I feel COOL when…
– I earn all my stars
Cool Palmer• I feel COOL when…
– People compliment me on my progress
Surprised Ashley• I feel SURPRISED
when…
– It is my birthday
Surprised Ryan
• I feel SURPRISED when…
– I come home and there is a babysitter
Surprised Becky
• I feel SURPRISED when…
– Someone gives me a bonus token
Surprised Palmer
• I feel SURPRISED when…
– My family came home from a vacation early to spend time with me
Surprise!
Worried Ashley• I feel WORRIED
when…– I think about ghosts
and zombies– I flush the toilet (I
think a zombie will come out)
– I go to girl scouts that the kids do not like me
• When I feel WORRIED I can…– Time off– Think about positive
things– Use distraction– Talking to an adult
Worried Ryan• I feel WORRIED
when…
– Someone blames me for something I did not do
– I am close to earning an RD
Worried Becky• I feel WORRIED
when…
– I do not earn my stars
Worried Palmer• I feel WORRIED
when…
– I am kept in suspense about something I obsess about (e.g. status 4)
• WE HOPE YOU HAVE ENJOYED THE SHOW!