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ADJUSTMENT IN MARRIAGE
By: Eva Imania Eliasa,M.PdGuidance and Counseling Department
FIP UNY
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• Marriage, is a social institution ( usually legally ratified ) uniting a man and a woman in special forms at mutual dependence, often for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family
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• A HUSBAND AND WIFE NEED TO RECOGNIZE PROACTIVE ADJUSTMENT AWAIT THEM IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
• PERHAPS THE BIGGEST ADJUSTMENT EARLY IN MARRIAGE RESULTED FROM OUR DIFFERING BACKGROUNDS.
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Some issues triggering the need for adjustments in marriage are major:
• Being raised in a dual- or single-parent family
• Being an only child or growing up with several siblings
• Coming from an economically challenged family
• Opposite personality• Differing cultural backgrounds
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Minimally, a couple will have to adjust to differing traditions, values, habits and rules learned in unique backgrounds
As time passes, other adjustments to sexual performance, financial and job demands may be required.
And lets not forget a big adjustment a baby, that’s right : the first child
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The solution to handling issues of adjustment lies in regarding your relationship as more important than your individual values and desires.
If you hold on tightly to what you want, you will never get to the point where you understand that the well being of the overall relationship is what ultimately matters.
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Some points to remember as you make adjustments in your relationship :
1. Recognize that adjustments are inevitable2. Understand that adjustments have a divine
purpose3. Ask GOD for wisdom on how to live with this
person who is different from you4. Be more concerned about your own rough spots
than those of your spouse5. Make a commitment to work through the
inevitable adjustment6. Communication is a best way to help
adjustments
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Making adjustments is usually not easy, but the rewards are worth the effort.
What changes could make today that will communicate clearly that your spouse is a dear friend, not an enemy?
E.g. :express your individual preferences on a given topic by degrees
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Conclusion…
• Every married individual must adjust to qualities in a spouse that were not noticed or were ignored during the dreamy days of dating.
• I hope, no any people have encountered a painful frustration in marriage and asked themselves… “why did I do this? Did I marry the wrong person?
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Let me assure you that you are married to the right person
THANK YOU