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1.Whenyoucomplainaboutbeinglonely,youunderstandithaslittletodowithbeingalone.Infact,youpreferfindingpeaceinyourownsolitude.

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2.TheLarryDavidquote,Adateisanexperienceyouhavewithanotherpersonthatmakesyouappreciatebeingalone,isbasicallyyourlifemotto.

3.Whensomeoneactuallyamazingasksyououtonadateandtheresaveryrealpossibilityitcouldleadtosomething,yougointoFULL.BLOWN.PANIC.

4.Yourimaginationissomuchmorepowerfulthanlogicalthinking.Itstypicalforyoutojumptoeitherbestcasescenariosorworstcase,asgoodolDrakewouldsay,0100realquick.

5.Superficialsmalltalkisyourworstnightmare.Itsrightunderdeathandbeingforcedtogobacktohighschool.

6.Youretriggerhappywhenitcomestocancelingplans.Itsshittyandyouknowthat,butitsjustsomucheasier!Therushofreliefwhenyousimplysay,Couldweraincheck?isaddicting.

7.Watchingtheoccasionalromcomorsappy,heartstringpullingflick,butpreferringtodoitwhennooneislooking.YouwontberunningtoseeanyNicholasSparksfilminthetheater,butyoumightsneakaviewingintheprivacyofyourownhome.

8.YourideaofgreatromanceisnopantsandNetflix.

9.Itsnotunusualforyoutodevelopfeelingsforunavailablepeople.Youmightnotevenreallyrealizethatswhatyoudo,butitssaferthatway.Youcanstillfantasizeandhavethisideaofromance,butlikelynothingwillcomeofit.Theresacomfortinthat.

10.Yousleepcradlingapillowbutfinditdifficulttofallasleepifanotherpersonisactuallynexttoyou.

11.AfterbeingonTinder,OkCupid,orothervariousonlinedatingsitesforafewhours,youwalkawaythinking,Wow,Ihateeveryone.

12.Youdlovetogobacktoletterwriting.Sure,itwouldcomewithanewhostofissuesbutatleastyou

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wouldntbehauntedbythatpesky*readbynotification.

13.Secretlywishingtotalkonthephoneforhoursinsteadoftexting.Butstillgettingallnervousanduncomfortablewhenitrings.

14.BreakupssuckbecauseA)thepainoflosingsomeoneistheworstandquitefranklyB)theideaofhavingtostartalloveragainisEXHAUSTING.

15.Datingjustforfunandkeepingitcasualmakeszerosensetoyou.Whygothroughallthisifthereisntthepossibilityofarealconnectionattheendofit?Itsliketakingapainstakinglylongsewingclassandthennever,eversewinganything.Just.Why?

16.Youhaveaveryrealphobiathat,ifyouvealreadybeenmassivelyinlovebefore,thatwasaonetimekindofdeal.Whatifyouvealreadyhadyourshotatit?

17.Youareaveryaffectionateperson,butcannothandleexcessivePDA.

18.Youreallydobelieveinlastinglove.Youjusthaveyettoreallyfindit.Butsomewheredowndeepinthat

cynicalheart,youjustkeepbelieving.

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