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Allybehavior2.0:Bystander,Upstander,

Ally,AccompliceCALSLunchandLearn

Monday,November13,2017

GabeJavier(he/him/his)AssistantDean/DirectorMulticulturalStudentCenterDivisionofStudentLIfegabe.javier@wisc.edu

Byvisiblyhoveringnearus,theyare‘proving’thattheyare‘withus.’Butthehardtruthisthisisn’thelpingtosolveAmerica’sracistproblem.Theblackfolksaren’ttheracists.Wherethereallysincerewhitepeoplehavegottodotheir‘proving’ofthemselvesisnotamongtheblackvictims,butoutonthebattlelinesofwhereAmerica’sracismreallyis— andthat’sintheirhomecommunities;America’sracismisamongtheirownfellowwhites.That’swheresincerewhiteswhoreallymeantoaccomplishsomethinghavegottowork.

Assumptionsandcaveats

• Wearenotheretoally-shame• Donotexpectarewardforfacinginjustice• Alwaysactwithsafety(yoursandothers)inmind• Doyouhavetheskills,support,andknowledgetoappropriatelyintervene?• Canthesethingsinformyourkindofintervention?

• Westartfromtheassumptiontodonoharm,butrecognizethatintentandimpactdon’talwaysalign.

What’sthedifference?

• Bystander• “witness,”standby• ”bystandereffect”–diffusionofresponsibilityleadingtoalackofaction

• Upstander• “activeally,”standup• “proactivebystander”

What’sthedifference?

• Ally/allies• Worksatanindividualor(inter)personallevel• Pushestowardsthesafetyanddignityofamarginalizedgroup• Interruptsharmfulbehaviorsandpatterns,theneducates

• Accomplices• Worksatasystem/systemiclevel• Takesalongviewtodestroytheoppressivestructurestowardsanequitableworld

https://www.tolerance.org/magazine/ally-or-accomplice-the-language-of-activismhttps://www.whiteaccomplices.org/

Allydevelopment:whatmotivatesyouractions?Allyforself-interest

AllyforAltruism AllyforSocialJustice

Motivation Selfish-forthepeopleIknowandcareabout

Other-Idothisforthem

Combined-we dothisforus

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RelationshiptoTargetgroup

Workingovermembers ofthegroup

Workingformembers ofthegroup

Workingwith/alongsidethetargetgroup

power I’mpowerful/protective

Empowerthem,theyneedourhelp

Empowerallpeople

mistakes Idon’tmakemistakes – I’magoodpersonandperpetratorsarebad

Struggleswithcritique,cangetdefensive

Seekscritiqueandadmitsmistakes–hasacceptedcomplicity

Focus ofthework perpetrators Othermembersofdominant groups

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Workbeingdone

• Knowledgeandpracticeareas• Alcoholandotherdrugs• Sexualassault/harassment• LGBTQ+• Racialjustice• Communitypolicing/lawenforcement

• SomeprogramsatUW-Madison• BadgerStepUp(studentorganizations)• Tonight(required1st yearSAprogram)• AlcoholEdu(required1st yearalcoholprogram)• GreenDotProgram(bystanderinterventioncertification-UHS)

GreenDotMethod– the3D’s

• Direct• Directlyinsertyourselfintoasituationandstoppingitbyaddressingthosewhoareinvolved.

• Delegate• Ifyoufeelunsafeoruncomfortablesteppinginyourself,gettingsomeonetointerveneforyouwhomightbemoreequippedorbetterabletohandlethesituation.

• Distract• Diffusingasituationbydistractingthoseinvolvedandreducingthechancesofanescalation.

Direct,Delegate,Distract• Direct

• “Youseemuncomfortable,areyouokay?”• Pullingafriendawaywhokeepshavingdrinksgiventothem.• Tellingyourfriendsthatyouthinkthatjokesaboutsexualharassmentareoffensive.

• Delegate• AlertinganadvisororDeanofaconcerningpatternwithastudent.

• CallingUWPDwhenitlookslikeaverbalargumentmayturnphysical.

• Distract• Pickingarandomtopicandstartdiscussingit.• “Hey,canyouhelpmywithsomethinginmyoffice?”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSAegopFYzM

https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanhatesthis/someone-made-a-guide-for-what-to-do-when-you-see-islamophobi?utm_term=.xqRpwPblB#.eaRZkBn6v

Yourspheresofinfluence

concern

influence

control

self

Closefamily/friends

Social,work,andschoolrelationships

community

Adaptedfrom:TeachingforDiversityandSocialJustice:ASourcebookbyMaurianneAdams,LeeAnneBell,PatGriffin(NewYork:RoutledgePress,2007)

Createyourcommunityofsupport/practice• Indexcard-• Ononeside:whatdoyouthinkyouneedinordertobemorelikelytointerveneinyourspheresofinfluence?• Ontheotherside:whatsupportcanyouofferotherswhowanttomovetowardsproactivebystanderbehavior?

• Think,pair,share