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Table of Contents

INTRO 6

PASSION 8 Why It's Important to Have Passion 10

How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your Passions 12

How to be a More Passionate Person 14

Wise Words About Passion 16

OPTIMISM 17 Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist? 19

Important Benefits of Optimism 21

How to be More Optimistic 23

Wise Words About Optimism 25

HAPPINESS 26 Understanding Happiness 28

The Neuroscience of Happiness 30

Self Happiness 32

Wise Words About Happiness 34

CONFIDENCE 35 Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence 37

What is Your Confidence Quotient? 39

5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence 41

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POSITIVITY 44 Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity 46

Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude 48

5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity 50

Wise Words About Positivity 52

INSPIRATION 53 Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration 55

The Key to Finding Inspiration – Inspiration Walks 57

How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration 59

Wise Words About Inspiration 61

PRESSURE 62 Common Causes of Pressure 64

The Keys to Understanding Pressure 66

Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure 68

Wise Words About Pressure 70

LEADERSHIP 71 Top 7 Traits of a True Leader 73

What is Your Leadership Style? 75

5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make 77

Wise Words About Leadership 79

MOMENTUM 80 What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life? 82

The Unstoppable Power of Momentum 84

5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your Business 86

Wise Words About Momentum 88

ASSERTIVENESS 89 How Assertive are You? 91

You Can Learn to be Assertive 93

How to Set Personal Boundaries 95

Wise Words About Assertiveness 97

THE END? 98 Your “Better-You” Goals 100

A Month Until A Better You 105

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PASSION

Why It's Important to Have Passion Ifyou'veeverfeltasthoughlifedoesn'tmakemuchsenseorasthoughyou'redriKingkindofaimlessly,thenwhatyou'remissingisrealpassion.HavingpassioninyourlifeisoKenthesecrettofindingrealhappinessandtherearecountlessreasonsthatthisisthecase.Ifyou'rewonderingwhatitmeanstohaverealpassionandwhyit'ssoimportantthenreadonandre-discoverwhatreallyma5ers.

WhatisPassion?

Whenwe'retalkingaboutpassions,we'renottalkingaboutsex.Sure,it'simportanttohavepassioninyourrelaDonshipandthisisonetypeofpassionbutitisalsonottheonlytypeofpassionthereis.

Passionthenrefersinsteadtoanythingthatyoufeelsuperexcitedaboutandanythingthatmakesyoueagertogetoutofbedinthemorning.Everyonehasdifferentpassionsandthere'snolimitonwhatyoucanbepassionateabout,oronhowmanypassionsyoucanhave.Forsome,musicistheburningpassionthatdrivesthemwhileforothersit'smoreaboutteaching,ormathorStarTrek.

Reallyitdoesn'tma5erwhatyou'repassionateaboutbutwhatma5ersisthatyouhavethingsthatyoufeelcompletelyexcitedaboutandthatyouletyourselffeelthatwayaboutthem.

WhyPassionisSoImportant

Wellforstarters,havingapassion–evenonethatotherpeopledon'tfindexciDng–willgiveyoutonstolookforwardtoandtobeinterestedin.Evenifyoupassionisjust'acDonfilms',itmeansthatyou'llhavesomethingtodointheevenings(watcholdacDonfilms)andthingstolookforwardtoexcitedly(DieHard).

Likewise,passionstellusaboutourselvesandtheyforceustogrow.Ifyou'repassionateaboutmusicthenyou'llnodoubtpracDceplayinganinstrumentwhichwillhelpyoutodevelopdexterity,Dming,rhythmandcreaDvity–andwhichwillmakeyoumorea5racDveeventotheoppositesex.

PassionscanalsogiveusdirecDoninlife.Ifyoufeelpassionatelyaboutstoppingglobalwarmingthenthatgivesyouamission.Nolongerareyoujustlivinglifefromdaytoday,insteadyouareworkingtowardsagoalandforacausethat'sbiggerthanyourself.ThisiswhatmakespeoplefeelmoDvatedandimportant.

Soifyou'rewonderingwhatit'sallabout,you'reaskingthewrongquesDon.ThequesDonshouldbe:what'sitallaboutforyou.Timetofindout.

How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your Passions

SomeDmes,lifecanfeelali5lebitlikeyou'rejusttryingtosurvive.IfyoucomehomefromworkeverydayfeelingDredandlistlessonlytolieonthecouchandifyouareconstantlystressedandaggravatedwhileyou'reatwork…thenwhatisitthatyou'relivingfor?

Theproblemisrest.Manyofusworksothatwecanrest.Butthenwhenwedogetachancetorest,wedon'tfeelveryrewardedbecauseulDmatelyrestnormallyjustmeansstaringattheTV.That'shardlyrewarding!Sowhatdoyoudoinstead?Howdoyoumakeyourself'comealiveagain'?Simple:youre-engagewithyourpassions.

WeAllHadDreams

Allofushavedreamsandpassions.Atsomepoint,thesedreamsandambiDonsarewhatputyouonthepathyou'reonnow.Perhapsyouraimwastoworkthatjobjustlongenoughtoearnthemoneyyouneedtofundyourdream.Orperhapsyou'reworkingbecauseyoufoundapartneryoulovedandyouwerewillingtopostponeyourambiDonsforthem.

NeitheroftheseaCtudesarewrongbutifyouhavelostsightofwhyyoustartedpuCngintheDmeandworkinthefirstplace,thensomethinghasgonewrong.Ifyou'velostareasontowork,thenyouwilljustbelistlessandcruisingthroughlife.

Sowhatdoyoudo?YoureignitethosepassionsandyouchaseaKerthemagain!Askyourself:whyisitthatyoudowhatyoudo?Wheredoyouseeyourselfinthefuture?Whatareyourbeliefsandyourvalues?WhatwerethethingsthatgaveyoudirecDonwhenyouwereayoungteenager?Andhowcanyougetyourselfbackontrack?

Theproblemisthatmanyofusfeelthatourpassionsare'silly'ormaybethey're'childish'orthey'reirresponsible.Thusweendupjustburyingthemformorerespectableaimslike'beingareamanager'.ButwhosaidthatbeingareamanagerofastaplecompanywasmorerespectablethanbeinganacDvistoranarDst?

Thepointisthatyoudon'thavetogiveupyourjoboryourresponsibiliDes.Youjusthavetokeeptheburningpassionalivesothatyou'repursuingitwhenyoucan.Whenyoudothisandyourememberthe'why',thenlifewillhavemeaninganddirecDon

How to be a More Passionate Person Mostofusadmireandlookuptopeoplewhoarehighlypassionateandfirey.SomeDmestheymightfrustrateoraggravateussure,butdeepdownthat'soKenbecausewewishwecouldbethem:wewishwecouldfollowourpassions,speakourmindandlivelifetothefullest.

Wellguesswhat:youcan.Beingpassionateisn'tama5erofgeneDcs–it'sachoice.Andonceyouknowthatthat'swhatyouwant,it'ssomethingthat'sverymuchworthworkingtowards.Readonandlet'slookatsomethingsyoucandotostartlivingamorepassionateliferightnow…

BeWhoYouReallyAre–WithNoApologies

Themostimportantthingyouneedtodotobetrulypassionate,istobewhoyoureallyareandtonotapologizeforit.Thatmeansthatyoushouldfollowwhatinterestsyounoma5erhowweirdorstrangeitis.Whenyoudowhatyoulove,yougiveit100%andwhenyougiveit100%thenyoudoitbe5er.Don'tdothethingthat'sexpectedofyou–dothethingthatyoureallywanttodo.BeBillyElliot!

SpeakYourMind

Thisextendsgenerallytostoppingworryingwhatpeoplethink.NoDcehowpassionatepeoplealwaysseemtobeshouDngorproclaimingtheirlove?TheyareinfilmsandTVanyway.Thisisbecausetheyarefollowingtheirheart

andnotworryingwhatothersthink.

Mostofusaresoafraidtospeakourmindsbecausewethinkwe'regoingtooffendpeoplethatweendupwalkingaroundwithourheadsdown.You'llsDlloffendpeople–becauseit'simpossiblenotto–soyoumightaswellbeyouandhaveagoodDmewhileyou'redoingit.

GetBackYourEnergy

What'salsoimportantifyouwanttobepassionateandfulloflifeistogetyourenergyback.Tobepassionate,youneedtoindulgeyourselfinthethingsyoulove.Andtodothatyoucan'tbebrowbeatenandexhaustedalltheDme.Iflifeandworkalwaysseemtobeontopofyou,thenit'sDmetomakeachangebyspendinglessDmecommuDngandworkingandmoreDmeeaDngright,geCngsunshineandgoingtothegym.IfitseemslikelifewillgetontopofyouifyoutakeDmeout,thenthat'ssignenoughthatsomethingneedstochange!

Wise Words About Passion

"Passionisenergy.Feelthepowerthatcomesfromfocusingonwhatexcitesyou."OprahWinfrey

"Wemustactoutpassionbeforewecanfeelit.”

Jean-PaulSartre

"Nothingisasimportantaspassion.Noma5erwhatyouwanttodowithyourlife,bepassionate." JonBonJovi

"Ihavenospecialtalents.Iamonlypassionatelycurious."

AlbertEinstein

“PleasureinthejobputsperfecDoninthework.”Aristotle

OPTIMISM

Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist? Everyonehasadifferentpersonality.Thisiswhatmakestheworldgoround.Whenitcomestohowyoulookatthingsorwhatkindofoutcomeyouexpect,peopletendtofallintooneofthreecategories:opDmist,pessimist,orrealist.AnopDmistwilltypicallymakelemonsintolemonade.ThismeansthattheyseeeverythingthathappenstotheminaposiDvelight.Apessimististheexactopposite.PessimiststendtolookatthingsnegaDvelyandbelievethatmostthingswillturnoutbadly.Arealisttendstoseethingsastheyareandacceptsthatthingsarenotalwaysperfect.TheydealwithproblemsinapracDcalway.

AnopDmistasmenDonedwilllooktowardstheposiDve.Forexample,iftheyarelookedoverforapromoDonatworktheywillbeunderstandingandthinkthattheymaynotbereadyfortheposiDonrightnow.

ApessimistlookstowardsthenegaDvewhensomethinghappens.IfapessimistisoverlookedforapromoDonatworktheywilllikelystartblamingthemselvesandlookforallofthereasonsthattheywill“never”bepromoted.

Arealistismoregrounded.WhenarealistisoverlookedforapromoDontheyseethebigpicture.TheywillbeclearheadedaboutbeingpassedoverandlookforwhattheycandosothatthenextDmethereisapromoDonopportunityavailabletheyarechosen.

Generallyspeaking,mostpeoplefallbetweenthesecategories.NoteveryopDmistwillalwaysbeposiDveandnoteverypessimistwillalwaysbenegaDve.Thereareprosandconsofeachtypeofpersonality,butresearchshowsthatbeingopDmisDctendstobethehealthierchoice.

WhilethereareposiDveandnegaDveaspectsofeachpersonalitytype,researchhasrecentlyshownthatbeingmoreopDmisDccanactuallybebeneficial.NegaDvitybreedsnegaDvity.ThismeansthatbeingnegaDveorapessimistcanaffectyourqualityoflife.ChangingyourthoughtprocesstosomethingmoreposiDvecanactuallyhaveaposiDveeffectonyourenDreoutlook.TheresearchshowsthatpeoplewhotendtothinkmoreposiDvelytendtogetalongbe5erintheworkplace,arehealthier,andfeelbe5eroverall.

TryingtolookfortheposiDveinthingscanhelpyouimproveyoursituaDon.WhilethisisnotpossiblealltheDme,itispossibletochangeyouraCtudeaboutyourlifeandreaptherewards.

Important Benefits of Optimism Whenitcomestohowyoulookatlife,studiesshowthatbeingmoreopDmisDccandramaDcallyimproveyourlife.OpDmismissimplylookingatadversityinaposiDvelight.TakingtheDmetoseethingsfromadifferentperspecDveandshiningalightontheposiDvecanbeextremelybeneficialinallareasofyourlife.

HerearejustafewwaysthatbeingopDmisDccanhelpyouinyoureverydaylife.

1.OpLmismpromoteshappiness2.ItwillhelpyoukeepyouremoLonsincheck.3.ResearchintoopLmismshowsitcanactuallyincreaseyourlifespan.4.BeingopLmisLccanreducethelevelofstressyouexperienceduringcertainevents5.OpLmismprovidesyouwithareasonforliving.6.OpLmisLcpeoplearemoreproacLve.7.ItprovidesyouwithawaytodealwithfailureinaconstrucLvemanner.8.ItisanessenLaltraitthatisnecessaryforbeingsuccessful.9.ItincreasesyourproducLvity.10.OpLmismprovidesyouwithawaytodealwithlifeinabalancedmannerasitprovidesyouwitha

waytodealwithnegaLvethoughtsthattendtopopupduringyourdaytodaylife.

ThesearejusttenofthewonderfulbenefitsofbeingmoreopDmisDc.Therearemanymorea5ributestotakingamoreposiDveapproachtothethingsthatlifethrowsyourway.Peoplewhotendtoseethegoodinthingsratherthanthebadaretypicallyhealthierasitimprovesbothyourpsychologicalandphysiologicalwell-being.

Whenyouarefacedwithadversitythewaythatyouapproachitisextremelyimportant.ThosewhotakeanegaDveapproachtendtoliveinaworldthatis“outtogetthem.”ThesepeopleoKenfailtoseethebiggerpicture,whichcanhaveanegaDveimpactontheirlife.

ThosewhofaceadversitywithaposiDveaCtudetendtohaveahappierlifesimplybecausetheychoosetoseethelightattheendofthetunnel.WhenlifethrowssomethingatthemtheylookfortheposiDvesthatcancomeoutofitandmoveontowardsafuturethatlooksmuchbrighter.

ThenextDmeyouhavenegaDvethoughtstakeamomenttothinkabouthowthisnegaDveexperiencecouldactuallybeagoodthing.ThiswillbenefityourenDrewell-beingandhelpyouexperienceamorefulfillinglife.

How to be More Optimistic ResearchhasshownDmeandDmeagainthosewhothinkposiDvelyor“opDmists”tendtohavehappierandhealthierlives.Ifyouareapessimistyoucancreateaworstcasescenariooutofanyevent.Forexample,yougetinvitedtodinnerwithanewco-workerandyouimaginehowawkwarditwillbeandhowthiswillturnintoatormentedworkrelaDonshipfortherestofyourcareer,buyingnewclothesisatorment,ortakingatriptoafabulousislandresultsinyouthinkingaboutsunburnanddiseases.WhileitmayseemthatbeingnegaDvecanbeagooddefensemechanism,itcanaffectyourenDrelifefromyourrelaDonshipstoyourwork,school,andsports-takingthisapproachcanbedepressing.

HowtoBecomemoreOpLmisLc

OneofthetrickstochangingyourthoughtprocessfromnegaDvetoposiDveisthatyoucannottrytobetoohappy.Inordertotrulybehappyyouhavetostoptrying.Insteadofthinkingaboutwhetherornotyouarehappieryet,becomemoreengagedinthings.WhenyougetfullyinvolvedwithsomethingitcanhelptodistractyoufromyournegaDvethoughts.

AnothertricktobecomingmoreposiDveistoadjustyouraCtude.LookforquickdistracDonstohelpyouwhenyouconDnuetohavethesamenegaDvethoughts.TryanacDvitythatwilldemandallofyoura5enDon.Exerciseclassessuchasyogaorkickboxingcanbeagreatwaytodistractyourself.ExercisewillhelpimproveyouraCtudebyreleasingendorphins,or“happyhormones,”intoyourbodythatcanimproveyourmoodoverall.

ReframingProblems

WhenitcomestobecomingmoreopDmisDcitisaboutlearningtoreframeproblemsastheyarise.Whenyouarefacedwithanissueinsteadofblamingyourself,reframeitsothatitisnotallyourfault.Forexample,ifyouarealoneatapartyandthinkingthatyouareboringandnoonewantstotalktoyou,trythinkingaboutwherethehostofthepartyisandwonderingwhytheyhavenotintroducedyoutoanyoftheguests.WhilethismethodoflookingforascapegoatisnotsomethingatrueopDmistwoulddo,itwillgiveyouadifferentoutlookonthesituaDonandcanhelpyoutofindothersoluDonstotheissueasyourealizethatyouarenotenDrelytoblame.

Wise Words About Optimism

“Apessimistseesthedifficultyineveryopportunity;anopDmistseestheopportunityineverydifficulty.”WinstonChurchill

“ChoosetobeopDmisDc,itfeelsbe5er.”DalaiLamaXIV

“Weareallinthegu5er,butsomeofusarelookingatthestars.”OscarWilde

“Thereissomegoodinthisworld,andit’sworthfighDngfor.”J.R.R.Tolkien

“Pessimismneverwonanyba5le.”DwightD.Eisenhower

HAPPINESS

Understanding Happiness Justwhatishappiness?ManypeoplehavedifferentviewsonthisbutthemostcommonlyagreedupondefiniDonis:Happinessisamentalstateofwellbeingencompassingfeelingslikethankfulness,enjoymentandjoy.LivingameaningfullifecanmakeyouhappyasyouuseyourknowledgeandyourDmetoleadingyourlifewithapurpose.

Feelinghappyformostpeoplecanbeachievedbybecomingpartofacommunity.Humanshaveastrongdesireto‘belong’somewhere.Peoplebecomehappywhentheymakeanefforttodosomething.Thiscanbelearninganewskill,helpingsomeoneorjustdoinganythingthatgivesthempleasure.

Livingameaningfulliveisthoughtbymanytobethepathtohappiness.Butjusthowdoyouachievethis?OnewayistositdownandthinkaboutwhatyoutrulywanttodowithyourlifeandthentakingacDontomakethishappen.

HowmanyDmeshaveyouwishedorthoughtabouthowyourlifecouldbe?Youdon’ttakeacDonsoyourdailylifebecomesamundanerouDne.Whatisstoppingyoufromchangingyourlife?

Oneofthebiggestreasonsthatpeopledon’tchasetheirdreamsisbecauseoffear.Fearoftheunknownorof‘whatif’ishugeandisanenormousroadblockformanypeople.

WhilebeinghappyhasalottodowithyourownemoDonalfeelingsandwellbeing.Yourstateofhappinesscanbeinfluencedbyoutsidefactors.Mainlybythosearoundyou,haveyouevernoDcedthatifyouarewithagroupofpeoplewhoarefeelingdejectedyoustarttofeelthesamewaytoo?

Otherpeoplecaneasilyreflecttheirmoodandfeelingsontoyouandyoutakethismoodonwithoutevenrealizingit.ThisiswhyitisimportanttosurroundyourselfwithwellmeaningpeopleandpeoplewhoaretakingposiDveacDonintheirlives.

Manypeopleassumethatmoneywillbuythemhappinessandwhileitwilltosomepointmoneycan’tbuyyoueverythingyouneed.Moneycannotboostyourwellbeingoryourfeelingsbutdoinggoodthingswithyourmoneycan.Haveyoueverconsideredgivingsomemoneytocharity?Youmaybesurprisedathowyouractofgenerositywillbereceived.Thisthankfulnesscanreallyexplodethatjoyfulfeelinginsideofyouandmakeyouhappy.

Therearesomanythingswhichcontributetoyourhappiness.Liveyourlifeinthebestwayyoucan,createyoubucketlistanddoeachthingonit.

The Neuroscience of Happiness Whetheryou'rehappy,sad,angry,creaDve,stressedorsomethingelseenDrely,itallulDmatelycomesdowntoyourneuroscience.Thewiringandchemistryofourbrainsiswhatdefinesoureveryexperienceandoureverybehaviorandassuch,thebestwaytounravelandunderstandanyaspectofthehumanexperienceistolookinwardstowardsthebrain.

ThisisparDcularlyusefulifyou'retryingtoimproveyourmoodandbeconsistentlyhappier.Whatisgoingoninsidethebrainwhenyoufeeltrulycontentandatpeace.AndwhatcanyoudototryandgetyourstubbornbraintobelikethatmoreoKen?

Neurochemicals

UlDmatelyourmoodcomesdowntochemistry–specificallyitcomesdowntoneurochemicalsor'neurotransmi5ers'whichareproducedinthebraininresponsetocertainotheracDviDesinthebrain.Whenyouthinkofsomethingorexperiencesomethingthatishappy,sad,scaryorstressful,thebrainrespondsinkindbyproducingtherelevantneurotransmi5er.Thesetransmi5ersincludeserotonin,corDsol,norepinephrine,dopamine,oxytocin,adenosineandmanyothers.

Whenitcomestohappiness,wewanttoincreasethenumberof'feelgood'neurotransmi5erswhichincludeserotonin,oxytocinanddopamine.Thesearechemicalsthatmakeusfeelalert,happy,contentandevenloved.Ontheotherhand,wewanttoreduceoneslikecorDsol(whichmakesusstressed).HowtoControlNeurochemistry

Atthispoint,youmightbewonderinghowyoucancontrolyourneurochemistry.Onewayofcourseiswithdrugsandthat'swhererecreaDonaldrugsandanDdepressantscomein.AnDdepressantsoKenworkbyincreasingtheamountofserotonininthebrainorincreasingGABAwhichmakesusDredbutalsoreducescorDsol.

TheproblemwithchangingbrainchemistrydirectlythoughisthatthebrainisallaboutadaptaDon.IfyouaddacertainamountofparDcularchemicalstoyourbrainthenitwilloKenrespondbyproducinglessofthosechemicalsnaturally.Thiscanthenleadtotolerance,dependenceandwithdrawalsymptoms–worseningdepressionandtriggeringaddicDon.

Youcanalsoalteryourneurochemistrythroughlifestylechanges.Dietimpactsonwhichneurotransmi5ersourbraincancreate,whilethingslikesleep,exerciseandsocialinteracDonscanallalsoboostourmood.

UlDmatelythough,theverybestwaytocontrolyourmoodistochangewhatyoufocusonandthewayyoureacttowhatyoufocuson.Remember,yourneurotransmi5ersarereleasedinreacDontoyoursubjecDveexperiences.Changeyourexperiencebychangingyourbeliefsandyoucanimprovethatneurochemistry.

Self Happiness Youhavenodoubtheardaboutselfhelp.TherearethousandsofbooksandarDclesonthetopicofselfhelp.Whenitcomestobeinghappyhaveyouthoughtabouthowyougetyourselfintothatstate?

Happinessisamentalstatewhichyoufeelasjoyandcontentmentandjustfeelinghappy.WhenwasthelastDmeyoucantrulysayyoufeltthisemoDon?Ifitwasawhileagohaveyouconsideredselfhappiness?

SelfhappinessissimplytheactofplacingyourselfintherightsituaDonsoyouexperiencetheseemoDons.Thereareseveralwaysyoucanachievethis.Oneisbyreadinghappinessquoteseachandeveryday.FindonesthataremeaningfultoyouandrepeatthemoutloudseveralDmesaday.ThereareenDrewebsiteswithhappinessquotesonthem.Searchthroughsomeandcopydowntheoneswhichyoulike.

YourownacDonscanbringyouhappinessaswellandbydoingorsharingsomethingwithothersyoucaneasilyexperiencethis.Itiswellknownthatifyoumakesomeoneelsehappyyouwillfeelhappytoo.Whynottryhelpingsomeonewithataskorchore.Doyouhaveanelderlyneighborthatneedshelp?Oristhereayoungmominyourneighborhoodwhowouldappreciatesomehelpwithherkids?Youcouldoffertowatchthemforawhileortakethemtothepark.

ManyexpertswilltellyouthatallyouneedtobehappyisaposiDvemindset,thismaynotalwaysbetrue.Anotherstreamofthoughtisbeingconsciousofthethingsyoushouldnotbedoing.Inotherwordsyouknow

whatdoesn’tmakeyouhappy,sodon’tconDnuedoingthem.

Soitmaybeworththinkingthiswayinstead.Themajorityofpeopleareeagertogooutandbuythenextgadgetortoolthatwillsupposedlymakethemhappy.Inrealitywhathappensisyouenduphoardingitemsandendupwithaclu5erofuselessorunusedtoolsaroundyourhome.

Declu5eringyourhomeandyourmindisonewaytofindhappiness.Insteadofsearchingforhappinessgetridofeverythingthatmakesyouunhappy.YouwillbetakingacDoninsteadofchasingrainbows.YournewfoundpathcouldleadtothetruejoyofhappinessaKerall.

Wise Words About Happiness

“Foreveryminuteyouareangryyoulosesixtysecondsofhappiness.”RalphWaldoEmerson

“Happinessisnotsomethingreadymade.ItcomesfromyourownacDons.”DalaiLamaXIV

“Themostimportantthingistoenjoyyourlife—tobehappy—it'sallthatma5ers.”AudreyHepburn

“Nomedicinecureswhathappinesscannot.”GabrielGarcíaMárquez

“Tobehappy,wemustnotbetooconcernedwithothers.”AlbertCamus

CONFIDENCE

Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence YoucanhavealltheeducaDonandthebestexperienceintheworldandlacktheconfidenceyouneedforulDmatesuccess.Confidenceisacatalystwhichcanmakearealdifferenceinthescopeofyourlifeandpropelyoutoagreatnessyouwouldn’thavewithoutit.

Withconfidence,youcanturntheimpossibleintothepossible–createsuccesswhereothersmightgiveup.WhileyoucangainconfidencefromeducaDonandexperience,theconfidencemustcomefrominsideandyoumustprojectitinawaythatothersfindinspiring.

ConfidenceprovidesthepoweryouneedtostepintounknownsituaDons–unafraidanddeterminedtosucceed.Leavingbehindthesecureandtheknowninyourlifemaytakeincredibleconfidence.Withoutit,youmaybecomestuckinamilk-toasttypeoflifeandnevergetoutofarutoracareerthat’sgoingnowhere.

Ifyoudolackconfidence,itmaynotbeobvioustoyouunDlyougetrealwithyourself.IfyouprocrasDnateorfeeloverwhelmedmuchoftheDme,itmaybeverydifficulttoturntheDdesunlessyoudoaddressyourconfidenceissues.It’sdifficultforyoutotakeacDontogetoutofrutsandbadsituaDonsbecauseyoufeelyoucan’tdoitrightoryouneedtolearnmore.

Confidencecanalsohelpyourdecision-makingskills.YoumaybehesitanttomakedecisionsabouteventhesmallestofissuesbecauseyoulackconfidenceinyourownabiliDestosucceed.Youmaybecomeparalyzedwithindecisionandbecomeisolatedandwithdrawn.Second-guessingyourselfonlymakesitworse.

SomeDmesyoujustneedtobehaveasifyou’reconfidentandusethatpowertotakeacDonratherthansimplywaiDngforsomethingtohappentocementanideaorsolveaproblem.Atleastbeconfidentinyour

determinaDontoworkonyourgoals.ThatdeterminaDonwillspuryouontotaketheacDon(s)youneedtosucceed.

Soon,confidencecanbecomeahabitinyourlife–agoodhabitthatyou’llwelcomeandwanttoculDvate.Thatingrainedhabitwillhelpyouleaveyourcomfortzoneandtakechances.Evenifyoufail,you’lllearnfromthemistakesyoumakeandhavetheresolvetogoontotrythenextideaorlevelofsuccess.

Confidenceprovidesthepoweryouneedtocommitandworktowardgoalsandknowthatyoureffortsaregoingtosucceedinthelongrun.Notonlydoesthatincreaseyourchancesofsucceeding–italsocreatesasenseofsaDsfacDoninyourmind.

What is Your Confidence Quotient? Whileyoudon’twanttobetooconfidentsoastoseemarrogant,youdowanttoprojecttheamountofconfidenceneededtosucceedinlifeandreachthegoalsthatyou’vesetforyourself.ReadandanswerthefollowingquesDons(allyesorno)andthenlookbackonyouranswers.Youshouldhaveapre5ygoodideaifyourconfidencequoDentishighorlow–orinthemiddle--andwhatareasyouneedtoworkontoraiseit.

• Doyoufeelguiltywhenyousay“no?”Saying“no”canbeextremelytraumaDcforyouifyoulackconfidenceinyourdecisions.Youmayfindyourselfmakingupliestogetoutofthingsratherthanjustsaying,“no.”

• Doyoucompareyourselftoothers?There’salwaysgoingtobesomeonesmarter,richerandbe5erlookingthanyou.UnDlyoubecomecomfortablewithyourselfyou’lllackconfidencetogofartherinlife.

• DoyoufeelinLmidatedinmostsituaLons?You’relikelytofeelinDmidatedbyothersifyoucompareyourselftoothers(seepreviousquesDon)andseeyourselfasinferiortothem.Stopcomparingyourselfandenjoythemoment.

• Doyoustandupforyourvaluesandbeliefs?Ifyoueasilygetswayedbyothersordon’tspeakupwhenyou’reinanuncomfortablesituaDon,youcouldlackconfidence.Compromisingyourbeliefsystemcanbeaconfidencekiller.

• Doyoutryhardtoimpressothers?Whenyou’reconfident,youdon’thavetostrivetoimpress–otherswillbeautomaDcallyimpressedbyyourpresence.Confidenceexudesanimagethatmeansyoudon’thavetotrytoimpress–itwillcomenaturally.

• Areyoufinanciallysound?Financialwell-beingcanaddtoyourconfidencequoDent.Ifyouhaveproblemswhenitcomestoplanningabudgetandspendingmoney,youmayneedhelpfromaprofessionalfinancialplannertomakeyoufeelmoreconfidentinyourfinancialfuture.

• DoyouhesitatetotaketheiniLaLveonprojectsorideas?Partoflearningtobecomeconfidentistheabilitytofeelgoodabouttakingonchallengesandnewideas.It’sokaytotakeabackseattosomeonewhoknowsmoreandwhomyoucanlearnfrom,butputyourselfouttherebytakinginiDaDveatDmes.

• Doyoufeelconfidentaboutyourfuture?It’simportantthatyoufeelcomfortableaboutthechoicesyou’remakingthatwillimpactyourfuture.Thatfutureencompassesyourhealth,familyandjobdecisionsthatyou’remakingnow.Besurethey’rebasedonfacts.

AKeryou’veassessedyourconfidencequoDentanddeterminedwhatyouneedtodotoraiseit,begintotakeacDononthosedeterminaDons.Later,whenyoufeelyou’vemadeprogressintheareasyouneededtoworkon,answerthequesDonsagainandseehowfaryou’veprogressed.

5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence Achievingsuccesscanmakeyouamoreconfidentperson,butit’sdifficulttoreachthelevelofsuccessyoudesirewithoutconfidence.Confidenceisthecatalysttoovercomingdoubtsandfearsandcanhelpyouthroughtheworstobstaclesyou’llencounterontheroadtosuccess.Herearesomesure-fireDpstohelpyougettheconfidenceyouneedtoclimbthesuccessladder:

1. Betruetoyourself.Yourvaluesandbeliefsystemmustbefirmlyinplaceifyouwanttoachieveasuccessyoucanbeproudofandtoensureyoulikeyourselfwhenyoudoreachthetopoftheladder.

Ifyouachievesuccessinwayswhichcompromisewhoyoutrulyare,youwon’tbeabletoenjoyyourachievements.ItwillbeasuccessbuiltonsandratherthansolidgroundandmaycrumbleandfallwithDme.

2. TrustinyourabiliLes.Youmayhavemuchtolearnbeforeyoucansucceedinachosenfieldorpath.Thinkofallthatyou’veachievedsofarandobstaclesyou’vealreadyovercomeandtrustthatyoucandomore.

Don’tdismisswhatyou’velearnedsofarinlife.Youmightthinkitwaseasyandthatanyonecoulddoit,butothersmayseeitasremarkableandlookuptoyouforit.

3. Useyoursubconsciousmind.RepeaDngposiDveaffirmaDonsandshooingnegaDvethoughtsawaybuildsstrengthforyoursubconsciousmind–apowerfulallyinyourquestforsuccess.

Yoursubconsciousmind,whentrainedtodoyourbiddingcanmakearealdifferenceinhowyouandothersseeyourself.ItcanalsobeadetrimentifyouletnegaDvethoughtspermeateandgaincontrol–makingyoudoubtyourtrueabiliDes.

4. Usecorrectbodylanguage.Watchyourposture,stanceandcontrolofyourbodylanguage.ItcanbepowerfulwhendealingwithothersandexpecDngagreatoutcome.SiCngupstraight(asyourmotherusedtotellyou)cansendafardifferentandmoreposiDvemessagethanslumping.

StudybodylanguageandbegintopracDceit.Whenyouenteraroomwithyourheadheldhighandwalkinglikeyouownwhereyouareandhowyoupresentyourself,peoplewilltakenoDceinaposiDveway.

5. PayafenLontoyourpersonallook.Whenyoupresentyourselfasunkemptandlookingwrinkledandungroomed,theimageisn’tonethatreapssuccess.

Ifthisisanareaofyourlifewhereyoulackskills,seekthehelpofothersanddevelopastyleyou’recomfortablewithandwhichfitstheimageyouwanttopresent.

Wise Words About Confidence

“Selfconfidenceisthebestouoit.Rockitandownit”Unknown

“Acceptwhoyouare;andrevelinit.”MitchAlbom

"Thewaytodevelopself-confidenceistodothethingyoufearandgetarecordofsuccessfulexperiencesbehindyou."

WilliamJenningsBryan

"Ifyouhearavoicewithinyousay'youcannotpaint,'thenbyallmeanspaint,andthatvoicewillbesilenced."

VincentVanGogh

“Self-confidencecanbelearned,pracDced,andmastered--justlikeanyotherskill."BarrieDavenport

POSITIVITY

Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity HereareafewDpsthatcanhelpyoueliminatenegaDvityandhelpyoutobringaposiDvespintoyourlifeandmakeposiDvethinkingeasier:

ReadbooksaboutposiLvethinking. WhenyoureadbooksthatareposiDveandupliKing,ithelpsyoutobemoreposiDve.InspiraDonalquotesandaffirmaDonscanalsohelpyoueliminatemorenegaDvityandgetintoaposiDvemindset.

Learnhowtovisualize. YourimaginaDonandabilitytovisualizethingsisanextremelypowerfultool.ByimaginingyourselfbeingposiDve,anddoingmoreposiDveacDons,yourbodyactuallyrespondsinthesamewayasifyouweredoingthethingsthatyouareimagining.AthletesandothersuccessfulpeoplehaveusedvisualizaDonforyearstohelpimprovethemselvesandtheirabiliDes.Bytappingintothisability,youtoocaneliminatenegaDvityandbecomemoreposiDve. FocusonusingposiLvewordsasmuchaspossible. AvoidnegaDvewords,orturnthemintotheiropposite.Whenthinking,ortalkingtoothers,trytoalwaysuseposiDvewords.AvoidsayingIcan't,andstartsayingIcan.ThismaytakesomeDmetoputintopracDce,butasyoudoitmore,itwillgeteasier.

Remembertosmile. UseyoursmiletoprojectyourposiDveaCtude.Itisamazinghowmuchofadifferenceasmilemakes.Peoplecanactuallytellyouaresmilingwhentalkingtoyouonthephone,eventhoughtheycan'tseeyousmiling.SmilingmakesyouandthosearoundyoufeelmoreposiDve.

Donotquit– nomaferwhat. Whenyouquit,youtrulyfail.Whatmostpeoplethinkoffailureisreallyjustachancetolearn.OKen,peoplequitjustbeforetheyreachtheirgoal.ThisissomethingthatsuccessfulpeopleknowandusealltheDme.Theyknowthataslongastheydonotquit,theywilleventuallyachievewhattheywant.

BecomemoreawareofyournegaLvethoughts. LearningtorecognizewhenyouarehavinganegaDvethoughtandturningitimmediatelyintoaposiDveoneisimportant.ItcantakeDmetodevelopasenseofwhenyouarehavingnegaDvethoughts,butitisaskillwellworthfocusingon,soyoucanchangethem.OverDme,youwillfinditeasiertorecognizewhenyouarehavinganegaDvethought.RememberittakesDmetochangeahabit,sobepersistent.

MakeLmetodothethingsthatmakeyouhappy. WhenyoutakeDmetodothingsthatmakeyouhappy,itcanoverflowintotherestofyourlife.Evenwhenlifehasmajorchallenges,youwillfindyouhavemoreenergytotacklethem,ifyouspendDmedoingthingsthatmakeyouhappy.

GET THE RIGHTS TO THIS TYPE OF

Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude ThebestwaytoeliminatenegaDvityistodevelopaposiDveaCtude.Yourthoughtsandoutlookonlifehaveaprofoundeffectonhowyouliveyourlife.Theyarealsocontagiousandaffectthosearoundyou.Youcan'thavebothposiDveandnegaDveinthesamespace.SowhynotfocusonturningthenegaDvityintosomethingmoreposiDve?

YouwillfindyouhavemoreenergyandenthusiasmwhenyouhaveamoreposiDveaCtude.Peoplewillwanttobearoundyoumore,andwillbemoreposiDveaswell,leadingtoacascadeeffect.NegaDvitytendstobringyoudownandstealawayyourenergy.ItcanalsocausehealthissuesoverDme.SomewaysyoucandevelopamoreposiDveaCtudeare:

ReadBooksaboutPosiLveThinking TherearemanybooksouttherethatcanteachyouabouthowtodevelopaposiDvemindsetandeliminatethenegaDvityinyourlife.Readingisnotonlyagreatwaytolearn,butithelpsyourbrainbuildmoreconnecDonswhichkeepithealthyforalongerDme.Youcanevenfindmanyverygoodbooksonthissubjectinyourlocallibraryandreadthemforfree.

AffirmaLons AffirmaDonsareawayofreprogrammingthenegaDvethoughtsyoutellyourself– andinmanycases,youmaynotevenbeawarethatyouhavethem.BydoingaffirmaDons,youcanchangethesenegaDvethoughtsintoposiDveones.Youcanstartthinkingbe5erofyourself.

MeditaLon MeditaDonisagreatwaytohelpeliminatenegaDvityandturnitintoposiDvethinking.Italsoreducesstress.Becauseyougetpasttheconsciouslevel,youcanreallyhelpreprogramyourmindsetwithmeditaDon.IfyoucombinethiswiththeaffirmaDons,youcanincreasetheresults.

SpendLmewithposiLvepeople TrytoeliminateorlimitcontactwithpeoplewhotendtohaveanegaDvemindset.SomeDmesyoucan'tcompletelybreakoffcontactwiththem,especiallyiftheyarefamilyorpeopleyouworkwith,butasmuchaspossibletrytospendDmewithposiDvepeople.NotonlywillyoufinditeasiertobeposiDvearoundthem,butyoumaylearnnewwaystohelpyourselfbemoreposiDve.

YoucaneliminatenegaDvityifyousetyourmindtoit,andusetoolsandtechniquestomakeithappen.Youwillnotonlyfeelbe5eraboutyourselfandhavemoreenergyandzestforlife,butyouwillbephysicallyhealthier.NegaDvepeopledraintheirmentalandphysicalwell-beingbytheirmindset.SolearntohaveaposiDveaCtude.

5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity NegaDvitycanreallyaffectyourlife.Itcanleadtodepression,causehealthissues,anddestroyyourconnecDonswithothers.HereareafewDpstohelpyoueliminatethenegaDvityinyourlife.

1.First,figureoutwhatistriggeringthenegaLvity. Beforeyoucaneliminateit,youhavetoidenDfyit.YouwillprobablyfindthatmuchofyournegaDvitycomesfromthoseself-tapesyouplayinyourhead.YouneedtofindwaystochangethosetapesfromnegaDvetoposiDve.OnewayofdoingthisisusingaffirmaDons.JustmakesuretheaffirmaDonsareveryspecificallyDedtotheactualnegaDvethoughts.

ThisiswerealotofpeoplegowrongwithaffirmaDons.Theyusegeneralonesthatreallyarenotrelevanttotheirownissues.Thisislikegeneralpraise,itworkssomeoftheDme,butcanbeoverdone.“Goodjob” isnotasusefulas,forexample,“IlikethewayyousharewithBobbyduringplayDme.” SamewithaffirmaDons,trytosDckasclosetothenegaDvetapeaspossible,andonlychangethenegaDvetoaposiDve.

2.MeditaLonandyogaarebothgreatwaystocutdownonthenegaLvityinyourlife. Bothfocusonusingbreathingexercisestoreplenishyourbody.Yogaalsohelpswithdevelopingflexibilityandstrengthinyourbody.MeditaDonmainlyfocusesonmind,butcanreallyhelpyouchangehowyouthinkaboutthings,especiallyifyoucombinethiswiththeaffirmaDons.

3.Smilingmorecanhelp,too,andisasimplewaytohelpeliminatenegaLvity.Studieshaveshownthatyoucanevensensewhentalkingonthephonetosomeonethattheyaresmiling.SmilingiscontagiousandcannotonlyhelpyoufeelmoreposiDve,buthelpthosearoundyou,aswell.

4.HaveyouevernoLcedthatwhenyouareinagoodmood,andyoutalkwiththatonepersonwhoisalwaysnegaLve,itbringsyourmooddown? FocusonpeopleinyourlifewhoareposiDve.Asmuchaspossible,getridof,orlimitcontactwithnegaDvepeople.SomeDmesyoucannotcompletelydothis,especiallyiftheyarefamily,buttrytolimitasmuchasyoucan.

5.PlayingthevicLmkeepsyouinanegaLvemindset.Bytakingcontrolofyourlifeandyourchoices,youcaneliminatealotofthenegaDvity.Noma5erhowmuchitseemseverythingisoutofyourcontrol,youdohavechoices.EvenifyouhavedisabiliDes,orhealthcondiDons,youcanfindwaystoworkaroundthemtoaccomplishwhatyouwanttodo.

Wise Words About Positivity

“AnaCtudeofposiDveexpectaDonisthemarkofthesuperiorpersonality.”BrianTracy

“Successconsistsofgoingfromfailuretofailurewithoutlossofenthusiasm.”WinstonChurchill

“Theonlyplacewhereyourdreambecomesimpossibleisinyourownthinking.”RobertHSchuller

“Hopeisawakingdream.”Aristotle

“Ifyouthinkyoucandoathingorthinkyoucan’tdoathing,you’reright.”

HenryFord

INSPIRATION

Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration LostforinspiraDon?HerearefivetechniquesyoucanusetotryandcoaxsomethingnewandexciDngoutofyourbrain!Theywon’talwayswork,butgivethemago,andyoumightjustbesurprised.

GoforaWalk

Walksareinspiringforanumberofreasons.Forstarters,theyallowustotakeabreakfromwhatwe’redoingandtochangeourenvironment.Inturn,thisleadstonewinputthatcanhelpustogainnewperspecDveonwhateverproblemortaskwe’rewrestlingwith.

AtthesameDme,walkingisamonotonoustaskthatallowsourdefaultmodenetworktokickin.This,essenDally,meansthatwe’redaydreaming,whichis,oKen,asourceofgreatinspiraDon.

AsktheRightQuesLons

SomeDmes,inspiraDonisjustaboutaskingtherightquesDons,whichcanhelptoreframetheproblemyou’refacinginordertolookatitinanewway.Forinstance,ifyou’rewonderinghowtosolveaproblemandyoucan’tcomeupwithananswer,tryaskingyourselfhow‘Johnny’wouldapproachit.Likewise,insteadofthinkingaboutwhatyouwantsomethingtobe,decidewhatyoudon’twantittobe.

TakeaBreak

SomeDmes,thebestthingyoucandotosparksomecreaDvityorsolveaproblemistotakeabreak.Thisway,youstoptryingtoforcetheidea,whichsimplycreatesstress,andinstead,yousimplyletitcometoyounowthatyou’veenteredallyourinput.Thisiswhywe’reoKenencouragedtosleeponbigdecisions.

ListentoMusic

Musiccanbehighlyinspiringasitaltersourmoodandenergylevelandtakesustodifferentplaces.OKen,you’llfindthatmusiccanleaveyoulostinthought,sotrylisteningtosometrackswhileyoumulloverasubject,andseeifthathelps.

TalkitOver

There’samyththatideastaketheformoflightbulbsorlightningstrikesandthattheycomeinaflash,fullyformed.Actually,whenquesDoned,mostpeopleadmitthattheirbestideasformulatedslowly,thattheygestatedfordays,months,orevenyearsbeforeemerging.OKen,thebestideasarenotformedinisolaDoneitherbutratherwhenwediscussthemwithotherpeople.Evenifwe’rejustthinkingaloud,thiscanhelpustoseenewperspecDvesandwilloKenresultinnewbreakthroughs.

The Key to Finding Inspiration – Inspiration Walks LookingtofindinspiraDonforthenextgreatnovel?Foryourmusicalmasterpiece?Foryournextbusinessidea?OKen,thebestwaytofinditisjusttogoforawalk:an‘inspiraDonwalk’!

WhatisanInspiraLonWalk?

Theideabehindan‘inspiraDonwalk’istoleavetheconfinesofthehomeorofficetogoforastrolland,indoingso,todiscovertheinspiraDonyou’relookingfor.

So,whymightthiswork?ThereareseveralreasonsthatinspiraDonoKenliesinthegreatoutdoors.Forstarters,walkingisamindlessacDvitythathasbeenshowntoacDvatethebrain’sdefaultmodenetwork.Thedefaultmodenetworkisaseriesofbrainareasthatkickintogearwheneverwe’redoingsomethingthatdoesn’trequirealotofhigher-orderthinking(thinkingwiththeprefrontalcortex).

ThistypeofbrainacDvityisimplicatedindaydreamingandoKenleadstothediscoveryofgreatideas.Infact,it’sthoughtthatEinsteinwasinthisbrainstatewhenhediscoveredhisworld-changingSpecialTheoryofRelaDvity.EffecDvely,walkingletsourmindwander,andthisiswhatoKenleadstothebestideas.

RelaxaLon

Anotherkeyaspectofgoingforawalkisthatittakesusoutsideandletsusexploreourenvironment.ThisworksbestwhenwewalkinanaturalseCng,whichhasbeenshowntotriggercreaDvityallonitsown.

EssenDally,whenwe’rerelaxed,thisalsoallowsourmindtowanderandexploredifferentideasandmemories.Inturn,thisleadstonewcreaDvebreakthroughsandinsights.Thisistheoppositeofwhenwe’reinastressedandfocusedstate,whichcausesustofocusonjustonethingattheexpenseofother,relatedideas.

BeinginscenicseCngshasbeenshowntotriggercreaDvitybecause,toourprimiDvebrains,alushenvironmentrepresentsnaturalresourcesandsafety.Inthewild,comingacrossanareaoflushgreenplantswouldhavemeantsourcesoffood,water,andshelter.Thousandsofyearslater,thissDlltriggersarelaxaDonreflexinourbraintotheextentthathavingplantsaroundtheofficeorevenjustpainDngawallgreencanincreasecreaDvethinking.

Finally,goingforwalksgivesusachangeofscenery,givesusexerciseandgetsfreshairinourlungs;allthingsthatresultinanewperspecDveandachancetobreakoutoflazyorhabitualthinkingpa5erns.

How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration Whenyoustartonanewproject,youcanoKenfindyourselfgeCngstuckbeforeyouevenmanagetogetstarted.It’slikeatypeofwriters’block,exceptitaffectseverykindofproject–fromwebsitedesignstoweddingplanningtointeriordesign.

TheproblemisgeCngthatiniDalsparkthatwillsubsequentlyleadtoalltheotherideascomingthroughlikeanavalanche.It’saboutgoingfromnothingtosomethingandpullingthatsomethingeffecDvelyoutof‘thinair’.ButdesignersandarDstswhodothissortofthingforalivingneedawaytoreliablyovercomethisproblemonaconsistentbasis.Onetooltheyusetothisendisthe‘moodboard’.Let’stakealookatwhatthatisandhowitcanhelpyou.

Whatisamoodboard?

EssenDally,amoodboardisatypeofcollage.Thismeansyou’llbetakingdifferentimagesandarrangingthemonasinglepage.TheycanbecuCngs,ortheycanbesnapshotstakenfromwebsites.Theideaistofindeverythingthat’srelatedtothetopicorthingyou’retryingtocreate.

So,ifyouweremakingawebsiteforafitnesscompany,youmightcreateyourcollageusingscreenshotsofotherfitnesscompanywebsites,imageryrelatedtofitnessthatcouldinspirealogo,inspiraDonalphotosofpeopleworkingout,etc.Collectasmanythingsthatinspireyouaspossible,andfromthere,youshouldhaveasingle

pagefullofinspiraDon.

WhymoodboardsaresoeffecLve

Whenyou’relookingforanabstractdirecDonforadesignorprojectthatyoucan’tquiteputintowords,moodboardsoffertheperfectsoluDon.Whenyouhaveallthesethingsarrangedonasinglepage,youshouldstarttonoDcethatcommonthemesandideasstarttoemerge.This,inturn,shouldallowyoutostartgeCngafeelforthedirecDonthatyouwanttotakeforyoursite.

Youaren’tcopyingtheimageryyou’vetaken.Instead,you’recombiningitintosomethinguniquebutinspiredbythebestexamplesinyourniche.

ThisactuallycorrespondsnicelywiththewayweknowthatcreaDvityworks,bycombiningexisDngideastocreatesomethingnew.IfyoucantakeallyourinspiraDonandputitinoneplace,youshouldfindthatideasstartflowingandyouovercomethatcreaDveblock!

Wise Words About Inspiration

“IdreammypainDngandIpaintmydream.”VincentvanGogh

“WhileItakeinspiraDonfromthepast,likemostAmericans,Iliveforthefuture.”RonaldReagan

“We'retaughttobeashamedofconfusion,anger,fearandsadness,andtomethey'reofequalvaluetohappiness,excitementandinspiraDon.”

AlanisMorissefe

“Youcan'twaitforinspiraDon.YouhavetogoaKeritwithaclub.”JackLondon

“InspiraDonexists,butithastofindusworking.”PabloPicasso

PRESSURE

Common Causes of Pressure TherearenumeroussituaDonsthatcausepressure.WeusuallythinkofcausesofpressureasbeingnegaDve,suchasarockyrelaDonshiporanexhausDngworkschedule.However,anythingwhichputshighdemandsonyouorforces you to adjust can cause pressure. This includes posiDve events such as purchasing a house, receiving apromoDon,geCngmarriedorgoingtocollege.Pressurecanalsobeself-generated,forexamplewhenyouhavepessimisDcthoughtsaboutlife.Whatcausepressuredepends,atleastinpart,onyourpercepDonofit.Belowaresomecausesofpressure.

1.Money

Financialtroubleisacommoncauseofpressure.Rent,notbeingabletomakeendsmeet,orcreditcarddebtcanputaseriousamountofpressureonaperson.Inthissociety,wherealotofemphasisisonwhatyou’veandwhatyoucanafford,financialpressureissomethingthatalmosteveryonecanrelateto.

2.RelaLonships

Argumentswithaparent, childora spousecan increasestress.Whenyou live together, thepressuremay feelcompounded. Issues among members of family or relaDves, even if you are not directly involved can causeaddiDonalpressure.

3.ProcrasLnaLon

Everybody procrasDnates for different reasons. However, inmany causes,many of us despair becausewe feeloverwhelmedorscaredofwhatweneedtodo.ThiscandevelopfrustraDonandunnecessarypressure.Insteadof

tacklingathought-provokingprojectinstages,peopletrydoingtheenDreprojectatonce.Weshouldbeproudofourselvesforeveryaccomplishmentwemake,regardlessofhowli5leitis.

4.PercepLonsandAltudes

HowyouviewaparDcular situaDonor theworld candeterminewhether it causes stress. Forexample,peoplewhothinkthattheyaredoingagreat jobatworkwillhave lesspressureoutbyahugeupcomingprojectthanthosewhoworrythatthey’reincompetentorincapable.

5.UncertaintyandFear

Fearanduncertaintycanhitclosertohome,suchbeingworriedthatyouwillnotfinishaprojectatworkorwon’thaveenoughmoneytopayyourmonthlybills.Thismakesyoufeel likeyouhavenocontroloverthoseeventsandthiscanbeamajorcauseofpressure.

6.CogniLveDissonance

When there’s a split between what we think and what we do, we do experience dissonance that is felt aspressure.DissonancealsooccurswhenwefailtomeetourobligaDons.Mostofusbelievewearecommi5edandhonest,butwhen situaDonspreventus frommeeDngourobligaDonsweareall facedwithpossibilityofbeingseenasincapablethusgeneraDngalotofpressure.

The Keys to Understanding Pressure It's easy enough to give the dicDonary definiDon of pressure.We know that it is a feeling of intense urgencycausedbyan impending task.Butwhatdoes that reallymean?Andhowdoespressureaffect thewaythatwework?Mostimportantly,howcanwecopewithpressureinordertokeepfromgeCngstressed?ThedicDonarywon'ttellyouanyofthat,butthey'reallkeystounderstandingpressure.

WhatisPressure?

Firstand foremost,pressure isapsychological feeling. Just likeangerandsadness,we feelpressuresomeDmeswhenit'sappropriateandotherDmeswhenitdoesn'tseemtobe.Healthyamountsofpressurecanhelpustowork more efficiently and effecDvely, moDvaDng us to do our very best. Unhealthy amounts of pressure, orfeelings of pressure at Dmeswhen it's not really there, can cause us to lock up nervously, siCng around andprocrasDnaDngunDltheverylastminute.Thechancesaregoodthatyou'vefeltbothtypesofpressurebefore.

WhatDoesPressureDo?

Pressuredoesdifferentthingstodifferentpeople,it'sacomplicatedfeeling.Forsomepeoplepressureraisestheirheartrate,causessweaDngandnervousness,and leadstostress.Stress intensifiesthefeelingsofpressureandcan cause a feedback loop that leaves us feeling u5erly worthless and unable to complete the task at hand.AlternaDvely,pressurecanbeseenasachallenge.ItcanmoDvateustodoourverybestwork.Pressurecanbeseenasachallengetoriseabove,orasanopportunitytodeliveronadifficultassignment.Believeitornot,it'slargelyuptoyouwhichkindofpressureyoufeel.

HowCanICopeWithIt?GET THE RIGHTS TO THIS TYPE OF

ThekeytofeelingpressureasaposiDvealllaysinyourcopingskills.Ifyouknowhowtohandlepressure,thatcangoalongwaytowardunderstandingpressureandrisingaboveit.Forsomepeople,handlingpressureisassimpleasdoingafewdeepbreathingexercises.Ontheotherendofthespectrum,somepeoplewithsituaDonalanxietyneedtherapyandoccasionallymedicaDontohandlepressureandstress.Mostofusfallsomewhereinthemiddle.

Thatmeansthatit'spossibletobuildcopingskillstohandlepressure.Onthissite,thereisalistofdifferentthingsyoucantry,butthemost importantthing istodistractyourselfwhenyou'refeelingstressed.Stress isnegaDvepressurethatweplaceonourselveswhenthingsseemhopeless.StrivetofeelpressureasaposiDvefactor,asachallenge,andyou'llnotonlyunderstandpressurebutyou'llbeabletoriseaboveit.

Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure Whenyouhaveaninsurmountableamountofpressureinyourlife,itcanfeelasifyouarecarryingalargeburdenonyourbackthatcanreallyslowyoudownwhenitcomestoachievingyourgoals.

Fortunatelyhowever, likemostoftheproblemsin lifethatwewillcomeacross,pressure isall inourminds.Assuch,therearesomethingsyoucandotochangeyourpercepDonofthesituaDonwhichwillresultinthereleaseofpressurefromyourlife.

1)Don'tStriveToBeAPerfecLonist

Manypeopleagreethatthewholeconceptofa5empDngtobeaperfecDonist ispre5ypointless.Bystrivingtoensurethateverythinggoesexactlythewayyouwantitdo,ulDmatelyyouwillbeseCngyourselfupforfuturefailureaswellastoputunnecessarilypressureonyourselfaswell.ThishasacounterproducDveeffectwhichwillessenDallyreduceyourabilitytodoanexcellentjob.

Thatisn'ttosaythatyoushouldn'tstrivetocompletethejobinaDmeefficientmanner,however,youshouldbeawareofthefactthatobstaclesorshortcomingsmaymanifestthemselves.Assuch,asopposedtostrivingtobeaperfecDonist,understandthatyoumayexperienceafewshortcomingshereandthere.

Themostimportantthingtorememberisthatyoushouldn'tletthemaffectyourperformance.

2)ForgetAboutWhatOthersThink

Mostof thepressure that you're experiencingmaybedue to the fact that you'reoverly concernedabout theopinionsofothers.Butasawisemanoncesaid,thetrickisn’ttoavoidhurDng,thetrickistonotmindthatthatit

hurts.ThesamethingcanbesaidabouttheopinionsorvalidaDonofothers:thetrickisn'ttochangethewaytheythinkortogaintheirvalidaDon,thetrickistonotcareaboutwhattheythink.Asfaraspressuregoes,thetrickisn'ttoseehowyoucanpreventyourselffromexperiencepressure,becauseyouwill,thetrickistonotmindthatyou'reexperiencingpressureandassuch,youwillreleaseit.

3)JustDoIt

OneoftheinteresDngthingsaboutpressureisthatithasawayoftrappingusinastateofprocrasDnaDon.Wemayexperiencesomuchpressure, thatwesimplydonotknowwheretobegin.Assuch,westrive to focusonotherthingsorinessence,procrasDnateasopposedtofocusingonthetaskathand.However,by"justdoingit",itcanhelptostopoverthinkingaswellastogetyououtofastateofprocrasDnaDon.

Wise Words About Pressure

“Pressuremakesdiamonds”GeorgeS.PafonJr.

“Courageisgraceunderpressure.” ErnestHemingway

“Pressureissomethingyoufeelwhenyoudon'tknowwhatyou'redoing.” ChuckNoll

“WhenwelongforlifewithoutdifficulDes,remindusthatoaksgrowstrongincontrarywinds”PeterMarshall

“TheonlypressureI’munderisthepressureI’veputonmyself.”MarkMessier

LEADERSHIP

Top 7 Traits of a True Leader

Therearesomecommontraitsfoundinapowerfulleader.Youmayalreadyhavesomeofthesetraits–andotherscanbedevelopedifagoalinyourlifeistobecomeatrueleader.Remember,youdon’thavetowanttoleadanarmytoreapthebenefitsoflearningleadershipskills.

Thetopseventraitsofatrueleaderinclude:

1. Knowingwhentodelegatetasks.Animportantskillforaleadertolearn–delegaDngtoothersmeansthatyoumustidenDfythestrengthsandweaknessesofthoseonyourteamandcapitalizeonthestrengthsbypassingouttasksaccordingly.

2. MaintainaposiLvealtude.KeepingyourteamupbeatandopDmisDcmeansthatyoumustmaintainaposiDveaCtudeandpresentanenergeDcfront.TheremustbeproducDvitytomeetgoals,butyoushouldbeabletobalancetheworkinghourswithsomefunDmes.WhenthosearoundyouseeyourposiDveaCtude,itwillruboff.

3. Beethicalandhonest.Holdyourselfandthosewhoworkwithyoutoahighlevelofhonestyandethicalconduct.YourfamilyandfollowersarereflecDonsofyou,soifyoupracDcehonestandethicalbehavior,theywillfollowyourpa5ern.

4. Abilitytocommunicate.RonaldReaganwasknownas“TheGreatCommunicator,”andlookingbackathislifestyle,it’seasytounderstandwhy.Hewasabletoclearlyexplainandfocusonwhatneededtobedoneandexpressitinawaythatwasunderstood.IfyouhavetroublecommunicaDng,readbooksortakeacourseinachievingbe5ercommunicaDonskills.

5. Abilitytocommit.GeorgePa5on,commandinggeneralinWorldWarIIwasasoldierwhogotupcloseandpersonaltothoseunderhiscommand.Hefoughtinthetrenchesandmadeitapointtobewhereverhismenwereexperiencingdifficulty.Asaleader,youmustmakeacommitmenttoleadbyexample.

6. Maintainasenseofhumor.Thedaytodaybusinessofbeingaleadercanwearyoudown,butifyoumaintainasenseofhumorthroughthediscouragingDmes,yourfollowerswillmaintainhighermorale.

7. CreaLvity.Aleadershouldhavetheabilitytochangefromapaththey’reontoanotherpathbytakingacreaDvestance.SomeDmes,thedecisioninvolveshowyou’reguidingothers,butwhateverthereason,creaDvityhelpseveryoneworktowardthegoalyou’reseeking.

Youneedtobecomeatrueleaderofyourselfifyouwanttoaccomplishgreatthingsorevenmeetsmallgoals.LeadingyourfamilythroughtrialsandtribulaDonsisanotherreasontoknowhowtolead.IfyouraspiraDonistobecomeCEOofyourowncompany,it’svitallyimportantthatyouknowhowtolead.

What is Your Leadership Style?

Knowingyourleadershipstylecanhelpyouinmanyareasofyourlifeandcareerchoices.StylesofleadershipdifferfrompersontopersonandinvolveyourstyleofimplemenDngstrategies,howyoumoDvateothersandhowyouprovidedirecDontofollowers.Somestylesofleadershiptostudyare:

1. PaternalisLc–Asyoumighthaveguessed,thepaternalisDcstyleofleadershipisbecominga“fatherfigure”foryourfollowers–whetherfamilyorwork-oriented.ThepaternalisDcstyleofleadershippromotestrustandloyaltyandfollowerstendtobecomecommi5edtotheperson.

2. Laissez-faire–Aleadershipstylewheretheruleofthumbis“handsoff.”Thisleaderletstheworkersandsubordinatesmakeallthedecisionsandonlyoffersupportwhenit’srequested.TheLaissez-faireworker/leaderrelaDonshipmaybeeffecDveincertaincases–suchasinanenvironmentwheretheworkersareveryskilledand/oreducatedandwherethefollowerscanbetrusted.

3. Authoritarian–Strictnessisthestyleofthistypeofleader.Theymaymicromanagebecausetheyprefertokeepclosecontrolovertheirfollowers.PoliciesandproceduresarethemainemphasisoftheAuthoritarianleadershipstyleandthefocusisonefficiency.

4. DemocraLc–Decisionmakingissharedwithfollowersinthistypeofleadershipstyle.PromoDngthedesiresandneedsofgroupmembersisparamountandtheleaderbelievesthateveryoneshouldplayapart

ineverydecisionmade.

5. TransformaLonal–ThistypeofleaderhastheobjecDveoftransforminghisorherfollowers.TheseleadersmaybeverycharismaDc(suchasevangelistsorpoliDcalleaders)andmeetchallengeswithexcitementandaclearpurpose.They’regreatcommunicatorsandmayoKenbefoundintoprolesofleadership.

6. TransacLonal–ThefocusofthisleadershipstyleisonmoDvaDngthroughrewardsorformsofpunishment.Theseleadersrecognizegoodperformancesandmayprovidematerialorpsychologicalrewardsforeffort.TheymayalsousecorrecDveintervenDoniftheyfeelthataworker’sperformanceisn’tuptopar.TransacDonalleadersaregoodatenforcingrulesandlaws.

Whenyouknowyourstyleofleadership,youcanbe5erhaveavisionoftheworkyoumaybesuitedfor.Ifyoudecideyou’rea“laissez-faire”typeofleader,youlikelywouldn’tbehappyinacareersuitedforanauthoritarianstyle(suchaspolicemanorjudge).

Knowingyourleadershipstyleisespeciallyhelpfulifyou’reconsideringmakingacareerchangeortakingcourseswhichputyouonacertaincareerpath.Gettoknowthevariousleadershipstylesbeforeyoumakeacruciallife-decision.

5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make

Leadersarepronetotakerisksandthoserisksmaycauseotherstoseethemas‘losers,’especiallyiftheleadersdon’thavefullknowledgeofwhattheendeavorconsistsofbeforetheybecomeinvolved.Somemistakescomefromthinkingsoradicallythatit’simpossibletoknowhowtakingachancewillturnout.Ifitturnsoutwell,theleaderisahero.Ifnot,seriousconsequencesmaybetheresult.

Therearesomecommonmistakesmadeamongmostleadersthatareavoidableifyouknowsomeleadershipstrategies.Herearefivecommonmistakeswhichcanandshouldbeavoidedifyou’reinaleadershiprole:

1. FocusingontasksratherthanreachingtheulDmategoal.Focusingtoomuchon“busywork”cankeepyoufromgeCngtheresultsyouwantanddesirefromateam.GreatleaderstendtofocusontheendresultsbeingreachedmorethanlookingorbeingbusyatallDmes.

2. Checkinguponemployeesratherthanengagingthem.MakeitapointtogettoknowyourteammembersandengagetheminconversaDonwhichcanpinpointwhatmakesthemDck.It’simportanttogetyourvisionacross,andyoucan’tdothatifyoumerelycheckinonceinawhile.

3. Don’tsDcktoyourownleadershipstyle.Youcanlearnfromotherleadersinhistoryandinyourbusiness,butdon’tmimicthemwhenitcomestoyourleadershipstyle.DevelopyourownandsDcktoittobecomealeaderwhostandsoutfromtheothers.

4. Resistchange.Manyleaderstendtodowhatthey’vealwaysdoneintermsofleading.Onereasonisthatthey’retoooverwhelmedwiththecomplextasksandresponsibiliDesthatleadersmusttakeon.Ifyouwantyourbusinessorteamtoprosperandgrow,takesomeDmetoexposeyourselftonewideasthatwillimpactyourleadershipabilityinaposiDveway.

5. Hirepeopletoofasttofillaslot.Hiringsomeonejusttofillavoidisn’tagoodwaytobuildateamyoucancounton.You’llinvestDmeandeffortinmanagingthe“newhire,”butmayeventuallyneedtolethimgoifyoufindyou’vemadeamistakeinhiring.TrueleaderstaketheirDmewhenhiringandmakesuretheycancompletetheworkandgrowalongwiththecompanyorteam.

Knowwhat’sexpectedofyouintheleadershipposiDon.Youcan’tleadothersifyoudon’tknowwhatyou’restrivingfor,sobesureyou’reclearandfocusedonthevisionratherthanthesmalltasksofthejob.

Wise Words About Leadership

"Thetaskoftheleaderistogethispeoplefromwheretheyaretowheretheyhavenotbeen."HenryKissinger

"Nevergiveanorderthatcan'tbeobeyed."GeneralDouglasMacArthur

"Tohandleyourself,useyourhead;tohandleothers,useyourheart."EleanorRoosevelt

"Ourchiefwantissomeonewhowillinspireustobewhatweknowwecouldbe."RalphWaldoEmerson

"Keepyourfearstoyourself,butshareyourcouragewithothers."RobertLouisStevenson

MOMENTUM

What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life?

ThescienDfictheoryofmomentumcanworksimilarlyinyourownlifeandtohelpyoureachgoals.ThesamefactswhichcanliKajetplaneoffthegroundcanliKyououtofastagnantlifeandputyouinaworldwhereposiDvethingshappenandyoureachthesuccessyoudesire.

ThescienDfictheoryofmomentumisMassxVelocity=Momentum.You’veprobablyseentrucksbarrelingdownthehighwayatrapidspeeds–andtheresultsofhiCngaslickspotintheroad.Thefasterthetruckisspeeding,themoredifficultitistoslowitdown.

IttakespowerfulbrakestoslowthattruckaKeritgathersacertainamountofmomentum.It’sthesamemomentumthatgetsajetplaneoffthegroundandthesamemomentumthatgetsatraintoitsdesDnaDononDme.

Asmomentumrelatestoyourlife–onceyougathermomentumandkeepitgoing,it’sgoingtobedifficulttostoptheforwardmoDonyou’vecreated.Inthebeginningmanythingscanthrowyouofftrack,butwhenyou’veworkedforaperiodofDme,momentumbuildsandcanpropelyouontosuccess.

Momentumcanmakeyousuccessfulinmanyareasofyourlife–ifyouhaveweighttolose,itbecomeseasiertokeeplosingweightaKeryou’velostafewpounds.Yourmindisset,yourhabitsofeaDngandexercisinghaveimprovedandyouhavefewerdoubtsthatyou’llreachthefinishline.

InrelaDonships,momentumcanworktoestablishcommitmentandsharingwithothers.RelaDonshipsarefragileandmustbenourishedandnurturedconsistentlytobringabouttheresultsyouwant.

Workrelatedmomentumcanguideyouthroughthemazeofclimbingthecorporateladderorbeginningabusinessandmakingasuccessofit.Noonewantstobestuckina“going-nowhere”job,andyouneedtorecognizewhenmomentumjustisn’tworkingandmakeadecisiontomoveforwardinanotherareaorcareer.

LearnallyoucanaboutmomentumandhowthescienDficprinciplecanbeusedinallareasofyourlife.Oncethewheelsstartturning,itwillbedifficulttostopyouachievingwhatyousetouttodo.

The Unstoppable Power of Momentum

Haveyoueverthoughtaboutwhatitwouldmeantohavethepowerofmomentumineveryaspectofyourlife?Yourcareerwouldsurelysoar,relaDonshipswouldthriveandyou’dprosperinyourfinancesbecausemomentumwouldbehelpingyouachieveeverygoalyouhaveinlife.

Youmayhaveoncehadincredibleexcitementandenthusiasmaboutagoalinyourlifeonlytohaveitshotdowninmid-air.Whathappened?Whycouldn’tyouaccomplishwhatyourmindwantedsomuchtocomplete?

Ifthishashappenedtoyou,youshouldaskyourselfanumberofquesDonsaboutyouraCtudeandabiliDesbeforeyoua5emptedtomeetthechallenge.RenownedspeakerandmoDvator,TonyRobbins,stated:“Themostimportantthingyoucandotoachieveyourgoalsistomakesurethatassoonasyousetthem,youimmediatelybegintocreatemomentum.”

Didyouimmediatelybegintocreatemomentumwhenyoudecidedonagoalinyourlife–ordidyouprocrasDnate,loseconfidence,andbecomeinDmidatedbythechallengeorotherreason?Unlessmomentumisbegunandkeptmovingalong,resistancesetsinanddestroystheheadwayyou’vemade.

Momentumcanbeunstoppableinyourlifeifyouunderstanditspower.Ifyou’veeversatonthebeachandwatchedsurferscatchagiantwave,yourealizedtherewasaphenomenalpowerbehindtheacDonofthesurferwiththewave.CatchingthatwaveatjusttherightDme,propelledhimontotheendofthewave’sjourney.

CreaDngmomentumatjusttherightDmesinyourlifecanpropelyouontothesuccessyou’vealwaysdreamedof.ItcanbecomeanunstoppableforceinyourlifeandhelpyoucreatesomeposiDvechangesinyourlifestyle.

Momentumcanbeusedinvirtuallyeverypartofyourlife.Youcanchangebadhabitsintogoodones,helpputashakyrelaDonshipbackontrackandmoveforwardinyourcareerorbusinesspathtosuccess.

Asnowballcanturnintoanavalancheifitgathersenoughforcealongthewayandalthoughanavalanchecancausedamage,thesameforceinyourmentalandphysicalacDonscanpropelyouaheadtoallgoodthings.

Thesheerforceofthemomentumyoucreatewillalsomeanthatyou’llturnintoafast-movingmachine.You’llgainmoreconfidencejustasasnowballgathersmoresnowandtherewon’tbeanythingyoucan’tachieve.

5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your Business

Howdifferentwouldyourbusinesslookifyouaddedthepowerofmomentumeveryday?Ifyouownyourownbusiness,it’sespeciallyimportantthatyoucreateandgatherallthemomentumyoucantohelpsetyourreputaDonashonestbecauseyoudealwithothersfairlyandaccurately.

Youmaynotneedmomentumtosimplyhangupashingleandcallyourselfabusiness-person,butifyouwanttorealizesuccessandcreateasolidbusiness,base–momentumisessenDal.

BelowarefiveimportantacDonsyoucantaketoensureyourbusinesssuccess:

1. UnderstandyourpresentsituaLon.You’vegottohonestlyandaccuratelyassessyourpresentbusinesssituaDontogettothenextlevelofbusinesssuccess.TakesomeDmetoevaluateyourincome,customersandbillssothatyouhaveagoodunderstandingofwhereyouarenowsoyoucanfocusonwhichthingsyoumightimproveupon.

2. Visualizeyoursuccess.Wheredoyouwantyourbusinesstobeayearfromnow–howaboutfiveyearsfromnow?Researchsomechallengesyoumightfacewhena5empDngtogrowyourbusinessandaddresshowyou’regoingtohandle(minimize)them.Beforemomentumcanhelpyoubecomesuccessful,youhavetovisualizewhatthesuccesslookslike.

3. IniLateaplan.AKeryouunderstandthebackgroundofyourbusiness,looktothefutureandcreateaplanofacDonwhichwillpropelyouaheadofwhereyouarerightnow.Youwouldn’tthinkofbeginninga

journeywithoutlookingatamapfirst(orcarryingyourGPS)andyoushouldn’tthinkofexpandingyourbusinesswithoutfirstimplemenDngagoodplan.

4. TakeacLon.Momentumwillnevertakeyouoffthegroundfloorifyoudon’ttakesomedecisivestepstocompleteyourgoalsanddreamsofsuccess.Yourmasterplanshouldconsistoflargegoalsbrokendownintosmallones.CompleDngonesmallgoalwillcreatethemomentumyouneedtogoontothenext–andsoon.

5. Neverstop.Noma5erhowdiscouragedyoubecome,insertposiDvethoughtsandacDonsinplaceofthenegaDveonesandkeeponthepathwithyourmomentumpushingyouforward.

Ratherthanself-sabotagingyourbusinesssuccessbylimiDngyourselfwithfearsanddoubt,vowtobecomedeterminedinyourquestforsuccessanddowhatittakestogetwhereyouwanttobe.

Wise Words About Momentum

“Onewaytokeepmomentumgoingistohaveconstantlygreatergoals.”MichaelKorda

“Theworldiswide,andIwillnotwastemylifeinfricDonwhenitcouldbeturnedintomomentum.”FrancesE.Willard

“Enthusiasmistheenergyandforcethatbuildsliteralmomentumofthehumansoulandmind.”BryantH.McGill

“SomeDmesthinkingtoomuchcandestroyyourmomentum.”TomWatson

“GeCngmomentumgoingisthemostdifficultpartofthejob.”RobertJ.McKain

ASSERTIVENESS

How Assertive are You? AnimportantpartoflifeskillsisthedevelopmentofasserDveness.Withoutit,youcouldfeeldisrespectedordisregardedinrelaDonshipsandcareerpaths.AsserDvenessisallaboutfeelingconfidentinyourideas,thoughtsandbeliefsthatyoucanaskordemandwhatyouwantinacalmandeffecDvemanner.

AsserDvenessisalsoaboutrefusingtoacceptwhatyoudon’twant.Forexample,ifsomeonecutsinfrontofyouatthesupermarket,doyoucallthemonitorjustkeepquiet?Ifyoudon’tspeakup,youprobablyleavethestorefeelingangryandfrustrated.

Ifyou’reanaggressivepersonality,youmayreacttothesamesituaDonbybecomingover-angryandshouDngatthepersonwhocutinline.Thattypeofbehaviorisunacceptableandcancauseseriousconflict.

YoumayhaveproblemsbeingasserDvewiththoseinauthority–forexample,parents,bossesorotherswhoyoufeelare“above”you.Youmaynothavetheconfidencetospeakuparoundthesepeopleforfearthatyou’llloseyourjoborbelookedatasconfrontaDonal.

AskyourselfthefollowingquesDonstogaugehowasserDveyouare:

• Doyouspeakupwhenyoudisagreewithsomeone?

• Doyoudowhat’srighteventhoughitgoesagainstwhatothersaredoing?

• Wouldyouremindapersonaboutmoneytheyborrowedandneedtopayback?

• Canyouaskforhelpifneeded?

• Canyoutellpeoplewhenyou’redisappointedinthem?

• Doyoutellsomeoneifthey’vehurtyourfeelings?

• Ifsomeoneisconsistentlylate,doyoutellhimhowitmakesyoufeel?

• Canyourefuseifsomeoneasksyoutodosomethingwrong?

Thinkaboutpeoplewhomyoureallyadmire?ChancesaretheydisplaythehonorablequalityofbeingasserDvewhenneeded.There’safinelinebetweenaggressivenessandasserDveness,buttheconsequencesmaybefar-reaching.

CommonsensecanleadyouawayfrombeingtooaggressivesothatfeelingsarehurtandrelaDonshipsarelost.AsyoupracDceasserDvenessinyourdailylife,you’llbecomemoreadeptatknowingwhenandwherethelineiscrossedandbeingabletoavoidit.

LearnallyoucanaboutasserDvenessandapplythelessonswhereneededinyourlife.Theself-esteemthatcomesfromstandingupforyourselfanddemandingthatyourrightsberespectedcantransformyourlifeandleadyoutosuccess.

You Can Learn to be Assertive AreyouDredofleCngotherstakeadvantageofyou?Itcouldhappenatworkorwhensomeonecutsinfrontofyouatthesupermarket.You’reirritated,butdon’tsayanything–andtheangerandfrustraDonbuildstoaboilingpoint.

Ifyou’repassivethatangerandfrustraDonneverescapesyourbodyandmaycausehealthproblems.Ifyou’reaggressive,theangerandfrustraDonmayendwithyoubeingabusivetoapetorlovedone.

YoucanlearntobecomemoreasserDve,speakupforyourselfandbecomemoreconfident.Butfirst,youneedtheasserDvenessskillsthatwillhelpyoubesurerofyourselfandtheacDonsyouwanttotake.

BecomeanAdvocateforYou!

ThefirststepinbecomingmoreasserDveistodecidetobecomeyourownadvocate.Thatmeansyouhavetoassertyourselfinyourjob,withfriendsandfamilyandotherswhomaydisrespectyou.

It’ssomeDmesscarytostandupforyourself–especiallywhenyou’reafraidoflosingyourjoboraspecialrelaDonship.EventhoughitcansomeDmesbeachallenge,havingyourownbackwillmakeyouhappierandhelpyoulivelifeonyourownterms.

TherearethreemainingredientstodevelopingasserDvenessskillsandbecomingyourownadvocate:

1. Knowwhatyouwant.

2. Believethatit’syourrighttohaveit.

3. ExpressitwithcourageanddeterminaDon.

Learningtosay“no”isoneofthehardestthingstoovercomewhenasserDngyourselfeffecDvely.Friendsandfamily,spousesandyourjobmayhavetakenadvantageofyouforyearsandyou’vebeentrainedtosay“yes”toeveryrequest,eventhoughitmaymeanyou’reoverworkedandunder-appreciated.

Whenyoubecomeanadvocateforyourself,you’reactuallybefriendingyourselfandwhenyoubecomeyourownBFF,goodthingswillbegintohappen.You’llbeabletosDcktoyourbeliefsandvaluesbecauseyoudon’twanttoletyourselfdown.

WhenyoubreakthedestrucDvepa5ernsofpassivenessoraggressiveness,you’llbeamazingatthenewsenseoffreedomandtheposiDveoutcomesyou’llgainwhenyousDckupforyourselfinahealthymanner.

BecomingasserDveinyourpersonalandworkinglifeisthemostimportanttoolyoucanculDvateforyourulDmatesuccess.It’stheabilitytostateyourwantsandneedsclearlyandshareyourfeelingscalmly,butforcefullytogetwhatyouwant.

LearntobecomeasserDve–andlovethefreedomandself-confidenceitbringstoyourlife.

How to Set Personal Boundaries Ifyouhavetroubletakingupforyourselfandsaying“no”whenneeded,youmayneedtothinkaboutseCngpersonalboundarieswhichwillprotectyoufromthosewhowouldtakeadvantageofyou.

SeCngpersonalboundariesisthetopmethodyoucanusetoimproveyourlife.Bystandingupforyourself,you’llgainself-esteemandfreedomfromtryingtopleaseeveryone.

Youmayhavetroubleinthebeginningtoassertyourselfandsetpersonalboundaries–especiallyifyou’vebeenpassiveinthepast.Ifyou’vebeenaggressive,youmayhavehandledboundarieswithangerandlashingout.Dealingwithboundarieswithpassiveoraggressivemethodsisn’tgoodbehavior.

Someoftheissuesyouneedtodealwithbeforebeginningtostandupforyourpersonalboundariesincludethefollowing:

1. Knowyourboundaries.Beclearwithyourselfaboutyourbeliefsandvalues–whatmakesyoufeeluncomfortableandhowyounowhandlesituaDonswhichcompromiseyourboundaries.

2. Useclearandconciselanguage.AKeryouknowyourboundaries,assertyourselfbyusingclearlanguageabouthowyoufeelwhenboundariesarebeingcrossed.

3. Don’tbea“yes”man.PartofseCngboundariesisknowingwhentosay“no”topeopleyouworkwithandinyourpersonalsphereoffamilyandfriends.Youloseyourpersonalfreedomwhenyoutakeontoomuch.

4. PayafenLontoyourinternalboundaries.Ifsomeoneoffendsordisrespectsyou,askyourselfifwhatwassaidistrue.Yourinternalboundariesarelinesdrawnwithinyourselfwhichpreventyoufrombelievingeverythingsomeonesaysaboutyou.

5. Knowyourrights.Youshouldn’tfeelguiltyaboutexpressingyourselfandaskingforwhatyouneedinarespecoulmanner.Youhaveeveryrighttodemandthatyou’retreatedfairlyandwithrespectinallareasofyourlife.

BeginseCngpersonalboundariesbyusingsimpleanddirectstatementsinanon-threateningtone.Youmayfeeluncomfortableforawhile,butyou’llsoonfeelapowerthatwillmakeyoustrongerandmoreadeptatdrawinglinesatbehaviorsyouwillaccept–ornotaccept–fromothers.

Youdon’tneedtodebatetheissuesofyourboundariesorexplainyourselftoothers.BefirmandconsistentinrepeaDngyourrequestsorstatementsandreinforceyouracDonsbystayingdetermined.

Youmayneedtoovercomeguiltfeelingswhenyoubegintosetpersonalboundaries.Rememberthatyoushouldfirstconsideryourselfinanydealingsandmakeyourselfthepriority–ratherthansomeoneelse’sbeliefsandfeelings.

Wise Words About Assertiveness

“Thedifferencebetweensuccessfulpeopleandreallysuccessfulpeopleisthatreallysuccessfulpeoplesaynotoalmosteverything.”WarrenBuffef

“Iencouragepeopletorememberthat"no"isacompletesentence.”

GavindeBecker

“Choosetobepro-acDve,asserDveandself-defining.”BryantMcGill

“TherearealwaysDmeswhenself-asserDvenessrequirescourage”

NathanielBranden

“AsserDvenessisyourabilitytoactinharmonywithyourself-esteemwithouthurDngothers. AuthorUnknown

THE END?

AnendingisoKenthebeginning.

Nowthatyouhaveworkedyourwaythroughthisbook-youshouldhaveacDonablestepstotakesothatyoucantrulybecomeabe5eryou.

Yournextsteps:

Workyourwaythroughthisguideagain,butthisDmejotdownthreegoalsforeachsecDon.ThesegoalsshouldbespecificstepsthatyoucantaketoincreaseyourabilityineachofthesecDons.

Asanexample,forthepassionsecDonyoucouldmakeitagoaltowritedown3thingsyouarepassionateabout.Thatonegoalmightnotsoundlikea“gamechanger”,butitisjustonesmallpartofawhole.

Ifyouwritedown3goalslikethatforeachofthetensecDonsthenyouwillhaveaneasytofollowblueprintthatwilltellyouexactlywhatyouhavetodotobecomeabe5eryou.

Foryourconveniencewehaveincludedanareaforyoutojotdownyourgoals…

Your “Better-You” Goals

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMorePassionate:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreOpLmisLc:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeHappier:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreConfident:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMorePosiLve:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeFindWhatInspiresMe:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBeferDealWithPressure:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeABeferLeader:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBuildPersonalMomentum

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreAsserLve:

1.__________________________________________________________________________________________

2.__________________________________________________________________________________________

3.__________________________________________________________________________________________

A Month Until A Better You

CongratulaDonsonwriDngdown3goalsforeachsecDon.SimplywriDngdownyourgoalsisaverypowerfulexercise.Sofewpeopledoit,thatyouinstantlygainanedgeassoonasyou“putpentopaper”.

YoumightnothavenoDcedasyouwerewriDngyourgoals,butthe3goalspersecDonwaschosenforareason.Younowhave30goals.Thatisbasicallyamonth.Ifyouworkononeofthesegoalseachday-youwillhavecompletedyourlistinamonth.Thinkaboutit-abe5eryouinjustamonth.Whatcouldbebe5er>

Youdon’thavetoworkthroughyourgoalsthatquicklythough.Theimportantthingisthatyouworkthroughthemassoonasyoucan.Aslongasyourpaceissteady,andyoukeepthemomentumrolling,youwilldogreat.

Bestofluck-IhopeyoulookforwardtomeeDngthebe5eryou.

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