dave wertheim f ounder, men u for transformed lives ministry consultant, man in the mirror

Dave WertheimFounder, Men U For Transformed LivesMinistry Consultant, Man in the Mirror

Why Are We Here?

Why even have a ministry to

men?

Why even have a ministry to

men?

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Then Jesus came to them and said,

“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make

disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the

Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And

surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Matthew

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The Apostle Paul

“And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable

men who will also be qualified to teach others.”

2 Timothy

2:2

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Man in the Mirror Vision

For every church to disciple every man.

Filled all blue

WIDENeed Cultural Biblical LeaderChrist Christian Christian DEEP

Portal Priority = Discipleship

Man Code = Environment

3 Strands = Leadership

Hurting Men

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The Big Idea :

Your system is perfectly designed to produce the results you are getting.

The Key Parts of Your Vision

VISIONName Slogan

Elevator SpeechPurpose StatementMen U For Transformed Lives Copyright © 2012 8

An Actual Purpose Statement

To build relationships with men, to encourage them practically and bring

them closer to Christ through fellowship, mentoring, and

discipleship.

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Question?What discipleship opportunities do you offer

men in your church? (make a list!)

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The Usual Suspects

Monthly Pancake Breakfast

Men’s Sunday School Class

Men’s Retreat

Iron Sharpens Iron Conferences

Service Projects

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“All-Inclusive”

Maximizing the Kingdom potential of every interaction my church has with every man.

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The Big Idea :

The size of my ministry to men is equal to the number of men in my church.

“All-Inclusive”

Why is this guy so

excited?

Why is this guy so

excited?

I’m IN!!(Even though I never go to

the men’s pancake

breakfast.)

I’m IN!!(Even though I never go to

the men’s pancake

breakfast.)

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More Than The Usual Suspects Monthly Pancake

Breakfast

Men’s Sunday School Class

Men’s Retreat

Iron Sharpens Iron Conferences

Service Projects

Sunday Worship Couples’ Small Group Ushers Parking Lot Team Youth Ministry Boys Sunday School

Teacher Mission Trips

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What Else is There?

• Different Types of Men – a spiritual continuum

• What is the target group for each activity in our church?

• Which activities reach men most effectively?

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Filled all blue

WIDENeed Cultural Biblical LeaderChrist Christian Christian DEEP

Hurting Men

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How do you decide what discipleship activities/events to offer men in your church?

5 Types of Men

1. Men who Need Christ

2. Men who are Cultural Christians

3. Men who are Biblical Christians (or want to be)

4. Men who are Leaders (or want to be)

5. Men who are Hurting

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The Big Idea :

Give men what they need in the context of what they want.

No Man Left Behind Model

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SustainSustainChange

CaptureCaptureMomentum

CreateCreateValue

VISION

Recruit Engage

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Felt NeedsWhy is there More month

than Money?I’m Engaged! what

will marriage be like?

How do I move from success to

significance?

How can I be a great dad?

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Meeting Felt Needs

Why is there More month than Money?

How can I be a great dad?

Crown Financial Group Study

Engaged DiscoveryClass

Short-termMissions trip

Dad in the MirrorSmall Group

I’m Engaged! what will marriage be like?

How do I move from success to

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Great event. Great event. Now what?Now what?

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Capturing Momentum

CreateCreate

Super Bowl Super Bowl PartyParty

CaptureCapture

BasketballBasketballLeagueLeague

Men’s RetreatMen’s Retreat6-week 6-week

Bible StudyBible Study

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Recruiting 201

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SustainSustainChange

CaptureCaptureMomentum

CreateCreateValue

VISION

Recruit Engage

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Time

# of Committed

Men Starting Point

CreateValue

Capture Momentum

Sustain Change

New DisciplesNew Disciples

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# of Committed

Men

New DisciplesNew Disciples

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Make disciplesMatthew 28:18-20

Pray for workersMatthew 9:36-38

Pray for disciples

Make workers

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Three Strands of LeadershipThree Strands of Leadership

Senior Senior PastorPastor

Passionate Passionate LeaderLeader

Leadership Leadership TeamTeam

1. Pray2. Support3. Inform4. Include5. Love

1. Vision casting2. Planning3. Engaging4. Praying

What’s What’s YourYour Next Step? Next Step?• Review your notes with your team

and Senior Pastor

• Identify a passionate leader for your ministry to men

• Recruit a strong leadership team and take them through the No Man Left Behind book or self-paced training

• Bring a team to a No Man Left Behind Conference for leaders

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