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THE ENNEAGRAM
MADE EASY
NINE PERSONALITIES
THE PERFECTIONIST
Ones are motivated by the need to live their live the right way, including improving themselves and the world around them.
BESTethicalreliableproductivewiseidealisticfairhonestorderlyself-disciplined
Personality Type ONE
WORSTjudgmentalinflexibledogmaticobsessive-compulsivecritical of othersoverly seriouscontrollinganxiousjealous
1. How to Get Along with Me
• Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.
• Acknowledge my achievements. • I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I
am. • Tell me that you value my advice. • Be fair and considerate, as I am. • Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me
to forgive. • Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself
when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 1
Type 1 The ReformerExcessive use of diets, vitamins, and cleansing techniques (fasts, diet pills, enemas). Under-eating for self-control: in extreme cases anorexia and bulimia. Alcohol to relieve tension.
THE HELPER
Twos are motivated by the need to be loved and valued and to express their positive feelings toward others.
Personality Type TWO
BESTlovingcaringadaptableinsightfulgenerousenthusiastic tuned into how people feel
WORSTmartyrlikeindirectmanipulativepossessivehystericaloverly accommodatingoverly demonstrative(the more extroverted)
2. How to Get Along with Me
• Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific. • Share fun times with me. • Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus
on yours. • Let me know that I am important and special to you. • Be gentle if you decide to criticize me. • In Intimate Relationships • Reassure me that I am interesting to you. • Reassure me often that you love me. • Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 2
Type 2 The HelperAbusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling "love-starved." Hypochondria to look for sympathy.
THE STATUS SEEKER
Threes are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.
Personality Type THREE
BESToptimisticconfidentindustriousefficientself-propelledenergeticpractical
WORSTdeceptivenarcissisticpretentiousvainsuperficialvindictiveoverly competitive
3. How to Get Along with Me
• Leave me alone when I am doing my work. • Give me honest, but not unduly critical or
judgmental, feedback. • Help me keep my environment harmonious and
peaceful. • Don't burden me with negative emotions. • Tell me you like being around me. • Tell me when you're proud of me or my
accomplishments
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 3
Type 3 The AchieverOver-stressing the body for recognition. Working out to exhaustion. Starvation diets. Workaholism. Excessive intake of coffee, stimulants, amphetamines, cocaine, steroids or excessive surgery for cosmetic improvement.
THE ARTIST or INDIVIDUALIST
Fours are motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.
Personality Type FOUR
BESTwarmcompassionateintrospectiveexpressivecreativeintuitivesupportiverefined
WORSTdepressedself-consciousguilt-riddenmoralisticwithdrawnstubbornmoodyself-absorbed
4. How to Get Along with Me
• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me. • Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love
and value myself. • Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision. • Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm
feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 4
Type 4 The IndividualistOver-indulgence in rich foods, sweets, alcohol to alter mood, to socialize, and for emotional consolation. Lack of physical activity. Bulimia. Depressants. Tobacco, prescription drugs, or heroin for social anxiety. Cosmetic surgery to erase rejected features.
THE INTELLECTUAL
Fives are motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self sufficient , and to avoid looking foolish.
Personality Type FIVE
BESTanalyticperseveringsensitivewiseobjectiveperceptiveself-controlled
WORSTintellectually arrogantstingystubborndistantcritical of othersunassertivenegative
5. How to Get Along with Me
• Be independent, not clingy. • Speak in a straightforward and brief manner. • I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts. • Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am
feeling uncomfortable. • Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your
sincerity. • If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it
was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place. • don't come on like a bulldozer. • Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud
music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 5
Type 5 The InvestigatorPoor eating and sleeping habits due to minimizing needs. Neglecting hygiene and nutrition. Lack of physical activity. Psychotropic drugs for mental stimulation and escape, narcotics for anxiety.
THE LOYALIST
Sixes are motivated by the need for security.
Personality Type SIX
BESTloyallikeablecaringwarmcompassionatewittypracticalhelpfulresponsible
WORSThypervigilantcontrollingunpredictablejudgmentalparanoiddefensiverigidself-defeatingtesty
6. How to Get Along with Me
• Be direct and clear. • Listen to me carefully. • Don't judge me for my anxiety. • Work things through with me. • Reassure me that everything is OK between us. • Laugh and make jokes with me. • Gently push me toward new experiences. • Try not to overreact to my overreacting.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 6
Type 6 The LoyalistRigidity in diet causes nutritional imbalances ("I don't like vegetables.") Working excessively. Caffeine and amphetamines for stamina, but also alcohol and depressants to deaden anxiety. Higher susceptibility to alcoholism than many types.
THE GENERALIST
Sevens are motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
Personality Type SEVEN
BESTfun-lovingspontaneousimaginative productiveenthusiasticquickconfidentcharming curious
WORSTnarcissisticimpulsiveunfocusedrebelliousundisciplinedpossessivemanicself-destructiverestless
7. How to Get Along with Me
• Give me companionship, affection, and freedom. • Engage with me in stimulating conversation and
laughter. • Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my
stories. • Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I
am. • Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or
needy people. • Don't tell me what to do.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 7
Type 7 The EnthusiastThe type most prone to addictions: stimulants (caffeine, cocaine, and amphetamines), Ecstasy, psychotropics, narcotics, and alcohol but tend to avoid other depressants. Wear body out with effort to stay "up." Excessive cosmetic surgery, pain killers.
THE LEADER
Eights are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.
Personality Type EIGHT
BESTdirectauthoritativeloyalenergeticearthyprotectiveself-confident
WORSTcontrollingrebelliousinsensitivedomineeringself-centeredskepticalaggressive
8. How to Get Along with Me
• Stand up for yourself... and me. • Be confident, strong, and direct. • Don't gossip about me or betray my trust. • Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and
acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side. • Give me space to be alone. • Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter
me. • I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically
assume it's a personal attack. • When I scream, curses, and stomp around, try to remember
that's just the way I am.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 8
Type 8 The ChallengerIgnore physical needs and problems: avoid medical visits and check-ups. Indulging in rich foods, alcohol, tobacco while pushing self too hard leads to high stress, strokes, and heart conditions. Control issues central, although alcoholism and narcotic addictions are possible.
THE PEACEMAKER
Nines are motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid conflict.
Personality Type NINE
BESTpleasantpeacefulgenerouspatientreceptivediplomaticopen-mindedempathetic
WORSTspaced-outforgetfulstubbornobsessiveapatheticpassive-aggressivejudgmentalunassertive
9. How to Get Along with Me
• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.
• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this. • Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. • Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me
gently and nonjudgmentally. • Ask me questions to help me get clear. • Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery. • Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings. • I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. • Let me know you like what I've done or said. • Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 9
Type 9 The PeacemakerOver-eating or under-eating due to lack of self-awareness and repressed anger. Lack of physical activity. Depressants and psychotropics, alcohol, marijuana, narcotics to deaden loneliness and anxiety.
Level 1
The Level of Liberation
Healthy Level 2
The Level of Psychological Capacity
Level 3
The Level of Social Value
Level 4
The Level of Imbalance/ Social Role
Average Level 5
The Level of Interpersonal Control
Level 6
The Level of Overcompensation
Level 7
The Level of Violation
Unhealthy Level 8
The Level of Obsession and Compulsion
Level 9
The Level of Pathological Destructiveness
Disintegration - 142857...
Integration - 758241...
9369... 9639...
The Direction of Disintegration 1-4-2-8-5-7-1 9-6-3-9
The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9
The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9
Example of Integration and Disintegration
• Personality Type EIGHT: The Challenger• The Powerful, Dominating Type:
Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational • Generally, Eights are strong, assertive, resourceful, independent, determined, action-
oriented, pragmatic, competitive, straight-talking, shrewd, and insistent. • Eights get into conflicts by being blunt, willful, domineering, forceful, defiant,
confrontational, bad-tempered, rageful, cynical, and vengeful. • At their best, Eights are honorable, heroic, empowering, generous, gentle, constructive,
initiating, decisive, and inspiring.
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