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March 15, 2012

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Promoting Social and Behavioral Competencies for Parents: Protecting your

Child from Bullying

Today’s Presenter• Anne Townsend, Ph.D.

Chief Academic Officer for Mariposa Child Success Programs

Session Segments

• Presentation– Anne will discuss bullying, teasing and social exclusion.– During Anne’s presentation, your phone will be muted.

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Mariposa Child Success Programs

Bullying, Teasing and Social Exclusion

March 15, 2012March 15, 2012Copyright © 2009, 2010, 2011 Dr. Anne Townsend

Mission: to foster social-emotional competencein children by training adults in five key skills.

The Mariposa Method:Empathy

Personal Message

Cooperative Problem Solving

Descriptive Reinforcement

Inductive Discipline

Mariposa Child Success ProgramsMission and Method

Behaving responsibly

Understandingfeelings

Developing healthy relationships

Managing emotions

Problem solving

What Is

Social-Emotional Competence?

ReducesReduces challenging behaviorschallenging behaviors

BoostsBoosts academic performanceacademic performance

IncreasesIncreases a child’s resiliency a child’s resiliency

Why

Social-Emotional Competence?

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1 Bullying:What it is and what it is not

Why it happens: Contributing factors

How adults can help:Insights & options for problem solving

Learning Objectives

What characteristics constitute bullying

behaviors?

What characteristics constitute bullying

behaviors?

Bullying Poll

Bullying Poll1.1. DeliberateDeliberate

2.2. Imbalance of powerImbalance of power3.3. RepeatedRepeated

Physical

1. Physical2. Verbal3. Psychological

Bullying Characteristics

Bullying Poll

Psychological Aggression

Relational

Indirect

Social

BullyingPoll

Do you think that bullying has increased in the

past decade?

• Yes• No• Not sure

BullyingPoll

Do you think that bullying has

increased in the past decade?

BullyingPoll

Do you think that bullying has

increased in the past decade?

Bullying Poll

It is hard to know…

• Bullying is under reported by kids(Culture of silence)

• Bullying is under recognized by adults(Indirect aggression is difficult to identify)

Bullying Poll

True or false?

•Bullying is part of growing up

• Only children who are different get bullied

•Victims need to fight back

• Tattling is bad

•Bullies suffer low self-esteem •Bullying is the result of a root cause

Bullying Poll

Why Does Bullying Happen?

CHILDCHILD

Family Factors that Contribute to The Problem Lack of warmth and

involvement Harsh discipline Overly permissive parenting Lack of supervision

CHILD

Community

School Factors that Contribute to the Problem Zero tolerance Focusing on bullies and

victims Group punishment Lack of awareness

CHILDCHILD

Community

Child Factors

Children who bully: Lack empathy for others Are impulsive and aggressive Desire to dominate Have a positive view of violence May have inflated self-esteem

CHILDCHILD

Community

Child Factors

Victims of bullying: Tend to be either passive or

provocative Often are socially isolated Exhibit anxious behavior React inappropriately

CHILDCHILD

Community

How Can YOU Help?

• Build awareness - develop a shared language• Communicate empathy• Invite kids to the problem solving process• Give it a rest! Focus on what is working.

Build Awareness…

A good friend is always there for you.

A good friend is someone who listens.

A good friend is kind.

A good friend shares and takes turns.

Build Awareness…

Talk about the bullying-teasing Talk about the bullying-teasing continuum…continuum…

Ask your child:Ask your child:““What are some examples when What are some examples when teasing is not okay?teasing is not okay?”” (Make a list (Make a list together)together)

Build Awareness…

Teasing is Not Okay When…Teasing is Not Okay When…• Someone asks for it to stop and it does not.• The person teased reacts badly when they are

teased.• It is meant to hurt or put down another.• It becomes a habit.• No one will help because they think they will get

teased.• Everyone doesn’t think it is funny.

Build Awareness…

Define bullying with your child:Define bullying with your child:

““What types of behaviors do you think are What types of behaviors do you think are bullying?”bullying?”

““Is there a difference between the way girls Is there a difference between the way girls and boys bully?”and boys bully?”

““Which is more harmful? Why?”Which is more harmful? Why?”

Communicate Empathy

Empathy Empathy involves listening to a child’s involves listening to a child’s feelings or point of view and feelings or point of view and communicating it back in a neutral communicating it back in a neutral manner.manner.

““You think…”You think…”““You feel…”You feel…”

““You wish…”You wish…”

The Power of Empathy

Counters the loss of self-esteemCounters the loss of self-esteem

Validates their experienceValidates their experience

Physiological and neurological benefitsPhysiological and neurological benefits

Basis for problem solvingBasis for problem solving

Opportunities for Empathy

Opportunities for empathy Opportunities for empathy

““One day she is nice One day she is nice and the next mean. and the next mean. It must be hard for It must be hard for you to trust her.you to trust her.””

““You should just You should just ignore her. Real ignore her. Real friends wouldn’t friends wouldn’t treat you like treat you like that.that.””

Instead of… Try

Opportunities for empathy Opportunities for empathy

““You’re scared that if You’re scared that if you retaliate it will you retaliate it will make matters make matters worse.worse.””

““Stand up to him Stand up to him once and for alonce and for all.l.””

Instead of… Try

Opportunities for empathy Opportunities for empathy

““You don’t You don’t understand why understand why they keep leaving they keep leaving you out. Part of you you out. Part of you wonders if it is wonders if it is something you did.something you did.””

““What do you What do you think may have think may have triggered this?triggered this?””

Instead of… Try

Opportunities for empathy Opportunities for empathy

“You are torn. You want to be included, but you don’t like hurting someone else.”

“How do you think you would feel if...”

Instead of… Try

Give it a rest! Focus on what Focus on what isis going well… going well…

I’m good at dancing.

I do well in math class.

I love horse back riding!

I really enjoy playing with Sam.

ResourcesResources

Mariposa offers classes and workshops for parentsand educators—contact us for more information at info@mariposaeducation.org

A list of books, links, and articles is also available for webinar participants

www.hopkinsworklife.orgworklife@jhu.edu

443-997-7000

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