how to deal with conflict as developer

DEALING WITH CONFLICT AS A DEVELOPER

JSINSA 2015 - Theo Bohnen

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Definition

• A state of open, often prolonged fighting; a battle or war.

• A state of disagreement or disharmony between persons or ideas.

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1. A Tale about a new Guy

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2. A tale about a ServiceBus

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A tale about a Big Statement

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1. Strong opinions, weakly held

• "Allow your intuition to guide you to a conclusion, no matter how imperfect — this is the “strong opinion” part.

• Then – and this is the “weakly held” part– prove yourself wrong.”

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2. Don’t attack the person, attack the idea.

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3. Pick your words carefully.

• "The capacity to make decisions, solve problems and collaborate with others is generally reduced by a threat response and increased under a reward response. (Elliot, 2008)".

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1. Scarf

• "The capacity to make decisions, solve problems and collaborate with others is generally reduced by a threat response and increased under a reward response. (Elliot, 2008)".

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2. CDE

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3. Own your slippers

• “The key to your happiness is to own your slippers, own who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have, and own the ones you don't. If you keep saying your slippers aren't yours, then you'll die searching, you'll die bitter, always feeling you were promised more. Not only our actions, but also our omissions, become our destiny.” - Cutting For Stone

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Conclusion

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Thanks

• https://hbr.org/2014/06/choose-the-right-words-in-an-argument/

• http://blogs.gordon.edu/curry/2012/09/30/owning-your-own-slippers/

• http://www.scarf360.com/about/

• http://www.saffo.com/02008/07/26/strong-opinions-weakly-held/

• http://www.informit.com/articles/article.aspx?p=1382538 @tbohnenjnr