impostor syndrome: be proud of your achievements!
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Impostor Syndrome: Be Proud of Your Achievements!
Mark Niebergall https://joind.in/talk/15d2c
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About Mark Niebergall• PHP since 2005 • Masters degree in MIS • Senior Software Engineer • Drug screening project • UPHPU President • SSCP, CSSLP Certified and SME • Drones, fishing, skiing, father, husband
Attend UPHPU!• Pizza, pop, cookie brownies • Meetup group https://www.meetup.com/Utah-PHP-
User-Group/ • July 13: OpenWest Review on Thursday 5:15-6pm • August 17: Tom Anderson on Git • September 21: PHP TestFest 2017 • October 21: Mark Niebergall on Defensive Coding
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Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• Feeling you are an impostor around others • Reaction to an experience • Fear of being found out as not smart enough
Impostor Syndrome• Running Cross-Country in High School
Impostor Syndrome• Smoothie shop
Impostor Syndrome• First IT job
Impostor Syndrome• First Item Writing
• Certified in 2008 • Subject Matter Expert in 2011
Impostor Syndrome• Speaker lounge at SkiPHP
Impostor Syndrome• Talking tech
Impostor Syndrome• Organizer of UPHPU
Impostor Syndrome• The nano user
Impostor Syndrome• Lunch with conference crowd
Impostor Syndrome• Why did I tell you those experiences?
• Can you relate? • Start thinking about experiences you have had
Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• My Experiences • What impostor syndrome is • Who experiences it • How to handle the experiences • Recognizing accomplishments
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Impostor vs Imposter • Merriam-Webster: a person who pretends to be
someone else in order to deceive others, especially for fraudulent gain
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Impostor Phenomenon (IP) • Impostor Experience • Fraud Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Not a mental illness • Not a personality trait
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Reaction to an experience • Fear of being exposed as a fraud
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Just got lucky • Good timing • Deceiving others • Fraud hiding amongst others
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Incompetent • Self-doubt • Not smart enough • A fake • A phony • A fraud
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Don’t belong with peers • Need to be better to be accepted • Not qualified
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Smile and nod like you know what others are talking about instead of asking
• Research afterwards • Talk about it the next day like you knew about it all
along
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Inability or unwillingness to internalize accomplishments, recognition
• Not accepting that accomplishments are a reality
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978 • Study of high achieving women
- Felt over-evaluated - Believed they were not intelligent
Impostor Syndrome• What impostor syndrome is
• Pauline Clance:"If I could do it all over again, I would call it the impostor experience, because it’s not a syndrome or a complex or a mental illness, it’s something almost everyone experiences."
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• 70% of all people • Most common in women and minority groups • High achievers • All industries
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Tom Hanks - Actor • Look, the title is “Lucky Guy.”
It’s about somebody who is almost good enough to deserve what he achieves. And I understand that. I still feel sometimes that I’d like to be as good as so-and-so actor. I see some other actors’ work, and I think I’ll never get there. I wish I could.
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Sheryl Sandberg - Facebook COO
• “There are still days when I wake up feeling like a fraud, not sure I should be where I am.”
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Denzel Washington - Actor • That last five minutes before
you go on that first [Broadway] preview, if you don't have that 'what .. am I doing here [feeling]' if you don't have that then they say it's time to quit.
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Sonia Sotomayor - Supreme Court Justice
• “I’m not a classic impostor-syndrome person because I have that initial insecurity but I’m capable of stepping outside of it and proving to myself it’s wrong.”
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Neil Armstrong - Astronaut • Felt out of place at a gathering
for people who had accomplished great things
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Twenty One Pilots - Stressed Out - I wish I found some better sounds no one's ever heard
I wish I had a better voice that sang some better wordsI wish I found some chords in an order that is new I wish I didn't have to rhyme every time I sangI was told when I get older all my fears would shrink But now I'm insecure and I care what people think
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Rampant in the IT world, including software engineers - Bill Gates - Mark Zuckerberg - Many other greats
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Rampant in the IT world, including software engineers - Constantly changing technology - New topics
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Conference Speakers - Apologizing - “Just” - Lucky - Feel insecure
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Blog Authors - Joe Ferguson: “I’ve been really lucky to have
opportunities…I’ve been lucky enough to have some really awesome people mentor me… I’m lucky enough that other conference organizers value my input…”
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Twitter poll: 100% had experienced impostor syndrome - 9 out of 9
Impostor Syndrome• Who experiences it
• Have you experienced impostor syndrome? • Share your experiences
Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ZNNUs0v1cU
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• Share feelings with others - Many have experienced same feelings
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• Ask questions • Ask for help
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• Write feelings - Writing therapy - List accomplishments - Associate accomplishments with reality - Reflection of experience - Journal, blog, tweet
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• Develop a support group - Positive feedback - Discuss experiences with - Attend community events (user groups,
conferences)
Impostor Syndrome• How to handle the experiences
• Be a mentor to others - Be positive, not toxic
• Consider how others may be feeling • Sincere acknowledgements
Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Acknowledge your successes and accomplishments • Pat on the back
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Accepting recognition and compliments
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• No need to apologize • Don’t diminish recognition
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Self-confidence
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• You do belong • You have accomplished something
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Community support
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Consider 5 year plan - Promotion, job title, roles
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Salary surveys
- Software engineer national average $95k - Salary.com: Entry $55k, Mid $70k, Senior $88k,
Staff $124k - My observations: 0-3 Years $45-$70k, 4-6 Years
$70-$90k, 7-9 Years $90-$120k, 10+ $100k+
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Salary surveys
- System Administrator national average $60k - Salary.com: Entry $55k, Mid $68k, Senior $85k,
Staff $105k
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Salary surveys
- QA Engineer national average $80k - Salary.com: Entry $60k, Mid $70k, Senior $85k,
Manager $105k
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Review current salary and salary history - Research averages for your specialties and
experience - Make a justified request for a raise if underpaid - Make a job move if underemployed
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Impostor syndrome can result in
- lower income - missed opportunities
Impostor Syndrome• Recognizing accomplishments
• Push your career ahead - Expand experience - Aquire certifications - Network through conferences, user groups - Feel confident in expertise
Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome• My Experiences • What impostor syndrome is • Who experiences it • How to handle the experiences • Recognizing accomplishments
Impostor Syndrome• Reflect on your past experiences • Accept your accomplishments • Keep pushing yourself towards goals
Questions?• https://joind.in/talk/15d2c
Sources• OSMI https://osmihelp.org/ • Quotes from https://www.thecut.com/2017/01/25-
famous-women-on-impostor-syndrome-and-self-doubt.html
• Source of all knowledge https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome
• Therapy http://impostertherapy.com/
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