in person and on the internet. an imbalance of power

Bullying:

In person and

On the internet

animbalance

of

Power

BULLYING is

the repeated and systematic harassment and attacks on others

perpetrated by individuals or groups

Bullying can be

Physical violence Verbal taunts, name-calling, and put-downs Threats and intimidation Extortion or stealing money and/or

possessions Spreading rumors/ vicious gossip Harassment via technology (email, text

messaging, etc.)

Bullying can be

isharassment and bullying that takes place online

or through other mobile devices

Cyberbullying

Spreading rumors about someone through instant messaging

Threatening someone on a web log (blog)

Creating hurtful websites against someone

Posting unauthorized nude photos on the internet

Posting “private information” on the internet

Cyber bullying examples

Sending someone mean or threatening emails, instant messages, or text messages

Excluding someone from an instant messenger buddy list or blocking their email for no reason

Tricking someone into revealing personal or embarrassing information and sending it to others

Cyberbullying also includes

Breaking into someone's email or instant message account to send cruel or untrue messages while posing as that person

Creating websites to make fun of another person such as a classmate or teacher

Using websites to rate peers as prettiest, ugliest, etc.

And it includes

It can seem more extreme to its victims than face to face bullying.

Cyberbullying Causes Serious Emotional Harm

Being bullied at home can take away the place

people feel most safe.

Cyberbullying invades homes,

People write things online that they wouldn't say in person.

No one can tell if the person Is lying by looking at him or her.

Cyberbullying Has No Limits.

Emails making fun of someone can be sent “everywhere”,

or

posted on a website for the whole world to see.

Cyberbullying = Bigger Audience

Cyberbullies often hide behind screen names and

email addresses that don't identify who they are.

Not knowing who is responsible for bullying messages can add to a victim's

insecurity.

Cyberbullying can be anonymous.

It may seem easy to get away from a cyberbully by just getting offline, but for some people not going online takes away one of the major places they socialize.

It steals social opportunities. It steals that sense of knowing you have someplace else to talk to someone in a private environment.

Cyberbullying may seem inescapable.

Bullies come from any economic,

cultural, andreligious

background,Bullies come from any

type of familygood, bad or indifferent

Origin of a Bully: Anywhere

Power

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What do Bullies want

a positive attitude toward violence

quick tempers

difficulty conforming to rules

positive self images

Bullies have

lack empathy

find it difficult to see things from someone else’s perspective

gain satisfaction from inflicting injury and perceive “rewards” (prestige, material goods) from their behavior

Bullies

are concerned with their own desires

rather than those of othersand

are willing to use others

to get what they want.

Bullies

Appearance Sexual orientation Intellect Socio-economic background Cultural or religious backgroundIn others words, things that make you different.

Characteristics of Those Who Are Bullied

Males were more likely to be bullied physically.

Females were more likely to be bullied socially.

That is changing, especially on college campuses.

Males and females used to be bullied in differently.

Cuts, bruises, scratches

Headaches, stomachaches

Damaged possessions

“Missing” possessions that need to be replaced

Physical signs of Bullying

Withdrawal and/or shyness Anxiety Depression Aggression Excuse making Self blame

Emotional Signs of Bullying

Changes in eating or sleeping habits (e.g., nightmares)

No longer wanting to participate in activities once enjoyed

Beginning to bully siblings or mistreat family or friends or pets

Hurting self, attempting or threatening suicide

Suddenly changing friends

Behavioral Signs of Bullying

Not wanting to go to school Changing method of going to school (e.g., changing walking route, wanting to be driven instead of driving)

Drop in grades Sudden lack of participation in class Sudden lack of preparation Confusion about assignments

Academic Signs of Bullying

Same as bullyingPlus

Avoidance of computer useFear of telephone ringing

Fear of getting text messagesSudden change of telephone number/s

Sudden change in e-mail address/esUnusual curiosity about a certain e-

mailer

Signs of Cyberbullying

Tell someone. Talk it out with the bully. Walk away. Distract the bully with a joke. Avoid the bully. Hang out with friends. Do something to help yourself.

Anti-bullying Strategies

Blocking communication with the cyberbully Deleting messages without reading them or

forwarding them to campus police Talking to a friend about the bullying Reporting the problem to an Internet service

provider or website moderator Raising awareness of the cyberbullying

problem in your community by holding an assembly and creating fliers to give to people

Anti Cyberbullying Strategies

Never post or share your personal information online (this includes your full name, address, telephone number, school name, parents’ names, credit card number, or Social Security number) or your friends’ personal information.

Never share your Internet passwords with anyone.

Never meet anyone face-to-face whom you only know online without telling someone else.

Talk to someone about what you do online.

Cyberbullying Prevention

Fighting back in person is not an effective strategy because there is a risk of:◦Physical injuries as a result of the fight◦Suspension (many schools have zero tolerance policies)

◦Increased bullying/retaliation◦Reinforcement of belief that violence is an acceptable way to deal with problems

Fighting back

Fighting back on the internet is not good either.◦Your e-mail can be forwarded◦Your e-mail can be edited◦Your e-mail can be used as evidence against you

◦Pictures can be added to your e-mail

Fighting back on the internet

Peer InterventionWhen peers intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time.

Tell the bully to stop.

Help the victim walk away.

Recruit friends to help the victim.

Befriend the victim.

Get someone with authority to help.

Peer intervention strategies

Stop the bullying Support the person being bullied Name the bullying behavior Refer to the rules against bullying Impose immediate and appropriate

consequences Empower those witnessing the bullying

People with Authority SHOULD

Report the incident to administrators. Increase vigilance and communication. Insist upon separate conversations with the

person who is bullied and the person who did the bullying.

Insist that someone in authority speak first with the person who is bullied.

Insist that administrators impose a consequence for the act/s of bullying.

Bullying Should Be Reported And Discussed

Anyone can be a bully.

It’s not fun being a victim.

If you wouldn’t say it in person, don’t say it online.

Reminders

The above information was obtained from:

National Crime Prevention Council 2345 Crystal Drive Suite 500 Arlington, VA 22202 (202) 466-6272 (used with permission)

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