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LADY TALK
FEATURES
It’s God’s Approval That Counts
4 Signs that You Need to End a Dating
Relationship
Living Well When it Hurts
An Open Letter to a Single Girl from a
Single Guy
How to Be a Woman Worth Pursuing
REGULARS
Confident Woman Devotional
Lady in Waiting
Lady of Conviction Part 2
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MARCH 2020
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GOD’S TIMING
CONFIDENT
DEVOTIONAL
The proper time for things is God’s time, not
ours. We are usually in a hurry, but God
never is. We’re often impatient and ready for
everything to happen right now, but God, in
His wisdom, makes sure that we’re prepared
for what He wants to do in our lives, and
preparation takes time.
God takes time to do things right—He
always lays a solid foundation before He
attempts to build a building. We are God’s
building under construction. He’s the Master
Builder, and He knows what He’s doing.
God’s timing seems to be His own little
secret. The Bible promises that He’ll never
be late, but I’ve also discovered that He’s
usually not early. The thing to remember is
that He’s always right on time, and His
timing is perfect.
Prayer Starter: Father, please help me
cooperate with You as You’re preparing me
for the good things ahead. Thank You for
actively working in my life, and for giving me
the ability to trust You with the things I’m
waiting for. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Shared via Joyce Meyer Ministries
As a pastor’s wife and a mother of
three, I am more conscious than the
average church-goer of my
children’s behavior. As much as I
adore our congregation, there
remains the stereotypical notion that
the pastor’s children are eyed more
keenly than others. You can imagine
my horror when I walked into the
sanctuary one Sunday morning to
find all three of my children leaping
over the tops of the pews, rapidly
(and noisily) jumping from one to the
next, getting closer and closer to the
front.
Being the refined, etiquette-
conscious woman that I am, I started
shouting from the back of the
church, “Stop it! You can’t do that!
Get down from there!” But they were
oblivious. I made a beeline for the
front of the church, pointing at and
scolding each one as I passed them,
finally stopping with my four-year-old
son. I hissed a command for him to
come to me, and of course he just
giggled.
Eventually he woke up to the
seriousness in my tone and decided
to humble himself. I put my arm
around his shoulder and saw his
bottom lip start to quiver – the first
sign of repentance. I said to him
calmly, but sternly, “Listen. You
cannot do that. You are not allowed
to jump over the pews.” He looked
up at me with his puppy-dog eyes
and nodded soberly. “Okay, Mom,”
he said, still nodding. “But what’s a
pew?” Of course I smiled. And with
the smile came the realization that I
had overreacted. Again!
The same sin in my heart manifests
itself in a myriad of different masks.
swimming lessons with her swimming
cap on her head. “Why not, Mom?”
she asked. “Is it because you think
people will think I look silly?”
“Well, yes,” I admitted. “I don’t care if
people think I look silly,” was her
nonchalant response. I relented. Part
of me was glad that I have not yet
scarred her completely with my
unbiblical thinking regarding image,
perception, and pleasing people.
Another part of me wondered how
long it will take before her childlike
naivety and innocence wears off and
she becomes more aware of peer
pressure and wanting to fit in. I have
to ask myself: “How can I, as a
parent, be proactive and help protect
my children from succumbing to the
wants of society as I am so
programmed to do?”
For a start, I can ensure that they are
raised with a biblical view of
themselves. Each one of us is a
wretched sinner, completely and
utterly helpless to do or be anything
good without the help of the Holy
Spirit. Having said that, it’s
astounding to think we have been
made by God in His image.
He Himself knitted us together,
exactly how He wanted us to be
If I truly believed that, I would spend
far less time in front of the mirror. I
would not sigh with such agitation on
Sunday mornings when my kids drip
syrup onto their church clothes. If I
really believed that, I would happily
let my daughter walk in public with a
swimming cap on her head, as long
as her heart is right with God.
But the substance from which the
masks are formed is the same. They
are all molded from a plaster called
pride. I want others to think well of
me, to be impressed with my
parenting skills, to compliment my
children's behavior, obedience, and
sweet countenances.
How many times have I scolded my
nine-year-old because his shirt was
not tucked in, or reprimanded my
four-year-old for not wiping the
toothpaste off his face like I asked
him to? Tidy appearances and
personal hygiene are not inherently
wrong or unbiblical, but what is my
motive for such standards?
Truthfully, it’s to make a good
impression on others. At its root is
the desire to please people.
If my daughter is desperate to go to
church so she can learn more about
Jesus, does God care whether her
socks match? 1 Samuel 16:7 says,
“People look at the outward
appearance, but the LORD looks at
the heart.”
Pastor’s wife or not, my concern
should not be first and foremost what
the congregation members
think of me or my children, so long as
my heart is right with God. Biblically
speaking, I shouldn’t place a desire
to please and impress others over
and above my desire to please my
King. I’ve been convicted by Gal.
1:10 – “Am I now trying to win the
approval of human beings, or of
God? Clearly, I still have a long way
to go in this process of sanctification,
for even as I was working on this
article, I found myself trying to
convince my six-year-old daughter
that she couldn’t walk the mile to
When it comes to dating, there are
plenty of perspectives. The Bible
doesn't offer an instruction manual
for dating; instead, it paints pictures
of healthy relationships in which
people respect and care for each
other (or fail to), whether before or in
marriage.
Ask God what He thinks about your
relationship and what needs to
change — regardless of if it's to end
the relationship or to continue into
marriage. Here are a few things to
consider with the person you're
dating (or the person you hope to
date).
Four Signs You Might Need to
End a Dating Relationship Now
1. You're following Jesus, and the
man or woman you’re dating is
not. Dating is a process that allows
you to see if another person would
be a potentially suitable spouse. It’s
also a way to grow in understanding
of relationships with other people.
(Missionary dating is probably a bad
idea.) If you’re a Christian, having a
good time is an important part of
dating, but the best goal is to lay a
healthy, respectful foundation that
could grow into a marriage. When
outsiders see a husband and wife
serving each other like Jesus serves
the Church, they’ll get a better
picture of who God is (Ephesians
5:22-33).
A good, loving relationship of any
type will be beneficial and
respectful for each person.
2. Your life revolves entirely
around the other person.
develops ways to combat the
addiction and works to get healthy,
those addictions often take higher
priority than the significant other.
What your boyfriend or girlfriend
needs more than a relationship
with you is a growing relationship
with Jesus.
If you’re dating someone who exhibits
one or all of the signs above, what
your boyfriend or girlfriend needs
more than a relationship with you is a
growing relationship with Jesus.
Pray for that person like you would a
brother or sister. Invite them to
church. But at the very least, hit
pause and get wise counsel from
someone experienced in following
Jesus and building healthy
relationships.
These signs may be hints that your
significant other is not ready for
marriage, and right now, he or she is
not God’s best for you. A godly
spouse is worth waiting for. A true
friend will put the other’s needs
before his or her own.
Shared via New Spring.
Is it impossible for either one of you
to do something independent of the
other? You’re not married yet, so
don’t act like you can’t live your own
lives. Codependent relationships limit
the freedom of both people because
they’re controlled by the needs and
time of each other.
Singleness is a unique opportunity
for people to be involved in a church
community and serve Jesus in ways
that married people cannot (1
Corinthians 7:32-35).
3. You care more about the other
person than he or she does about
you. It's not healthy romantic love if
both people don’t actually care about
each other. Relationships are a two-
way street, but if it’s only one way,
it’s called infatuation.
When only one party is committed in
the relationship, it’s unreasonable
and unhealthy. This often leads to
confusion and emotional pain. A
good, loving relationship of any type
will be beneficial and respectful for
each person (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
4. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is
an addict to anything — and is
unwilling to change. If your
significant other pays more attention
to a smartphone than to you, it may
be an indicator that he or she is
addicted to technology.
Perhaps there’s another sort of
addiction one of you struggles with,
like porn or alcohol or excessive
shopping. Addictions add strain to
any relationship. Our selfish desires
are fueled by what we pay most
attention to (Matthew 6:19-
24; Proverbs 23:1-7). Unless one
Maybe you’re single and your
blank would be filled in with
“serve” or “work.” Or possibly,
your children are all grown and
your spouse has passed away,
and your blank is completed
with “finish my life.”
Pain complicates things. It
pushes us to our outermost
limits and can reveal the worst
about our sinful nature. But I’m
guessing, none of us want to be
known or remembered by how
cranky we can get? I know I
don’t. Thankfully, as believers in
Jesus Christ, we know that God
can use even the worst
circumstances in our life for
good and our sinfulness doesn’t
have to define us!
As I’ve struggled my entire life
with chronic pain, I’ve
experienced how ugly of a
person it can make me, but I’ve
also discovered how I can turn
that ugliness around.
1. Ask God to show you what
you do and don’t need to ask
forgiveness for.
Pain can produce in us a great
sense of self-guilt over things
that we should not be feeling
guilty about. God’s Spirit and
Word can help us discern what
is self-induced guilt and what is
true guilt over sin that we need
to seek forgiveness for. For
example, self-guilt may say I
need to ask my daughter for
forgiveness because I was in
too much pain to accompany
her class on a field trip, which
she was disappointed about.
I don’t think anyone would argue the statement that we, as
women, juggle a lot. By nature, God created us to be helpers and
nurturers. We are amazing multi-taskers and, more often than
not, we end up putting the needs of others above our own.
So it’s not surprising to me that one of the questions that women
most frequently ask me is, “How do I continue to ____ well while
living with chronic pain?” I’ll let you fill in the blank for yourself,
but being a 30-something mom, many women I interact with, fill in
that blank with “mother” or “love your husband/kids.”
however, I may wake up with
pressure in my head and every
nerve and muscle in my body
aching to the point where it is a
chore to get out of bed. As the
day goes on, I won’t explain how
I’m feeling, but instead get
frustrated that no one is helping
with things around the house.
But why should they?
Yesterday, I did do everything
and so I have
to communicate (not complain)
why things are different today.
3. Start your day with serious
prayer, especially on the days
when you feel like it is going
to be near impossible to love
or serve anyone, because of
your pain.
Ask God to be strong when you
are weak. He will give you
exactly what you need for that
day. It’s usually on my most
painful days that friends will tell
me I look the most beautiful. I
can assure you that it’s not
because of the makeup
(although that certainly helps),
but rather Christ’s love shining
through me.
No matter where you find
yourself on the daily spectrum of
trying to live and love well in the
midst of chronic pain, give
yourself permission to lean into
the power and presence of your
compassionate Savior. You can
surrender your pain, emotions,
fragility, and brokenness all to
Him—resting in His promises to
shine through you—even on
your darkest days.
Yes, it’s something we should
talk about and her feelings are
legitimate, but I have not truly
sinned against her. However, if I
get frustrated and say
something to her that hurts her
feelings, simply because I’m
frustrated with my constant
pain, then that is something I
need to apologize both to her
and God for.
2. Talk about your pain to
friends and family.
We all have different comfort
levels when it comes to sharing
about our health. I (obviously)
am open to sharing quite a bit
with whoever will listen.
Sometimes, however, I find I am
not actually communicating as
much as I need to for the people
around me to understand my
needs. Occasionally this is
because I assume that they
should know exactly how I’m
feeling and thinking.
Other times, it’s because I do
not want to sound like I’m
always complaining about the
pain I’m in. But chronic pain can
vary in intensity from day-to-day
and the people who love us,
need help understanding
that. Especially if it is suffering
that is unseen. For example,
one day I may wake up feeling
pretty good physically.
Since I’m having a “good” day
with my pain, I’ll unload the
dishwasher, do a few loads of
laundry, run errands, cook
dinner, etc. The next day,
Article by Adriana Hayes
Dear Single Girl,
I don't know you personally, yet, but there are a few
things I want to tell you with the hope that I will get to
know you someday. Actually, there are five things I
want you to know:
How to get a man’s attention
The guy that you are looking for isn't attracted to
charm as much as he is godliness because beauty
fades but godliness GROWS (1 Peter 3:3-5). I know
that the culture will tell you that guys are turned away
and intimidated by girls that love Jesus and have
strong values and convictions. Culture is wrong; boys
may be turned away by strong convictions, but men
are not. Be the woman God has called you to be, and
a godly man will notice.
Run from “Prince Charming”
Some girls seem to give attention to every smooth
talker and cool dresser that comes their way. Please
don’t do that; be patient and wait on a man who is
concerned with pursuing Jesus, not another trophy.
Only give the GROWING, God-fearing man a chance
to pursue you. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain
(Proverbs 31:30).
I am just a guy, not a god
A guy will crumble under the weight of being your
god. No other person can complete you or make you
happy. There are lots of great physical and emotional
benefits that come from a relationship, but none of it
is enough to sustain a healthy loving marriage if your
faith is not in Jesus. No guy will complete you, so
don't put him on that pedestal (he will fall).
.
Don’t wait on me, pursue Jesus
From my male perspective, there is nothing more
attractive than a woman being obedient to Jesus and
taking the risk to follow Jesus wherever He leads.
Too many times I notice girls in the church just sitting
and waiting on a man to come and rescue them from
a life of boredom. When it comes time for me to pick
a partner, I want somebody that can be with me on
an adventure, not someone that is used to doing
nothing and complaining about the fact that no one is
interested in them. Pursue Jesus and I will pursue
you when He gives me the green light.
Time is not running out
Singleness is a gift, not a curse. Do you want to be
beautiful? Put your hope in God and don't give way to
fear; trust his timing (1 John 4:18). Don't waste your
single years by always waiting on what is next and
turning yourself into a man chaser. Let’s follow God
right now and trust Him to take care of the next. God
is sovereign and able to direct both of us to each
other when the time is right.
Until Then,
Single Guy Shared via New Spring
Look for a Man Who Will Lead
Your Family
It’s hard when you’re single to
consider what you want your
family dynamic to be like when
you’re married. But dating is a
pathway to marriage.
My fear in asking a guy out is
that I will have become the
leader in the relationship, which
is not at all what I want, nor is it
what God wants for us.
Ephesians 5:22-33 paints a
beautiful picture of what a
relationship between man and
wife should look like: “Wives,
submit to your husbands as to
the Lord. For the husband is the
head of the wife as Christ is the
head of the church, his body, of
which he is the Savior.”
At first glance, the feminist in
me thinks, “Why should I
submit?” But the next part gets
me. “Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ loved the
church and gave himself up for
her” (Ephesians 5:25).
I truly want a husband that
leads. I want him to make the
first call by pursuing me.
Husbands are called to love us
with bravery, to protect us, to
make difficult decisions. If
you’re anything like me, it’s hard
enough to decide which
clearance necklace to buy at
Target. I truly want a husband
that leads. I want him to make
the first call by pursuing me.
It’s not bad to dream, but if those
dreams distract me from
experiencing Jesus in the here
and now, I’m missing out on
more than being married. I’m
missing out on what Jesus
wants to do in me today that will
help me be a better wife
tomorrow.
Just like I want to marry a man
of good character who will lead
the way in asking me out, my
future husband wants to marry a
woman of noble character who
loves Jesus and puts Him first in
her life.
Single ladies, let’s stop chasing
fantasies about the perfect guy,
the perfect wedding, the perfect
family. Let’s change our focus to
solely pursuing God and loving
those around us.
God may be calling you to
marriage, but He has not called
you to pursue the man of your
dreams. Let God take care of
that for you. Let’s choose to
remain obedient and trust in
God’s timing and His plan for us.
And maybe that guy will finally
have the courage to ask you out.
Live Where God Has You Now
Wanting a man to pursue me
doesn’t change the fact that no
one is currently pursuing me.
How do I trust God and continue
waiting patiently?
The ability to wait ultimately
comes down to whether I trust
that God wants what’s best for
me. Maybe in this season, God
is using my singleness to grow
me closer to Him, and perhaps
a boyfriend would be a
distraction. Maybe God is
preparing a young man’s heart
to take on the pursuit of mine.
I can’t know God’s mind, but I
can obey His commands
(Romans 11:33-36).
We are called to be obedient to
what Jesus has for us right now.
Whether we will eventually
marry or not, we all have
opportunities in front of us today
to make a difference for His
kingdom.
The apostle Paul writes in 1
Corinthians 7:8, “Now to the
unmarried and the widows I say:
It is good for them to stay
unmarried as I am … An
unmarried woman… is
concerned about the Lord’s
affairs: Her aim is to be devoted
to the Lord in both body and
spirit.”
Sometimes all I can think about
is, Will my husband listen to the
same music as me? Will he
enjoy hiking? Will he love
coffee?
With Valentine’s Day, I’m reminded again of my singleness. As a
woman of the Lord, I know my strength is found in Him.
I’ll get together with all my single ladies for our yearly tradition of
“Valentine's Day,” but the truth is, I still find myself hoping Mr.
Right will come along because I’m tired of waiting.
I’ve considered going for it and asking out the guy I’ve had my
eye on for a while. Ever been friends with a guy and wondered
when it was going to click that for him you’re into him?
If I don’t ask him out, how else will he know? But is that OK?
What does Jesus want for me and for you?
Article by Emily Becker
The Man-Worth-Waiting-For
How would you describe the ideal man? A group of
sharp women were asked to describe a “Man-Worth-
Waiting-For,” and all of them immediately replied:
spiritual leader. One woman expounded on this quality
in her unique way: “I want a guy who enjoys talking
about Jesus in such a way that it reveals his obvious,
bursting love for Him.” Too many guys want to talk
about Jesus for 60 seconds and their car or job or latest
toy for the rest of the evening.
One woman shared a verse that she thought his life
should reflect, “Psalm 73:25: “Whom have I in heaven
but You [the Lord]? And besides You, I desire nothing
on earth.” Do such spiritual men exist? Yes, but they are
exceptions and not the rule. Their appearance requires
waiting on the part of the recipient.
Before considering the specific qualities found in a
Boaz, one should deal with certain physical stereotypes.
Whether you have been looking for a guy who is a
bronzed, blue-eyed blonde (“B.B.B.”) or is tall, dark, and
handsome (“T.D.H.”), you need to surrender your
desires to the Lord. Everyone has certain preferences.
But such a mind-set needs to be given to Jesus. Too
many single women have missed wonderful treasures in
godly guys because the treasure was not encased in a
B.B.B. or T.D.H. The Lord will probably not require you
to date a guy who repulses you physically. But you need
to be open to guys who do not fit your desired
stereotype. Too often a guy may satisfy your eyesight,
but leave your heart empty and still longing. Remember,
after a few years that bronzed, blueeyed blonde can be
transformed into a pale, bald guy with bifocals on those
gorgeous eyes.
A famous actress told a Christian psychologist that her
five husbands had all been attractive outside (they were
all B.B.B’s or T.D.H.’s), but rotten on the inside. How
many women, after the honeymoon is over, feel like they
married a stranger? How many newlyweds are
disillusioned by their mate’s behavior within a few
months of marriage? Most marriage counseling
problems have their roots in personality problems—not
physiques.
The Book of Ruth gives not only the story of a Lady in
Wedding Day Chains
“Here comes the bride all dressed in…chains!” Hey,
wasn’t that supposed to be “all dressed in white”? The
last word in the chorus was changed to “chains,” not
because the bride is marrying a member of a
motorcycle gang, but because she made the unwise
choice of marrying an unbeliever. The chains symbolize
what she has to look forward to as a believer married to
an unbeliever. The Word of God speaks clearly about a
partnership with an unbeliever.
A common verse used for this conviction is Second
Corinthians 6:14-17, but you find a more poignant
message for the one who wavers in this convictions in
Joshua.
But if you turn away and ally yourselves with the
survivors of these nations that remain among you and if
you intermarry with them and associate with them, then
you may be sure that the Lord your God will no longer
drive out these nations before you. Instead, they will
become snares and traps for you, whips on your backs
and thorns in your eyes, until you perish from this good
land, which the Lord your God has given you (Joshua
23:12-13 NIV).
One would be foolish to disobey God in the area of
marrying an unbeliever.
When a single woman experiences a prolonged period
of datelessness, loneliness tempts her to compromise
her conviction concerning dating a growing Christian.
Her dateless state may pressure her to surrender to the
temptation of dating an unbeliever. She may justify such
a date in the guise of being a witness for Jesus. Many
single women have been trapped emotionally with an
unbeliever when it all began with “missionary dating.”
Ponder this: Every unbelieving marriage partner arrived
as an unbeliever on the first date. As trite as it may
seem, every date is a potential mate. Avoid dating an
unbeliever.
Many women want so desperately to date that the only
qualification they have for the guy is that he goes to
church. Every Sunday churches have people attending
to appease God or to satisfy a religious urge. You must
set a higher standard and resist dating a guy who is not
growing in his intimacy with Christ.
By Debbie Jones & Jacky Kendall
by those with whom he works.
There will be…glory and honor and peace to everyone
who does good… (Romans 2:9-10).
Follows through on his God-given responsibilities.
He uses the talents God has given him and realizes that
“he + Jesus = adequacy for any Godgiven job.” He is
neither overconfident nor absorbed with feelings of
inferiority. He is not a dreamer, wishing for more ability,
but a diligent steward of the talents he has been given.
This man is dependable and stays with even a difficult
task until it is completed.
Now it is required that those who have been given a
trust must prove faithful (1 Corinthians 4:2 NIV).
Understands the importance of feelings and
emotions. Some women may find themselves attracted
to a demanding man, assuming that his dominance will
be their security. Other women may marry a doormat
they can dominate, but inevitably end up despising the
man’s weakness. A gentle man is the best of both; he
takes the initiative to lead but tempers it with gentle
responses toward the other’s feelings.
So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and
beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness,
humility, gentleness and patience (Colossians 3:12).
Flees temptations to compromise. This man refuses
to be in situations that are sensual, immoral, or impure.
He does not entertain friendships that lead to
drunkenness or carousing. He avoids talk that could
cause strife or jealousy. This man does not allow a
temper to control him or anger to destroy him.
Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man
who has no control over his spirit (Proverbs 25:28).
These qualities are not unrealistic ideals. When a man
follows Jesus, the Holy Spirit works these into his life. In
fact, you can read this list again and match the fruit of
the Spirit with the appropriate characteristic. “But the
fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,
goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against
such things there is no law” (Gal. 5:22-23).
None of the men you date will have all these qualities
perfected. All of us are at differing levels of maturity. A
man of God is one who works toward being conformed
to the character of Christ. But be careful when a quality
of God’s Spirit is completely missing in a man’s life and
he is unwilling to deal with it before marriage. Realize
that if character is absent before the wedding ceremony,
it will be missing after the wedding ceremony and cause
considerable problems during marriage.
Was Boaz, Ruth’s knight, the last man of godly
character, or was he just one of many? We are
convinced that God still grooms Boazs for His daughters
today.
This does not mean a guy has to be perfect in order for
you to go out with him. It does mean that he needs to be
growing in Christlikeness by the enabling power of the
Waiting, but also the profile of a Knight in Shining
Armor. From the first mention of this man Boaz, you
begin to notice special qualities that distinguish a Boaz
from a Bozo.
You want to marry someone for the qualities he
possesses now, not for the qualities you hope he will
develop. The most common mistake made by marriage
partners is marrying someone they intend to change.
Since it is nearly impossible to change a person, you will
want to set standards of dating, or of building
friendships, with men who are characterized by the
qualities below. A single woman can sidestep a lifetime
of tragedy by seriously considering these characteristics
in a prospective steady date.
Puts the needs of others ahead of his own. This man
accepts people just the way they are, loving others even
when his love is not returned. He will continue to love
someone because of his commitment to that person, not
because of how he feels.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with
humility of mind regard one another as more important
than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own
personal interests, but also for the interests of others
(Philippians 2:3-4).
Rejoices in his relationship with Christ.You don’t
have to ask this man if he is a Christian. His joy in the
Lord is evident in his life.
These things I have spoken to you, so that My joy may
be in you, and that your joy may be made full (John
15:11).
Maintains proper relationships. This man seeks a
good relationship with everyone—from his friends to his
parents. He listens to differing perspectives without
feeling threatened. He has the strength to back off from
a fight. He works to forgive wrongs done to him and
seeks to make his own offenses right. He will not hold a
grudge.
Pursue peace with all men… (Hebrews 12:14).
Refuses to jump ahead of God’s timing. He is not so
eager to be something, do something, or have
something that he cannot wait on God’s timing. He
chooses against impulsiveness so he may be in the
exact center of God’s will.
Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him… (Psalm
37:7).
Seeks to meet the practical needs of others. He is
not so self-absorbed that he cannot make time for the
needy. He is interested in the welfare of others and is
willing to give his time, money, and energy for their
benefit.
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted… (Ephesians
4:32).
Stands for what is right. He hates anything contrary to
God’s holy character. He is known as a man of integrity
Put a check beside each of the following characteristics
that you can change in your husband after marriage:
• Unwillingness to communicate (Prov. 14:10)
• Dominating ego (Rom. 12:3)
• Bad temper (Jas. 1:19-20)
• Argumentative tendencies (Prov. 20:3)
• Difficulty in apologizing (Eph. 4:32)
• Bad language (Eph. 5:4)
• Unwillingness to be involved with church (Heb.
10:24-25)
• Inability to keep a job (1 Tim. 5:8)
• Jealousy (1 Cor. 13:4)
• Self-centeredness (2 Cor. 5:15)
• Depression (2 Cor. 4:16)
• Unwillingness to give (2 Cor. 9:7)
• Always “going with the guys” (1 Cor. 15:33)
• Wandering eyes (1 Thess. 4:2-7)
• Lying (Eph. 4:25)
• Immaturity (Eph. 4:15)
• Workaholic tendencies (1 Tim. 6:7-11)
What does the Bible say about these qualities in
reference to godliness?
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Join us next month as we take
a deeper look into LADY OF
PATIENCE!
Taken from Lady in Waiting By Debbie Jones & Jacky
Kendall
Copyright 1995. Destiny Image Publishers.
Second Edition 2002. *All rights reserved.
Holy Spirit before you start to date him.
Do you want to marry a knight in shining armor? Then
set your standards high. To be married to a man who
loves the Lord and wants to serve Him is one of life’s
highest privileges.
It is worth whatever wait, whatever cost. Nail down your
convictions and refuse to compromise by dating men
who are not controlled by God’s Holy Spirit.
These standards will stand guard over the castle of your
heart. Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) says, “Above all else, guard
your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
Write out your convictions for the kind of guys you will
date and the Scripture where you found those qualities.
Why did you select these particular convictions?
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What is the problem with just dating guys who are good,
but who are not Christians? What is the difference
between a good man who goes to church and a growing
Christian man? What difference would it make in
marriage?
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If the wait becomes hard and you meet someone who
loves you, but has a glaring character flaw, what do you
sacrifice if you marry him? Look through each of the
characteristics found in the Man-Worth-Waiting-For
section and determine what would be lost in your
marriage if that quality was missing in your husband and
the father of your children.
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OUR 100 YEAR HISTORY
Uviwe Child & Youth Services (formerly known as PE Childline) is a registered child protection organisation in the vibrant
city of Port Elizabeth. The organisation is registered with the NPO Directorate; registration number 003-620 NPO. We
partner with local communities in the Northern Areas, to implement integrated education and social support programmes.
Our programmes focus on at risk & vulnerable children & youth from Schauderville and Gelvandale, as we concentrate on
the depth rather than breadth of our impact.
Over the past 100 years, what began as a specialist organisation to protect the rights of abused children has grown into a
sustainable social agency in our city. We respect that those closest to the problem knows best to create the solution and
therefore use the strengths of each family to facilitate change. At the core of all decisions we make, we have the “child’s
best interest” at heart. UVIWE believes that we need to listen and hear the untold or silent stories of many “at risk” children
and youth in our communities. We believe in putting young futures first!
The aim of all our programmes are to provide children during different development phases with love, food (nutrition),
safety (protection) and stimulation (education support) to reach their full potential.
Our programmes equip teens with the necessary skills for life’s journey and enable them to become economically
THEORY OF CHANGE
Uviwe Child & Youth Services is a community partner who recognises the ability of children and youth from underprivileged
communities to be active change agents. PUTTING YOUNG FUTURES FIRST – we facilitate a young child’s journey of
schooling, personal development, active citizenship and help youth to identify alternative opportunities. Opportunities that
will break the cycle of poverty and unemployment in the Northern Areas of Port Elizabeth.
IMPACT
To unlock the potential of “at risk” children and youth to become active participants in shaping a bright new future for
themselves. A future free from poverty, violence and exploitation.
OUTCOME
Our programmes aim to achieve the following outcomes, in partnership with other community agents:
HOLISTIC DEVELOPMENT MODEL – FROM “CRADLE TO CAREER”
UVIWE’s youth programmes focus on the development of children and youth through 3 main interventions:
ACADEMIC / STIMULATION SPORT DEVELOPMENT LIFE SKILLS /INDEPENDENT LIVINGSCHOOL PERFORMANCE Karate/ self-defense /soccer team Health, sex & lifestyle education
Access to quality
Early Childhood
Development
Improved school
performance
(Grade 4-7)
Safe children, free
from violence
Confident, skilled
and resilient youth
Involved,
supportive parents
Effective child
protection system
in communities
UVIWE’s YOUTH Volunteer Programme is a
structured volunteer programme to create a
pathway to formal employment. This
programme helps youth to retain
employment, once obtained.
Youth Independent Living Programme (ZILP)
– 8 week job readiness & skills programme for
unemployed youth, Youth Club (Club Edge) –
dialogue, facilitating change, gender-based
violence programmes
Afterschool programme – education &
homework support, drama, art & music
therapy classes and Backpackers Life Skills
programme – to equip teens for the journey
of life
ECD programmes – to give kids an “equal
start at life”, to ensure children between the
age 2-5 are well nourished, immunized and
receive quality early childhood development
to help them succeed at life.
ECD
A strong education foundation for life
AFTERSCHOOL
Grade 4-7
YOUTH INDEPENDENT LIVING PROGRAMME
YOUTH VOLUNTEER PROGRAMME
ACTIVITIES
Uviwe Child & Youth Services’ activities and support programmes run over a broad spectrum. Activities start from as early as providing
access to early childhood development, providing primary school education support and skills development for unemployed youth. Positive
Parenting programmes are included to increase parent involvement in their children’s development and creating a nurturing home
environment for children. chnt and creating a nurturing home environment for children.
WAYS TO GET INVOLVE
Below is a list of activities through which you can be part of a team who makes a difference!
difference!
Uviwe has valid certificates to proof our
compliance with:
NPO Act: 003-620 NPO
SARS: PBO with section 18A status
SED: >75% Black beneficiaries
BEE: Level 4
• Donations In Kind (Goods)• Volunteer Your Time / Skill• Run A Fundraising Event• Donation - Access Sed & Bee Scorecard Points• Be Part Of Our Fund Development Team• Join Our Annual Giving Campaign
Director: Anna-Louise Olivier (director@uviwe.co.za)
Tel number: 041 453 0441/2/5 or Cell: 082 924 8941
Address: c/o Jan Hofmeyer & Nicholas Street, Schauderville, PORT ELIZABETH.
Our FB page is where you can see what we do, who we are and where you can get in touch with us.
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/UviweChildYouthServices
WEBSITE: http://www.uviwe.co.za
BANK DETAILS
Account Name: Uviwe Child & Youth Services
Bank: First National Bank
Account Number 621 4998 0981 (Savings)
Branch Code: Greenacres 629
Account Type: Business/Cheque
INTRODUCTION
Thoba Sports Consulting (Pty) Ltd (TSC) is a sports management company based in the Eastern Cape. TSC is the
holding company for ACT Elite Training Academy, Khulasande Sports Development (a non-profit organisation) as
well as TSC Sports Leadership and renders a variety of dedicated sports services including but not limited to:
• Sports Project Management
• Event Management
• Sports Management Consulting
• Sports, Corporate Clothing & Gifts Distribution
• Sports Coaching Services to schools and children in the Eastern Cape. • Sports Education and Training
PROJECT MANAGEMENT
• TSC Sports Leadership Programme
Thoba Sports Consulting holds the IP for the TSC Sports Leadership Programme currently being rolled out at
Hlumani High School, in Komga, Eastern Cape. The sports leadership programme is a education and training
vehicle used to empower the youth of Komga by putting through an informal sports management and sports
coaching skills development programme. The qualifying youth are then employed by TSC to manage Hlumani High
School’s sports and recreation programme as coaches and administrators. Through the programme, Hlumani High
School has received sports training equipment, sports kits and field maintenance equipment to ensure that the fields
are well maintained and in playable condition throughout the year.
• Khulasande Active Kids Programme
Khulasande Sports Development (KSD) is a registered Non-Profit organisation (registration number: 188-294
NPO; we are currently awaiting our tax exemption / PBO certificate from SARS which should be available in two
weeks). We specialise in the implementation of sports development programmes in the previously disadvantaged
and rural communities of the Eastern Cape, South Africa. We currently run programmes in the Makana Municipality -
Grahamstown, Riebeek East & Alicedale and Nelson Mandela Bay - Motherwell, Walmer Township and the Northern
Areas as well as in Cacadu – Kirkwood, Addo areas of the Eastern Cape.
Our Programmes:
We have been running the KSD ACTIVE KIDS Programme in the above-mentioned areas, impacting 5 schools (4
primary schools and 1 high school in NMB & Cacadu) and 5 schools (2 primary schools, 1 high school and 2
combined schools) in the Makana areas with an average of 4800 direct beneficiaries per annum. The programme
comprises of monthly coaching clinics in seasonal sports codes (athletics in summer; soccer, netball and rugby in
winter) as well as periodic sports festivals where we bring all our beneficiary schools together to participate in a day
of celebrating the ability to participate in sports activities. Our sports festivals have an average of 300 participants at
a time and include community athletics competitions as well winter sports festivals.
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Positive Spin-offs:
Through the programme we were able to employ 15 young people (either currently completing their studies or
those who’ve just completed their studies and are looking for permanent employment) in 2018 who helped with
the management of our programme and served as Youth Coaches and mentors for the young people we
encounter through our programmes. This number is set to increase to 22 this year. We also make use 4 local
small businesses (2 catering companies and 2 transport companies) who assist us by providing meals for the
young people during our coaching clinics and sports festivals as well as transportation services where necessary.
Our beneficiaries have been exposed to provincial athletics competitions under the auspices of Eastern Province
Athletics. Through these competitions, 7 athletes (aged 12 to 15) we selected to represent Eastern Province
Athletics at the ACNW Interprovincial Championships in Potchefstroom at the end of November last year. One of
the beneficiaries came back home with a silver medal and another was offered a full bursary to complete his high
school studies at Monument High School in Rooderpoort in Gauteng – these are just some of our success stories
through the programme. This year, we’ve had 3 beneficiaries win medals at the Eastern Province Athletics
Championships, two of which have been selected to represent the province at the Athletics South Africa National
Junior Championships in Paarl. All our beneficiaries are 100% black and come from poor communities where
such opportunities do not exist to due lack of resources and sometimes lack of willingness and interest from
school teachers.
Partners / Sponsors:
Grassroots Youth Development (GYD):
We are funded by Grassroots Youth Development (GYD), which is a Corporate Social Investment Programme
emanating from three wind farms located in the Eastern Cape, namely the Grassridge 60 MW wind farm in
Nelson Mandela Bay, the Waainek 24MW wind farm in the Makana Municipality and the Chaba 21 MW wind farm
in the Great Kei Municipality. The GYD initiative is a Socio Economic Development (SED) and an Enterprise
Development (ED) program aimed at creating socio-economic opportunities for youth that reside within 50
kilometres of each wind farm. The GYP program has been designed to focus specifically on the development and
implementation of projects in the field of education, sport and arts & culture.”
ACT Elite Training Academy (AETA):
AETA is a high performance athletics coaching academy based in Port Elizabeth. Talented athletes are identified
through our monthly coaching clinics and are then adopted by AETA who provides professional coaching services
to the athletes at no cost.
Radio Kingfisher:
Radio Kingfisher is Khulasande Sports Development’s media sponsor. Through the sponsorship, a radio
advertisement on KSD was created and is aired 30 times per month. Opportunities to be interviewed on live radio
are given to KSD and its partners twice a month on popular programmes to discuss the programmes and partner
involvements.
Conclusion:
To sustain our programmes and create permanent opportunities for the youth, we need to secure more partners
for KSD. We would love the opportunity to submit a formal proposal / funding application through your
organisation, which will allow us to adopt more schools in the region to benefit from our programmes. Would you
kindly give further information on the funding application process?
ACT ELITE TRAINING ACADEMY (Athletics Academy)
ACT Elite Training Academy is an elite athletics academy with its operations based at Linkside High School in Mill
Park. Our main aim is assisting athletes who wish to represent Eastern Province Athletics or Eastern Cape
Schools at national level as well as South Africa at international level.
As an academy, we subscribe to the model of Long Term Athlete Development (LTAD), which is a multi-stage
training, competition and recovery pathway guiding an individual's experience in sport and physical activity and as
such.
We specialise in coaching sprints, hurdles, jumps (LJ & TJ) as well as middle distance and have a team of 6
coaches that mentor and guide our athletes. We coach athletes from as young as 7 years old, with our oldest
athlete being the SA Masters Champion – Lizelle Vermaak at age 44.
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Our seniors (high school group) train 5 days a week (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday) at
Linkside High School at 15:00 during the week and 08:30 on Saturday. Our primary school athletes train 2 – 3
times a week. Our honours list / provincial athletes for the 2018 / 2019 athletics season is as follows:
Mia Vermaak – U/12 Long Jump (Bronze Medal); 150mH (4th place)
Amber- Lee Elliott – U/15 100m
Alec van den Berg – U/15 200m
Clarise Moolman – U/17 400m
Tanielle Moolman – U/17 400mH 98th place at nationals)
Luke Vieira – U/17 400m (8th place at nationals)
Marrelie van der Merwe – U/19 Long Jump (5th place at nationals)
Robyn Munro – U/19 Triple Jump
Casper Lötter – Senior Men 100m & 200m
Cayla Seddon – Senior Women 200m
Siyabonga Grootboom – Senior Men Long Jump and Triple Jump (8th place at nationals)
David de Villiers – Senior Men 400m
Lizelle Vermaak – SA Masters 80mH, 100m and 200m Champion
We are actively involved in social media where you can find links to our organisations:
Facebook:
Thoba Sports Consulting
Khulasande Sports Development
ACT Elite Training Academy
Athletics Coach T
Instagram:
Khulasande Sports Development
ACT Elite Training Academy
Athletics Coach T
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