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Resilient Leadership Tonya Hotchkin, LMFT RPT CTP

Director of Clinical Care thotchkin@tanagerplace.org

Twitter: @HotchkinTonya

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What is resilience?

Resilience is what gives people the psychological

strength to cope with stress and hardship.

• Holding positive views of themselves and their abilities.

• The capacity to make realistic plans

and stick to them. • Having an internal locus of control. • Being a good communicator. • Viewing themselves as fighters rather

than victims. • Having high emotional intelligence

and managing emotions effectively.

This Photo by Unknown Author is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND Source: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-resilience-2795059

Why Resilience is Necessary as a Leader

• In leadership and life you will experience:

• Roadblocks

• Let-downs

• Failed attempts

• Disruption

• Chaos

• Transition

• Difficult times

• Unknown

What is leadership?

Resilient leaders offer:

• Emotional strength

• Courage

• Authenticity

• Vulnerability

• Collaboration

• Intentionality

• Strategy

• Vision

• Support

• Advocacy

• Safety Anthem Song

Influential Resilient Leadership

• With every struggle comes tremendous opportunity.

• It is your responsibility to lead through good and bad times.

• Your actions during a crisis serve as a model for your followers.

• Failure provides growth, learning and future courage.

Influential Resilient Leadership

1. Resilient leaders look to uncover the lesson in defeat, rather than leaving themselves feeling defeated.

2. Resilient leaders discover what can be done instead of focusing on what can’t be done.

3. Resilient leaders regard problems as growth opportunities.

4. Resilient leaders look for new open doors rather than fixating on what has closed.

5. Resilient leaders draw strength from their family, friends, and faith— and they encourage themselves to stay strong and never quit.

6. Resilient leaders refuel, rest, recover, and then “get fired-up” to rediscover a new win.

7. Resilient leaders do believe failure can be a stepping stone. Without hope, failure is a tombstone.

Traits of Resilient Leaders

Communicate Powerfully

• Make your ‘why’ clearly known.

• Inform others about what you are trying to do.

• Open

• Transparent

• Allow and are comfortable with conflict.

Are Coachable

• Open to feedback and often ask for it.

• Desire to continuously improve their skills and abilities.

• Humble and coachable. • Believe mistakes are lessons. • Self-aware and insightful.

Build Positive, Trusting Relationships

• Bring others alongside them. • Being open to differences. • Build strong teams. • Influencers. • Positive energy. • Live authentically.

Bold Risk Takers

• Champion change. • Willing to take bold risks and try

new ideas. • Innovative. • Futuristic. • See outside of the box. • Courageous and brave. • Able to sit with discomfort. • Able to lead through the unknown. • Adaptable and flexible. • Realistic

Develop Others

• Not only interested in their own development but the development of others.

• Developing others helps everyone learn from mistakes.

• Give honest feedback and are reflective.

• Give others opportunities. • Elevate others interests and

strengths.

Are Decisive

• Effective at making decisions and moving forward.

• Can easily move another direction if needs to – agility.

• Let go of what they cannot control.

• Open to failure.

We don’t live in isolation

You and the village you keep

• Mission

• Vision

• Values

• Your Why

You can’t lead people past the point of your own healing.

Know yourself, deeply. Love yourself, unconditionally.

• E.I. • Self-awareness. • Self reflection. • Assumptions. • Perceptions. • Sensations, emotions,

thoughts and actions. • Strengths and needs. • Tendencies. • Self-care • Cultivating your resilience

Ubuntu “The conditions of well-being”

• Safety

• Connection & Belonging

• Meaning & Purpose

• Efficacy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q_iTs0OoY6Y

Lessons I’ve learned along the way

- Know your why - Know your values - Be a part of a village that helps you feel your greatness - Live your passion and purpose - Know your goals and ways to achieve them - Know what legacy you want to leave

- Everything starts with relationships - Ask more questions, talk less - Be curious - Challenge your perception - Stories shape us - What we pay attention to grows

- Practice gratitude - Center yourself on altruism - Have a servant leadership heart - Influence has no lanes - Leverage your own strengths and the strengths of others - Help others feel significant - Inspire others to perform at their highest level possible

Instead of ask why something happened –ask yourself what you learned, what you could take away from what happened and what meaning it can hold in your life.

When you get where you are going, don’t forget where you came from.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9FIg6Zr0dg

Resources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resilient-leadership https://centerforresilientleadership.com/ https://richtopia.com/effective-leadership/5-steps-to-become-a-resilient-leader https://www.forbes.com/sites/joefolkman/2017/04/06/new-research-7-ways-to-become-a-more-resilient-leader/#763b16f57a0c https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2017/07/11/why-resilience-is-necessary-as-a-leader/#6dac1ac64ad3 https://www.stevegutzler.com/seven-powerful-traits-resilient-leaders/ https://www.huffingtonpost.com/rosalind-cardinal/the-4-traits-of-resilient_b_9144484.html