self esteem and your athletes by joe richer, caa

Self Esteem and Your AthletesBy Joe Richer, CAA

WIAA Coaches SchoolYakima, Wa.

2011

Listen

Listening

“Being listened to is so close tobeing loved that some peoplecannot tell the difference”.

David Oxford

Genevieve Karen Richer!?

• “Coaching is a profession of love. You can’t coach people unless you love them.”

• Eddie Robinson• Grambling University• 400+ Wins

Coach/Role Model

“Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you are saying.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

• “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”

• Aristotle

Nathaniel Branden• “How we feel about ourselves crucially affects

virtually every aspect of our experience, from the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to the way we operate as parents, to how high in life we are likely to rise.”

• “I cannot think of a single psychological problem that is not traceable to a poor self-concept.”

Nathaniel Braden

• Six Pillars of Self Esteem

•“The Man in the Glass!!”

Self Esteem

• What it’s not!– It’s not a sometime thing, it’s all the time.– It’s not bragging (Today’s peacock, curl in the tail)– It’s not an illusion or an hallucination– It is not the euphoria or buoyancy that may be

temporarily induced by a drug, a compliment or a love affair

– It is not empty praise that bears no relationship to the athletes actual accomplishments.

Self EsteemWhat it’s not: (cont)• - It is not being good looking, wealthy, or

having many friends. Many of these people cannot get through a single day without drugs.

• - It is not 12 hugs a day at school. Kid still has to go home. Gets a false sense.

• - Nothing bothers you if you have high self esteem.

• 1900 – 90% of grandchildren lived with or in the neighborhood of grandparents

• 1940 – 70%

• Today – Less than 10%

• The “Gran Torino” granddaughter.

SELF ESTEEMWhat is it?

80% 1st Grade

20% 5th Grade

5% Seniors

Self Concept and Self Esteem

SELF CONCEPT• Coach• Teacher• Parent• Church member• Relationships• Athlete

SELF ESTEEM

• Global definition of all self concepts

DEFINITION

• “the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.”

• Nathaniel Branden

The thrill of victory!

You lose.

The camaraderie of teamwork.

•Poker Chip Theory• Relationships• Classroom• Athletic Venue

Holistic Model of Self Esteem

• Thought• Intuition• Imagination• Body• Emotions• The Will • Higher Self

Thoughts• 50,000 Thoughts a Day• Do you talk to yourself?• Negative thought patterns must be changed• Affirmations• Don’t• Burying “Can’t”

The Body

• Self Acceptance• Mirror Exercise• “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I

accept myself unreservedly and completely.”• (Accepting does not mean liking-a fact is a

fact).

• “As a man thinketh, so is he.”• Bible

• “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

• Henry Ford

•Kineseology Exercise• Lee Iacoca story

•The Skyscraper Fantasy

•False•Experiences•Appearing•Real

E + R = O• Lemons/Lemonade

• Martha Stewart• Amputees• Jesse Owens

GOAL SETTING• Conceivable• Believable• Achievable• Controllable• Measureable• Desirable• Stated with No Alternative• Growth Facilitating

• Guided Imagery (Skyscraper• Visualization

Thank You

• Joe.richer@daktronics.com