the goldilocks effect: technology vs. conversation

THE

EFFECT

FLICKR- SIMON LAW

“WE CAN USE TECHNOLOGY TO KEEP ONE

ANOTHER AT DISTANCES WE

CAN CONTROL:

NOT TOO CLOSE, NOT TOO FAR,

JUST RIGHT”  

Flickr: whatmattdoes

-SHERRY TURKLE

SO  

IN A NUTSHELL

TECHNOLOGY IS

DESTROYING OUR SOCIAL SKILLS  Flickr: ESKO KURVINEN

WE HAVE CREATED AN ECONOMY

FOR ATTENTION FLICKR: EVAN LEESON

WHERE WE CAN

DIRECT OUR

attention

WHEREVER WE

WANT, AND VALUE

THE AMOUNT WE

RECEIVE FROM

OTHERS

FLICKR: ADRIANA CECHI

WHILE

Ambient CONNECTIVITY

PACIFIES US

FLICKR: EMA NUELE

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU SPOKE

TO A STRANGER?

FLICKR: ERNESTO DE QUESADA

MOST OF US ARE

TOO BUSY STARING

AT OUR    

“

“WE ARE MISTAKING

CONNECTION

FOR

CONVERSATION” FLICKR: PICTUREWENDY

-SHERRY TURKLE

“All these

sips don’t

add up to

one big gulp”

-sherry turkle

FLICKR: JEFF MEVER

“SOMEDAY... I’D LIKE TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE A

CONVERSATION”

-BOY TO SHERRY TURKLE

NEW SKILL: MAKING EYE CONTACT WHILE TEXTING

FLICKR: JARED TROTTIER

BUT ARE YOU REALLY LISTENING?

FLICKR: JARED TROTTIER

WE ARE DUMBING DOWN OUR

LANGUAGE

WUT?

OMG SEW MUCH FOMO!

WE ARE DUMBING DOWN OUR LANGUAGE FLICKR: MARC WATHIEU

“LOL”

IS NO

SUBSTITUE FOR

HEARING HUMAN

LAUGHTER FLICKR: SHAN SHEEHAN

BEHIND A SCREEN WE CAN CAREFULLY EDIT WHAT WE SAY

FLICKR: SHARYN MORROW

BUT IN PERSON

WE HAVE LESS

CONTROL OVER HOW WE ARE

PERCEIVED BY OTHERS FLICKR: PABLO POULIN

WE ARE RAMPING UP THE SPEED OF CONVERSATIONS

FLICKR: JOHNATHAN COHEN

SO WE HAVE LESS

PATIENCE IN PERSON

BECOMES

MORE

DIFFICULT

When

Speaking in

person

PATIENCE

FLICKR: NAVAL HISTORY AND HERITAGE

Do we do?  

Try developing a more

SELF-AWARE

relationship with

technology  

SET GROUND RULES

FOR TECHNOLOGY-

FREE CONVERSATION

SPACES OR TIMES  

CONVERSATION IS A SKILL:

PRACTICE MAKES

PERFECT

SOURCES  “now everyone is connected, is this the death of conversation?” –simon jenkins

“THE FLIGHT FROM CONVERSATION” –sherry turkle

“is social media ruining our kids’ social skills?” –parent today

“we never talk anymore: the problem with text messaging” –jeffrey kluger

“alone together” -sherry turkle

All images sourced from flickr creative commons