tips for creating a better relationship with your stepchild

3 Tips to Creating A Better Relationship With

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What Do You Do If They Don’t Like

You?

Do You Feel Guilty Because You

Haven’t Been Able To Generate Real

Love For Them Yet?

How Do You Improve This

Dynamic?

Start Slowly and Set Achievable Goals

Having A Wonderful Vision

Vs

Being Idealistic

How Possible Is It To Love Instantly?

Not Very…

Imagine telling yourself to love

someone you meet for the first time…

It’s Going To Take A Little Time

It’s Going To Take A Little Patience

What if they

don’t like you?

You can’t blame them

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

You are a threat

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

You are an invader

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

You are trying to take over their

bio parent’s role

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

You are preventing their bio parents from falling back in love and getting

back together again.

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

You are a threat

Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things

None of the above is likely true, but for

them it is real

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Perfection and the Super Stepparent

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Striving for thePerfect Family

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Perfect Discipline

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Perfect Home

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Perfect Love

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Stop

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Relax

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Start Slowly

How Most Stepparents

Sabotage Their Relationships

Get To Know Them

Get To Know Them

What are they interested in? How can you support their

interests? How can you develop a

friend/mentor/ally type of relationship with them?

What kind of skillful generosity can you practice with them?

DeepeningYour Relationship

Look For Ways To Have Fun With

Them!

DeepeningYour Relationship

Don’t Go Overboard

DeepeningYour Relationship

Let Them Dictate The Speed Of The

Developing Relationship

DeepeningYour Relationship

Don’t Go Overboard

DeepeningYour Relationship

Let Them Control How Fast Or Slow To

Develop The Relationship

DeepeningYour Relationship

Don’t Be A Threat

Tell Them You Are Not Looking To Replace Their

Bio Parent

How To Discipline

Relax!

DeepeningYour Relationship

Take OnA Supporting Role

DeepeningYour Relationship

Don’t Go Overboard

If You FeelLike An Outsider

Relax

DeepeningYour Relationship

Engage

DeepeningYour Relationship

Be YourNumber One

Supporter

Self Compassion

The Alternative to Beating Yourself Up

Self Compassion

Defined

Self Compassion

Supported by Science Based

Research

Self Compassion

BenefitsIncreases in MotivationImprovement in Happiness

Reductions in Stress

Self Compassion

The EssentialsSelf KindnessAcknowledge/Accept Common Humanity

Mindfulness

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