together we can help pfe s.h.i.n.e.! parents, teachers, and the community working together to take a...

Together we can help PFE

S.H.I.N.E.! Parents, Teachers, and the community

working together to take a STAND against Bullying

Counseling Counseling PerspectivePerspective

S.H.I.N.E.S.H.I.N.E.ºSStand up to put-downs,

ºHHelp those who are being bullied,

º IInform adults when I need to,

ºNNever use my computer or cell phone to hurt others,

ºEEncourage my friends to stand up against bullying too.

I WAS JUST I WAS JUST KIDDING…..KIDDING…..

• Playful Teasing• Teaser and

person being teased can easily swap roles

• Maintain dignity• Pokes fun in

lighthearted manner, meant to entertain both parties

• Stops when the other person objects or becomes upset

• Hurtful Taunting• Imbalanced, one

person has the power during the interaction

• Intended to harm• Involves

humiliating or cruel comments thinly disguised as jokes

• Continues when the target becomes upset or says, “Stop”

• Physical bullying means:• Hitting, kicking, or pushing someone...or even just

threatening to do it • Stealing, hiding or ruining someone's things • Making someone do things he or she don't want to do

• Verbal bullying means:• Name-calling • Teasing • Insulting • Spreading lies or rumors about someone

What Does Bullying What Does Bullying Look Like?Look Like?

• Socially means:– is when a bully excludes someone from a

group on purpose. It also includes a bully spreading rumors, and also making fun of someone by pointing out their differences.

• Intimidation means:– is when a bully threatens someone else and

frightens that person enough to make him or her do what the bully wants.

What Does Bullying What Does Bullying Look Like?Look Like?

DID YOU KNOW?DID YOU KNOW?O The average bullying

episode is 28 seconds

O If a bystander intervenes, the average drops to 7 seconds

O Not knowing how to respond is a common deterrent to interveningAdapted from Michael Dreiblatt--Balance

Educational Services

Picture courtesy of: http://youthviolence.edschool.virginia.edu/bullying/bullying-research.html

The Social MajorityThe Social Majority●While some individuals bully, and others are the target of bullying, approximately 84% of a student population is in neither of these two groups. These students are the Social Majority.

Data from “Gray’s Guide to Bullying”

BystandersBystanders

Be a part of the

SOLUTION not the

problem!

Giving our Children Giving our Children TOOLS for LIFE!TOOLS for LIFE!

WHAT CAN WE WHAT CAN WE DO? DO?

PFE Counseling PFE Counseling ProgramsPrograms

PFE Campus PFE Campus ProgramsPrograms

1.Recognize2.Refuse3.Report

The Three R’s of The Three R’s of Responding to BullyingResponding to Bullying

•Is it fair?•How does it feel?•Does it keep happening?

RECOGNIZERECOGNIZEthe bullyingthe bullying

• Is it safe for me to speak out assertively?

• Say, “STOP!”• Encourage other

bystanders to speak out

REFUSEREFUSEto be bullied or let to be bullied or let others be bulliedothers be bullied

• Report the bullying or threats to the nearest teacher or adult at school as soon as possible!

REPORTREPORTthe bullyingthe bullying

Reporting Reporting BullyingBullying

1.Who was involved?2.What happened?3.When did the bullying

occur?4.Where did the bullying

occur?

Helps

Everyone

Respect

Others

Be a Be a PFEPFE H.E.R.O.! H.E.R.O.!

Be a HeroBe a Hero• Encourage other bystanders to help stop the bullying incident by being assertive.

• Make friends with someone who continually gets picked on.

• Report it or send someone to a trusted adult.

• You are a key player in stopping bullying.

Guidance Lessons• Why Try Curriculum

• Steps to Respect • 3rd – 5th grade bully prevention program

• Wise Owl Bully Stopper • K-2nd bully prevention program

Administrator Perspective

Humble ISD on Bullying

O The Texas Education Code defines bullying as engaging in written or verbal expression, expression through electronic means, or physical conduct that occurs on school property, at a school-sponsored or school-related activity, or in a vehicle operated by the district and that:

O (1)    Has the effect or will have the effect of physically harming a student, damaging a student's property, or placing a student in reasonable fear of harm to the student's person or of damage to the student's property; or

O (2)    Is sufficiently severe, persistent and pervasive enough that the action or threat creates an intimidating, threatening or abusive educational environment for a student.

[Act of June 17, 2011, 82th Leg., R.S., H.B. 1942, § 7 (to be codified at Texas Education Code § 37.0832)]

Reported to Administrator: 

O1st step is to address it as:  Inappropriate Behavior –OLevel 1 Student/Parent Handbook DM-12OAdministrator will: Hold a student conference and parent conference/contact. Interventions/Discipline Options: Referral to Counselor, Lunch/Recess Detention, Time in office or In-school Suspension.

O2nd step is to address it as:  Harassment of a Student – OLevel 2 Student/Parent Handbook DM-14OAdministrator will: Hold a student conference and parent conference/contact. Interventions/Discipline Options: Referral to Counselor, Lunch/Recess Detention, After-school Detention, Time in office, In-school Suspension or Suspension.

O3rd step is to address it as:  Bullying and Harassment – OLevel 3 Student/Parent Handbook DM-18OAdministrator will:  Hold a Student Conference, Parent Conference/Contact. Interventions/Discipline Options: Referral to Counselor, Time in office, In-school Suspension or Suspension, or Referral to Elementary Behavior Support Program.

We Need to Work TogetherO We cannot do this without parental help.

O talk to their children to help them understand the negative impact of bullying and how to prevent it or respond to it

O Please share with your child the importance of reporting to an adult/parent immediately if he/she is being bullied, either at school or on the Internet, on sites such as Facebook and MySpace.

O Let your children know that you will not tolerate any bullying-type behavior they may be a part of.

O Too often, schools learn about a bullying situation after it’s too late. O Let your teacher know early, we can work together as partners

and take appropriate measures to stop the bullying.  O Our priority is your child’s safety and well-being so that he/she

can have the best possible educational experience.

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Together we can help PFE

S.H.I.N.E.! Parents, Teachers, and the community

working together to take a STAND against Bullying