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Your Goals Are Set Now What?
The Secret To
Achieving Every
Goal You Set
You Have Been Told To Set Goals, Now
Learn The Guaranteed Steps To Achieve
& Exceed Every Goal
BY
STEPHEN G FLECKER
Disclaimer
This has been written to provide information to help you achieve goals.
Every effort has been made to make this information as complete and
accurate as possible. However, there may be mistakes in typography or
content. Also, this contains information based on the authors past successes
and failures.
Therefore, this report should be used as a guide – not as the ultimate source
of information on the topic. The purpose of this report is to educate. The
author does not warrant that the information contained in this report is
fully complete and shall not be held responsible for any errors or omissions.
The author shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or
entity with respect to any loss or damage caused or alleged to be caused
directly or indirectly by this report.
Copyright © 2019 – Stephen G Flecker.
All rights are reserved.
No part of this report may be reproduced or transmitted in any form
without the written permission of the author.
In Loving Memory
This book is dedicated to my dad and my wife, who both passed
away from cancer. They both had a never say die attitude (pardon the
pun)
My dad Maurice always told me “never say never”. My wife Jamie
would always say “never give up, never quit”. My dad was my hero,
my mentor, and taught me everything I know. My wife was my
partner, supporting me no matter what, giving me the strength to
carry on, sharing that same strength with everyone she met.
My dad was an artist and college professor who influenced so many
lives. Although he passed away in 1994, I am still amazed to this day,
all these years later when I come across people who tell me what an
incredible impact he had on their lives, not only in art but in many
areas of life.
So, I want to thank my dad, Maurice and my wife, Jamie for
everything they have done for me and for others. And for giving me
the strength from beyond to share this information with you. My
hope is for you to find it not only valuable but to use what you learn
to impact your own life as well as the lives of everyone around you.
Enjoy!
Table of Contents
2 Ways to get Massive Value from this report ................................... 1
About The Author ............................................................................ 3
Goal Setting Statistics ....................................................................... 7
Types Of Goals ................................................................................ 9
The Right Mindset and Belief Systems ........................................... 11
How To Correctly Set Goals - A Quick Review .............................. 15
Success Leaves Clues ....................................................................... 23
Why Comes Before How ................................................................ 25
Now What ..................................................................................... 31
The Steps to Guarantee Goal Achievement Success. ....................... 33
Little and Big All The Same ............................................................ 35
Being Accountable .......................................................................... 39
Success Leaves Clues Part Two ....................................................... 41
Belief Cycle .................................................................................... 45
The 80/20 Rule .............................................................................. 51
Tracking Progress ........................................................................... 55
Revisit and Revise and Rewrite ....................................................... 59
Accountability Part Two ................................................................. 61
Wrapping Up With Some Final Thoughts ..................................... 63
Goal Worksheets ............................................................................ 65
100 Words with Definitions to Enhance Your Day ........................ 73
Break Down / Build Up Worksheet ................................................ 81
Year 202___ GOAL MAPPING .................................................... 85
Recommended Resources ............................................................... 89
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Everyone says set goals, state them in positive terms, write them down,
blah blah, blah.
But has anyone ever told you how to actually achieve your goals, every
goal, every time, no matter how big or small?
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The first step is to make sure you are setting them correctly. I’ll review
that quickly, then show you how to achieve every goal every time. Are you
ready to create the life of your dreams? Let's go!
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About The Author
Let’s begin with a little about me. First of all let me say, I’m a” just
get to the point” type of person so this part is a little hard for me, but
all the experts tell me “no one will listen to what you have to say if
they don’t know who you are” So, here goes. Feel free to skip this
part. I would.
Born in Brooklyn, NY and raised on Long Island in a family
dominated by teachers somehow, I got the entrepreneurial bug in me
from a very early age. I started my first business with a friend at 9
years old and formed my first corporation at 14 with my dad, a ski
tour travel company called, (what else for a professor) Educational Ski
Tours. I wanted to go skiing more than my parents wanted to take
me so I started to arrange groups through schools and got to go as
often as I wanted. BONUS I got to go for free and even made some
money too.
Fast forward to Senior year. My friends and I took a limo to the
prom and I decided that was the life for me. Riding in a limo every
day sounded awesome. So I told my parents college was not for me.
I’m going to start a limousine business. It took about as long as it
took me to say it that my idea was immediately shot down. “No son
of ours is going to skip college!”
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PACE University here I come, and in my junior year in a marketing
class, I wrote a business plan for, you guessed it, a Limo company.
That summer with a small loan of $2,000. Dollars for a deposit on a
limo, SGF custom limousine was started. Of course, I had to
guarantee to finish school. I had started 3 other businesses while in
school. A Nightclub on campus, a ticket agency, and party catering
service. I Started a few more companies after school. I even attempted
to take the limousine company public and failed.
I sold it and actually got my first JOB working for someone else since
I was in high school, I was the VP of sales and business development
at a communications and telecom company. Unfortunately, 9/11
ended that career quickly, and I found myself unemployed, for the
first time in my life.
Newly married with a baby on the way, I found myself in the one
industry I never thought I would be in, Insurance. While I didn’t like
the company, I moved to management quickly and then switched
companies to Aflac as a District Sales Coordinator. Where I would
spend the next 15 years.
After numerous sales, management and leadership awards, and Jamie
having a harder time every day with cancer. I decided to make the
jump, leave Aflac and work from home with the Anthony Robbins
Companies as a Coaching Strategist. I had finally found my home.
This was it! I loved helping others to raise the quality of their lives to
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another level. Helping others to achieve everything they set out to do
and many times more than they thought was possible.
Unfortunately, my wife got sicker and passed away, I was suddenly a
single dad and became rather depressed. So depressed, I couldn’t get
out of bed. When my dad passed away 20 years earlier, I had the limo
business to keep me occupied and distracted. Now Robbins had told
me to take all the time off I needed. I wasn’t working, and it was a
very dark time in my life.
Without a doubt, one of the lowest points I have ever reached. It
took every ounce of my energy and experience to turn things around.
It was a simple shift, NOT easy, but simple. I had to reach deep back
to all my personal development education and focused on what I
have done for others and began to focus on what was really
important.
THEN, I made a left instead of a right. What does that mean, you
might be thinking?
That’s how simple the shift was. I didn’t want to get out of bed for
almost 2 months. My life was falling apart. Not paying bills, barely
eating, not even wanting to get up to go to the bathroom. Of course,
that was one thing I couldn’t avoid. That’s where I made the shift.
Turning it all around. I made a Left instead of a Right. When
walking back to bed from the bathroom, instead of a right to fall back
into bed and depression, I went left to my home office.
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That’s it simple, not easy, but simple. Once there, I didn’t know
what to do, I didn’t want to be there, I didn’t want to do anything. I
just sat at my desk and stared at the blank computer screen, huge pile
of mail, that my kids had been piling up, and just thought about my
empty life. That day I didn’t open a letter, never turned on the
computer. I sat there and just thought about everything I was
missing.
I went back to bed a few hours later, but the next day I forced myself
to go left again. This time I turned on the computer, I opened my
mail. I was starting to get my life back and on track. When you want
to make a change or a shift, it's simple, go left instead of right. It’s
not easy but it is Simple: You may have heard the definition of
insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting
different results. If you want to achieve the goals you have set, but
have never seemed to get there, then try going left instead of right. In
the following pages, I will show you a simple, not easy, but simple
way to achieve everything you ever wanted. Big goals, small goals, it
does not matter. You just need to follow the simple steps and you can
change the course of your life and those around you.
“I get knocked down but I get up again, You’re
never gonna keep me down. We’ll be singin’ When
we’re Winnin’ ”
Chumbawamba
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Goal Setting Statistics
Congratulations on making a decision to take action. More
importantly by getting to this point of the report you are already a
success and in the top 1%.
Not only have you decided to take Action YOU ACTUALLY DID!
That’s huge. Congratulate yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back,
when you finish the book go get a massage or a nice dinner.
Celebrating our successes is a critical part of achieving our goals. I'll
cover that later on.
When preparing to write this report I was very surprised to read the
following statistics, But the more I thought about it, the more it
makes complete sense.
Most people are not getting what they want in life. Harvard
University conducted a recent study and found that 83% of the
population does not have any goals. 14% have some type of idea or
plan in their head. But only 3% have actually written them down.
The 14% are an average of 9 times more successful in terms of getting
what they want, than the 83%. The 3% are 32 times more successful
than the 14% and 442 times more successful than the 83%.
To dive even deeper, of the 3% that write them down more than 3
out of 4 don’t create a plan or track their goals.
Would it surprise you that only 22% of those who write them down,
achieve any part of their goals, while better than almost 80% of those
who write them down, create a plan of Action, follow, and track their
plan either reach or exceed them? You might ask, what do all these
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numbers mean? It’s simple. If you want to reach and exceed your
goals, there are a few steps to follow that will just about guarantee
your success. Numbers do not lie.
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Types Of Goals
Let’s go over what most people think of and call goals. Then correct
any beliefs or misconceptions that you may have. Goals have been
called many things by many people; wishes, dreams, and hopes or
wants and desires. I desire a new car. Is that really a goal? Needs are
considered goals by many. I need to lose 10lbs. While you can label
the goal any way you want, it really only becomes an achievable goal
once it becomes a “must”. When we must do something it always
seems to get done.
Goals can be in any area of life, business or career, health, spiritual,
money, community, social, Family, or just about anything that you
would like to attain at a new level.
A DREAM written down becomes a wish
A WISH with a date becomes a Goal
A GOAL broken down into steps becomes a plan
A PLAN backed by Action becomes Reality
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The Right Mindset and Belief Systems
Our Belief Systems control our mindset and so much more. What is
a belief system?
In its simplest definition, a belief is something that we know to be
true or correct.
There is no other way. Do you believe in a higher power? Do you
believe Murder is Wrong? These are two very strong beliefs for many
people but whether your belief is correct depends on whom you ask.
We develop our beliefs from everything around us, parents, friends,
school, environment, internet, coworkers, and anything that may
have an influence on you.
Belief Systems can help or hurt on your road to goal achievement. Is
it possible to accomplish something that you do not believe can
happen? Can you walk barefoot over 1200-degree coals? If you
believe you will get severely burned you will not even attempt it.
However, if you can change your belief systems, anything is possible.
As humans our potential is unlimited. Ask the 10,000 + people that
have attended any of the Tony Robbins' events with a Firewalk. I
have personally walked on coals over 8 times, my 15-year-old
daughter has done it 3 times, the first time she was only 11. My son
has done it twice. When they come up against something they say
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can't be done, I just remind them that they walked on fire, and if
they can do that, then they can do anything. And they do.
On May 6th, 1954 Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute mile. Prior to
Bannister achieving this feat many experts in various fields had all
said it was impossible for a human to run that fast for that long. The
first marathon was over 2500 years ago in 490 B.C.E. For 2500 years
it was impossible for a human to run faster than a 4-minute mile.
In the next 8 months after Bannister ran his 3:59.4 mile, 24 more
people accomplished the same impossible task. Once the Belief
System had changed from impossible to possible, the record has been
broken 18 times, and over 1,400 athletes have done it since.
Putting yourself in the right mindset, with an empowering belief
system is the first step in accomplishing anything you desire. You
have to first believe to achieve. You may have noticed I have
highlighted the B and S of belief system. I think you now know why.
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“If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you
are right”
Henry Ford
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How To Correctly Set Goals - A Quick Review
You may already have specific goals you are looking to accomplish. If
not, keep reading.
Put yourself into a positive childlike frame of mind. Remember when
you were 6 or 7 or 10, anything was possible. Start to think as you
did back then, no criticism, no judgement, and there is no limit. Just
write, brainstorm, mind dump, Quantity over Quality. Just keep
writing until you believe there is nothing left in you. Then take a
quick break and write for 5 more minutes. You will be amazed at
what you come up with. Hopefully excited, like never before.
Your ideas should reflect the area you are focusing on: business or
career, health, spiritual, money, community, social, family. First,
think big, think long term, 10 years, 20 years into the future.
Remember, while it may seem too far off to plan, in 20 years you will
be there whether you plan for it or not.
Once you have a list that is exciting, with things you are passionate
about, the next step is to narrow down the list to your most
important musts on the list. Feel free to write more things down as
you go over your list. Something that might seem ridiculous, may just
spark an exceptional idea.
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Don’t make the list so overwhelming that you mentally give up
before you start. But don’t sell yourself short either.
As your confidence and belief systems grow, so will your success rate.
Your goals can be expanded as often as you feel you are capable of
doing more. When beginning to set a goal, think as far into the
future as you can, as far as the goal allows. If it’s a new car you are
going for, don’t think 20 years in the future, unless it’s a car that is an
extreme stretch or Quantum leap goal, like a Ferrari, and you want to
build a plan towards that car.
Income or earnings is the best example to use since it’s the easiest to
measure and track.
So, let's say you want to earn $1,000 a week, times that by 52 and set
the goal at $52,000 for the year. And if you want to make 20% more
each year then multiply that out for 5 or even 10 years. So the goal
for year 5 is $107,827. Then round up, make it $110k. Year 10 you
are now earning $268,308. Round up again to 275K.
The conservative goal to set is $275K.
Always go big. There is no shame or disappointment if you come in
short at $250K, but if you set the goal to double your income in 10
years to $100,000. and you fall short at 80k now you’re not happy or
satisfied. SO, always go Big, if it’s a big goal or small, long term or
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short. You are capable of so much more than you think. It's our
disempowering beliefs that limit our creativity and ability.
Always go long term first. It is better to think big and go right for the
10, 20, or even 30, year goals, but if you have to calculate and figure
them out, like above, then that’s ok too.
There’s a great rule I have used for years when setting any goal.
S.M.A.R.T.
S - specific
M- measurable
A - achievable
R - realistic
T - time-based
“Begin with the end in mind.”
Steven Covey
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Specific- your goal should be as specific as possible. I want a new car
is not specific. I want a black BMW, is still not enough. A black 2
door BMW Z3 with tan leather interior, power package, heated seats,
upgraded audio package, and everything else you want to specify for
your perfect car is getting specific.
Measurable- you must be able to measure your progress.
Measurement gives you feedback and will hold you accountable.
There are multiple ways to measure a goal. In this example, you may
need to put aside a certain amount of money every week or month
for a down payment. You also can measure your progress by how
close you can get to purchasing or leasing the exact vehicle or do you
have to make some concessions, lesser audio package, less expensive
rims.
Achievable- Goals should push you to the limit and beyond, take
you out of your comfort zone. But it's important that they are
achievable and within your control. You cannot make someone fall in
love with you or make yourself grow taller.
Realistic- Is the goal and time frame realistic? Starting from nothing,
and setting a goal of having the BMW by the end of the month is not
realistic.
Time-based- Trackable. You must set a time frame to track and
achieve a SMART goal. This will hold you accountable and helps in
motivation.
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The next step is to take those SMART goals and break them down.
Again, let's go with a 30-year savings goal. (Not so far-fetched when
you think about it from a retirement perspective).
Now you need to figure out “WHY” it is important to you and a
“must” for you to have $500,000 when you retire in 30 years.
Why comes before How. Reasons First Answers Second. I will
explain in more detail in chapter 6. For now, let's figure out how you
can save $59 dollars a day, or earn an extra $59 per day. Let your
creative mind flow wide open. Take a blank piece of paper, and start
brainstorming or mind dumping again. Anything and everything that
pops into your head, do not think about what will or won't work,
what sounds crazy or nuts. Just write it down. What may seem to be a
crazy idea now may yield a great idea or solution later.
(See SMART check worksheet)
Equally important is your vocabulary, simply put, the words you use.
How you speak to others, how you speak to yourself, what you say in
your head when are just thinking. The power of words is immense.
Words Influence everything. They affect and train your subconscious.
Words affect how you view a situation or the world. How you react
and respond, how you deal with it, how you solve it.
Your subconscious does not hear negative words. If the coach says to
the pitcher, “Don’t throw a curveball” your subconscious mind only
hears THROW A CURVEBALL.
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How you use your words is critical to the success of your goals. You
must speak only in positive terms. The simple example everyone has
heard, is the glass is half empty, or is the glass is half full. It gets
harder with things like, I need to lose 10 lbs.
People feel that’s a positive thought. When was the last time you were
happy about losing, lose your keys, lost the game, losing the
argument, lost the bet, losing your mind? It is not a good thing when
we lose something, when it's lost what do we tend to do? We
typically will try to find it. So how should a weight goal be stated?
If you currently weigh 200lbs, then, I will weigh 190 lbs. by June 1st
so I can wear my favorite swimsuit to the beach. Always state your
goals in the positive and in the present tense. I am earning $100,000
dollars a year. I do weigh 190lbs.
Start using exciting terms, positive words, upbeat phrases in your
everyday life. You will be amazed at how it will make you feel, and
the others you interact with. When someone asks, “how are you?”
What do you say? Most people respond with “fine” or “OK”. If it’s a
good friend, maybe you say, “same shit different day” or “I’d
complain but no one would listen anyway”.
Instead try, “I’m Outstanding!, and you?” even if you're not there
yet, even when you're having a bad day. Watch how fast it changes
your attitude, how you feel and the positive reaction you get from
others. It takes little shifts to make major changes. All of this leads to
successfully reaching your goals.
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It is not only imperative to use a positive vocabulary when speaking
but when writing as well, especially when you are going to see it on a
regular basis, which leads us to the next step.
Writing your goals down. Start with a journal or calendar book that
you use.
You must also write them down on a nice piece of paper, put it in a
frame, keep it on your desk, hang one on your office door, keep a
copy by your bed. Put one on the refrigerator. Let the world see your
goals, share them with friends and family. Tell them WHY it's
important for you to achieve them. Ask them for their assistance in
keeping you accountable.
Reread your goals daily, remember WHY they are so critical for you
to achieve. Keep them in from of you at all times, take a picture use it
as a background on your smartphone, make it the screen saver on
your computer. Be proud of your goals and your future achievements.
Post them everywhere you’re able to. Create a goals board or poster,
get pictures of exactly what you are going for.
The picture of the exact new pool you want to be installed, or the
watch you are going to buy, the new house, car or vacation, computer
or smartphone. No matter how big or small get the pictures of the
specific item the right color, model, version, as many specifics as you
can. The best way is to go to the pool store, the dealer, travel agent
and get a quote, a brochure, or any other information you can and
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put that on your poster. Then hang it somewhere you can see it every
day.
Remember to update all copies as you update and revise your goals.
Keep moving them around to different locations so you keep it fresh
and always keep reading them when you see it.
“A year from now you may wish you had started
today.”
Karen Lamb
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Success Leaves Clues
You are now ready to start on the journey of goal achievement.
Setting goals properly is important in achieving them but any goal,
big or small, correctly set or not can be achieved when you follow a
proven process. Success leaves clues. You can learn by trial and error
over a long period of time, or you can learn from someone who has
already done it and follow the same steps.
OPE, other people’s experience, someone has been where you are
now and figured out how to get to the next level. Take their
experience, their successes, and failures to shorten your learning
curve. One of the most common traits among all successful people is
the ability to make decisions fast. Just making decisions is a huge start
for many, as they usually over-analyze everything in an unconscious
way to procrastinate and delay the decision process.
If you don’t decide one way or the other you can't be wrong.
However, remember, you can't be right either.
“You will miss 100% of the shots you do not take”
Wayne Gretzky
(it was actually his dad telling him)
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Paralysis by over-analysis; does this describe you?
This affects many more people than you think and the only way to
get over this dreaded affliction is to just make a decision. If it’s
wrong, make another decision and if that’s wrong make a different
decision. If you still don’t reach the desired objective, make another
choice. Get the idea? Just keep going until you succeed. I could have
said “don’t stop until you succeed” but what would your
subconscious have heard?
Make sure you do not fall into the trap of insanity as Einstein
defined, Insanity is doing the same thing every time and expecting
different results.
Do not be afraid of failure. As long as you learn something it is an
education, not a failure. The only thing you should be afraid of is
missing out by not taking a shot. FOMO, fear of missing out, when
you can create the feeling of a greater fear of missing out, than failing,
you will be able to move forward and achieve more than ever before.
“Model someone who is already successful,
because, Success Leaves Clues.
Tony Robbins
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Why Comes Before How
Before you think about how to achieve any goal or achievement the
most important thing is to know why you must achieve it. Once you
know that, very often the strategy, system, or even the exact answer
will present itself.
The best way I know to express how important WHY is to tell a
hypothetical story.
While reading the following story, put yourself right in the middle of
it. Believe it; Experience it with sounds and color. Adjust the story to
match your picture of the perfect life. Think about your answers to
the following questions at the end of each section before you move on
to the next.
You are married to your dream partner, your best friend in life. Your
family consists of you, your spouse, your 3 children, ages 3, 5, and 8.
You just moved into your dream home or condo, on the perfect street
or building. The kids wanted a dog and you found the most adorable,
well-behaved puppy that ever existed. Close your eyes and picture
yourself there.
Now it’s Monday morning before you leave for work, you kiss
everyone goodbye, take your coffee, and leave. Great day at work
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everything goes your way, you leave to go home. As you’re pulling up
to the house, you hear sirens, see flashing lights and fire engines.
The fire police tell you the road is blocked and only let you in when
you tell them your address.
OMG! You realize it’s your house. You jump out of the car.
You see your spouse and kids and run to them. “What happened?”
you ask.
“I was making dinner with the kids, got distracted and I don’t know,
the next thing I smell smoke. A fire started, and we heard the smoke
detectors, I grabbed the kids and ran out of the house, with the
puppy, close behind. Thank God the neighbor called the fire
department and they arrived just before you got home. I can’t believe
how fast it spread.”
They then go on to tell you that they grabbed a few things, but, the
big water bottle that you were saving money in for a vacation, was
still in the house. You just started collecting so there were about 60
single dollar bills in it.
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1st Question: Do you run into the Burning house to get the $60.?
I’m going to assume you answered “NO WAY”, without hesitating.
You probably didn’t even think about it. It’s kind of a no brainer.
Run into a burning building for $60 bucks, that’s nuts, impossible.
Next version of the same story:
Its Monday morning you kiss everyone goodbye after breakfast, jump
in the car and leave. You have a great day at work. Things just seem
to fall into place. 5 pm comes before you know it and you head
home. As you turn on to your street, you see flashing lights and hear
sirens. The fire police are directing traffic and tell you the address of
the fire. It’s your house! You jump out of the car, see your spouse and
kids and run to them. “What happened?” you asked. “I was making
dinner with the kids, got distracted and the fire started, I heard the
smoke detectors, grabbed all 3 kids and ran out with the puppy.
Your spouse then says that they had gone to the bank and withdrew
the $2500 in cash to finish paying off the contractors who had done
some work. They had not been paid yet and the envelope with the
cash was still on the kitchen table. The flames are everywhere. You
can feel the extreme heat from the fire.
2nd Question: Do you run into the burning house to get the $2500
in cash?
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Depending on your financial situation this question might have taken
a second or two, or more. You might have thought about running in,
but that’s crazy, its only money, still no way to run into a burning
building. How would you? It’s impossible, it's nuts, at least everyone
is safe.
The last Version of the story changes one more time. Stay in the
moment. Everything is the same as the first 2 stories EXCEPT this
time when you asked your partner what happens they tell the same
story about how it started. You look around and ask where the little
one is, you see the 2 older kids and the puppy but not your youngest
child! Where’s the baby? Everyone starts looking around frantically,
nowhere to be found. OH MY GOD! Is your youngest child still in
the house?
What do you do?
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3rd Question: Do you run into the house to get your baby? (or if you
don’t like kids your partner, and if you don’t like people, your pet).
I have told this exact story and have asked the same questions to
hundreds of people to help them understand that WHY comes before
How. The answers never change. So, if you are like the 100’s
(possibly 1,000’s by now) before you, before you even finished
reading the 3rd question you were already running into the house.
Not thinking about HOW to do it, just knowing you must save your
baby, whoever it was in that house, with no regard for your own
safety or life. Failure was not an option. There was no fear.
That’s because when your WHY is strong enough the HOW will
figure itself out.
When it was $60 the thoughts were it's impossible. Why would I?
How can I run into a burning building?
For the 2nd question, $2500 cash is a lot of money to just let burn up.
You probably gave it a few seconds of thought about how, but then
came to your senses. Still, no way, to make it happen.
Then, the 3rd version, a LIFE was at stake someone you care about,
someone you love. The HOW never came in to play. You just knew
it had to be done; Your WHY was more important, more powerful,
than any consequence, then the fear of failure.
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What does this all mean in the quest to achieve your goals? You must
create your WHY, you must figure out what is a must for you to
achieve the goal you have set. When your WHY is the most
important part of the equation, nothing can stop you. No challenge
or obstacle can get in your way.
(See WHY worksheet)
“The Two Most Important Days in Your Life are the
Day you are Born and The Day you figure out WHY.”
Mark Twain
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Now What
Your Goals are set. They are SMART. You wrote them down, and
you used all positive terms with positive vocabulary. Everywhere you
look they are written or hanging in front of you. Everyone you know,
knows what your goals are and when you will achieve them. Most
importantly, you even know WHY you must achieve these now. You
are more afraid of not getting it, than you are of making a mistake or
failing. SO, Now What?
“Most impossible goals can be met simply by
breaking them down into bite-size chunks,
writing them down, believing them and going full
speed ahead as if they were routine.”
Don Lancaster
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The Steps to Guarantee Goal Achievement Success.
Build up to confirm. Breakdown to achieve. Most people tend to
overestimate what they can achieve in a day but underestimate what
can be achieved long term. There is a simple way to confirm both
lengths of that equation. As mentioned earlier, it is always better to
start as far out into the future as possible. Once you feel you have a
great SMART goal, then you either break it down or build it up.
If it’s a goal of fewer than 20 years, first build it up to at least 40 years
and confirm that’s where you want to be or would like to be at that
time in your life. Then once you have confirmed or adjusted that
goal, then step two is to break it all the way down to as close to a
daily or even hourly goal as you can.
(See the build-up break down worksheet)
Remember your goals are not carved in stone. In fact, they should be
constantly reviewed, corrected, and adjusted.
The smaller the steps the better in achieving any goal. Crawl before
you walk. Walk before you run. One step at a time. One foot in front
of the other. You need to break down your goals so that the hardest
of goals seem simple.
This may seem difficult at times. You will have the entire goal in your
mind and that will tend to overshadow the simple tasks neccesary.
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Take a football team whose ultimate goal is to win the Superbowl.
Before spring training even starts, the team must consider the draft.
Before that, they must analyze current players on the team and
potential players that may be available. In spring training, the team
must figure what plays and players work best. As with goals this is
constantly reviewed, corrected, and adjusted.
Players are cut, get injured or traded. The season starts out with a
goal to make the Super Bowl. To win enough games to win the
division. They don’t focus on that; they don’t even think about next
week's game.
They typically do not even think about winning the current game.
What is critically important, the only thing to focus on, the play at
hand.
If the offense is on the field let’s just get 4 or 5 yards on this play.
When they can average 4 or 5 yards per play, there is never a 4th
Down or even 3rd and long. The punting team can stay on the
sidelines. When on defense, hold the other teams' offense to less than
3 yards per play. Make them punt every time.
That’s how you win the game, win the division, win the playoffs, win
the Superbowl. 1 Play at a time, 1 matchup at a time. That is how
you achieve your goals 1 day at a time, 1 play at a time.
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the
invisible into the visible.”
Anthony Robbins
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Little and Big All The Same
If your goals are big or small, tiny or HUGE, the strategy is the same,
it never changes. Big goals are broken into smaller parts and the
smaller parts are broken down into simple steps. Small goals are
broken into smaller steps. Keep splitting them up until they are so
small it’s you feel it is a joke to make it happen.
Next comes the fun part.
You need to commit to and TAKE Massive Action. You need to
create a M.A.P, a Massive Action Plan.
Anytime, you want to go somewhere as quickly and efficiently as
possible, you use a map. Just like with a GPS, the first thing you need
to know is where you are starting from. This is the time for a reality
check, no BS, be completely honest with yourself as to where you are
currently. If you don’t know where your starting from you won’t
know how to start. Assess your current situation, all aspects, anything
that has anything to do with achieving your goals.
The next step is to look at exactly where you want to be. It should be
in line with your goal, but there may be different outcomes. For
example, the goal may be to get something to eat or to not be hungry
anymore. The map is going to take you to a restaurant or
supermarket.
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Obviously, it is critically important to be specific here. If you told the
GPS you were hungry, where would it take you? Nowhere. What if
you said “take me to the restaurant?” Still nowhere, it has no idea
where to go. How about, “take me to Chinese food.”
The GPS may give you some local choices but still won't take you
anywhere. I think you get the picture, without a specific street address
the GPS does not know what to do. It also needs the exact location of
where you are starting. It is Very Simple If you want to reach your
goal Bals, you must be Extremely Specific.
You have to have your exact starting point and your exact finish.
Creating the MAP is next. Do you go right, left or straight? All those
little steps that your goal was broken into, are going to make up the
MAP. One step at a time, flexibility is important, as you begin to
follow the plan, adjust accordingly, review, react, and revise.
As you move towards your goal things change. You may change your
mind, the situation or things around you change. There may be a
setback, just like your vehicle's GPS when you miss or make a wrong
turn, it says Recalculating. A pilot flying an airplane from New York
to California is off course 90% of the time, the autopilot is constantly
correcting for wind changes, storms, other planes, Atmosphere or
anything else that may alter the course.
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In the end, the plane lands at the right airport, On time. (some
airlines are better at this than others).
It may even land at the wrong airport if there are major issues that
occur, but that doesn’t mean failure, just another obstacle to
overcome and correct. As long as your MAP has the desired end you
will get there if you do not give up.
Sometimes it is necessary to retrace our steps going backward and
figure out where we made the wrong turn. Then make another choice
or decision to get back on the right path. If that doesn’t work, choose
another option, and if that doesn’t work choose again. If that doesn’t
get you there try, something else. When do you stop?
You don’t, not until it works.
Remember, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a
different outcome, is the definition of insanity. So, keep adjusting the
approach until it works. One step at a time, that’s what is important.
“Discipline is the bridge between goals and
accomplishment.”
Jim Rohn
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Being Accountable
What you do daily and who you share it with is an important part of
achieving your goals.
Keep a journal, recording what works and what doesn’t. It is a great
way to adapt and revise as you go along. It is also another way to hold
yourself accountable.
Accountability is extremely critical in achieving everything in the
plan. When we are held accountable, we do things. Share your goals,
share your progress, and share what needs to be done on a regular
basis. If you have someone that can be completely objective and hold
you to your plan, awesome. If not, find someone, hire a coach, who
will not only help with accountability but also in every aspect of your
journey.
Checking your progress on a regular, frequent basis is a must.
As individuals, we tend to beat ourselves up or punish ourselves for
not doing or accomplishing what we set out for no matter how large
or small. I can't believe I was 5 minutes late. I'm such an idiot, how
did I get that wrong? What a jerk I am, for missing that easy thing.
What we fail to do is celebrate our successes.
For some crazy reason, we all expect to be perfect. When you do
something right celebrate, give yourself a pat on the back. When we
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get rewarded for doing something, we tend to do it more. No matter
how simple or expected it is, take a moment to celebrate and enjoy
your success.
When the success warrants it, reward yourself. Depending on the
level of success, make the reward commensurate. An extra piece of
dessert, or maybe a massage. A day off to relax and rejuvenate or
anything that you feel is a gift or treat.
Set your rewards daily, weekly, promise yourself when you do X, you
get Y.
To often, we don’t give ourselves credit for the good choices we’ve
made. Remember to give yourself credit for the things you’re doing
well.
Matthew Clark, PH.D.
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Success Leaves Clues Part Two
You can forge your own path and journey into the unknown, or you
can follow others that have been there before you. They have already
figured it out. Not everything works for everyone, but you have a
significantly better chance of success when you imitate success.
We already do this every day, here is a simple example; You sit down
at the dinner table, in front of you are some shiny silver things,
they're all a little different. On the table is also a bowl of soup, a
salad, and the main course. How do you know which utensil to use
for the soup? You copied the others at the table a long time ago. Or
how about going for a job interview, do you walk in blind or do some
research about the company before you get there? Do you wear
everyday casual clothes or a suit? If you think these are common sense
things to do, then why wouldn’t you follow the actions and activities
of a successful person.
Napoleon Hill wrote “Think and Grow Rich” based on this simple
principle.
Think and Grow Rich is considered THE #1 most famous success /
personal development book of all time. It was written by Napoleon
Hill in 1937 and has sold over 100 million copies worldwide.
The premise of the book is simple:
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Riches begin with a state of mind. If we want to get rich, we must
first change our minds so that we become, as Napoleon Hill calls it,
success conscious.
He says that we must literally THINK ourselves to success.
The term riches, by the way, could mean any form of wealth like
money, happiness, healthy relationships, business success, etc.
Undoubtedly, obstacles and barriers will pop up. That is life, you can
plan and prepare forever and they will still appear. The only thing
that you can control is your mindset, your absolute belief, and faith
that you will achieve the desired result.
We already learned a belief is something that we know to be true. We
all have them. We develop them from our earliest years and
experiences. Beliefs come from our parents, teachers, friends,
environment, the internet and just about anywhere you can think of.
Our Belief Systems control our actions, everything we DO or
DON’T do.
Beliefs can be empowering or Disempowering. Unfortunately, they
tend to be much more of the latter. From the time we are born we’re
told all the things we cannot do. According to a UCLA study, a baby
hears the word NO over 400 times a day. That does not include
DON’T or STOP or any other negative words.
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You already know that the brain cannot process a negative command
or statement? If you say to your child “be careful, don't spill your
milk” as they carry the glass full of milk across the kitchen the child
has to actually think of spilling the milk so that he/she can take the
necessary action not to do it.
We tend to get what we focus on. So by the child thinking of spilling
milk, that is often what tends to happen. Which normally results in a
loud “But I told you NOT to spill that milk”. So, the moral of this
story is, ask for what you want, not what you don't want.
“Ask, and you will receive. Seek, and you will find.”
Matthew 7:7
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Belief Cycle
Your Belief Cycle can work as both a Success or Failure Cycle.
It all starts with either a Disempowering belief or Empowering one.
It's as simple as, if you think you can or you think you can't your
right.
Let's use the example of meeting new people when you think you are
a shy person and you are no good at socializing, or speaking to people
in general.
That’s your Disempowering Belief. I cannot socialize or make friends.
The belief cycle has 4 parts that affect what and how you do
everything. Box 1 your beliefs, box 2 your potential, box 3 the actions
you take, and box 4 your results.
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Put that disempowering belief about your inability to make friends in
box 1. Now move to box 2. What type of potential do you have at
meeting new people when you know you are a shy person who does
not know how to socialize? Obviously, your potential is severely
limited.
Now with limited potential, you move to box 3, taking action. When
you know it is probably not going to work anyway, how much action
do you take? Limited or No potential, typically leads to little or NO
action. Let's say you were invited to a party that starts at 8.
If you go at all, you will probably show up late, stand in a corner,
waiting for someone to come to you, and when no one does, you
leave early and tell yourself how the party sucked. Moving to the 4th
box, your results were exactly as you thought they would be.
Surprised you had a horrible time. You didn’t talk to anyone, were
bored, and think to yourself what a waste of time. You tell yourself
you knew you shouldn't have even gone. Next time you may not even
bother. A simple equation, when you take NO action, you get NO
results. Is that a good result? Or bad? You’re initial response, of
course it's bad. But, here's the crazy part.
If you're like most people, then you like to be right, if not all the
time, as often as possible. Have you ever told someone that
something bad would happen, and when it did, you said, “See I told
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you it wouldn’t work?” Your happy with a poor result, as long as your
right.
So, your Belief system said it would be a waste of time to go to the
party, a disaster. Your result proved you right. And it feels good to be
right.
That makes your result, although it seems bad, a good result.
The worst part is that it strengthens the disempowering belief. Next
time an invitation arrives, you will probably arrive later and leave
earlier, if you go at all.
That’s how the downward spiral begins and gets worse with each
cycle. How can you stop such a negative situation? You must start by
changing your beliefs. It is important to understand that nothing has
any meaning except the meaning which we give it. In the previous
example, we had a person who felt they could not make friends or
socialize, so they behaved accordingly.
Now we know that human potential is truly unlimited. That same
individual now sets a goal to make friends, no matter what. They
must change their belief system by thinking about all the times they
have spoken to others, recall memories of old friends and family or
communicating in work situations.
Now add in some experiences they have observed of others who are
extremely social and have many friends. What do they do? How do
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they act? The belief is now that socializing is just a simple skill like
everything else. Study it, practice it, and follow the steps.
To learn or accomplish anything is 20% mechanics, 80% mindset or
psychology.
Once the skills or mechanics are learned the rest is all in your head. I
will get back to that shortly. Let's go make some new friends. With
our new empowering belief system, we get invited to another party.
Instead of sneaking in late so no one notices us. Let's get their 15
minutes early. When we arrive first, and there is no one else there, it's
easy to speak to the host 1 on 1 (a comfortable setting) and ask if
there is anything we can do to help.
Then as guests arrive, we can introduce ourselves, say hi to each one
individually, again an easy situation. Help them with their jackets or
get them a drink. As the party fills up you will then have a bunch of
people to go back to and continue conversations. Stay till the end,
possibly exchange numbers with a few people that have things in
common with you, and this time the party is a huge success.
Following the cycle, you start by believing you can and are a social
person who everyone wants to meet and speak to, box 1. Moving to
box 2 with Huge, unlimited potential, nothing can stop you or get in
the way. You might as well be running for the most popular person at
the party, in the town, heck, why stop there, the state.
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With that kind of unstoppable attitude, you take MASSIVE Action,
box 3, doing anything and everything you can imagine having an
amazing time at the event. Not meeting and speaking to people, is
not even an option anymore. How ridiculous to even think that way
anymore. Moving to the Results box 4, you have incredible results an
extraordinary time. The BEST party you have ever been too.
Confirming and strengthening the belief that you are a social
GIANT, your now empowering belief.
Going back to our example, if you have never had a problem with
making friends or having fun at a party, you know how simple this is,
almost sounds silly, but for someone who has a hard time with it, it
can be as scary as jumping out of a plane, or taking an important test,
or getting in front of a room of 1,000 people and making a speech.
That was me, standing in the corner. Not anymore.
“If you want to reach a goal, you must see the
reaching in your mind before you actually arrive
at your goals.”
Zig Ziglar
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The 80/20 Rule
Accomplishing anything, no matter how simple or complex, always
follows the same formula. Once the skills or mechanics are learned
the rest is all in your head. 80% of completing the task is your
mindset.
Your Belief System.
Think of something, anything that you have never done and could
never possibly do or even attempt. Here are 2 examples I use all the
time; rebuilding a car engine. No idea how to do it. Find someone
who does. Do you know what a wrench is? Can you pick it up and
use it? Have you ever seen a screwdriver?
Now, if the mechanic shows you where to turn, and where to attach
various parts, can you follow his direction? Of course, you can do it.
That’s the 20% part, the mechanics.
If you don’t believe you can do it, or if you thought to yourself, that’s
impossible I can't rebuild a motor, then you would not look for
guidance and never attempt it. Failing before you even started.
2nd example, an even more extreme example. (as long as you’re not a
surgeon) Let's perform a surgical procedure, removing a kidney.
Totally Crazy right? But what if we break it down. There are many
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parts here that will stop most people dead in their tracks. For starters-
no medical background, the sight of blood.
However, can you cut a piece of steak? Can you carve up a turkey for
Thanksgiving? Can you sew a button on a shirt?
Break it down. Follow the steps. Find a top surgeon, he can tell you
where to cut, what to move, where to stick your hands and what to
feel for. Cut out the kidney, stitch the patient up and “Wah Laa” you
just performed surgery.
Not on me, thank you very much, but it's possible. But, if you think
it's impossible, then you are right, and you will never be able to do it.
Your mindset and belief systems, have everything to do with
accomplishing anything, especially your goals. Confident and
unwavering in your abilities and determination. It all starts with your
mindset.
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Here are a few simple reminders to hang or post where you can see
them near your goals
O Other
P peoples
E experience
N needed
A Action with Attitude
B Break It Down
C Clock it
And one more
C Conceive
B Believe
A Achieve
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Tracking Progress
While on this exciting journey to goal success, you must constantly
track your progress.
That is how a GPS corrects the route, it’s how the autopilot gets the
plane to its destination. There are all kinds of ways and systems to do
this. Depending on the goal, you can apply different strategies.
If it’s a weight achievement goal, start with a scale, and record your
weight on a periodic but consistent basis. You also need to do this at
the same time every day to create an accurate pattern.
Based on the results you can and must review and revise your plan.
Keep a log of your daily exercise and food intake, how much water
you are drinking. Use a smartphone and set reminders as often as
necessary. Have an alarm go off at the same time every day to step on
the scale. Set a buzzer to go off every hour to make sure you have had
another glass of water.
Schedule time to exercise or just take a 10-minute walk, or both.
Depending on where I am personally in my life, I have had as many
as 40 + alarms and reminders daily. Sometimes, the alarms can be
annoying to others, but when they ask how I always achieve what I
set out to, the response I get back is usually, “that’s annoying, what a
pain.”
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Not surprisingly they don’t ever seem to get where they want to be.
Success takes work. You do not become a professional athlete
practicing your sport when it's convenient and you have some extra
time.
When you keep a log or record of your progress you can easily see any
trends that may be developing or any patterns that can be adjusted,
expanded, or eliminated. The more detailed the record-keeping the
better.
Writing a simple number on a calendar is good, recording a note with
the number is better, keeping a journal with detailed facts of
everything that is happening is best. Think of it as keeping score. In
Baseball you can keep track of just the runs scored by each team. Or
keep track of each batter, each pitch, how many pitches, each out,
where the ball is hit, and more. The more you track the easier things
become.
What should you keep track of?
Certainly, start with any successes and remember to celebrate and
reward yourself. This becomes very helpful in times of struggle or
stress. Record anything that can be measured.
You can borrow the confidence and emotional lift that you
experienced during your last triumph. Record obstacles and barriers
that pop up unexpectedly. How did you handle it? What did you do
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to overcome the situation? If you didn’t overcome it what did you try
and what are you going to do differently. Discuss your progress with
your accountability partner or Coach.
A second opinion is always good to have as well as someone else
giving you kudos when deserved, can be another satisfying moment.
Asking for help or advice is always a good thing to do when needed.
Your goals are ever-changing and evolving, circumstances change and
you need to be ready, able and willing to revise on the go. When life
throws a curveball, for good or bad, adjust your stance and swing
away, but record what and why it changed and the results.
When discussing these situations with your coach or accountability
partner, the better account you have to refer too, the easier it is to
analyze and adapt.
“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust
my sails to always reach my destination.”
Jimmy Dean
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Revisit and Revise and Rewrite
The real success is not in achieving the goal, but who you become on
the journey.
You are always pushing a little harder, a little further. When a goal is
achieved, you just keep going, keep building, keep growing.
In life you either Grow or Die, there is no standing still. You are
always revisiting your goals, revising them, rewriting them. Then you
are also coming up with completely new goals and new journeys to
explore and expand.
Once the Mindset of success becomes standard and commonplace,
once your belief system only knows success, there is no end to the
mountains you can climb the challenges you can overcome and the
people you can help. Paying it forward is the most rewarding thing
you can do in this life.
Sharing your success and helping others to experience their own
growth and successes is an amazing feeling. To be able to see the
transformation that people go through, is life-altering. It becomes an
addiction, the more people you can help to grow, the better you feel.
With goals as with life, becoming comfortable is actually not a good
thing.
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Understand we all strive to be comfortable, a nicer car, a bigger
house, more toys.
The quality of your life is determined by the amount of uncertainty
and uncomfortability you can deal with. No matter how successful
you become no matter how comfortable things are you will get bored.
There is only so much golf you can play, cocktails on the beach you
can enjoy, before things get mundane and ordinary. We, as humans,
must continue to grow. We need to be challenged. That’s why sports
and games play such a big role in people's lives. Watching
professional sports, participating in everything from archery and
bowling to X-country skiing and Yachting. Monopoly, poker, and
even solitaire, everyone likes a challenge, we all want to compete, to
win. Setting and achieving your goals is a way to win every day.
“Accept the challenge so that you can feel the
Exhilaration of Victory”
George S. Patton
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Accountability Part Two
When someone asks me what the single most important step to
achieving your goals is, without a doubt, it is being accountable to
yourself and others. When we are accountable, we make things
happen, you can't procrastinate, you can’t drop the ball, and you
have to get it done.
That is the single largest reason why people DO NOT share their
goals.
When no one knows what you are planning you cannot look like a
failure. You do not have to push yourself; anything result becomes
acceptable. Finding a true accountability partner can sometimes
present a challenge as you need someone who is truly objective and
unbiased. Someone who will tell you what you need to hear you, even
if it hurts, not what you want to hear. Friends, family, coworkers,
tend to soften the things they say. They say what they think you want
to hear, or worse, what THEY want you to hear. They do not want to
make you mad or upset. They may have their own agenda.
A coach has only one goal, one mission, that’s whatever your goal is,
whatever it is you tell them you want to accomplish.
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A coach is your personal GPS for life. They will keep you on the right
path. The coach specializes in holding you accountable. A coach does
not wait for you to come to them, they take the initiative.
The coach provides clarity and will help you to visualize your goals. A
coach will help you anticipate obstacles, to take massive action,
eliminating procrastination. Coaching is a one to one activity that
improves the ability of an individual to perform a specific task. A
coach helps to reveal the gap between the desired outcome and the
current situation, and once that gap is discovered to close the gap as
quickly and efficiently as possible. Coaching is not therapy,
counseling or rah-rah motivation, but an active part of learning,
developing, and achieving.
Life will happen and very often it seems to get in the way, you will
get sidetracked, distracted, even discouraged. Your accountability
partner or coach will get you back on track and keep you there.
“If ever you find yourself doubting that you can
make it through a challenge, simply think back to
everything you have overcome in the past.”
Karen Salmansohn
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Wrapping Up With Some Final Thoughts
To set and achieve all your goals there is a process to follow. Learn
from the best at the highest level and drastically reduce the time it
takes.
Start with setting your goals using the SMART guidelines.
Use positive language, and make sure you are in an empowering
frame of mind
Go big, go long, let your imagination run wild. HAVE FUN!
Make sure to write them down in multiple places and hang them
where you will see them on a regular basis.
Figure out your WHY.
Create your MAP – Massive Action Plan.
Break down the goal to the smallest steps possible, then break down
each step.
Find an accountability buddy or Coach.
Create a tracking system and keep a journal of your progress
Celebrate every success regardless of size and reward yourself.
Constantly work on empowering belief systems
Review, Revise, Rewrite.
Keep tracking, keep Accountable, and share your success.
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Remember;
Every day you have a choice,
Make it Happen,
Watch it Happen,
Or
Wonder, What the Hell Happened!
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Goal Worksheets
SMART check
Positive words
WHY worksheet
Breakdown / Build up
Goal Mapping
For assistance with any of these worksheets schedule your
complimentary strategy session with the author
http://bit.ly/PlanACall
“If you think it can’t be done, then get out of the
way of those of us doing it!
Stephen Flecker
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This worksheet will test if your goal is S.M.A.R.T Make multiple
copies and actually write the goal and answers down. Do Not do this
in your head.
MY GOAL IS…
S Is your goal as SPECIFIC as it can be? Is there anything you can
add to make it more SPECIFIC?
M Is your goal MEASURABLE? Can you measure your progress?
Daily, weekly, monthly? Can you make a chart or checklist, and mark
it as you get closer?
A Can you ACHIEVE your goal? Is it something that is a stretch for
you, but can be done? Has anyone else ever done it?
R Does your goal meet the REALISTIC definition? Test it and make
sure it is doable if you're not sure, ask other successful people (don’t
ask the typical person that has disempowering beliefs and pooh-poohs
everything) If you don’t think you know any successful people post
the question online.
T Did you set a TIME-BASED goal? Did you set a deadline? Are
there time checkpoints along the way?
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Positive words and the Negative words they replace.
Instead of these Negative Words
Use these Positive Words
Short Attention Span Many Interests
Irresponsible Carefree
Hyperactive Energetic
Impulsive Spontaneous
Loud Enthusiastic
Stubborn Persistent
Poor Planner Present Focused
Disorganized Unstructured
Bossy Leadership
Argumentative Committed
Tests Limits Risk Taker
Anxious Cautious
Impatient Eager
Explosive Dramatic
Rebellious Non-conformist
Manipulative Negotiator
Disobedient Self-directed
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The four most powerful, positive, persuasive words are:
“I need your help.”
It takes five positive comments for every one negative to overcome
the effects
The five most powerful positive words/phrases in any language or
culture are:
Yes
Thank You
I’m Sorry (I apologize)
You’re Welcome
Let me Help
The five most damaging negative words/phrases in any language or
culture are:
No
You can’t
You’re Wrong
I Don’t Believe you
You Lie
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Positive language can literally change your brain. Yes, that’s right—
positive words like “peace,” “love” and “compassion” strengthen areas
of the brain’s frontal lobes, and promote cognitive function. In
simple terms, hearing and using positive language can make you feel
great—physically, mentally and emotionally. On the flip side,
negative language can block the brain’s natural de-stress mechanisms.
So, as well as adding some sparkly positive words into your everyday
language—like “certainly,” “great” and “definitely”—it’s worth
taking a look at phrases you might be using inadvertently and giving
them a polish, too.
These 11 everyday phrases can easily be replaced, giving your
vocabulary an instant positivity boost.
Every Day Positive Language
1. Why not? → Sounds good
2. No problem → Definitely!
3. Can’t complain → Everything’s going well, thanks
These phrases are meant to be positive - but the human brain has a
negative bias, and subconsciously brings up all of the reasons not to
do something, problems, or complains when processing these words.
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4. I’m exhausted → I need to rest
Flipping the phrase to include a solution leaves both the speaker and
the listener with a better taste in their mouths.
Positive Language at Work
5. I forgot → I’ll make sure to set a reminder
Again, focusing on what can be done will help the people around you
expect a positive result.
6. Unfortunately, it will be impossible to finish the project on
time because of the problems some people are causing with
submitting their work late. → Can everyone turn in their portion
of the project by Thursday so that we can complete the work on
time and hit the deadline?
Email culture provides the perfect opportunity to work on positive
language, as you can edit your words before sending them out to
colleagues and clients. Look out for negative words like
“unfortunately,” “impossible” and “problems” as flags for sentences to
revise
7. Constructive criticism → Feedback
The words you use to frame your feedback can have a significant
impact on how it is received. To add to the positive vibe, healthy
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portions of compliments for achievements will help your colleagues
take your comments on board.
Positive Language at Home
8. Don’t throw the ball inside! → Please take the ball outside. or
9. Don’t … → I like it when..
Telling children (and adults, too!) what you want them to do rather
than what you don’t want them to do puts the focus on the desired
action and ups your chances of a positive outcome.
10. I missed you so much! → It’s so great to see you!
While absence certainly does make the heart grow fonder, reunions
can be a time to rejoice in the present rather than relating negative
emotions from the past.
11. No! → I know you like ice cream, but eating too much isn’t
healthy.
Unless you’re dealing with a serious safety issue, for example near a
road or a swimming pool, explaining the reason behind your “no”
helps children feel respected and included. As a guide, think about
how you’d like your boss to speak to you.
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100 Words with Definitions to Enhance Your Day
Abundance (n) to exist in great quantity
Accepted (adj) embraced, allowed, or permitted
Accommodate (v) to make allowance for the needs of others
Accomplishment (n) a goal or target that is successfully achieved
Accountable (adj) being responsible for and able to justify one's
actions
Beaming (adj) extremely happy
Beauteous (adj) Something that is aesthetically pleasing; beautiful
Beloved (adj) someone who is loved greatly
Benevolence (n) kindness
Betterment (n) a positive change in some way
Candescent (adj) glowing, sparkling, or luminous
Captivate (v) to attract someone’s attention
Celebrate (v) a happy occasion in recognition of an accomplishment
Charisma (n) charm or attractiveness
Cheery (adj) the state of being happy or cheerful
Dandy (n) excellent or outstanding
Dauntless (adj) fearless and courageous
Dazzled (n) to dazzle or greatly amaze someone
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Delightful (adj) something very pleasurable or enjoyable
Determination (n) the will to achieve a purpose
Eager (adj) keen or enthusiastic to do something
Ecstatic (adj) extremely happy about something
Elated (adj) to be very happy and joyful
Elegant (adj) graceful and stylish
Embolden (v) to increase the confidence of a person or group
Fabulous (adj) excellent and outstanding
Fearless (adj) without fear; courageous
Feat (n) showing great skill or great courage
Fervidly (adj) passionate
Finesse (n) impressive skills or handling something impressively
Gallant (adj) brave, chivalrous, or courteous
Generous (adj) kind; altruistic
Genuine (adj) real, honest, and sincere
Gladness (n) state of happiness or appreciation
Glamor (n) attractiveness
Handsome (adj) someone good looking or something well-
constructed
Handy (adj) something useful and accessible
Happily (adverb) something performed in a happy way
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Harmony (n) to be in agreement or together
Healthy (adj) good health; defined by feeling well
Ideal (n) optimal idea or example
Illuminate (v) to shine a light on something or someone
Illustrious (adj) celebrated and well-known
Immaculate (adj) something sparkling, flawless, or faultless
Inclusive (adj) not excluding anyone
Jewell (n) of great worth
Joyful (adj) in a happy state
Jubilant (adj) triumphant or full of joy
Justice (n) fair treatment
Juvenescent (adj) youthful; young demeanor
Kindred (n) to have an affinity for someone or something
Kindness (n) nature of being kind and caring
Kissable (adj) desire to kiss
Knack (n) natural ability to do something
Knowledgeable (adj) possessing great intelligence and knowledge
Lavish (adj) luxurious or extravagant
Legendary (adj) great reputation
Liberate (v) to set free; to give independence
Lively (adj) energetic; full of energy and life
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Lovable (adj) worthy of love and being loved
Magical (adj) delightful; awe-inspiring
Magnificence (n) defined by glory
Majestic (adj) regal and royal
Marvel (n) something wonderful and sensational
Meaningful (adj) described by something of value and importance
Neat (adj) good, cool, and interesting
Nicety (n) a fine detail
Nimble (adj) deft, quick on your feet
Noble (adj) honest character
Novelty (n) new and exciting
Oasis (n) a place of refuge and relief
Observant (adj) perceptive and attentive
Openhearted (adj) to be kind
Openness (n) honesty; sincerity
Optimism (n) positive state of mind
Quaint (adj) strange, but in a pleasant way
Queen (n) woman who is greatly respected
Quick-witted (adj) to act and think quickly
Quirky (adj) attractive in an unusual way
Quotable (adj) someone/something worth quoting
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Radiant (adj) shining; happy; glowing
Rapture (n) delight; ecstasy
Refined (adj) well mannered and cultured
Restorative (adj) healing or invigorating
Revival (n) renewed interest or awakening
Sagacious (n) wise; excellent judgment
Scrumptious (adj) delightful or delicious
Sensational (adj) something extraordinary
Sensible (adj) good judgment and common sense
Sincere (adj) open; genuine
Thoughtfulness (n) considerate and caring
Unparalleled (adj) unmatched
Wanderlust (n) love of traveling
Yippee (interjection) expression of excitement or joy
Zany (adj) entertaining in a unique way
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Break Down / Build Up Worksheet
When breaking down or building up your goals remember to always
round goals up and time frames down.
The following worksheet is a suggestion you can develop your own
system based on your goals and plans
To build up a short-term goal, start from the bottom or at whatever point your
goal falls.
Use this worksheet to also confirm the consistency of your goals.
Your subconscious will do nothing (and actually fight you) when
there are conflicting instructions.
For assistance with any of these worksheets or goals take
advantage of your Complimentary strategy session.
http://bit.ly/PlanACall
Example of conflict: I want to earn $1,000 a week $100,000 a year.
This is more common than you think when people attempt to set
their goals.
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Start with your long-term goal:
40 years / 2 = 20 years ____________________________________
20 years / 2 = 10 years ____________________________________
10 years / 2 = 5 years _____________________________________
5 years / 2 = 2 & ½ years __________________________________
2 year / 2 = 1 year _______________________________________
1 year / 2 = 6 months ____________________________________
6 Months / 2 = 3 months _________________________________
3 Months / 2 = 1 & ½ months _____________________________
1 Month / 2 = 15 days ____________________________________
15 days / 2 = 1 week _____________________________________
1 week / 7 or /5 = daily goal _______________________________
Start with your short-term goal:
“Don’t Limit your Challenges Challenge Your
Limits”
Anonymous
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Make your goals real with this Goal Mapping worksheet. Focus
on three distinct key areas of your life:
1. Personal Growth and Contribution
2. Achievements and Experiences
3. Financial Freedom and Rewards
Everything around you in your life right now once started out as just
a thought, a desire, an inspired moment. You now have the power to
take your current thoughts and turn them into a tangible, promising
future.
Create a compelling future. Build the life of your dreams. Make goals
that will drive you – goals with some power behind them.
As you approach this exercise, be sure to put yourself in a positive,
peak state. Have absolute faith and expectation that you can create
anything you want in your life.
Be enthusiastic. Be ambitious! Reach for the outer limits of what you
believe you can achieve in one year. Find your place among the stars.
“If a goal is worth having, it’s worth blocking out the
time in your day to day life, necessary to achieve it.”
Jill Koenig
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Year 202___ GOAL MAPPING
What are 3 ways you can enrich your life in the next year? Think about
skills you want to master, characteristics you want to develop, relationships
you want to cultivate or deepen, how you want to improve your health,
advance your career or contribute to the world. How can you grow into
person you’ve always wanted to be?
GOAL #1
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I am committed to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #2
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I am committed to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #3
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I am committed to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
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What 3 things would you really like to have in your life in the next year?
What would bring you pure pleasure or joy? What trips do you want to take
and what experiences do you want to create? What can you bring into your
life this year that will add value to your days?
GOAL #1
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I am committed to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #2
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I commit to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #3
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I commit to taking to achieve this goal?
1
2
3
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Write down your top 3 financial goals for the coming year below. Get
specific: How much money do you want to earn? How will you grow your
career and/or business? What would you like to learn? How much do you
want to give? Write down the goals that will make 2019 a financially
rewarding year for you.
GOAL #1
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I commit to taking toward achieving this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #2
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I commit to taking toward achieving this goal?
1
2
3
GOAL #3
Why is this goal important to me?
What are the 3 action steps I commit to taking to achieving this goal?
1
2
3
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Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
Personal Power by Anthony Robbins
The Millionaire Next Door by Stanley & Danko
The E Myth by Michael Gerber
DO IT! by McWilliams & Roger
Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy
Focal Point by Brian Tracy
The Psychology of Winning by Denis Waitley
The Winning Attitude by John Maxwell
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