Bullying

BullyingAmy Millspaugh, Andrea SowellShanqueetay Easley, Yoneko Washington

School Counselors working with parents to create a safe environment for students

PurposeThis presentation focuses on parental awareness of bullying in the school system. The school counselors are working to create a safe school environment for all students with the help of the parents and the community.Victims of Bullyinghttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OD-OaZbRL4s&feature=related

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How much do you know about Bullying?

Parents will complete a Pre/Post Test on how much they know about bullying.Identify the indicators of Boys and Girls BullyingIdentify the indicators of CyberbullyingIdentify the responsibilities of school, staff, and parentsIdentify interventions to help prevent bullyinggoalsOne incident of bullying happens every 7 minutes

Bullying affects nearly 1 out of every 3 children in grades 6-10.

55% of 8-11 year-olds and 68% of 12-15 year-olds say bullying is a big problem.

National Institute of Child Health and Human Development(2009)StatisticsAnd the Survey Says.A nationwide survey highlighted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) found that 6.6 percent of students in grades 9-12 had missed at least one day of school during the 30 days preceding the survey because they felt unsafe at school or on their way to or from school.

A review of 1999 data collected by the Federal government on school safety among 12- to 18-year-old students found that approximately 36 percent of students reported seeing hate-related graffiti at school.

Surveys done by Center for Disease Control and the Federal government.Adults are not as responsive to bullying as we should be (and as children want us to be)

Adults overestimate their effectiveness inidentifying bullying and intervening.

Bullying can occur anywhereeven whereadults are present.

Key factsStudies show that children identified as bulliesby age 8 are six times more likely to beconvicted of a crime by age 24.

60% of kids characterized as bullies in the 6th-9th grade had at least one criminal convictionby age 24.

Bullies are five times more likely to end up witha serious criminal record by age 30.

Lets talk bullySchool BullyingCyberbullying

Two types of bullyingBullying-An aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power and strength

Cyberbullying The act of bullying online consisting of one person or small group of people attacking each other via an internet-enabled desktop computer

DefinitionSome common characteristics:

Impulsive, confrontational, domineering, easily irritated, lack compassionStruggles with being compliant to rulesViews violence in a positive mannerTend to be physically stronger than other children

Who is a bully?Physical any physical harm to include: hitting, punching, kicking and destruction of other childs propertyVerbal includes teasing, name-calling, taunting and racial slurs, as well as spreading gossip or malicious rumorsCyberbullying includes harassing e-mails or instant messages, as well as intimidating or threatening Web sites or blogsRelational aggression not allowing the person to speak to other children or be spoken to (primarily seen among girls)

Types of bullying

The bullySome studies suggest that 1 out of 7 children in the United States have either been the victim of bullying or has been the perpetrator of bullying against another student.

Statistics60 % of boys identified as bullies in grades 6 to 9 had one criminal conviction and 40% had three or more.

Those identified as bullies at age 8 had a one in four chance of having a criminal record by 30. (Norm is one in 20) (Eron and Huessman, 1987)

Statistics cont.Two types of victims:the passive victim, the shy child who is viewed as weak and

the provoking victim, the child that may initiate negative interactions with others

Who is targeted?

The bullying circleDamaged or missing personal belongingsUnexplained bruises or injuriesFew friendsReluctance of going to schoolPoor school performanceHeadaches, stomachaches or other physical complaintsDifficulty sleeping or eating

Signs of child being bulliedFear of going to schoolHeadaches & stomachachesDifficulty concentrating on schoolwork

Long-term bullying causes:Higher rates of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and other mental health conditions.Suicidal ideation and suffer from lingering wounds in adulthood

Victims of bullying suffer fromSometimes they may

think they will win or get what they wantwant to impress or entertain friendsenjoy power over others because sometimes they are being bulliedlack awareness that they are hurting others

Why do bullies bully?Parents that show little affection and involvementExtremely lenient parentingVery little supervisionSevere physical disciplineBullying behavior at home

Family influence of bullies

Message for bulliesPrevious methodsCurrent methodsChatroomsBlog sitesCell phonesInternetMySpaceFacebook (Angela)

Cyberbullying

Intent

What is the goal?

-to control-to threaten -to intimidate-to invade privacy -to scare-to annoy and harass -to spread rumors-to gossip -to be cruel -or to damage someones reputation

Who are they?BoyGirlManWomanoldyoungPedophilepredatorThings we know

Most common school bullies are the same bullies in cyberspace.

Most common school victims are the same victims in cyberspace.

The bullying behavior transfers from the internet to the school

There are no boundaries in cyberspace, anything goes (Netiquette).It is a misdemeanor for any bullying behaviorsover cyberspace, including texting, chatrooms,blogs, sexting, and cyberstalking. (VT, OH) How to identifyStarts spending excessive time on the internet late at nightStarts receiving phone calls late at nightChild minimizes pages quicklyHiding conversationsWithdrawing from families, friends, or school activitiesStopBlockTell What do I do?Keep a record of contacts from the harasser.Report harassment to your internet service provider (ISP).Get the school involved and aware of what is going on.Notify the police online crimes department.If the harassment is severe, contact the local FBI.NEVER plan to meet the harasser!!Do not leave your computer logged in unattended.Get in the habit of changing your password frequently.Check their email signature for personal information.Do NOT panic!-monitor your childs usage-learn about this technology and how it fits in their life-help understand what is appropriate/inappropriate-adjust your privacy settings-Google your childs name and monitor what comes upHow do I protect?LifeCharacterFail to notice Ignore itBlameFight

Common adult feelings on bullying

My child the bullyBad AttitudeLow Self-EsteemBullying Siblings

What it looks likeTake it seriously. Another child is being hurtTalk to your childHome life (Dont Be a Bully)Problem Solving Positive FeedbackPrevention ProgramsSupportWhat can I do?Ask a teacher or a school counselor if your child is facing any problems at school, such as if your child is struggling with a particular subject or has difficulty making friends. Ask if you can become more involved at schoolAsk them for advice on how you and your child can work through the problem.

School involvementhttp://pathwayscourses.samhsa.gov/bully/bully_1_pg2.htm

Letter from a bullyTwo out of three kids want to help when they see bullying, and helping out is one of the most effective ways to stop bullying and prevent it from happening again. When friends help out, 57 percent of the time bullying stops in 10 seconds (Hawkins, Pepler, and Craig, Social Development, 2001).There are effective and safe ways for kids to step in and help others being bullied.Some work better in certain situations than others. You can help kids decide when to use each method by role-playing bullying situations with them. Remember to emphasize that kids should only step in when they feel safe.

My child the bystanderAngryHelplessGuiltyUnsafeFear How does my child feel?Social SkillsGet to know their friendsTeach AssertivenessTeach CompassionBe a good example. Show kids safe ways to help others. Hold kids accountable. Educate

How can I help?Ask reporting policyAsk who can your child talk to youAsk if they have a curriculum or programsSchool involvementSigns to look for:

Withdrawal Loss of Friends Grades Drop Loss of InterestTorn Clothing Bruises Extra Needs

My child is being bulliedFocus on childBe SupportiveGather InfoTeach Avoidance Check your emotionsEducate

How can I help?SCHOOL INVOLVEMENTCommunicateEncourage Help

How can I help?

Communication Online FriendsContact School and/or PoliceDont EraseContact Websites/Mobile Phone Providers

cyberbullyingHelp DevelopEncourage Positive FriendshipsTeach Safety StrategiesHome Security

What can I do before Bullying Occurs?http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/webisodes/webisode-06.aspxBully webisodeChildren and youth report that bullying typically happens in unsupervised areas. The more adults who are watching for bullying, the better.Adults are responsible for creating safe.When bullying is overlooked by adults, children and youth are less likely to report it because they expect nothing will be done.

rememberTreat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and when you need it, someone will stand up for you.

The golden ruleParent Resourceswww.isafe.orgwww.privacyrights.orgwww.epic.org Privacy toolsPrivacy Alliancewww.safetyweb.comwww.staysafe.org www.safeteens.comwww.haltabuse.org (WHOA)Bullying: Help your child handle a school bully (2010). Children s Health (25). Retrieved from http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bullying/MH00126

Cyberbullying (July 16, 2010). Retrieved on July 21, 2010 from www.safetyweb.com.

For Kids (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from http://www.kzoo.edu/psych/stop_bullying/for_kids/what_is_a_bully.html

For Parents (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from http://www.kzoo.edu/psych/stop_bullying/forparents/general_information.html

For Teachers (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from http://www.kzoo.edu/psych/stop_bullying/forteachers/what_is_bullying.html

ReferencesGreco, J., Carneval, K., Cary, J., Laurenza, C. (2008). Partnering to prevent k-5 bullying. ASCA 2008 Annual Conference.

Susan Kuchinskas http://www.familygoesstrong.com/did-you-birth-bully?gclid=CKK0peP7_aICFRRsswodhUl0dQ

http://www.ncpc.org/topics/bullying/bullying-/what-parents-can-do

http://www.ncpc.org/topics/bullying/teaching-kids-about-bullying/what-to-teach-kids-about-bullyinghttp://www.nde.state.ne.us/SAFETY/Bullying%20Prevention/BullyingPreventionPreventionandInterventionStrategies.htm

More referencesMore referenceshttp://www.parentfurther.com/high-riskbehaviors/bullying?utm_campaign=parentfurther-search&utm_medium=search&utm_source=google&utm_term=bullying

Http://www.pbs.org/parents/itsmylife/resources/bullies.html?anchor=lesson_plans

U. S. Department of Health(2010). Stop bullying now. Retrieved on July 21, 2010 from www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov.

Wilson, K. (2007). Cyberbullying: A seven-step model to prevention. Retrieved from www.ASCA.com/2007/cyberbullying

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