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Banish Your Inner Critic

Denise R. Jacobs Web Design Day | Pittsburgh, PA 12 June 2015

@denisejacobs

@WebDesignDay

#banishyourcritic

Photo by Derek Kearney

Wait…What?!

Upon a time… http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

29 June http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com

Destructivity http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

The voices in my head were merciless

http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/

I totally freaked out

I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself

I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book

I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough?

No…really!

2 days http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

Worked non-stop https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/

Pushed myself to burn-out

http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/

My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

Made this happen

https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077

Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs

Internalized criticisms + fears

https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

= The Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/

aka “The Troll Under the Bridge”

F.E.A.R. =

http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

Or…

https://twitter.com/Phishtitz/status/474661495935365120

The enemy of creativity

http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

Creative brainwaves http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

Know your brainwaves

Stress & frustration

https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/

Suppress generative impulses in the brain

https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046

Dampens creative expression http://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/

How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

Not that hard, right?

http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

“OMG, I’m SO busy!”

“I should have done more by now…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/

“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”

“I don’t know enough”

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg

(or tricked into thinking this)

vs. “NAILED IT!” https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

Impostor Syndrome Paradox

http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/

“It needs to be FLAWLESS” http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

“I will do it tomorrow!”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

Feed each other

In order for http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

You need brain management

“The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…

…rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution

How do we…

http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/

Banish the Inner Critic?

https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/

Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/

Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

Ask it questions

http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/

Be compassionate http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

Reassign duty

http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/

Remember your successes http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/

(My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs

Maintain perspective http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/

*WHATEVER*

http://cdn.makeagif.com/media/1-23-2013/quhKj3.gif

Cop a Power Pose

Breaking the loop

Perfectionism http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” ― Anne Wilson Schaef

The real problem

http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg

Perfectionists focus on the finished product…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

Rather than the process http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

“The Best” vs “The most” https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

Wise words

Amen! https://twitter.com/dickelippe/status/581204005013078016/photo/1

Remember egocentricity

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

― Dr. Maya Angelou

Decouple your performance from who you are

https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

Fear of failure

http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth

Reframe failure http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/

And mistakez

https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

(maybe even embrace them) http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/

“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford

Humble beginnings Twitter, circa 2006

Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs

Take steps http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

#Fail http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/

Go again http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

Satisfice https://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

Be bad/make it ugly https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

“Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

Perfection ≠ Excellence

https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

Procrastination

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

The trick is not determining which you are…

http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

Nor administering a dose of

https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583

Increase the meaning/value

http://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/

Mind Tricks https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/

Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs

“Structured procrastination” https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

Eliminate distractions

From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

Ignore to focus

Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com

Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker

Aids for digital blocking

Added bonus HeyFocus.com

Airplane mode

http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

Make it a Sprint

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

Fill a Quota

https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

Remember this: Photo: Denise Jacobs

My story’s end? http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

February http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

#FAIL https://www.flickr.com/photos/dafnecholet/5374200948

#WINNING! http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs

https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/

Which created AMAZING things for me

Bad dreams https://www.flickr.com/photos/agroffman/4613265988

“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.”

“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected.

“No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.”

— from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

“Jam” = Reward / Satisfaction https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766

YOU NEVER GET JAM http://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg

By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs

Show you there is an alternative

https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144

“The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them “grown up”….

“…The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world. ” – Ursula K. L Guin

By understanding this

You’ll look at yourself differently https://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429

Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas

http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/

Because, after all…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212

The End Photo: Denise Jacobs

Get the slides!

creativedo.se/wdd-ic

Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity www.creativebloq.com/inspiration/four-secrets-enhancing-creative-productivity-9126098

Banishing Your Inner Critic alistapart.com/articles/banishing-your-inner-critic/

Reigniting Your Creative Spark alistapart.com/articles/reigniting-your-creative-spark/

Breaking the Perfectionism-Procrastination Infinite Loop webstandardssherpa.com/reviews/breaking-the-perfectionism-procrastination-infinite-loop/

My articles for further reading

My upcoming book! Banish Your Inner Critic

DeniseJacobs.com/InnerCritic

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