be a lighthouse helping others battling life’s storms find transformation

Be a Lighthouse

Helping Others Battling Life’s Storms

Find Transformation

HELP! I prayed, took meds, and love

my mother!I’m DYING

Psychological Defect-Tell me about your

mother!

Sin- Have more Faith!

Disease- Take your MEDS!

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Why Do We Struggle?

• Sin in the world - • Spiritual Warfare – Satan doesn't wait• Our wrong DM

– Protection from ourselves - (bowling alley)

• God’s sovereignty and plan to grow us and draw us - No Pain, No Gain

• Jesus started a BH Revolution


Change is Possible!!!

• Paul• Peter• Many in the Bible• Many in life• Jesus started a Behavioral Health

Revolution• Karl’s Story


Karl’s Story

Why did I become a

psychiatrist?


Karl’s First Beer


Stages of Change• Precontemplative• Contemplative• Preparation• Action• Maintenance

Elements of Change1. Change is Possible2. Goal or Destination3. Starting Point4. Understanding how I function 5. Strategy6. Motivation7. Power

Braveheart Fine Speech, Now What?• Pep Talk vs Strategy• Most Treatments, Mentoring,

Discipling ––No practical psychological or

spiritual strategy for battle


Les Miserables • New Man• Free Man

– Legally and Spiritually

• Needs Strategy• Perceptions of the different

characters• Jean Val-Jean’s Baggage/Nightmares


Your wish is my

command!

SOLOMON1 Kings 3:5, 9-11

The Most Important Spiritual Discipline:

Decision-Making

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Goal #1

To understand Decision-Making

Importance

Mechanics

Mind, Body, Spirit Integration


Goal #2

Practical Equipping for You

Professionally

Today

Matrix

Personally


The Most Important Spiritual Discipline:

Decision-Making

10 Reasons Why


Romans 12:1-2

I therefore urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercies, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices that are holy and pleasing to God, for this is the your spiritual act of worship.

Do not be conformed to this world, but continually be transformed by the renewing of your minds so that you may be able to determine what God's will is-what is proper, pleasing, and perfect.


For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.

2 Corinthians 10:3-6


1 Thessalonians 5:16-22

Rejoice always; pray without ceasing;in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not quench the Spirit; do not despise prophetic utterances. But examine everything carefully;

hold fast to that which is good; abstain from every form of evil.


Proverbs 4:23

Keep thy heart with all diligence; For out of it flows the wellspring of life.

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.Proverbs 23:7


Deuteronomy 30

10 The Lord your God will delight in you if you obey his voice and keep the commands and decrees written in this Book of Instruction, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your heart and soul.

11This command I am giving you today is not too difficult for you to understand, and it is within your reach.


19Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!

20 You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him. This is the key to your life. And if you love and obey the Lord, you will live long in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.


Goal: Mind of Christ

Jesus’ Brain = Perfection!

1. Perceived everything from a Godly perspective

2. Responded with Biblical skills


BrainWorks – My Brain

Based on new scientific research, my brain does 2 things


Perceives

Responds

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BrainWorks Research

Skin

GI / Cardiac

Panic Disorder Study


Panic Disorder and DepressionBefore and After St. John’s Wort and

EMDR


Heart of Transformation: Decision-Making

• No biological Intervention• But Brain Chemistry Improved/Renewed

Decision-making is exercise for brain• Good decisions = stronger brain• Bad decisions = injured brain


What determines accurate Perception and Response?Human Manuals – Distort lenses and responseHoly Bible – God’s Instruction Manual

DM: Science and Faith MeetPractical Theology

Integration and DM are Key!


Mind

SpiritBody

Decision-Making =

Spirit, Mind, & Body

Integration

DM: SMBI• Brain Chemistry – powerful gift is final

step of decisions• Mind – Free Will God gives us is DM

– Perceive/Respond– EXERCISE for brain chemistry

• Spirit – BIBLE principles and their application determines Decision Making Skills and Accuracy (P/R)

• Decision-Making the intersection for Spirit, Mind, and Body

• Therapy is a neurobiological intervention


Decision-Making1. Solomon’s Wish, God was pleased

Most Important Spiritual Discipline/Skill

2. God’s greatest gift you have 100% control of3. Spiritual Act of Worship4. Divinely Powerful Weapon5. Constant Mode of Prayer/Communication6. Wellspring of Life7. Key to Your Life8. Brain Exercise = Renews the Mind

Neurobiological Intervention

9. Intersection of Spirit, Mind, and Body; Science / Faith10.Light for Evangelism

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Stretch!!!


Decision-Making• Classes in DM?• Bible Teaches

– Jesus, Paul, Solomon, David, Peter, James– Biographies of good and bad

• Most people – Random– E-M-M-M, R-P-S, Dice, Magic 8 Ball, Coin Flip

• Biblical Examples– Gideon’s fleece, Cast lots, Urim and

Thumim, Prayer Dreams

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Decision-Making StruggleRomans 7:15-25

For what I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate So now, no longer am I the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me.

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Decision-Making StruggleRomans 7:15-25

I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good. For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man, but I see a different law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members. Wretched man that I am! Who will set me free from the body of this death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, on the one hand I myself with my mind am serving the law of God, but on the other, with my flesh the law of sin.

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Decision-Making Strategy

• How many Decisions per day?

• Decisions Determine the course of your life.

• Decisions determine whether your brain gets stronger or weaker

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SPEARS = Practical Theology

Psychotherapeutics• CBT• DBT• REBT• EFT• Mindfulness• Meditation• Psychodynamic

Psychotx• Motivational

Interviewing

Spiritual• Jesus Christ• Holy Spirit• Bible

There is a strategy to transform

• The Holy Spirit is perfect • We are not. DM is the key Spiritual

Discipline• Therefore, a strategy exists that we need

to follow. All 3 Spheres!• Reflect, Detect, Resurrect• Nobody ever teaches us thoroughly about

decision-making skills. – Jesus, James, Peter, Proverbs, Paul’s

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SPEARS• All the elements• Right sequence• Requires thought• Requires intention• Requires practice


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

Stimuli

• Stimuli is anything that acts on or mobilizes your coping mechanisms

• All stimuli is neutral

• God is sovereign


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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What word do you see?


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Test

• How many squares are there?

• Hint: What is the most important question?

• Is this the only way to view this?


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Perception Exercise

• Things are not always as they seem: 84!

• Assumptions• Jumping to

conclusions• Knee-jerk reactions


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Perception

• Perception is what really drives the decision-making process

• Subconscious• We are usually unaware of

perception because it occurs so fast in the decision-making process

• Adversary with a Strategy


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

Spiritual Warfare


• Your Soul!Satan’s Goal

• Your mind and brainBattlefield

• LiesWeapon• Lenses• EmotionsStrategies

Devil Dogs


Bell

Bell

Bell

Meat

Meat

No Drool

Drool

Drool

Drool

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Perception

• Satan gets to us as early as possible, when we are most gullible

• Unpack Life - FOO• Our brains our easily

influenced as kids (neuroplasticity)

• Relationships• Maturity is seeing life

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Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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Filters

•Greatest Perceived ThreatGPT•Greatest Perceived NeedGPN•Life Depends On LDO•Confidence C•MotivationM


Emotions


God has lots of emotions!

• Anger – Mat 23, Mark 3, John 2, 2 Kings 24• Jealousy – Exodus 20, Deut 6• Sad/Wept – Luke 19, John 11, Heb 5• Troubled – John 12• Forsaken – Matt 27• Abandoned – Matt 27• Tempted – Matt 4• Worried – Luke 22


Emotion• Warning system• Not a decision-

making system• Distort reality

- Court- Doctors

• Volume Buttons• Biblical truths soothe


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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Assessment

• Who is stronger: a tiger or a man?

• Emotional and intellectual volume– We fail when we let

our emotions rule our intellect

– Poor tolerance and soothing of negative feelings


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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Assessment• Options• Pros and Cons

• Weigh pros and cons using the filters (GPT, GPN, LDO, C, M)– SMB Damage/growth– Motivators


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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Response

• We need a relationship with God

• We need to put on the Armor of God

• Is this helping me or others become more Christ-like?

• WWJD?• Mark 12:30• Sometimes a combo of

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Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

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Summary Thought

• After review of each element

• Celebrate our successes, and learn from our failures

• Are my responses working for long term health

• Heart Change• Self-reflection and

assessment is paramount• Autopsy


Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought


Driving Force for Dysfunction

PAIN

Old BeliefsNew Beliefs

Stimuli

Perception

Emotion

Assessment

Response

Summary Thought

Main ProblemsOLD Beliefs-Lies NEW Beliefs-TruthNegative feelings are bad Negative feelings are our warning

system

I am all alone Jesus is with me, hook his yoke

We can’t endure negative feelings

We can endure and grow;God will meet us and give peace

We only have skills and of 8 yo We have skills and of an adult

Talking about them is bad Talking abut them is good

One variable is same, so all are same

One variable is same, so only one is same


DeconstructionS – “Screen Door is Broken”

P – Rubic – Intruding on my agenda for the dayGPT – not good enough, incompetent, not in controlGPN – control, competency, power, authorityLDO – me being in charge to minimize pain C – my ability to control and manipulate, verbally argue, control = power = soothingM – not feel the pain, be in charge or in control, do what I want to do when I want to do it


DeconstructionE – incompetent, worthless, failure, poor

husband, falling behind, angry, E Volume = 8 T Volume = 1

A – ignore, yell(leave me alone, I’m busy), shift blame(you and girls broke it), pick on her(laundry not done), pros/cons based on my filters/motivators

R – ignore, then blame themST – got her off my back and on a different topic,

get to do my agenda and watch the gamePain – incompetence, no control, exposed, out of

agendaold beliefs: I’m a little kid, people

telling me what to do, blaming me, I’m responsible for their feelings, this will ruin my day and all the other activities


ReconstructionPain – new beliefs:

Neg feelings are only warning system, God is sharing my yoke, God provides peace and comfort, I’m an adult, Won’t last long

He brought this for a reason for my growth so embrace it


ReconstructionS – “Screen Door is Broken”

P – Rubick – Opportunity and chance to serve my wife

GPT – dishonoring God, Flesh on throne, out of God’s will

SMB impact, hurting my wifeGPN – God’s will, please God, SMB growth, fruit of Spirit, LDO – Mind of Christ – SMB growth, AmbassadorC – God’s promises, Love, Forgiveness, Character, Instruction, His plan has worked in the pastM – SMB growth, Fruit of Spirit, giving back to God


ReconstructionE – interested, curious, connected to wife, slight excitement, sl financial worry but know God provides

E Volume = + 4 -1.5 T Volume = 8A – “wait till I am finished”, teamwork – call handyman, check our budget, go to home depot together

pros/cons based on my filters/motivatorsR – ask her to wait 15 minutes then we check it together, agree we can live with it but if it gets worse, call handyman for adviceST – honored God, wife, myself, SPEARS was good, SMB +,

fruit of spirit, no fruit of fleshPain – not much relational and was able to rely on God to see me thru the slight disruption and financial concern


Deconstruction/Reconstruction

• Prospective• Retrospective – Autopsy• Flexibility• Journaling• Thinking about it more – then real time use• Skills need Practice• Behavioral Change• Examination of Heart• Heart Change leads to Real Transformation• Motivators for Change


Hardware Summary

• Most important Spiritual Discipline• Bible talks the most about DM• Exercise for the Brain, Spirit, Mind• Intersection of S,M,B• Intersection of Science and Faith• Need a Strategy, Slow the Mind• SPEARS• Reveals what’s in the Heart• Easiest way to reflect/detect/resurrect


DM Key Points


Summary• Science and Spirituality can fit together well• Matrix Moments• Need a Strategy• Learned a sound and SMB Integration model• Decision-making is the key spiritual discipline

and core competency everyone needs to learn• Decision-Making is the exercise of the brain• SPEARS is a complete decision-making model

– Integrates all 3 spheres– Practical to implement and utilize– Core to any treatment level and modality

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Role of Mentor• Facilitator of cure • Encouragement, Hope, Raise the Ceiling of

Potential and Peace• Helping mentee see reality/truth and understand

SMB pros/cons of DM– Showing client how to dig deep to uncover the

distortions guiding their DM/life• With SPEARS – own out loud, or prompting

mentee• Trouble shooting to move thru 5 stages of

Change• Helping them formulate

practices/discipline/strategy that are healthy and sustainable

• DM renews Brain Chemistry


Lighthouse NETWORK Resources

• WITHIN REACH: Disciplines for Real Life Change– 10+ Hours of DVD– 140 Page Workbook

• EDGING FORWARD: Mastering the Art of Godly Decision-Making– 8 Chapels(25 min each) on DVD

• Free Stepping Stones Daily Devotional – Emailed daily

• Addiction: Sin, Disease, or Psychological Defect DVD• Can Psych Meds Help Christians? DVD• Depression, Cutting, Bipolar DVDs• No Other Gods (SPEARS and example) DVD

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ESTHER 4:14

For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?


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