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8/7/2019 BEHAVIOR SCIENCE FORGIVENESS

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FORGIVENESS LEADS TO HEALTHY

LIVING

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� Presented by:

� Prateek Godiyal

� Mickhil Nath

� Ajjit Arora� Taaming Welly

� Ishan Tripathi



Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of

concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a

result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake,and/or ceasing to demand punishment .

� Since forgiveness is an absoluterequirement in attaining eternal life, man

naturally ponders: How can I best securethat forgiveness? One of many basic

factors stands out as indispensableimmediately: One must forgive to be

forgiven.



Forgiveness - Letting Go of Anger and

Resentment

� We have all heard of the expression forgive and forget but why is it so difficult for most people to let go of animosity? And

even if we can possibly do the forgiving, can we ever truly forget in

a situation where we feel seriously wronged?

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he question is: can forgiving others really impact your lifesubstantially for the better? The dictionary definition of the verb

forgive means to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone

for an offense, flaw or mistake. All of us have experienced

situations where we tend to hold on to anger and hostility.

Sometimes we have a truly good reason to hang on to it; other

times it is really a perceived or subjective condition that seemsto magnify over time in our minds. For instance, if ones spouse or

partner cheats on them most would agree that such an action is

morally and ethically wrong. And that might justify hostile,

negative thought regarding the wayward person.



But real forgiveness the kind that comes from our hearts

and really helps us let go of the pain, the anger and the sadness

is often hard to.

� T here are different ways to forgive and different forms of forgiveness:

� 1) Forgiving someone from your own perspective. This type

of forgiveness does not actively involve the other person whois the object of your bitter feelings. This means doing theinner work on your own (or with a therapist, counselor, etc.) piece by piece, releasing each segment of negative,resentful emotion.

� 2) Forgiving someone face to face. Some situations are bestresolved actively with the other person. You need to sincerelyshare your forgiveness and let them know you are ready tobegin anew with the relationship.



� 3) Learning from the experience. Life teaches us all kinds of

lessons, and we need to be open to at least learn from

difficult experiences. What can you personally learn from the

experience of holding on to the anger versus letting

forgiveness into your life? W

� 4) Accepting healing into your life and moving on. Being

open to complete emotional healing is key to the act of forgiveness. When we are stuck in prolonged situations of

anger toward others, our lives are certainly not joyful. The

more anger you feel, the more anger and negativity you

attract into your life.



� Letting go of grudges and bitterness makes way forcompassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to:

� Healthier relationships

� Greater spiritual and psychological well-being

� Less stress and hostility

� Lower blood pressure

�Fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain

� Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse



� W hy is it so easy to hold a grudge? � When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you may become angry,

sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filledwith resentment, vengeance and hostility may take root. If you allownegative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you may find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

� W hat are the effects of holding a grudge? � If you're unforgiving, you may pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger

and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life maybecome so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. Youmay become depressed or anxious. You may feel that your life lacksmeaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs. Youmay lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.



� Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the

journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other in theface. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything wrote

in the sand: Today my best friend slapped me in the face.

� They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take

a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and starteddrowningbut the friend saved him.

� After he recovered from the near-drowning, he wrote on a stone: Today my

best friend saved my life. The friend who had slapped and saved his best

friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you

write on a stone. Why?"

The Winds of Forgiveness



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The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us,

we should write it down in sand where winds of

forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone

does something good for us, we must engrave it in

stone where no wind can ever erase it.



Anger, Love, & Forgiveness

� Anger, love and forgiveness are huge issues in our world, and

maybe in our own home. You can learn to forgive, but youmay well have to learn how to release and express ur anger inhealthy ways first! If you make anger the "bad guy," u justwon't get to the true benefits of forgiveness.

Anger has to be fully understood and released before u get tomove on to the freedom of total forgiveness. Love andforgiveness have to be fully understood before you can let goof resentments and be emotionally whole and free.



� I t All Starts W ith Love

We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one,

even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly.Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of

course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse,

abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

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