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ToHope!

Mostofthebeautifulthingsinmylifehave

bloomedthroughyou,includingtheinformation

inthisbook.Whatbeganwithsomuchpainand

heartachehasnowtransformedmylifeinto“hope

fulfilled,”andbeyond.Ifanyonebenefitsfrom

thesepages,itwouldneverhavehappened

withoutyou.Thankyouforputtingupwithme.I

knowthat’safull-timejob.

ILOVEYOU!

CONTENTS

CoverTitlePageCopyrightDedication

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

INTRODUCTIONLifeBeyondWillpower

PARTITHEFOUNDATIONSOFTHEGREATESTPRINCIPLE

CHAPTER1DeterminingYourUltimateSuccessGoal

CHAPTER2CellularMemory

CHAPTER3TheSpiritualPhysicsofTruthandLove

PARTIIHOWTHEGREATESTPRINCIPLEWORKS

CHAPTER4ThreeToolstoDeprogramandReprogramYourHumanHardDriveandItsSoftware

CHAPTER5SetSuccessGoals,NotStressGoals

PARTIIIPUTTINGTHEGREATESTPRINCIPLEINTOACTION

CHAPTER6BasicDiagnostics:IdentifyandHealtheSourceofYourSuccessIssues

CHAPTER7TheGreatestPrincipleSuccessBlueprint

CONCLUSIONLoveTruly

EPILOGUEPracticalSpirituality

FURTHERRESOURCESNOTES

AbouttheAuthor

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

AspecialthankyoutoKathleenHagerty—youhelpedmegetthisfrommyheadandhearttothepageandmadeitaBLAST!ToAmandaRooker—you took a very rough manuscript and created sense out of it; Icouldn’t have done this without you. To Harry, Hope, and George—thanksforputtingupwithallthenote-takingandwritingatweirdtimes,andlovingmethroughitall.Tomyagent,BonnieSolow—allIcansayisthatyousavedthisbook,andIwillbeforevergrateful.Youarethebest!ToDianaBaroniand theRandomHouse team—thankyou forall yourwonderfulwork,and forgivingmeavibrant,warm,andcaringhome.AndtoGod,forgivingmesomethingtowriteabout—Iamyours!

introduction

LIFEbeyond

WILLPOWER

Thisbookisaboutlivinglifebeyond.Beyondwillpower.Beyondtheordinary.Beyondyourfears.Beyondyourcircumstances.Beyondyourhopesanddreams.Growingup,Ialwaysbelieveditwaspossibletolivealifebeyond.But

onlywhenIlosteverythingthatmatteredmosttomedidIfindawaytoactuallydoit.Although theprinciplesyou’ll learn inBeyondWillpower are ancient,

thecutting-edgesciencethatconfirmstheseprinciplesisbrandnew—asisthemechanical,step-by-stepprocessyou’lllearnthatwillenableyounotonlytochoosethelifebeyond,buttoliveitfromnowon.It’stakenmetwenty-fiveyearstodiscoverandhonethisprocess,butI

believethat’sexactlywhatI’mofferingyou.I call it the Greatest Principle in the World That Almost Nobody

Knows.Beforewegoanyfurther,I’dliketoaskyouaquestion:Whatisyour

biggest problem or unrealized potential?What are you searching for?Whatisthenumberonethinginyourlifethatneedstobepulledoutofthe pit, kicked off the couch, or have amagicwandwaved over it? Iwouldaskyounottoreadanyfurtheruntilyouhaveatleastonethinginmindfromyourlifethatneedsfixing—evenifyou’vetriedeverything

tofixitandnothinghaseverworked.Onethingthatneedstoberescuedfromfailureormediocritytoroaringsuccess.IbelievetheGreatestPrincipleisthatmagicwandyouneed.Iknowthis claim soundspresumptuous,but I’monly saying it because Ihavewatched it happen virtually 100 percent of the time with my privateclients over the last twenty-five years. I believe you can apply theprocess outlined in this book to any aspect of your life and see ittransformfromacaterpillartoabutterfly.Let me guess what’s going through your mind right now: you’rethinking,I’veheardthatbefore.Infact,you’vehearditahundredtimes,andforsomeofyou,you’vehearditsomanytimesthatyoucan’tevenbelieve thatwhat I’m telling you is possible.Yeah right, anothermagicbulletthatconsmeoutoftwenty-fivebucksandleavesmerightbackwhereIstarted. If that’swhatwent throughyourhead, Iget it. I’vebeen theremyself.But Ineed to letyou inonasecretabout thesuccess/self-helpindustry:ithasa97percentfailurerate.

THE97PERCENTSELF-HELPFAILURERATEMost of us have read or have figured out on our own that the vastmajority of success and self-help programs fail. If they worked, wewouldn’tkeeplookingforanewoneeveryyear,wouldwe?Andthisso-calledindustry(worth$10billionannuallyintheUnitedStatesalone)1woulddryup,becauseiftherewereoneprogramthatreallyworkedforeveryone, we’d all be living happy, healthy, and fulfilled lives. Forexample,oneofthetop-sellingnonfictioncategoriesofbooksisweightloss. Now, who do you think buys the weight-loss books this year?Answer: The same people who bought them last year—because lastyear’sbooksdidn’twork!Butthesecretisn’tthatmostsuccessandself-helpprogramsfail—it’sthatthesuccessindustryexpertsalreadyknowthis.Andthefailurerateisfarworsethanwethought.Accordingtoindustryinsiders,thefailurerateinthesuccessindustry(which includes books, lectures, workshops, programs, and more) isapproximately 97 percent. Yes, you read that right—97 percent. MycolleagueandfriendKenJohnstonranthelargestpersonaldevelopmentseminar company inNorth America and has openly lectured for years

about what most industry insiders will only whisper behind lockeddoors: that the average success rate is about 3 percent. From thatsuccessful3percent,theygetenoughtestimonialsfortheirmarketingtoportray a success machine that works for anyone and everyone. Butaccordingtotheirownexperience,thatisn’tso.What’s even more interesting is that the vast majority of theseprogramsfollowthesamebasicblueprint:

1.Focusonwhatyouwant.

2.Figureoutaplantogetthere.

3.Puttheplanintoaction.

That’sit.Pickyourprogram,book,doctor,ormentor,andchancesareheorshewillteachsomeversionofthattemplate.Infact,youcantraceitbacktotheseminalself-helpbookThinkandGrowRichbyNapoleonHill, published in 1937, and it’s been popularized by other books andprograms for at least thepast sixty-five years. Focuson the result youwant,makeaplan,anduseyourwillpowertoputthatplanintoaction.The formulamakes sense, right?Of course itmakes sense. It’swhatwe’ve heard all our lives. Problem is, itwon’twork. According to thelatestresearchoutofHarvardandStanford,whichwe’llcoverindetailinchapter1,thisparadigmisnotonlyineffective,butfor97percentofusitisaveritableblueprintforfailure.Why?Thetypicalthree-stepself-helpblueprint—determinewhatyouwant,makeaplan,andworkthatplanuntilyouachievewhatyouwant—relies on two components: expecting an external end result (steps 1and2),andrelyingonthe toolofwillpower(step3).Aswe’ll learn inchapter 1, expectations inherently cause chronic stress until the endresult is achieved or not—and medical science has proven repeatedlythatstressistheclinicalsourceofvirtuallyeveryproblemwecanhaveinlifeandessentiallyguaranteesfailure.Dependingonwillpower(step3) also virtually guarantees failure, becausewillpower depends on thepower of the consciousmind. Aswe’ll also discover in chapter 1, oursubconscious and unconscious attitudes are literally a million timesstronger than our conscious mind, so if our subconscious andunconsciousdirectlyopposeourconsciouswillpowerforanyreason,our

conscious mind will lose every time. Furthermore, trying to “force” acertain result with willpower that our unconscious is blocking spikesyourstresslevel—again,activatingthecauseofvirtuallyeveryproblemyoucanhaveinyourlife.In otherwords, the reasonwhy there has been a 97 percent failure

rate for thepast sixty-fiveyears is that theacceptedblueprint literallyteachesfailure.Thestudentswhousedthatprocessweresimplylearningexactlywhattheywerebeingtaught.Here’stheclincher:ifexpectationsinherently put us under stress, and using our willpower to achievehappiness and success is amillion-to-one shot (andwill result in evenmore stress), then this blueprint not only guarantees we won’t havehappiness and success long term,but alsomeans that following itwillmakethingsevenworsethanifwehadnevertrieditinthefirstplace.Youmaybewondering, If this blueprint is a blueprint for failure, then

whydoesitseemsorightandnaturaltome?Therearethreereasons:

1.It’showyou’rewired.Focusingontheendresultcomesfromyour hardwired programming, otherwise known as yourstimulus/responseorseekpleasure/avoidpainprogramming.It’spart of your survival instinct, and it’s what you used almostexclusivelyduring the first sixor eightyearsofyour life:wantice cream cone, plan to get ice cream cone, go get ice creamcone.That’swhy it feels sonatural.Thebigproblem is thatasadults,we’renot supposed to live thiswayunlessour life is inimmediatedanger.Afteraroundagessixtoeight,we’resupposedtostartlivingaccordingtowhatweknowisrightandgood,byandlargeregardlessofthepainorpleasureinvolved.(I’llexplainmoreaboutthisinchapter1aswell.)Soinessence,ifwelivebythis blueprint as adults, we are acting like five-year-olds anddon’tevenknowit.

2. It’swhat you see everyone else doing. In other words, thisblueprint iswhatyou’veseenmodeledas therightapproach inalmost every context: you see something youwant, you figureouthowtoget it, andyouuseyourwillpower togoget it. It’smodeledforyoubyyourpeers,yourteachers,andyourparents.

3. It’swhat theexpertshavebeenteaching for the lastsixty-fiveyears.AsImentionedpreviously,thisblueprinthasformedthe basis of virtually every self-help bestseller or program fornearlysevendecades.

Thetypicalmethodologyof today’sself-helpandsuccessprogramsisnotonlyoutdated,itwasdefectivetobeginwith.ButIdon’treallyneedstatisticsorstudiestotellmepursuinganendresultwithmywillpowerisablueprintforfailure.Iknowitfromexperience.About twenty-five years ago, I was working as a counselor forteenagers and their families to help them stay on the right path andbecomesuccessfulinlife.Iwastrainedinthistypicalself-helpblueprint,and I had been following it for years in every aspect of my life.Nevertheless, I foundmyself failing in my work with teenagers. Evenmore,Iwasfailinginmyfinances,tothepointoffinancialbankruptcy.Even though Iwaspaintingonahappy face, Iwasmiserable inside. Ihadbeensearchingfortheanswerstohowtohelppeople—particularlymyself—become successful in life for years: through religion, self-help,psychology, medicine, and advice from people I respected. Nothingworked.And,ofcourse,Iblamedmyself,nottheteachings.I’mjustnottryinghardenough,ordoingitright!Itoldmyself.Iwas at thepoint of throwing everythingoverboardbecause I felt Icouldn’tlivemylifethiswayanymore.Irememberthinking,HowdidIscreweverythingupsofast?Iwasonlyinmytwenties,andIfeltlikeIwasfailingineverysingleareaoflife.Well,apparentlyIwasn’tquitedoneyet.OnestormySundaynight in1988,after threeyearsofmarriage,mywife,Hope,saidshe“neededtotalktome.”Eventhoughshe’dsaidthatthousands of times before, she’d never said it like this. I knew inmybonesthatsomethingwasup,anditwasn’tgood.Shehadahardtimelookingmeintheeye.Hervoicewastrembling,butIcouldtellshewasalsotryingtokeepitsteady.“Alex,Ineedyoutomoveoutofthehouse.Ican’tstandtolivewithyouanymore.”Now, I grew up in an Italian-like family. We argued and debatedincessantlyabouteverything,frompolitics,toreligion,towhatweweregoingtodoontheweekends.ButIdidn’thaveonewordofrebuttalinthissinglemostimportantmomentinmylife.AllIcouldcomeupwith

was…“Okay.”So I left. I numbly packed my little bag with a few essentials and

quietly leftwithout saying anotherword. Iwent tomyparents’ houseand spentallnight in thebackyardpraying, searching, crying—feelinglikeIwasdyinginside.WhatIdidn’tknowatthetimewasthatthiswasthebest thingthat

could have ever happened to me. Over the next six weeks, I wouldexperience themost positive turning point inmy life. I had just beeninductedintoasortof“spiritualschool”whereIwouldlearnthekeytoallthings:whatIhavecometocalltheGreatestPrinciple.But that night, it felt likemy lifewas over. I kept asking, over and

overagain,“Why is thishappening?” Itwasa fairquestion,because iftherewasanything I shouldhavesucceededat, itwasmarriage.WhenHope and I got married, we were more prepared for marriage thananyonewe knew. On our very first date, wewent to the park, laid ablanketoutonthegrassonabeautifulstarryfallnight,andwe talked.Andtalked.Andtalked.Andtalked.That’sit.Forsixhoursstraight,wetalked.Younameit;wetalkedaboutit.Andthatwasjustthefirstdate.Whenweranoutofthingstotalkabout,wereadbookstogether.We

would get the same book—one about relationships or something wewerebothinterestedin—andreaditonourown,underliningandtakingnotes. Then, on our dates,wewould compare notes and discusswhatwe’dread.Wedidpremaritalcounselingvoluntarily.Wetookpersonalitytests and compared them and talked to counselors about our possibleissuesandtheirresolutions.WhenthedayofourweddingcameonMay24,1986,wewereready.Well,wethoughtwewereready.Now,lessthanthreeyearslater,she

couldn’tstandthesightofme,andIwasveryunhappyaswell.Why?That night in my parents’ backyard was when my real education

started.IheardavoiceinmyheadthatIbelievedtobeGod’s.ThevoicetoldmesomethingthatIdidn’twanttohear—somethingthatoffendedme, in fact.Thenthevoiceaskedmethreequestions thatshookmetomycoreandoverthenextsixweeksdeprogrammedandreprogrammedme to the very source of my being—and I would never be the same.Those three questions would become the beginning of the GreatestPrincipleSuccessBlueprint(whichyou’llfindinchapter7).Ithappenedtomeinaninstant,butitwouldtakemethenexttwenty-fiveyearsto

workoutexactlyhowtodoitondemandforanyone.Infact,asitexiststoday,youmightsayit’stheexactoppositeofthetypicalthree-stepself-helpblueprint.Anditalsohastheexactoppositeeffect:a97+percentsuccess rate or higher, based onmy experience, versus the 97 percentfailure rate of the typical self-help blueprint over the past sixty-fiveyears.Afteraboutsixweeksofseparation,Hopereluctantlyagreedtogoon

a date withme again. Shewould tell me later that the first time shelookedinmyeyesthatday,sheknewIwasnotthesameman.Shewasright.EventhoughIlookedthesameontheoutside,Ihadtransformedinto a completely different person on the inside. Because of her pastpain, shewouldn’t tellme that or let down her guard for quite sometime.Buttheresultwasinevitableandinescapable.EventhoughwelaterhadstrugglesrelatedtoHope’shealthandwith

finances,2 themost important things in our liveswere never the sameagain.Ihadbeen,andwasbeing,transformedbytheGreatestPrinciple.AndHopewasstartingtobetransformed,too.Fromthatdayon,IbeganteachingtheGreatestPrincipletoeveryone

Icould,includingtheteenagersandparentswithwhomIwasworkingatthat time.Nomatterwhat they thought their problemwas, nomatterwhat they thought they needed to be saved from, what they reallyneededtoknowwastheGreatestPrinciple.Hereitisinanutshell:Virtually every problemor lack of happiness and success comes froman

internal state of fear in some form—even physical problems. And everyinternalstateoffearresultsfromadeficitofloveinrelationtothatparticularissue.Anothernameforthefearresponseisthestressresponse.Iffearisthe

problem,thenlove,itsopposite,istheantidote.Inthepresenceofreallove,therecanbenofear(exceptinalife-threateningemergency).Thismaysoundverytheoretical.Fortunately, inthelastfewyears,researchhas been done to back this up scientifically (which we will discussthroughoutthisbook).Everything,evenyoursuccessissuesandexternalcircumstances,boilsdowntowhetheryouareinaninternalstateoffearoraninternalstateoflove.When I beganmy counselingpractice, this iswhat I began teaching

everysingleclientintherapy:nomatterwhattheirpresentingproblemwas—health, relationships, success, anger, anxiety—I believed the

underlyingsourcewasalwaysalove/fearproblem.Iflovecouldreplacefear,Ibelievedtheirsymptomswouldgetbetterinawaythatmayneverhappenotherwise.But I soondiscovered a problem: just tellingpeople to “love”didn’twork. Having them read, study, and meditate on ancient manuscriptsandprinciples rarelyworked. I tried to teach themto“justdo”what Ihadbeentransformedtonaturallydo,butvirtuallynoneofthemcould.Guesswhat: Iwas teachingthemthethree-step failureblueprint,andIdidn’tevenknowit! Iwas telling themtochange theirconscious fear-basedthinkingtolove-basedthinking,changetheirfear-basedemotionsto love-based emotions, and their fear-based behavior to love-basedbehavior.Inotherwords,Iwastellingthemtofocusonexpectationsofexternalendresultsusingtheirwillpower!Severalsaid,“Yeah,thanksalot for the advice.” Another toldme sarcastically, “Yeah, I’ll just startthatrightafterlunch—noproblem.”Ilaterfiguredoutwhytheyweresocynical: theyhadalreadytriedtolivethiswayandcouldn’t, just likeIhad tried countless times in my life before that night at my parents’house,andhadn’tbeenabletoeither.Something real and transformative happened to me that night andover the next six weeks that I have come to call a “transformationalaha.”Itwasn’tthatIjust“decided”tolovethatnightandstarteddoingitwithmywillpower. Somethinghappened inan instant that replacedmyinternalfearstatewithalovestateandmademenaturallyloveinawayIsimplycouldn’tbefore,withouthavingtoexertwillpower. I sawthe truth inaway Ihadneverseen itbefore,and Ideeplyunderstoodand “felt” what love was and knew it to be true. I instantly startedthinking, feeling, believing, and acting in love rather than fear, peaceinstead of anxiety; light flooded into my darkness, and I startedeffortlesslydoingthingsIcouldhardlyforcemyselftodobefore.If you think of your brain as a computer harddrive, itwas likemybrainwas instantlydeprogrammedandreprogrammedabout the issuesof love and fear. It was like exchanging one software package foranother.Tobehonest,thistransformationalahawaslikeatypeofvisioninwhichIglimpsedthetruthaboutloveinasinglemomentandheldonto it. In fact, Einstein wrote about a similar experience regarding histheoryofrelativity.Hesawhimself,inhismind,ridingabeamoflight,andhe credits that visionas thebeginningofhis famous theory (E=

mc2). Thewhole truthwas revealed to him in an instant—but it tookhimtwelveyearstocomeupwiththemathtoproveit.Isoonlearnedthatyoucan’thaveatransformationalahajustbecauseyou want to. I realized I hadn’t yet “come up with the math,” so tospeak.IneededpracticaltoolsandspecificinstructionsIcouldteachthatanyoneandeveryonecouldapplytoanysituationthatwoulddeprogramtheirfearandreprogramtheminlove—atthedeepestlevel,toactuallyliveinlove.Toolsthatwouldreallyaddressthesourceofwhateverissuetheyhad,justlikemytransformationalahahaddoneforme.Overthenexttwenty-fouryears,that’sexactlywhatIdid.AsIworkedwithclients,IeventuallydiscoveredtheThreeTools(whichyou’lllearnabout in chapter 4) that helped them go directly to the subconscioussource,deprogramfear,andchangetheirdefaultprogrammingtolove.NotonlydidIdiscovertheThreeTools,Ialsodiscoveredthefutilityofthetypicalthree-stepself-helpblueprint.Inthisbook,I’llteachyouhowto finally achieve happiness and success in all areas of your life usingthese Three Tools—naturally, organically, and not based on tryingharderwithyourwillpower.When I first got my master’s in counseling, I hung out my shinglebeforeIwasevenlicensed—whenIwasstillunderthesupervisionofapsychologist. Then I did something that either really irked, or becamethe source of jokes of, my more experienced colleagues in Nashville,Tennessee: I charged the full psychologist rateof $120 for50minutes(andthiswastwenty-plusyearsago).Nobodydoesthatwithamaster’sincounseling!ButIknewthat,basedonmyexperience,Iwouldusuallyonlyseemyclientsforonetotensessions,typicallyoverthecourseofsixmonths,until theirproblemswereresolvedandtheywouldn’tneedmeanymore.Otherpsychologiststypicallysawtheirclientsonceaweekfor one to three years. (Perhaps you’re seeing some of thosepsychologists now.) Also, while other psychologists primarily taughtclientscopingmechanismstodealwithissuesthatwouldlikelyremainproblems for the rest of their lives, I was consistently seeing fullresolutionofissueswithmyclients.Isimplytaughtthemwhatyouwillfindinthisbook.Sixmonthsafter startingmypractice in thisveryunorthodoxway, Ihadasix-monthwaitinglist.Ialsohadalineofcolleaguesknockingonmydoorandcallingme,eithercursingmeorsweetlyaskingmeoutto

lunch to find outwhat the heck Iwas doing over here, because theirclientswerecomingtome.TheGreatestPrinciplechangednotonlymylife,butalsothelivesof

countless others in my private practice. And I believe it will changeyours,too.

THE97PERCENTSUCCESSRATEThe Greatest Principle is in perfect harmony with ancient spiritualwisdom and the very latest clinical research andmethodology—and itprovides the solution thatwillpower can’t.According to researchwe’lldiscuss in chapters 1 and 4, the typical three-step self-help blueprintliterallyturnsonthemechanisminthebrainthat

•dumbsusdown;

•makesussick;

•drainsourenergy;

•suppressesourimmunesystem;

•increasesourpain;

•raisesourbloodpressure;

•closesourcells;

•destroysrelationships;

•causesfear,anger,depression,confusion,shame,andworthandidentityissues;and

• causes us to do everythingwe do from a negative perspective,evenifwepaintonahappyface.

Incontrast,notonlycantheGreatestPrincipleturnoffthemechanism

above, it can literally turn on another mechanism in the brain that,accordingtoclinicalresearch,

•enhancesrelationships;

•increasesparentalbonding;

•resultsinlove,joy,andpeace;

•increasesimmunefunction;

•reducesstress;

•lowersbloodpressure;

•counteractsaddictionandwithdrawal;

•stimulateshumangrowthhormone;

•increasestrustandwisejudgment;

•modulatesappetite,healthydigestion,andmetabolism;

•promoteshealing;

•stimulatesrelaxation;

•stimulatesnonstressenergy;

•stimulateshigherneurologicalactivity;and

•openscellstohealingandregeneration.3

What exactly are thesemechanisms?The first is the stress response,whichresultsfrominternalfear.Thestressresponsecausesthereleaseofcortisol,which results in all the symptoms in the first list. The secondmechanismisactivatedbytheabsenceofinternalfear,whichisinternallove.Theexperienceofinternallovereleasesoxytocin(commonlyknown

as the “love hormone”) and other peptides in the brain and hormonalsystem,whichresultsinallthepositivesymptomsinthesecondlist.Togiveyouasenseofthedepthofclinicalresearchbehindtheselists,

GeorgeVaillant recentlypublished the findingsofHarvardUniversity’sGrant StudyofHumanDevelopment, the “longest-running longitudinalstudiesofhumandevelopmentinhistory.”Beginningin1938,thestudyfollowed268undergraduatemaleswellintotheirninetiestodeterminethefactorsthatcontributedtohumanhappinessandsuccess.Here’showVaillant, who directed the study for over thirty years, sums up thefindings:“Theseventy-fiveyearsandtwentymilliondollarsexpendedonthe Grant Study points to a straightforward five-word conclusion:Happinessislove.Fullstop.”4Hopefullynowyoucanseehowoursuccessandfailuredependupon

our internal state and whether it is based in love or fear. If the firstmechanism, the stress response, is operating in your life—and in myexperience,itisforthevastmajorityofpeople—youaregoingtofail,orat the very least fall short of your perfect success. You can only pushagainstthatimmovablerockforsolonguntilyougiveout.Conversely,ifthe secondmechanism, internal love, isoperating inyour life,youwillbecomesuccessful—andnotbecauseyou’retryingharder.Youaresimply“programmed”tosucceed.MyfriendandmedicaldoctorDr.BenJohnsonsays that ifwecould

evercreateapillthatwouldactivatethissecondmechanisminthebrainandcause thenaturalreleaseofoxytocin, itwould immediatelybe thetop-sellingdrugofalltime.Itwouldnotjustbethewonderpill.Itwouldbe the “100 percent happy and healthy all the time” pill!Howwouldyoulikeaprescriptionforthat?Well,thisbookisyourprescription.

ALIGNINGTRUESCIENCEWITHTRUESPIRITUALITYNowIcanexplainmoreaboutwhatIlearnedduringthosesixweeksin“spiritual school,” after Hope kicked me out of the house twenty-fiveyearsago. ItbeganwhenIrealizedthatnotonlyhadInot truly lovedHope,Ididn’tevenknowwhatlovewas.Evenmore,IrealizedthatnooneelseIknewunderstoodwhatlovereallywaseither.Inotherwords,mymarriagehadn’tbeenbasedonmyloveforHope

in the context of an intimate relationship; it had been based on anegotiationandabusinessdeal.Thatbusinessdealwasmysafetynet:ifyoudothisforme,I’lldothatforyou.Ifnot,well…itwouldbefairforme to withhold something until I got what I bargained for, right? IfHopehadn’tdonewhatIwantedandactedinthewaysIwantedwhenweweredating,IknewIwouldhaveneveraskedhertomarryme.Evennowthatweweremarried,IstillexpectedHopetodowhatIwantedhertodoandnotdowhatIdidn’twanthertodoasanunspokenconditionofmylove.WhileIneverwouldhavesaidthosewords,Ididlivethem.When shedidn’tdowhat Iwanted, I felt irritatedandangry—and thesamewastrueforher.Thisbusiness-dealkindof love iswhatalmosteveryonemeanswhen

theyusethewordlove.ButamoreaccuratenameforitwouldbeWIIFM(What’s In It ForMe) love!WIIFM love has been the credo of almosteverybusinessnegotiationandbusinessdealfordecades. Inthe1970s,bestselling books began to teach us to overlay this paradigmonto ourrelationshipsandotherareasofourlife.I’lldothis,ifyouwilldothat.Andweboughtit—andhaveappliedittoourliveseversince.Thenwewonderwhywe are failing!WIIFM love is the exact opposite of love.WIIFMlove is fearbased, isbasedon instantgratification(whichwe’lltalkmoreaboutinchapter5),andinevitablyleadstogreaterlong-termfailureandpain.Loving truly, on the other hand, has nothing to do with the other

person’sresponse.Ifyoutrulylovesomeone,you’reallin:nosafetynet,noplanB,nothingheldback.LovingtrulymeansgivingupWIIFMlovesothatallinvolvedpartiescanwin,evenifyouhavetosacrificeforit.Loving truly may lead to delaying momentary pleasure now, but italways leads to long-term success, and the kind of pleasure that isbeyondwordsandthatnoamountofmoneycanbuy.Scholars throughout history have distinguished between these two

kindsof lovewith the termsagape anderos. Agape is the spontaneousand unconditional love whose source is the divine. With agape, thepersonlovessimplybecauseitisinhisorhernaturetolove,notbecauseof any external conditions, circumstances, or qualities of the other. Infact, agape creates value in the other as a result of the unconditionallove.Eros, orWIIFM love, is theopposite: ituses theobjectof love tomanagepersonalpainorpleasure,andthenmovesontothenextobject.

Erosdependsontheexternalqualitiesoftheother,andpayofffromtheother.Incontrast,agapehasnothingtodowiththeexternalpayofffromtheother.5This realization hit me like a sledgehammer, and I began weeping.

ThenIwasfacedwithaquestion:NowthatIknewwhatlovereallywas—nosafetynet,noplanB,nothingheldback—would Ichoose to loveHopenow,evenifnothinginourrelationshipchanged?Ididn’tanswerrightaway.Butfinally,afterafewdaysofthinkingandpraying,Iwasabletodecide,yes,IwouldloveHopeinthatway.Allin,andnostringsattached.Andthat’swhenIreceivedmytransformationalaha.NotonlydidIunderstandinaninstantwhatlovetrulymeant,Iwasabletodoit.Thechangehappenednotinmyconsciousmind,butattheplacewheretrue science and true spirituality meet: what some people call oursubconsciousorunconsciousmind,andwhatIcallourspiritualheart.Earlier I called this principle amagicwand.Historicallywe tend to

call things “magic”whenwedon’t understandhow theywork or howthey happened. But when we understand the mechanism behind howsomethingworksandcanreplicateit,wecallittechnology.Whenyougethomeintheevening,doyougoaroundthehousewith

a box of matches, lighting your oil lamps? When you want to gosomewhere,doyougoouttwentyminutesearlytohitchthehorsesuptothewagon?Whenyouwanttoeat,doyoustartbuildingthefireinthestove?IfIhadaskedallthosesamequestionsacenturyorsoago,peoplewouldhavelookedatmelikeIwasnuts.“Ofcoursewedo;everybodydoes.”Sowhydon’tyoudo those things today?Becausewehavenewtechnology!Newer technology doesn’t necessarily mean that the principles are

new;surelyyou’veheardtheexpression“Thereisnothingnewunderthesun.”Whenthelightbulb,theautomobile,andelectricitywereinvented,principleswereusedthathadbeenaroundsincethedawnoftime.Thoseinventionshadalwaysbeenpossible,butittookmanycenturiesforustoput all the building blocks together. I believe the process I’m sharingwith you is a new technology for overcomingourphysical, emotional,and spiritualproblems—one that is forged fromancientprinciples thathavebeentrueallalong.Pleaseunderstand that Idonotmeananythingreligiousby the term

“spiritual.” I run from religion. In fact, it tookme decades to recover

from my religious upbringing. I believe that much of religion is fearbased and therefore does more harm than goodmore often than not.However,Itryveryhardtobeaspiritualperson,prioritizinglove,joy,peace,forgiveness,kindness,andbelief.Thesearespiritualissues,andasyouwilllearnfromthisbook,theyarethecontrollingissuesofyourlife.Althoughsciencehasonlyrecentlydiscoveredthat loveisthekeytohappinessandsuccess,allthegreatspiritualteachersthroughouthistoryhave been teaching this idea for millennia, even though we may nothavehadthemethodologyorthetechnologytoconsistentlyput it intopractice.Forexample:

“Beingdeeplylovedbysomeonegivesyoustrength,whilelovingsomeonedeeplygivesyoucourage.”

LaoTzu

“Oneword/Freesusofalltheweightandpainoflife:/Thatwordislove.”Sophocles

“IfIhavepropheticpowers,andunderstandallmysteriesandallknowledge,andifIhaveallfaith,soastoremovemountains,buthavenotlove,Iam

nothing.”TheApostlePaul

“Untilhehasunconditionalandunbiasedloveforallbeings,manwillnotfindpeace.”Buddha

“WhenIdespair,Irememberthatallthroughhistory,thewayoftruthandlovehasalwayswon.Therehavebeentyrantsandmurderers,andforatime,theycanseeminvincible,butintheend,theyalwaysfall.Thinkofit—

always.”

MahatmaGandhi

“Ifyouwantotherstobehappy,practicecompassion.Ifyouwanttobehappy,practicecompassion.”

TheDalaiLama

“Darknesscannotdriveoutdarkness:Onlylightcandothat.Hatecannotdriveouthate:Onlylovecandothat.”

MartinLutherKingJr.

“Learninghowtoloveisthegoalandthepurposeofspirituallife—notlearninghowtodeveloppsychicpowers,notlearninghowtobow,chant,doyoga,orevenmeditate,butlearningtolove.Loveisthetruth.Loveisthe

light.”LamaSuryaDas

One of themost exciting breakthroughs in our time is the fact thatscienceisnowstartingtoquantifytheseancientspiritualprinciplesandverifynotonly theexistenceofour“spiritualheart,”buthow it is thesourceofeverythingthathappensinourlives,bothgoodandbad.Truespiritualityhasalwaysbeenalignedwithtruescience,andwe’reseeingmoreandmoreevidenceofthattoday.Becauseit is thealignmentoftruescienceandtruespirituality,yoursuccess with this process does not depend on your worldview, yourdemographic,orwhetheryouevenbelievetheGreatestPrincipleitself.You just have to do it. In the twenty-five years I’ve been teaching itprivately, I’ve seen it work virtually every time for people of everyworldviewandanyandalldemographicsyoucanimagine.Mypracticeisoneofthelargestintheworldnow;we’reinall50states,aswellas158countriesandcounting.Outofalltheseclients,Icancountonmytwo hands the number of clients I have personally worked with whohavenothadtheirperfectsuccesscreatedforthemthroughthisprocess.Amongthosefivetotenclients,therearetwogroups:(1)thosewhojust

wouldn’t do the process (for whatever reason), and (2) those whodisagreedwiththephilosophicalprinciplesoftheprocess,sotheyreallynevertriedit.EveryoneelseIknowofhasbeensuccessful.Oneofthemostpopularideasrightnowisthatyouhaveto“believeittoachieveit.”That’snottruehere.Youdon’thavetobelieveitworksorbelieveanythingIsay.ButifitisdoneexactlythewayIshowandteachyou,itwilltransformpersonalrelationships,thesourceofphysicalandemotionalhealthsymptoms,andyes,materialwealthandcircumstances.

THERIGHTTOOLSFORTHEJOBTruehappinessandsuccessmeanlivinginloveinternallyandexternallyinthepresentmoment,regardlessofyourcurrentcircumstances.Ifyoucandothat,everythingwillgetbetter—insideandout.Ofcourse,mostcan’tdothisthroughwillpoweralone,anymorethanyoucangetyourcomputertodosomethingthatit’snotprogrammedtodo.Your spiritual heart, or your subconscious and unconscious mind,worksverymuchthewayacomputerdoes. Infact,yourverycellsaremadeofasilicon-likesubstance,justlikeacomputerchip.(Remember,computers were modeled after the way you work, not the other wayaround.)Forexample,ifyouhaveacomputervirusorifyou’veloadedsomesoftwarethatkeepscrashingyourcomputer,youcouldbethebest-intentioned,mostdeterminedpersonintheworld,butifyoudon’thavetherighttoolsortherightknowledge,youarenevergoingtoerasethatvirusoruninstallthatsoftware.Ontheotherhand,ifyouhavetherightprocess and the right tools, it’s surprisingly easy. In fact, you almostcan’tstopitfromworking,evenifyouwantedto—becausethat’swhatit’sprogrammedtodo.The tools you need to be successful in your life must address thesubconscious and unconscious mind, not the conscious mind (aswillpower alone does). This is the location of our spiritual heart andcellularmemories,andthesourceofallourissuesinlife.I’vedevelopedand tested Three Tools over the last twenty-four years that candeprogram the human hard-drive, fear-based viruses keeping you indestructive cycles in your life, and reprogramyou at the subconsciousand unconscious level to live in truth and love from the inside out—

withoutrelyingonwillpower,andwithoutendresultexpectations.Afterdeprogramming and reprogramming, living in love in the present(internallyandexternally)willbeyourdefaultprogramming.SoinBeyondWillpoweryouwillfindnotonlytheprinciplesthatwillshowyouhowtocreatehappinessandsuccessineverylifearea,buttheprocessandthetoolstomaketheGreatestPrincipleworkforyou.Youwill find theperfect, completeprocess firstwrittenabout thousandsofyearsagoandnowconfirmedbynewresearchanddoctorsfromourbestuniversities—butwith all the pieces put together in practical, step-by-stepinstructions.InPartI,we’ll identifyyourultimate successgoal,or thatone thingyoutrulywantmorethananythingelse—animportantconceptthatwillform the foundation for theGreatest Principle Success Blueprint. Thenwe’ll learnmore about some scientific and spiritual principles to helpyouunderstandwhytheGreatestPrincipleworksthewayitdoes.In Part II, you will learn how to use the Three Tools that willdeprogramandreprogramyoursuccessissuesattheirsource—toolsyouwon’t find anywhere else—and how to set success goals rather thanstressgoals,bothkeybuildingblocksoftheGreatestPrincipleprocess.InPartIII,you’regoingtolearnhowtoputtheGreatestPrincipleintoaction for your own happiness and success. Firstwe’ll run someBasicDiagnosticstoidentifythesourceofyoursuccessissueswiththeThreeTools you learned about in Part II. Then you’ll receive the GreatestPrinciple Success Blueprint, the step-by-step, forty-day process forcreating andachieving the success youwant in any area, basedon alltheconceptsyou’velearnedthusfar.TheGreatestPrincipledoesmorethanjustrescueyoufromfailure.Itcan transform you into an overachiever, even if you are alreadyextraordinarilygiftedandtalented.Whilethethree-stepself-helpfailureblueprintwilloftencauseyoutofail“worse”thanyouwouldhaveiflefttoyourowndevices,theGreatestPrinciplewillempoweryoutoreachalevelofpeakperformancenot justbeyondyourwillpower,butbeyondyourexpectationsandevenyourhopesanddreams.Just as the earthwas always round evenwhen everyone thought itwasflat,theGreatestPrinciplehasalwaysbeentrue.Onlyinthelastfewyearshavewehad the science toprove it.And, for the first time,youhave in your hands the complete program and tools to create your

perfecthappinessandsuccessandlivealifebeyond.

chapter1

DETERMININGYOURULTIMATESUCCESSGOAL

Letmestartthischapterwithaquestion.Ifyoucan’tansweritcorrectly,there’sverylittlechanceyouwillevergetwhatyouwantmostinyourlifetime. You’ll likely become locked in a vicious cycle for years,decades,ormaybeeven the restofyour life.Ascriticalas it is, inmyexperienceveryfewpeopleknowthecorrectanswertothisquestion.Sohereitis.Whatdoyouwantmorethananythingelserightnow?Tohelpyoucomeupwiththecorrectanswer,Ihavejustonerule:no

filtering. What do I mean by that? Most people, when they hear thisquestion, have a superfast, gut-level answer flash into theirmind. Theproblem is that many times, they will immediately try to convincethemselvesthatthisshouldnotbetheiranswer.They’llstartbuildingacase for another answer that ismore socially acceptable,more in linewiththeirupbringing,lessinlinewiththeirupbringing,morereligious,lessreligious—younameit.I’vehearditall.Don’tdothat!Thisbook isabouthelpingyougetwhatyou reallywant.Answering

thisquestionhonestly is the firststep,because ifyoudon’tknowwhatyoureallywant—ordon’tadmitthetruthaboutwhatyoureallywant—you’ll almost certainly not get it. So Iwant your honest, from-the-gutresponse.Ifwhatnaturallycomesupforyouisamilliondollars,terrific,go with that. If it’s a health issue you want to heal, fantastic, that’llwork. If it’s a relationship youwant to improve,wonderful.Whatevercomesupforyou,naturallyandspontaneously,isyouranswer.

THEGENIEEXERCISE

Tohelpyouanswerthisquestionwithoutfiltering,let’swalkthroughanexerciserightnow.DoyourememberthestoryofAladdinandhismagiclamp?Thiswasoneofmyfavoritestoriesasachild;Idon’tknowhowmany times I imagined,whilewalkingaround in thebackyard,what Iwouldchoosewithmythreewishes,andthenwhatmighthappenasaresult. I was a sports nut as a kid, so I’d usuallywish to be the nextJimmy Connors, or if it was baseball season, to be the game-winningpitcher ingame7of theWorldSeries for theSt.LouisCardinals—andthenIwouldgooutsideandpretendtopitchthewholegame.CloseyoureyesandimaginethatAladdin’sgenieisstandingrightinfront of you, right now. There’s no one else around, just you and thegenie.Here’swhathetellsyou:“I’mgoingtogiveyouonewish.Youcanwish foranythingyouwant,withonly two limitations:Youcan’twishfor more wishes, and you can’t receive a wish that will take awaysomeone else’s freewill. Butwish for basically anything else, andyouwill get it. If you wish for ten million dollars—done! An ‘uncurable’healthissuehealed—yougotit!Abigachievementgoalaccomplished—victory!Youget the idea.Noonewilleverknowhowyougot it; theywill think it just happened naturally through the course of life’scircumstances.Also,youcanneverhaveanotherwish inyour lifetime,andifyoudon’ttellmeyourwishintenseconds,youloseit.”Okay, this is it; themoment of truth. Treat this as if it were reallyhappeningtoyourightnow.Nofiltering;you’vegottenseconds.Closeyoureyes—go.Whatdidyoutellthegenieyourwishwas?Writeitdown.Guesswhat?Itrickedyou.Sorryaboutthat—Ihadtodoit,andmaybeyou’ll thankmelater.This is theonlywayI’vebeenable to figureouthow tohelp you identifywhat you reallywantmost in your life. Yousee,youransweraboveisactuallythenumberonegoalofyourliferightnow. But if I’d asked it that way, chances are you would have saidsomething different. Most likely, something very different—an answerthatwon’thelpusinourquesttogetyouwhatyoureallywantmost.SowhydoIwanttoknowthenumberonegoalofyourlife?Becauseit’swhy you do almost everything that you do. It’swhy you have thethoughts that you have. It’s what you really believe in the most, nomatter what you might say. And it betrays your underlyingprogramming. Everything you do, everything you’ve ever done, and

everythingyouwilleverdoisbecauseofagoalyou’vesetatsomepointinyourlife,evenifyou’velongforgottenwhatitwas.Youdon’tgetupinthemorningunlessatsomepointyouhavethatasagoal,consciouslyor unconsciously. The same is true for brushing your teeth, gettingdressed, hailing a cab, getting married, getting divorced, havingchildren,using therestroom—youget the idea. Identifying thenumberonegoalinyourlifeisthefirststeptomakinganyrealchange.

THEWRONGANSWERI’vebeenaskingpeoplethisquestionfortwenty-fiveyears,bothoneatatimeandthousandsatatime.ThelastlivegroupIdidthiswithhadoversixteenhundredpeople.Onlysixgavetherightanswer.If theonly rulewas togive anhonest answer,howcould theyhavegivenawronganswer?Well,Iknowthey’vegivenmethewronganswerbecauseafterIaskthemtwomorequestions,theytellmethattheyhadthewronganswer.I’llaskyouthosetwoquestionsalittlelater.ButI’llgiveyouahint:therightanswerisalwaysaninwardstate(suchaslove,joy,peace,etc.).Thewronganswer isanexternalcircumstance (money,health,achievement,arelationshipbasedonwhatsomeoneelsedoesorfeels,etc.).Itisthewronganswerbecauseit’sself-defeating:itwilltakeyouawayfromthehappinessandsuccessthatyoulongforandliterallycreatefailure(ormorefailure)inyourlife.Why?Let’s return to the typical three-step“blueprint for failure”wementionedintheintroduction.Remember,thismodel,whichisusedbymostintheself-helpindustry,hasa97percentfailurerate:

1.Focusonwhatyouwant.

2.Figureoutaplantogetthere.

3.Puttheplanintoaction.

Steps1 and2 involve focusingon the end result to achieve success.Dr.DanGilbert,HarvardpsychologyprofessorandbestsellingauthorofStumbling on Happiness, describes the conclusion of his research atHarvardlikethis:“Expectationsareahappinesskiller.”1Hedidoriginal

researchonthisissueforyears.2Ifyoureadhisresearch,you’llseethatwhenhesays“expectations,”heisreferringspecificallytoparticularlifecircumstances in connection to some future event (in other words, anend result). He also has a wonderful video on the Internet, where hedescribeshowthisphenomenonworksinsideeveryoneofus,withoutusbeingaware.3Butexpectationsofendresultsnotonlykillyourhappiness,theyalso

killyourhealthandyourlikelihoodofsuccessatalmostanything.Why?Expectinga futureendresult instantlyputsyou intoachronic stateofstressuntilyoueithergetthatresultordon’t.Ifyouhavebeenaliveonthisplanetduringthepastthirtyyears,youprobablyalreadyknowthatvirtually every medical school andmedical doctor says that up to 95percentofallillnessanddiseasecomesfromstress.Buthere’swhatmostpeople don’t realize: even beyond health problems, stress is also thesourceofjustaboutanyandeveryotherproblemyoucouldhaveinyourlifeaswell.Fromaclinicalperspective,virtuallyeveryprobleminyourlifecomes

fromstress.Inotherwords,stresscreatesfailure.How?

1.Stressmakesyousick.Upto95percentofallillnessanddiseasearerelatedtostress,accordingtovirtuallyeverymedicalschoolandmedicaldoctorontheplanet.Thisisoldnews.

2. Stress dumbs you down. It shunts blood flow away from yourhigher intellectual centers and kills creativity, problem-solvingskills,andallthethingsyouneedforhappinessandsuccess.

3. Stress drains your energy. After an initial energy spike fromcortisol,youexperienceanadrenalineoverdoseandyourenergycrashes. This is because you’re not supposed to go into stressunlessyourlifeisindangerandyouneedtofightorflee(whichwill burn up all the cortisol). But the number one complaint Ihearfrompeople,“I’mtiredallthetime,”comesfromchronicorconstantstress.

4. Stressmakesyouapproacheverythingwithnegativity. “I can’tdo it. It’s not going to work. I’m not good enough. I’m nottalented enough. I’m not attractive enough. The economy’s too

bad.”Whenapersonthinksthesethings,heorshebelievesthemtobeanhonestevaluationofthecircumstances.Butthey’renot;they’re the stress talking. Fix the stress, and the distortedthoughts,feelings,beliefs,andactionswillautomaticallybecomepositive. Ifyoudon’t fix thestress,youcan try tochange thesewith your willpower “till the cows come home,” and it willalmostneverwork.

5.Stressmakesyoufailatalmostanytask.Thisistheonlylogicalconclusionofnumbers1to4.Howdoyouthinkit’sgoingtogo,tryingtosucceedatsomethingwhenyou’resick,dumbeddown,tired,andhaveanegativeattitude?Youmaybeabletopushthatrock uphill for a while, but usually it rolls back down andcrushesyou.Now,youmaystillachieveyourdesiredendresultsif you’re particularly gifted in that area, such as in sports,science, finance, or sales. But you will not be happy, fulfilled,andcontentinthelongterm.Thesefeelingsareacrucialpartofmy definition of success, at least: achieving your desired endresultandbeinghappy,fulfilled,andcontentintheprocess.Youshouldsettlefornothingless.

Step3,puttingtheplanintoaction,reliesuponourwillpower,whichisjustasineffectiveasexternalexpectations.Sciencehasfinallyverifiedwhat our personal experience has proven over the years:we can’t getwhatwewant throughwillpower alone. Dr. Bruce Lipton, former cellbiologistatStanfordMedicalSchoolandnowabestsellingauthor,statesthattryingtocreatethelife,health,andsuccessthatyouwantthroughwillpower (if you have not deprogrammed and reprogrammed yoursubconscious first) is a million-to-one long shot.4That’s because,according to Dr. Lipton, the subconscious mind (i.e., where ourprogramming resides) is one million times more powerful than theconsciousmind(i.e.,whereourwillpowerresides).Dr.WilliamTiller,myfriendandStanfordphysicistwhoalsostarredin the filmWhat the BleepDoWeKnow?, has toldme in our personalconversations, “Everywhere you go today, you hear about consciousintention.Butwhatyoudon’thearisthatwealsohaveanunconsciousintention.When the consciousmind is pitted against the subconscious

mind,thesubconsciouswillwineverytime.”Thegreatmajorityofthetime we’re not even aware that our unconscious disagrees with ourconsciousintention.Wethinkwesimplydecidetodowhateveritiswedo: make that call, sit on the couch, or spend another three hourslooking at something onlinewe shouldn’t. But thewhole time it’s oursubconsciousmakingthatdecision,notourconsciousmind. (We’ll talkmoreaboutthisinchapter2.)Let’sreturntotheproblemofsettinggoalsbasedonexpectationsand

externalcircumstances (steps1and2). If thenumberonegoal inyourlife is an external circumstance, itwill instantaneously put you into achronicstateof stressuntilyoueitherget that thing thatyouwant,ornot. Thatmeans the goal itselfmay actually be the cause of your lifeproblems—not the lack of a goal in your life or even the visiblesymptoms of the stress. I’ve seen this happen over and over withmyclients. When the number one goal of their lives is an externalcircumstance,theyinvariablyexperienceoneofthreepossibleoutcomes:1.Iftheyachievethatexternalcircumstanceorgoaltheyalways

wanted,theyareabsolutelyoverjoyed—temporarily.Afteradayorweekormonth, theymoverightontopursuingthenextthingintheirlife that they don’t have and decide they want most—and they enterrightback into thechroniccycleof stress,elation,andstressagain.Somanypeoplerepeatthiscycleoverandoverandoverfordecades,andthengettotheendoftheirlifeandthink,Whatwasthatallabout?IhaveadearfriendwhosedreamfordecadeshadbeentowriteaNew

YorkTimes–bestsellingbook.Every time I talked tohim,hewaseitherthinkingaboutitorworkingonit.Finally,aftertwenty-fiveyears,hedidit! He was over themoon when his book hit the list—I got four textmessages,threephonecalls,andseverale-mails fromhim.Icelebratedwith him, but because I knew these principles, I also knewwhatwascomingnext.Twoandahalfweekslater,hefinallyconfided,“Thisdidn’tdowhatI

thoughtitwoulddo.”Infact,hewentintoafairlydeepdepressionanddeveloped some health problems—even though he had realized hislifelong goal and was more financially prosperous. Why? Before heachievedhisgoal,hehadahopethatthisonething,writingaNewYorkTimes–bestselling book, would cause a particular set of problems todisappearandaparticularsetofdreamstocometrue.Whenthosethings

didn’t happen, he felt an emptiness that he didn’t have before, and itreplacedthehopehehadexperiencedforyearsofwritingthebestseller.That’s a bad trade, emptiness for hope. In otherwords, achieving thisexternal-circumstance goal eventually made him feelworse than if hehadneverachieveditatall.However,beforelonghehadputitbehindhim, and hewas on to the next external thing that he thoughtwouldbringhimhappiness—whichputhimrightbackintothecycleofstressagain.2. If theyachieve it, they immediatelyendup feeling like their

ladderisagainstthewrongbuilding.Inotherwords,sometimestheydon’t experience the elation part of the cycle. Rather than simplybouncing back and chasing the next thing, they feel disillusioned anddisoriented. I once saw a documentary on television about a world-famousband,inwhichthegrouptalkedabouttheirveryfirsthitrecord.Whentheintervieweraskedoneofthebandmembers,“Howdiditfeelwhen the thingyou’dworked toward for so long finallyhappened?,” Iwasstruck,butnotsurprised,bythebandmember’sresponse:“Isthisallthereis?Ithoughtitwouldbedifferent—thisisn’twhatIexpected.”Iworkwith a number ofmusical entertainers, professional athletes,

actors, and actresseswho aremultimillionaires.One in twentywill bebothwealthy and famous, and truly healthy, happy, and content. Theothernineteenarestressedtothemax,feverishlyworkingtowardtheirnextplatinumalbum,paranoid that their voice is going togiveoutorthat they won’t be able to write any more hit songs. It’s trulyunbelievable the things they find to be stressed about, when, tooutsiders,theyseemtobeontopoftheworld.When I come across those rare individuals who are wealthy and

famousaswellashappyandcontent,they’lltellmeclearlythatthey’renothappyandcontentbecauseofthemoneyandfame.It’sbecausetheyknowtheseprinciples: that internal loveand trutharemore importantthan any end result or external circumstance. And they usuallydiscovered them the hardway—often through alcoholism, drug abuse,andotheraddictions.Finally, somehow, theyrealizedmoneyand famewouldn’t trulysatisfy.At thatpoint,whenevertemptedtofocusontheexternalcircumstance,theyrunintheoppositedirection:“I’mnotevengoingtothinkaboutthemoneyandthefame,becausetheyalmostkilledme.”

Bothnumbers1and2happenifindividualsachievetheirnumberonegoal. But they are likely pursuing this external circumstance based onwillpoweralone,andweknowhoweffectivethatis.Sowhathappensiftheyneverachievetheirgoal,afteryears,decades,ormaybeeventheirwholelife?3. If they don’t achieve it, they often go into full-blownhopelessness and despair and never recover. I’ve seen this happenover and over again. One of the saddest things in my life has beencounselingelderlypeoplewhorealizetheseprincipleslateinlife.Someare in pain because of health, financial issues, or not being on goodtermswithpeopleclosetothem.ButbyfarthemostcrushingissueI’vehelped people deal with, even and perhaps especially if they werefamous, was regret—for the life they did not lead. I’ve had elderlycountrymusicstarspointtowallsofawards.Theycursethemandsay,“I’d give every bit of it to live in love and joy and peace, to haveprioritizedmyfamilyandspenttimewiththemandthepeopleIlove.”Universally, when people become older, they begin to inherentlyunderstandthatlivinginloveistheGreatestPrincipleofall.OccasionallyI’lldealwithelderlyindividualswhostillhaven’tgottenit.Theyarestilllivingininternalfearfocusedonexternalcircumstances.They’reprobablyhangingonby their fingernails to those trophies andaccomplishments. In every circumstance, they were unhappy, bitter,anxious, unhealthy, and estranged in their relationships. Theymay befilthyrichandalivinglegend.Itdoesn’tmatter.Ifyouvisitedthemwithme,youwouldwalkawayfeelingsadforthem.Youmightusethewordpitifulandbedeterminedthatyouwillnotenduplikethat.Iftheycometoseeme,Ihelpthemliveinlove,joy,peace,andrightrelationships,inthismoment—and it’s amazing how they can heal, even if they don’thavemuch time left.But thatdoesn’tmean theywouldn’t changepastchoices in their life. That’s exactlywhy I’mwriting this book: so youdon’tendupinthesameplaceattheendofyourlife.Youcangettoaplace of true success—being happy and contentand achieving at yourhighestandbestlevel—usuallyjustfortydaysafteryoustarttheprocessinthisbook.These are the reasons why an external circumstance is always thewronganswertothequestion“Whatdoyouwantrightnowmorethananything else?” Being truly happy and fulfilled while pursuing an

external circumstance as your ultimate goal—according to the ancientmanuscriptsandthelatestscientificresearch—issimplynotintherealmofpossibility.

HOWTOFINDTHERIGHTANSWERIfyouareoneofthe99percentwhoansweredthatfirstquestionwiththewronganswer,thesenexttwoquestionsaregoingtohelpyoufigureout the rightanswer. If you recall,question1was:Whatdoyouwantrightnowmorethananythingelse?Herearethenexttwo:

2.Ifyougotwhatyoumostwantedinquestion1,whatwouldthatdoforyouandwhatwoulditchangeinyourlife?

3.Ifyougotthethingsthatwereyouranswerstobothquestions1and2,howwouldyoufeel?

Youranswertoquestion3isactuallytherightanswertotheoriginalquestion,“Whatdoyouwantrightnowmorethananythingelse?”That’swhat you reallywantmore than anything, and it is always an inwardstate;itisneveranexternalmaterialcircumstance.5Thisinternalstateiswhatwe’regoingtocallyourultimatesuccessgoal,becausethat’sexactlywhat it is.But if this inward state is reallyyourultimate successgoal,thenwhydidn’tyounaturallyanswerthatwaytobeginwith?Here’s why: almost everyone answers question 1 with an externalcircumstance because they believe that circumstancewill purchase forthemtheinwardstateofhowtheyansweredquestion3.Letme give you an example. A fewmonths ago I was doing a liveeventinLosAngeles.Iwastakingtheaudiencethroughthisexercisetohelppeople find theirultimategoal.Adear, sweet ladyvolunteered tocomeuponstageandshareheranswers.Shehadhadaroughfewyears,likesomanyhaveintherecenteconomy.Heranswertoquestion1was“amilliondollars.”Whenshesaidit,thelookinhereyeswasthesameasifsheweretalkingabouttheloveofher life,herfavoritefood,oradecadent chocolate dessert. Her answer to question 2 was what youwouldprobablyexpect:“Icouldpayoffmybills,havealittlebreathingroom,goonamuch-neededvacation,andhavelesspressureonmylife.”

Heranswertoquestion3was“peace.”Shethoughtthatinordertohavepeace, she had to have money. In her situation, she thought moneywouldliterallypurchasepeaceforher.Iexplainedhowallthisworks,andthenaskedher:“Isitpossiblethat

whatyou‘really’wantmorethananythingispeace,butyouthinkthatmoney is theonly way to get that peace for you internally?”Her jawdropped, she coveredher face, and she startedweeping right thereonthe stage in front ofmany people—gasping-for-airweeping.When shecalmeddown,shesharedwiththeaudiencethatuntilthatmoment,shehad never knownwhat she reallywanted in her life. For decades shethoughtitwasmoney,focusedincessantlyonthat,pursuedthat,andjustbecamemoreandmorestressed,unhappy,andfilledwithanxiety.Thenext thing thatoccurred toherwas thatwhat she reallywantedmost,she could have right now. It didn’t require money; in fact, it didn’trequireanyexternalcircumstanceinherlifetochangeatall.Thenshestarted laughingandbecameextremely joyful and startedhuggingme.Her entire countenance changed, right there onstage in front of theaudience.So many of us pursue some end result—whether it’s a career, a

possession, an achievement, or a relationship—because we think thatthis external circumstance will purchase the internal state we reallywantmost inour lives. In fact,weprobablybelieve thatachieving theexternalcircumstanceistheonlywaywecanhavetheinwardstatesoflove,joy,andpeace.Butthisisnevertrue.Infact,it’soneofthegreatestliesontheplanet—andthebiggestreasonfortheself-helpindustry’s97percent failure rate over the last sixty-five years! According to Dr.WilliamTiller, “Theunseen isalways theparentof the seen.”And theopposite is never true: the seen (or the external circumstance) isnevertheparentoftheunseen(theinwardstateoflove/joy/peace,longterm).Itjustdoesn’tworkthatway—innature,orinus.Here’s a common example that proves the point. Let’s say youhave

two people in Los Angeles’s rush-hour traffic, side by side—and thetraffic is as badas it gets.Onehas gone into road rage—his veins arepoppingout,hisfaceisgettingred,andhe’sgrippingthesteeringwheel,yellingatpeoplenexttohim.Butthepersonnexttohimisascoolasacucumber. He’s talking to his friends in the car, singing to the radio,laughing.Iknowyou’veseenthisbefore—ifnotintraffic,thenwaiting

inlineatthegrocerystore,experiencingpoorserviceatarestaurant,orwaiting for a delayed flight. Two people in the same externalcircumstance have very different reactions. The external circumstancescan’t be the causeof their internal state, because the circumstancesofthetwoarethesame!That doesn’t mean that external circumstances won’t affect you

internally—forinstance,ifyoutragicallyloseyourspouseinanaccident.But in times of true danger or significant loss, our stress response, orfight-or-flight response, is supposed to kick in. If we experience theinternal statesof love, joy, andpeaceundernormal circumstances,wewillgothroughpredictablestagesofgriefforawhile,butafteraboutayear, we’ll bounce back and we’ll be fine. But if you experience aninternalstateoffearundernormalcircumstances,that’swhenyoudon’tbounceback,andanexternalstressorcanputyoudownforthecount.However, the true causeof the stress isnot really the event—it’s yourinternalprogramming.Theexternalisnevercapableofproducingtheinternal;theinternalis

always what creates the external. Ultimate success in your externalcircumstancesdependscompletelyuponyourinternalstateoflove,joy,andpeace.Thesequalitiesarethenecessaryprerequisitesforachievinghealth,wealth, creativity, happiness, and success in every area. In thesameway,theinternalstatesoffear,depression,andangerwillproduceexternalcircumstancesthataretheoppositeofsuccess:healthproblems,financial difficulty, a feeling of stuckness, unhappiness, and failure ineveryarea.(Chapters2and3willexplainmoreabouthowthisactuallyhappens.)Nowwearerightbackatouroriginalpoint:stressisthecausenotonlyofthevastmajorityofourhealthproblems,butalsoofvirtuallyanyotherproblemwehaveinlife.Now,ifyouaregiftedinaparticulararea,suchasathletics,finances,

engineering, or writing, your number one goal may be an externalcircumstance, and you may still make a lot of money or reach atremendouslevelofachievement.Butyouwillnotbeabletomakealotofmoneyandbehappy,fulfilled,andcontentlongterm.Inotherwords,youwillnot“haveitall,”whichismydefinitionof“true”success.Let’sreturntomyearlierpointthatyoucan’tdoanythingunlessyou

have an internal goal to do it. The ladywhowanted amilliondollarshadaninternalgoalrelatedtowantingthatmilliondollars.Thequestion

is,whatwasit,andwhydidshehavethatparticulargoal?Thereasonisherpain/pleasureprogramming.

OURPAIN/PLEASUREPROGRAMMINGOneofourmostbasic,hardwiredinstinctsashumansistoseekpleasureand avoid pain. This programming is part of our survival instinct: wehad it as a fetus, andwewill have it until the daywe die. In fact, itdrives our primary reality from birth to age six, and for good reason.During our first six years, when we’re at our most vulnerable, oursurvival instinct is on high alert to figure out as quickly as possiblewhat’s safe and what’s not. We develop a “stimulus/response” beliefsystem that basically says pain = bad and pleasure = good. Othernames for the stimulus/response concept include cause/effect andaction/reaction. This programming is in accordance with one of thenatural lawsoftheuniverse,specificallyNewton’sthirdlawofmotion,whichsaysthateveryactionhasanequalandoppositereaction.In this context, I call it our pain/pleasure programming. In other

words,ifitcausespleasure,it’ssafeandthereforegoodanddesirable.Ifit causes pain, it’s not safe, and therefore our brain tells us to fight,freeze, or get away fast. From a survival standpoint, this stimulus/responsebeliefsystemisveryeffective forour firstsixyearsof life—itprobablysavedourlivesanumberoftimesaschildren!Ifatwo-year-oldtouchesahot stove, shepullsherhandaway instantly—noone taughthertodothat,andafterexperiencingitonceshewillneverdoitagain.Andwhenourpain/pleasure(i.e.,fight/flight)programmingkicksinasadultswhenwe’retrulyindanger,itcansaveourlivesaswell.A few years ago, after receiving a speeding ticket, I was given the

optiontogotodrivingschoolinsteadofpayingafine.Thestatetrooperinchargeoftheclasswasabsolutelybrilliant.Hetoldusthatwecouldbedrivinginnormalconditionsonaclearday,followingacarinfrontofusattheappropriatedistance,butifthedriverinfrontofusslammedonhisbrakes,itwouldbeimpossibletoavoidawreckifwehadtothinkfast enoughwith our consciousmind. It would go something like,Oh,look.Thedriverinfrontofmejustslammedonhisbrakes.IneedtotakemyfootoffthegasandputitonthebrakeandmashitdownashardasIcan,or

Iwillrunintothebackofhim.Youdon’thaveenoughtimetodothat—youwouldbeinawreckeverysingletime.Thetrooperwenton:fortunately,wehaveamechanismbuiltintoour

brainthatwillpreventusfromhavingawreckeverysingletime(ifwe’refollowingattheappropriatedistance).Assoonasoureyesseethebrakelights, our unconscious mind literally bypasses our conscious thinkingandcausesustotakeourfootoffthegasandapplythebrakebeforewehave time to thinkabout it consciously.Beforeweeven realizewhat’shappening,we’realreadystopped—allthankstoourfight/flightinstinct.Our pain/pleasure programming is not bad, in and of itself. It’s

directly linkedtooursurvival instinctandourstressresponseandwasdesigned toplayadominant role inour livesup toaboutagesix,andafteragesix,kickinginonlyinlife-threateningcircumstances.Ourpain/pleasureprogrammingisawesomewhenitkeepsmycarinsurancefromgoingup,butit isamajorbummerwhenitblocksmefromhappiness,health, and success in my life. What do I mean? If my life is not inimminentmortaldanger, thenI’mnotsupposedtobe living,believing,feeling, or acting out that mechanism that state trooper was talkingabout.Ofcourse,thepain/pleasuremechanismisexactlywhatisbehindthe

typical three-step success blueprint in self-help over the last sixty-fiveyears.Theonewiththe97percentfailurerate.In fact, as children,wearewired to follow this exactblueprint, and

it’showmostkidstrytogetwhattheywant.Forexample,ifafive-year-oldwantsan icecreamcone,hewould first think, Iwantan ice creamcone(step1).Thenhewouldmakeaplan:goaskMom(step2).Finally,hewouldput theplan intoactionandaskMomforan icecreamcone(step3).ButwhatifMomsaysno?Hewouldlikelyrevisehispreviousplan in step 2 from “go ask Mom” to “bargain with Mom.” Then hewouldfollowstep3again,askingMom,“IfIcleanmyroomfirst,thencanIhaveanicecreamcone?”Thistimeshesaysyes.Success!Butforadultsuccess,thisblueprinttakesusawayfromwhatwereally

want precisely because it keeps us focused on a “pain equals bad andpleasure equals good” mentality. As adults, we should think of thisblueprintasour“trainingwheels”beliefsystemand learntochoose toliveinloveandtruth,regardlessofpainandpleasure.Asadultsweallunderstand that sometimes pleasure is unhealthy and sometimes the

painful choice is best. Unfortunately, few adults ever discard theirtrainingwheelsbeliefsystem;moststillseekpleasureandavoidpainatall costs, even if it costs them love and truth and the inward state ofpeace.Inessence,mostofusarestilllivingasfive-year-olds.You see,whenwe live according to our pain/pleasure programming

and go into fight or flight, it is a state akin to shock. Youmay haveexperienced shock if you’ve been in a car accident or another kind ofsudden trauma. When someone is in shock, the unconscious minddisconnects the consciousmind. Itwants to get the conscious thinkingoutofthewayandsaveyourlife.(Italsodumbsyoudown,suppressesyour immunesystem,anddoesall theother things stressdoes thatwementionedearlier.)Let’ssayamarriedmanhasaone-nightaffairintheheatofpassion.

Afterthefact,hefeelsterrible;hegoeshomeand,inaterrifiedoutburstofpainandguilt,callshisbestfriendandtellshimwhathappened.Hisfriend is shocked; the man has never done anything like this before.Finally,theman’sfriendtalkshimdownandtheybothdecidethatthemanneedstotellhiswife.Inagony,afterdinnerthatnight,hesitsdownwithhiswifeandtellsherhe’shadanaffair.Hiswifeisdevastated—andtheybothendureaterriblehourofpainfulquestionsandanswers.Thehusbandisrackedwithguiltbutstillmaintainshedidn’tmeantodoitandwill never do it again. Thewife is confused and heartbroken andfeels as if she doesn’t even know the man she’s been married to foryears.If you asked the man directly, “Did you really want to have an

affair?,”hewouldusuallysay,“No!Ilovemywife;itwasjusttheheatofthemoment.”Iknowthis;Ihavecounseledhundredsofmeninthisexactsituation.ButifyouaskedmewhatIthought,I’drespond,“Ifhedidnotwanttohaveanaffair,hewouldnothavehadanaffair.”Asyoumight imagine, when I’ve counseled people who have had affairs andtoldthemthat,theygothoppingmadatme!SowhyintheworldwouldI say that? Am I trying to make people mad? Absolutely not. Behindevery action is an internal goal. And behind every internal goal is abelief.Nomatterwhatourbeliefsare,wealwaysdowhatwebelieve,100percentofthetime.Inordertohaveanaffair,themanhadtobelievebeforehediditthat

havinganaffairwasthebestthingforhimatthetime:Thiswillgiveme

enormous pleasure that I need and want right now. My wife hasn’t beenresponsive lately, so I’m justified. I’m only going to do this one time—I’llrepentandneverdoitagain.Atthesametime,heverylikelyalsohadabeliefthathedidnotwanttohaveanaffair.Whenyouhavetwobeliefsthat conflict,whatyoudo in themomentcomesdown towhichbeliefyou’re focused on, and thinking and feeling more strongly, in thatmoment.Onebeliefwas rooted inhispain/pleasureprogramming (hisfive-year-oldthinking),andonewasrootedinloveandtruth(hisadultthinking).In that situation, maybe the man started taking little baby stepstowardacompromisingsituationandreallydidn’tmeantodoanythingfor a period of time. Maybe he and this other woman were having aperfectlycasualconversationafteraneveningmeetingatwork.Maybeoneoftheminvitedtheotheroutsomewhere,andtheotherjustifiedtheaction and said yes, thinking continuing the conversation would beharmless. But at some point the man crossed a line, and becausesomewheredeepdownhehadabeliefthatanaffairisgoodbecauseitispleasurable,followingthroughontheaffairbecameinevitable.At the moment of decision, this man is in fight or flight—he’sthinking,ThisisoneoftheworstthingsI’lleverdo.Hemayevengetclosetoshock,wherehisconsciousrationalthinkingissoturneddownthathedoesn’thavetheabilitytoresist.Hegetstoaplacewhereheisalmostlikeananimal,just“feeling,”andthenactingonthosefeelings.Whenhegetstothatline,hisconsciousmindissoturnedoffhealmostcan’tturnback.Hecanbarelyaccesshisrationalmindanymore.Whentheaffairisover,his rational,adult thinkingreturns—andhe feels lower thandirt.WhydidIdothat?IknewIshouldn’thavedonethat!Hediditbecauseofhispain/pleasureprogramming.Hewasactingandthinkinglikeafive-year-old,andhiswifeagrees.Ifyou’vebeenonthewife’ssideofthiskindofbehavior,the“Ididn’tmean to do it” can sound quite hollow. Pain/pleasure programmingdoesn’texcuseanyone’sbehavior,buthopefullyithelpsexplainit.Yes,thehusbandchosetodoit,butinaway,itwasn’thimwhochoseit.Hisdecisionwascausedbydestructive,unconsciousprogrammingbasedonthepain/pleasureresponse.Sowhensomeonesays,“Iwon’tdoitagain,”typicallytheonlywayforthistobetrueistohealthosewrongbeliefs.Theonlywayistofixtheirprogramming.

This doesn’t just apply to affairs; your pain/pleasure programmingalso explainswhy you yell at your kids,why you can’t resist cookies-and-cream ice cream when you’re trying to lose weight—almost anycircumstance in which you do what you don’t want to do. Yourwillpowersimplydoesn’tstandmuchofachance.The presence of our pain/pleasure programming not only explainswhy willpower is so ineffective, but it also explains why pursuing anexternalcircumstanceshouldneverbeourprimarygoalifwe’reseekingsuccessinourlives.Whenwearehonestwithourselves,asIhopeyouwereinansweringmyquestionsearlier,andrealizethatwhatwethinkwewantmostisanexternalcircumstance—particularlyifit’snotawinningsituationforallparties involved (such as our spouses, our families, or our businesspartners)—ourwantinganexternalcircumstanceaboveallisasuresignit’sagoalrootedinourfear-basedsurvivalinstinct.Forsomereason,webelievethiscircumstanceisgoingtoeitherbringuspleasureorprotectus from pain, and we need it to survive. Somewhere along the way,somethinghappened,probablyearlyinlife,thattaughtusachievingthiscircumstancewas amatter of survival, or of “being okay” in life.Wetend to revert back to our pain/pleasure programming to quiet andsoothetheplaceinsideusthatfeelsunsettledorlacking.I had a client one time who was a multi-multimillionaire. It wouldhave been very difficult for him to ever spend all themoney he had.However, he was also one of the most miserable people I haveencountered. He was always stressed, hard-driving, and irritated orangry.Youknowthetype(ormaybeyouarethetype).Withjustatinybitofdiggingwefoundthesource:thisgentlemanhadgrownuponthe“wrongsideofthetracks”—poor,ridiculedforhisold,wornclothes,andashamed.Sotheindividualmadea“vow,”muchlikeScarlettO’HaradidinthemovieGonewiththeWind:“WithGodasmywitness,Iwillneverbehungryagain.”Thismanvowedthathewouldneverbepooragain,and it became a matter of life and death. He thought money wouldpurchaseforhimtheinternalstatesoflove,joy,andpeace.IfIcanjustgetXamountofdollars,clothes,cars,andpossessions, then Iwillbeokay.Butweknownowthatthisneverworks,anditcertainlydidn’twithhim.Soalthoughwemaythinkanexternalcircumstanceiswhatwewantmost,themajorityofushavemadeatleasttwohiddenassumptionsthat

are simply wrong—that an external circumstance will make us happyandfulfilledlongterm,andthatanexternalcircumstancewillpurchasean internal state for us right now (love, joy, peace, etc.). The greatestteachersofalltimehavealwaystaughtthatsuccessinlifedoesnotcomefromseekingpleasureandavoidingpainatallcosts.Successcomesfromliving in truthand loveatall times,andwhatevercircumstancescomefromthatarethebestonesforus,evenifthereispaininvolved.

WHYTHEINTERNALSTATEISTHERIGHTANSWERLet’sreviewjustabit.Ifthenumberonegoalinyourlifeisanexternalcircumstance, youwillmost likely not achieve it, because the stress itinherentlycausessabotagesyourbestefforts.Andevenifyoudoachieveit,itwillnotsatisfyandfulfillyoulongterm.Ontheotherhand,ifthenumberonegoalinyourlifeisaninternalstate,youroutcomeschangequiteabit.

1. Youwill almost always achieve it. Nothing external has tochange, and the only thing internally that has to change areenergy patterns, which can change very easily with the righttools. As I said, I’ve rarely seen this not work for any of myclients, around the globe and in any imaginable circumstance.You’llseemanyoftheirstoriesthroughoutthebook.

2.Onceyouachieveit,noonecantakeitawayfromyou.ThisiswhatVictorFrankldiscoveredduringtheHolocaust.Hecalledit the last of the human freedoms: the right to choose yourinternal state or attitude, regardless of your externalcircumstances. After hewas out of the prison camps, hewrotetheclassicMan’sSearchforMeaningandhelpedmillionstofocusontheirinternalattitude(inwardstate)ratherthantheexternalcircumstancesoftheirlives.6

3. Once you achieve it, you are guaranteed that it willcompletely satisfy and fulfill you, because it’s what youreallywantedallalong,butprobablyjustneverknewit.

4. If your number one goal is the internal state, you almostalways get the external circumstances you desire as a freebonus.Here’sthetruemagic:onceyoucreatetheinternalstateoflove,joy,orpeace,orwhateveryouanswerednumber3with,you have created the internal power source that creates theexternalcircumstancesofyour life thatyoudesire.Butwithoutthatpositiveinternalstate,it’slikevacuumingyourrugwithoutthecordbeingpluggedin.

HOWTHEGREATESTPRINCIPLEWILLHELPYOUGETWHATYOUREALLYWANTMostpeoplelivetheirwholelivesbelievingsomeexternalresultiswhattheyreallywant.Manypeoplegoafteradozenortwointheirlifetime,thinking each time that “this one will do it for me.” Realizing thatyou’ve spent thebest resourcesofyour lifeona lie canbea shockingand even devastating experience. Youmay have given up your youth,yourmoney,yourrelationships,yourenergy,andyourhealthtopursue“the thing” you thought you wanted most—only to discover not onlythatitisn’twhatyoureallywantmost,butthatitactuallyledyouawayfromwhatyoudidwantmost.Perhapsyou’vediscoveredthatyouhavebelieved the lie thevastmajorityofour culturealsobelieves: externalcircumstancespurchasetheinternalstateofloveandpeace.Ontheotherhand,ifyouareamongthesmallsegmentthatansweredquestion number 1 with an inward state, let me be the first tocongratulateyou.YouaretrulyinthetoppercentileofwhatIbelieveisthemostimportantmetricforsuccess.However,thatdoesn’tmeanyouhaveachieved theinternalstate.Youdon’ttendtowantsomethingyoualreadyhave.Ifyoualreadyhadtheinwardstateofloveandpeace,youprobablywouldhaveansweredthegeniequestionwithsomethinglike,“I don’twish for anything. I have everything I need andwant.Maybemoreloveandpeace.”Whetheryou’vejustdiscoveredthattheinternalstateisyourultimatesuccessgoalorwhetheryou’veknownit fora longtime, thetoolsandprocess of the Greatest Principle are how you’re going to get it. As aconcept, theGreatest Principle is actually very simple: itmeans doing

theoppositeofwhatignitesyourstressresponse.Specifically,youneedtogiveupyourexpectationofaspecificandfutureendresultattainedbywillpower,andinsteadfocusoncreatingtheinternalstatethatisthepowersourceforyourexternalcircumstances.Here’sanotherwaytoputitinmorepracticalterms:Dowhateveryoudofromaninwardstateoflove,focusingonthepresent

moment.That’sit.That’stheGreatestPrinciple.Iknow,thisisonlychapter1.

But now I’vewalked you through all the background information youwillneed to fullyunderstandwhy the typical successblueprintdoesn’twork, andwhy this theory and application does. Living in lovewhilefocusingonthepresentmomentisallyouhavetodotoachievethemostsuccessimaginable,ineverylifearea—theperfectsuccessforyou.Ifyouansweredthethreequestionsinthischapterhonestly,youshouldhavediscoveredwhatyoureallywantinlife,andyouknowthebasictheorybehindhowtogetit.If Icouldgiveyouonegift foryour life, itwouldbeyouranswerto

question3:theinwardstateoflove.ButIcan’tgivethattoyou.Youcanget it for yourself, through the process you’ll learn in the followingchapters.Itiswhatyouwantandneedmost,andwhatwilltrulysatisfy,fulfill,andcreateyourperfectsuccess!Buttogetit,youhavetogiveuptheexternalendresultthatyouthoughtyouwantedmost.Thisstepoffaithwillopenthedoortotheresultsyouwantmost!Beforewegoanyfurther,I’dlikeyoutogiveyourselftheopportunity

to receive the same kind of transformational aha experience I hadtwenty-five years ago, after Hope kicked me out of the house, thatchangedmyheart inaninstantandmademecapableof livingouttheGreatestPrinciplerightaway.Thetransformationalahaisakintoanear-death experience, where someone—even his or her personality—isforeverchangedinwaysthatlikelynevercouldhavehappenedthroughwillpower.Thepersonmayhaveeventriedtomakesuchchangesbeforeunsuccessfully. But the heart and mind control the body. When theprogramming changes, everything can change, and often on a dime.Whenthishappens,youcan’tmistakeit!Wecan’tcontrolwhetherornotwereceivethistransformationalaha,

butit’ssuchanincrediblegift,Iwanttobesureyougiveyourselfeveryopportunitytoreceiveit.Allyouhavetodonowispray7andmeditate

on this idea of the Greatest Principle, being open to the possibility ofreceivingthisexperience.Specifically,I’dlikeyoutomeditateovereachofthefollowingpoints,oneatatimeandinthisorder:

•Ifyouarefocusedonanexternalcircumstanceforyoursuccess,youarevirtuallyguaranteeingyourownfailure—notonlyaboutthat particular issue, but all issues—because focusing on anexternalcircumstanceasalifegoalputsyouintochronicstress.Youarealsovirtuallyguaranteeingthatyouwillneverfindtruesuccessforyou,becausechronicstresswillblockyoursuccess.

•Lookingthroughthelensof“what’sinitforme”(WIIFM)atanyand every areaof your lifemayget youwhat youwant in theshortterm,butitwillleadtogreaterpaininthelongtermandfailure every time. Giving up WIIFM, in love, always leads tosuccessandtheonlyfeelingsthatwillsatisfyandfulfillyoulongterm.

• What you have really wanted all along is not external ormaterial.It’sinternal—specifically,theinwardstatesoflove,joy,andpeaceinyourheartandmind.

•Ifyouarebasingyoursuccessorfailureonyourownwillpowerwithout deprogramming and reprogramming first, you have aone-in-a-million shot at being successful, and a million-to-onelikelihood of failing. Attempting to do something you arefundamentally incapableof doing also causes evenmore stress,further increasing your likelihood of failure. The opposite ofunhealthycontrolthroughwillpowerisgivinguptheendresultsinfaith,belief,trust,andhope.

• If you achieve the internal state of love/joy/peace, it willproduce positive external circumstances that would beimpossibleforyoutoachievewithwillpoweralone.

•Livinginthepresentmomentinlove,givingupexternalresultsand circumstances, will produce success and happiness beyond

yourwildestdreams.

• Youmust give up usingwillpower and expectations to get whatyoureallywantmost.

Prayandmeditateontheseideasforanhour,oraweek,oraslongasit takes for them to really sink into your heart. Give yourself theopportunitytoreceivethattransformationalahathatcandeprogramyouandreprogramyouinaninstant.Youcanalsoprayandmeditateonitdaily as you use the tools over time. If you do receive thetransformationalaha and find yourself instantly able to love everyoneandeverythinginwhateveryoudo,unhamperedbyanyexpectationforthefuture,thenyoumaynotevenneedtheremainderofthisbook,butIstill suggest you read it to understand more about the mechanismsbehindwhathaschangedinyou—ortoworkonanewsuccessissue.Orsharethebookwithsomeoneelsewhodoesneedit.I am often asked, “How will I know if I have one of these

reprogramming,transformationalahas?”Youwillknow!It’slikelove(therealthing):ittranscendswords.Youwillknowandfeelthatsomethingdeep inside of you has changed and youwill never be the same. Youmay feelwarmth, excitement, peace, a sense ofwell-beingbeyond thephysical, a lightness, anabsenceof fearorworry,ora feelingof love.Yourthoughts,beliefs,andactionswillspontaneouslychange.Trustme:youwillknow!Butpleasedon’tworryifthistransformationalahadoesn’thappen.It

doesn’tmean you’ve done anythingwrong. Itmay happen later, or itmaybethatyourbestpathforwardistousethetoolssetforthheretodeprogramandreprogram,whichcausethetransformationmechanicallyandautomatically.If you don’t receive the aha, whatever you do, don’t stop here.

Remember,that’swhatmostbooksdo:theytaketwohundredpagesormore to explain theprinciples, and then stop, assuming that once youknowwhattodo,youcansimplyuseyourwillpowertodoit.Itmayfeellikeit’senoughtoknowwhattodo.Youmaywanttotryitrightawayandtestitoutforyourself.SoIalsowantyoutofeelcompletelyfreetoclose this book and commit to living out the Greatest Principle bywillpoweralone.Youmaydoaprettygoodjoboflovingeveryoneand

living in the present moment for the first day or two, but I’m afraidyou’ll find out that it rarely lasts. In fact, it almost can’t last. Yourinternalhardwareandsoftwarehaveyouprogrammedagainstit.AlmostnooneI’veseenhasbeenabletodoitwithwillpoweralone—includingme.Merelyunderstandingtheconceptandusingyourwillpowertoliveitoutjustwon’tworkinthelongterm.On the other hand, youmight still be having trouble understanding

the concept itself. Somanyofmy clients I’veworkedwithone-on-onecouldn’t understand the principles at first, because they’re so upsidedowntohowweareinnatelyprogrammedandtowhatalmosteveryoneteaches.ItwasalmostlikeIwastellingthemthattheworldreallyisflat,orIwasspeakingadifferentlanguage.Theyjustcouldn’tconceivethattheycouldachievetheirendresultbygivingitup,andthattheycouldachieve what they have never been able to achieve by not trying ashard!Iwouldrepeattheprinciplesoverandover,whichwouldresultinan

intenselyconfusedlookontheirface.Finally,inevitably,theywouldgetit.Everytime,anexcitedsmilewouldcomeovertheirface,theirentirebody language would ignite, and they would say something like“Ohhh…”or“Wow…”or“Isee…”Thelighthadcomeon;theynowunderstood.Soifthelighthasnotyetcomeonforyou,thatisthenorm.Keepprayingandmeditatingontheprinciples,anditwillhappen.Whenitdoes,itwillbeasifyoufoundasecretdoortohappinessinyourlifethatyouneverknewexisted.Either way, the good news is that your success depends neither on

willpowernoronintellectualunderstandingalone.Therestofthebookwillexplainthetoolsandtheprocesstoputitintopracticesuccessfully.Butbeforewegetintothetoolsandtheprocessthemselves,we’refirst

goingtolearnabouttwoimportantconcepts:cellularmemoryandwhatIcallSpiritualPhysics.

chapter2

CELLULARMEMORY

It’s usually pretty easy to knowwhen something’s notworking in ourlives;thesymptomsofpainoranxietyarehardtomiss.Youmighthavea toothache, or be up late at night worrying over your teenage son’swhereabouts.What’snotsoeasyisdiscoveringthetruesourceofthoseproblems,andactuallyhealingthesourceratherthansimplymanagingits symptoms.Wehaveanatural tendency to think theproblem isourcurrent circumstance, but this is often inaccurate. If we invest ourenergy in changing our circumstances as the source of our problemswhen our circumstances arenot the source of the problem,we simplycreatemorestress!Over the last fifty years and especially the last fifteen, experts have

verifiedthatthesourceofyoursymptomsofpainandanxietyisusuallynot located in your body or even in your environment. The source islocatedintheunseenissuesofyourunconsciousandsubconsciousmind,orwhatsciencecalls“cellularmemories.”So what exactly do we mean when we say “cellular memories”?

Really,we are simply talking about yourmemories. Researchers beganadding theword cellular becauseweused tobelieve that allmemorieswere stored in the brain—until overmany yearswith lots of patients,surgeonsremovedeverypartofthebrainandfoundthememorieswerealways still there. The experiences of organ transplant recipients alsosupport this idea. Nowwe know thatmemories are stored in cells alloverthebody,butthey’restilljustwhatwewouldcallour“memories,”whichishowI’llrefertothemthroughouttherestofthisbook.Also,outof the various terms writers and researchers have used for cellularmemories, I’ve come to prefer the term that King Solomon used,

particularlysincehewastheearliestsourceIfoundforthisconcept:theissues of the heart. But to distinguish this concept from ourcardiovascularheart,Icallitthe“spiritualheart.”SowhenIrefertothespiritual heart throughout the rest of the book, you can just as easilysubstitute cellular memories or the subconscious or unconscious mind. Isimplymeantheplacewhereourgoodandbadmemories,thesourceofallourlifeissuesandproblems,reside.OnSeptember12,2004,theDallasMorningNewsranastory,“MedicalSchool Breakthrough,” about a new research study that had just beencompleted at SouthwesternUniversityMedicalCenter inDallas,Texas.Scientistshaddiscoveredthatourexperiencesdonot justreside inourbrainsbutarerecordedatthecellularlevelthroughoutourbodies,andtheybelievedthesecellularmemorieswerethetruesourceofillnessanddisease.TheyinterviewedEricNestler,anM.D.fromHarvard,whosaid,

Scientistsbelievethesecellularmemoriesmightmeanthedifferencebetweenahealthylife,anddeath.…Cancercanbetheresultofabadcellularmemoryreplacingagoodone.…Thismayprovideoneofthemostpowerfulwaysofcuringillness.1

Thisarticlewasreprintedallovertheworld.Ifyoureadthefineprintabout what Southwestern is calling cellular memories, and whatSolomon is calling the issues of the heart, they are talking about thesamething.InOctober2004,theDallasMorningNewsranafollow-uparticletotheonecitedearlier:“ACellForgets.”It’salongexcerpt,butworthseeingatlength:

Throughout the natural world, scientists are finding, cells and organisms record theirexperiences, all without the benefit of a brain. Scientists believe these cellularmemoriesmightmeanthedifferencebetweenahealthylifeanddeath.Cancer can be a result of bad cellular memories replacing good ones. Psychologicaltrauma,addictionanddepressionmayallbefurtheredbyabnormalmemories insidecells.Diseases that turn up later in life, scientists suspect, may be due to errant memoriesprogrammedintocellsaspeopleage.Evenrealmemory,thekindthatrequiresabrain,alsoseemstorelyonmemorieslockedincells.Nowscientistsarestrivingtounderstandhowcellsacquire thesememoriesandperhapstreatdiseaseatitsrootsbyadjustingthem.

“Thismayprovideoneofthemostpowerfulwaysofcuringillness,”saidDr.EricNestler,chairman of the psychiatry department at the University of Texas Southwestern MedicalCenteratDallas.Formany diseases, he says, treatments today aren’tmuch better than Band-Aids. Theyaddressadisease’ssymptoms,butnotitscause.“Harnessingthisknowledge,”Nestlersaid,“offersthepotentialofreallycorrectingtheabnormality.”2

The article goes on to explain that Dr. Nestler and other cellularbiologists, such as Dr. Susan Lindquist and Nobel laureate Dr. EricKandel,havediscoveredspecificchemicalmarkersonourcellsthatseemto signal whether to use a certain gene or not. In fact, Dr. NestlerpublishedresearchintheJournalofNeurosciencethatshowshowelectricshockscanchangethemarkersonbraingenesinmice.3However, research has revealed that something else besides electricshock can change these markers of cellular memory: a mother’s love.Throughlabexperimentswithrats,theresearchersfoundthatamotherrat lickingherpups literallychanges thechemicalmarkersattached tothe gene that governs their experience of fear, resulting in the pupsdisplaying less fear throughout their lifetime and indicating that amother’slovecan“programtheirbrainsforlife.”4Inotherwords,theseresearchershaveverifiedthatloveisanantidoteto fear, andboth love and fear canbemeasuredon the cellular level.They are also discovering that outside influences can “brainwash” anotherwise“peacefulcell”tobecomeaninvasivecancercell,andyoucansee that in these markers as well. “The peaceful cell is reprogrammed[emphasismine]withstrategicallyplacedgenemarkersthatcauseittogrowoutofcontrol.”5Thisresearchisfrom2004.Todayscientistsarestillputtingtheirbestefforts into studying the specific markers of cellular memory andunderstanding how tomanipulate them in the laboratory. In fact, youmayhavealreadyheardaboutthepowerofcellularmemorythroughthestoriesoforgantransplantpatients.OnefamousexampleisClaireSylvia,whowroteaboutherexperienceinthebookAChangeofHeart.Afterherheart and lung transplant at Yale–New Haven Hospital in 1988, shenoticedsignificantpersonalitychanges:sheexperiencedstrongcravingsfor Kentucky Fried Chicken, which as a health-conscious dancer andchoreographer shewould have never eaten before; she suddenly liked

blues andgreens rather than thebright reds andoranges she typicallywore;andshebecameaggressiveinherbehavior,whichwasevenmoreoutofcharacter.Aftersomeinvestigation,shediscoveredthatallthesenewpersonalitytraitswerecharacteristicofherdonor.Dozensofsimilarexperiences by other organ transplant donors have been reported aswell.Theexplanationiscellularmemory.6AsaresearchscientistattheUniversityofWisconsin,Dr.BruceLipton

was cloning human muscle cells, trying to determine why theyatrophied.Hediscovered that individualmusclecells reactandchangebased on their “perception” of their environment, not necessarily the“actual”environment.Furtherresearchledhimtodiscoverthatthesameistrueforhumanbeingsasawhole:wereactandchangebasedonourperceptions of our environment (not our environment as it really is).Anotherwordfortheseperceptionsareourbeliefs.7Dr.Liptonsaysthatvirtually every health problem originates from a wrong belief in thesubconscious mind. After reading the fine print in their supportingresearch,IbelievewhatDr.Liptoncallsthebeliefsofthesubconsciousmind are exactly what Dr. Nestler and his colleagues call cellularmemory,andwhatSolomoncalledthespiritualheart.Andaswesaidinthe lastchapter,because thesubconsciousmind is literallyonemilliontimesmore powerful than the consciousmind, the odds of having thelifeyouwantwithoutchangingthosebeliefsisamillion-to-oneshot.8Thephenomenonof cellularmemory applies to everypersonon the

planet, not just the sick or underachieving. Our cellularmemories (orsubconsciousbeliefs,orissuesinyourspiritualheart)willcatchupwithyousoonerorlater—justastheydidinourexampleofthehusbandwhohad an affair in the last chapter. Like a virus on your computer, youcan’tjustignorethemandhopethey’llmiraculouslydisappear;itsimplywon’thappen.Dr. John Sarno of the NYU School of Medicine has done

groundbreaking work in psychosomatic illnesses and the mind-bodyconnection, specifically with back pain.9 Dr. Sarno agrees with Dr.Lipton and Dr. Nestler and says that adult chronic pain and illnessoriginate from destructive cellularmemories. If you heal thememory,thechronicpainandillnessgoaway.In fact, holistic practitioner Dr. AndrewWeil says in his bestselling

book Health and Healing, “All illness is psychosomatic.”10 He doesn’t

mean it’s not real (and neither does Dr. Sarno); hemeans it does notoriginate from a physical source—thus also agreeing with theaforementionedexperts.Dr.DorisRapp,aworld-renownedpediatricallergist, isadearfriendofmineandoneofmyheroes.ManyyearsagoDr.Rappwaswillingtogooutside theboxof standardmedicine inorder tohelpchildren.Shehastakencriticismfromherpeersfordoingsobuthasstayedthecourse.Today, there are thousands and thousandsofpeople around theworldwhopointtoDr.Rappastheirturningpoint,andshehasreceivedalistofhumanitarianhonorsaslongasyourarm.InherbestsellingbookIsThisYourChild?,shetalksaboutthe“barreleffect.”11Infact,herbookwasthefirstplaceI’deverseenitdiscussed,anditmadeabigimpactonmemanyyearsago.Accordingtothebarreleffect, we can think of all the stress in our life as being in one biginternalbarrel.Aslongasthebarrelisnotfull,ourbodycandealwithnewstress.Somebodymightgetangryatus,somethingmightnotgoourway,orwemightbeexposed toa toxin,andwewouldstill feelokay;ourbodyandmindcandealwithit.Onceourbarrelisfull,however,thetiniestlittlethingwillgetus.Sothestrawthatbrokethecamel’sbackisfairlyscientificallyaccurate.For example, let’s say yesterday you ate some peanuts and you feltfine. But today you eat one peanut and have an allergic reaction. Itmakesabsolutelynosense—itcan’tbethepeanuts,right?Youatesomeyesterday,andyouwerefine.What’sdifferentabouttoday?Thetruthis,itwas the peanuts, and itwasn’t the peanuts. Yes, eating that peanuttriggered a negative physical reaction. But the peanutwould not havetriggered the reaction if your stress barrel had not been full. The realcause was not the peanut, it was the stress (or, more accurately, theinternal “source” of the stress). Your stress level was the onlydifferentiatingfactor.Thistheoryprovestruebothphysicallyandnonphysically.Ifyou’reaparent,you’veprobablyseenitwithyourkids.Whenyoutellyourtwo-year-old it’s time to go home from the playground, onWednesday hemighttrotalongobediently.ButonSunday,whenyoutellhimthesamething,atthesametimeofday,andatthesamepark,hemaygoballisticand shoot off a geyser of adrenaline in theworst temper tantrumhe’severhad.Hisreactioneachtimedependedonhowfullhisstressbarrel

was. Once his stress barrel was overflowing, his unconscious treatshaving to leave the playground as a life-threatening emergency.(Externally, it simply appears as if he overreacted.) You can see fromthisthatwearenotdesignedtolivelifewithafullstressbarrel.Livingout of balance in this way leads us to “malfunction” physically andnonphysically.Butthenumberonejobofourstressresponseistoprotectus,notto

makeushappy.Whetherphysicallyornonphysically,ourstressresponsewouldmuch ratheroverreact thanunderreact, and itwill often set offthe fight-or-flightreaction“just incase.” If itunderreacts,wecouldbedead,anditwillhavefailedatitsmostimportantjob.Also,theamountofadrenaline releasedat the timeof theevent,basedonhowstressfulthe situation feels in the moment, determines the strength of thatmemory in our spiritual heart throughout our lives. Our mind willalwaysprioritizeexperiencesthatitbelieveswillkeepussafeandoutofdanger,anditdeterminesthisbasedonourmemories—specifically,fear-basedmemories.Youcanseewhyallofushaveunhelpfulprogrammingin our spiritual hearts—a stressfulmemorywreaking havoc in our liferightnowmightbebecausewehadabaddayattheparkwhenweweretwo!Ourstressbarrelevenincludesgenerationalmemories.Youcouldhave

hadanidyllicchildhoodandatrauma-freelife,butforsomereasonstillhave significant confidence issues, depression issues, health issues, oraddictions. I’ve worked with many people who fit into that category,wholaterlearnthatasignificanttraumaoccurredgenerationsback—forexample,achildwashitbyatrainanddied—andnooneinthefamilywas ever the sameagain.Thesememories,whicharepowerfulhumanhard-drive viruses, are passed down like DNA. The more adrenalinereleasedwhentheeventhappens,thestrongerthememoryis,themoreit affects you, and the more likely it is to be passed on to futuregenerations. So the memories affecting you may not even be yours.Generational memories can explain the existence of what we startedcalling“thecycle”and“breakingthecycle”afewdecadesback,orthebehavior, thought, and feeling patterns that keep repeating in certainfamilies. If you can remove the stress from the person who has theproblemnow(evenifitisgeneticandmanygenerationsremovedfromtheorigin),eventhegeneticproblemwillusuallyheal.

One ofmy clients finally figured out that the source of her currentsymptoms went back over a hundred years. After doing some pokingaroundinher familyhistory,shediscoveredthatduringtheCivilWar,her great-great-grandmother witnessed her husband and three sonskilledbytheenemyintheirhomeandherentirehousewasburnedtotheground.Wecanonlyimaginehowthateventaffectedthatwoman’sstress, her health, and the circumstances of herwhole life. She passedthose stressmemories (and their symptoms) down to her descendants,eventhosesofarremovedfromthesituationthattheydidn’tevenknowabout it—includingmyclient.Butsuchstressesdon’tmeanthere isnohope of healing them. Once we identified this memory from pastgenerations,wecouldaddressthesourceofmyclient’sproblemsandshewasabletoheal.You’lllearnhowtodothatforyourselfinPartIII.Ifyoucomparethedetailsoftheresearchofalltheexpertsmentioned,

they say the same thing: the sourceofeveryproblemcanbe linked toour subconsciousmind, otherwise known as our cellularmemories, orspiritual heart. The trigger is something in our current circumstancesrelatedtothepastmemory,andthesymptomisthestressresponse.

HOWCELLULARMEMORIESCAUSETHENEGATIVESYMPTOMSINOURLIVESHere’swhatall this reallymeans.Yourbody ismadeupof7,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 (7 octillion) atoms. Every single one ofthoseatomsisinfluencedbyyourthoughts.Everytimeyouhaveanewthought,youarecreatingnewconnectionsorneuralpathways inyourbrain. When you have the same thoughts or emotions automaticallytriggered by a certain event, this emotion or thought comes from aneuralnetwork thatwaswiredwhenyouexperiencedanevent for thefirsttime.Theseneuralnetworksareyourcellularmemories.Everytimeyouexperienceasimilarevent,thesamememoryistriggered,andyouareusuallynot consciously awareofwhere it comes fromorwhyyoufeelthatway.The challenge is that most of your responses happen on autopilot,

basedon thesememoriesofpreviousexperiences. Ifyougrewupwithgreatrolemodelsandanempoweringlife,thenyoumaybeoneofthe

luckyoneswhohaveaprettygreatlifetoday.Butifyouhadtraumasinyourpast thatyouhaven’tyethealed,whether inyourownlifeor thelivesofyourpredecessors,thenyourlifeislikelytobefilledwithsimilarexperiencesthatkeepcomingupagainandagainbasedonyourcellularmemories.Your cellular memories are the reference points your brain uses todecidehowtorespondinthehereandnow.It’sthereasonsomanyofusrole-play our parents in our relationships as adults, for better or forworse—evenwhenweknowbetterandtryourbestnottoactthatway.Soifyouhaveamemorywithangerinit,orfear,orlowself-esteem,orhundredsofothersimilarlynegativefeelings,thatmemorycanmakeyousick,leadtofailure,anddestroyyourmostimportantrelationships.When you encounter any situation in your life, youmay think you’reapproaching this situation completely anewas a rational logicaladult,andmakingnewconsciousdecisionsabouthowyou’regoingtoreactinthepresentmoment.Inactuality,yourspiritualheartissearchingforamemorythatbestmatchesthesensoryinputit’sreceiving.Accordingtoresearch, our sensory perception (a sight, smell, feeling, etc.) is goneafteronesecond.Sohoweverwerespondafteronesecondhasnothingtodowithoursenses,ithastodowithourmemorybanks.12“Wedon’tseethingsastheyare.Weseethemasweare.”13Recalltheexampleweusedearlierabouttwopeoplesidebysideinrush-hourtraffic.Onegoesinto road rage; theother is cool as a cucumber.Theyare in the exactsameexternalcircumstance.Thedifferencecan’tbethecircumstance.Ithastobesomethinginternal,anditis.If your spiritual heart finds a happy memory, you tend to reactpositively. If it finds a painful memory, you tend to react in fear oranger.Thatfear-basedmemorywillproducenegativesymptomsinyourphysiology, thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. A memoryfunctionsalotlikeacellphone,broadcastingandreceivingconstantly.Thatmemorybroadcastsa“fearsignal”tosurroundingcells,aswellasto the hypothalamus in your brain,which governs the stress response.When the cells receive that signal, they close and go into death anddisease mode; they don’t eliminate toxins or take in needed oxygen,nutrition,hydration,andions.Ifthecellremainsinthisclosedstatelongenough, theodds skyrocket that itwillunmaskadiseasegene. In fact,Dr.BruceLipton says that this is theonlywayyoucanhaveadisease

manifestinyourlife.Ifthisdoesn’thappen,youliterallycan’tgetsick,because your immune and healing systems will always be working atoptimumlevels.Whenthehypothalamusreceivesthefearsignalfromthememory,itturnsonthestressresponse.Bingo—that’swhereeveryproblembegins.Our fight-or-flight reaction is triggered, our hypothalamus floods ourbody with stress hormones such as cortisol, and we shift into pain/pleasureprogrammingsothatwemustseekrelieffromthispainorfearatallcosts.Nowwewanttoeitherrunfromthatthingordestroyit.Ourbrainhasdisconnectedor turneddownour rationalconscious thinkingexcept to rationalize fight or flight. That stress makes us sick, tired,dumb, negative, and a failure—producing virtually every kind ofnegativesymptompossible.Seetheconnection?This concept has very important implications for the role of ourconsciousmind in decisionmaking and action. Dr.William Tiller toldme the following about conscious and unconscious intention: “If theyconflict,theunconsciouswinseverytime.”Whenweactonsomething,one second before we consciously decide to do it, there’s a chemicalspike in the brain, mandating what our decision will be and alreadymobilizing the body to do that action—all just a second before ourconsciousminddecideswhatwe’regoingtodo.Soourconsciouschoiceis actually mandated by our programming if we have a fear memoryrelated to the situation (which you are frequently unaware of): we’reonly coming upwith a logical explanation for what our unconscious/subconscious has already decided.NationalGeographic refers to this as“theillusionofintention.”14You’veseenmanyexamplesof it inyourownlife. InAmerica,somefarmerfamilieshavedrivennothingbutaChevyforgenerations(“It’safamilything—wedriveChevys”).EvenifChevyisrankednumber47inquality, drivers in these families will come up with every possiblerationalizationorexplanationwhythere’saconspiracyatworkhereandwhyChevyshouldberankednumberone,butsomehowisn’t.Ofcourse,theseargumentsaren’tbasedonthetruequalityof thevehicle,butontheprogrammingthey’vereceivedfromtheirparentsandgrandparents,andtheirsurroundings.IfChevyisnumberone,thentheirconsciousandunconsciousmindareinharmony.Ifnot,they’rewonderingwhypeoplearewritingalltheseliesaboutChevy,andthey’reconstantlyinstress—

which, as seemingly unimportant as the surface issue sounds, is stilladdingtotheirstressbarrelandpossiblycausingavarietyofsymptomsintheirlivestheycan’tfindthecausefor.Whydotheykeepdoingthis?Why can’t they see what they are doing and just start believing thetruth? Because their unconscious is “mandating” that they buy Chevy,and the conscious mind has an innate “need” to make sense ofcircumstancesandwhyyouthink,feel,believe,anddowhatyoudo.Sothey do what they are “compelled” to do, not knowing why, andrationalizewhy,becausetheydon’treallyknow.Amoreseriousexamplewouldbeourreligiousupbringing.Asforme,

I was raised in a very strict religious household, which resulted insomethinglikeaschizophrenicconflictinsideme:IwastaughtthatGodislove,butthathewasalsojustwaitingformetoputatoeoutoflinetosmackmedown.AsayoungadultIthrewthisconceptofGodoverboardbecauseitmadenosensetome.Oratleastmyconsciousmindthrewitoverboard, because it was causing me so much pain. It literally tookdecadesformyspiritualhearttofollow.Butstartingatthatmoment,Iwentonasearch.Overtimemybeliefshealedandchanged,andtoday,Ihave chosen not to be part of any religion (i.e., regularly visiting acertain building by a certain name and with a certain set of rules tofollow to be a “goodmember”). I have found good and bad in all ofthem.However,innowaydoIintendtoimplythatIthinklessof,orlook

down on, people who believe and live religion. I don’t. I am simplyrelayingmyownbeliefsandmyownpath.Today,Iconsidermyself tobeafollowerofJesus—period—nothingmoreorless.Jesustaughtthatif you love, you have done it all; if you don’t live in love, you havemissed themark. I believemy job,with every person and in any andevery situation, is to love with no agenda and no strings attached—whethertheylikeme,arenicetome,ortheopposite.Myjobisnottojudge,justlove.Ibelievethisis“spiritual,”notreligious,living.But here’smyquestion:What is inside of you? Is it Ford orChevy?

Religious or not? Cowboys or Redskins? Big government orantigovernment?Isthereanysenseofcomparisonorcompetitionwherewhateveryoubelieveinhastocomeoutontop?Orareyoucontinuallyseekingandopentothewholetruth,nomatterwhat?Americaisoneoftherichestandblessednationsontheplanet.YetsomanyAmericansare

incredibly stressed about finances because they’re comparing theirsituation to someone else whom they think has it better. Wheneversomeonecomes intomyofficestressedabout finances, Iaskthem:“Doyou have a home? Do you have food on the table? Do you haveelectricity?” Ruefully they usually answer, “Yes.” They’re typicallyworriedaboutsomethingthatwillneverhappen—andeveniftheyhavelostsomethingbig,somehowtheywillstillhavearoofovertheirheadand food to eat. But the source of their stress is the internal fearprogramming causing them to compare themselves with others, notbecausetheirtruesafetyorsurvivalwasthreatened.Ioncesawanonlinepollthatasked,“Ifyoucouldpullupyourhome,

possessions,andwhereveryou’re living rightnowandput itall in thepoorest part of Ethiopia, would you feel any different?” The typicalreaction has fascinated me. Most people said yes, they would feeldifferently—but not because they’d feel more content andcompassionate.They’dfeelanxiousbecausenowthey’dneedtoprotecttheirstuff fromeveryoneelsewhohas it somuchworsethantheydo!This kind of unconscious intention is whywe have to deprogram andreprogram the memories in our spiritual heart. Otherwise, we’ll be apuppettosubconsciousorunconsciousissuesthatnotonlydon’thelporserveus,theymightnotevenbetrueinthefirstplace.Let’s see what unconscious intention looks like in action. A man

approachesalineoftrafficataredlight,andhebecomesangry.Angerisafear-basedemotion,soifheisexperiencingfearinasituationthatisnotlife-threatening,thisisasignthathehasahumanhard-drivevirus,which simply means something in his survival mechanism ismalfunctioning.Thatistosay,hehasmemoriesinhisspiritualheart(orsubconscious mind) that are telling him this is a life-threateningsituation, whether it’s from his upbringing, past experience, or evengenerationalexperiencehemayormaynotknowabout.Let’salso sayhe’s read the introduction to this book, so his conscious mind knowswhathe’ssupposedtodo:sitinhiscarpatientlyandlovethedriverinfrontofhim.Goodluckwiththat,right?Youcanalreadyseetheproblem:thatconsciousinsightdoesn’tstand

a chance.Whenhisbrainandbody chemistry are tellinghim to fight,the last thing hewants to do, or can do, is sit in love. That’s the lastthinganyofuswouldwanttodo!Fewarecapableofresistingourpain/

pleasureprogrammingwhenourbodiesareinanactivestateoffightorflight.Willpowerjustwon’twork,becausethetriggerwaspulledbeforehe even realized what was happening. In fact, whatever willpowerindividuals canmuster in fight or flight is usually just enough to getthemtothecarhorn,orwhatevertheycangettheirhandsonthefastestthat will allow them to “blow off steam” or bring them some instantrelieffromthepainthey’refeeling.Itisusuallynotenoughtogetthemtodowhattheybelieveisright.

THEREISNOTRUEHEALINGWITHOUTTHEHEALINGOFYOURMEMORIESSo there isno truehealingwithouthealingyourmemories—physicallyornonphysically!Ifthere’ssomethingyoudon’tlikeaboutyourcurrentexperience, you can take this to the bank: you have memories thatcontainsimilarnegativeexperiences,andspecificprogrammingforwhatyou are experiencing. In otherwords, you’re reliving and reproducingyourfear-basedmemoriesoverandover.Ifyoufindyourselfinanykindofcycleinyourlife,thosememoriesarethesourceofthecycle.Infact,everything—your physiology, your thoughts, your beliefs, youremotions,andyourbehaviors—areallmanifestationsofyourmemoriesand the beliefs that come from them.Your fear-based programming ismandatingyourcurrentsituation.I hope you’re seeing more clearly now why willpower and most

therapy don’t work: they don’t get to the source of the real problem.Eventherapiessuchasconsciousdesensitizationthatseem togetatthememoriesthemselvesdonotusuallyprovidelastinghealing.Why?Theytend to program our unconscious to repress those memories and thusdisconnectouremotionalresponsesfromthem.Thisiscoping,nottruehealing.Also,evenrepressed,thesememoriesfillupourstressbarrel.Inother words, they effectively place us in a constant state of internalunconscious stress. Even if those memories don’t actively bother youanymoreemotionally,theymaystillbecausingmoreproblemsthaneverinavarietyof symptomsyoucan’t seem toget ridof.Repressionpluscoping is the opposite of healing. Many people simply end up feelingnumb, rather than experiencing the positive results of love, joy, or

peace.Repressionpluscopingstillequalsstress.Overtheyears,manytimessomeonewouldcometometodealwitha

particular problem, but then offhandedly mention another moretraumatic incident that happened long ago. They’d believe they haddealtwiththatincidentbecausetheyhaddonetherapyforthirtyyearsfor it. I would say, “That’s great,” but also know that issue wouldprobablycomeupagaininmyworkwiththem.Most likelyithadjustbeenrepressed,ortheyhadlearnedcopingmechanisms—ithadn’tbeenhealed.Hypnosisisanothertechniquethatattemptstogoinandhealissuesin

ourunconscious.ButIwouldneveralloweventhepersonItrustedmostintheworldtodohypnosisonme.I’mnotsayingitcan’twork.Aswell-meaning and as experienced as the therapist may be, a hypnotist canveryeasilydisturbsomethinginourunconsciouswithoutmeaningto,orleave anunintentional posthypnotic suggestion that couldmake thingspotentiallyfarworsethantheywerebefore.Andnoone—noteventhehypnotist—wouldknowwhy.I’vewitnessedthishappenmorethanonce.I’llneverforgetseeingthis

duringoneofmydoctoralpracticums.Theguydoingthehypnosiswasagenius—accordingtome,atleast.Hewastheheadofthedepartmentata top academic university, and he was extremely experienced andrespectedasapractitioner.Iwasobservinghimworkingwithapersonusing hypnosis, when I faintly heard someone else talking outsidethrough a closedwindow. The person outside had no idea a hypnosiswasgoingoninsidethebuilding;shewasjusthavingaconversation.Butthrough the closedwindow, I heard this very faint “never going to beable to do it.” I had no idea what they were talking about. Anassignment, a relationship, a new blouse? But when I heard thecomment, Ihadwhat seemed tobea randomthought: Iwonder if thatperson in hypnosis heard that. The lookon thehypnotizedperson’s facemademebelievethathehadheardit,andifhedid,thatphrase“nevergoing tobeable todo it” instantlybecameahypnotic suggestion thatwent straight to his unconscious.Whatever solution the hypnotistwassuggesting,theperson’sunconsciouswastellinghimhewouldneverbeable to do it. About six months later, I found out that the person’sproblems had increased tenfold after hypnosis and no one knewwhy.WhenIheardthis,IapproachedthehypnotistandtoldhimwhatIhad

heardandseenandaskedifthismightbewhythingshadgottenworse.Basedonthelookonhisface,Icouldtellthatheknewitcouldverywellbethereason.However,hesaid,“Idoubtthathasanythingtodowithit.” But he didn’t really know, and there was nothing he thought hecould do about it anyway. To further complicate matters, theunconsciousmindcaninterpretthehypnotist’swordsinadifferentwaythantheyaremeant,basedonpreviousfearmemoryprogramming.Pleasenotethatthisisjustmyopinion.Ihaveseensomegoodthings

comeoutofhypnosis,suchasquittingsmoking,butpersonallyIwouldneverdoitbasedonthepotentialforthingstogowrong.Typicaltherapycangoonforyearsandfailtohavealastingimpact

becauseit’seitherfocusedcompletelyontheconsciousmind(“let’stalkabout your mother”), or it’s stumbling around in the depths of yourunconsciouswithout a flashlight, andwithout the proper tools for thejob.Instead,weneedtotargetandhealthesource,whichistheoriginalmemory that’s triggering this reaction in the first place. Morespecifically,weneedtoidentifythehumanhard-drivevirus,deprogramthatmemorysoitnolongersendsthatfearsignalthatisturningoffourimmunesystemandourbestresources,andthenreprogramitsothatitcanoperateintruthandlove,producingall thepositivesymptomsourbodieswere designed to produce naturally. For thatwe need concretetools that are designed, tested, and capable of deprogramming andreprogramming,notjustwillpowerorwords.15

HEALINGSOURCEMEMORIESEven though scientists are still learning about how to manipulate themarkersonourcellsinalaboratoryenvironment,Iamhappytotellyouthatyoudon’tneedtowaitforalaboratorybreakthroughtodeprogramandreprogramyourmemories.Itispossibletodonow.Wait a minute: How can it be possible to heal something that

happenedinthepast—particularlyifitdidn’tevenhappentoyou,asingenerational memories? For the spiritual heart (or subconscious/unconsciousmind)—wherealltheprogrammingfortheseissuesresides—thereisnopastorfuture,onlythepresent.Everythingis immediate,360-degree, surround-sound raw experience happening now, in the

moment.Eventhoughwethinkofmemoriesasbeinginourpast, theyare very much in our present to the unconscious mind, and we canaccess them right now. In fact, you’re going to learn exactly how toidentifyandhealyoursourcememoriesinPartIII,butwe’rejustgoingto cover the general concepts here. You’ll need to understand thesebeforeweputthemintopracticelater.The first step to healing our memories is to understand the wholetruthabout the incident that created thememory.Whenever apainfulmemoryiscreated,wetypicallysimultaneouslycreateanincorrectbelief(a lie, or a misinterpretation of the event), and it is actually thisincorrectbelief,orourinterpretationofthisevent,thatcausesustoreactinfear,nottheeventitself.In fact, a memory that triggers fear always goes back to a wronginterpretationoftheoriginalevent.ThetruesourceofmyfearandstressisnotthefactthatMomdied;it’smybeliefthatbecauseMomdied,I’llneverbeokayagain.It’snotthediagnosisofcancer;it’smybeliefthatbecause I’ve been diagnosed with cancer, my life is over. It’s not theunkindthingsomeonedidtomeinandofitself;it’smybeliefthatthisunkindthingmeansthatIamapersonofinferiorworthandvalue.By theway, theoriginal incidentmayormaynothavebeenwhatapsychologist (or anyone else) would call traumatic. The incident mayhavehappenedduringourfirstsixyearsoflife,whenwehadatempertantrum for whatever reason, and it was programmed as a trauma. Ihave hadmany clientswhose success issues go back to these kinds ofseeminglyminor incidents, and I often call them“Popsiclememories,”afteraclientwhodiscoveredthathersuccessissueswentbacktowhenshewasfiveyearsoldandhadatantrumovernotreceivingaPopsicle.16Whetherwewoulddefineourpast experiences as “traumatic” todaymakesnodifferencetooursubconsciousandunconsciousmind.What’simportant is to heal thememory and fear signal it’s transmitting.Wemustidentifyandremovetheliecreatedfromthepastpainfulmemoryandreplaceitwiththetruth.Justlikeyouwouldpulloutasplinter,youcanpullouttheliethat’scausingyourpainandcausingyoutoseetheworldthroughdark-coloredglasses.To be clear, when I say “understand the whole truth” about theincident, I mean as much of the truth as we can find—we don’tnecessarilyneedallthehistoricaldetailsaboutasituation.Evenso,most

peopleareunabletosearchforthewholetruthaboutanevent,becausefight/flight/shockpreventsthemfromit;it’ssimplytoopainful.Infact,we cannot find most of our memories because they are in ourunconscious. Don’t worry, I will show you how to heal these as well.This is yet another reason why willpower won’t work: we needsubconscioustoolsthatcangostraighttothesourceandhealit,whichwe’lllearnmoreaboutinchapter4.Howdoyouknowwhenyourmemorieshavebeen fullyhealedandthatyou’vebrokenthecycle—withoutwillpower?Thenexttimeyou’reunder external pressure, you feel peace and joy (the by-products oflove),ratherthananxietyandstress(theby-productsoffear).Mywife, Hope, was depressed for a number of years earlier in ourmarriage.Duringthattime,onedayabigpackagecametothehousebyUPS.Thiswasbackwhenour sons,HarryandGeorge,were little,andeveryonewasexcitedtoseewhatwasinsidethisgiganticbox.Asitturnsout,itwassomethingsmall,butveryfragile,sotheboxwasfilledmostlywiththoseStyrofoampeanuts.Thedaywentbacktonormaluntilaboutthreehourslater,whenIheardthemosthorriblecommotionupstairs.Irusheduptoseewhatitwas,onlytofindGeorgecrying,Hopefurious,and the littlewhite peanuts strewnall over the freshly cleanedhouse.Needlesstosay,atraumasituationwascreatedinourhomeforthenexttwenty-fourhoursorso.Twoyearslater,afterHope’sdepressionhadbeenhealed,youguessedit:UPSdeliveredanotherbigbox,alsofullofStyrofoampeanuts.Onceagain,allwaswelluntilaboutthreehourslater,whenIheardaterriblecommotionupstairsagain.Onthewayupstairstoputoutthefire,Iwasexperiencing déjà vu. But when I got to the top of the stairs, I wasshocked.Isawmybeautifulwifelaughinglikeaten-year-oldschoolgirl,throwing handfuls of peanuts up in the air, pretending they weresnowflakes. Harry and George, following suit, were frolicking, rolling,singing,andhavingthetimeoftheirlives.Thiseventalsoaffectedourhome for the next twenty-four hours, but in a very different way. Iwouldgiveamilliondollarstodayforavideoofthosefiveminutes.So what in the world happened in those two years that changedHope’s reaction sodramatically?Hopehadbeen reprogrammed.Whenthe first event occurred, Hope was looking at the situation throughlenses of pain and fear. Two years later, that programmingwas gone,

whichchangedhowshesawthesituation,andnowhernaturalinstinctwas fun. No one suggested it; there were no “shoulds.” Her natural,immediateresponsehadbeencompletelyreversed.That,myfriends, iswhat“breakingthecycle”lookslike.Note: Ineed toaddawordaboutaddictionshere. Ihavenevermetanyonewithsignificantproblemsintheirlifewhodidnotalsohaveanaddiction or unhealthy habit. I’ve been a supporter of AlcoholicsAnonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) for as long as I canremember,andIhaveknownmorethanafewpeoplewhoselivesweresavedbytheseandothersimilarprograms.Nevertheless,manystudiesestimatetherelapserateofAAandNAtobearound90 to99percent (whichwouldbeasuccess rateof1 to10percent).Andit’snotjustAAandNA.Itappearstobetrueforjustaboutevery addiction and habit intervention I can find.Why? I believe it’sbecausethey’reteachingthestandardthree-stepsuccessblueprint.We can’t heal addictions with our willpower because they, too, arebased on our pain/pleasure programming. Here’s how the addictioncycleworks:itbeginswithanexperienceofsomekindofinternalpain,whichcanincludethelackofpleasure(i.e.,boredom,desires,etc.).Thisinternalpain triggers the fear response,whichunleashes thechemicalscortisol and adrenaline,which creates a cascade of negative emotions.But instead of choosing to respond to the situation in truth and lovedespite the pain, we follow our pain/pleasure programming and dowhateverwecantoavoidpainorseekpleasure.Ifwehaveanaddictivehabit,that’sthefirstplacewego.Thesolutiontoaddictionisthesameasanyothersuccessproblem.Ifyoucandeprogramthe internal fearandreprogramin love,addictionstendtobeeasytoovercome,withoutrelapse—ortheyneverhappeninthe first place. Living in love unleashes the opposite chemical chainreaction thatbothdiminishes thepainand increasespleasure inawaythatisbeyondwords.Insteadofsymptomandbehavioralmanagement,itaddressestheproblematitssource.Most of us have at least one destructive habit that may not be anaddiction yet, but it could be someday. We need to get beyondwillpower in dealing with addictions and address the subconscioussource of our programming. When we can deprogram the fear andreprograminlove,choosingtorespondtopainintruthandlovewillbe

almosteffortless.

chapter3

THESPIRITUALPHYSICSOFTRUTHANDLOVE

As we learned in the last chapter, both new scientific research andancientspiritualwisdomhaveshownthatyourmemoriesarethesourceofvirtuallyeveryphysical,emotional,andspiritualsymptomyouhave,andthattheyresideintheinformationfieldofeverycellinyourbody.There’san important implicationhere.The sourceofall the symptomsyou experience in your life, even the undeniably physical ones, is nottangible.Itisnotbone,blood,ortissue;rather,itismadeofenergy.Thateverythingisenergyshouldn’tbeasurprisetous,asEinstein’sequationE=mc2showsusthateverythingboilsdowntoanenergypattern.Asresearcher William Collinge wrote, “Einstein showed through physicswhat the sages have taught for thousands of years: Everything in ourmaterial world—animate and inanimate—is made of energy, andeverythingradiatesenergy.”1Yetwehavenotyetsystematicallyappliedthisideathateverythingisenergytoourownlifeissues,particularlytoourmostpervasivestruggles.

THEKEYTOHEALTHANDSUCCESSISSPIRITUAL,NOTPHYSICALLet’sstartwiththebigpicture.Ifyou’rekeepingupwiththenews,youprobably already know that, even though we are living longer, oursociety’shealthhasbeengettingworse.In1971,RichardNixondeclaredwaroncancer,backwhenitwastheeighth-leadingcauseofdeathintheUnitedStates.Today,morethanfortyyears later, it is thenumberonecauseofdeathworldwide—andit’s increasingtoepidemicproportions.

In 2014, theWorldHealthOrganization stated that cancer caseswereexpectedtoincrease50percentoverthenexttenyears.2It’s not just cancer.Thenumberof almost everyotherdiagnosishasskyrocketed, too—as has the amount of money spent on managingdiseases’symptomsandresearchingtheirpotentialtreatmentsandcures.Insomecases,thesideeffectsoftraditionaltreatmentsandmedicationsareworse than the symptoms of a disease itself.We spend billions ofdollars on pharmaceuticals and testing—and inmany cases the resultsshowthattheplaceboisaseffectiveasthetreatmentstheyaretesting,orevenmoreso.This is true for both standard Western medicine and alternativemedicine.Yes,Ibelieveinnaturalhealth.ForyearsItooksupplementseveryday.MywifeandIalsotookhomeopathyforyears.Imeditate.Ipray.Iexerciseanddrinkcleanwater.But ifwe’regoingtobehonest,wehavetoadmitthatdespitethenaturalhealthtidalwaveoverthepasttwenty to thirty years, our health has still been getting worse. I’vethoughtandmeditatedaboutthisalot.Howcanthisbe?Howcanwebemaking medical discoveries and relying more on natural healththerapies,whileourhealthcontinues to free-fall?Theonly thing I cancome upwith is thatwe’ve got to be looking in the wrong place for thesolution. We’ve been thinking solely in terms of traditional versusalternativemedicine.Butthesourceofhealingisnotfoundintraditionalmedicineoralternativemedicine.It’snotinthephysicalworldatall.It’sinthespiritualworld—theworldofenergy.After I discovered the power of theGreatest Principle back in 1988and then the Three Tools to deprogram and reprogram over the nexttwenty years, I did a lot of research to try to figure out how it reallyworked,bothinscientificstudiesandinancientspiritualmanuscripts.Ifound the first building blocks in an ancientmanuscript writtenmorethanthreethousandyearsagobyKingSolomon,akingofIsraelfamedfor his wisdom even beyond the borders of his tiny country. In it hewrote, “Aboveall, guardyourheart, for from it flowsall the issuesoflife.” Even though he didn’t completely explain what he meant by“guarding your heart,” we at least know that whatever King Solomonmeant by “heart,” it was not the heart that pumps your bloodthroughout your body. It was the spiritual, “I love you with all myheart”heart.Itwasthesourceofalltheissuesweexperienceinlife.

Inanotherancientmanuscriptwrittenabouttwothousandyearsago,theapostlePaulexplainedthisconceptof“guardingyourheart”alittlebitmore.He said if you have love, you have everything; if you don’thave love, you have nothing. And if you do things in love, they willcreatesuccessinyourlife;ifyoudon’tdotheminlove,theywillprofityounothing.3 Inthetwentiethcentury,MahatmaGandhidescribedthesametruthfromadifferentangle:“WhenIdespair,Irememberthatallthroughhistorythewayof truthandlovehasalwayswon.Therehavebeen tyrants andmurderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible,butintheend,theyalwaysfall.Thinkofit—always.”4IfSolomonisrightandeveryissuewehavecomesfromthespiritualheart,thatmeansifIgetcancer,it’sgottocomefromaspiritualheartissue—whetherweexperienceloveorfear,forgivenessorunforgiveness,joyorsadness,peaceoranxiety,self-worthorself-rejection.Thesameistruefordiabetes,multiplesclerosis,andanyotherhealthproblem.Now,I’mnotsayingthereisn’tageneticspieceoranutritionpiecethataffectshowthatdiseasetakesholdofus.Butthelinchpin,theyes-or-noswitch,isinthespiritualheart.Clearlyourcollectivespirituallifeasasocietyisfarfromwhereitneedstobe—andit’swhyourstressisoutofcontrol,too.Ourspiritualrealityisthemostpowerfulrealityofourlives,yetwetendtofocusthelion’sshareofourtimeandattentiononthephysicalandexternalcircumstances.If it is, inaway, that’s goodnews.We’vebeen focusedon standardand complementary medicine, but we haven’t yet focused on thespiritual.Orifwehave,we’vebeenlookingatitinthewrongway.

WHYMOSTAFFIRMATIONSDON’TWORKOne way many people have incorporated spirituality into achievingexternal results is through the use of affirmations. We’ve alreadymentionedDr.BruceLipton’sworkestablishingthatourbeliefsarethesourceofalmosteverysymptomandproblemwehave.Becausephysicalandnonphysicalresultscomethroughthedoorofbelief,ithasbecomevery popular over the last fifty years to try to “manufacture” beliefthrough affirmations. This approach is like trying to pick up a veryheavyrock—youmightbeabletodoitthroughgreatstressandstrain,

butyoumightalsohurtsomethingintheprocess.Abouttenortwelveyearsago,Ifeltasifaffirmationswerecomingat

me fromall sides.Anumberofbestsellingbooksonaffirmationscameoutatthattime,andpeopleweretellingmeaboutthemateveryturn.Itseemedtobethe“hot”thingofthedayintheself-helpworld.OnedayIwaswiththisguywhohadastomachproblem.Everywherewewenthewas saying, “My stomach problem is already healed. My stomachproblem is healing completely right now. My stomach problem isalreadyhealed.Mystomachproblemishealingcompletelyrightnow.”Iwatched him for a while. Finally I said, “Is that helping?” He said,“Yeah. Ireallythinkit is.”Well, threemonths later, Iwasstillhearinghimsay,“Mystomachproblemisalreadyhealed.…”Ofcourse,peopledon’tuseaffirmationsjustforhealthproblems.Inthesuccessfield,youoften hear people saying, “Amillion dollars is on the way. Amilliondollarsiscomingtomerightnow.”Severalyearsago,thefirstuniversitydouble-blindstudyI’veeverseen

on this subject came out from the University of Waterloo. It washeadlinenewsallovertheworld.CNN,ABC,NBC,Fox,andnewspaperseverywhereweretalkingaboutit.Thestudyfoundthatthepeoplewhoalready had strong self-esteem felt even better about themselves afterrepeating positive affirmations. But those who did not already havestrong self-esteem (the great majority of people in the study) andrepeatedthesamepositiveaffirmationsfeltevenworse.5Whyisthat?Thetwomostimportantingredientsforachievingresults

throughbeliefaretruthandlove.First,weneedtobelievetherealtruthto produce long-term, sustainable results. Just like there are differentkindsoflove(agapeanderos,forinstance),therearedifferentkindsofbelief. I distinguish them as “placebo,” “nocebo,” and “defacto.” Aplacebobeliefisbelievingapositiveuntruth,whichcreatesatemporarypositive effect (as we see in the example of pharmaceuticals). Theaverageeffect,according tostudies, is thataplaceboworksaround32percentofthetime,andtemporarily.6A nocebo belief is believing a negative untruth, which prevents a

positive effect from happening. Nocebo beliefs are themisinterpretations, or “splinters,” from our internal programming thatwediscussedinchapter2,andtheyblock thehealingandsuccess thatcould be yours. For example, let’s say you visited the doctor and you

werediagnosedwithbreastcancer.Theycompletedabiopsy,measuredyour white blood cells, and completed your treatment, whetherconventionaloralternative.You return for the resultsof the follow-uptests and the doctor says he has good news: there’s no evidence ofcancer.Asfarashe’sconcerned,youlookgreat.Butyougohomeanddon’tbelievethetruthofwhatthedoctortoldyou.Youworry,What ifhemissedsomething?Whatif itcomesback?This isnocebobelief. Itcanliterallyblockwhateverhealingispossibleorishappeningalready,oritcan create new health problems. Nocebo results can produce externalresults,accordingtoresearch,alsoaround30to40percentofthetime.BenJohnson,adearfriendofmineandtheonlymedicaldoctorinthemovie The Secret, told me about a patient of his whose father,grandfather,andgreat-grandfatherhadalldiedofaheartattackatageforty—quiteanunusualsituation.Eventhoughthepatienthadnoheartproblems,hewas totallyconvinced,andterrified, thathewoulddieatage forty, and no one could convince him otherwise. Sure enough, heturnsfortyandfallsoverdead.Thethingis,whentheydidanautopsy,there was absolutely no reason for the young man to die. No heartproblems or heart attack, no health problems of any kind. He hadliterallynoceboedhimselfintodying.Adefactobeliefisbelievingthewholetruth,orobjectivereality.Thisworks100percentofthetime,ifyoubelieveitandactonit.Itisworthnoting that nocebo and placebo beliefs are both fear based, whiledefactobeliefsarelovebased.We live in interesting times. A great many people and books thesedays would have us believe that there is no objective reality, thatperceptionistheonlyreality.Ifthisistrue,itwouldhavetomeanthatevery belief is a defacto belief—even if you hold conflicting beliefs. Ifthere is no objective reality, why try to be healthy and eat right orexercise, if it’s all just perception? Just placebo or nocebo yourself,dependingontheeffectyou’retryingtoachieve.Ofcourse,wedon’tlivethiswaybecausewe inherentlyknow that there is anobjective realityaboutmostthings.Many affirmations don’t work because not only are they often nottrue,they’reoftennotdoneinlove.Ifyouraffirmationisrepeatedfroma place of fear-based self-interest alone, it is likely not being done inlove.Let’staketheearlieraffirmation,“Mystomachproblemisalready

healed,”asanexample.Firstofall,did themanrepeating itbelieve itwastrue?No!Didhehopeitwouldbetrue?Certainly—butaswesaidbefore,thiskindofbeliefdoesnotyieldlastingresults.Second,wasthisaffirmationdoneinlove?Wecan’tbesure—butitwasalmostcertainlydoneinfear,whichistheoppositeoflove,theparentofselfishness,andtheinstanttriggerofstress,whichishowhegotthestomachprobleminthefirstplace.Youmaybeabletorationalizethatyouraffirmationsaredoneintruthandlove,butonlybyhonestlyexaminingyourownheartandintentionswillyouknowforsure.ForaboutayearandahalfItestedaffirmationssuchasthisoneinmy

practicewiththeheartratevariabilitytest(themedicaltestforstress).WhatI foundwasthatwhenpeoplesaidaffirmationsthattheydidnotbelieve,theirstresslevelspiked.Well,stressishowtheygottheproblemin the first place. So, in reality, theywere trying to solve their stressproblemwithsomethingthatwascausingmorestress.Inadditiontobeingtrueandbeinginlove,inordertobeeffectivethe

person has to believe the affirmation. There’s a difference between abeliefthat’smorelikeahopeorapipedream,andabeliefItendtocall“I know that I know that I know.” The latter is the effective kind ofbeliefthatgetsresults.Overthelastseventy-fiveyearsorso,throughoutthe history of the faith healing movement, a number of extremelypopularfaithhealershavebeenfoundtobefrauds.Newsorganizationshave done exposés that revealed clearly incriminating evidence: thehealers were using “spies” planted in the audience, eavesdropping onconversationsandsharinginformationwiththeso-calledhealerssotheycouldknowthings theywouldotherwisenothaveknown.At thesametime,withoutadoubt, somepeoplehavebeenmiraculouslyphysicallyhealed. Now, here’s the interesting thing: some of these healingshappenedwiththefrauds!Howcanthisbe?Itallhastodowithbelief.Their healing was always possible, with or without the healer. Theirbodies could do it, they believed it was possible, and so it happened.Plus, frommy perspective, God’s not going to penalize you if the guyonstage is a fraud.Theconverse is also true, though: justbecauseyouknowsomebodywhoreceivedamilliondollarsinashortperiodoftimeafter reciting certain affirmationsdoesn’tmean it’s going tohappen toyou.Foryou,itmaynotbetrue,itmaynotbeinlove,oryoumaynottrulybelieveit.

More recently, other studies have come out that have documentedpositiveeffects fromcertain“affirmations” thatare truestatements thesubjectsalreadybelieve.7Theimportantpointiswhetherthestatementsmeetall threecriteria—theyarebased in love,arebased in truth,andarebelieved—notwhethertheyarecalled“affirmations.”True belief is not manufactured like doing an algebra problem in

school;itisdiscoveredlikefindingatwenty-dollarbillontheground.Asyou pour thewhole truth into your heart andmind (whichmay takesometimeandsearchingtodiscover)andapplylovetoit,tryingnottobe biased because of the result you are trying to obtain, you willeventually discover yourself believing!You see it, feel it, taste it—youknowit!Thereasonwhyyoumustremoveyoursubconsciousvirusesisthattheyarelieskeepingyoufromunderstandingthewholetruth.Onceyouremovethem,youhavebuilt-inmechanismsthatwillrecognizeandintegrate the truth naturally, otherwise known as your conscience (orwhatIcallyour“lovecompass”),whichislocatedinthespiritualheart.Yourconscienceispreprogrammedandconstantlyupdatedtorespondtothewhole,realtruth—andtolove.Certain affirmations can actually be harmful if they are trying to

programanew“truth”in,whichmaynotbethetruthatallandisfearbased, not love based. They may also be in opposition to your owntruth/love conscience, and these affirmations attempt to change yourconscience without removing the viruses. As a result, you will noweitherhavetwointernalvirusesaboutthatissue,orthetruthcompetingwith a lie,which causes internal confusionandmore stress.Neither iseffectiveforachievingwhatyoureallywant.So how do we cross over from ineffective belief to effective belief,

from placebo and nocebo to defacto, where we no longer desperatelyhope for somethingdeepdownwe fearwillneverhappenandwecansay in peace and love “I know that I know that I know”? It’s actuallyvery simple: we need understanding. The difference among placebo,nocebo,anddefactobeliefs(asidefrombeinglovebasedorfearbased)dependsonwhetheryouunderstand thewhole truthormisunderstandit. I’ve seen this misunderstanding at work over and over with myclients.Ifsomeoneclaimstobelievethetruthbutnothingintheirlifeischanging for the better, it’s almost always because theyhave awronginterpretationormisunderstandingofthetruth.

Anexampleofthiscanbefoundinthewaymen’sandwomen’sbrainsarewireddifferently.Intheearlyyearsofourmarriage,Iwouldalwaysdrive when Hope and I went somewhere. Every single time we wentanywhere,Iwouldstopinplentyoftimebehindacar,butHopewouldbecome tense, physically push on the dashboard with her hands, andshout “ALEX!” I started to get irritated at this regularly recurringemergency thatwasn’t really an emergency, and it became a point ofcontention and argument between us. Not a big deal, but like anemotional thorn inour side.Then I read research that said thatmen’sandwomen’sdepthperceptionsarephysicallyandgeneticallydifferent,and the example the author used in the book was the driving andstoppingexample—exactlywhatwashappeningwithHopeandme.AssoonasHope and I read that,we “understood,” and it becamea totalnonissuefromthenon.Whenyou finallyunderstand thatmissingpieceand“see” thewholetruth,youinstantlyandeffortlesslybelievethetruthinaprofoundnewway—and that creates results not possible before. When this wouldhappenwithmyclients concerning their life issues, Imighthear themsay, “Oh, I see,” or “Now I’ve got it.” Theywill almost always take averydeepbreathandaglowingsmilewillcomeacrosstheirface.Theynowtruly“believe”—defacto.Most of us already know that whatever we do needs to be done intruth and love.We inherently know that it is right to be honest, andwrong not to be.We “feel” that it is right to help others and not doanythingtohurtthem.Mostofusevenactivelywanttodoeverythingintruth and love.Why aren’twedoing it, though? Formost ofmy life Iknow I couldn’t. I’m certainly not doing it perfectly yet, but I’m waybetterthanIusedtobe.MostdaysIfeellikeI’mlivinginloveandjoyandpeaceandtruth.Iwantthatforyou,too.That’stheonlyreasonI’mwritingthisbook.Icanonlyseesomanypeoplepersonally.I’ve been teaching the concepts explained here privately for twenty-fiveyears—andItookitintheteethmanytimesforteachingthemandusing them with my clients before the scientific studies came out toprovethem.Onceconsideredfringe,theseconceptsarenowcutting-edgescience. For example, several mainstream doctors now agree with theidea thateverything isenergy,basedon thegrowingbodyof scientificevidence. One is Dr. Mehmet Oz—“America’s doctor”—who said on

international TV back in 2007 that energy medicine is the next bigfrontierinmedicine.I’vecometocalltheseconceptsbythesinglenameof Spiritual Physics, because they bring spirituality and science into aharmony and resonance thatwe can apply to any area of our lives inordertogetreal, lastingresults.Myhopeisthatthischapterwilloffertheunderstandingyourbeliefneedstoshift fromplaceboornocebotodefacto—andget thesamekindof results inyour life that Ihavebeenconsistently seeing for the last twenty-five years. And, of course, I amnotsuggestingyoudothissimplythroughwillpower,at leastnotuntilyoudeprogramand reprogramwhathasbeenkeepingyou fromdoingthattothispointinyourlife.

THEPHYSICSOFSPIRITUALPHYSICSIfEinstein’s equationhasproven thateverything is energy, thatmeansloveisalsoenergy—andoperatesonafrequencylikeanyotherkindofenergy.Infact, loveandlightarethetwosidesofthesamecoin.Bothhave positive healing frequencies; light is the more physicalmanifestationofthisenergeticfrequency,whileloveisthelessphysicalmanifestation.Ataverydifferentfrequency,wehavedarknessandfear,whicharealsotwosidesofthesamecoin.Darknessisthemorephysicalmanifestation;fearisthelessphysicalmanifestation.Did you know that an MRI machine doesn’t take a photographicpicture of your body? It creates a picture based on the energyfrequencies it records. The “R” in MRI stands for “resonance,” orfrequency. MRI machines are programmed with hundreds of energyfrequencies, such as the frequency of a healthy liver cell and thefrequencyofanunhealthy livercell.WhenanMRIscans thebodyandpicksupthefrequencyofanunhealthylivercell,itmakesapicturewithadarkspot,becausetheMRIispickingupthefrequencyofdarknessonyourliver.I’ve asked over two hundred doctors this question: “If your mind,body,andhealingsystemsareinperfectworkingorder,canyougetsickinnormal, day-to-day situations?” So far, the answer I’ve gotten everysingle time is “No.” In normal, day-to-day situations (I’m not talkingabout visiting a foreign country and catching a nasty killer virus your

body’sneverencounteredbefore), ifyourphysical immunesystemandyour mental and spiritual healing systems are working perfectly, youreallycan’tgetsick.Two things about our healing systems are important to note here.

First, our healing systems govern not just our physical selves, but ourwhole selves—physical, mental, and spiritual. There are nonphysicalaspects of your healing systems (in addition to your physical immunesystem) that help you feel love, joy, peace, and patience instead ofanger,sadness, fear,anxiety,orworry.Second,weexperiencenegativesymptoms(pain,fear,disease,anger,etc.)notbecausethere’sapresenceofthenegative,butbecausethere’salackofthepositive.Accordingtothe work of Dr. Caroline Leaf, we have no mechanisms—physical,emotional, or spiritual—that produce negative effects in our body.Weonly have mechanisms that produce the positive effects of health,vitality,andimmunity.8Everysinglemechanisminourbodyoperatestocreatehealthandhappinessinitsnaturalstate.Believingdiseaseisthenaturalstateofourbodyiskindofliketakingyourbrokendowncartothedealerandasking,“Whydidyoubuildthiscartomakeitdothat?”Ofcourse,thedealerwill lookpuzzledandsay,“Wedidn’t!Somethingmalfunctionedtomakeitbreakdown.Infact,youhaven’tchangedyouroil for forty thousand miles!” Our bodies work the same way. Whensomethingnegativehappensinourlife,itisalwaysamalfunctionofourpositivesystems.SoletmerephrasewhatIsaidbefore:aslongasyourmindandbody

areworking theway they’re supposed to,youcan’tgetphysically sickandyou’regoingtofeelgoodnonphysically—youliterallycannotbelostinfear,anxiety,worry,sadness,anger,andothernegativefeelings.Onlyonethingcancauseyourhealingsystemsnottoworkcorrectly:

fear. As we saw in the first chapter, when fear triggers your stressresponse,afearfrequencyorasignalissentfromyourmemorybankstothehypothalamusinyourbrain,whichturnsthestressswitchon.Ifyourhypothalamus does not get that fear signal, it doesn’t turn the stressswitch on. (It’s no coincidence that the other name for the stressresponse is “the fear response.”) This reaction is part of your survivalinstinct,whichhelpskeepyoualive.Aswediscussedinchapter2,ourstressresponseisonlysupposedto

happenifourlifeisinimminentmortaldangeratthismoment.(WhenI

say “stress,” I’m not talking about healthy stress, or appropriatelychallengingourbodies,aswedoinexercise.Thiskindofstressisoftencalled“eustress,”andweneeditinourlivestostayhealthy.)Butthat’snotwhat’shappening,isit?Manyofusgointofightorflightten,fifteen,ortwentytimesaday,tothepointthatstressiswherewelive.WhenIdidheart-ratevariabilitytestingforthreeyearsontheHealing

Codes and othermodalities, one of the questions Iwould ask subjectswas “Doyou feel stressed?”Over90percentof subjectswho testedasbeinginsignificantclinicalphysiologicalstressatthatmomentansweredthat no, they didnot feel stressed.Why? Theywere used to it. It hadbecomethenorm,whenitshouldbetherareexception.Wearelivinginstress,andwedon’tevenknowit.Everydestructivefeelingweexperienceisbasedinfear.Waitaminute

—surelythere’sonenegativeemotionthatdoesn’thaveanythingtodowithfear,right?Well,let’sthinkaboutit:wefeelangerwhenwhatwefearishappeningrightnow.Wefeelanxietyandworrywhenwebelievewhatwefearwillhappeninthefuture.Wefeelsadnessanddepressionwhenwhatwefearhasalreadyhappened,webelievewecan’tundoit,andour liveshavechangedforever—andthat’swherethehopelessnessand helplessness come from. We feel unforgiving when we fearsomething isnot right and fair andmayneverbe right again.We feelrejectionwhenwefearthatsomeoneisn’tgoingtoloveoracceptus,andthere’snothingwecandoaboutit(ortheyalreadyhaverejectedus)—andweneedtobeacceptedsodesperately.Icouldgoonandon.Trulyeverynegativeinternalexperienceinyourlifecomes,insomeway,fromfearandbelievinganuntruth.All fearcomes fromanabsenceof love,justasdarknessisalwaysanabsenceoflight.Afear-basedthought,emotion,ormemoryisonethatincreasesstress

(notincludingphysicallabororexercise)whenyouarenotinimminentmortal danger. Any timewe are experiencing fear-based feelings (i.e.,any negative emotion, belief, thought), we are turning our healingsystemsdownorcompletelyoff.Thatmeansnotonlyhavewebecomesusceptible to illness and disease, but if the situation continues longterm, we are virtually guaranteed to become ill in the future. At thesametime,weareturningourhappinessdownoroff,ourcontentmentdown or off, our achievement and success down or off, and oursatisfactionwithlifedownoroff.

Obviously, we don’t want to live in fear and turn off our healingsystems.Sowhatistheantidotetoourfear?Loveistheantidote.BernieSiegel, a world-renowned medical doctor, says in his book Love,Medicine, andMiracles that he has seenmedical miracle after medicalmiraclefromthepoweroflove.AndsohaveI.Thisiswherethephysicspartcomes in: the frequencyof lovedirectlycounteracts the frequencyof fear. Just to underscore the connection between love, light, andhealing:theancientHebrewwordfor“healing”literallymeans“blindedbythelight.”In1952,amannamedLesterLevensonwassounhealthythatafterhis

secondcoronaryepisode,hisdoctorssenthimhomefromthehospitaltodie.Takingjustonestep,theywarned,couldbeenoughtoendhis lifeonthespot.Needless tosay, thisdireprognosis thrustLevenson intoacrisis,andhebegantosearchforasolutionbeyondtherealmofmedicalscience, since it obviously couldn’t help him anymore. He found it inlove.Hehada transformationalahaexperienceabout lovemuch like Idid,realizingthatitwasthesolutiontoallhisproblems.Itwasjustthatsimple and profound. He began to focus on loving everyone andeverything,and lettinggoofall the thoughtsand feelings thatweren’tbased in love.Asa result,hismedicalproblemcompletelyhealed,andhe spent thenext fortyyearsofhis life teachingothers todowhathehaddonethroughtheSedonaMethodandtheReleaseTechnique.9Itallcame down to the power of love to heal anything based in fear—including our physical symptoms. In contrast to fear-based, love-basedthoughts, beliefs, and memories are those that decrease physical andnonphysicalstressovertheshorttermandlongterm.Theoppositeoffearislove;inthepresenceoflove,nofearcanexist

unlessyou’re ina life-threateningsituation thismoment.The idea thatloveandfearareoppositesmaybenewtoyou,asmanythinkthattheoppositeof fear ispeace. Inone sense, this is true,becausepeace is adirectexpressionofloveandderivesfromlove.Itisimpossibletohavetruepeace(notjustsituationalpeace)withouthavinglove.Similarly,ifyouhavelove,youwillhavepeace,inspiteofyourcircumstances.Youmayalsobe tempted to think that theoppositeof love isnot fear,butselfishness. Again, you would be right, on one level. But in the sameway, selfishness is adirect expressionof fear andderives from fear. Ifthere isno fear, there isnoselfishness (well,except fora five-year-old

with an ice cream cone). As an adult, if you eliminate fear, you willnaturallybekindandacceptingandwanttohelpothersinneed.It’sliketurningalightoninadarkroom:thedarknessdisappearscompletely.Love is the state from which all virtues flow: joy, peace, patience,

acceptance, and belief. Fear is the state from which all physical andnonphysicalmalfunctions,blockage,failure,andharmflow.Fearcannotexist ina stateof love, just asdarkness cannot exist inanatmospherefilledwithlight.Loveheals,fearkills.Whatwearetalkingabouthereistruly a matter of life or death—physically, emotionally, relationally,economically,andineveryotherconceivableway.

THESPIRITUALITYOFSPIRITUALPHYSICSTo explain the spiritual side of Spiritual Physics, let’s return to theconcept of the spiritual heart, where the source of all our life issuesresides. (Asyou’ll remember fromchapter2, the spiritual heart is alsowhat scientists call cellularmemory, andothers call the subconscious/unconsciousmind.)Thefirsttimethatthespiritualheartismentionedinancient Hebrew manuscripts makes it clear that the imagination is anintegralpart(orthelanguage)ofthespiritualheart—notwords.Believeitornot,Einstein says thathisgreatestdiscoverywasn’t the theoryofrelativity,orenergy,ormathematics.Itwasthattheimaginationismorepowerful than knowledge, because that was the source of all hisdiscoveries.However,insteadofthewordimagination,Iusethewordimagemaker

toemphasizethatwe’retalkingaboutthecreativeforceinsideofusthatgeneratesimages,andthatwe’renotjusttalkingaboutdaydreaming.MyspiritualmentorLarryNapier first taughtmeaboutthe imagemaker—that it’s howeverything that exists came intobeing.Does an architectjust go out and start building?Does a contractor just go out and startdigging a hole? No. They see the final product as an image in theirimagemakerfirst, thentheyput itonpaper,and then theygooutandcreate it. That was true for my Levi’s, for a piece of chalk, for mycamera, for Edison’s lightbulb, and for Einstein’s theory of relativity.Everything on planet Earth comes from the image maker, and everysinglehumanbeinghasone.Learningtoaccess it is thekeytohealing

everythingthatailsusbecauseit’sthedirectlinktoandlanguageofthesource,whichisourspiritualheart.Theimagemakerisnotametaphor.Itisreal,justasrealasthisbook

inyourhands(whetherpaperorelectronic).Soifitisreal,isitstandardmedicineoralternativemedicine?Neither.It isspiritual,whichIknowbecause science can’t locate it. Science can find everything else inourbodies: we can locate our blood, our hormones, our organs, and thevarious systems of the body, and understand how theywork.We caneven see howwe think by observingwhat parts of the brain light upwhenwearedoingdifferentthingsandthinkinganddreamingdifferentthings.We have found and quantified the screenwherewe see actualphysicalthingsthatexistinourenvironmentthroughourphysicalopticsystems. Butwe cannot find the screen that allows us to imagine andviewimagesandpicturesinternally.Ibelievethatwewillneverfinditbecause it is in the spiritual realm.The spiritualheart is thecontainerforthespirit,justasthebodyisthecontainerforthesoul.HarvardneurosurgeonEbenAlexander,M.D.,hadalife-alteringvision

on the edge of death, much like Einstein’s vision of the theory ofrelativity and any other vision that ignites great discoveries andtransformative insights. Yet this vision occurred when the physicalmechanismsinhisbrainthatmightberesponsibleforsuchavisionwerenot functioning at all, and so itwas clear to him, and tome, that hisvisionoccurredinthespiritualrealm.Beforehisnear-deathexperience,Dr.Alexander didnot believe in the existence of an afterlife or in thespiritualrealmatall—primarilybecausesciencehadneverbeenabletolocateanyevidenceof them.Butafterhisexperience,hisbeliefsaboutthe existence of the spiritual realm and the afterlife changed socompletely that he wrote the bestselling book Proof of Heaven: ANeurosurgeon’sJourneyintotheAfterlifetoexplainwhy.10Herelatedtheseexperiencesandthephysicalsciencebehindthemonnationaltelevision.According to Wikipedia, approximately 97 percent of people

worldwide believe in the reality of a spiritual dimension, or inGod. Ithinkthispercentageissohighbecausealmostallofusexperiencethespiritual tosomedegreeatcertain times inour life. It’sbeyondwords,andbeyond thephysical—just likeour experienceof love.Tome, thishighpercentageisoneofthemainindicatorsthatthisdimensiondoesinreality actually exist. Why would I say that? Because historically, the

predominant belief is the one with the most physical, measurableevidence.ThisiswhyGalileowasputinjailforsayingwhatheobservedabouttheearth,moon,andstars.Ifyoujustlookedattheearthfromourperspective, it appears flat and that everything revolves around us. Inthe 1800s, Dr. Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis was literally mocked andlaughedoutofmedicinebecausehebelievedwehaveinvisiblethingsonourhandscalledgermsthatcancauseinfections.Headvocatedwashinghandsbetweendeliveringbabies,andhis survival ratewaswayhigherthananyoneelse’sbecauseofthatpractice.This is the norm throughout history, and the root of the age-oldexpression“I’llbelieveitwhenIseeit.”Andyet,aboutthisoneissueoftheexistenceofthespiritual,weseepreciselytheopposite:a97percentbelief insomethingthat isnotmeasurable,thatyoucan’tsee,andthathas little tonoempirical evidence that it exists.Wow! Idon’t know ifyoucouldfindanyotherissueontheplanetwheretherewas97percentagreement,evenaboutthingsthatwecanseeandmeasure.Buteventhoughsciencecan’tlocatethespiritual,andeventhough97percent of us believe in a spiritual reality or in God despite a lack ofphysicalevidence,weareenteringanagewherescienceisbeginningtoprovethatthespiritualexists.IntheirbookHowGodChangesYourBrain,neuroscientists Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman shareextensive scientific evidence that the number one factor that improvesbrain function and health—even more than exercise—is prayer and acorresponding belief inGod or spiritual source. They’re not talking aboutgoingtochurch.They’reneuroscientistsfollowingthescience,reportingtheevidencethey’veseen.Also,ifprayerandbelievinginGod/source/lovehasthebiggestimpactonbrainfunctionandhealth,italsomeansthat it has the biggest impact on everything in your life, because yourbrain function affects everything—your cardiovascular system, yourhormones, and perhaps most important, your control mechanism forstress.11The language of our spiritual heart is pictures. Everything that hasever happened to us is recorded in our heart as images. Dr. PierceHowardsays inTheOwners’Manual for theBrain, “All data is encodedand recalled in the form of pictures.” Dr. Antonio Damasio, aneuroscientistwho is head of the Brain and Creativity Institute at theUniversityofSouthernCalifornia—and isbeingmentioned in thesame

sentencewith“NobelPrize”alotthesedays—says,“Imagelessthoughtisimpossible.”Whenweseeourmemories,it’sasiftheyareonascreeninourmind,sometimes like we’re watching a movie. I call this screen our heartscreen:ourviewintoourimagemaker.Butjustasscienceandmedicinecan’t locate our image maker, they also cannot physically locate thescreen to our imagination. Again, it’s very real, but it’s not in thephysicalrealm—it’sinthespiritualrealm.Inourheartwehavebillionsandbillionsandbillionsofpictures.Youcan think of your heart screen as a big, high-definition, holographiccomputer, smartphone, or tablet screen where the memories that areactiverightnowaredisplayed,justlikeopenfiles,icons,orpicturesonyourcomputer.Whateverisonthescreennowdeterminesyourcurrentexperience. If you have fear on your screen, you are going to beexperiencingstressinyourphysicalbodyuntiltheweaklinkbreaksandyou have some kind of specific negative symptom, which is oftenreferredtoastheweak-linktheory.EverymedicaldoctorIknowontheplanetsubcribestoitbecauseitisright.Undercontinualstress,yourbody’sandmind’sweakestlinkwillbreakfirst.Withmywife,Hope,thatmeantdepression.Withme,itmeantacidreflux.Theweaklinkisdifferentforeveryindividual,basedonallkindsoffactors,includinggenetics.We’vealreadysaidearlierthat95percentof disease comes from stress. The 5 percent that is not from stress isgenetic.Thisgenetic tendency towardaspecificdiseasealso came fromstress: it came from somewhere in your ancestry when a disease genewasunmaskedbecauseofstress.Ifthestressisremovedfromthepersonwhocurrentlyhasthediseasegene—andtheonlywayyoucandothatisbygettingridofthefear—thehypothalamusinthebrainturnsthestressswitchoff,andthestressleavesthebody.Theimmunesystemcanthenhealthegenetictendencytowardthatparticulardisease.Here’s an example of how our heart screen determines our presentexperience.Onedaywhen Iwasatmyhouse,weopenedupadrawerandHopeaboutjumpedthroughtheceiling,screamingbloodymurder.Ilooked in thedrawer and I didn’t respondmuch at all, although I didchucklejustalittle.Harry’srubbersnakewasinthedrawer.Thatsameday,afewminuteslater,Hopesawsomethingandsaid,“Oh,Ijustlovethat.” I lookedoverand started tocry.Shewas lookingata rose.The

lastoneIhadseenwasonmymother’scasket.Inbothinstances,HopeandIexperiencedthesamephysicalcircumstancesatthesametimebuthad 180-degree opposite reactions.Why?We had different pictures inourheartsforwhatwesaw.The problem is that about 99 percent of people don’t have the firstclueabout99percentofwhat’sontheirheartscreen.That’swhypeoplejoin program after program, take pill after pill, visit therapist aftertherapist,andtheyfindthemselvesfortyyearslaterhavingspenttensofthousandsofdollarsand they stillhave their sameproblems,orworse.Usuallytheygiveupanddieunchanged.Butitdoesn’thavetobethatway! They just weren’t addressing the true source of their problem,whichwasthefear-basedmemoriesontheirheartscreen.BasedonthephysicspartofSpiritualPhysics,weknowthatifthereisfear on this screen, that means there is also darkness on the screen.Something happens: you’re stuck in a traffic jam, you bite into asandwich that is not as good as you hoped, somebody looks at youfunny, thepersonnext to you iswearingperfumeyoudon’t like—anyone of a million things. This event comes in through the eyes and istransformedintoanimage,evenif thedatacomesfromanotherof thefive senses. All data is encoded as images, remember. Even thingswesmellandhearandtasteareencodedasimagesandrecalledasimages.Pictures are not just the language of the heart, they are the universallanguage, and they communicate at the speed of light—186,000milesper second. Words take much longer, and you have to know thatparticularlanguage.Then,accordingtoDr.Lipton,thisimagegoesdowntothedatabaseofimages accumulated from our personal and generational memorieslocated inour spiritualheart,where it’s compared to thosemillionsofimagestodeterminewhatourresponsewillbe.HopeandIbothsawtherubbersnake,butitbroughtupanegativeimageonherheartscreenassoonasshelookedatit.Shehadfearanddarknessonherheartscreen.Ididn’t. Onmy heart screen, when I looked at it, were love and light.What I saw in my imagination was Harry happily playing with thesnake.Iwasfine.Now,whenIlookedattherose,Ihadalotofimagescomeup.Ihadsome love rememberingmymom, and I had some fear—some imageswithdarkness,andsomewithlight.Ihadamixedresponse.What’son

ourheartscreenimmediatelydeterminesthephysiologyofourbody.Forexample,when any amount of fear appears on your heart screen, youmay feel sweaty, tension in your chest, or a headache. When thishappens,don’t focuson thephysical symptoms.Yes, there’s aphysicalcomponent to your response, but it all comes from the heart screen,every bit of it. If you need to take the Tylenol, go ahead, but whileyou’re taking it, startworkingon the source so thatyoudon’thave totakeaTylenolagaintomorrowforthesamething.Ourprogrammingisabigpartofwhatdetermineswhat’sonourheartscreen.ForHope,herprogramminggrowingupsaidthatshehadtobe“agoodgirl,”ordoeverything thateveryonewantedher todo. If shedidn’tdoeverythingthateveryonewantedhertodoperfectly,shewasabadgirl.Thebeliefshehastobeagoodgirlcauseshertoalwaystrytobe something that she’s not necessarily feeling and comply withsomething that is not always her. For decades, that programmingproduced fear and darkness onHope’s heart screen,which continuallyspikedthestressonherbodyuntiltheweaklinkbrokeandshebecamedepressed. Why could she not get undepressed for twelve years, nomatter what she did? Because she didn’t know how to fix thoseunderlyingmemories—shedidn’tevenknowwhattheywere.Underthesame circumstances, the same fear-based images showed up on herscreen,and99percentofthetime,theywerefearanddarkness.Soshewasdepressed.Shewasanxious.Shewasfearful.I’vesaidthisbefore,butit’sworthrepeating:everyonehassomebadprogramming.Nooneisperfect.Humanshavefivepossiblebrainstates:alpha,beta,gamma,delta,andtheta.Duringthefirstsixyearsoflife—andonlyduring the first sixyearsofour life—weare inadelta/thetabrain state. In thedelta/thetabrain state,wedon’thave theability tofilteroutinformation.Forexample,youmaybefiveyearsoldandinthebackyardwith your dad, playingWiffle ball. You try to hit theWiffleballandmiss,andyourdadchucklesandsays,“Well,you’renevergoingtobeabaseballplayerwitha swing like that.”Youhavenoability tofilterthat,andyoujustgotbrand-newhard-driveprogramming.Noonedoesn’t have these kinds of memories! They’re what I called “Popsiclememories.” Plus, it’s very difficult to deprogram something once it’sprogrammedduringthisage.Researchtellsusthatforchildrenittakesaminimumoftenpositivestatementstoneutralizeonenegativestatement

—yetmostparentsgivetennegativesforonepositive!Voilà—fear-basedprogramming.Even if by somemiracle everyonedoes everything in loveand truth

100percentofthetime,wecanstillinheritbadprogrammingfrompastgenerations,orabsorbit fromotherswearearound.Weallhavesomebadprogramming,andtheheartscreenisourdirectlinktohealit.Also,ourheartscreenisconnectedtotheheartscreensofeveryonearoundus,particularlythoseclosesttous,sothatwearealwaysbroadcastingandreceivingenergyfrequenciesthroughakindof“organicWi-Fi”network.Wewill learnhow to “tune in to” and “broadcast” love frequencies inchapter4whenwetalkabouttheHeartScreentool.Energyisneverdestroyed;itjustchangesforms.Whenyoufliponthe

lightswitchinacompletelydarkroom,itlightsupeverycorneroftheroom.Wheredidthedarkgo?Thecorrectansweris,itnolongerexists.Thedefinitionofdarknessissimplytheabsenceoflight.Sowhenthere’slight,bydefinitionthereisnodarkness.Itworksthatwayinthebody,too,withfearandlove.It’sthesamephysics.Whenyoupourloveintofear,thefeardoesn’texistanymore.Itsoundsstrangetousbecausewehaven’t used this kind of language in this context. But letme remindyou,thisparadigmshiftwaspredictedbyEinsteinbackin1905.Wheneverweshiftparadigmsinanysignificantway,thosewhohave

done well under the old paradigm often resist the new. For example,whentheWrightBrothersfirstgotstartedwiththeir“flyingmachines,”theywenttotherailroads.Theysaid,“Wearegivingyouthefirstshotatbecomingthekingsoftheairways.”Therailroadpeoplelaughedintheirfacesandsaidnothingwouldeverreplacetherailroad.Todaywecouldbegoing to theairportandgettingonaplane fromB&OAirlines—butnowadays you don’t see “B&O” on anything, do you? They had anopportunitytoshift toanewparadigm,buttheywerestuckintheoldparadigmandhavedeclinedbecauseofit.Anewparadigmforhealth,healing,andsuccess,predictedforthelast

century,ishappeningrightnow.Areyougoingtobestuckinyouroldparadigm,orfollowthenew?It’snotjustcoming—it’salreadyhere.In2013, theAmerican Psychological Association allowed the first energymedicineconference tooffercontinuingeducationcredits12 and is alsoon the verge of approving the first energy medicine modality forcounseling and therapy—after twenty years of largely laughing at,

mocking, and belittling the entire field. Why the reversal?Overwhelmingpracticalevidence that the treatmentsare far fasterandmoreeffectiveandhavenosideeffects.These results are being noticed in the field of athletics aswell. Just

aftercollegefootballcoachJamesFranklinsigneda$37millioncontractwith Penn State University in January 2014, after turning VanderbiltUniversity football into a winning program for the first time in onehundred years, he was interviewed by Dan Patrick on Patrick’ssyndicated television show about his success as a coach. Franklin’sanswerswere,tosaytheleast,unusual.Whenaskedaboutgoalsetting(somethingalmostallcoachesdoandgreatlyemphasize),Mr.Franklinsaidthathedoesn’tsetexternalgoals forhis team.Hesaidthat ifyoudon’t set therightgoal, thatgoalcanendupbeingdestructive.So thegoalshesetsforhisplayersfocusonthepresentmomentandthepresentday:tobeattheirbestspiritually,academically,physically,andsocially.Hesaidthatwithhim,“It’sallaboutrelationships.”13That’s right—one of the most successful coaches in the last one

hundred years said on live national television that he prioritizes thespiritualinthepresentmoment,andthatheisallaboutrelationships.Bysetting internal goals in the present moment, Franklin has succeededwherecountlessothershavenot,andhehasdoneitwithlesserplayersintermsofspeed,strength,andratings.Franklinisnotthefirstcoachtotakethisapproach;overtheyearsI’vealsoheardAlabamaheadfootballcoach Nick Saban (a four-time national champion) and New EnglandPatriots head coach Bill Belichick (a three-time world champion) talkaboutteachingtheirplayersnot to focusonthescoreboardorwinningthegame,butondoingtheirabsolutebestinthepresentmoment.Thisis the essence of the Greatest Principle, although I feel these coachescouldhave evenbetter resultswith the tools in this book. Love in thepresentmomentconsistentlyproducessuperiorpeakperformance.Fear,bynature,inhibitsandconstrictsperformance.Thesereversalsarethefirstofwhatwillbeanavalancheofchangein

the fields of psychology, self-help, medicine, athletics, peakperformance,andsuccess. In twentyyears, Ibelieve thisapproachwillbethenewnorm,becauseitworks.However,Idon’twantyoutohavetowaittwentyyearstobesuccessfulinyourlife.Iwantitforyouinthenextfewmonths,andfortherestofyourlife.

Wehaveknown,orcouldhaveknown,thatthespiritualheartwasthesourceofall the issuesofour lives forthousandsofyears,butbecausewe’vehadanoldparadigmofseparatingthephysicalandthespiritual,wehaven’tbeenable toapply this spiritualknowledge toourphysicalbody.Youcan’tuseascalpeltocutoutanissueoftheheart.Youcan’ttake a pill to poison it out. The cut, burn, and poisonmethoddoesn’twork on that. Neither do the alternative physicalmethods. So even ifwe’veknownhowimportanttheissuesoftheheartare,wehaven’teverreallyappliedthisknowledgetohealthcare,becausehealthcareasweknowithadnomethodsortoolstotrulyhealtheseissuesoftheheart.Andwecertainlyhaven’tappliedittooursuccessissues.Under the Spiritual Physics paradigm, the physical and the spiritual

are in perfect, congruent harmony. In fact, real science is always inharmonywiththespiritual.Ifthespiritualheartisthesourceofallourissues,thentheonlytoolthatcanpossiblyhealthesourceisanenergytool—because the issues of the heart (i.e., ourmemories) aremade ofenergy. We shouldn’t be resisting this new paradigm; we should becelebrating!We’refinallyabletobothidentifyandhealtherealsourceofourproblems.Now,I’vehadanumberofmetaphoricalrocksthrownatme.I’vehad

a few so-called experts call me a huckster or a fraud because I teachtheseprinciplesthatunitethephysicalandthespiritual.ButasItravelthroughout the world, I see a very different picture. People are soexcitedtolearntheseprinciplesandapplythem,becausetheyworkinawaynothingelsehaseverworked.We’vefinallybeenabletogettoandhealthesource.Theremaybeaseparationbetweenchurchandstate,butthereisno

separationbetween spirituality, success, andhealth. If youbelieveandactasifthereis,thenetresultwillbeyourseparationfromsuccessandhealth.Thesolutiontooursuccessissuesisneithertofocusonourproblem,

nor to continually ignore it. Both will cause your life experience tocontinue to deteriorate. The solution is to replace the darkness/fear/falsehoodwithlight/love/truth—always!Thesourceoflight/love/truthis the source of the solution to any problem, while the source ofdarkness/fear/falsehood is the origin of every problem, whether it’sterrorism,hunger,disease,poverty,orunhappiness.Whenthetwomeet,

light/love/truthalwayswin,forthesamereasonlightfillsadarkroom,evenifitmaynotbeimmediatelyapparent.Gandhiknewthistobetrue(“all through history the way of truth and love has always won”), ashaveallthegreatspiritualteachers.Inthelongterm:

Loveneverfails!Fearneversucceeds!

Fromnowon,whatisyourchoice?With the concepts of cellular memory and Spiritual Physics, you’ve

now learned the foundational principles behind the Greatest Principleandalifebeyondwillpower.InPartII,I’llexplainhowtheseprinciplestranslateintopractice,andwhattheyhavetodowithyoursuccess.

chapter4

THREETOOLSTODEPROGRAMANDREPROGRAMYOURHUMANHARDDRIVEAND

ITSSOFTWARE

Now,inPart II,we’regoingto learnabouttwopracticesthat formthecoreofhowtheGreatestPrincipleworks:theThreeToolstodeprogramandreprogramyourhumanharddrive,andsettingsuccessgoalsratherthanstressgoals.We humans are multidimensional beings: physical, mental, and

spiritual.Ifwewanttobecomesuccessfulinlife,weneedtoaddressallthree of these levels, so that they are all healthy and working inharmony. In this chapter I’m going to introduce the Three Tools I’vediscoveredand testedover the last twenty-fiveyears thatdo just that:the Energy Medicine tool (for the physical), the ReprogrammingStatements tool (for the mental), and the Heart Screen tool (for thespiritual).Again,understandingthewholetruthresultsinbeliefthathasreal power. Now that you’ve learned more about the scientific andspiritual principles behind how these tools work,my hope is that thetoolsthemselveswillbeeasiertouseandyouwillcommittousingthemovertime.Idefinethephysicalaseverythinginourphysiology,downtothelight

ordarknessfrequencies,atoms,molecules,andcells.Thementalincludestheconsciousmind,will,andemotions,orwhatIwouldgenerallyreferto as our soul. The spiritual includes our unconscious mind, oursubconsciousmind,ourconscience,andwhatIwouldgenerallyrefertoasourspirit.Nowthatweknoweverythingismadeofenergy,basedonthewayenergyworks,whenweaddressoneof these aspects (suchas

theemotional), itwillundoubtedlyaffecttheothertwo.SowhenIsaythat each tool addressesaparticularaspectofourbeing, Idon’tmeanthattheEnergyMedicinetoolwillonlyaddressourphysicalsymptoms;rather,Imeanthatthistooldirectlyengagesourphysiologytoproducehealinginall thedimensionsofourbeing:physical,mental,spiritual—andevencircumstantial.I realize I’vemade some pretty big claims about these Three Tools,and for good reason: I’ve never seen them fail to work to producesuccessinanyofmyclientsthatIhaveworkedwithpersonally(intheirwords, notmine), if theywere used exactly theway I taught over anextendedperiodoftime.1 Ihaveseenthese toolswork forpeoplewitheveryworldview imaginable,both sexes,andallages. Ihave foundnodifferenceintheireffectivenessbasedonanyofthesefactors.Theyseemtoworkinthesamewaythatgravityworksforeveryone,whetheryoubelieveingravityornot.Notethatthefollowinginstructionsaresuggestions,notrules.Youarefreetomixandmatchandpracticethesetoolsinthewaythatfeelsbesttoyou.As Iworkwithclients, I tendto“customize”thetool to fit theindividual, the situation, and the particular set of issues. Obviously Ican’t do that for each individual in a book. So I have developed ageneral process to follow for each tool thatwillwork consistently andpredictably for virtually any person and any circumstance, based onrepeated testing and retesting. These instructions will work for you ifyoufollowthem,butiftheinstructionsbecomeburdensome,feelfreetocustomize themforyourself.There really isn’tawrongway touse thetools.The remainder of this chapter will explain how the tools work andinclude general instructions for using them.However, although you’rewelcometopracticethemasyou’relearningaboutthem,Idon’tintendfor you to put them into practice quite yet. In Part III, you’ll receivestep-by-step instructions forusing these tools to identifyandhealyoursourcememories thatmaybeblocking your success in life (chapter 6,“Basic Diagnostics”) and to achieve specific success goals (chapter 7,“TheGreatestPrincipleSuccessBlueprint”).One more thing. As you read this chapter, you may discover thatyou’ve used or seen a technique similar to one of these tools before.Although I discovered each of these tools in the context of my own

privatepractice, that’snot to say someoneelsehasn’tdiscovered themprivatelyontheirownaswell.Andcertainlythey’rebasedonprinciplesthat have been widely taught for many years. For example, you mayhave already used a similar kind of EnergyMedicine tool that has atleastpartiallyhelpedyoursymptomsinsomemeasurableway.Butiftheresults didn’t last long term, itmight be that you need to address thespiritualortheemotionalaswell.Whenusedalone,thesetoolscanworkwonderfully,butbecause theyeachonlyaddressoneaspectofwhat istypically a three-part problem, they may not always work alone longterm,orcompletely. Ibelievethat’swhymanytechniquesdon’tdothecomplete job consistently. One technique almost never addresses allthree areas of our being, which all need to be healed and put intoharmonytocompleteoursuccessorhealing.Toget fullhealingat thesourceof thesuccessproblems thatplagueyoumost,I’dsuggesttryingallthree.OneoftheprimaryreasonsIwrotethis book was to give you all the tools you need to heal your sourceissuesforgood(nomatterhowyoursymptomsmanifestthemselves),toinfusenewsuccessprogrammingintoyourhumanharddrive,andthentoexperienceoutrageoussuccessfortherestofyourlife.Butasyoutrythesetools,youmayfindthatoneortwoseemtoproducebetterresultsthantheothersforyou.That’sfine—usethetoolorcombinationoftoolsthatprovides thebest results.Butyoucan’tknow for surewhichonesprovidethebestresults foryouuntilyoutrythemalloveraperiodoftime.Attheendofthischapter,you’llfindinstructionsforusingallthreeofthetoolsinonetechniqueformaximumefficiencyandresults.However,I recommend trying each tool separately first to become familiarwithhowitworksforyou.

THEENERGYMEDICINETOOL:HEALINGSOURCEISSUESTHROUGHTHEBODYInmyexperience,theEnergyMedicinetoolhasthemostpowerfuleffectfor most people, right off the bat. Energy medicine applies energy tospecific points on our physical body to heal a symptomor a problem.Energy medicine has been a hot topic in health for at least the last

fifteenyears,andwe’relearningmoreeverydayaboutitsapplications.Several mainstream doctors, based on the growing body of scientificevidenceI’vedetailedinthepreviouschapters,believethatapplyingourunderstanding of energy to our health practices may lead tobreakthroughswe have never seen before. Donna Eden, author of theclassic book Energy Medicine, has documented the resolution ofthousandsofstubbornproblemsthatmedicalsciencesimplycouldn’tfix.Based on hermore than thirty years’ experience healing and teachingaround the world, Eden has seen energy medicine resolve terminalbronchitis, revive a flatlined heart attack victim, and reverse severemental disability, along with witnessing thousands more equallydramaticresults.2Only in the lastyeardid Idiscover thatevenSigmundFreuduseda

technique similar to mine in his psychotherapy. Yes, that Freud—thefamousAustrianneurologistandmedicaldoctorwhoisconsideredtobethefatherofpsychotherapy,psychiatry,counseling,andtherapy.Believeitornot,energymedicinewashisgo-tointerventionwhenallelsewouldfail. Inhisownwritings,he said, “I can safely say that ithas scarcelyeverleftmeinthelurch.”3Inaway,hewasthefirsttoshowtheworldthat thenonphysical changes thephysical.Freudmaynothaveknownwhyitworked,butheknewthatthemomentheusedthistechnique,hispatients’ deeper issues would come up. The Energy Medicine tool I’llshowyouincludesthesamepositionFreudusedonhispatients(handsover the forehead), although I’ve added two other positions, which Ibelievemakesitsignificantlymorepowerful.Energymedicineisnothingweird,mystical,orevenspiritual.Itis,in

fact, physical (i.e., based in physics). In 1905, Einstein proved thateverythingboilsdowntoenergy(E=mc2).Inotherwords,everycellinyourbodyrunsonelectricalenergy,andeverycellhas itsownenergypowerplant called themitochondria.As long as the cell hasplentyofpositive energy, it’s healthy. If it doesn’t have enough energy, or it isinfectedwithnegativeenergy,itstartstobecomeunhealthy.Andwecandiagnosticallymeasure the energy level of our cells throughCT scans,MRIs,andothersimilartests.Energy medicine is simply trying to infuse positive, healthy energy

into cells that have a deficit of this energy. That’s all it is. Energymedicine in its early forms actually predatesWesternmedicine. Since

Albert Einstein’s discovery, Nobel Prize winners have predicted thatsomedaywewould figure out how to apply these principles to healtheffectively and that it would change the landscape of medicine andhealth,justasenergyworkingthroughelectronics,Wi-Fi,andcomputershas changed virtually every other technology field in the world since1905.AndasIsaidinthepreviouschapter,it’shappeningrightnow.Thepointisthatenergymedicineingeneralisnotnew;it’sjustthatwith an increased understanding of how energy is the source of everyproblem,onlyrecentlyhasmedicalsciencebeenabletodocumenthowpowerfulitreallyis,whyitcanbesoeffective,andhowitnowallowsustodothingswehavenotbeenabletoaccomplishbefore.

HOWTHEENERGYMEDICINETOOLWORKSThe principle behind how the Energy Medicine tool works is quitesimple.Everythinginthebodyworksonenergy:everycell,thought,andfeeling.Energy is also constantlypouringout of yourbody,most of itfromyourhands.4Whenyouplaceyourhandsonspecificpointsofyourbody,you’reputtingusablehealingenergyback intoyourbody.Whenyouputmoreusableenergyintothebody,itcandomorework,anditcanuse theextraenergy to fixproblems.Remember thatat their root,ourissuesexistonlyas internalenergypatterns,notasbone,blood,ortissue. Physics 101 says that these energy patterns can be changed byanother energy pattern. I believe that’s exactlywhat Freuddid for hispatients,andwhatIhavedoneformineforthepasttwenty-fiveyears.TheEnergyMedicinetoolusesthreepositions:theheart,theforehead,and the crown. These areas house the physical parts of our body thatdirectly affect (or are affected by) the stress response, as well as thecontrolmechanismsforeverycell inthebody.YoucanusetheEnergyMedicinetoolonyourself,youcanuseitonsomeoneelse,orsomeoneelse can use it on you. I have found that results aremore powerful ifsomeoneelsecandoitonyou,whichiswhatFreuddidwithhispatientsandwhatIhavedonewithmyclients.

TheHeartPosition

In the heart position, you place one hand (either left or right), palmdown,onyourupperchest(overyourheart),andplaceyourotherhand,alsopalmdown,overthefirst.

TheHeartPosition

Forthispositionandfortheothersthatfollow,youhavetwooptions:youcaneitherrestyourhandsinthispositionandholdforonetothreeminutes,whichishowFreudusedthistool,oryoucanmoveyourhandsgentlyinacircularmotion(clockwiseorcounterclockwise,whateverismost natural), slowlymoving the skin over the bone (not rubbing theskin), switchingdirectionsevery fifteensecondsor so, forone to threeminutes. This rubbing option is what I have used with most of myclients, and I’ve found it tobeabout twiceas effectiveas justholdingyour hands still, in that it seems to generate results twice as fast.However, if for any reason you are not able tomove your hands in acircular motion, the resting position will generate the same results,althoughitmaytakelonger.Thispositionpoursenergy intoyourcardiovascular systemandyour

thymus,aswellaskeyenergymedicinepointsforyourimmunesystem.

The thymus is an integral part of our immune system: it governs thereleaseofourhormonesandchemicalsthroughouttheglandularsystem.Infact,somedoctorssaythat it isyourimmunesystem:as the thymusgoes,soour immunesystemgoes. Interestingly, it functionsat itspeakwhenwe’remuchyounger—particularlyatbirthandjustbeforepuberty.Research is being done right now to see if activating the thymus tohigherlevelsoffunctioningmayhealcancerandmanyotherdiseases.Alsohoused in the chest is our cardiovascular system,whichhas an

electromagnetic field fifty to one hundred times stronger than thebrain’s. I believe (as do other doctors) that if we think of the centralnervoussystem(whichincludesthebrain)asthecontrolmechanismforour body, the cardiovascular system is the primary transmitter andreceiver: it resonates out the frequencies mandated by the centralnervoussystem.Ifthat’strue,thentogetherthecentralnervoussystem,brain, the glandular hormonal system, and the cardiovascular systemgovern all the control mechanisms in our body, both physical andnonphysical (including mind and spirit)—which are the same areaswe’repouringenergyintowiththeEnergyMedicinetool.

TheForeheadPosition

In the foreheadposition,youplaceonehand(either leftor right)overyour forehead,withyour little finger just beneathyour eyebrows (justbarely grazing thebridgeof thenose), andyour otherhandon topofthathand,bothwithpalmsdown.Again,youcaneitherrestyourhandsinthispositionforonetothreeminutesor,forfasterresults,movethemin a circular motion, moving the skin over the bones, switchingdirections every ten to fifteen seconds, for one to three minutes. Youdon’t even have to use a circular motion if back and forth is morecomfortable, but I have found the circular motion to have the fastestresults.ThispositioniswhatFreudwouldusewithhispatients:hewouldput

his hand on the patient’s forehead. This technique works even betterwhenusedinconjunctionwiththeheartpositionandthecrownposition(whichFreuddidnotdo).AsamedicaldoctorFreudwouldhaveknownwhatphysicalmechanismswerelocatedinthisarea,buthedidn’tknow

whyitwouldsoconsistentlybringuppsychologicalissueswhenhisothertechniquesdidnot.Nowwedo.

TheForeheadPosition

Whenyoupourenergyintotheforehead,you’restimulatingsomeofthemostsignificantphysiologicalmechanismsinyourbody.Firstofall,you’re stimulating your entire brain: not only your higher and lowerbrain, but also your left and right brain. According to Roger Sperry’ssplit-brainexperimentsin1972(forwhichhewontheNobelPrize),theright brain includes our limbic system and our reticular formation,which govern wisdom, meaning, feelings, beliefs, action, and images.Ourleftbraingovernswords,logic,andrationalreasoningonly(i.e.,notactionandnotmeaning).You’realsopouringenergyintothethirdeyechakra,oneofthemostpowerfulenergycentersinthebody.Also,basedonSperry’soriginalresearch,Ipersonallybelievetherightbrainmay be one of themain control center locations of the spiritualheart, which is the “container” for our spirit: our unconscious,subconscious,conscience,andtheso-calledlastfrontier—everythingelsewedon’tevenknowaboutyet.Inthesameway,Ialsobelievethatthe

maincontrolcenterforoursoul,inadditiontoourbody,maybetheleftbrain—our consciousmind,will, and emotions. And all that is behindtheforehead!

TheCrownPosition

Forthecrownposition,placeonehand(eitherleftorright)onthetopofyourhead,oryourcrown,andyourotherhandontopofthathand,bothwith palms down. This position not only activates all the samephysiological mechanisms of the forehead position (albeit from adifferent angle), but also the spinal column/vertebrae and the crownchakra,anotherpowerfulenergymedicinepointthatmanyfeelgovernsourconnectiontothespiritualrealm.

TheCrownPosition

Nowyouseehowthisphysiologicaltooladdressesallthreeaspectsofourbeing:thephysical,mental,andspiritual.Whenyouapplyenergytothese three areas—the heart, the forehead, and the crown—you’re

physicallyincreasingbloodflowandfunctionalitytothecontrolcentersforeverycell,everythought,everyemotion,andeverybelief,aswellasto your heart, third eye, and crown chakras, the threemost powerfulenergy centers in the body. In short, you’re activating and providingmore power to the control mechanisms for everything in your life:physical and nonphysical, conscious and unconscious, internal andexternal,yourhealth,yourrelationships,yourprosperity…everything.UsingtheEnergyMedicinetoolislikeputtinggasinthelawnmower,

hooking the propane tank to your grill, or giving food andwater to astarvingperson.You’regivingyourbodythepowertodowhatitneedstodo.Initscurrentstate,itmightbeabletofunctioninordinaryways.Butwiththistool,itcandotheextraordinary—itcanhealourmemories,thoughts,andfeelings,whichiswhatwewant,andhowourbodiesweredesignedtofunctioninthefirstplace.IagreewithFreud.Thistool,especiallywhenusingallthreepositions,

hasscarcelyeverleftmeinalurch.It’stheoneI’vereliedonmostoften,andforthelongestperiodoftime.

USINGTHEENERGYMEDICINETOOLYou can use the EnergyMedicine tool in twoways. The first iswhenanything’s bothering you in themoment, such as anxiety, a headache,pain,oranynegativeemotion.Here’swhattodo:

1.First, thinkaboutone issue that’sbotheringyou,and rateyourproblematalevelbetween0and10.Eventhoughyoumayhavealistofissuesyou’dliketoaddress,justfocusononeissue at a time, ideally the one that bothers you the most.Perhaps you’d rate this problem at a 7—not the worst you’veever had, but clearly significant. (If you have trouble ratingthings,don’tworryabout it. Justdeterminewhetherornot it’sbotheringyou.)

2. Close your eyes and relax. Say a short, simple, sincereprayer fromyourheart asking forwhatever’s causingyourproblemtobehealed (i.e., theunderlyingspiritual issues).AsIexplainedwhenwewerediscussingaffirmations,thisprayer

needstobesaidintruthandlove(asopposedtostatingwhatisnotcurrentlytrue,orstatingadesireforsomethingthatwillhurtor disadvantage someone else). Express a true desire for yourproblemtobehealed,ratherthanstatingthatit’salreadyhealed,andofferyourprayerinlove,expressingyourdesireforaresultthathelpseveryoneandhasnolosers.Forexample,ifyouwereexperiencing anxiety about something you had to do at work,you could say, “I ask for whatever’s causingmy anxiety to becompletely healed at the source. I ask to be released from thisanxietysoIcanbefreedtobeabetterworker(abetterparent,abetterspouse,etc.),andthat itwillbeawin-win-winresult foreveryone involved.” Instead of anxiety, you could substituteanger or a stomachache or anything else that’s bothering you.Pray from the heart, giving up the end results and willpower,andallowingtheprocess,light,andlovetodotheirworkinyou.

3.Beginwiththeheartpositionandplaceyourhandsonyourheart.Moveyourhandsintotheheartpositionasdescribedonthispage.Nowfocusonyourproblem,butdon’ttrytochangeit.Simplyobserveit.Alternatively,youcanalsorelaxandfocusonpositive images that represent love and light to you. Focus onwhatever feels best and right. Personally I like to focus on theproblem itself and see it begin tomelt away. For example, foranxiety, calmly observe the image of anxiety occasionally onyourheartscreen,andwhetheryounoticeanychange.

4. Keeping hands stacked, either hold the position or moveyour hands in a circular motion, lightly moving the skinover the bone clockwise or counterclockwise, switchingdirectionseverytentofifteenseconds,asdescribedonthispage.Remember,addingthecircularmotionsimplyacceleratesthetool’seffectiveness;ifyouhaveahandicapsuchthatyouareunabletoaddthecircularmotion,orifyougettired,it’sfinetojust hold your hands in position. Omitting the circularmotionwon’tcompromisetheoveralleffectivenessofthetechnique.

5.Holdthispositionforonetothreeminutes.Youdon’thavetotimeitexactly,andthelengthoftimeyouchooseismostlyupto

you.However,Irecommendbeginningwithoneminute,becauselongerperiodscantriggerahealingresponseforsome.Ahealingresponse is a headache or other new, negative symptomexperienced during a healing technique, and it’s common forapproximately10percentofindividuals.Itsimplymeansyou’retrying to do too much at once. If you experience a healingresponse,simplyswitchtothenextposition.Ifthatpositionalsofeels uncomfortable, simply stop and let your body catch up.Otherwise, continue relaxing and occasionally observe yoursymptom(toseeifanythingischanging)forthedurationofthisposition.

6. When the time is up, switch to the next position: yourforehead.Moveyourhandsintotheforeheadposition,asshownonthispage.Ifyouchooseandareable,moveyourhandsinacircularmotion,switchingdirectionseverytentofifteensecondsfor as long as it’s comfortable. Just relax the entire time,occasionally observing the problem for change, but remember,just observe it—don’t try to make anything happen. Hold thispositionforanotheronetothreeminutes.Note:Youdon’thavetoswitchdirectionswhendoingtherubbing—letwhateverfeelsbesttoyoubetherule.

7.When time is up, switch to the final position: the crown.Moveyourhandsintothecrownposition,asshownonthispage.Followthesameprocedureastheprevioustwopositions:moveyourhandsinacircularmotion,switchingdirectionseverytentofifteensecondsforaslongasit’scomfortable;andobserveyourproblemcalmlyforonetothreeminutes.

8.Repeat the cycle of the threepositions two to three timesper day until you would rate your problem or negativefeelingsatbelowa1 (i.e., it doesn’tbotheryouanymore).For a single session, you can repeat the three-position cycle asmanytimesasyoulikeaslongasyouarenothavingahealingresponse,but Iwouldsuggest repeating the threepositions twotothreetimesinonesitting,orforabouttenminutesatatimeonceortwiceaday.Asinglesessionmaybeenoughtohealthe

sourceofmanyissues,butsomeissuescantakedays,weeks,orevenmonthstofullyresolve.Ifyourissuestillbothersyouafteroneday, you canuse this tool twoor three times aday for asmanydaysasittakestogetbelowa1(whichmeanstheoriginalproblemdoesn’tbotheryouanymore, even in stressful externalcircumstances).

9.Pleasedonotworryaboutthetiming—howeverlongittakesfor you to get below a 1 is the right amount of time for you.What’simportantistodoitcorrectlyandconsistently.

YoucantrytheEnergyMedicinetoolrightnowonyourselfwithanyphysical or internal symptom that’s currently bothering you. You canalsouseitonanotherperson,oranyonewhomightnotbeabletodoitforthemselves,suchasbabies,pets,oranolderperson.AsIsaidearlier,Ihave found results tobemostpowerfulwhensomeone isable tousethetoolonanother.The results canbequite powerful and almost instantaneous, as they

were with a medical doctor I met in Spain at one of my seminars in2012.After the seminar ended, this doctormade a point to ask if shecouldtalkwithme.Wefoundaprivateroomforourconversation,andwhat soon emerged were her own unresolved issues—all based onexternal expectations and a life of constant willpower to the max. Itcamedowntothefactthatshehadbecomeamedicaldoctortopleaseher family,notbecause itwaswhat she reallywanted todo. IworkedwithherusingonlytheEnergyMedicinetool—andweresolvedtwentyissuesintwentyminutes.She told me the difference was immediate and unlike anything she

had ever experienced. She felt love, joy, peace, freedom, and energy.Morethanthat,shenolongerwantedtopracticemedicinetopleaseherparents, but to help people—in particular, she wanted to work withpatients to heal the true source issues of their symptoms, in the samewaythis toolhadhelpedher.WhenIheardfromhersixmonths later,shehadn’thadarelapseonanyofthetwentyissues—theywereallstillcompletelyresolved.Now, thesekindsof resultsdon’tusuallyhappen inoneday,as they

didforher.Moreimportant,theyhappenedwithouthertryingtomake

themhappen,orevenexpectingthemtohappen.WhenwehealedthosetwentyissueswiththeEnergyMedicinetool,herfocusnaturallyshiftedtolove,joy,andpeaceinthepresentmomentwithnoeffort—yetnoneofherexternalcircumstanceshadchanged.Everythingwasbasedonaninternalchange.That’s one way you can use the Energy Medicine tool: on specific

symptoms you’re experiencing right now. A second way is to use itpreventativelyifyoudon’tcurrentlyhaveissuesorevenafteryouheal.Youcanusethistoolforfivetotenminutes,twotothreetimesperday,just to pull the plug on the day’s stress. You can even use it whilewatchingTVordoingsomethingsimilar.Ihavehadmanyclientswho’vedoneitthiswaywithgreatresults;however,itisstillbesttoperformitinthemeditativeformdetailedearlier—andthispreventativeapproachshouldbeusedinadditionto,notinsteadof,healingspecificissueswiththetool.Finally,athirdwayiswiththeformalforty-daydeprogrammingand

reprogramming process that is part of the Greatest Principle SuccessBlueprint. Rather than addressing a single symptom, the SuccessBlueprintisdesignedtohelpyouachievelong-termsuccessinaspecificareainyourlife,suchasstartingabusiness,improvingyourparenting,achieving something in your career or sports, starting a nonprofitorganization, moving to a new location, or anything that you woulddefineasalove-basedcallingorsuccessforyou.We’llcoverthisSuccessBlueprintindetailinchapter7.

THEREPROGRAMMINGSTATEMENTSTOOL:HEALINGSOURCEISSUESTHROUGHTHEMINDThe Reprogramming Statements tool primarily heals the logical andanalyticalleftbrain,addressingboththemind(whichincludesthewillandemotions) and the soul.But this tool alsoaffects the subconsciousheartandspirit,aswellasthephysiology.Thelanguageofthemindiswords.First,let’slookathowthefrequenciesofloveandfearplayoutinour

lives(seechartonthispage).

The items on the left all generate and flow from love and lightfrequencies,while those on the right generate and flow from fear anddark frequencies. What determines whether you experience the leftcolumn or the right column is whether you believe the truth or a lieabout thatparticular issue.The lie always takesyou to fear, and fromfeartothenegativeexperienceslistedabove.Thetruthalwaystakesyouto love, which produces all virtues listed above. The ReprogrammingStatements can replace and transform the frequency of fear and itsnegativechainreactionwiththefrequencyofloveanditspositivechainreaction.Inthissection,IhaveincludedalltheReprogrammingStatementsthatany person could ever need for any success issue. That means thissection is longer and more complicated than probably any other. Butdon’t let it overwhelm you. I have had a good number of clientswho

experiencedreprogrammingfromonestatementonly,oronesectionthattheyreallyresonatedwith.Theywouldpray,meditate,andrepeatthatstatement for days orweeks until it was resolved, and that resolutionwould be their success turning point. So if you resonate with somestatementsmorethanothers,feelfreetofocusonthose.Youcancomeback later and work through the other statements, until you haveaddressed all the issues you need to address. Feel free to use thestatementshowevertheyworkandfeelbestforyou—therereallyisn’tawrongwaytousethem.

HOWTHEREPROGRAMMINGSTATEMENTSWORKPsychologically and spiritually speaking, I believe that every issueyoucan ever have is rooted in the following list of actions and reactions(think of a long string of dominoes). Theywork like a flowchart or achainreaction.Heretheyareinorder:

1.First,youstartwithyourcurrentprogramming,basedonyourcellular memories from past generations and your own lifeexperience.Hereyouhaveeitherliesortruth(orprobablyboth).

2.Whencurrent,“real-time”eventsandcircumstancesoccur,yourunconscious automatically compares your current externalcircumstances to current internal programming. If yourprogramming contains a lie regarding this circumstance, itstimulatespain,sendingastresssignaltothehypothalamus,andthenegativeresultswilloccurinall theitemslistedbelow(theformer).Ifitcontainsthetruth,thebody/mind/spiritremainatpeace,andthepositiveresultswilloccur(thelatter).

3.Youwillmisinterprettheevent(basedonafalsehoodorlie)orinterprettheeventcorrectly(basedonthetruth).

4.Youwillexperiencefear—orlove.

5.Youwillmakeadecisionbasedonpain/pleasure—orintegrity.

6.Youwillexperienceinsecurity(rejection)—orsecurity(safety).

7.Youwillexperienceinsignificance(judgment/unforgiveness)—orsignificance.

8.Youwillexperienceunhealthypride(feelinginferiororsuperior)—orhumility(believingthepositivetruthaboutyourself).

9. You will experience unhealthy control—or faith/trust/belief/hope.

10.Youwillreact—orrespond.

11.Youwillactselfishly—oractlovingly.

12. You will experience the result of failure, unhappiness, andillness—orsuccess,happiness,andhealth.

Any issue you can experience always involves all these actions,happeninginthisorder(forthemostpart),tocreateeitherapositiveornegativedominoeffect.AswelearnedfromDr.CarolynLeaf,ourbodiescontainnomechanism,physicalornonphysical, for thenegative—onlyfor the positive. So experiencing the negative always indicates amalfunction of the positive, just like a computer virus. Get rid of themalfunction—thevirus—andthepositivestartstoworkagainthewayitwasdesigned.Thenegativeresultalwaysboilsdowntoamemorywithalie in it,which ismadeof energy.Use the right energy tool to fix thememory—pullthelieout—andthesymptomswillautomaticallystarttogoaway,thuscreatingthepositiveversionofthedominoeffect.Notethatitispossibletohavethepositiveresultinoneareaofyourlife,andthenegativeinanother.Youcanexperiencehappiness,health,and success inyourmarriage,but experienceunhappiness, illness, andfailureatwork. Ifyourprogrammingcontainsboth truthand lies,youcan even have positive and negative results with the same issue. Youmaymakemillionsofdollarsbutbefilledwithanxietyandunhappiness,or you may have few material goods and be completely happy andhealthy.

THECOREISSUESOFSIGNIFICANCEANDSECURITY

Thecore issuesat thecenterof this chain reactionare significanceandsecurity.Alltheeventsthatprecedethesecoreissuesdeterminewhetheryou have problems with these issues, and all the events that followsignificance and security flow directly from these issues. Significanceand security are so important because they directly relate to issues ofidentity.Significance relates to our feeling of self-worth:whatwebelievewecanandcan’tdo,andourexperienceofguilt, shame,measuringupornotmeasuringup, forgivingornot forgiving, and judgingour self andothers. In other words, our significance represents who we are. Ourexperienceofsignificanceisalmostexclusivelyinternalandcomesfromoursubconsciousmemorybanksandbeliefs.Security relates toour senseof acceptanceor rejectionof others, byothers,andself.Inmytwenty-fiveyearsofworkingwithclientsaroundtheworld,Ihaveneverworkedwithanyonewhohadaserioushealthorpsychologicalissuewhodidnotalsohavearejectionissue.Itmayhavebeen on the playground in kindergarten or from awell-meaning adultwho said something relatively innocent, but as children in the delta/thetabrainwavestate,wedidn’thavetheability to filter(suchasour“Popsiclememories”).Orwemayhavebeentrulyabusedormistreated—physicallyoremotionally.Theoppositeofrejection isacceptance,orkindness,whichiswhyoneofthemostpowerfulthingswecaneverdotohelpothersissimplytobekindtothem.Ofcourse,thisincludesbeingkind toourselves.Butunlike significance, security isboth internalandexternal. Security also involves our sense of safety, or whether basicneedsarebeingmetinourexternalcircumstances,suchasfood,shelter,andprotection.Our sense of significance and security are created inside us throughourancestryandduringourfirstfewyearsoflife,basedonwhetherweexperience fear or love in any and every given situation. If weexperiencelove,aslongasourbasicneedsarebeingmet,we’llbyandlarge experience significance and security in that situation. If weexperience fear, then we’ll feel insignificant and insecure—in otherwords,we’ll feel guilt, shame, rejection, and the feeling thatwe don’tmeasureup.Basedonwhetherwe’re feeling significantand secure (ornot),we’lleitherexperience theworld through the lensofbelief, faith, trust, and

hope, or we’ll have unhealthy control issues. The control issuesmeanwe’retryingtoforceacertainendresult(expectation)bywillpowerthatwebelievewemusthaveinordertobeokay,whichisinturnbasedonseekingpleasureandavoidingpain.Ourprogramming tellsus thatwecannot trust and believe, because in the past we have received painwithout love. Remember, if we’re primarily seeking pleasure andavoiding pain, we’re living as if we’re still five years old. If we findourselveslivingthatwayasanadult,thatmeanswehaveahumanhard-drive virus about that issue. We have something in our subconsciousmindthat’sgivingourbrainthewronginstructionsandkeepingit inadangerousanddestructiveloop.Aswelearnedinchapter2,webecome“infected” with human hard-drive viruses when we form a wronginterpretationofanevent.Ifyouareexperiencingbothpainandalackof pleasure in a particular situation, and ourmost basic programmingsayspainequalsbadandpleasureequalsgood,youareextremelylikelytobelievealieaboutyourcurrentcircumstance.Believingalieinturncreates a fear-based memory that governs our response in all otherfuturesimilarsituationsandbecomespartofourinternalprogrammingandbeliefs,startingtheviciouscycleofallthenegativeresultslistedonthispage.On the other hand, if you have experienced love in a particular

situation, then you don’t live in fear of the end resultwhen a similarsituation occurs in the future. You’re able to trust and believe from aplaceofpeace,relaxation,andlivinginthepresentmoment,settingintomotionallthepositiveresultsonthispage.Also,there’saveryimportantimplicationhereyoumayhavealready

realized. In my opinion and experience, almost every issue is arelationship issue! Love does not exist outside the context of arelationship.Soall fearhasarelationshipproblemat its root,whetherit’sarelationshipwithyourself,God,others,animals,ornature.JustthisyearIhavebeenreunitedwithmylong-lostbrother—wehadnotbeenincontactforfortyyears.Ifeellikeapartofmethatwasdeadhascomebacktolife.Itisanindescribablefeelingthathashealedmeinternallyinawaythatiswaybeyondwordsormeasurement,andonethatIdidn’teven realize needed healing. I had no idea howmuch the loss of mybrotherhadaffectedmylifeandhealthnegativelyoverallthoseyears.I believe this reality is common to everyone. Your significance and

securityarealwaysformedinthecontextofrelationships(exceptwhenyou’reinalife-threateningsituationorexperiencingalackinyourbasicphysical needs and safety). Even if you think your issue is solelyfinancial,healthrelated,orrelatedtosomeotherexternalcondition, iffear/pain/pleasure are involved, it has to be rooted in a relationshipissue. So, once you get to the Success Blueprint in chapter 7, I highlyadvise using the forty-day process on relationship success goals. Healyourrelationshipissues,andyouhealthegreatmajorityofyoursuccessissues—usuallyallofthem.That’sexactlywhattheReprogrammingStatementshelpyoudo:they

deprogramthenegativeforeverykeyevent,andreprogramuswiththepositive sowe can be happy, healthy, and successful in any area—thewaywearedesignedtobe.Note:TheseReprogrammingStatements,unlikemanyaffirmations,are

based in truth and love and help get our heart andmind back to theperfectstatetheywereinwhenwewerefirstbornandourhumanharddriveswerevirusfree.I’veusedthesestatementssuccessfullyfortwenty-fiveyears,withpeopleallovertheworld.The Reprogramming Statements are linked sets of questions and

statements that take you through the chain reaction, removing thehumanhard-drivevirusonestepatatime.Onthefollowingpagesyou’llfindtwooptions:thecompleteversionoftwelvesetsofReprogrammingStatementsthatdirectlycorrespondtothetwelvekeyeventsinthechainreaction, and the abbreviated version based on the four most centralevents in the chain reaction. I developed the abbreviated versionbecause some clients have wanted a shorter process (even thoughsometimeslongerisbetter).Becauseitcanbejustaseffectiveforsomepeople,I’mincludingbothoptionshere.Mygeneralruleofthumbisthatif you use the abbreviated version and do not experience completeresolutionprettyquickly,dothecompleteversionforawhile.

USINGTHEREPROGRAMMINGSTATEMENTS:COMPLETEVERSIONTo use these Reprogramming Statements as a tool to deprogram yourhumanhard-drivevirusesandreprogramyourselfwiththetruth,simply

bringtomindaparticularissueorproblemandbeginwiththefirstsetof statements.The four statements in eachof the twelve sets all beginthe sameway:“Idesire to,”“Iamwilling to,”“Iamready to,”and“Iwill,”andeachsetcorrespondswiththecorechainreactioneventslistedpreviously. Note that the first statement beginning with “I desire” isreferring not to expectations, but to hope, which is love based ratherthanfearbased.Saythefirststatementinthesetanddeterminewhetheryoubelieveit

or not, based on your subjective feelings (which can be physical ornonphysical).Forexample,thefirststatementinthefirstsetis“IdesiretobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutwhoandwhatIam,andwhoandwhat I’mnot.”Say this statement foryourself,eitheroutloudor silently.Try todiscernwhether you feel anythingnegative, oranyresistance,andnoteexactlywhatyoufeelandwhereyoufeelitinyour body. Most people experience the negativity in their body as apressure or heaviness. (If you think about it long enough, you mightevengetaheadacheorstomachache,butIdon’twantyoutothinkaboutitthatlong.)Keeprepeatingthisstatementuntilyoutrulybelieveit.Youknowyoutrulybelieveitwhenthatnegativeemotion,tension,tightness,heaviness,orpainhasgoneaway.Ifyoudon’tfeelitinyourbody,gobyyourthoughtsandemotions.Onceyoubelievethefirststatement,moveontothesecondstatement,

following the same procedure: make the statement for yourself,determinewhetheryoubelieve it (i.e.,whetheryouhaveanynegativefeelingsorsenseofheaviness),andrepeatituntilyoubelieveitandanyheaviness,pressure,orpainhasgoneaway.Thenmoveontothethirdstatement,andfinally the fourth.Onceyouhavegonethroughall fourstatements in a set, move on to the next set and repeat the entireprocedure,workingyourwaythroughtotheend.Note that these Reprogramming Statements function not only as a

tool, but as a diagnostic for the untruths you believe. As you movethroughthesestatementsandidentifytheseuntruths,youcanapplytheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentooltotheseuntruthstohealthematthesourceaswell.Simplystatetheunbeliefasyourproblemforeachtool,andusetheproceduresforeachtooldescribedinthischapter.Also,ifyoufindyourselfstuckataparticularstatement,seethesectionaftertheReprogrammingStatementsforspecificinstructionsonhowto

healanyconsciousorunconsciousblocksthatcomeup.(Andrememberthatthereisn’treallyawrongwaytousethesestatements.)1. Current programming. We don’t see things as they are; we see

things as we are. And the way we see things has to do with ourprogramming,justaswithacomputer.Ourcurrentprogrammingcomesfrompast generations and our own life experience, based onwhatwehaveinherited,learned,absorbed,observed,ordone.Weallendupwithtruthandliesinourprogramming,nomatterhowwellintentionedourparentswereorhowperfectlywetrytolive.Butifwewanttolivethelifewewant,wehavetogetridofourfear-based,falseprogramming.Pleaseunderstand:yourprogramming isnotyou. Ifyouhavehuman

hard-driveviruses,thinkofthemassplintersinsideyourspiritualheartthat are causing anegative chain reaction. Sodon’t take ownership ofanyliesinyourprogramming.We’regoingtousethistooltoremovethesplinters and allow you to work the way you were made to work:constantlyproducinghappiness,health,andsuccess.Thefirststepistoreprogramyouwiththetruth:thewholetruthandonlythetruth.

1.IdesiretobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutwhoandwhatIam,andwhoandwhatI’mnot.

2.IamwillingtobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutwhoandwhatIam,andwhoandwhatI’mnot.

3. Iamreadytobelieve thewhole truthandonly the truthaboutwhoandwhatIam,andwhoandwhatI’mnot.

4.Iwillbelieve thewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutwhoandwhatIam,andwhoandwhatI’mnot.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool(seethenextsectionforinstructionsfortheHeartScreentool).2.Current“real-time”circumstancesoccur,andourunconscious

automaticallycomparesourcurrentexternalcircumstances toourcurrent internalprogramming. I put scare quotes around “real-time”because in my experience, 99 percent of people do not see theircircumstancesastheyreallyareandactonthemintruth.Theyseethem

andactonthembasedontheirprogramming—which,again,istypicallyfearbased.Instantaneously,intheblinkofaneye,ourunconsciousandsubconscious mind determine the appropriate thoughts, feelings, andbeliefs based on our current programming, not based on our currentcircumstances.Whenever you experience fear, anger, anxiety, sadness,or any other kind of negative feeling or emotion, and your life is notnecessarilyindanger,itjustmeansyourprogrammingaboutthatissueisfearbased,and itwill leadyou straight toall thenegative resultsyoudon’twant!Wewanttobeabletochoosetherightactiontoexperienceall thehappiness,health,and successwedowant.Tochoose the rightaction,weneedtherightprogramming.

1.Idesiretoactonandbelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthabout my current circumstances, not lies based on internaluntruthsinmyprogramming.

2. Iamwilling toactonandbelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutmycurrentcircumstances,notliesbasedoninternaluntruthsinmyprogramming.

3. I am ready to act onandbelieve thewhole truth andonly thetruthaboutmycurrentcircumstances,notliesbasedoninternaluntruthsinmyprogramming.

4.Iwillactonandbelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthaboutmycurrentcircumstances,notliesbasedoninternaluntruthsinmyprogramming.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.3.Falsehoodor truth. Every lie is amisinterpretation of the truth;

that’swhy liesare soeasy to rationalize.There is some truth in there.Theproblemisthatit’snotthewholetruth,oronlythetruth.Thewholetruthalwayspoints theway to love,while falsehoodalwayspoints theway to fear. Inorder to save timeandpain,hit the issueat the truth/falsehoodlevel.Trainyourselftoknowwhenyou’rebelievingalie,anddon’tactuntilyouhavethetruth.

1.Idesiretobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthinmyheart,soul, spirit, and mind, and no longer believe anything that isuntrue.

2.Iamwillingtobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthinmyheart,soul,spirit,andmind,andnolongerbelieveanythingthatisuntrue.

3. Iamreadytobelievethewholetruthandonlythetruth inmyheart,soul,spirit,andmind,andnolongerbelieveanythingthatisuntrue.

4.Iwillbelievethewholetruthandonlythetruthinmyheart,soul,spirit,andmind,andnolongerbelieveanythingthatisuntrue.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.4.Pain/pleasureorintegrity.We’vealreadytalkedaboutourpain/

pleasureprogramming:it’sthesimpleequationofpleasure=goodandpain=bad,nomatterwhat.Thisprogramming is appropriate for thefirst six years of our life,while our survival instincts are naturally onhighalert, butbyabout age sixor eight,we’re supposed to shift fromthisprogramming tomakingdecisionsbasedon integrity—whatistrue,loving, good, and helpful. In fact, living with integrity and livingaccording to our pain/pleasure programming are mutually exclusive:youcan’tdoboth.

1.Idesiretogiveupmypain/pleasurewayoflookingatmylifeinordertoliveinintegrityandhavethebestlifeforme.

2. Iamwilling togiveupmypain/pleasurewayof lookingatmylifeinordertoliveinintegrityandhavethebestlifeforme.

3.Iamreadytogiveupmypain/pleasurewayoflookingatmylifeinordertoliveinintegrityandhavethebestlifeforme.

4.Iamgivingupandwillgiveupmypain/pleasurewayoflookingatmylifeinordertoliveinintegrityandhavethebestlifeforme.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.5.Fearorlove.Whenconfrontedwithpainorlackofpleasure,which

happenstoallofusmultipletimeseveryday,wehaveachoice:Doweaddress the situation in love,or in fear?Wemaywell experiencepainandnegativecircumstanceseitherway,butwhetheryourespondinfearor love results in different ways of thinking, believing, feeling, andacting.Fearleadstoeverythingyoudon’twantinyourlife;loveleadstoeverythingyoudowant.Theproblemformostpeopleisthatevenwhentheychoose love, if thepaindoesn’tgoawayorpleasuredoesn’tcomeprettyquickly,theyjumpthetrack,returntofear,andtrytoforcewhattheywant.Iftheywouldhavejuststayedonthelovetrack,theywouldhavegotteneverythingtheywantedandmore.

1.Idesiretothink,feel,believe,act,anddoeverythinginlove,notfear—inmyheart,spirit,soul,mind,andbody.

2.Iamwillingtothink,feel,believe,act,anddoeverythinginlove,notfear—inmyheart,spirit,soul,mind,andbody.

3.Iamreadytothink,feel,believe,act,anddoeverythinginlove,notfear—inmyheart,spirit,soul,mind,andbody.

4.Iwillthink,feel,believe,act,anddoeverythinginlove,notfear—inmyheart,spirit,soul,mind,andbody.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.6. Insecurity or security. Security is one of the two core identity

issues mentioned earlier. It (and significance) is a linchpin issue foreverything in this entire list: all of the issues prior affect our sense ofsecurity and significance, and all the issues following flow from them.Our security and significance are inextricably linked. Sometimes oursenseof securityprecedesour senseof significance and thus affects it;sometimesoursignificanceprecedesoursecurityandthusaffectsit.Oursenseof security isbothexternal (AmIphysically safeanddo I

have my basic needs met in my surroundings?) and internal (Am I apersonotherswouldwanttobeinrelationshipwith?).Ithastodowith

whetherwefeelsafeandaccepted,orfeelunsafeandrejected.

1.IdesiretogiveupmyfearandfalsehoodregardingmysecurityandacceptancesothatIcanhavesecurityandacceptance.

2. I am willing to give up my fear and falsehood regarding mysecurity and acceptance so that I can have security andacceptance.

3. I am ready to give up my fear and falsehood regarding mysecurity and acceptance so that I can have security andacceptance.

4. I give up my fear and falsehood regarding my security andacceptancesothatIcanhavesecurityandacceptance.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.7.Insignificanceorsignificance.Theotherofthetwocoreidentity

issues, significance isalmostexclusivelyan internal state.Our senseofsignificance answers the questionWho am I? It specifically affects ourabilitytoforgive(ornotforgive)andtojudge(ornotjudge).Ifwehaveastrongsenseof significance,weareable togiveeveryone—includingourselves—thebenefitofthedoubt,knowingthatourjobisnottojudgepeoplebuttolovethem.

1. I desire to give upmy insignificance, unforgiveness, judgment,falseidentity,andfalseself-worthsothatIcanhavesignificance,forgiveness,nonjudgment,trueidentity,andtrueself-worth.

2. I am willing to give up my insignificance, unforgiveness,judgment, false identity,and false self-worthso that Icanhavesignificance, forgiveness, nonjudgment, true identity, and trueself-worth.

3. I am ready to give up my insignificance, unforgiveness,judgment, false identity,and false self-worthso that Icanhavesignificance, forgiveness, nonjudgment, true identity, and trueself-worth.

4. I give up my insignificance, unforgiveness, judgment, falseidentity, and false self-worth so that I can have significance,forgiveness,nonjudgment,trueidentity,andtrueself-worth.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.8.Prideorhumility.Humilityisthemostmisunderstoodqualityon

theplanet.Humilitydoesnotmeanweakor spineless.Humilitymeansbelievingthetruthaboutourselves.Andthetruthisthatwe’reallequalat our core. We all have the same basic worth and value as humanbeings:nomatterwherewe live,nomatterwhatour skin color is, nomatter what we have, no matter who we are. We all have unlimitedpotentialandgoodness.Superiorityandinferiorityareequallyfalseandthusequallybad.Bothcomefrominsignificanceandinsecurity.Humilityalsomeansnotbeingsocaughtupwithourselves—beinghumblemeansbeing capable of focusing on others and the work at hand. But mostpeopledon’tlivethatway—they’reconstantlycomparingthemselvestoothersandcreatingexpectationsbasedonthosecomparisons:HowamIdoing?Whataretheythinking?Will theynotice?Truehumility,rootedinsecurity and significance, knows that deep down you’re of great valueandworth,andthatyou’renobetterorworsethananyoneelse,soyoudon’thavetopretendorhide.

1.IdesiretogiveupmywrongbeliefsofsuperiorityandinferiorityaboutwhoandwhatIam,inordertoexperiencethetruthaboutwhoIreallyam,whichisfantastic,butnobetterorworsethananyoneelse.

2. I am willing to give up my wrong beliefs of superiority andinferiorityaboutwhoandwhatIam,inordertoexperiencethetruthaboutwhoIreallyam,whichisfantastic,butnobetterorworsethananyoneelse.

3. I am ready to give up my wrong beliefs of superiority andinferiorityaboutwhoandwhatIam,inordertoexperiencethetruthaboutwhoIreallyam,whichisfantastic,butnobetterorworsethananyoneelse.

4. I give upmywrong beliefs of superiority and inferiority aboutwhoandwhatIam,inordertoexperiencethetruthaboutwhoIreallyam,whichisfantastic,butnobetterorworsethananyoneelse.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.9.Unhealthycontrolorfaith/trust/belief/hope.Thiscategorygoesbacktowhatwebelieve:placebo,nocebo,ordefacto.Unhealthycontrolis the opposite of true belief, faith, and trust. It says, “I have tomanipulateorcontrolthesituationtoensureIreceivetheendresultthatIwant,becauseifIdon’tgettheresultsIwant,Iwon’tbeokay.”Infact,living your life based on willpower and expectations is unhealthycontrol.Aswealreadyknow,it’soneofthemoststressfulthingsyoucando;it’swhyexpectationsareahappinesskiller.6Healthycontrol,ontheotherhand, isdirectly linkedto faith,belief,hope,andtrust.Itmeanswecangiveupendresults,believingthatwearefundamentallyokaynomatterwhatourexternalcircumstancesmaybring. Note: Many believe that if they live this way, they won’t getanything done. They believe that their willpower aimed at externalexpectations is what gets results. It actually works in precisely theoppositeway:ifyougiveupexpectationsandrelyingonwillpower,youwillgetmoredoneinlesstime,andbehappytoboot.

1.Idesiretogiveupunhealthycontroldesignedtoensureacertainend result so that I can have faith, trust, hope, and belief andthereforehavethebestresultsinmylife.

2. I amwilling to give up unhealthy control designed to ensure acertainendresultsothatIcanhavefaith,trust,hope,andbeliefandthereforehavethebestresultsinmylife.

3. I am ready to give up unhealthy control designed to ensure acertainendresultsothatIcanhavefaith,trust,hope,andbeliefandthereforehavethebestresultsinmylife.

4. I give up unhealthy control designed to ensure a certain endresult so that I can have faith, trust, hope, and belief and

thereforehavethebestresultsinmylife.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.10.Reactorrespond.Reactionshappenautomaticallyasaresultofoursurvivalinstinctandourpain/pleasureprogramming.Whenourfootinstantly slams on the brake if a brake light flashes in front of us, orwhen we see a long line at the grocery store and get angry, we arereacting—andthisreactionispartofthechainreactionthatgoesalltheway back to our current programming. Some of that reactiveprogramming can be good, such as our reaction to the brake light, intrulylife-threateningsituations.Butanynegativereactiontoanon-life-threateningsituationisasurefiresignoffear-basedprogramming.Oncewehavetherightprogramming,webecomecapableofrespondingtoasituationwithloveinthepresentmoment,ratherthanreactinginfear.However,evenwhenwebecomecapableofresponding,westillhavetochoosetorespondinlove.Ourpain/pleasureprogrammingmaystillrearitsheadeveryonceinawhile,butwecanchoosetorespondoutofloveinthepresentmoment,nomatterwhatourpain/pleasurereactionwantsustodo.

1.Idesiretogiveupreactingoutofpainandpleasureandrespondintruthandlove.

2. I am willing to give up reacting out of pain and pleasure andrespondintruthandlove.

3. I am ready to give up reacting out of pain and pleasure andrespondintruthandlove.

4.Iamgivingupreactingoutofpainandpleasureandrespondintruthandlove.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.11.Selfishactionsorlovingactions.Onceit’sdeterminedwhetheryouwillreactorrespond,thenextstepistoact.Doyouactselfishly,orlovingly?Thisstepisn’taboutwhatyoudo,butwhyyoudoit.Areyou

actingoutofself-centerednessorother-centeredness—ortowardyourselfinlove,ratherthanselfishness?Ifyoudecideyouwanttomakeasmuchmoney as possible, you could be motivated by greed, hoping toaccumulateasmanytoysasyouwant.Oryoucouldwanttohelpyourfamilygetoutofpoverty,buildanorphanage,orgiveitallaway.Onlyyouknowthetruemotivationbehindyouractions.Nomatterwhatyouractionsare,theyshouldbelovebased,notfearbased.

1. I desire to live in thepresentmoment in love regardlessof theresults.

2. Iamwilling to live in thepresentmoment in loveregardlessoftheresults.

3.Iamreadytoliveinthepresentmomentinloveregardlessoftheresults.

4. Iwill now live in thepresentmoment in love regardlessof theresults.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.12. Failure/unhappiness/illness or success/happiness/health. Ifwe’re unhappy and unhealthy, that usually means we’re basing ourhappiness on external circumstances and the pain/pleasure instinct. Italsomeanswe’re extremely likely to fail atwhateverwe attempt.Mydefinitionof success, happiness, andhealth is feeling joy andpeace inthepresentmoment,regardlessofexternalcircumstances.Thecontentofyourprogramming—whetheritincludeslies,orthewholetruthandonlythetruth—determineswhichexperienceyouhave,everytime.

1. I desire to give up achieving success, happiness, and health sothatIcanbesuccessful,happy,andhealthy.

2. Iamwilling togiveupachievingsuccess,happiness,andhealthsothatIcanbesuccessful,happy,andhealthy.

3.Iamreadytogiveupachievingsuccess,happiness,andhealthsothatIcanbesuccessful,happy,andhealthy.

4.Iamgivingupachievingsuccess,happiness,andhealthsothatIcanbesuccessful,happy,andhealthy.

Asyoubecomeawareoftheuntruthsyoubelieve,listthemandthenhealthem,usingtheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentool.

ABBREVIATEDSETOFREPROGRAMMINGSTATEMENTSThecompleteversion is themost thoroughandprecisewayto identifyandhealthementalbeliefsthatareblockingyoufromsuccess.However,someofmyclientshavebeendauntedby its length,so IdevelopedanabbreviatedversionoftheReprogrammingStatementsthathasalsobeeneffective.Actually,Iwouldhighlyrecommenddoingthemboth.Theyarequite different, and they come at these issues from slightly differentangles.Trythemboth,andyouwilllikelyresonatemorewithoneortheother.However,everyonceinawhile,Iwoulddotheotheraswell.Ifweboildownthe twelve issueseven further,wecanalsosay thatevery issue we have in life comes down to four issues: whether weexperience love or fear, significance or insignificance, security orinsecurity, and belief or unhealthy control. These ReprogrammingStatements focus on deprogramming and reprogramming these fourareas.Tousethistool,thinkofanissueyou’dliketoreprogramorworkon.Thenaskyourselfaquestion.Askyourbody,mind,andheart if itwillhealorproducewhatyouwantinyourcurrentstateandprogramming,andansweryesorno.Theanswerisvirtuallyalwaysno.Ifyourbody,mind, and heart could heal it in your current state and programming,theyeitherwouldhavealready,or theywouldhaveprevented it fromhappeninginthefirstplace.Thistoolhastwosetsofquestions.Thefirstsetaddressesthefactthatevery client issue I’ve seen comes down to (1) being unloving andrejecting of yourself (whichmeans fear/stress) and (2) being unlovingandrejectingoftheproblem(whichmeansfear/stress).Thesolutionistoletgoofunhealthycontrol,andloveinthemoment.Children,forinstance,naturallyknowhowtoletgoandlove.Afive-year-oldcanfalldownafterhisbrothertrippedhim,hithisheadonthe

armofthechair,screamandcry,andactlikehe’llneverbeokayagain.Then,onehourlater,he’llbeplayingLegoswithhisbrother,havingthetimeofhislife.Ifyouaskhimifheisokaywithwhathappenedbefore,hewillcasually fireback,“Ohsure,”as if itneverhappened. Ifyou’veseen something like thishappen,youmayhavewondered,Howdid he(orshe)dothat—andwhycan’tIdothat?Thetruthisthateverythinginnatureisabletoletgoandloveinthepresentmoment—nomatterwhatthreatening circumstancemight exist in the past or the future—excepthumanswithahard-drivevirus.7Begin by answering the first set of questions below. Note: For thisshortersetofReprogrammingStatements,youdon’thavetoanswerinaparticularway tomoveon to thenextquestion.Justbehonest. In theblanksbelow,substitutethespecificexternalor internalproblemyou’dlike to heal, such as “my anxiety,” “my procrastination,” or “mytendencytobelateforeverything.”

• Do you believe that you have been unloving or rejecting ofyourselforothers?

•Canyouletgoofself-rejectionandbeingunlovingofyourselforothers?Nowsaythestatementform:“Igiveupself-rejectionandbeing unloving ofmyself and others.” Repeat until you feel notensionorstress(physicallyornonphysically)relatedtothis.

• Can you give yourself love and acceptance? If you can, say: “Iloveandacceptyou,[yourname].”Repeatasabove.

• Do you believe that you have been rejecting and unloving of___________?

• Can you give ___________ acceptance and love? Now say thestatementform:“Igive___________acceptanceandlove.”Repeatasabove.

•Doyoubelievethatyoufeeloutofcontrolabout___________?

•Canyougiveupwantingcontrolsoyoucanhaveresults?Now

saythestatementform:“IgiveupwantingcontrolsoIcanhaveresults.”Repeatasabove.

•CanyougivecontroltoGod/source/loveabout___________sothat___________canheal?Nowsaythestatementform:“IgivecontroltoGod/source/love about ___________ so that ___________ can heal.”Repeatasabove.

•Canyougiveupwantingtocontrol___________sothatyoucanhave___________?(Inthesecondblank,saythepositivelove-basedresultyouwant,ratherthantheproblem.Theansweristypicallyyes.)Now say the statement form: “I give up wanting to control___________sothatIcanhave___________.”

• Does it now feel more like you have control, or you wantcontrol?Repeattheabovestatementsuntilyouransweris“havecontrol.”8

•Which feels better:wanting control or havingGod/source/lovebeincontrol?

Think about how you feel now about the original issue. Typically,manypeoplefeelsomethingpositive,eveniftheymightnothavewordsfor it. If you don’t feel something positive, go back through the samequestionsagain. Ifyoudo feel somethingpositive, that is the loveandpowerof love/source/God,whichyoumaynotbeused to.Even if it’sunfamiliarorfaint,letthefeelingexpandandspreadinyou.Letittakecontrol and heal. Embrace the new feeling and love/source/God’scontrol.Nowsay“Iloveyou”toyourself,toothers,ortoyourproblem.Repeatthisstatementuntilyoubelieveit.Youhavethechoice,withanyperson, issue, or problem, topour love into it and transform the fear/darknessintolove/light.Thesecondsetofquestionsaddresseshowwantingequals lacking.Toillustratethispoint, I inviteyoutomakealistofthechangesthatyouwantinyourlife,whetherlargeorsmall.Nowlookatthatlist.Foreachof those changes youdesire, yourwanting not only indicates that youlackit,butitactuallycanensurethatyoucontinuetolackit.Oneofthe

mostwell-knownmanuscriptsofalltimeistheTwenty-thirdPsalm:“TheLord ismyshepherd, I shallnotwant.”Wearenotdesigned to live inwant;wecan’twantandhavesimultaneously.It’sextremelydifficulttowantandbethankful,grateful,andcontentatthesametime.Weneedto let go of wanting so we can have. Wanting, which is based inrejecting, lack,and fear,causes stress, illness,andeverythingnegative.Letting go to love/source/God does the opposite—and it also enablesyou to tap into the supernatural so that the miraculous becomespossible.Thisunderstandingtakestheissuefroma“can’t”toan“is.”It’satotalshiftinthewayyoulookatyourproblems.Nowanswer the second setofquestionsbelow.As in the first setofquestions, simply answer honestly and move on to the next question,substituting thespecificexternalor internalproblemyou’d like tohealintheblanksasappropriate.

• Would you rather beat up ___________ or love it? Repeat instatementformasneeded.

•Areyouwillingtogiveupwantingtobesafesoyoucanbesafe?Repeatinstatementformasneeded.

•Doesitfeellikeyoustillwantsafety,orhavesafety?

•Whichfeelsbetter:havingsafetyorwantingsafety?

•Canyouseethatyou’renegativeabout___________?Beingnegativeequalsfear;fearequalsstress.Trysayingthis:

“Everything is okay. Everythingwill be okay.” Repeat as often as you need to until youbelieveit.Ifyouliveinloveandtruth,everythingisalwaysokay—ifthat’snottrueforyouyet,youaren’tyetfinishedwiththistool.

WHATTODOIFYOUGETSTUCKJust as a reminder, you’ll receive full instructions on how to use allThreeToolstohealyoursourcememoriesandyoursuccessissuesinPart

III;hereI’msimplydescribinghowtheyworksoyou’llbereadytousethem.ButwhenyoudousetheReprogrammingStatements,whetherthecomplete version or the abbreviated version, you may find that yousimply cannot move past a certain statement. For example, in thecomplete version, youmay get to the third statement in the sixth set,“I’mreadytogiveupmyfearandfalsehoodregardingmysecurityandacceptancesothatIcanhavesecurityandacceptance,”andthefeelingsofresistanceordiscomfortjustaren’tgoingaway.Ifso,youcanusethecombinationtechniquethatincludesallthreeofthetools,whichappearsat the end of this chapter. The Three Tools work very well togetherbecause the Reprogramming Statements, in addition to being apsychological healing tool, also function as a diagnostic for conscious,subconscious,andunconsciousblockstothehealingprocess.Whentheseblocking beliefs are identified, you can use the Energy Medicine toolcoupledwith theHeartScreen tool todeprogramand reprogram thesebeliefs.Seetheendofthechapterforthiscombinationtechnique.If you try the combination technique and don’t notice any change,simplyacknowledgewhereyouareandrevisethecurrentstatementtosomething that is true: “I desire to be ready to give up my fear andfalsehood regarding my security and acceptance, so that I can havesecurity and acceptance.” Then say a prayer that asks for additionalhelp:“PleasedowhateverneedstobedoneinmesothatIcanbereadytogiveupmyfearandfalsehoodregardingmysecurityandacceptance,sothat Icanhavesecurityandacceptance.”Thenmoveontothenextset.Bear in mind that you won’t be done with the ReprogrammingStatementsuntilyoutrulybelieveallofthemthewaytheyarewritten.Keepworkingthroughthestatementsuntilyoucan.Untilthen,Iwoulddo the statementsonceor twiceperday regardingwhatever issueyouareworkingon.Once you have fully deprogrammed any viruses and reprogrammedyourmindandspiritualheartwiththetruthateverystageofthechainreaction(whetheryouaddresstwelvestagesorfourstages),you’llknowthat your current programmingwill create positive results every time.And it canmake suchaprofounddifference thatpeoplemaynotevenrecognizeyou!One ofmy clients, amiddle-agedwoman, had—in herwords—tried

every self-help program on the planet. She had problems with hermarriageandshewasoverweight,unhealthy,andunhappy.Infact,shewasoneofthemostnegative,bitterpeopleIhadevermet—everytimeshe came to see me, she had a long list of all the ways people hadwrongedher. Shewasbringing evenmedown! “If itwasn’t for this, Iwouldbehealthy. If thishadn’thappened, Iwouldhavemadea lotofmoney.Theworldisaterribleplacetolive:thegovernmentisouttogetyou,peopleonlythinkaboutthemselves,myhusbandisalazybumanddoesn’teverwanttodoanythingIwanttodo.”(Ofcourse,mostofthiswas not true—she was misinterpreting reality as a result of herprogramming.)I believed these Reprogramming Statements were a tool that couldhelp her. You can probably guess what she thought: this was thestupidestthingshehadeverheardof!Shesaid,“Well,I’vealreadytriedaffirmations.” I explained that these aren’t affirmations; you only saythese things if you believe them. Plus, you only work on thesestatements ifyoutrulydesiretheminthefirstplace,whichiswhythefirststatementineverysetbeginswith“Idesire.”(Tome,desire,inthiscontext,meanshope.)So shedid theReprogrammingStatements athomeonherown—allthewhile tellingmeoverandover that theyweren’tdoinga thing forher.ButsoonInoticedshewassoundingalittledifferent—alittlemorepositive,alittlelessbitter.Overtimethisimprovementcontinueduntilitbecamequitecomicaltome:whenshe’dcall,she’dsoundsopositiveand so happy, but then would say, “But I don’t think saying thesestatementsisdoinganything.”Shetoldmethatoneday,herbestfriendwashavinglunchwithherand said, “Okay, I’ve got to ask—what has been going on with you?Haveyoubeentoafaithhealerorsomething?Haveyouhadsomekindofmysticalexperience?Whathashappenedtoyou?”Andmyclientsaid,“Whatintheworldareyoutalkingabout?”Shedidn’tunderstand.Itwaslike the frog in thekettle: thechangehappenedsoslowlyshecouldn’ttell what was happening. Eventually she confirmed it by asking otherpeoplewhowereclose toher if theyhadnoticedwhather friendhad.They said the same thing: “I’ve never seen anything like it.” Evenherhusbandadmittedthathehadbeenamazedatthechange—buthedidn’twanttosayanythingbecausehewasafraiditmightdisappear!

Shehad lost a significant amount ofweightwithout trying, and sheandherhusbandwerehavingalotmoreintimatetime.Andallwedidwere these Reprogramming Statements. After deprogramming andreprogramming herself, everything was different. Remove the viruses,andyourbrainisfreeduptoworkproperly.

THEHEARTSCREENTOOL:HEALINGTHESOURCEISSUESTHROUGHSPIRITUALITYThe Heart Screen tool addresses the spiritual part of us—that is, ourspiritual heart, cellular memories, unconscious, subconscious,conscience, and beyond. Specifically, this tool consciously andintentionallyactivatesandusesourheartscreen,amechanisminsideourbeing that is capable of deprogramming and reprogramming us at aspirituallevel.Aswelearnedinchapter3,ourheartscreenisthereal,internalscreenonwhichwecanseethepicturesofthememoriesinourmind, much like we can see pictures on a computer, tablet, orsmartphonescreen.Weuseiteverytimeweimaginesomething,whetherrealormadeup.Toseeyourheartscreen,justcloseyoureyes.Nowthinkaboutwhat

youhad foryour lastmeal.Canyousee it?Taste it?Smell it?Doyourememberwhatwasaroundyou,oranyconversationyouwerehaving?If you can, you just saw your heart screen. If you have troublevisualizingingeneral,trythis:eatapieceofcandy,noticingeverythingabout the experience as you do—the taste, the texture, the smell, thefeelings, and the physical sensations you havewhile eating it. Shortlyafterward,closeyoureyesandrecalleatingthepieceofcandy.(Ifyou’drathernoteatapieceofcandy,youcandothesamethingbygoingoutin nature and staring at a flower. Then close your eyes and see thefloweronyourheartscreen.)Ifyoucannotvisualizeatall,itcouldbearesult of brain damage (primarily from severe head trauma, and youwould know if you had experienced this), or you have experienced somuchpaininyourlifethatyourunconscioushasdisconnectedaccesstoyourimagemakeroutofyoursurvivalinstinctbecausetheimagestherearealwayssopainful.Eventheseissueswillmanytimesimproveorhealaltogetherwhen using this tool, so I encourage you to try using it no

matterwhat.TheHeartScreentoolhasthepotentialtodwarftheEnergyMedicine

tool and the Reprogramming Statements in terms of power andeffectiveness.Why?This tool taps intoour imagemaker, the sourceofthemostpowerfulcreativeanddestructiveforceontheplanetsincethedawn of time (see chapter 3). In fact, everything that has ever beencreatedor destroyedbyhumanitywasdone throughour imagemakerfirstandcouldnothaveoccurredwithoutit.

HOWTHEHEARTSCREENTOOLWORKSAs I explained in chapter 3, your heart screen is the screen for yourimagination. It is your view into your spiritual heart, or your humanhard drive, which includes your unconscious, subconscious, andconscious mind. However, I prefer the term image maker becauseimaginationtendstoconveydaydreamingorfantasy,whichisnotatallwhat we are talking about here. We are talking about creating theperfectsuccessforyoubyusingthemostpowerfultoolavailable.Whatever appears on your heart screen determines what you

experience,andtheremaybeseveralorevenmanythingsonyourheartscreenatthesametime—someyoucansee,andsomeyoucannot.Youcanseewhatisinyourconsciousmindmuchasyoucanseewhat’sonyoursmartphonescreen,whereyoucandeleteandchangewhatyouseeon the screen by pushing certain icons or changing settings. Yoursubconscious and unconscious mind are like the unseen deeperprogrammingorhardwareofyourphone:youcanonlychangethesetoacertainextent,becauseyouneverknowexactlywhat’sgoingonunderthere.Yourphone’sunseenprogrammingorhardwaremaynotrespondtoyourchanges,oritmightevenoverridethemiftheprogrammingorhardwareisstrongenoughandindisharmonywiththechangesyouaretryingtomake.Youcan’tdoanythingthatthephoneisnotprogrammedtodo.Solet’sassumethatyourheartscreenissplitrightacrossthemiddle

intotwoparts:atoppartandabottompart.Forthebottompart,ortheunconscious side of your heart screen, you do not have any directcontrolsonthedevicetoseeorchangewhatison.Youhavetoaffectit

through thepart that you can see (the top, or consciouspart), andbydeprogrammingandreprogramming—muchlikeopeningupthebackofthedevice,whereyouneedtohavetherighttoolsandknowhowtousethem.Nevertheless,whatisonthepartyoucan’tsee(theunconscious)affectseverythingonthepartyoucansee(conscious)andeverythinginyourlife,includingyourexternalcircumstances.

TheTwoPartsoftheHeartScreen

So if you’re experiencing anger, you have amemory on your heartscreen,consciousornot, thathasanger in it.Youhaveto.There isnootherwayyoucouldbeexperiencinganger.Iftheangermemoryisonlyon the unconscious part of your heart screen, youwill not be able toremember it and see it. If it is on the conscious part as well as theunconscious,youwillbeable to remember it and see itonyourheartscreen.The same is true for any issue: low self-worth, sadness, or anyotherinternalexperience.Themore indisharmony the twopartsof the screenare in termsof

whether the imagesare fearbasedor lovebased, themore theunseenpartwilltakeover,mandatewhatisontheseenpart,orevenbypassittomandatefeelings,thought,andactions,iftheunseenpartdeemsitanemergency(whetherreal,imagined,orinherited).OneofthemostdramaticexamplesIcanrememberisfromoneofmy

clients. He could not get through a single day without becoming so

anxiety-ridden that hewas virtually incapacitated.He began each dayfeelingfine,butsomehowhewouldgettriggeredanddidn’tunderstandwhy.Tobehonest,Iwasstumpedforalongtime.Butoneday,asIwastalking to him and doing some testing, we finally figured it out—histriggerwasthecoloryellow.Wheneverthecoloryellowwasprominentinacurrentsituation,heinstantlywentintoextremefightorflight.Wediscoveredthat itwentbacktoatraumaticmemoryinwhichsomeonewaswearing yellow.This reaction to the color yellow certainlywasn’tconscious, but it was there—and it was far more powerful than anyconscious thought, reasoning, or defense he could use to disarm hisproblem.AfterwedeprogrammedandreprogrammedthatmemoryusingtheHeartScreentool(andtheHealingCodes),thecoloryellowelicitedlove, not fear—and he no longer experienced crippling anxiety.Whenwestartedworkingontheissue,hewasnotconsciousofthememory,sohecouldnotseeitonhisheartscreen(i.e.,inhisimagination).Oncewefoundit,hecouldrememberandseeit.TheHeartScreentoolisaverypowerfulwaytotapintothepowerof

oursubconsciousandunconsciousmind,whichnotonlyisexponentiallymore powerful than our conscious mind, but controls our consciousmindandbody.Butthegreatthingabouttheheartscreenisthatwecanaccess it from the conscious mind, not just our subconscious orunconscious mind. Remember, the top part of your heart screen isconscious;youcanseeit.Andwhathappensontheconsciouspartofthescreenaffectswhat’sonthepartyoucan’tsee(theunconsciouspart)—itcanhaveahealingeffectontheunconsciouspartofthescreen.Asyoureprogramanddeprogramyourheartscreenovertime,youwillbeabletochoosewhatyouwanttoseeandwhatyoudon’twanttoseeonyourheart screen. In other words, you will be able to choose what youexperience and what you don’t, which can determine your health,wealth,relationships,happiness,andsuccessinanyarea.

USINGTHEHEARTSCREENTOOLNowlet’stalkabouttheactualscreenandhowtouseitforyourself.

1. Picture a blank screen in your mind, such as a smartphone

screen, tablet screen, computer screen, orTV screen—whateverisvividandmeaningfulforyou.Inmyexperience,thebiggerthebetter. Imagine a horizontal line through the middle of thescreen,denotingtheconsciouspartandunconsciouspartofyourheartscreen.Youcanseewhat’sontheupperpartofthescreen(the conscious part), but not what’s on the bottom part (theunconsciouspart).

2. Now take your own spiritual temperature: What are youexperiencingrightnowthat isdifferent fromwhatyouwant tobe experiencing? As an example, let’s say you’re experiencingangeranddon’twanttobe.

3.Sayasimple,sincereprayer fromyourheart,askingtoseetheanger that isonyourheart screen.Don’tmake ithappen; let ithappen. Allow the anger pictures on your heart screen tomaterialize,inwords,pictures,memoriesofpastexperiences,orhowever it happens. If nothing happens, try placing the wordangeron the screen,and then just relaxand let it sit thereandsee what happens. Perhaps you most vividly experience theangerasafeelingofexploding,orascreaming,redface,oryourfatheryellingatyouwhenyouwereyoung.Sinceyourangerisconscious, because you are aware that you’re experiencing it,picture this anger image on the conscious part.Note that eventhoughtheexperienceisconscious,itisalsoontheunconsciouspart (although you don’t know what memory is being shownthere);otherwise,itwouldnotbeaconsciousproblemforlong.The unconscious is somuchmore powerful than the consciousthatifthetwo“disagreed,”theunconsciouswouldprettyquicklychange the conscious picture and your subsequent experience(yourfeelings,actions,andphysiology).

4. Once you experience seeing your anger or other negativeemotion,memory, belief, person, place, or thing on your heartscreen, ask and pray that this angerwill no longer be on yourheartscreenandthat itwillbehealed to thepoint that itdoesnotexistanywhereinyouanymore—notonthescreen,andnotinyourmemories.Forinstance,youmightsay,“Letthelightand

loveofGodbeonmyheartscreen,andnothingelse.”Or,ifyoudon’t believe inGod, simply say, “Let light and lovebeonmyheartscreen,andnothingelse.”

5.Thenpicturethislightandloveonyourheartscreeninimages,whetherasabluesky,children,asunset,truelove,flowers,thedivinelightofGod/source/love,orabeautifulviewofthebeachorthemountains.AswiththeEnergyMedicinetool,justobservethe images of light and love on your heart screen, rather thantryingtoforcethemtoappear.Youwilleventuallyseethelightand love spread to the unconscious part and heal whatevermemories are there, removing the lie, fear, and darkness andchanging them to truth, love, and light.Youmay see thewordanger,thenthelightandlovedissolvingit,andthenthelightandlovespreadingtothepartofthescreenyoucan’tsee,andfromthere to all the relatedmemories (conscious and unconscious).This change frequently happens in a matter of minutes, but itcouldtakedays,weeks,orevenmonthsinextremecases,suchaswhen long-term fear programming has resulted in deep,recurrentnegativecycles(anddependingonhowskilledyouareat the process). You will know that the memory has beendeprogrammed and reprogrammed when you no longerexperience any negative feeling or emotion when you thinkabout or visualize that image of anger, or when thecircumstances that typically triggerangerhappenagain inyourlife.

6. Until you have been fully deprogrammed and reprogrammedabout your issue as described, use this tool as a prayer/meditationonceortwiceaday.Howlongyouusethetoolinonesitting completely depends on you. Allow yourself to really betransported into the inner world, like you are in your owngigantic internal movie theater. If what is happening on thescreen is scary to you, feel free tomentally take someone youlove andwho loves you into the theaterwithyou. If you can’tthink of anyone, I would be honored to go there with you. (IassureyouthatIdoloveyou.Maybesomedaywewillmeetand

Icanprovethattoyou.)

One ofmy clientswas the kind of a guy you’d call a “man’sman,”withagruffdemeanor.WhenIfirstmethim,hejustwantedto“fixthis.”For him, “this” was his arthritis: it was limiting his ability to work,whichwascausinghimstress,whichinturnwascausinghimtodistancehimself from his family, which was causing family relationshipproblems,andsoon.Interestingly,hewasintomeditation,particularlythe ancient Eastern type ofmeditation that focuses on emptying yourmind. There’s an obvious benefit to emptying yourmind: it takes thefocus away fromyourproblems andyour stress, kindof like changingthechannel.Itmayprovidereliefinandofitself,butitdoesn’thealthesourceissues,inmyexperience.Youwouldneedtodoitforhoursadayeverydayifyouwantedtosustaintherelief. Infact,manypeopleI’vecounseledhavetriedmeditationandfinallydecidedtoquitbecauseeventhough it helped for a short time, they didn’t feel it actually healedanythinglongterm,andtheydidn’thavehoursadaytodoit.Now,fortherecord,Ibelievetraditionalmeditationisterrific!It’san

awesome discovery that has benefited millions. To the body’sphysiology,onetothreehoursofdailymeditationissimilartotakinganap,andeverystudyIhaveeverseenontakingashortnapeverydayisverypositive.Also,itisofgreatbenefittoquietoremptyyourmindifyourmindisfilledwithfear,falsehood,anddarkness(i.e.,stress).However,here’sthepoint:ifyourmindisfilledwithlight,love,and

truth,andthereforeabsentof fear, falsehood,anddarkness,yourminddoesnotneedtobequieted!Itisdesignedtoworktwenty-fourhoursaday,anditwilldothatnomatterwhat—youcouldn’tstopitifyoutried.Simplyquietingyourmindifitisinstressisacopingmechanism,notahealing one. Yes, youwill feelmore relaxed.Yes, your blood pressurewillgetbetter.Yes,youremotionswillimprove.You’lllikelyexperiencemany other positive symptoms as well. But the moment you stopmeditating for hours a day, all your negative symptoms will return,becauseyouneverhealedthem;youwerejustcoping.TheHeartScreenmeditation is theopposite. It’snotaboutemptying

yourmind;it’sabouthyperfocusing(inrelaxedpeace)onthemechanismthat controls the problem—and that mechanism is activated by themind. The heart screen and imagemaker together form themind and

body’s self-healing program and mechanism. The solution is not todisengageit(i.e.,focusonnothing,orshutitdown),buttoengageittoheal the source of the internal stress and fear in ourmind, heart, andbody. The Heart Screen tool will do everything that meditation does,usuallyinafractionofthetime.Butitwillalsohealthesource,ratherthanjustallowingyoutocopewithit.Iexplainedthisconcepttomyclient,andhewasreallyintrigued—but

skeptical. His tonewas never warm, but rather information-gathering.He said, “So if Ido theHeartScreenmeditation, Iwon’thave tokeepdoing it over and over?” That was the clincher. If he could find asolution that didn’t involve talking all the time (or paying a lot ofmoney),butwassomethinghecoulddoathomeonhisown,hewouldtryit.Hecalledmebackaboutamonthlater.Ihardlyrecognizedhisvoice.

HetalkedtomeasifIwashisbestfriendintheworld;hejustravedandraved.He said, “This iswhat I’vebeen looking for allmy life.”Henolongerhadarthritispain,hewasback toworkingat full force,andhecouldspendtimewithhisfamily.TheHeartScreentoolhadreversedhisviciouscycleintoavirtuousone.Hehadachievedtruesuccessforhim.BackwhenIwasdoingmydoctoralprogram,Irememberameditation

technique one of our professors taught us to address test anxiety. Heinvitedustovisualizeourselvesatourfavoriteplace,undertheperfectcircumstances,andasifitwerehappeninginthatmoment.Wemightbeonthebeachatatropicalisland,reclinedonaloungechaironthewhitesand, sippingadrink, soaking in the sun,andwatching theblue-greenwavesrollinginrhythmically.Wemightbealone,orwemightbewiththepersonwelovemost.Wepictureourselvesinthatplace,undertheperfect circumstances, in the moment, as vividly as we can. Thistechnique helps lower anxiety whenever you’re experiencing externalcircumstancesthatarestressfultoyou,suchastakingatest.Like anything else, it typically takes practice for maximum

effectiveness. The more we practice this technique, the more quicklywe’llbeable tovisualizeourselves in thatperfectplace,and themorequicklywecanneutralize the stresswe’re feeling inany situation thattriggers the stress response. Eventually, with practice, I could get to“thatplace”andde-stressforatestinabouttenseconds,evenifpeoplewere all aroundme. But, of course, this visualizationwasn’t real. The

current circumstances still triggered the stress response every time,proving the technique to be simply another copingmechanism—albeitaneffectiveone.The Heart Screen tool multiplies the power of that visualization a

hundredfold. It places that love-based, perfect picture in your spiritualheartsothoseexternalcircumstancesnevertriggeryourstressresponseinthefirstplace.Itisnotanormalmeditationorcopingmechanism.Itisreal.Whatyouseeonyourheartscreendetermineswhathappensinyour heart—which in turn determines what happens in your externallife. This has been happening in you your whole life; you just didn’tknowit,orhowtouseittohealyourself.The Heart Screen tool is the key to experiencing truly miraculous

results; spendingwhatever time it takes tomaster it iswellworth theeffort.I’vefoundthattheThreeToolsdiscussedherecorrespondlooselywithnaturaldifferencesinourlearningstyles.Ifwetendtobeatouchy/feely, experiential type of learner,we’ll have an easier time using theEnergyMedicinetool.Ifwetendtobeananalytical/verballearner,we’llhaveaneasiertimeusingtheReprogrammingStatements.Andifwe’revisuallearners,we’llhaveaneasiertimeusingtheHeartScreentool.ButI’ve also found that, generally speaking, even though theHeart Screentool may not produce results as immediately dramatic as the EnergyMedicinetool, itsresultscanbeevenmoreprofoundovertime.Itmaytake a week for the visual learners, and four months for a nonvisuallearner—butIwouldadviseonehundredpeopleoutofonehundredtopractice using the Heart Screen tool until they get results. It may bemoreofastruggleforcertainpersonalities,butyoureallycanconsciouslychangewhat’sonyourheartscreenwiththeflipofthisswitch.

YOURSPIRITUALHEARTTECHNOLOGYNotonlydowehaveaccesstoourowninternalheartscreen,ourheartscreen communicates with others’ heart screens as well, continuously.We function much like a smartphone or a computer—or, moreaccurately,asIhavesaidpreviously,theyweredesignedtofunctionlikeus.WealsonowknowthattheInternet,orwhatweaptlycalltheWorldWideWeb,alsowasdesignedtofunctionthewayhumansdo(whether

intentionally or not). I call the real-life equivalent to the Internetconnection between computers for human heart screens our spiritualhearttechnology.Just as our computers constantly send and receive data wirelessly,

invisibly,andconstantlywitheverycomputerconnectedtotheweb,ourindividual heart screens also constantly send and receive energy datafrom every heart screen on the planet, and this data thus constantlyaffectsour current experienceandhealth, aswell as thatof othersweareconnectedto.It’s as if our heart screens are connected to one another via an

“organic Wi-Fi,” affecting our thoughts, feelings, behavior, andphysiologyinstantlyandconstantly.Soourspiritualhearttechnologyisconnectedinternallytoourgenerationalandpersonalmemoriesonourownheartscreen,andexternallytotheheartscreensofeveryonewe’rerelatedtoandcloseto,ourrecentcontacts,andthepeoplerightaroundus.Allthedatawereceivefromotherheartscreensisbeingrunthroughourprogramming,constantlyrewritingandtweakingit,andwhetherwerealizeitornot,thisdatafromotherheartscreensplayedabigroleintheoriginalformationofourprogramming.Physicists have been able to verify the existence of the heart screen

andour spiritualheart technologywithexperimentsdatingback sevendecades, beginning with Albert Einstein. The Einstein, Podasky, andRosenexperimentin1935,whichidentifiedtheeffectcalled“actionatadistance,” isoneof themost famousexperimentseverdone inscience.TheresultsoftheexperimentcorroboratedwhatEinsteinbelievedtobetrueandexpectedtohappen.Yetforyears,ithasbeencommonlyknownas“spooky”actionatadistance,becauseeventhoughphysicistsknowithappens,theystillcan’texplainhowithappens.The experiment beganwhen two people who had nevermet before

introducedthemselvesandsharedcursorypersonalinformation,suchastheirnames,theirhometowns,howmanychildrentheyhad,andsoon—just enough to make each other’s acquaintance. Then they wereseparatedandput inFaraday cages, situated so eachparticipant couldnot seewhatwashappeningwith the other person.A Faraday cage isconstructedsothatnormalelectricityandenergycannotpenetrateit.Ifyou had five bars on your phone and stepped into a Faraday cage, itwouldinstantlygotozeroandsay“noservice.”Butquantumenergycan

get through. Inside their separate Faraday cages, the scientists hookedthetwopeopleuptodiagnosticequipmentthatmeasuresphysiologicalresponsesandneurologicalresponses.Onescientistshoneapenlightintooneperson’seyesintheindividual’sFaradaycage,whiletheother,outof sight, rested comfortably. When the penlight was shone into theperson’s eyes, theneedles on all thediagnostic equipmentwent crazy.Here’sthespookypart:theneedlesalsowentcrazyontheotherperson’smachines, registering exactly the same physiological response, eventhoughtheotherpersonnotonlydidnotexperienceit,butalsohadnoknowledgeofthecompanion’sexperience.Thisexperimenthasbeenreplicatedmanytimessince1935withthe

sameresults. Ifyoumention thisexperiment tophysicists today (and Ihighlyrecommendyoudo),they’lllikelyputtheirhandsovertheirfacesandsay,“Ohno,notthespookyaction-at-a-distanceexperiments!”Eventhoughitisaknownandprovenphenomenon,theycan’texplainit.The action-at-a-distance experiments showus thatwe are constantly

connectedtoothersaroundusthroughquantumenergy,especiallythosewhomweareclosest toorhavehadthemostrecentcontactwith, justlikebeingconnectedwirelesslytotheWeb.Wemayevenbeconnectedto everyone on the planet to some degree.We are, in fact, constantlytransferring data, both consciously and unconsciously, to thosewe areconnected to, and that data can instantly affect the physiology ofeveryoneinvolved.OneDepartmentofDefensestudy9 showsevenmoreclearlyhowthe

energywebroadcastimmediatelyaffectsindividualcells,eitherstressingthem(ifwebroadcast fear)oreliminating their stress (ifwebroadcastlove). In this1998experiment,cellswerescraped fromtheroofof theparticipant’smouthandtakentoanotherlocationfiftymilesaway.Theparticipant was then shown violent images on TV and registered theexpected cluster of stress-response physiological changes: galvanic skinresponse,increasedheartrate,changesinneurologicalactivity,andthelike. Fifty miles away, at the same moment the participant wasregistering symptoms of the physiological stress response, the scrapedcellsalsoregisteredthesamephysiologicalstressresponse.Next,theparticipantwasshownacalmingshowontelevision,andhis

physiologicalresponsesregisteredthiscalmingeffect.Fiftymilesaway,again at the same time, the scraped cells also showed this calmed

physiologicalresponse.Infact,theparticipant’scellscontinuedtoshowexactlythesamephysiologicalresponseastheparticipanthimselfevenwhentheexperimentscontinuedfivedaysafterbeingdetachedfromtheperson,stillfiftymilesaway.Dr. Masaru Emoto’s bestselling book, The Hidden Message of Water

(Atria,2005),andlandmarkresearchshowusthatevenwords,thoughtorspoken,canchangethemolecularstructureof frozenwatercrystals.Fear-basedwords change themolecular structure to a grotesque, dark,distortedshapeandcolor,whilelove-basedwordschangethemoleculeto a breathtakingly beautiful kaleidoscopic snowflake of light whenviewedthroughamicroscope.An Institute of HeartMath study shows that love-based thoughts or

spokenwordshaveahealingeffectonDNA,while fear-based thoughtsand words have a stressful, damaging effect. In one study, whenindividuals held a test tube with human DNA and thought positive,healing thoughts, the DNA showed the same kind of harmoniouspatternsDr.Emoto’slove-basedwordsproducedinmolecules.Similarly,whentheseindividualsthoughtnegative,destructivethoughts,theDNAbecamechaotic.10Again, our heart screen and our spiritual heart technology are not

metaphors. They are real. Fear and love data are constantly affectingyourowncellsthiswayrightnow(andthusyourphysiology,thoughts,feelings, beliefs, and external circumstances). This fear and love datacould be from your programming, your generational memories, yourown choices, and from other people you’re connected to and don’t evenknowit.Ofcourse,wheneverwestarttofeellow,wedon’tautomaticallythink,Oh,right.Threedaysago, I talked tomy friend,andshewasreallylow.That’sprobablywhyI’mfeeling low.No!Ourmindtries tocomeupwith a reasonwhywe’re feeling low, sowe can use ourwillpower toavoidpainandseekpleasure,andwelookaroundandblameourspouse,kickthedog,orhonkthehornatthecarinfrontofus.Understanding the scientific basis behind our spiritual heart

technologytakestheadage“Becarefulwhoyourfriendsare”toawholenew level!At the same time, if youdeprogramand reprogram in loveand light, and choose to live in the present moment, you can be apowerfulhealingpresencetoeveryoneyoumeet.Loveandlightalwaysovercome fear and darkness. So if you consciously only transmit and

receive love,yourenergetic fieldwillbe likeabugzapperagainstanyfear or stress frequencies coming your way. And that can haveprofoundlypositiveeffectsonothers’lives,includingyourown.Oneofmyclientshadnotspokentoherdaughterintenyears.When

shefirstcalledme,shesaid,“I’vegotaproblem,andit’smydaughter.”Ifinallyconvincedhernottoworryaboutherdaughterandtojustfocusonhealing the issue inherself.Severalmonths later,as sheworkedondeprogrammingand reprogramming, she feltherself gettingbetter andbetter.Onedayshecalledmeandwasweeping.Shesaid,“IwasdoingthedeprogrammingandreprogrammingworkthismorningandIfeltthelastlittlebitofunforgivenessandangergoaway.Iknewitwasfinally,completely healed. At that moment the doorbell rang, and it was mydaughter, weeping, standing at my door with her arms open, saying,‘Mom,I’msosorry.Willyoupleaseforgiveme?’”Our coaches,whohaveworkedwithme for twelve years, alsohave

manystorieslikethese.Youcanbecomeahealinginfluenceoneveryoneyou meet simply by deprogramming and reprogramming yourself toconstantlytransmitlove.Here’smy question:Would you like to take charge of your spiritual

heart technology and control whether you receive love or fear fromothers’ heart screens, or would you rather be at the mercy of all theanger, fear, and stress being transmitted to you every moment frompeopleallaroundyou?JustasyoucansitatthekeyboardandsetyourInternetsettingssothatyoucanchoosewhatkindofdatayourcomputerreceives and transmits, you can choose to receive and send only lovefrequencies.Thesepathwaysandconnectionsdonothavetobecreated;theyhave

existedsincewewereinutero.TheHeartScreentechniqueallowsustoconsciouslyusetheseexistingpathwaysto“tuneintolove”—loveinyou,aroundyou,inyourcellsandmemories,andineveryoneelse’scellsandmemories to whom you are connected. You can control where you“tune”yourstation.Personally, I likelisteningtoPandora.Ipickmymusicgroup,andit

findsallthemusicthatislikethatgroupwithoutmyhavingtomanuallysearch and create a playlist, or keep changing the radio station. In asimilar way, you can consciously and constantly tune in to your lovestation using pathways that are already there. Until you are

deprogrammedandreprogrammed,youmaynotbeabletodothistotheextentyouwould like.But consciously tuning in to lovewill helpyouchangethatprogramming,anditwillbesurprisinglyeasyandeffectiveafteryouhavereprogrammedusingtheprinciplesandtoolsinthisbook.Let’s take a moment to look at how “tuning into love” chemically

worksinus.Oxytocinisoftencalledthe“lovehormone.”Inadditiontobeingreleasedinourbrainwhenwefeel“inlove,”itisalsoreleasedbysex,eatingicecream,oranyenjoyableactivity.Itisquiteliterally,bothphysicallyandnonphysically,thediametricaloppositeofthefear/stressresponse.Remember,wearebuiltanddesignedtoliveinlove,notfear—living in fear is a malfunction. Nevertheless, you’re not going toengageintheseenjoyableactivitiesconstantly,anditwouldn’tbegoodforyouifyoudid.However,Dr.MargaretAltemusandDr.RebeccaTurner,inastudyon

oxytocin, found that recalling a love relationship memory can causeoxytocintobereleasedinthebrain.11Similarly,Dr.DanielAmenfoundthat recalling fear-based memories can cause the same negative, fear-basedhormonesandchemicalstobereleasedinthebrainaswhentheevent originally happened. As we mentioned in the introduction, theclinical effects of the stress/fear response and those of oxytocinwhenreleasedinthebrainincludethefollowing:12

Thesetwolistsaretheverydefinitionoffailureandsuccess,andtheultimatesourceofbothareourfear-basedandlove-basedmemories.Afear-basedmemoryturnsonthestressresponse,whichreleasescortisolinthebrain,whichresultsinallthesymptomsontheleft.Alove-basedmemorythathasbeenactivatedontheheartscreencanreleaseoxytocininthebrain,whichresults inall thesymptomsontheright.Here’sthegreat news: you get to choose which experience you have! You candecidetokeepyourfear-basedprogrammingandconstantlyturnonthestress, cortisol, and failure switch, or you can deprogram the fear,reprogramwithlove,focusonlivinginloveinthepresentmoment,and

turnonthelove,oxytocin,andsuccessswitch!Basedonmyownexperienceandwhatmyclientshavetoldmeover

thepasttwenty-fiveyears,Ibelievethatwhenwearedeprogrammedoffear and reprogrammed with love, and then choose to live in love,focusing on the present moment, we also create a steady release ofoxytocininthebrain.Afterall,myclientsreportexactlythesamekindofexperienceaftertheyaredeprogrammedandreprogrammedandputtheGreatestPrinciple intopractice: they feelas if they’re twentyyearsold again, full of energy, thinking more clearly, healthier, and morepositive.Doyourememberhowyoufeltwhenyoufellheadoverheelsinlove?

Didn’t you feel the same way: more energetic, less stressed, morevibrant,andhealthierthanever?That’swhathappenswhenoxytocinisreleased in your brain. The problem, of course, is that you fall out oflove. Ifyouareable todeprogramandreprogramyour spiritualheart,mind,andbodyandthenfocusonloveinthepresentmoment,itwouldbelikefallinginloveandneverfallingoutofloveagain.Theremaybenothingelseontheplanetthatcandothisandmakeusfeelthisway!After you deprogram and reprogram, you can take control of your

spiritual heart technology in at least twoways. First you canmake aconsciousefforttotuneintolove,choosingtoonlyexperience,receive,and send light and love. Visualize nothing but light and love on yourheart screen and visualize receiving and sending only light and love,everyhourofeveryday,justasyoulearnedtodowiththeHeartScreentool.Light/loveandfear/falsehoodis inyou,aroundyou,andinthoseenergy pathways—just like wireless data streams to and from yourcomputer,tablet,orsmartphone.Makethisspiritualhealing,cleanliness,andmaintenance part of your daily practice, like brushing your teeth.Afterall,ifyoujustgoonthewayyouhavebeen,youwillcontinuetoget and send and experience what you have been—which is usuallystress,anxiety,anger,andsadness.Ifyou’renotsurehowtobegin“tuningintolove,”thegoodnewsis

that in your heart you have a conscience, or what I call the “lovecompass”—ancient spiritual texts have referred to it as the law that iswrittenonyourheart.Close your eyes and visualize being connected to every love-based

memory inside you, including generational ones. Picture being

connectedtoallyourlovedones, friends,evenpeopleyoudon’tknow,andconstantly sendingandreceiving love fromallof them,24/7.Youdon’thavetoworryaboutfearmemorieseitherinternallyorexternallyfromothers;thelightalwayseliminatesandovercomesthedarkness,asdoes lovewith fear. You can overlay this practice onto every hour ofyour day: become “tuned in” to sending and receiving love energy,internally and externally—have it always running in the background,likebackgroundmusicwhileyouwork.If this seems “out there” to you because you can’t see it with your

physicaleyes, consider thatyouwouldprobablyneverattempt todefygravity, even though you have never seen it. Similarly, I imagine youbelievein“sound,”eventhoughyouhaveneverseenasoundwave.Youprobablyownacellphoneorsmartphone,eventhoughyoucan’tseetheincomingandoutgoingenergysignalsthatmakeitwork.Allthesethingsmimichowweaslivingbeingswork—constantlysendingandreceivingenergy.Only recently havewe been able to provemany of the thingsthatmakeyour“lovestation”work.The difference between this and a lot of other meditations and

visualizationsisthatyouarevisualizingsomethingthatisabsolutelyrealandhappeningrightnow,hasbeenhappeningallyourlife,andwillbehappeningfortherestofyourlife.It’snotmadeup.Youmightthinkofthis as “defacto” meditation, as opposed to “placebo” or “nocebo”meditation.Wehavejustrecentlybeenabletoproveandquantifymanyof these things.Your visualizing (imagining) itwithmy instructions istheonlytrulycreativeforceontheplanet.Everythingisimagedbeforeithappens. You are just, for the first time, using your image maker tocreatesomethinginternalwithyourspiritualhearttechnology.In addition to consciously tuning in to love, a second helpful

techniqueyoucanusewithyourspiritualhearttechnologyistofocusonwhatIcalla“lovepicture,”orlovememory,whichiswhatDrs.AltemusandTurnerfoundcancauseareleaseofoxytocininthebrain.Imagineamemorywhereyoufeltcompletelyandutterlyloved,andvisualizethatlovepictureonyourheartscreen.Ifyoudon’thaveanylovememories,youcancreateoneusingyourimagemaker.Aslongasitisintruthandlove,itwilltypicallyworkgreat.Wearecreatingandeditingmemoriesconstantly anyway; plus, your memory of what happened and whatreallyhappenedmaybetwoverydifferentthings.

In one sense, whether a memory is real according to externalcircumstancesornot is immaterial. It is always real (and ishappeningright now) to the spiritual heart and unconscious mind. You don’tnecessarilyhavetofigureoutifitisarealorfalsememory—justhealit,regardless. It can do similar damage to your cells and programmingeitherway.However,manyhavetroubleusingthetwospiritualhearttechnologytechniquesbecause although they try to focusona loving relationshipmemory,theyarestressedandinfearofeverythingelse.Theywantthebenefitsofthereleaseofoxytocininthebrain,butbecomeoverwhelmedas theyare floodedby theeffectsof cortisoland stress,physicallyandnonphysically—whichiswhyyouhavetodeprogramandreprogramforittohavemaximumeffect.

THECOMBINATIONTECHNIQUEUSINGALLTHREETOOLSAlthough I recommend trying each tool separately to become familiarwith how they work for you, I believe they work most effectivelytogether. With practice, you can use all Three Tools together,particularlywhenyouencounteranegativebeliefthatisblockingyoursuccessinagivensituation,inthecombinationtechniquebelow.

1.UseeitherthecompleteversionortheabbreviatedversionoftheReprogramming Statements (or both). Begin with the firstReprogrammingStatement;forexample,“Iwouldliketobelievethewhole truth and only the truth aboutwho andwhat I am,andwhoandwhatI’mnot.”

2. If you believe this statement, proceed to the next statement,continuingthroughtheReprogrammingStatementsuntilyougetto a statement you do not believe (see section onReprogrammingStatements).

3.Whenyougettoastatementyoudonotbelieve,youcanusetheHeartScreentoolandtheEnergyMedicinetoolstogethertohealthisbelief.BeginwiththeHeartScreentool.Pictureyourheartscreenas a screenwithadividing lineacross it: the topof the

screenrepresentstheconsciousmind,andthebottomrepresentstheunconscious.

4.Visualizethestatementyoudonotbelieveontheconscioussideofyourheartscreen.Youcandothisinanumberofways:youcansimplyseethewordsofthestatementonyourheartscreen,orifyou’reaparticularlyvisualthinker,anevenmorepowerfulway is to create a metaphor for the block. For example, youcouldseeyourselfassadorbruised,ananimalinpain,oratreethatneedswateringorisdiseased.Closeyoureyesandseethatonyourheartscreen.

5.Theprayeryouaskwilldependonwhatyouseeonyourheartscreen:

•Ifthewordsofthestatementareonyourheartscreen,askthefollowing: “Let the light and love [of God] be on my heartscreen,andnothingelse,sothateveryimage,feeling,thought,andbeliefishealedinmyprogramming,andIcanbereadytogive up my fear and falsehood regarding my security andacceptance, so that I can have security and acceptance [orwhateveryourtroublesomestatementis].”

•Ifametaphorfortheblockisonyourheartscreen,clarifythatyou’re using ametaphor and ask: “Let the light and love [ofGod]enterinto[me,thisanimal,thistree,thisobject,etc.],sothatevery image, feeling, thought,andbelief ishealed inmyprogramming, and I can be ready to give up my fear andfalsehoodregardingmysecurityandacceptance,sothatIcanhave security and acceptance [orwhatever your troublesomestatementis].”

• If you have trouble visualizing anything, even the words,simplyask:“Idon’tknowwhyIcan’tsaythisstatement,butIknow the reason is on my heart screen somewhere. Let thelight and love [of God] be onmy heart screen, and nothingelse,sothateveryimage,feeling,thought,andbeliefishealedinmyprogramming,andIcanbereadytogiveupmyfearand

falsehoodregardingmysecurityandacceptance,sothatIcanhave security and acceptance [orwhatever your troublesomestatementis].”

6.Relaxandobservewhat’sonyourheartscreen,whileaddingtheEnergyMedicinetool.

•Beginwiththeheartposition.Placebothhandsonyourupperchest, over yourheart,withpalmsdown.As you’re able, rubthe skin over the bone in a light, circular motion, changingdirection every ten to fifteen seconds for as long as it’scomfortable or until it’s time to switch positions. Continueobserving your heart screen regarding the statement at handforanychange.

•Continueinthispositionforonetothreeminutes(butstop,orswitchtoanotherposition,ifyounoticeahealingresponse).

•When time is up, switch to your forehead. Keep relaxing theentire time, occasionally observing your heart screen forchange.

• When time is up, switch to your crown, following the sameprocedure.

7. Repeat the three positions of the EnergyMedicine tool, whilerelaxing and observing what’s on your heart screen, until youtruly believe the statement, or for approximately two or threecycles.

8.When you can truly believe the statement that you previouslyhadnot,moveontothenextstatement,untilyoureachtheendof the Reprogramming Statements.When you truly believe thefull set of the Reprogramming Statements, you will know youhavebeenfullydeprogrammedandreprogrammedforsuccessatthesource.

OURPHYSICAL,EMOTIONAL,ANDSPIRITUALDIMENSIONSAREALLCONNECTEDEven though the Energy Medicine tool most powerfully affects yourphysiology,theReprogrammingStatementstoolmostpowerfullyaffectsyourconsciousmind(whichinturnaffectstheunconsciousmind),andthe heart screen most powerfully affects your spiritual heart (whichincludes your unconscious and subconscious mind), all Three Toolsoverlap and affect one another. Also, resetting your experience withthesetoolsisaskillyoulearnovertime,likeshootingabowandarrow.I can now reset my experience in sixty seconds, though I certainlycouldn’tdothatatfirst.Themoreyoupractice,thebetteryou’llget.AndasIsaidbefore,peoplewithcertainlearningstylesmayhaveaneasiertimewith one tool rather than another.Don’t let that discourage you,anddon’tworryabouthowlongittakes.Theresultswillbeworthit.Nowthatwe’vemade it to theendof thischapter, letmemakeonethingperfectlyclear. Ibelievethat themost important thing is topluginto God/source/love, every hour of every day, as I mentioned inchapter 3. I do this primarily through prayer. If you can do that,everythingelsewillbeokay.The second-most-important thing is livingtheGreatest Principle theory, principles, and process. It is the path tosuccess,and99percentofallpeople,inmyexperience,areonanotherpath.Sometimesyoujustneedthemaptoshowyouhowtogetontherightroad.TheleastimportantofthethingsinthisbookaretheThreeTools.Remember,youcanaccomplishtheinternaldeprogrammingandreprogrammingthatleadstotransformationinanyoneofseveralways:atransformationalahafrommeditationandprayeronprinciplesofloveandtruth,atransformationalahafromanear-deathexperience(whetherphysical or nonphysical), plugging into God/source/love (which mayhappen throughprayer),orusing tools specific to these issues, suchastheThreeTools.Havingsaid this, ifyoucan’tgetyourunconsciousandsubconsciousdeprogrammed and reprogrammed any other way, they are stillindispensable. However, I do know of several other energy medicinetechniquesthatcanproducesimilarresultstotheEnergyMedicinetoolIdescribe here, so feel free to use one of those if you are morecomfortablewithit.

NowthatyouunderstandhowtousetheseThreeTools,inPartIIII’mgoing to walk you through some basic diagnostics to help you moreeasily diagnose the source behind your success issues, so that you canapply these tools yourself to deprogram and reprogram your spiritualheart and achieve the success you want. But before we begin puttingthese tools intopractice,weneed to coveronemorepractical conceptfirst:howtosetsuccessgoalsratherthanstressgoals.

chapter5

SETSUCCESSGOALS,NOTSTRESSGOALS

The Greatest Principle is to do everything you do in love, out of aninward state reprogrammedwith love, joy, andpeace, focusingon thepresentmoment.Aswesaidback inchapter1, “everythingyoudo” isdetermined by a goal—always. The problem is that most people areunawareofwhat theirgoalsare,where theycame from,whether theyarerightorwronggoals,wherethey’retakingthem,and,ofcourse,howtochangethem.Ironically,manyofushaveverycleargoalsaboutthesmallerthingsinlife,suchaspersonalhygiene,ourclothing,andacleanhouse. I don’t mean to minimize those things, but most of us wouldprobablysaythosearen’tthemostimportantareasofourlife.I’ve worked with many people in the military (predominantly men,

but some women) and a lot of women who tend to be perfectionists.Theytendtobeextremelydisciplinedabouttheexternalissuesintheirlife: thehouse, thecar, the laundry, the lawn, theirchildren’soutwardbehavior, and even high performance in their career. Yet many timesthey strugglewith the internal issues that arenot as concrete, suchastheirrelationshipsandissuesfromtheirpast.Whenitcomestothoseareas,however,thethingswewantmorethan

anythingelse,manyofustendtoformandfollowunconsciousgoalsthatlock us into vicious cycles of health problems, financial lack, mentalpoverty, and relational strife. These vicious cycles in turn leadus intothe internal states of sadness, frustration, anxiety, despair, loneliness,andrejection—and,ultimately,failureineverythingthatmatters.Atthispoint,I’dliketoinviteyoutostopandprayormeditateforten

minutesandaskyourself:AmI intentionallydevelopingtrue,healthy,andrightgoals(intruthandlove)forthethingsthataremostimportanttome?

Thecarmaybe immaculate,buthowismyanger?Imayhavethe laundrydone—buthowaboutmyparenting?Nowthatyouknowthatourinternalstatedrivesourexternalcircumstances,youunderstandhowimportantit is to setgoals forour internal state rather than runonunconscious,oftenunhelpful,programming.(Again,you’lllearnhowtodiagnoseandhealyourowninternalprogrammingwhenweputtheGreatestPrincipleintoactioninPartIII.)Whetherit’sparentingordealingwithangeroranyotherarea,ifyourealizethatyourgoalshaven’treflectedwhat’s trulymost important toyou,thischapterwillhelpyousetthegoalsthatwillleadtothesuccessthat’sbestforyou,bothinternallyandexternally.Butevenifyoudohaveveryclearandintentionalgoalsforthemostimportantareasinlife,manypeoplestilltendtobefocusedonexternalcircumstances achieved by willpower, which severely and inherentlysabotages their chances of ever achieving that goal. Or you reach thegoalandarestillnothappyandfulfilledlongterm.Sohere’sthemillion-dollarquestion:Howdowesetthekindsofgoalsthatleadustosuccess,ratherthansabotageus?Foroneofmyclients,thiswasquiteliterallyamillion-dollarquestion.Severalyearsago,agentlemancametometohealsomehealthissuesinhislife.Aftertheywerehealed,hecontactedmeagaintoaskifIcouldhelphimwithanotherproblem.Hesaid,“Hey,Doc. I’vehadasuccessgoal for the last tenyears that I’veneverbeenable toachieve. I don’tevenknowifyoudothingslikethat,butisthereanychanceyoucouldhelpmewithit?”Iaskedhimtoelaborate.Hewentontotellmethathewasoneofthelargestcontractorsinarathersmalltown.Hisgoalfortenyears had been to make a million dollars in one year. Not a milliondollars gross for the company—amillion dollars in his pocket.And inthattenyears,themosthe’devermadewasabouthalfthat.Stillagreatdeal of money, but instead of being satisfied and enjoying it, he wasconstantlyfrustratedthathewasn’treachinghisgoal.This gentleman had what you might call a type A, hard-drivingpersonality. He pushed and pushed and pushed everybody andeverything.Heworkedeightyhoursaweekandrequiredhisemployeestoworklonghoursaswell,frequentlynotpayingthemforovertime.Hewasknowntobesharpandcausticwithhistongue,andhecutcorners,so he did not have the best reputation in the contracting community.

Everyrelationshiphehadwasonedge,andhishealthhadbeengettingworseforyears,whichwashisoriginalreasonforcomingtome.Somynext question for himwas “Tellme about how you see yourgoalofmakingamilliondollarsinayear.Describeitforme.Whatdoyoudowiththemoney?Whatdoesitchangeinyourlife?”Hehadnoproblemdoing that.Hehadbeen lookingat that “movie”onhisheartscreeneverydayforthelastdecade.Hetoldmethathewantedtobuythemansiononthetopofthehillthatyoucouldseefromallovertown.Yes,hewantedanewredsportscar,too.Thentherewastheluxuriousgolfingvacation,andalltheotherusualtoys.When Iaskedhimwhyhewanted thehouseon thehilland theredsportscar,hetoldmeitwassothateverybodyintownwouldseehowsuccessfulhewasandenvyhim.Iknewthattheproblemwasn’tthegoalperse,butwhyhehadsetthisgoal.ItoldhimIcouldhelphim,butinorderformetodoso,wewouldhavetodosomesurgeryonhisgoals.Hereluctantlyagreed.Itwas fine forhim towant tomakeamilliondollars in ayear, butthat partwould change to a “desire,” not his “goal.” (We’ll talkmoreaboutthatdifferencelater.)Ifhemadethemilliondollars,hecouldbuyanewhouse,butnotthehouseonthetopofthehill.Hecouldgetanewcar, but not the red sports car. (Not that there’s anythingwrongwitheither of those per se—the problem was why he wanted them. Forsomeoneelse,theymaybetotallyappropriate.)Wechangedthegolfingvacationtoafamilyvacation.Weeliminatedsomeofthetoys.Weaddedgivingsomeofthemoneytothelessfortunate.Weaddedspendingsomeof his time and expertise personally working on a building serviceproject, where he could give back to those less fortunate.We cut hishours toamaximumof fiftyaweek.Wenotonlycut thehoursofhisemployees,butwegavethemallaraiseandbetterbenefits.Wecreatedtimeforexercise,meditation,longwalks,ahealthierlifestyle,andmorefamilytimethanhethoughthecouldstand…yougettheidea.His goal got a total overhaul. When it was all said and done, hissuccessdesire(nothissuccessgoal,aswe’lldefinelater)wastomakeamillion dollars the next year, but to use themoney for good, healthy,balancedthings—inotherwords,“inlove.”Hissuccessgoalwastofocusonthepresentmomentinlove,doingwhatneededtobedonetoachievehis desire, but constantly giving up the million-dollar result to love/

source/God.Todothishehadtodeprogramandreprogramhisinternalissuesfirst.Thenhewouldbecapableofcarryingoutthegoal,walkinginthedirectionofhisdesire.When I left him, he had just started deprogramming and

reprogramming and was absolutely kicking and screaming. His exactwordswere“Thisisnevergoingtowork.IfIhadn’tjusthadmyhealthissueshealed,Iwouldthinkthatyouwereoutofyourmind.”Igotacallfromthecontractoraboutayearandahalflater.Iliterally

didn’t recognize his otherwise very distinct voice until he identifiedhimself.Hisfirstwordswere“Hey,Doc,rememberme?Thestressed-outcontractorwhothoughtyouwerecrazy?”I’doftenwonderedwhathadhappened with him and had prayed for him several times. He wascertainlyathighriskfortrashingthewholeprogramandgoingbacktohis previous lifestyle. Here’s what he said: “Well, Doc—I did exactlywhatwe agreed on, and I did notmake amillion dollars in that nextyear.Imadeoveramillionandahalf.AndI’montrackthisyeartomakeeven more than that. To this day, I still don’t have a clue how ithappened—itwas likemagic. Itwas theeasiestyearofwork I’ve everhadinmylife.”Hewentontotellmethatvirtuallyeverythinginhislifehadchanged.

He was healthy and happy, his relationships were wonderful, and hisreputationaroundtownhadtotallyreversed.Henowhadawaitinglistofpeoplewantinghimtodoworkforthembecausehedidthebestworkin town, he had loweredhis prices, andhe no longer cut corners.Hisemployeeslovedhimandwouldneverwanttoworkanywhereelse,andthewholeofficewas fullof joy,peace,andacamaraderie thatnoonehadeverexperiencedbeforeworkingthere.Whenthecontractordeprogrammed,reprogrammed,andlearnedhow

to change his stress goals to success goals, his desired externalcircumstance cameeasily. I could fill several volumeswith stories likethese. The results are incredibly predictable. People who develop andactualize success goals, from the inspiration of the inward state they“really” want most, instead of the external circumstance they “think”theywantmost,alwayssucceed.Always.Peoplewhodon’t,fail.Always.

THEDIFFERENCEBETWEENGOALSANDDESIRES

So let’s get into some practical detail about how the contractor wentfrom failure to success so quickly—andmost important, how you can,too.Asyou’veprobablyguessed,ithaseverythingtodowiththekindofgoals you set. It’s time to pull back the veil and explain exactlywhatdetermineswhetheryouhaveasuccessgoalorastressgoal.

DefiningDesire

First we’ll start with defining a few terms. The first term is desire (or“hope”).Adesirethatresultsinsuccessmeetsfourcriteria:

1.Ithastobeintruth.

2.Ithastobeinlove.

3. Ithas tobe inharmonywithyourultimate successgoal (fromchapter1).

4.Itistypicallyinthefuture.

We’vealreadymentionedthefirsttwocomponents,truthandlove,inthecontextofbelief:ifsomethingistoworkinthelongterm,itmustbedone in truthand in love.Butnowit’s timetogetspecificaboutwhattruthandlovereallymean.1. The truth refers to the objective facts of the situation: requiredresources, needs, abilities, the marketplace, financial issues, time—essentially every objective fact relevant to achieving the desire, bothcircumstantially and externally. This is the “what” of the desire. Forexample, let’s say a seventy-two-year-old gentleman toldme he had adesiretobeastartingquarterbackintheNFL.Iwouldhavetoaskhimifthis desire is in truth—in other words, is it in harmony with theobjectivefactsofthesituation?2.Whethersomethingisdoneinlovereferstothesubjectivefactsofthesituation.Itisthe“why”ofthedesire.Whyisthisyourdesireinthefirstplace?Whoareyoudoingitfor?Whatistheinspirationandmotivationbehindit?Ifit’spredominantlyselfishandsomeoneislikelyto“lose”ortobeharmedinsomeway,yourdesiredoesn’tmeetthe“love”criteria.

ThedesiretobeanNFLquarterbackatageseventy-twocouldbebasedinlove,justmostlikelynotintruth.Ontheotherhand,thecontractor’soriginal desire for a million dollars was based in truth (i.e., it wasobjectivelyachievable,givenhiscurrentcircumstances),butnotinlove,as we determined from discovering how he wanted to spend it. Thatmeansneitherdesiremeetsourdefinitionofasuccessdesire,andbothwould have to be revised in some way. The contractor, for instance,revisedhis desirebydeciding to spendhis timeandmoney caring forothers and giving to those less fortunate, and thusmet the criteria oflove.Onemore thing about desires: theymust be in harmony with your

ultimatesuccessgoal.Takeamoment to remindyourselfof the internalstate you answered for question 3 back in chapter 1 (if you receivedwhat you wanted most and the circumstances that would result, howwouldyoufeel?).Thatinternalfeelingorstateisyourultimatesuccessgoal. It may have been peace, love, joy, safety, or any other positiveinternalstate.It’swhyyoudoanythingandeverythingthatyoudo—soit’s obviously counterproductive to have a desire that violates thatultimateinternalsuccessgoal,feeling,andstate.I lovegoing to thebeach. It’s avery spiritual,healingplace forme.

Let’sthinkofgoingtothebeachasmydesire,andthepeaceIfeelthereasmyultimatesuccessgoal.Now,toactuallygettothebeach,Ineedtogetspecific:WhichbeachamIgoingto?HowamIgoingtogetthere?What do I need to pack to enjoy it? At the same time, I need to becarefulthatthespecificsofgettingtheredon’tviolatewhatI’vedefinedasmyultimatesuccessgoal: thepeace thatcomes fromlove. If Idon’tleave myself enough time to pack for the trip and find I’m rushingaroundlikeacrazypersonthemorningIleave,thenthewayI’mgoingto thebeach is,at leastpartially,negating thewholepointofgoing tothebeachinthefirstplace.ThesamethingistrueifIfindoutmynieceisgettingmarriedatthesametimeI’veplannedmytripandmyabsenceat theweddingwouldcauseagreatdealofpersonaland familystress.That’s not to say I need to scrap the whole trip, but I do need toreevaluateandmakesomepracticalchangesinmyplan,sothattheplanremainsinpeaceandlove,consistentwithmyultimatesuccessgoalbothnowandinthefuture.Here’s a more practical example. Let’s say a middle-aged father’s

ultimate success goal is peace as well, and his success desire is to goback to school andpursue an engineeringdegree.Hehas applied to aprestigious engineering program within commuting distance from hishome,andhediscovershehasbeenaccepted.He’secstatic!Ashebeginsclassestowardhisdegree,however,herealizesthatpursuingthisdesireis fundamentally taking him away from his ultimate success goal ofpeace as it relates to his family:He’s experiencing personal stress andpressurefromhisfamilyatbeingoverscheduled.Thisstressisasignthatheneedstoreevaluate.Maybeheneedstodosomeinternalworktodealwith the source of the stress. Maybe he needs to consider a differentdegreeprogram.Ormaybehedoesneedtodropoutofschoolentirely.Thepointisthatwemustneversacrificeourultimatesuccessgoal(theinternal state of love) for a success desire (the end-result externalcircumstance).Finally, adesire is typically for something thathasn’t happenedyet.

Another word for desire could be hope. It’s something we desireinternally,webelievein,wewouldliketohavehappen,weareworkingtoward,butwedon’tknowif itwillhappen for sure.Adesiresets thedirectionthatwewalkin.Also,thecriticalthingaboutsettingadesireisthatweabsolutelymustgiveupallexpectationsofreceivingitfromthestart,andeverystepalongtheway.YoumustsurrendertheendresulttoGod/source/love,ortothegoodnessofotherpeople—howeveryouneedtothinkaboutittogiveitupcompletely.

DefiningGoal

Nowlet’sdefineagoal.Agoal,ifitistoleadyoutosuccess,hastohaveallfourofthefollowingcomponents:

1.Ithastobeintruth.

2.Ithastobeinlove.

3.Ithastobe100percentunderyourcontrol.

4.Itisdoneinthepresentmoment.

If it meets all four of these criteria, you have a success goal. Thatmeansitwillworkinthelongtermandleadyoutosuccesseverytimeifyoustaythecourseandhavedeprogrammedandreprogrammedfirstsothatyoucandoit.Whatprimarilydistinguishesagoalfromadesireisnumber3,thatitmust be 100 percent under your control—not 99 percent, not “mostlikely,”buttotallyunderyourcontrol.Inotherwords,youcandoitnow,oratleastforthenextthirtyminutes.Iftruthisthe“what”andloveisthe “why,” your control is the “how” of the goal. No exceptions. Thiscomponentobviouslylimitswhatcanbeconsideredasuccessgoal,butitmakesallthedifference.This is also thepartwheremost peoplehave a problem.People areusuallyfinewithtruthandlove,butwhenItellthemitneedstobe100percent under their control, they typically get a funny expression ontheir face, akin to disappointment or frustration. For instance, thecontractor’sgoalofmakingamilliondollarspersonallyfromhisbusinesswas not 100percent under his control—so that could not be his goal.Same with the seventy-two-year-old’s goal of becoming an NFLquarterback.Also,whenwesay“100percentunderyourcontrol,”we’retalking about healthy control, not unhealthy control.We talked aboutunhealthycontrolbrieflyinthelastchapter:unhealthycontrolisseekinga result that’s not 100 percent under your control, and that is not intruthandlove.WheneverIhavesomeonequestionthenotionthatusingwillpowertopursue external expectations is counterproductive—usuallybecause theoppositehasbeensopopularforsolongandseemsnatural—hereishowI explain it. I tell them that another way to define pursuing externalexpectations(i.e.,pursuingsomethingasagoalthat isnot100percentunder your control) solely with willpower is unhealthy control andworry. For example, over the years I have had clients say that theirexternal expectations are totally, completely, 100 percent positive—withoutatraceofnegativethoughts,feelings,orbeliefs.Ithenaskthemhowtheywouldfeel,think,orbelieveifthoseexpectationsdidnotturnoutthewaytheyhopedtheywould.Theytendtohaveapuzzledlookontheirface,andthentheytellmethatitwouldfeelterrible.Thisreactionislikelybecausetheyhavebeencountingonthatendresultanddonotbelieve theywillbeokaywithanyother result, typicallybecause they

thinkiftheycompletelybelieve,itwillhappen.Soeveniftheywere100percentpositiveintheirconsciousthinking,feeling,andbelieving,theirunconsciousandsubconsciouswerenot.The number one job of the unconscious, remember, is to protect usfrom harm—not to produce the positive. So they were in internalconflict: theywere positive consciously, but at least partially negativeunconsciously. This internal disharmony creates stress, and remember,when the unconscious and conscious “disagree” over an issue, theunconsciousalwayswins.Theother factor isunhealthycontrol.Tryingtoforceormanipulateanexternalcircumstantialresultthatisnotunderyour complete control is oneof themost stressful things you can everdo,andmostofuscannotkeepituptoreachthedesiredresult.Evenifwedoforcetheendresult,wewilltypicallynotbehappy,content,andfulfilledlongterm.It’s true that great results come from belief—but not from just anybelief.Allgreatresultscomefrombelieving the truth.Healthycontrol isalways based in love and truth. Healthy control is, quite simply, theright thing to do, the loving thing to do, and the best thing to do.Unhealthycontrol,ontheotherhand,willkilltheresultyou’retryingtoachieve,asitisalwaysfearbased—andallfearcomesfrombelievingalie. Worry (stress) and unhealthy control (the opposite of results-producingbelief)aresimplyalternativewaysofdescribingexpectationsandwillpower.Worryequalsexpectations,andunhealthycontrolequalswillpoweralone.Expectationsandwillpowerputusindisharmonywithourselvesandinchronicstress—whetherweareconsciouslyawareofitornot.So a goal needs to be 100 percent under your healthy control. Ifsomething is under your healthy control, you can do it in the presentmoment, right now. Also, you can easily tell the difference betweenhealthycontrol andunhealthycontrolby their results.Healthycontrolusually produces peace and joy, while unhealthy control producesanxiety and stress. One of the wonderful side effects of this SuccessBlueprintistheeliminationofanxietyfromyourlife.What if you’ve set a goal that doesn’t meet one or more of thepreceding criteria? Perhaps it’s not in harmonywith the truth. Itmaynotbebasedin love.Or itmaynotbe100percentunderyourcontrol(like themajority of goals set bymost people). Thenyouhavewhat I

callastressgoal, andput simply,youneed tochangeyourgoal.Why?HavingastressgoalisthefastestwayIknowtoensurefailure.Evenifithappens to be in truth and love (but not under your control), a stressgoal will create expectations that in turn kill results and createunhappiness—theoppositeofsuccess.Here’s the easiestway to tell if you’ve set a stress goal or a success

goal:ifyouareexperiencinganxiety,anger,oranyemotionintheangerfamily(irritation,frustration,etc.),youlikelyhavesetastressgoalandhave somemorework to dowith deprogramming and reprogrammingyourselftoliveinlove.Stressisthedirectphysicalsymptomoffear,andanxiety is the direct nonphysical symptom of fear. Anxiety is theprecursorofanger,oranyemotionintheangerfamily.Somepeoplearevery aware of experiencing anger (and won’t admit they areexperiencing anxiety), while others are very aware of experiencinganxiety(andwon’tadmittheyareexperiencinganger).Thepointisthatifyouexperienceeitherone,theyarebothsignsofastressgoal.Anxiety(oranger,whichissimplyadvancedanxiety)leadsdirectlyto

failure,asfollows:

•Anyformofanxietyorangerindicatesyouhaveastressgoalthatiscurrentlybeingblocked.

•Astressgoalindicatesyouareabouttoexperienceanxiety,fear,worry, sadness, unforgiveness, self-worth issues, guilt, shame,andfear-basedthoughtsandbeliefs(ifyouhaven’talready).

•Negativethoughts, feelings,orbeliefsaboutyourcircumstancesindicateyouhaveacomparisonissue.

•Acomparisonissueindicatesyouhaveanexpectationissue.

• An expectation issue indicates you are using willpower to getwhatyouwant.

• Trying to control your circumstances with willpower indicatesyouare in stress,whichwillultimately lead toyour failure (inotherwords,notbeinghealthyandhappy,andnotbeinginthe

uniquelyperfectexternalcircumstancesforyou).

•Failureindicatesyouhaveastressgoal.

Ontheotherhand,ifyouareexperiencingjoyandpeaceregardlessofyour circumstances, you likely have set a success goal (consciously orunconsciously) and have been successfully deprogrammed andreprogrammed to live in love.Of course, evenwith success goals, youwill experience disappointment when things don’t always go the wayyou would prefer. The difference is that you bounce back from thedisappointmentquicklyanddonoteverfallintodespair.Throughitall,youexperienceadeep,abiding joy,peace,contentment,gratitude,andfulfillment,whatevercircumstancesorsetbacksyouface.At thispointyoumaystillbethinking,Sowhat’s thebigdealabouta

littlestress?Stresssharpensmymind,makesmepayattention,andgetsmeoffmyrearendtogetthingsdone.Iftheevidencepresentedthusfarabouthow stress leads to failure hasn’t convinced you yet, consider this:Second only to the number of scientific studies done proving thenegativeeffectsofstressisthenumberdoneprovingthenegativeeffectsof instant gratification. PredatingDr.Gilbert’s andDr. Lipton’s studiesby fifty years, multiple double-blind tests have shown that pursuinginstantgratification(versusdelayedgratification)consistentlyproducesnegative results in every area of life, includinghappiness, health, howmuchmoney youmake—even your SAT scores. Instant gratification isitselfbased inourpain/pleasure response,whichmeanswhenyouareseeking instant gratification, you are choosing fear instead of love inresponsetopain.Stress goals arealways based on instant gratification, just as success

goals always require us to delay gratification. In fact, delayedgratification is the essence of giving up the end result toGod/source/love,andchoosingloveinthepresent—whichisexactlywhatI’vebeensaying is the key to success. Anything in opposition to this virtuallyensures failure. The research on instant versus delayed gratificationproves this exact thing. Everything in your life leads to success if youcanappropriatelydelaygratification, andeverything leads to failure ifyouchooseinstantgratification(unlessitistherightandbestthingforeveryone in that instance).However, thedelayedgratificationneeds to

happeneasilyandnaturally,notforcedbywillpower.Whenit’sforced,itcausesmorestress.Asyoucanprobablyguess,toensureitwillnotbeforcedyouneedtodeprogramandreprogram,asyoulearnedinchapter4.

TURNINGYOURSTRESSGOALSINTODESIRESYoucan,however,takeallthestressoutofyourstressgoalsbysimplychangingthemtohealthydesires.Thedifferencebetweenthetwoisthedifferencebetweenlong-termsuccessandinevitablefailure.Let’ssaythere’sabigsnowstormandyouneedtowalktothegrocery

store, about a mile and a half away, to get some milk. The snow isalready drifting, and between you and the store is a patch of woodsriddledwithtreerootsandalotofhiddenhazardsyouprobablywon’tsee until you’re right on top of them. But you know that the grocerystore is rightnext toa tall radioantennayoucan seeabove the trees,evenfromyourhouse.Sohere’sthequestion:Doyouwalktowardthestorelookingupatthe

radiotowerthewholeway?No!Youmaylookupatitoccasionally,butifyouwanttoactuallygettothestore,you’reprimarilyfocusedonyournextstep—otherwiseyou’dtwistyourankleorfall inaholeandneverget to the store at all. If you look constantly at the end result, you’llnevergetthere.Believeme,whenyou’reworkingtowardyoursuccessgoals,thereare

many potholes and tree roots along the way. For the most importantthingsinlife,thepathisrarelystraightandclear,andsometimesit’snotevenvisible.Yettheexpertsaretellingyoutofocusontheradiotower—visualizeit,feelit,tasteit,nevertakeyoureyesofftheradiotower—oryou may not get there. As a result of their advice, the landscape islittered with bodies of people who have tripped over tree roots andfallendownholesandnevermadeittowheretheyweregoing,becausetheyweren’tpayingattentiontothenextstep.The radio tower is your desire; it is not your goal. Your goal is to

successfully take the next step, because you know that if you alwayssuccessfullymakethenextstep,oneaftertheother,there’sareallygoodchance you’ll reach your desire. Now you do keep the radio tower in

mind,andyouglanceatitfromtimetotime—itsetsyourdirection.Butlet’s say you get halfway there and you’re cold, you’re tired, you’rehungry,andyouwanttogohome.Aboutthattime,youpassoneofyourneighbors.Heaskswhereyou’regoing,andyoutellhimyou’regoingtothegrocerystoretogetsomemilk.“Oh,”hesays.“Youdon’tneedtogoallthewaytothegrocerystore.There’saconveniencestorejustafewyards from here that still has milk.” You hadn’t known about theconvenience store.Whatwould you do? You’d change yourmind, saythankyouverymuch,buyyourmilkat theconveniencestore,andgethome inhalf the time!That’swhat itmeans togiveup theendresult:evenaswefocusonsuccessfullytakingthenextsteptowardthedesirewe’ve set, we remain open to changing our desire if we determineanotherdirectionwouldbebestforus.Wejusthavetoadmitwedon’tknow enough about the future to know ifwe’ll continue towant thatparticularendresult.Plus,anendresultwemightimagineastheworstthingthatcouldeverhappentousmayturnouttobethebestthingforusinthelongrun.Ican’tthinkofanybetterexamplethanwhenHopekickedmeoutof

thehouseafterthreeyearsofmarriage.Ithoughtitwastheendofmylife! But as you know, this incident turned out to be the single mostpositive turning point inmy life. It led to a transformationalaha thatinstantlyreprogrammedme.Itledtomydiscoveringmylife’sworkandis likely the linchpin for any success I experience today. In fact, thesuccess I’mexperiencingtodayis farbeyondwhatIhadever imaginedformylifetwenty-fiveyearsago.IfIhadfocusedonaspecificendresultformycareerback then (whicha lotofpeoplewerepressuringme todo), IwouldneverhaveendedupwhereIamnow,becausewhatIdonowdidn’tevenexistbackthen!I’mnottheonlyonetohavehadanexperiencelikethis.WhenIspeak

to large groups, I often ask them, “How many of you have everexperienced something that seemed really bad in the moment, butmonthsoryearslater,yourealizeditwasreallygood,orevenoneofthebest things that ever happened to you?” Invariably almost everyoneraisestheirhand.WhatIseemostoftenarepeopleshootingfartoolowforthemselvesin

life.Theyareaiming formoney (thatmilliondollars),orapromotion,without the accompanying love, joy, peace, intimate, fulfilling

relationships, and internal happiness. We talked about this back inchapter1:whenyousetanendresultasagoal,evenifyouachieveit,you often end up evenmoremiserable than youwere before, becauseyouthenrealizeitcan’teversatisfyyouinternally.The bottom line is that we can’t always count on our rational,

consciousthinkingtodeterminethebestendresultsforus—andourpastexperienceprovesit.Thebestthingwecandoistosuccessfullyliveinthepresentmomentinloveandtruth,inwhateverwe’redoing.If you ever get to the point where you can successfully live in the

presentmoment in loveand truthnearlyall the time, Iguarantee thatyouwillfeelandbelievethatyouareoutrageouslysuccessful,andmostlikelyyouwillneverwant to tradeplaceswithanyone.As clichéas itsounds, this program is really about having it all. Internal love, joy,peace, and happiness and external success in health, finances, career,andrelationships.FollowingthisprogramistheonlywayI’vefoundtodo it, with the caveat of also being in right relationship with God/source/love,aboveall(forme).We most naturally shift our stress goals into desires when we love

someone.Let’ssayyouandsomeoneyoutrulylovewithallyourheartbothwant todosomething inparticular today.Whentheotherpersontellsyouwhatheorshewouldliketodo,andyouseethesparkleintheother’seyes,younaturallysacrificewhatyouwantinordertodowhatheorshewantswanttodo—eventhoughyoustillwantwhatyouwant.Ifyoulovethispersonwithanagapelove(noteros,asweexplainedintheintroduction),youdon’tsacrificewhatyouwantoutofbitternessorduty.Lovechangesyourhave-totoawant-to.Lovesupersedeswhatyouwant.Whatyouwant is adesire—notagoal andnotaneed. Inotherwords, if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t affect your sense of identity,security,orsignificance.Thistransitioncanbeverydifficult,becausewearesousedtotheend

resultbeingeverything.That’swhyyouhaditasagoalinthefirstplace,right? It’sallaboutresults.AsVinceLombardisaid,“Winning isn’t themain thing, it’s theonly thing.”Fordecades, Iheard thisquote justasit’swritten,ashaveyouprobably,inordertomakethepointthatresultsare all thatmatter. I recently sawadocumentary about Lombardi andabsolutely jumped up and down and “woo-hooed”when I heard themmentionthatquote.1Apparently,Lombardisaidthatthequoteandthe

way ithadbeen interpretedhadcausedhimgreat sadness,becauseheneverintendeditthatway.Hisdefinitionofwinning—whichiswhathetold his players all the time—was to leave the field having done theirabsolutebest. Ithadnothing todowith the final score.SoevenVinceLombardi definedwinning based on the process, not the end result. Infact,theprocessbecomestheendresult.

YOURULTIMATESUCCESSGOALandYOURSPECIFICSUCCESSGOALSWehavedefinedasuccessgoalasfollows:itmustbebasedintruthandinlove,anditmustbe100percentunderyourcontrol,whichthereforemeans it’s almost always performed in the presentmoment. A successgoalisthenextsteptowardourdesire;itdeterminesthewhat,how,andwhyofwhatyoudo,whileyourdesireistheradiotower—itdeterminesthedirectioninwhichyouwalk.Backinchapter1,wesetourultimatesuccessgoal,ortheinternalstatewewantmost.Butweneedmorethanjustourultimate successgoal togo through thedaily tasksof life.Weneedspecificsuccessgoalsthattellusmorepreciselywhatwedo,howwedo it, and why we do it for each present moment, and that we areempoweredtodowithoutdependingonwillpower.When it comes to setting specific success goals, the hardest part isfinding something that’s 100 percent under your healthy control. Thiscomponent is where so many well-intentioned people get tripped up.How exactly do you exercise healthy control as part of your SuccessBlueprint? The simplest way I have found is this: in any and everysituation, your goal is to do everything you do in an inward state oftruthandloveforthenextthirtyminutes.That’sright—it’stheGreatestPrinciple.Itwillresultinhealthycontroleverysingletime.Anditevenfitstherequirementofbeing100percentunderyourcontrol,onceyouuse thedeprogrammingand reprogramming tools,becausenooneelsecancontrolyourinternalstateexceptyou.Practicallyspeaking,yourdesirewillhelpyoudeterminewhatyoudofor the next thirty minutes or so (your direction), but the GreatestPrinciplewillalwaystellyouhowandwhytodoit:inlove,focusingonthepresentmoment,andgivinguptheendresult.Infact,the“what”is

nolongeryournumberonegoal;it’sthe“how”andthe“why.”It’stheprocess, not the end result—because your internal reality alwaysdeterminesyourexternalresults.However, you may notice a slight difference in the wording of theGreatestPrinciplehere.Firstofall,we’venowadded“truth”inadditionto love. Truth is very closely related to love, but now that we’veexplained the particular importance of living in accordance with thetruthinPartI,hopefullythedistinctionwillbeallthemoremeaningful,especially as you work through the Success Blueprint in chapter 7.Second,whenIwouldsimplyadvisepeopleto“dowhateveryoudointruthandlove,focusingonthepresentmoment,”Inoticedmanywouldstrugglewithputting this intopractice. Ifyou thinkabout it,what I’masking themtodo is to live in loveeverymoment for the restof theirlife. Not surprisingly, that felt overwhelming to some people,particularlyiftheyhadalreadytriedlivinginloveunsuccessfullyinthepast, and it became another stressor in their life. But once I begansuggestingtheyliveinloveforjustthenextthirtyminutes,mostpeoplefoundthatmoredoable.Theymaynotbeabletodo“forever,”buttheycouldgiveitatryforthenextthirtyminutes.Tobehonest,ifsomethingisparticularlypressuringme,sometimesIcan’tevendothirtyminutes.Isaytomyself,Forgetthirtyminutes.CanIdowhateverI’mdoinginloveforthenextfiveminutes?Icanusuallydofiveminutesatatime,evenunderextremepressure.Now that we’ve explained the practical concepts behind how theGreatestPrincipleworks—specifically,how touse theThreeToolsandhowtosetsuccessgoalsratherthanstressgoals—we’rereadytoputtheGreatestPrincipleintoaction,whichwe’lldostepbystepinPartIII.

chapter6

BASICDIAGNOSTICS:IDENTIFYANDHEALTHESOURCEOFYOUR

SUCCESSISSUES

Okay—we’vefinallyreachedtheplacewherewecanstartputtingitalltogether.AsIbeginthischapter,IhaveadrumrollgoinginmyheadandheartbecauseI’vebeenwaitingforabouttwenty-fiveyearstosharethisprocess publicly—andonly in thepast couple yearshave I hadall thepiecescometogethertomakeitcomplete,sothatIcould.Decadesago Iknew living in love in thepresentmoment (outofan

inwardstate thathasbeenreprogrammed in love, joy,andpeace)wasthekey to success.And longbefore I camearound,manyhave taughtthesamething,includingreligiousteachers,counselors,self-helpgurus,andothermotivationalexperts.IknowI’vesaidthisbefore,butIneedtosay it again: the problem isn’t that we don’t know what to do. Theproblem is that over 99 percent of people cannot do it, based on thetypical success blueprintwe’ve all heard, namely (1) focus on the endresult youwant; (2) create a plan to get that end result; (3) use yourwillpowerandpersonalefforttoworkthatplanuntilyoureceivewhatyouwant.Onlyrelativelyrecentlyhasscienceshownuswhythisblueprintleads

us to failure rather than success through the research of Drs. Lipton,Gilbert, Tiller, Weil, Sarno, and others. Unless your spiritual heart isalready programmed for success, trying to go against your spiritualheart’s programming with willpower alone is a million-to-one shot,because the spiritual heart (or what Dr. Lipton calls the subconsciousmind) is amillion timesmore powerful than the consciousmind. The

problemisthatmostofushavehumanhard-drivevirusesprogrammingusforfailure,basedoninternalfearmemories.Theunseenisalwaystheparentoftheseen.Expectations(afocusonendresults)areahappinesskiller.Ourwillpoweralonewillnevergetusthelifewedesire.Iknowmanyofyouhavebeentryingtouseyourwillpowertoliveinloveinthepresentmomentforalongtime,andyou’veprobablybeatenyourselfupbecauseyouhaven’tbeenabletodoit.Someofyoupretendtodo itexternally,but internallyyouareamess.Perhapsyouthoughtyour problem was too big, or that you were doing something wrong.Perhaps you’vewondered, as you compared yourself to other people’s(apparent) success, whether something is wrong with you, since youhaven’tbeenabletodowhatyouknowyouneedtodo.That’scertainlyhowIfeltbeforeIexperiencedmytransformationalahaandIfoundtheThreeTools.BasedontheamazingsuccessstoriesIreadandtheadviceIheard,I justassumedtherewassomethingwrongwithmeif Icouldn’tdo it, too. Letme say this clearly: IT ISNOTYOU! Please understandthat. Let the guilt and shame fall away. It was never you. You’ve justbeentryingtodosomethingthathasvirtuallybeen impossible foryouwithyourcurrentprogramming.My sons are seven years apart. My oldest son, Harry, could alwaysclimb anything: he could climb trees, he could climb a pole, he couldclimbahangingrope.Whenwe’dvisitbuildings,he’devenshimmyupthebigcolumns!We’dwonderwherehewent,andtherehe’dbe,upinthe air. Everyone around would be amazed, saying, “How did he dothat?”Otherkidshisagecouldn’tdothat.Now,ofcourse,George,whowas sevenyearsyounger,wouldwatchhisbrotherand think, I candothat!In our backyard was a tall, straight sycamore tree that didn’t havemany lowbranches.Harrywould jumpupon that treeandsquirmhiswayslowlyupuntilhegottothefirstbranch,andbeforeyou’dknowit,hewasatthetop.Oneday,whenHarrywastwelve,hewassittingatthetop of that sycamore tree and saw George at the bottom. He yelled,“George,comeonup!”—knowingfullwellhecouldn’tcomeup.Sofive-year-oldGeorgesaidexcitedly,“Dad,I’mgoingtoclimbthetree,okay?”Itriedtoreasonwithhim.“George,youmaynotbeabletoclimbthattree. Harry’s bigger and stronger than you. There aren’t any lowbranches.You’renotgoingtobeabletodoit.”Heinsistedhecould.So

finally I just took a step back and said, “Okay, go ahead, son.” Andinevitably,whenhegotstuckaboutsevenfeetupthetrunk,stilloutofreachofthefirstbranch,Ihadtohelphimcomedown.We’re like thata lotof times.We seeotherpeopleat the topof thetree,sotospeak—orat least,wethinktheyare.Sowesay,“I’mgoingupthere,too!”Werunupandtrytodothesamethingwithexpectationsandwillpower.Butwhatendsuphappening is that theyusuallyaren’treallyatthetopofthetreelikewethoughttheywere;itjustlookedthatway fromourperspectiveon theground.Ormaybe theyhada ladder,therighttool.Ormaybetheywanteveryonetothinkthey’reatthetop,when they really aren’t.Ormaybe they really are at the topbut havecompletelydifferentprogrammingthanyoudo.Asforus,gettingtothetopofthattreewithoutsomeadditionalhelpjustisn’tgoingtohappen.Wemaybeacting like five-year-oldswhenweset theseexpectationsandtrytousewillpowertoachievethem.But just likea lovingparentwould have compassion and understanding for a child who acts inaccordancewithwhatthechildthoughtwasrightatthetime,we,too,shouldhavecompassionwithourselves.Wejustdidn’tknow—wedidn’thaveall the facts. It’s just likewhenweallbelieved theearthwas thecenter of the universe, or believed that the world was flat, or didn’tknowwehadall these invisible organismsonourhands calledgerms.Thisbook isofferingyounew technology toapply theknowledge thathasalwaysbeentrue,forwhichwe’veonlyrecentlydiscoveredscientificevidence.Thebottomlineisthattohavethesuccesswedesire,weeitherhaveto be that one in a million who can overcome subconsciousprogramming with conscious willpower; or we need supernatural,miraculous help; orwe need an entirely new blueprint and tools. I’veseenmany,manymiraclesinmyownlifeandinthelivesofothers,andIalwaysadviseprayerfirst,eventothisday.But I also believe that we have some miraculous tools—a newtechnology—that can specifically program us for success withoutwillpower.To continue the computermetaphorwe’veused throughoutthebook,thesetoolsloadnewsoftwareontoourhumanharddrivethatautomaticallydeprogramsandreprogramsuswhereit’sneeded.Allwehavetodoissitdownatthecomputer,usethekeyboard,andwe’reabletodothingswe’veneverbeenabletodobefore.Solet’sbeginwithsome

basicdiagnostics.

IDENTIFYINGYOURBASICHUMANHARD-DRIVEVIRUSESWhen I work with clients, almost everyone comes in needing some“basic deprogramming and reprogramming” before they can begin toworkontheirsuccessgoalsandreallystartputtingtheGreatestPrincipleinto practice. In this chapter I’ve included three diagnostics for thedeprogramming and reprogramming work I advise everyone to do tostart.Myrecommendationisnottochooseoneortwoofthese,buttodothem all. They all come at the issues from a different angle, but theywork in harmony to help you completely heal the source memories.Onceyoucompletethisbasicprogramming,you’llbereadytostartthefull forty-day process detailed in chapter 7, which will virtuallyguaranteesuccessinanyareaofyourlife.Beaware,though,thatthiskindofbasicreprogrammingcanunearth

yourbiggest,mostintractableissues.Someoftheseissuesmayhavelaindormant for years, decades, or even generations. If you begin to gothrough thesediagnosticsand feel likeyou’regettingboggeddown,oryoujustdon’tfeelliketacklingtheundergroundissuesbeforeyoustartworkingontheoneortwosuccessissuesyouknowyouneedhelpwith,goaheadandturntothenextchapter.Youcanstartthisprogramwitheither the Basic Diagnostics or the Success Blueprint, as the SuccessBlueprint will allow you to work on the same issues the diagnosticsrevealinamorespecificcontext—namely,howtheseissuesareblockingyoufromthesuccessyouwantrightnow.Youcanalwaysreturntothischaptertodothefulldeprogrammingandreprogrammingwhenyou’reready.ButifyoudohavetheinterestanddesiretoworkthroughtheseBasic

Diagnostics, you’ll find that the Success Blueprint will be quicker andeasier.Youwill almost certainlybe “surprised”by somethingyou findthrough the Basic Diagnostics—it happens almost every time. Thatsurprisemayendupbeingaveryimportantkeytoyoursuccess.

DIAGNOSTIC1:THESUCCESSISSUESFINDER

The first thing I’d highly advise you to do is go to www.beyondwillpowernow.comandtakeourSuccessIssuesFindertest.Itistheonlytestofitskindintheworld(thatwe’reawareof),andit’sabsolutelyfreetoyou because you bought this book. All over theworld, doctors, CEOs,ministers,socialworkers,andteachersuseitastheirprimarymeansfordiscovering the underlying source of problems for their clients andstudents—in other words, their human hard-drive viruses. This testdiagnoses the root causes of all your problems and blocks to success,whetherthey’rephysical,emotional,spiritual,orevencircumstantial.TheSuccess IssuesFinder is a ten-minute spiritualdiagnosis, thoughit’s not at all religious. But it is called a spiritual diagnosis because itdiagnosestheissuesofthespiritualheart.About twenty years ago, back when I discovered the ancientmanuscripts about the issues of the heart, our unconscious andsubconsciousbeliefs,andtheireffectonourhealthandeverythingelse,Isearchedallovertheworldtofindatestthatcouldaccuratelydiagnosetheseunderlyingsource issues. Icouldnot findone. I thendesperatelytriedtocreateatestthatcoulddiagnosetheseissues.Thatattemptwasunsuccessful.Fortunatelyone focusofmydoctoralwork inpsychologywaspsychometrics,ortheconstructionandadministrationoftests,andthat’swhereIdiscoveredseveralmissingpieces.Iwentbacktoworkonthe testwith a teamof computer programmers, a clinical psychologistnamed LornaMeinweiser, and TomCostello, one of themost brilliantpeople I know—and voilà!—a few years later, theHeart Issues Finderwasborn,andafterthat,theSuccessIssuesFinder.Since then many people have shared with us that after decades ofcounselingandtherapy,countlesstests,librariesofself-helpbooks,andunlimitedproddingandpoking(bothphysicallyandintotheirpsyche),the IssuesFinder testsuncovered the truesourceof theirdifficulties inten minutes. How did they know? First, many of them just knewintuitively, like how you knowwhen you’re in love. But second, theyalso knew because when they started to focus for the first time onhealing the true source as revealed in this assessment, their long-termsymptomsmagicallymeltedaway.Onenote:AfterpublishingTheHealingCode,whichgavepeopleonlineaccess to the Heart Issues Finder (primarily for health issues), I wasaskedwhy I did not include a hard copy of the test in the book. The

reason is simple: the test exists only online because it has a verycomplicated mathematical algorithm and is only practical as acomputerizedtest.ThesameistruefortheSuccessIssuesFindertest.Ifofferingyouthiswonderfultoolwascontingentuponitbeingreplicatedfully in thebook (questions, scoring, and interpretation), then Iwouldnotbeabletomakeitavailabletoyou.Immediatelyafteryoucompletethe test, it will produce an eight- to fifteen-page individualizedinterpretation of your underlying spiritual issues related to success inyourlife—inotherwords,all thedetailsabouttherealsourcesofyoursuccess problems and their solutions, customized specifically for you.AndyouwillbegladtoknowthatoneofthethingsIlikebestaboutthetest isthatit’s freetoyouforbuyingthisbook.Infact, it’s freetoyouand your family from now on. Take it once a month and, as youdeprogramandreprogram,watchyourunderlyingscoreschange.

USINGTHESUCCESSISSUESFINDERTESTBased on your answers to the questions, the Success Issues Finder testproduces a scaled score (between –10 and+10) for sixteen differentsource issues thatmay liebehind thevisibleproblems inyour lifeandkeepyou frombeingsuccessful.Your individualized interpretationwillincludearobustdescriptionofeachofthesepotentialissues:

•unforgivenessversusforgiveness

•harmfulactionsversushelpfulactions

•sadness/depressionversusjoy

•anxiety/fearversuspeace

•impatienceversuspatience

•rejection/harshnessversuskindness

•notbeinggoodenoughversusgoodness

•controlversustrust

•wrongbeliefsversustransformingbeliefs

•selfishnessversuslove

•unhealthypride/arrogance/imagecontrolversushumility

•unhealthycontrolversushealthyself-control

•internalstates

•externalfocus

•goalsetting

•successorientation

Iinviteyourightnowtogoonlinetowww.beyondwillpowernow.comandtakethetestforyourself.Besuretoanswerthequestionsinlightofhowyou feelmost of the time—inotherwords, on an averageday. Ifyou’refeelingbad,youmaytendtoanswerthequestionsbasedonyourbadfeelingsinthemoment.Orperhapsyoufeelexceptionallygood,andyouanswer thequestionsbasedonyourexceptionallygood feelings inthemoment.This can skew the test, so for themost accurate reading,answerbasedonthewayyouusuallyfeel.Youcanalsotakethetesttoidentifytheunderlyingcausesrelatedtoonespecific issue inyour life,such as your job or a particular relationship. Simply answer everyquestion (asmuchaspossible) in lightof thatone issue.Youcan takethetestmultipletimestoaddressasmanyspecificissuesasyouwant.Once you receive the results of the assessment, first look at your

lowest scores. Let’s say your three lowest scores were Patience (–5),Peace (–3), and Love (–3). Those lowest scores likely identify thestrongest source of the things bothering youmost in your life—whereyouneedsuccessandhealingthemost.Theyalsotendtobethesourceof whatever end-result goals you’re setting and why you don’t knowwhatyoutrulywant.Thepainfromtheselowest-scoreissuescausesyou

to focus on your external circumstances for relief. As we learned inchapter2,wetendtomisinterpretthesourceofourpainasarisingfromourexternalcircumstances,ratherthantheseunderlyingspiritualissuesin our memories that are often generations old. As you look at yourresults,you’llseeaninterpretationofwhatyourscore ineachof theseareas practically means. For example, here’s what the test says for ascoreof–5forPatience:

IntheareaofPatience,yourscaledscoreis–5onascaleof–10to+10.Youmayoftenfeelimpatientorangrywhenthingsdon’thappenasquicklyasyouwantthemto.

When youwant something, you have troublewaiting for it. Your goalsmay often be rooted inselfishnessratherthanintruthandlove.Youcanlearntosettruelovegoalsandfindpeaceandjoyinyourlife.

Next,lookatyourhighestscores.Theseareyourstrengthsandgifts—what you’re best at. Use this knowledge in your relationships, yourcareer,andeverythingthatyoudo,toenhanceyourresults—thewayasports teamwouldplayto itsstrengths.Forexample, Iwent tocollegeona tennis scholarship. I reallywasn’t verygood,but Iwasabulldogandhated to lose. So Iwoulddiveall over the court toget everyballback, which would usually become frustrating to my opponent. Myweakest shot was my backhand, so I would compensate: I would runaroundmybackhandtohitaforehand.Iwouldstandonthecourtinapositionthatmadeitdifficultformyopponenttohitittomybackhand.Allthiscompensationandprotectiontookalotofenergyandwork,butitprettyeffectivelynullifiedaweakness.SoIbelieveinbothapproaches:eliminateyourweaknessesandemphasizeyourstrengths.Doboth!TheSuccessIssuesFinderwillhelpyouwiththat.Don’t be discouraged if your highest score doesn’t seem very high.Let’ssayyourhighestscorewas+2forSelf-Control.Here’swhatthetestwouldsay:

IntheareaofSelf-Control,yourscaledscoreis+2onascaleof–10to+10.Youmayhavea senseof entitlement, thatothers shoulddo things foryou,or that theworld

owesyousuccess.Oryoumightfeelasthoughyouarenotcapableofsuccessandsometimesfeellikegivingup.Asyouletgoofold,harmfulbeliefsandtoxiccellularmemories,youcanliveyourlifeempoweredbytruthandlove.

Thatmaynotsoundmuchlikeastrengthtoyou.Butwhenyouhavestrong, fear-based programming, that negative programming functionslikeadamagainstyourstrengths,holdingthembackagainsttheirwill.Youmayonlyhavethetoolofwillpoweratyourdisposal,tryingtofightagainst a power exponentially stronger (i.e., the programming in yourspiritual heart). But once you deprogram the fear from your spiritualheartandreprogramitwith loveusing theThreeToolsyou learned inchapter4,thesestrengthscanbereleasedlikeaflood.Fornow,useyourconscious mind to apply love to your situation: believe that you aredoingthebestyoucanineveryarea—evenwhereyoushowthelowestscores.Whateveryourscoresshow,bekindtoyourself,notcondemning.Wearegoingtochangethem.

USINGTHETHREETOOLSWITHTHESUCCESSISSUESFINDERDIAGNOSTICIdentifyingexactlywherethesourceofyoursuccessproblemsliesmaybethemissingkeythatunlockseverythingforyou. Ihadaclientwhowas living inLosAngeles andworking three jobs. Shehad tried everysuccessprogramunder the sun,yet still felt like shedidn’tknowwhatthe problemwas. Everyone had told her something different, and shewasrunningoutofmoney.ShetooktheSuccess IssuesFinder testanddiscovered that External Focuswasher lowest score. In an instant sheknewthatthisissuewaswhatwasblockingher:shehadalreadylearnedhowanexternalfocusinherentlytriggersourstressresponseanddirectlyworksagainstoursuccess,andshewasbeginningtoseehowanexternalfocuscharacterizedthewayshelivedherlifeonadailybasis.Onceshesawtheconnection,sheprayed,meditated,andusedtheThreeToolstoheal her underlying programming about this tendency. One year latershe called me to tell me her income had increased 16 times. Not 16percent,not$16,000more,but16times.Shesaid itallcamedowntothe Success Issues Finder and being able towork directly on the truesourceofhersuccessproblems.Ihaveevenseenanumberofinstanceswhenindividualsidentifiedthetruesourceoftheirproblemforthefirsttimeandtheproblemimmediatelyhealed,withoutdoinganythingelse.Butasyouknowbynow, identifyingyoursource issues isn’tusually

enough to heal them. Fortunately, younowhave the right tools to dojust that. To heal the source issues identified by the Success IssuesFinder,beginwithyourlowestscoreandusetheThreeToolsintroducedin chapter 4: the Energy Medicine and Heart Screen tools, and theReprogrammingStatements.Toreturntoourearlierexample,ifPatiencewas your lowest score, think of a time when you felt particularlyimpatient. The earlier thememory, the better, as it gets closer to theoriginal sourcememory.But if you canonly rememberhow impatientyoufeltthismorning,that’sfine,too.YoucanusetheThreeToolswiththistestintwoways:youcanapplytheEnergyMedicinetool,theHeartScreentool,orbothtothespecificissuewiththelowestscore,followingthe step-by-step instructions in chapter 4. Or you can use thecombinationtechniqueinchapter4,as theReprogrammingStatementswillalsoensureyougothrougheveryoneofthesourceissuesthatcouldbe the cause of your lowest score. You can use whatever approachappealsmosttoyou;theyproducethesameresultsindifferentways.Continueapplyingthesetoolstoyourlowestscoreoverthecourseofa

monthifneeded,andretaketheSuccessIssuesFindertestattheendofthemonthtogaugeyourprogress.Note:Ifyoufeeltheissueishealedinoneday, that’s great; just take the test again thenext day.You’ll findthatasthetoolsbegintohealtheissueyou’reworkingon,yourlowestscorewillriseandeventuallywon’tbeyourlowestscoreanymore.Whenthathappens,takeyournewlowestscoreandbeginapplyingtheThreeToolstothatone,followingtheprocedure.Theobviousgoal is tohavehigh,positive scores foreveryarea.But

I’ve found that as people apply these tools to their lowest test scores,they move through several natural benchmarks over time that aretypicallyaccompaniedbyabreakthroughthatenablesthemtogettothenextlevelofsuccess.Thefirstbenchmarkiswhenyouhavenonegativescores; all your individual scores (measured from –10 to +10) arepositive.Thesecondbenchmark iswheneveryscore is+3andabove.The third benchmark is when every score is +5. And the fourthbenchmark is when every score is +7. To pace and manage yourimprovement, I encourage you to aim for the next benchmark ratherthanaimingforall+7sfromthebeginning.Inadditiontothefactthatabreakthroughtendstoaccompanyeachbenchmark,breakingthelargergoaldownintostepsisfarlessdauntingthantryingtogetfrom,say,–3s

inmostareasto+7sineveryarea.Mostpeoplefindthisapproachfeelsmuchmoredoable.Whenyoureachthefourthbenchmarkof+7sineverycategory(and

youwill, if you follow the process in this book), youwill be living inlove, joy, peace, and truth, moment bymoment, day in and day out,regardlessofyourexternalcircumstances.Youwillbelivinginthehighcountry,breathingtherareairfewpeopleeverbreathe.Youwillfeelasif you’ve achieved the greatest success you could ever achieve. Butthere’s more: your new internal state will, over time, miraculouslytransformyourexternals.Ofcourse, it’snotreallyamiracleatall;youare simply living in harmony with the spiritual and physical laws ofnature,thewayyouweredesignedtolive.

DIAGNOSTIC2:REVERSEGENIEQUESTIONSAnxietyisanepidemicinoursocietytoday.FortymillionadultsintheUnited States have been clinically diagnosedwith an anxiety disorder(18percentofAmericanadults),andthisdoesn’tincludethefargreaternumber who experience undiagnosed day-to-day anxiety on a chronicanddailybasis.1Somanyofushavebecomeaddictedtofear,constantlylivinginstress,whenfearshouldneverbetheprimaryexperienceofourlives.Asyouknow,thecauseofourconstantfearisfocusingonexternalcircumstances and end results. Focus on internal issues (love, joy, andpeace),giveuptheendresults,andthefearandstressvanish.Dr.ThomasPerisofBostonUniversitydidoneofthelargeststudiesin

historyonpeoplewholivetobeoverahundredyearsold.Hefoundthatthese people had a common tendency not to worry.2 Logically, thisobservation is consistentwith the statementwe’vemadeall along thatstress is thecauseof95percentofalldiseaseand illness.Since fear isthecauseofstress,itmakessensethatthosewhodonotworry(havenofear) would be vastly less likely to develop life-shortening disease orillness.BiblicalscholarshavetoldmethattheBiblesays“fearnot”365times.Itwouldmakeperfectsenseforthecreator/sourceofourbodyandmindtorepeatthisphrasesooften,knowingwhatfear,worry,andstresswoulddotous.TheReverseGeniediagnostic identifies the fear atwork in your life

right now. Remember the three ultimate success goal questions youansweredinchapter1thatidentifiedwhatyoureallywantedmost?Justincaseyoudon’t,heretheyareagain:

1.Whatdoyouwantrightnowmorethananythingelse(i.e.,yourwishforthegenie)?

2. If yougotwhat youwantedmost inquestionnumber1,whatwouldthatdoforyouandwhatwoulditchangeinyourlife?

3.Ifyougottheanswerstobothquestionsnumber1andnumber2,howwouldyoufeel?

This second diagnostic also includes three questions, but in reverse.Thesequestionswill revealwhatyou’remostafraidof—andthuswhatyouneedtodeprogramandreprogramtogetridofyourinternalvirus.Youcananswereachquestionnowaswemovethroughtheexplanation.

1.Whatareyoumoreafraidofthananythingelserightnow?Takethe time you need to give this question some serious thought.Whenyouhaveyouranswer,describeitindetail.

Youranswertoquestion1revealsthenegativecircumstanceyouarecurrently most focused on with willpower, negative expectation, andstress. You believe that if it happens, you will not be okay. Thiscircumstanceisalsowhatyouareintheprocessofcreatinginyourliferight now. Why? First, it would not be possible for you to give thatanswerifthatimagewasnotalreadyinyourspiritualheart.Youhavetobeabletoseeitinyourspiritualheart,otherwiseyouwouldn’tbeabletoformthewordstodescribeit.Second,ourheartdoesnotdifferentiatewhatisrealandwhatisimagined.Whatisimaginedisrealtotheheart,soanythinginourspiritualheartisactuallyhappeningrightnowtoourheart,andthustoourbody.Remember,thespiritualheart’sexperienceis100percent surround-soundpresent tense. Sowheneveryou see thepictureofwhatyoufearmost,yourheartchangesthephysiologyofyourbodytorespondtotheemergencythatisgoingonatthatverymomentinyourheart inordertosaveyour life.Everysingletimeyouthinkofwhat you fearmost, you are putting yourself into fight or flight—and

nothinghasevenhappenedexternally.

2. Ifwhatyouaremostafraidofactuallyhappened(youranswertoquestion1),howwouldthatchangeyourlifeandwhatwouldthatdotoyou?

Youranswertoquestion2goesabitdeeper:itrevealstheunderlyingexternal circumstances in your life that you have and are afraid oflosing,orthatyoudon’thaveandareafraidofhavingimposedonyou.Asinquestion1,youranswerherealsonamesthespecificcircumstancesyou are creating in your life thismoment—possibly only because youfear them,notbecause they’re likely tohappenon theirown. Inotherwords,ourfearmakestheanswertonumber2(andnumber1,forthatmatter)allthemorelikelytoactuallyhappeninthefuture,completelyindependentofitsobjectivelikelihoodofhappeningonitsown.Frequently,alltheimaginedanswerstoquestion2wouldneveroccur

under any circumstances. Statistics tell us that over 90 percent of thethings we worry about never happen—and even if they do, they’realmostneverasdifficultorterribleasweimagine.InhisTEDtalk“TheSurprising Science of Happiness,” Dr. Dan Gilbert shares data from aresearch study with new lottery winners and new paraplegics.3At thebeginning of the study, the new lottery winners’ subjective state ofhappinesswasdramaticallyhigherthanthenewparaplegics’.Sixmonthslater, therewas no difference. This is called psychological adaptation.(Onenote:Psychologicaladaptationisacopingmechanism,notasignofhealing.Infact,psychologicaladaptationtypicallymeanshealinghasnothappened.)The point of this example is that the things we believe would

devastateourlivesalmostneverdo.However,manythingswethinkareno big dealwill in fact destroy our lives over time. The reason mostpeoplethinktheiranswertonumber2wouldbesocatastrophicisthattheybelieve the circumstances resulting fromquestion1wouldbe thebiggest problem of their life. But this is not true—in fact, thislie/misinterpretation is the source of the fear. The truth is that thebiggestproblemofourlifewouldbetoanswerquestion1fromchapter1 (what do you want right now more than anything else?) with anexternalcircumstance—becausepursuinganexternalcircumstanceabove

allelseiswhatsetsoffourstressresponseandcausesallourproblems,aswe’vespentmostofthebookexplaining.Now, if our biggest problem would be answering question 1 from

chapter 1 with an external circumstance, our second biggest problemwouldbeouranswertoquestion3oftheReverseGenieDiagnostic,andidentifyingthisproblemisthegoalofthisdiagnostic.

3.Ifyouranswerstoquestions1and2actuallyhappenedinyourlife,howwouldyoufeel?

Justasinchapter1,whereyouranswertoquestion3revealedwhatyou really wanted, your answer to question 3 here reveals your realproblem—verypossibly,thebiggest(orsecondbiggest)problemofyourlife. It is the inward state that exists inside you right now that isprobably causing more stress than any other. It comes from yourmemorybanks,yourpain/pleasure/fearprogramming,andyourprimarybeliefs, thoughts, and feelings. This question can be very difficult toanswerformanypeople.Inmyexperience,peoplegettoquestion3andcompletely break down, because their answer is truly the worstexperiencetheycanimagine.Butthetruthisthattheyareexperiencingitrightnow. If it’s in their spiritualheart and they’re envisioning it ontheir heart screen, the spiritual heart is always living in the presenttense,andaccordingtoyourheart,itisnotamatterof“if”ithappens;itishappeninginreallife,thismoment.Fortunately, if you heal the source memories of your answer to

question 3, youwill likewise see amonumental difference in virtuallyeveryareaofyourlife.Somewhere,inwhateverareaquestion3relatesto, you are believing a lie—about yourself, others, God, yourcircumstances,oralloftheabove.Healthelie,andyourinternalfeelingandexternalcircumstanceswillinstantlybegintotransform.

THEREVERSEGENIEQUESTIONSINACTION:NEILWhen Iwork through thesequestionswith clients, the top categoryofwhatpeoplefearmostthesedayshastodowithfinances.ThiswastrueforNeil,whohadbeen laidoff threemonthsprior andhadonlybeen

abletofindoddjobshereandtheresincethen.Thestresswasbeginningtoparalyzehim,whichcausedhimnot toperformwellduringhis jobinterviews,andthatwassendinghimintoaviciousnegativecycle.Hiswifewasathomewithatoddlerandaninfant,andtheamountintheirsavingsaccountwasstartingtofree-fall.Whenwebeganwithquestion1—Whatdoyoufearmorethananythingelserightnow?—Neil’sanswerwasveryspecific:“I’mnotgoingtohaveenoughmoneyattheendofthemonthtopayforgroceriesandfood.”ThenIaskedNeilquestion2:“Ifatthe end of themonth you actually didn’t have enoughmoney to payyourmortgageandbuyenough food,howwould thatchangeyour lifeand what would that do to you?” His answer was “The bank wouldforecloseonourhouse,myfamilywouldbehungryandhomeless,andwe’dhavetomoveinwithmybrother-in-law.”Iexplained toNeilwhat Iexplainedearlier.Hebegantounderstandhow the bank foreclosing on his house was (a) extremely unlikely tohappenasadirectresultofnotmakingenoughmoneythismonthtopayhismortgageand(b)morelikelytohappensimplybecausehefearedit.Thetruthwasthathewaslikelytobeabletogetatemporaryloanfromhisfamilytopayhismortgage,evenifhedidn’tfindafull-timejobformanymonths. And even if he didn’twant to ask them for a loan,wewereable to comeupwithanumberofother short-term solutions forcoveringhishousepaymentandgettingenoughfoodforhisfamily.Hebegan to understand how his fear was based on a lie, but thisunderstandinghadnotyetreachedhisspiritualheart.SoIaskedNeilnext:“Ifwhatyoufearactuallyhappened,howwouldyoufeel?”Heanswered,“I’dbesoashamed—I’dfeellikeanutterfailuretomywife,mykids,mywife’sfamily,andmyself.”Iexplainedtohimthatthesamethingthat’s trueforhisanswerforquestion2is trueforquestion 3—it’s not that this shamewill happen in the future.Rather,thisshamealreadyexisted inhisspiritualheartasahumanhard-drivevirus and needed to be eliminated immediately, just like a computervirus,ifheeverhopedtohavethelifethathewanted.Thegoodnewsisthatthisdiagnosticidentifiedaspecifichumanhard-drive virus for Neil: shame. He was experiencing it constantly in hisspiritualheart,andsoonerorlateritwouldhaveplayeditselfoutinhisexternalcircumstances,whetheritwouldkeephimfromperformingwellduringhis job interviewsandpreventhimfromgettinga full-time job,

or cause a significant health problem, or any number of possiblenegativesymptoms.SoweappliedtheThreeToolstohisexperienceofshameinordertodeprogramthatfearandreprogramitaslove.Itdidn’thappen instantly—wewoulduseoneof the toolsduringasession,andNeil was usually able to rate his feeling of shame at a 1 or lowerimmediately afterward, but itwould still be there aweek later at thebeginningofournextsession.Atthesametime,however,hisinternalstresswaslifting,andhewasfindinghimselfmore relaxedduringhis interviews. Soonhewashiredfor a full-time job that wasn’t exactly in his field, but it provided aregular paycheck that would more than cover his family’s basicexpenses.Hisinternalstateandhisexternalcircumstanceswereshowingevidencethatthefearinhisspiritualheartwasbeingreprogrammedaslove. And sure enough, during one of our scheduled phone check-ins,whenIaskedhimagainwhathewasmostafraidof,hecouldn’tthinkofanything.Thetoolshadcompletelyremovedthefearsothathewasnowafraidofnothing.

USINGTHETHREETOOLSWITHTHEREVERSEGENIEDIAGNOSTICJust like Neil, to remove the fear and stress and to stop creating theexternal realityyoumostdreadbasedonyour internal state,youneedthekindofinternalhealingthatwillallowyouranswertoquestion1tobecome nothing. If your life isn’t in mortal danger this moment, theresponse of healthy, well-functioning internal programming is “I’mafraid of nothing right now.” I promise you, it is possible. There arepeopleallovertheworldwhohavegonethroughthisprocesswhonowexperiencethatreality.That’sexactlywhattheThreeToolsarefor.NowIwantyoutodothisforyourself.Iwanttowalkhandinhandwithyou tomake sure thatyouranswer toquestion3 isnot the long-termdescriptionof your life.Return toyour earlier answer. Followingtheinstructionsoutlinedinthepreviouschapter,usetheThreeToolsonyouranswertoquestion3,untilyourresponsetoquestion1is“I’mnotafraidofanything.”Youcanusethetoolsoneatatime,youcanusetheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentooltogetheronyourspecific

answer to question 3, or you can use the combination technique,allowing theReprogrammingStatements todiagnoseandheal thecorebeliefbehindyouranswer toquestion3. Itmay takeaday, aweek, amonth,orsometimes(butnotusually)ayear.Howeverlongittakesisfine,andbestforyou.Youwillhavetherestofyourlifetoliveinlove,freefromfear.

DIAGNOSTIC3:LIFEVOWSSomanypeople I’vemetover theyearshave felt stuck inoneareaoranother. They’ve tried everything, but they just can’t seem to moveforward.Theymayevenbeexhibitingaddictivebehaviororbadhabitsinmultipleareas.Thereasonwhy,almostinvariably,isthattheymadealifevow.A life vow is a promise we make, usually early in life and underextreme pressure and pain over time, to protect ourselves from everexperiencingthatpainagain.Consciouslyorunconsciously,wemakeavow that says, “If I can just get (or avoid) this, I’ll give up that.” Forexample,perhapsyourparentsarguedalotwhenyouwereachild,andit often frightened you. One day, your subconscious mind may havemade a promise, or a bargain, to provide some relief from the pain.Perhapsyourmindsaid,“I’lldowhateverittakestojustgetawayfromMomandDadscreaming.”Soasachild,youstartdoinganythingthattakes you away from the pain of the screaming: you hide under thehouse,youfantasizeaboutanimaginaryfriendoranimaginaryplace—whateverittakes,regardlessoftheconsequences.You’vetakenyourselfaway from the screaming by distancing yourself from them—andeventually,everyoneelse.That lifevowbecomes lifelongprogramming.Asanadult,anearliervowmaytranslateintosomethinglike“ImayhavetogiveuphavingthefamilylifeI’dliketohave,butI’mabsolutelynotgoingtobeinaplacewhere everyone’s screaming.” It affects all your relationships, and youcan’t figure out why. It mandates that you constantly live in self-protectionmode,whichequals constantmassive stress.A life vow is aviciouslystrong“Ineedthistosurvive”belief,evenifyou’rethirty-fiveandyoudon’t need that situation to survive at all. Life vows can also

explainwhypeoplecanseemtohaveeverythingontheoutsidebuttheycan’tenjoyitontheinside.Self-destructive,cyclicalpatternsofbehaviorresultfromlifevows.Asan adult, if you’rewonderingWhy do I keep doing this? I can’t seem tostop!, you probably made a life vow as a kid. Its strength does notdepend on any objective definition of trauma or on your consciousunderstanding as an adult. It depends on how much adrenaline andcortisolyourstressresponsewaspumpingthroughyourbodyatthetimeitwasmade.Lifevowsaretypicallymadeduringthedelta/thetabrainwavestate,whenthere’sanexcessiveamountofadrenalinereleased.Ifyou experienced that situation as extremely stressful as a child in thatmoment,thatlifevowcanberunningyourlifetothisday—evenifyouradultmindwouldviewtheoriginalexperienceasnobigdealandyouhavenoclue that lifevowevenexists. Internalexperience,perception,andinterpretationareeverythingwhenitcomestoourspiritualheart.

THELIFEVOWDIAGNOSTICINACTION:STACEYBack when I was counseling full-time, I had one client, Stacey, withmultipleaddictions:chocolate,alcohol,sex,shopping,soapoperas,andsoon.Shehadbeenintherapyforyears,andsheknewshehadmultiplecompulsivebehaviorsanddesperatelywantedthemtostop,butshehadnot found anything thatwas able to help long term.Herwords tomewere“Idon’t feel likeanything inmylife isreal.” In fact,shewasthefaceofapathyherself.Ifyouwereaskedtodescribeherinoneword,itwould likelybe“dull,” ineverysenseof theword: the lightseemedtohavegoneoutinhereyes.Hermanyprevioustherapistswerehappytohaveherpayinghermoneytosomeoneelse—Italkedtoseveralofthem,andtheywerestumped.Becauselifevowstypicallyresultinaddictivebehaviors,Ihadastrongsuspicion Stacey had made a life vow. I asked her questions and didseveral other diagnostics, but she couldn’t remember anythingsignificant.Onedayshecame into to theofficeand the first thing shesaidwas“Ifoundit.”“Youfoundwhat?”Iaskedblankly.“I found the life vow.” Apparently the previous night, as she was

driftingofftosleep,shehadastrongmemoryoflyinginbedasachild,listening to her parents scream at each other, and her dad hitting hermother.Herdadwasaviolentalcoholic,andsuchabusewascommoninherhousehold.Yetuntilthatmoment,eventhoughsheknewobjectivelythatherdadwasanabusivealcoholic,shehadneverhadanypersonalmemoriesofherexperienceinthathousehold.Atthatmoment,shealsorememberedwhatshewas thinking:Whatever it takes, Iamgoing togetoutof this, andnever go through it again. Shehad indeed foundher lifevow.Andthat’sexactlywhatStaceydid.Shemadechoicesinherlifefrom

thatmomentonthatwouldensureshewouldnotexperienceanyconflictor anger—or any strong emotion, for thatmatter. Shemarried amanwho,frankly,hadthepersonalityandactivitylevelofatelephonepole,but at least he wouldn’t be screaming at her. Eventually she livedvicariously through her own various addictions because engaging therealworldwithherdesireswasjusttoorisky.Oncewewereabletoidentifyherlifevow,wecouldapplytheThree

Tools and deprogram that specific fear from her spiritual heart andreprogramitwithlove.WhenIheardfromhermostrecently,Staceywasstillworkingthroughoneortwoaddictions—downfromatleasttwelvewehadspecificallyidentified.Butmostimportant,herentireaffecthadchanged:thelighthadreturnedtohereyes,andshehadlifeinher.Shehadalsostartedengagingwithherhusband,herchildren,herwork,herfriends—therealthingsinherlife.

USINGTHETHREETOOLSWITHTHELIFEVOWDIAGNOSTICIf you suspect you have alsomade a life vow, based on your currentsymptoms(andespeciallyifyoustrugglewithaddictivebehavior),you,too, canheal thatprogramming.Here’show todiagnoseany lifevowsthatarefunctioningashumanhard-drivevirusesinyourspiritualheart:

1. First, I suggest you “sit under your tree,” as I call it, or prayand/ormeditateinwhateverwayisnaturalforyou.Whenyourmindisinanopenandrelaxedstate,askyourselfwhatbehavior

inyourlifeseemstofitthisself-destructive,cyclicalpatternthatischaracteristicofa lifevow.Whenyouwereyoung,wereyouinpainorunderstressfora longperiodoftime,orashortbutextremely pressure-packed time? If so, can you recall a timewhenyouconsciouslyorsubconsciouslysaidtoyourself,IfIcanonlydo,have,oravoid___________,Iwilldoorlivewithout___________?

2.Ifyoucan’tfindamemorylikethat,justfocusontherepetitivebehaviorthatisbotheringyounowandisworkingagainstyourabilitytolivethelifeyoutrulywant: livinginlovemomentbymoment.

3. Apply the Three Tools to this memory or to the repetitivebehavior,followingtheinstructionsinchapter4.Again,youcanuseeachtoolseparatelyonyourlifevow,acombinationoftheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentoolonyourlifevow,or the combination technique, simply allowing theReprogrammingStatementstodiagnoseandhealthecorebeliefbehind your life vow. You will know the deprogramming andreprogramming is complete when the symptoms, habits, oraddictionsdisappear.Again,don’tworryabouthowlongittakes.It may be several months or it may be in an instant—but theresultswillbeworthit.

RememberhowIsaidattheendofchapter1thatyouprobablyweren’tabletoliveouttheGreatestPrincipleyet,evenifyoufullyunderstoodwhattodo?Well,nowyoushouldbeableto,ifyou’vedonewhatIhavesuggested up to now. In chapter 7, you’ll receive the step-by-step,practicalprocesstofinallyreachsuccessinspecificareasinyourlife—especiallywhereit’sbeensoelusiveinthepast.

chapter7

THEGREATESTPRINCIPLESUCCESSBLUEPRINT

Bynowyouknowthattruesuccessisnotmerelyachievingyourdesiredexternalcircumstances,nomatterhowimpressivetheymaybe.Livinginloveinthepresentmoment,thedirectantidotetostressandfear,istheonlywaythatourconsciousmindandbodycanpossiblybealigned—atpeace, healthy, and happy. Focusing on past or future expectations ortrying to create what we want through willpower will by definitioncreatestressandfailure,physicallyandnonphysically.BeforewegetintothestepsoftheSuccessBlueprint,however,I’dlike

totakesomemoretimetodefinewhatImeanbysuccess,orthat“lifebeyond”Imentionedintheintroduction.Ibelievethateachofushasapersonal destiny—or “a calling,” as I like to put it.However, I donotbelieve thatwearedestinedtoendup inasingle,particularplace,nomatterwhat.Ifthisistrue,andit’sallprewrittenanddetermined,thenwhytry?Eventhoughwemayhaveaparticularcallingordestiny,wecreatethisdestinybywhetherweliveinfearorlove.Weareallcalledto love, as the law of love is written on our hearts through ourconscience,providingaperfectguide forus ineverycircumstance.Butit’s still our choice whether we follow that calling or not—a hundredtimesaday,365daysayear.Whenever I liveoutof fear inanymoment, Iammovingawayfrom

mycalling,ordelayingit.WheneverIliveoutoflove,bydefinitionIamstepping intomyultimate and perfect calling forme, because if I livethiswayconsistentlyovertime,Iwilllivemyperfectlife.Livinginloveis the best and perhaps only way we can create the perfect externalcircumstances that are the visible manifestation of our success. Yes, IlearnfrommymistakeswhenIactinfear;Ineedthem,likeaboosteron

arocket,toshowmethatlivinginfearandselfishnesswon’tworklongtermandtakesmeawayfrommycalling,happiness,andhealth.However, I don’t need these mistakes once I am deprogrammed,reprogrammed,and living in thepresent in love.Once the rocket is inorbit, the booster is no longer needed, and it falls away—it’s done itsjob.Toretainitnowwouldworkagainstthemission.Also,your“perfectcalling”isnotperfectforanyonebutyou.Thisisonereasonwhycomparisonhasruinedsomanygooddaysforsomanypeople.Comparison isworse thanuseless,most of the time. Formanypeople, comparison is the root causeof their expectations. It is oneofthebiggestblackholesforourspiritualenergyontheplanet.Whenwecouldmake a comparison that causes us to be grateful or content,weoftendon’tmakethatcomparison.Wedwellonwhatisnotthewaywewantit.Yetthekeytocontentmentisnotwanting.Thewaywereachourperfectcallingisnottofocusonanendresultinthefuture,makeaplantoget it,andusewillpowertoget it.Notonlywill that rarelywork, youmayvery likelybe “wrong”aboutwhat theperfectoutcomeisforyou.Thewaytoyourperfectcallingistoliveinlovenow. This is not only the end result that is always perfect in thepresent,butalsoitwillproduceyourperfectcallingforthefuture—andis quite possibly the only way to ensure that. Focusing on what you“think”yourperfectcallingisislikethrowingdartsinthedarkandputsyouinchronicstress.Conversely,doingwhatisbestforyounow(beingand doing love), and giving up the future toGod/source/love, createsyourperfectfutureeverytime,evenifitissomethingyouwouldneverhavedreamedof.Anditdoesitautomaticallyandeffortlessly.Nomatterwhereyou’vebeenorwhatyou’vedone,thereisalwaysapossiblepathtoyourperfectcallingfromwhereyouarenow.Youcannever “blow it” for life. Just start to live in love now—deprogram,reprogram, and give up the end result—and your path will start totransform,firstinternally,thenexternally.Here is themagic of theGreatest Principle SuccessBlueprint: if youhavethecourageandcommitmenttofollowthisprocessexactlyhowit’slaidout,Ipromiseyousuccess.Infact,Ibelieveitwouldbeimpossibleforyounottobecomesuccessfulifyoulivetheseprinciples,andIhavethousandsofpeopleallovertheworldasproof.If you will go sit under your tree (that is, pray and meditate) and

discover your heart’s desire, overlay a success goal onto that desire,deprogramandreprogramyourspiritualheart,andwalkitoutmomentbymomentinlove,Imayjustbegettingacallorletterfromyouinthenearfuture.Before we begin the blueprint, I want to remind you that you caneitherbegintheprogramwiththeBasicDiagnosticsoutlinedinchapter6,oryoucanbeginhereanddotheBasicDiagnosticslater.Eitherorderwillwork.Also, space isprovided for you towriteyouranswersdown right inthebook,tohelpyoucapitalizeonanymomentumandinspirationyouhave in the moment. But feel free to write down your answers in adesignated notepad or journal, or create a new document on yourcomputer,ifyouneedmoreroomtoanswer.Onelastthing:IfyoustarttogetoverwhelmedwiththedetailsoftheSuccessBlueprint,takeabreakanduseyourfavoriteoftheThreeToolson theanxietyand feelingofbeingoverwhelmedbeforeyoucontinue.Youcanalsofeelfreetocomeupwithyourowncreativewaytousetheprinciplesandthetools.Intheend,whateverworksforandfeelsbesttoyou isbest foryou.Don’tget stressedaboutdoing itexactly thewayIsay.Experimentanddoitthewayitworksforyou.Let’sgetstarted.1.Determineyourultimatesuccessgoal.You determined your ultimate success goal with the three-questionexercise back in chapter 1. If you haven’t completed that exercise,answer those questions now, so that you know the internal state youwantmost.Heretheyareagain:

1.Whatdoyouwantrightnowmorethananythingelse?

2.Ifyougotwhatyoumostwantedinquestion1,whatwouldthatdoforyouandwhatwoulditchangeinyourlife?

3.Ifyougotthethingsthatwereyouranswerstobothquestions1and2,howwouldyoufeel?

2. Determine one success desire that you would like to worktowardandachieveinyourlife.Whatdoyouwant toworktowardachieving inyour liferightnow?

Beginbybrainstormingendresultsyouwouldliketoachieveindifferentareas of your life, such as a particular kind of relationship, a careeraccomplishment,aspecificachievement,increasedfinances,orimprovedhealth.Atfirst,don’teliminateanythingthatoccurstoyou.Thenchoosetheonesthat“feel”thestrongesttoyou.Whichonesmakeyousmilethemost?Whichonesmakeyoufeelthebestdeepdowninside?Whichonescreatethemostpeace?Whichonesfireyourheart,stiryourimagination,orserveaneed?Whichoneswouldmakethemostdifferenceinyourliferightnow?Now put your three strongest desires through the basic filters of a

successdesiredescribedinchapter5:Aretheybasedintruth,aretheybasedinlove,andaretheyinharmonywithyourultimatesuccessgoal?Ifyouthinkofsomethingthatisnotpossiblegiventheobjectivefactsofasituation,youeitherhavetofindawaytomakeitpossible,orfindanewsuccessdesire.Wedon’twantyouwastingmonthsoryearsofyourlifeon somethingunobtainable.At the same time, Ibelieveanything ispossible.Ifwelookbackinhistory,ourgreatestheroeshavebeenthosewhohavedonewhatseemedimpossibleaccordingtopopularbeliefsandeven the so-called objective facts. If I asked the seventy-two-year-oldfromchapter5 if hisNFLdesirewas in truth andhe said that hehadprayedabout it, researched it,preparedfor it,and itwasabsolutely intruthforhim,myresponsewouldbe“Goforit!”Second,askyourself,isitbasedinlove?Describe,sothatanyonecouldunderstandit,whyyouwant to achieve this desire, instead of some other success desire.Convince me that it is win/win/win with no losers and that it’s notstrictlyforselfishreasons.Note:Doingsomethingstrictlyforthemoneywhenyouareingreatneedofmoneycanabsolutelybethelovingthingtodo,as longas thereareno losers.Youcannot loveothersuntilyoulove yourself, and we all have a need for shelter, clothing, food, theabilitytopayourbills,andtootherwisemeetourbasicneeds.Thereisabigdifferencebetweenthatandthecontractorfromchapter5whojustwantedmoreandmoretoys.Third,you’daskyourself, is it inharmonywithmyultimate success

goal(step1)?If thedesirecontributestoyourultimatesuccessgoal, itpassesthroughthisfinalfilteraswell.

Listyourtopthreesuccessdesireshere.

Great!Butwehavetochooseoneofthesetogetstarted.(Youwillbeable toaddressall three ifyoudecideto,eventually.)What is thebestoneforyoutoworkonnow,basedonthefactors?Ifyouthinkyouknowwhich one that is, and I always suggest goingwith your gut, then gowith that one. You may need to do some research and talk to somepeople to have the information you need to make this decision. Goaheadanddothat.Ifyouhavetroublepickingone,thencontinuewithtwo,orevenallthree,forthetimebeing.Oneusuallyfloatstothetopasyougothroughtheprocess.Ifapplicable,writeyourtopsuccessdesirebelow.Yoursuccessdesire: ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________3.Envisionthatsuccessdesireactuallycomingtofruition.Goahead:closeyoureyesandexperiencetheendresultofachievingthissuccessdesire.Yes,I’mtellingyoutotouchit,tasteit,smellit,andwallowin it. (Iknowinchapter6 Icriticizedothersuccessexperts fordoing this, but we’re doing it here for a different reason.) Vividlyvisualizeachievingituntilthesentimentbecomesveryrealtoyou,andyou can see and feel it in significant detail. When you envision thesuccessdesire, try toenvisionallaspects,not just thepositiveones, soyourimagemakercangiveyouanaccuratepicture.Ifyoursuccessdesirewastostartyourownat-homebusiness,here’swhat youmight see: you would be able to pay all your bills withoutstressing, because you would always have plenty of money in thechecking account; you’d be able to get the pool membership that thekids have always wanted; you wouldn’t have to use your calculatorduringyourgrocerytrips;you’dfeelmoreself-confidentwhenyoutoldyour friendsand familyyouwerea “businessowner”; andyou’dwakeupeachmorningfeelingbothatpeaceaboutyourabilitytoprovidefor

yourhouseholdandjoyfulaboutnewdailychallenges.You’dalsohavetonavigateworkingathomeamid thedistractionsof your family life,you’dhaveasteeplearningcurvetoknowhowtostartandrunasmallbusiness,andyoumighthavetogiveupyourweeklyluncheswithyourfriends.Nowwrite downwhat you see. Describe the results of your success

desire inenoughdetail so that ifyouwere tellingmeabout it, Icouldseewhatyouseeandfeelwhatyoufeel.4.List thenegative thoughts, feelings,orbeliefs thatarise from

envisioningyoursuccessdesireandratethemonascaleof0to10.NowIwantyoutorecallanynegativefeelingsorbeliefsthatcameup

foryouasyouenvisionedthisparticularsuccessdesire,orthatcomeupforyounowwhenprompted.Inourexample,evenasyouwerethinkingaboutallthegoodthingsthatwouldresultfromachievingyoursuccessdesire,youmighthavestillnoticedthoughtslikeTheeconomy’stoobad.Idon’thaveenoughtimetostartabusinesswithmycurrentjob.Idon’tknowthefirstthingaboutstartingabusinessathome—I’mnevergoingtofigureitout.I’mnotreallygoodatanything—Idon’tevenknowwhatkindofbusinesstostart.Writeeachoneofthenegativesdownandratethemonascaleof0–

10intermsofhowmucheachonebothersyourightnow.Itmayalsobehelpful to note the emotion, thought, or belief that feels the mostnegative,butit’snotnecessary.You’vejustidentifiedyourhumanhard-drivevirusesthatarespecific

tothisdesireandthatareblockingyoufromsuccess.5.UsetheThreeToolstodeprogramthenegativesthatcameup

foryou.Justasyoudid in theBasicDiagnosticschapter,youcanuseoneor

moreoftheThreeToolsoneatatime,youcanusetheEnergyMedicinetoolandtheHeartScreentooltogetheronthespecificnegativebelief,oryoucanusethecombinationtechniquethatallowstheReprogrammingStatements to diagnose and heal the core belief behind the negativethought, emotion, or belief you’re experiencing. Note: For theReprogramming Statements, the only thing you need to change is theprayerbeforeyoubegin toask specifically forhealingall thenegativebeliefs, thoughts, and feelings that are blocking your current successdesire. Because this tool also works as a diagnostic, it will help you

identifyandhealyourproblemissuesautomatically.Whichever tool you use, your unconscious will automatically be

workingwithyouandagreeingwithyouabouteliminatingall thefearandlivinginlove,becauseyouhavethatlovecompass,orlawofloveonyourheart, thatalwayswants that foryou.Howmuch resistanceyourfear-basedprogrammingispresentingmaydeterminehowlongittakestoheal theblocks,but theywill heal eventually. Lovealwayswinsoverfear. However, I would encourage you to always include the EnergyMedicine tool because, inmy experience, it’s so immediately effective.Usethesetoolsoneachnegativeemotion,thought,orbelief,orusethecombination technique to work through all the ReprogrammingStatements,untilyouwouldratethemallat0.Let’s use the negative belief “I don’t have enough time to start a

business” from the earlier example. You decide to start with acombination of the Energy Medicine tool and the Heart Screen tool.Thesearethestepsyou’dfollowinthiscontext:

•Pictureascreeninyourmind:atabletscreen,computerscreen,TV screen, or movie screen—whatever most easily comes tomind. However, whatever screen you picture, make sure thisscreenisconnectedwirelesslytotheInternet,justasyourheartscreen is connected wirelessly to everyone around the planet.Think of this screen with two parts: the conscious and theunconscious.Nowpicturea lineacross thescreenaboutathirdofthewaydown(becauseyourunconsciousismuchbiggerthanyour conscious) to signify the conscious and unconsciousportionsoftheinternalscreenforyourimagemaker.Thisisyourheartscreen.

• Focus on the negative thought, feeling, or belief you want toaddress—“Idon’thaveenoughtimetostartabusiness”—whichyou’vealreadyratedasa7.

•Picturethatexperienceofnothavingenoughtimeonyourheartscreen in words, pictures, memories of past experiences, orhoweveryouwant.Perhapsyouseeyourselfpanickedasyou’retrying to complete a task, or you can remember an incident

whereyourmotherwasangryatyouforbeingslowasachild.Oraclockappears,andyouhearanalarmbellringing.

• Once you see this image on your heart screen, ask that it nolongerbeonyourheartscreen,andthatallitssourcememoriesbecompletelyhealed.Youmightsay,“LetthelightandloveofGod be on my heart screen, and nothing else.” You mightcustomize this to get specific about what you’re feeling rightnow:“Letlightandloveandpatiencebeonmyheartscreen,andnothing else, including panic.” You might need a break fromfocusing on your problem and say, “Let light and love andpatience be on the unconscious side of my heart screen, andnothingelse, includingmy problemof feeling time-crunched.” Youwon’t stop thinking about being time-crunched, but eventuallyyou won’t think about being time-crunched with a feeling ofpanicanymore.

•Thenpicture lightand loveonyourheart screen,however it ismost vivid and evocative to you. Youmay see it as streaminglight fromadivine source, a beautiful sunset, a stunning vista,yourpet,oranyotherimagethatrepresentspurelightandlove.

• Now introduce the Energy Medicine tool. While continuing topicturelightandloveonyourheartscreen,placeyourhandsonyour heart, your forehead, and your crown, for one to threeminuteseach.

• Continue to picture this light and love and repeat the three-positioncycleforuptotwoorthreetimesinonesitting,oruntilthediscomfortinyourmindandbodyaregoneandyouratethatnegative thought, feeling, or belief below a 1, whichmeans itdoesn’t bother you anymore. If you need to, you can add theReprogramming Statements, either separately or with thecombinationtechnique,followingtheinstructionsinchapter4.

•Continuetousethesetoolsoneachoneofyournegativebeliefsuntiltheyallnolongerbotheryou.Itmaytakeaday,aweek,or

threemonths.It’srarethatittakesthreemonths,butdon’tworryabouthowlongittakes—you’llhavetherestofyourlifetoenjoythesuccess!

6. Once all your negatives are gone (below a 1 on a 10-pointscale),use the same tools to createa supersuccessmemory,or toreprogramthepositivesuccessdesireyouwouldliketoachieve.If the negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are the viruses in ourhumanharddriveweneedtodeprogram,thenweneedtoreprogramourhuman hard drive with what I call supersuccess memories, or theequivalentoftherightsoftwareforyourspiritualheartforyoursuccessgoal.Toreprogramyourspiritualheart,youusethesametoolsyouusedto deprogram, but this time focus on the positive end result successpicture.

•Return towhatyouenvisioned in step2, and imagine this endresultactuallyhappening, inall thedetailyou listed.Ratehowyou feel about the likelihoodof this end resulthappeningonascaleof0–10,with0meaning“Thisisnevergoingtohappenforme”and10meaning“Iknowthisismyfuture;Iabsolutelyseethis happening for me.” Keeping with the same example, youwould see yourself calmly paying all your bills ahead ofschedule, knowing you had plenty of money in the checkingaccount; you’d see yourself telling the kids you got them amembershiptotheneighborhoodpoolandtheexcited,surprisedlooksontheirfaces;you’dseeyourselftellingyouracquaintancesabout your new business; you’d see yourself waking up eachmorning feeling joyandpeaceat thedayahead;and soon.Asyouimaginethisscenario,you’refeelingit’spossible,butalittleoutofreach,soyourateitasa4.

•Use theEnergyMedicine tool,ReprogrammingStatements, andHeartScreentools,separatelyorincombination,onthispositivepicture until you can rate it as a 7 or higher, which is thepositive feeling “I believe I can do this—let’s get started!”(Remember, if you use the Reprogramming Statements, yousimplyneedtocustomizetheprayeratthebeginning,askingfor

anyblockstobehealedsoyoucanachieveyourpositivesuccesspicture,andworkthroughthestatementsaswritten.)

7.Beginaforty-dayperiodwiththegoalofkeepingthesescoresatthesamelevel:thenegativesbelowa1andthepositiveabovea7.Onceyoureachthepointwhereyournegativethoughts,feelings,and

beliefsaboutyourdesirearebelowa1(i.e.,notbotheringyou)andyourpositive sense about achieving your desire is at or above a 7, youimmediatelystartaforty-dayperiod.Remember,itmaytakeyoujustadaytogetstartedonthefortydays,oritmighttakethreemonths.Whenyou begin the forty-day period, think of a caterpillar moving to thecocoonphase.Yourgoalduringthisforty-dayperiod(andyes,thisgoalmeetsallfourcriteria!)issimplytokeepyournegativesbelowa1andyourpositivesenseaboutyourabilitytoachieveyourdesireabovea7byrepeatingsteps4,5,and6.Here’swhattheforty-dayperiodshouldlooklike:

•Begineachdaywithamorningcheck-in.(Ifafternoonoreveningworksbetterforyou,that’sfine,too.)Firstaskyourselfhowyouwould rate the strength of each specific negative belief youidentified back in step 4. In our example of starting a smallbusiness,welistedthefollowingnegativebeliefs:Theeconomy’stoobad.Idon’thaveenoughtimetostartabusinesswithmycurrentjob.I’mnevergoingtofigureitout.I’mnotreallygoodatanything.You’d rateeachbelief,basedonyourphysical andnonphysicalsubjectivefeelings,onascalefrom0to10.Ifanybeliefwasata1 or above, youwould repeat using the tools towork on eachoneuntilyoucouldrateallyournegativebeliefsatbelowa1,ortheydon’tbotheryourightnow(step5).

•Nowvisualizeachievingyourdesire,asyoudidinstep3.Inourexample, you would visualize successfully starting a smallbusiness at home that brings in $1,000 extra per month andconsider how likely this result feels to you. If you would rateyourpositivesenseofachievingitatbelowa7,youwouldusethetoolsonthepositivepictureuntilyouwouldrateitata7or

higher(step6).

• Follow this procedure each day for forty days. When thenegativesincrease,followstep5tolowerthemasbefore;whenthepositivesensedecreases,followstep6toincreaseit.Ifthere’snochange,donothing;justmonitoreachday.Note:Youdonotstart the forty days over when you need to use the tools toaddress thenegativeemotions/thoughts/beliefsoryourpositivesuccessvision—yousimplyfixthem,andcontinuewiththefortydays.

Afterthisforty-dayperiod,mostpeoplewillbeabletowakeupeachmorningwith theirnegativesbelowa1and theirpositive senseaboutachieving their success desire at a 7 or higher. When you reach thisbenchmark, you know you’ve been fully deprogrammed andreprogrammed regarding your particular success issue. Instead of yourunconsciousandsubconsciousmindblockingyoufromsuccess,theywilltake you toward your success like a rudder on a ship. Your virusesrelated to this issue are gone, and you have powerful new successsoftware.If you still don’t feel ready after forty days, start another forty-day

period.Perhapsafterfortydays,you’restillratingyournegativesata1orhigherand/oryourpositivesenseofachievingyourdesireatbelowa7atthebeginningofyourdailycheck-in.Ifso,that’sfine.Startanotherforty-dayperiodandfollowthesameprocedureforafullfortydays,orhoweverlongittakesuntilthenegativesstaybelowa1andthepositivesstayabovea7.And ifyoustilldon’t feel readyafter that second fortydays,doanotherfortydays.(Personally,I’veneverseenanyonedomorethan three forty-day periods. But again, it doesn’t matter how long ittakes.Thetimeittakesistherighttimeforyou.)You know when the deprogramming and the reprogramming are

completewhenineverydaylifeyoufeelthatthenegativesdon’tbotheryou any longer, and you have a strong, positive sense of “I can dothis”—andyouactuallystartdoingit!8.SetyourspecificsuccessgoalsusingtheGreatestPrinciple.Nowthatyou’vebeenfullydeprogrammedandreprogrammedabout

any issues blocking success for your desire, it’s time to determine and

put into action your success goals, orwhat youwill do in each thirty-minute time segment as you walk in the direction of your desire.Remember,asuccessgoalhasfourparts:itmustbeintruth,inlove,and100 percent under your control, and typically done in the presentmoment.Let’s startwith the truth of your goal.You’ve already thought about

thetruthinbroadtermswhenyouweredeterminingyourdesire.Whataretheobjective,practicalfactsrelatedtoachievingyourdesire?Thinkabouteverythingyouneed,everythingyoualreadyhave,andeverythingthathastobedone.Ifyou’restartingabusinessathometoprovideanextra$1,000permonth foryourhousehold,howmuchmoneydoyouneedtostart?Doyouhavetherightspaceinyourhome?Who’sgoingtodoyourwebsite?Whatareyougoingtosell?Areyougoingtooutsourcecustomer service?Whatequipmentdoyouneed?Whenwillyoustart?Wherewillyougetcustomers?Writedowneverythingyouknowitwilltaketomakeyourdesireareality.

Youmay still need some practical education on success related to aparticulararea,suchasmarketing,woodworking,orwebdesign.Iwouldseekoutgood,validdatafromthemanywriters,thinkers,andteachersoutthereandintegrateyournewknowledgeintoyourdailypractice.Intruth,integratingparticularknowledgeandskillswillbeveryeasyafterbeing deprogrammed and reprogrammed. It is the underlyingprogrammingthatmakesthosethingsdifficult;yourfearprogrammingiswhatgetsinthewayofeasilylearning.Iwouldhavegivenanythingtohavebeendeprogrammedandreprogrammedbeforegraduateschool—statisticswouldhavebeenabreezethen!

Takeamomenttoexaminethelistabove,andreflectonwhetherthetasksareindeedintruthforyoursuccessdesire.Doyouneedanyfurtherinformationtoverify?Forexample, ifyou’vewrittenabove,“GetMiketodowebsite,”anduponreflectionyou’renotsureMikeisthebestoneto do yourwebsite, rewrite as “Research topwebsites inmy field” or“FindoutwhodidMonica’swebsite”—whateverthenextlogicalstepisinfindingoutthetruthofwhatyouneedtodo.Now let’s look at the love aspect. For each of the tasks, consider

whether you can complete each one in love, so that its successfulcompletionresultsinawin/win/winsituation,withnolosers.Ifnot,youneedtoeitherstrikethatfromyourlist,orfindawaytodoit inlove.Writedownallthetasksthatcanbecompletedinlove,andspecifyhowtheyneedtobedonetocreateawin-win-winsituationforallinvolvedparties.

Examine the list above, reflecting on whether each task is indeedbasedinlove.Isyourlistrealistic?Forexample,ifyouwouldliketohirefreelancersaspartofyourbusiness,andyou’vefoundthecheapestlaboravailablebutaren’tsurethey’reaskingfairprofessionalwages,youmaydecidetochangeyourtaskfrom“HirefreelancersfromCompanyXYZ”to“Researchfairfreelancerates”forthejobyouneedtooutsource.Third, is each task listed above 100 percent under your healthy

control? In other words, can you complete each task successfully bydoingwhatever it is in truthand love, for thenext thirtyminutes?Ordoesthecompletionofeachtaskdependoncircumstancesbeyondyourcontrolorinvolvepursuingend-resultexpectationswithyourwillpower?This step is where the rubber meets the road, so let me walk you

throughit.Tocontinueourpreviousexample,let’ssaythattogetyourhome business moving, one of the tasks you listed was to have aconversationwith the phone company about adding a phone line andswitchingtoasmallbusinessaccount.Itseemstomeetallthecriteriaofasuccessgoal:it’sintruth(youknowyouneedasecondphonelineforyour business, and this is the correct procedure to follow), it’s in love(successfully completing this task does not inherently take anythingaway from anyone involved), and it’s 100 percent under your control(youcanlookupthecompany’sphonenumberanddialit).But almost as soon as you dial the number, you get sucked into a

quicksand of voice mail and mailboxes, with multiple redirects andrequests tokey inyoursupersecretcustomercode(whichyou’veneverheardof).Afterabouttwentyminutes,youcouldn’tbefurtherfromlove,joy,andpeace.Ifyou’relikemostpeople,you’refrustratedandirritated,and youwant to throw the phone out thewindow and scream.Why?Because even though you may think your goal is to call the phonecompanyaboutaddingaphonelineandswitchingtoabusinessaccount,yourangerisasurefiresignthatyourreal,hiddengoalisquitedifferent.Your real goal is to achieve the end result of getting your businessaccount and extra phone line quickly and easily. In other words, youbecamefocusedontheendresultratherthanontheprocess,andyou’retherefore shifting intounhealthy control.Nowyou’repursuinga stressgoal,notasuccessgoal!Remember, your internal state reveals your real goals. You can

identify a stress goal instantly, at any time, in yourself and everyoneelse, by the presence of anger, or any emotion in the anger family:irritation,frustration,resentment,bitterness,beingoverwhelmed,andsoon. When you feel like screaming and throwing the phone out thewindow,youcan take it to thebank:youhaveastressgoal related tothethingyou’reangryabout.So how canwe change this specific stress goal into a success goal?

Beforeyouevencall thephonecompany,youdecide thatyourgoal isnottogetyournewlineandaccountasquicklyandsimplyaspossible—actually,youhavezerocontroloverthat.Yourspecificsuccessgoalistomake that call in love, focusing on the present moment for the nextthirtyminutes.Nojoke.Sohowwouldthatlookdifferent?Beforeyouevenpickupthephone,

yousaytoyourself,Thiscall isgoingto takehowever long it takes. Imayhavetogothroughlongwaittimesoravoice-mailmazeormycallmayevengetdropped. I can’t control that.What I can control ismaking that call inlove.WhenIactuallygetonthelinewiththephonecompanyrepresentative,mygoalisnotgettingthephoneline.Mygoalismakingthecallinlove.Mygoal is that the repwill feel better having talked tome than he or she didbefore,orifthepersonhadnottalkedtomeatall.Let’s say the phone company representative is a lady. She’s just apersondoingherjob,right?Shedidn’tsetupthevoicemail,shedidn’tmakethephonecompany’srules,andshe’sprobablygotahusbandwholoves her and children who run to her and say “Mommy!” when shecomes in the door. If Imet her on the street,wemight hit it off andbecomefriends. If I’mangryather, I’mhurtingbothherandme—thatangeradverselyaffectsvirtuallyeveryaspectofmyphysiology,asyou’llremember:itdumbsmedown,causesanenergyspikeandthenacrash,messesupmydigestion,suppressesmyimmunesystem,andmakesmenegative aboutwhatever I’m doing for the next part ofmy day.Mostlikelyitdoesthesamethingtoher.Would you call that success? Probably not. Yet almost everybody Iknow reacts this way in situationswhere the results are beyond theircontrol.Externalexpectationsareahappinesskillereverytime.Idonotwantthatforyouanymore.Iwantyoutoliveyourlifeeverymomentofevery day in happiness, health, love, joy, peace, financial abundance,richandintimaterelationship—inotherwords,Iwantyoutoexperienceoutrageoussuccess internallyandexternally!It trulycanstartthisverymoment,ifyousetsuccessgoalsratherthanstressgoals.Note:Shiftingfromstressgoalstosuccessgoalsis100percentunderyour healthy control only after you have been deprogrammed andreprogrammed. If you find that it’s not under your control—in otherwords, you continue to experience uncontrollable anger, anxiety, orothernegativeemotionsevenafteryou try to shift toa successgoal—thenyouneedtodomoredeprogrammingandreprogramminguntilyoudohavehealthycontrolandcango through thenext thirtyminutes inlove(perhapsnotperfectly,butforthemostpart).Now it’s your turn tomake sure your specific success goals are 100percentunderyourhealthycontrol.Thisprincipleholdstruenomatterwhatyou’redoingthroughoutthenextthirtyminutes,whetherit’sfiling,

paperwork, negotiations,meetings,writing, shopping, or research. Thefacts(thetruth)youlistedaboutyourspecificdesiredeterminewhatyoudo in the moment. Love is the why. And the Greatest Principledetermineshowyoudoit:inloveforthenextthirtyminutes,outofaninward state of love, joy, and peace, viewing specific end results as adesire, not an expectation or a goal, all of which you are able to dobecauseyouhavebeendeprogrammedandreprogrammed.Doingwhateveryoudoinloveforeverythirty-minuteperiodfortherestofyourlifemayseemverydifficultnow.ButIpromisethatitwillget easier as you continue to heal and change your underlyingprogramming.Withtherightprogramming, it’saseasyassittingdownat the keyboard and typing in basic commands. The difficult partbecomesnotactinginloveandfocusingonthepresentmoment!To finish out this step, write down on the following page how youactuallyseeyourselfdoingandaccomplishingthespecificsuccessgoalsyoulistedinthefirstsetofblanks.Whatareyougoingtodo?Howareyougoingtodoitinloveasbestyoucan?Whatmentalpreparationwillyouneedtodoonthewaytoyourdesiredresult?

9. Find or develop an organizational system to get those tasksdoneinawaythat’smostefficientforyou.It’s time to return toapoint Imadeback in the introduction.Whenlivinginloveforthenextthirtyminutesisyourpracticalgoal,itdoesn’tmean you ignore all the details of getting things done. You will stilladdress every detail that needs to be done towalk in the direction ofyourdesire.Infact,you’llfindthatifyoufollowthisSuccessBlueprint,you’ll complete all the necessary details even better than you would

have if you had focused on the external details, because your stressresponseisnolongersabotagingyou.So you need to examine your personality and work habits anddetermine how you work best, and find or develop an organizationalsystem(suchasStephenR.Covey’sThe7HabitsofHighlyEffectivePeople,David Allen’s Getting Things Done, or any tried-and-true productivitymethod) that will help you keep track of all the details you need tomanage in order towork responsibly and efficiently. For some of youthatwill include calendars and scheduling tasks,whether on paper orelectronically. Forothers, rather thanwriting thingsdown, itmay justmean doing the things you know you need to do in themoment. Forexample,mywife, Hope, is extraordinarily detail oriented and alwayswrites everythingdownaheadof time: sheplans every event and taskwellinadvance,keepsdetailedchecklistsalongtheway,andchecksandrechecksthosechecklists.I’mago-with-the-flowguy—IjustdowhateverIknowIneedtodointhemoment,andsomehoweverythingmanagestoget done, eventually. (My wife marvels at how much I’m able to getdonethisway,andImarvelatherabilitytotrackeverydetail.)Ifyoudosomeresearchandaskaround,you’llfinddozensofdifferentready-to-use systems “guaranteed” to increase productivity, but I’vefoundthebestwaytodoit istocomeupwithyourownsystemthat’ssimple and intuitive to you. The right system will support yourproductivity, rather than feel like an extra burdensome chore. Theimportantthingis to findanorganizationalsystemthatworksforyou,evenifittakessometrialanderrortofindtherightapproach.10.Walkinthedirectionofyourdesirebycompletingthetasksforthenextthirtyminuteswithtwogoals:completingyourtasksinlove, and making sure your tasks are in harmony with yourultimatesuccessgoalfromstep1.Once you have been deprogrammed and reprogrammed regardingyour success issues and have followed the process, you have only twojobstodo:(1)Completeyourtasksinharmonywithlove,alwaysbeingopen to change, newdirections, and newpeople; and (2) Ensure yourtasksareinharmonywithyourultimatesuccessgoal.Note:Ihaveneverdone thisperfectly.Noonehas. If Ihaveadaywhere Idon’tmessupfive times, it’s been an extraordinary day. This Success Blueprint isdesignedtohelpyouwalkinlove—butbeatingyourselfupisnotbased

in love. It violates the system, causes you stress, and undermines thewholeprocess.Sodon’tdoit!Keep walking it out until the perfect result happens for you. Youractual end resultmay look just like the desire you envisioned, itmaylooknothinglikethedesireyouenvisioned,oritmaybesomewhereinbetween. For example, as youwalk toward the desire of starting yourownbusiness,youmaydecidetostartagraphicdesignservice.Youstartsmall, doing free work for the nonprofit you volunteer for, andeventually through talking toa lotofpeopleaboutyournewbusiness,you get your first paying project. Then you get another, and another.Eighteenmonthslater,oneofyourveryfirstclients,whohadbeenverypleasedwithyourwork,tellsyouthathercompanyislookingforapart-time marketing designer and she invites you to apply. You decide tosend in your résumé and some samplework. After an interview, theyofferyouthejob—andfrankly,ajobisalotmoreappealingtoyouthanthepressureofbeingself-employed.Youdecidetotakethejob.Doesthatmeanyoufailedatachievingyourdesire?No!Becauseyouwere focused on living in love in the moment, you were capable ofbuilding a positive relationship with a client who not only wasimpressedwithyourwork,butalsosensedthatyou’dbeapositiveteammember. If you were head-down focused on starting your business asyour primary goal, youmay have been less attentive to this client, orsimplythoughtthejobopportunitywasn’tforyoubecauseyourgoalwastostartyourownbusiness.Instead,youkeptyourultimatesuccessgoalinmind(peace),andthereasonsbehindwhyyouhadthisdesiretostartabusinessinthefirstplace(toincreasemonthlyincome).Thepart-timejobopportunityendedupbeinganequalorevengreatersuccessforyoubecauseyoukeptyourstressresponseturnedoffandyouwereopentochangingdirection.11.Onceyoubegin towalk thisdesireout,andyou feel ready,youcanrepeatsteps2–10toworkonanothersuccessissue.Bealittlecarefulhere.Workingonmultipleissuesatoncecanbecomestressful inandof itself.Alwaysdowhat feelspeaceful.But ifyoufeelready, once you’ve established the habit of walking out your successdesire,youcanrepeattheprocessandbeginworkingonanothersuccessissue.Ifyou’reactivelywalkingoutthebestsuccessforyouinstartingasmall business, you can return to step 1 and begin working on your

marriage relationship, for instance. I have some clients who haveachievedtensuccessdesires,andthey’recurrentlyworkingonfivemore,continuingtocheckinwithmeonaregularbasis.Also, inaddition tousing theSuccessBlueprint for long-term issues,

youcanalsouseitforshort-termormaintenanceissues.Ifyoufeelstressordiscouragementoranger,ornoticenegativethoughtsorbeliefssuchasWhydidIevertakethison?Idon’tknowwhatI’mdoing—I’mnevergoingtobeabletodothis,justusethesameprocessandtoolsforthatemotionorbeliefinthemoment.IwanttoreiteratewhatIsaidbefore:don’tworryaboutfollowingthe

SuccessBlueprintperfectly.Asyoubegintofollowit,youwillmessup,stumble,andfallfromtimetotime.Nobigdeal.Thelovingthingtodointhatsituationistoforgiveyourself,thengetbackontrackandgoatitagain.Thelongeryoufollowthisblueprint,thebetterandbetteryou’lldo.Andthebetteryoudo,thehappieryouwillbe.Afteryougetprettygoodatlivinginloveinthepresentmoment,don’tbesurprisedifpeoplestart saying things like “What’s going on with you?” or “What’shappened to you?” What they’re thinking is, Wow, I want some ofwhateveryouhave!Becausethisiswhateverybodyreallywants:toliveinlove every moment of every hour of every day. Success, happiness,health,andeverythingelseweallwantfloweffortlesslyoutoflove.Ibelievewithallmyheartthatsuccessiswaitingforyou:yourperfect

success,unlikeanyoneelse’s.Itmayinvolvemoneyornot,fameornot,achievementornot.Butitwillbejustrightforyou,andyouwillknowthat in your bones when you get there. This success is not based ontrying harder, world peace, a bull market economy, other people, oreven the physiology of your body. No bone, blood, or tissue has tochange,andwhereyouarerightnowistheperfectplacetostart.Infact,whereyouarerightnowmaybewhereyouhavebeenwaitingallyourlifetostartfrom,evenifit’sinthegutter.Foryoutohaveyourultimatesuccess,nothingexternalorinternalhastophysicallychange.Younowhavetheprinciples,process,andallthetoolsyouneed.Atthesametime,IwanttoremindyouoftheparadoxoftheGreatest

Principle: giving up the expectation of external results is the best andmaybetheonlywayyouwillget thebestexternal results foryou.TheGreatestPrincipleistrulyhowyoucanhaveitall:internalandexternalsuccess,withhappiness,contentment,andpeace.

Remember,inthelongterm:

Loveneverfails!Fearneversucceeds!

Whatisyourchoice?

quickreference

THETENSTEPSOFTHEGREATESTPRINCIPLESUCCESSBLUEPRINT

1.Determineyourultimatesuccessgoal: the inwardstatesuchaslove,joy,orpeacethatyouwantmost.

2. Name a success desire that youwould like to work towardand achieve in your life—one that is in truth, in love, andconsistentwithyourultimatesuccessgoalfromstep1.

3.Envisionthatsuccessdesireactuallycomingtofruition.

4.Listthenegativefeelingsorbeliefsthatarisefromenvisioningyoursuccessdesireandrateeachonascaleof0to10.

5. Use the Three Tools (the Energy Medicine tool, theReprogrammingStatementstool,andtheHeartScreentool)todeprogram the negatives from step 4. Use these tools untilyournegativebeliefsnolongerbotheryou(oryou’dratethembelowa1ona10-pointscale).

6. Once all your negatives are gone, use the same tools toreprogram a supersuccess memory for the positive successdesireyouenvisionedinstep3.Usethetoolsuntilyouhaveapositivesenseof“IbelieveIcandothis!”(oryou’drateyourpositivesenseata7orhigherona10-pointscale).

7.Beginaforty-dayperiodwiththegoalofkeepingthesescoresatthesamelevel,withthenegativebeliefsaboutyourdesirebelow a 1 (i.e., “They don’t bother me anymore”) and thepositive senseaboutachievingyourdesireabovea7 (i.e., “IbelieveIcandothis!”).Afterfortydays,mostpeoplearefullydeprogrammed and reprogrammed about their success issue,

withtheirnegativesbelowa1andtheirpositivesenseata7orhigherwithoutusingthetools.Ifyournegativebeliefsarestill bothering you and/or you still don’t feel ready to startworkingtowardyourdesire,startanotherforty-dayperiod.

8. Set your specific success goals using the Greatest Principle.They are based in truth, in love, 100 percent under yourcontrol,andabletobedoneinthepresentmoment(onceyouhavebeenreprogrammed).

9.Findordevelopanorganizationalsystemtogetyourspecificsuccessgoalsdoneinawaythat’smostefficientforyou.

10. Walk in the direction of your desire by completing yourspecificsuccessgoalsinlove,focusingonthepresentmoment(oronthenextthirtyminutes).

conclusion

LOVETRULY

I’dliketoreturntothepromiseImadeatthebeginningofthisbook:IbelievethattheGreatestPrincipleSuccessBlueprintisthekeytosuccessineveryareaofyourlife.It’snotamatterofwhetherthiswillworkforyou.Theonlyquestioniswhetheryouwilldoit.Ifyoudoit, italwaysworks.Andnowyouhaveallthetools,andthefullsetofinstructions,tolivealifebeyondwillpower,andachievehappinessandsuccessbeyondyourhopesanddreams.AsIsaidbefore,Ibelievethattwentyyearsfromnow,practicingthe

GreatestPrinciple(orsomethinglikeit)willbethenormforcounselingandtherapy,peakperformanceinathleticsandachievement,corporatetraining, andmore. I have used it in all these contexts,with fabulousresults.Itprovideswhatourcurrentparadigmsaremissingbutwhatisdesperately needed: deprogramming our human hard-drive viruses,reprogramming for success, and then focusing on peak positiveperformanceinthepresentmoment.The truth is, I could keep helping people find success in their lives,

one person at a time, for a very long time. I have a personal clientwaitinglistanddowebinarsandremotecoaching.I’vetriedtomultiplymyselfby trainingcoacheswhopracticeallover theworld, andwe’vebuilt the largest practice of its kind worldwide, with clients in all 50states and 158 countries (and counting). But how many people can Ihelpthisway?Whateverthatnumberis,it’snotenough.Weneedmillions—tens ofmillions—of people throughout theworld

livinginlove.Loveistheanswertoallglobalconflict,alldifficultiesinrace relations, all economic problems, and all environmentaldegradation. Love is the ancient solution to every problemwe have. I

wrotethisbooksothatanyoneandeveryonecouldhaveaccess to thissolution in the most simple and straightforward way possible, and sothatsharingitwouldn’tdependontheeffortsofaselectfew.SoIamonamission.MymissionincludestheGreatestPrincipleandhelpingyoulivealifebeyondwillpowerandexpectations,butitismuchbigger than that. My mission is to live according to the principles ofnonreligious,practicalspiritualityandhelpotherstodothesame.Itistohelponepersonatatimeshift fromlivinginfear, focusedonthepastand the future, to living in love, focused on the presentmoment.Anyproblemorcrisis—yourtumors,yourrelationships,terrorism,economicdisasters—canbetracedbacktosomeonenotrunningdecisionsthroughtwoprimaryfilters,whicharemytwo-pointcriteriaforeverythingIdo,think,feel,andbelieve:

1. Is this in harmony with my ultimate success goal, and theinwardstateI“really”wantmost?

2.Isthisinharmonywithlivingthenextthirtyminutesinlove?

Thistwo-partfilteristheessenceofnonreligious,practicalspirituality.It determines my every decision and every action. My filter is notwhether somethingmakesmoney. It’s not any particular achievement.Theforty-dayprocessismydesire,orwhatI’mhopingfor,andsetsthedirection Iwalk in. But in terms ofmy daily goals and actions, if theactionisnotintruthorlove,ifit’sfearbasedorfalsehoodbased,Iwillnotdoit.I’mcallingthismission“LoveTruly.”Not“truelove,”whichtendstosignify findingsomethingbyaccident, likeapennyon theground. I’mtalkingaboutanactiveverb,notanoun.Lovingtrulyisafeeling,belief,experience, and commitment of the heart that is beyondwords, and aconsciousintentiontoalwaysactinthebestinterestofeveryoneinyourlife both physically in the external world and through your spiritualhearttechnology.Youcouldalsothinkofitas“defactolove,”basedonour definitions of placebo, nocebo, and defacto in chapter 3. To lovetrulyissomethingyoucanchooseeverymomentofeveryday,onceyouhavebeendeprogrammedandreprogrammedeitherbythetoolsorthetransformationalaha and then plug into God/source/love. If you love

truly,itwillchangeyouontheinside,thenchangeyouontheoutside,andthenwill transformyourhome, friends,work, finances,andsoon.If, after deprogramming and reprogramming, you consciously andintentionally love (as an active verb) in the presentmoment, youwillhave love (the noun) come to you from all directions. However, thistypicallydoesnothappeninreverse.Ifyouarejusttryingtofindloveorhaveitfalloutoftheskytoyou,itmayneverhappen.ThisLoveTrulymovement isnonjudgmental, andabout loving trulyregardless of one’s circumstances or howothers respond. I am lookingfornewspiritualbrothersandsisterswithwhomto joinhands,onebyone, in this mission. Not brothers and sisters by blood, but by spirit(whichismuchmorepowerfulandrelevant).SoIhavejusttworequests.First,applythisprocesstoyourownlife.Remember, it’s almost impossible for it not to work. No externalcircumstance or blood, bone, or tissue needs to change. This processdependsonlyonwhat is (nonphysically) internal to you. I don’tmeanyouwon’tmessup.That’spartofit,too.Learningtoliveinlovemeansforgivingyourselfwhenyoudon’t follow through,but gettingbackupandtryingagain.I’dliketoreferyoubacktotheendofchapter1,whereIadvisedyouto begin by asking for a transformational aha. Before you start theblueprint,I’dencourageyouagaintoprayandmeditateoverthesebasicconceptsandgiveyourselfthechancetoexperiencethistransformation.In my experience, if you pray and meditate consistently and for longenough(i.e.,therighttimeforyou,individually),itoftenhappens.Feelfree to do this while you are also using the Three Tools. The twoapproaches do not have to be done separately. Again, it isn’t aboutwillpower—it’s about allowing love to work through you. And, ofcourse, there’s always themanualway, through theGreatest PrincipleSuccessBlueprint,whichyou’llfindonthelastpagesofchapter7.Second,onceyou’vecompletedtheprocessandaretrulylivingoutallthepositiveeffects,ifyoubelievetheGreatestPrinciplereallyisthekeytosuccessineverythingyou’vebeenstrugglingwith,mysecondrequestisforyoutoshareit.Infact,I’monmyknees,beggingyoutoshareit.Even more, I ask you to spread the word about living according tononreligious,practicalspirituality.ThisisexactlywhyIwrotethisbookinthefirstplace.Don’tmisunderstand:Iamnotsayingthistosellmore

books.Youcanloanyourbooktosomeone,orexplaintheprinciplesandtoolstoafriendoverapizza.Ifyou’relivinginlove,andyouhavetheantidote to what ails your family, your friends, and your neighbors,you’renotgoingtobeabletokeepittoyourself.That’swhatloveis!If,afterdoingallthis,yourealizethatyouwouldliketobeapartof

thisLoveTrulymission,Iinviteyoutoturntotheepiloguethatfollows.Youdon’tneedtheepiloguetoputtheGreatestPrincipleintopracticeinany way; you already have everything you need in the precedingchapters. But if you have completed the deprogramming andreprogrammingworkandwouldlikeaglimpseofwhatitreallymeanstoliveinlovepracticallyforthelongterm,keepreading.Ifyou’dliketoshareyourexperienceswiththeGreatestPrinciplewith

me,I’dlovetohearfromyou.Visitwww.beyondwillpowernow.com.Mylovegoesouttoyou—continuously!

epilogue

PRACTICALSPIRITUALITY

Imagineyou’revisitingafriendand,uponyourarrival,asyouapproachthe front door, you notice a junk car in his driveway. It’s in terribleshape—thebodyisallrustedout,thehood’sup,theengine’sgone,andtheupholstery’sbeyondrepair.Youlookatthatcar,rollyoureyes,andsay,“There’snowaythatcar’sgoingtorunagain.”Thenext timeyouvisit, the car isn’t there anymore.One year later, you visit again, andyour friendhasanewcar in thedriveway. Itsbodyshineswithglossyredpaintandshinychrometrim,itssoftleatherupholsterylookstopoftheline,andwhenyourfriendproudlyliftsthehood,youseeabrand-new300-horsepowerengine.“Wow,when’dyougetthis?”youaskyourfriend.“Oh,thisisthatjunkcarI’vebeenworkingon,”hereplies.You’restunned.Whatatransformation!That’showIfeelwheneverIseesomeonetransformfromlivinginfear

to living in love. Idon’thave thewords todescribe it.The results areliterallynightandday.TheGreatestPrincipleoffersexactlythiskindoftotalrestoration.Itprovidesthetoolsyouneedtostitchyourselfupandtheantisepticyouneedsoyoudon’tget infectedintheprocess.ButasmiraculousandtransformationalastheGreatestPrincipleis,it’sonlythebeginning—justlikeitwasonlythebeginningfortherestoredcar.Youwouldn’tleavethenewcarjustsittinginyourdriveway,wouldyou?No—you’dwanttodriveitaroundeverywhereyouwent!There’sanentireworldavailabletoyoufarbeyondwhatyou’veimagined.In this epilogue, I’d like to leavea fewbreadcrumbs towardapath

thatleadsfarbeyondyourpersonalsuccessanduptothemountaintopoflife.Ifyoulookaheadtowherethebreadcrumbslead,youwillseebefore you an ancient door. It looks like it hasn’t been opened for

centuries, and youwould have passed it right by if the bread crumbshadn’t led you to it. Now that you’ve noticed it, however, you feelstrangely drawn to it. Above this ancient door something is written,althoughitisdifficulttoread.Aftersomeeffort,youcanmakeoutthewordsPracticalSpirituality.You thennoticeaveryagedanddiscoloredpaper nailed to the door. In smudged calligraphy, the first line reads,“TheTenetsofPracticalSpirituality:TheWayofTruth,Love,andGraceforAllWhoSeektoEnter.”This epilogue does not contain the full contents of the documentattachedtothedoor,butitwillgiveyouenoughofatastetodecideifyouwant toopen thatdoorandwalk through. Ihave spentmyentirelifepraying,searching,traveling,studying,andtestingvariousprinciplestoarriveatthisbeliefsystem.Iwouldliketoinviteyoutoconsiderthefollowingtruthswithanopenmind.Iftheydon’tresonatewithyou,noproblem—I thank you sincerely for considering them. If they domakesensetoyou,Iwouldbehonoredtohaveyouasafellowtraveler!Ofcourse, ifyouenter,youcandecideto leaveanytime.However, Ihaveneverseenanyonechoosethat.WhatItypicallyhearissomethinglike“Ican’timagineeverlivinganyotherway!”

Practicalspiritualityisallaboutresults.Youprobablyboughtthisbookbecause you want success and happiness, and you want to overcomefailure, healthproblems, andunhappiness.Youwant results. Sowhichworldview, belief system, or paradigm gets you what you want, andwhichtakesyouwhereyoudon’twanttogo?Toanswerthatquestion,webeginatwhatmaybeasurprisingplace:the human body. Aswe learned in the previous chapters,we have nomechanisms in thebody that produceunhappiness, negative emotions,or disease, only those that produce happiness and health. When weexperiencenegativesymptoms,physicallyornonphysically,itisalwaysthe result of a malfunction of these success- and health-producingmechanisms.Sowhatcausesthebodytomalfunction?Younowknow the answer to that question: fear. Ifwe arenot in atrulylife-threateningemergency,fearinourunconscious,subconscious,andconsciousmindalwayscausesamalfunction(knownasstress)that

leads to darkness in the body’s cells and energy systems, which overtimeleadstoillness,disease,failure,andunhappiness.On the other hand, love in our unconscious, subconscious, andconsciousmind always eliminates the effects of fear and stress,whichallows the body’s healing systems towork theway they are designed,and success, happiness, and health follow. Love in the mind alwaysmanifestsaslightinthebody’scellsandenergysystems,whichleadstocorrectfunctioningandthereforehealth,success,andhappiness.AstheHarvardGrantStudyconfirmed,“Happinessislove.Fullstop.”1What is true physically is also true spiritually. If yourworldview isbased in fear,oranyversionof thepain/pleasureprinciple,cause-and-effectprinciple,orNewton’sthirdlawofmotion,itwillproduceillness,disease,failure,andunhappiness.Nomatterhowlongit’sbeenpracticedorwhoendorsesit.

In our discussion of practical spirituality, let’s begin with the term“spiritual.”Ibelievetherearefourpointsofevidencefortheexistenceofthespiritual,orlove/source/God:

1.Theheartscreenandthelatestneurologicalresearch.Aswealready know, the heart screen is the creative force fromwhicheverythingweseewasbuilt,andyetsciencehasnotbeenabletofind any evidence of a physical screen or mechanism for theimagination. I believe it’s because the heart screen is in thespiritual realm. That’s how Dr. Eben Alexander experienced his“proof of heaven” when all his neural mechanisms werenonfunctional. Remember, based on the latest neurological research, thenumberonefactorthathealsandpreventslong-termproblemsinour brain is our connection to the spiritual, specifically throughprayer and belief.2 (The health of our brain also determineswhether our failure mechanism is turned on, or our successmechanism is turned on.)3 Aswe learned in chapter 3, the onlykind of belief that really works long term is defacto belief, or

believing the truth.So ifbelieving ina spiritual realityproducesreliablelong-termresults,thisbeliefmustindeedbetrue!

2 The vast majority of people believe it (approximately 97percent, based on statistics), yet it has the least empiricalevidence.Wementionedthispointinchapter3.Galileowasostracizedwhenhesaidthattheearthrevolvesaroundthesuninsteadoftheotherwayaround,eventhoughhewasright.IgnazPhilippSemmelweis,M.D.,wasalaughingstockinthemedicalfieldbecauseheinsistedon washing his hands before surgery, believing there wereinvisible things called germs, and was eventually forced out ofmedicine altogether. Medical doctors told us for years thatnutritionalsupplementsmerelyproduced“expensiveurine.”Yetineach of these cases we now almost universally believe theopposite. Why? Now we can see the evidence! Historically, themajoritybeliefhasvirtuallyalwaysbeenwithwhatisclearlyandempiricallyobservableandmeasurable.Inthiscaseitshouldmeanthat the vast majority believes that nothing exists beyond thephysical,orwhatwecanseeandmeasure.Yettheoppositeistrue.I don’t know if you could find a 97 percent level of universalagreement on any other issue—even if it’s that the sky is blue!Howcanthathappen?Becausewehavesomethinginsideusthattellsusthespiritualisreal.Andthatbringsustonumber3.

3.Theexistenceofgraceandlove.Peoplewhomwetrulylovewenaturallyandautomaticallytreatwithgrace.Gracesimplymeansunconditional love, acceptance, or offering forgiveness andkindnessevenwhensomeonedoesn’tdeserveit,andthepowertodowhatcannotbedonebywillpowerorthenatural.Peoplewhomwedon’tlovewetendtonaturallytreataccordingtokarmaorlaw(treatingthemexactlyastheydeserveaccordingtoalistofrules,orbyWIIFM—what’sinitforme).Ifwestoplovingsomeone,wewilltendtoshiftfromgracetokarma;ifwestartlovingsomeone,wewilltendtoshiftfromkarmatograce.Lovecomesfromgraceand leads back to it. As we’ll discuss in more detail, grace issupernatural by definition, because it violates the natural lawof

everything in the physical universe—Newton’s third law ofmotion, stimulus/response, cause/effect, you reapwhat you sowandgetbackwhatyougive.Infact,mostofthetime,lovedefiesbasic human logic—just as the supernatural does. So love is theproof of grace, and grace is the proof of the supernatural, orspiritual.

4.Personalexperience.This lastpieceofevidence is theonethatmeans themost tome,butpossibly the least toyou.And that isthe fact that I have experienced it. In fact, I am experiencing itright now. If you don’t believe there can be no other evidencemoreconvincingthanourpersonalexperience,trytellingapersonwho is trulyheadoverheels in lovewith someone that theyarenot in love with them, that it’s just some chemical anomaly intheir brain. Then try telling them that the other person doesn’tlove them either. Finally, tell them that love doesn’t even exist.Butdo thisverycarefully,because they justmightpunchyou inthenose.Yousee,it’snotthatbigadealifsomeonetellsyouthattheydon’tlikeyourcar,ortheydisagreewithDemocrats,ortheybelievepeopleinthenortheasternUnitedStatesaresmarterthanthose in the South. Those opinions usually stimulate livelyconversation,withpoints onboth sides.Most times it even endsup friendly, with both sides agreeing to disagree. But whensomeone experiences the “real thing”way down deep, and thenyou tell them it’s not real—well, “them’s fighting words!” Youcannot be convinced what you’ve experienced doesn’t exist,becauseyouhaveexperiencedit.

Now let’s talk about the “practical” aspect of practical spirituality.Overtheyears,Ihaveobservedfourdistinctcategoriesofspirituality.

1.Religious.Thereligioustendtomakespiritualityaboutrulesandthe judgment associated with adhering to rules, instead of loveandfreedom.Theircredoisthatyoureapwhatyousow,andtheirfocus is on external goals and expectations accomplished bywillpower.Another name for this is karma,which is the natural

lawoftheuniverse.Basedoneverythingwehavelearnedthusfar,weknowthatthisapproachis fearbasedratherthanlovebased.Sometimes the leaders of religious groups have commonalitieswithpoliticians,wherepower,control,andmoneyreign—butnotalways.

2. Nonspiritual. Because those who deny the existence of thespiritualatallonlybelieveinthenaturallaws,theyareinherentlyrelegated to the principle of cause and effect, or karma, andthereforealsohaveaworldviewbasedinfear.Theyfeartheeffectorresultthattheydon’twant,orofnotgettinganeffectthattheydowant.

3. Impractical spirituality. This category includes thosewho talkaboutthespiritual,maycallthemselves“NewAge,”andtypicallyfollowthelawofattraction,alsoknownasthelawof“likes.”Theymaybeamongtheclosesttotruespirituality,buttheirspiritualityisimpracticalbecauseitcanrarelyproducetheresultstheywant.Theytalkaboutlivinginloveandnonjudgment(andmeanit),yettheircredotendstobethelawofattraction,yetanothernameforthecause-and-effectprinciple,andtheinherentjudgmentbasedonthatphysical law.Fear,not love,comesfromthephysical lawofcauseandeffect.Lovecomesfromspiritualgraceandviolatesthephysicalcause-and-effectlaws—always.Also,thelawofattractionsaysthatIgetwhatIputout.Likeattractslike.IfIputoutgoodthoughts,feelings,beliefs,andactions,Igetgoodback.IfIputoutpositiveenergy,Igetpositivethingsinreturn.IfIputoutnegativeenergy,Igetnegativethingsinreturn.Butgeneratingthepositiveenergy is left up to my willpower, in order to secure positivefuture results. So if I have a problem, the solution is my ownwillpower focusedonanexpectation—whichasweknowcannotresult in real love and lasting, perfect success. The wordmanifesting is common in impractical spirituality, in statementssuchas“manifestanythingnow!” Itactuallymanifests stressandmalfunctionnow!Thisworldview tends tobe fearmasqueradingaslove.

All three of the above are focused on realizing a future expectationthroughwillpower and,worse yet, trying to create the spiritual (love,joy,peace)throughphysicallawsandmechanisms.Again,theprinciplesofcauseandeffect,stimulus/response,“reapwhatyousow,”karma,thelawof“likes,”andthelawofattractionareallbasedonNewton’sthirdlawofmotion:foreveryaction,thereisanequalandoppositereaction.A quick online search will reveal that the expert practitioners andstandardteachingsoftheseprinciplesallsaythesamething:youknowwhat you’re going to get, every time. But also by definition, theseprinciples shift your mind and body into stress, which causes you tomalfunction.Howlongdoyoumalfunction?Aslongasyouarelivingbythoselaws,whichformostpeopleistheirwholelife.Itjustwon’twork!

4.Practical spirituality. In contrast, practical spirituality is basedon the principle of love. Love directly violates the universalphysical laws of nature, and Newton’s third law in particular.Why?Likedoesn’talwaysattractlike.Withlove,youneverknowwhatyouwillget.Sometimesyouget loveback,butmanytimesyoudon’t. It is alwaysanadventure.Thinkof the truenatureofparenting, marriage, and friendships. There are no guaranteesregarding end results. That’s because love is not of the physicalworld,itisofthespiritualrealm.

This“roadless traveled” includesthosefewwhogenuinelyplug intothesupernaturalandgiveupcontrol.Thismeanstheygiveupexternalexpectations(butnothope),andknowtheycan’tliveinlovewiththeirwillpower alone. By giving up control and plugging into God/source/love,theyautomaticallyreceivegrace—theonlytrulylove-basedwaytolive,andthepower toproducesupernatural liferesults.Thentheycanliveinthepresentmomentinlove,comingfromaninwardstateoflove,which produces their perfect external results constantly. This groupincludesGandhi,MotherTeresa,Jesus,andmanyotherless-than-famouspeacefulspirits.Ibelievethatifanopen-mindedpersoncanunderstandthewholetruthandbedeprogrammedandreprogrammedbyprayer,atransformationalaha,orenergy-basedtools,theywillinherentlychoosethispath,withorwithoutthisbook.

Ibelievethattherearepeopleonthis“roadlesstraveled”allovertheworld,inallthegroupslisted,andmeetinginbuildingswithalltypesofnamesonthem.Practicalspiritualitysimplymeanslivingfromaheartoflove, plugged into the source of love. Those who follow practicalspiritualitylivebythe“lawwrittenontheirhearts,”nomatterhowtheywereraised,whattheirpainis,whattheydesirebutdonothave,orthenameoftheirgroup.In fact, it’s virtually impossible to tell whether someone is livingaccordingtopracticalspiritualitybasedonthegrouptheyassociatewithoreventhewordstheyuse.Thereisonlywaytotellforsure—theywill“love truly” and be at peace at virtually all times, regardless of theircircumstances.Thereareatleasttwowaystotellwhensomeoneisnotliving in accordance with practical spirituality. The first is if theyexperience emotions in the anxiety or anger categories. Even if theyconstantlytalkaboutloveandlight,orsmileandhugeasilyandsaythey“love everyone,” people with religious, nonspiritual, or impracticalspiritual worldviews are pretty quick to experience anxiety, anger,irritation,frustration,orjudgment(especiallytowardpeopleintheothergroups), and they are more likely to have health problems. As welearnedinchapter5,experiencinganyemotionintheangercategoryisproof that you have a stress goal, or a fear-based goal focused on anexternal circumstance achieved through willpower. In other words,almost any expression of anxiety or anger (with the exception of“righteous” anger) indicates that individuals are living according to asystembasedonthelawofcauseandeffectintheirspiritualheart,eveniftheywouldneveradmititordon’tevenrealizeit.Forexample,inmyexperience, nonspiritual people tend not to like people in spiritual orreligiousgroupsandsometimesmayfeelsuperiortothem.Howcantheybe so gullible? they think. The religious usually seem afraid of and/orangry with those in the other groups and may even see them as theenemy.Thoselivingaccordingtoimpracticalspiritualitytypicallyaccepteveryone except the religious and are often angered by their narrow-mindedness.Theimpracticallyspiritualwillalsotendtothinktheyareliving in practical spirituality, even though they feel/think/believe/actaccordingtotheprincipleofcauseandeffect,orfear-basedlaw.On theotherhand, theproofof practical spirituality is experiencingclose to 100percent unconditional love and acceptance, nonjudgment,

and the resulting internal love, joy,peace,health,happiness, patience,and understanding, regardless of your circumstances or whether thecompany you are in agrees or disagrees with you. In my experience,peoplelivinginpracticalspiritualitytrulyloveandrespectpeopleinallgroupsandreligions.Theyseetheirjobasnottojudgeorconvert,buttolove,withnostringsattached.Thesecondindicationyouarenotlivinginaccordancewithpracticalspiritualityisunforgiveness. Ihaveneverseenahealthissuewithoutaforgiveness issue.My colleagueBen Johnson says he has never seen acancerwithoutaforgivenessissue.Unforgivenessisexperiencedonthepath of fear, action/reaction, cause/effect, and law. Forgiveness isexperienced on the path of grace and love. By “forgiveness,” I meanforgiving yourself, forgiving others, forgiving everyone—withoutrequiring them to “pay” for theirmistakes. You knowwhen you havetruly forgiven someone when you 100 percent unconditionally acceptthemasapersonwithouttheirhavingto“makeitright.”Most who have trouble forgiving, or simply refuse to forgive, arelivingby law,notgrace—and theymay tend toapply this standard tothemselves aswell. They are living in an earthly hell, because no onecan “do everything right”;we are all stumbling forward.According tothe law of cause and effect, “doing things wrong” means getting theresultswedidn’twantorwereafraidof.By the way, 100 percent acceptance of the person does not meanacceptingthebehavior.Youcanacceptthepersonwithoutacceptingthebehavior.What it doesmean is that the behavior does not define thatperson,justasyoursdoesnotdefineyou.Ifwearejudgedaccordingtoourbehavior,wearealldoomed.

Practical spirituality, or living in the present moment in love, is notintendedtobebasedonwillpower,oratleastnomorewillpowerthanittakestobrushyourteeth.Oneimportantwaytoreducetheamountofwillpoweritwilltaketoloveis,ofcourse,todeprogramtheinwardstateof fear and reprogram a state of internal love, so love becomes yourdefault state and feels almost effortless. But there’s another veryimportantway,andthatistointentionallyplugintothesourceoflove

itself.Aswesaidearlierinthebook,everyissueboilsdowntoarelationship

issue—whichhastoincludeourrelationshipwithGod/source/love.I’mnot here to define that for you, but I do believe this is why virtuallyevery civilization in history has believed in something beyondthemselves, even if it’s not logical to the naturalmind.We inherentlyknewthatweneedandwantlovemorethananythingelse—wellbeforewehadthescientificevidencethatlinkedlovetohappinessandsuccess.In the same way, we also inherently know that there is a God or aspiritual reality, even though it doesn’t make logical sense (as far aswhatwecanseeandmeasureinthenatural).Webelieveinaspiritualrealityandinlovebecausewehaveabuilt-inmechanismtoseekGod/source/love,which is thesourceof loveandwhatweareprogrammedinternallyforandneedmost.Inotherwords,weneedtobepluggedintotheheartscreenofGod/source/love—that’sourserver.Virtuallyeverythingthatexistscanbeclassifiedasfrequency(energy)

andamplitude(power).Frequencyisthespecificthing,andamplitudeishowmuchofitthereis,orhowmuchpowerithas.Sotoliveintruthand love, you need the grace/love/truth frequency with enoughamplitudetoeliminatethefear/falsehoodprogramming.Tochooselove,yousimplyneedtoplugintothesourceoflove.Ifyoubelievethatyouarethesourceofgraceandlove,sothatyoudon’tneedto“plugin”tothesource,Iwouldaskyoutodothis.Exertyourpowerandcausethethingsyouwant inyour life tohappennow—andcausethethingsyoudon’twanttobeeliminatednow.Theclinicalresearchonthisindicatesthatpeoplewhobelieveandtrytodothisaresuccessfulapproximatelyonetimeinamillion.Itismypositionthatifyoureallyare“thesource”and you really are “the power,” the percentagewould be significantlybetter—somethinglikehavingwhatyouwanthappen97percentofthetime (the percentage of time I would claim the Greatest Principle issuccessful).Lovedoeseliminatefear,andlightdoeseliminatedarkness,but there has to be enough love and light for the amount of fear anddarkness. A penlight won’t light up a stadium, but the stadium lightswill.IhavefoundthatIdon’thaveenoughpowertoeliminateorovercome

my internal fear/falsehood, pain/pleasure programming. However, Ihave also discovered that love/source/God is everywhere and in

everything.Andlove/source/Godhasmorethanenoughof thespecificfrequency and amplitude I need to eliminate my fear/falsehoodprogrammingandliveinlightandlove.Becauselove/source/Godisallandinall,IcanplugintothatspiritualWi-Fiserveranytime,anywhere,andbeconnectedtoexactlywhatIneed.Everypersonisbuiltanddesignedtoliveinlove,joy,andpeace.After

all,ifwedon’t,ourmechanismsstarttomalfunction.Thefearresponseis only supposed to kick in when we are in imminent danger, thenimmediately turn off when the danger has passed. We comepreprogrammedwithourownpersonalbuilt-inspiritualhomingbeacon(what some people call the conscience, and what I call our lovecompass).However, unlesswe actively follow this homingbeaconandseekthesourceofloveandplugintoit,wewillnothaveenoughofthelove/lightfrequencyandamplitude,andwewilldefaulttofear/darknessandcause-and-effectthinking,beliefs,actions,andphysiology.Practical spirituality lives in the present moment in real love and

truth, regardless of the external circumstances or behavior of others,internallypluggedintothesourceoflove,constantlyreceivinggrace.Incontrast, impractical spirituality seeks to “earn and produce” lovethroughthecause-and-effectlawofattraction.Theimpracticaltrytogetlove by doing the right thing, or earning it. The religious also try to“achieve”loveviatheprincipleof“youreapwhatyousow”(i.e.,karmaorlaw)—youhaveto“begoodenough.”Noneoftheseperspectivesareconsistentwiththenatureofreallove—agape,noteros.Real,agapeloveis“free”andcannotbeearned—or lost. Ithasnothing todowithhowgoodorbadyouare.Don’t get me wrong. The law of cause and effect (or karma, or

Newton’s third law of motion) is absolutely real—it operates all day,everyday,inthephysicalworld,justlikegravity.Itisanaturallawthatexistsnowandhassincethedawnoftime.Butinmyopinion,graceissimplyahigherlaw.Itis,infact,theexactoppositeoftheprinciplesofaction/reaction,stimulus/response,andreapingwhatyousow.Itmeansreceiving good from God/source/love, regardless of what I deserve.Graceistheonlychoicethatlovewouldevermakefortheobjectofitslove:forgiveness,mercy,theopportunitytostartoverwithacleanslateand try again. Receiving grace requires giving up the focus on thephysical,materialworldandachievingendresultsthroughwillpower.It

requires plugging into the source/love/God and giving up control inbelief/hope/faith/trust,ratherthantryingtobeyourownsource(whichlimits you to the strength of your willpower). Grace supersedes thenatural cause-and-effect paradigmand is governedby and in harmonywithspirituallove.Inarecentinterview,Bono,theleadsingerforthebandU2,discussed

thisveryissue.Ihavebeenafanforyears,soexcitedlyreadhistake.Hesaidthatgiventhechoice,hedoesn’twanttogetwhathedeservesbasedon karma or the law of attraction. He wants to get what he doesn’tdeserve—grace.Here’swhathesaidaboutit:

It’s amind-blowing concept that the Godwho created the universemight be looking forcompany,areal relationshipwithpeople,but the thing thatkeepsmeonmyknees is thedifference betweenGrace andKarma.… I really believewe’vemoved out of the realmofKarmaintooneofGrace.…Yousee,atthecenterofallreligionsistheideaofKarma.Youknow,whatyouputout comesback toyou: aneye foraneye, a tooth fora tooth,or inphysics;inphysicallawseveryactionismetbyanequaloranoppositeone.It’scleartomethat Karma is at the very heart of the universe. I’m absolutely sure of it. And yet, alongcomes this ideacalledGrace toupendall that“asyoureap, soyouwill sow”stuff.Gracedefiesreasonandlogic.Loveinterrupts,ifyoulike,theconsequencesofyouractions,whichinmycaseisverygoodnewsindeed,becauseI’vedonealotofstupidstuff.…I’dbeinbigtroubleifKarmawasgoingtofinallybemyjudge.I’dbeindeeps—.Itdoesn’texcusemymistakes,butI’mholdingoutforGrace.4

Graceisaparadox,justlikesuccessis.Youmustgiveupwantingandstrivingforwhatyouwant inordertoreceive it.Karmais inharmonywith the way everything in the physical universe works; it’s rightaccordingtologicandreason,ourlegalsystem,ourideaoffairnessandjustice. Grace—receiving not only the good but the absolute best, nomatterwhatyoudo—wouldviolateallthesephysicalandlogicallaws.Itjustdoesn’tmakesense,anditseemsimpossibletomostpeopleIexplainit to. It’s not natural! If grace exists, it would be outside the naturalworkings of the universe. It would have to be supernatural. In otherwords,itwouldhavetobeamiracle.Bingo! That’s exactly right. Grace is a miracle—just as love is a

miracle! It’s supernaturalandevidenceof the spiritual.Thinkabout it:Whywouldyoueverlogicallychoosetodomanyofthethingsthatlove

causes us to do? In the case of marriage and having children, forexample, love causesus pain thatwewouldnot experienceotherwise,costsushundredsofthousandsofdollars,andtakesawayourfreedomtodowhatwewantwhenwewantit.Wewouldhavetochooseloveforareasonthatisillogical,notaccordingtothenaturallaws.Andthereisareason:wehavean inherent, internalknowingbeyondwords that it istheonlythingthatwillgiveuswhatwewantandneedmostatthecoreofourbeing.Sothislifeissomethingofatest.Willyoufollowthenaturallaws,or

thespirituallaws?Willyouchooseloveorfear?Willyouliveaccordingtoaction/reaction,orgrace?Thechoiceisours,withahundreddifferentopportunitiestochooseeveryday.Wewillneverdoitperfectly,butwecanbeontherightpath.

Understandingthepractical,spiritualnatureofloveandfearcompletelychangesourunderstandingof freedomandbondage. If Iamlivingandactingcompletelyinloveandlight,IcandoanythingIwant,anditwillberight.IfIamlivinginfearanddarkness,anythingIdo(outoffearanddarkness) is likely to be wrong. Anything not done in love will bringrottenresults—nevertheresults I“really”want.Anythingdoneinlovewillbringtheperfectresultsintime,eveniftheyareresultsIhadneverimagined.Infact, that’stheonlywayIcanhavetheperfectresults formylife.Butwhenyouchooseanyworldviewbasedinfear,orthelawofcause

andeffect,youarechoosingbondage,becauseyouarechoosingtohavetobeavirtualperfectionistifyouhaveanyhopeofgettingpeakresultsthrough that system. Worse than that, you have to be a successfulperfectionist—andanypsychologistor therapistwill tellyouthat therearefewthingsmoreinternallydamagingthanperfectionismbecauseofthemassivestressitcauses.Why?Notonlyareyoufocusedoncreatingexternal circumstances with your willpower (which we know leads tofailure),youhavetodoitperfectly,ortherewillbearesultthatisnotokaywith you! The next time you blow itmay cause your cancer, oryour failure. Talk about stress! We have billions of well-meaning,wonderfulpeoplewhohaveunknowingly fallen “victim” tooneof the

oldestlawsintheuniverseandarenowinnocentlylivinginbondagetofear. I think this happened largely because people, likeme, started tobecomefedupwithfear-basedreligion,andsotheythrewitoverboardand looked for a better way. However, their new paradigm ended upbeinganothercause-and-effectprinciple,simplyrepackagedandpaintedpretty. But it still puts people in bondage to end results based onwillpower, which ultimately ends in failure—similar to the fear-basedreligiontheyweredeterminedtogetawayfrom.Trueloveandgracefreeusfromendresults.Whenweliveaccording

totheGreatestPrinciple,we’refocusedinternallyonloveinthepresentmoment,notonendresults.Wedon’thavetodoanythingperfectly;wedon’tevenhavetodoitwell.Wehaveanunlimitednumberof“getoutofjailfree”cards,becauseloveforgiveseverymistake,everymissingofthemark,everychoiceof fearover love—evenwhen it’s intentionalandweknowwecouldhavedonebetter.Andtheendresultsthatdooccurarenot dependent on my willpower, but on supernatural power that canproduce the perfect result, beyondmy abilities. So I have no need toworryorbeangry. I canrelaxand trust thateverythingwill comeoutrightformeintheend.Thatistruefreedom.I hope and pray that you will consider making the choice to live

accordingtograceandloveandpracticalspirituality!Idid,andIwouldnever,evergobacktolawandkarma.

Therehasbeena fundamental shifthappening for someyearsnow,allovertheworld.Ihavebeenwatchingitkeenlyforthelasttwentyyears.Inreality ithasbeenhappening forcenturies.However, it seems tobespeedingup,rushingtoaninevitableend.ThisfundamentalshiftIwillcall a polarization of light and darkness. Darkness in the world isbecoming more dense and is spreading. But so is the light. Fear isgrowing by leaps and bounds, recruiting tens of thousands of newconverts each month, but love is doing the same. Falsehood andjudgmentalismhaveassumedattackmodemorethaneverinhistory,ashavetruthandnonjudgmentalacceptance.Chancesareyouaremoreononesideof thispolaritythantheother. Iseepolitics,religion, finance,race,color,andnationalitybeingsomeofthemainculpritsandhavens

ofdarkness.If youbelieve in love and acceptance, you cannot judge another forchoosing fear and rejection. If you do, it means you are guilty ofpreciselywhatyouareaccusingothersof.Judgmentisalwaysconnectedtocomparison.Andcomparisonisalmostalwaysbasedininsecurityorinsignificance issues. Out of our insecurity and insignificance, wecompare ourselves to others and experience superiority or inferiority.Thiscausesustoworryovertheresultsweneedtobeokayandattempttomanipulateeventsandpeopletocreatethoseresults.Alltheseactionsare based on wanting, not peace—and remember, wanting is almostalwaysfearbased.Iftheexperienceofourheartissecureandsafe,wehavenoneedtocompare to pull others down, to try to convey a certain image, or tomanipulate to get a certain end result. And in some instances,comparisoncanbehelpful.Typically we cannot rest, or experience peace, because we feelinsignificant and insecure; we feel we’re not “okay” at the core ofourselves, that something is missing. So we feel we must keep tryingexternally to become okay internally, which is the essence of living inwant.Butifweareokayinternally(i.e.,significantandsecure),wecanbeatpeacewithanyexternalcircumstances,evenifthey’renotwhatwewould prefer. The only thing that can make us okay internally isbecoming deprogrammed and reprogrammed from fear, plugging intoGod/source/love,andchoosingthepathofloveandlightinthepresentmomentcontinually.Inmyexperience,onlyabout1percentofuschoosethepathofloveand light, while the other 99 percent choose the path of fear anddarkness,oftenunconsciously.Howdoyouknowwhichpathyouhavechosen? Again, you know you have chosen the 1 percent path if youexperiencepeaceandjoy,andloveandacceptanceofall, regardlessofyour circumstances or the behavior of others (remember, you canunconditionallyacceptindividualsandnotaccepttheirbehaviororevenspendtimewiththem,ifdoingsoisunhealthy).Yourlegacywillbethesideyouchoose,notinthepast,butfromnowon!Howdoweknowwhichsidewillwin?Putanotherway,whichsidehasthebestresults?Gandhihasalreadytoldus:“Thewayoftruthandlovehasalwayswon,”anditwillwinthiscurrentwarintheendaswell.

So, ifyouareunforgiving, less than100percentaccepting,or judging,youhavechosentoliveunderlawandaretheguiltyoneandareonthelosingside,evenifyouaredoingthosethingsinthenameof“lightandlove.”

So if you resonate with these principles of practical spirituality, andchoosetotrulyliveinlove/light/grace,whatdoyoudonext?Well,thefirststepistheGreatestPrinciple.Youneedtohaveatransformationalaha,ordeprogramandreprogram,so thatyouarecapableof living inlove,andthenyoustartlivinginthepresentmomentinlove,internallypluggedintolove/source/Godcontinually.Butevenafteryoudecide to live in love in thepresentmomentandbecomecapableofdoingso,pluggedintothesource,thatdoesn’tmeanchoosingbetweenthepathof loveandthepathof fear isalwayseasy.Every day, hundreds of different situations and choices will presentthemselveswherethedistinctionbetweenthepathofloveandfearmaynotbecompletelyclear.Iknowthisfromexperience.Infact, forthepasttwenty-fiveyears, Ihaveprayerfullybeendocumentingandfindingsolutionsforhundredsofthesetypesofpracticaldailyeventsforthesakeofmytwosons,HarryandGeorge.Iknewthatsomedaytheywouldbeadults,andifIwasn’taroundforsomereason,Iwantedthemtohaveanowner’smanualfrommeabouthowtoliveoutthiskindofpracticalspiritualityintheirlives.IcallthesetheSpiritualLawsofNature.But that’s adiscussion for another time. Fornow, I pray love, light,andsuccessforyou,everydayandineveryway!

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NOTES

INTRODUCTION

1. Timothy D.Wilson, “Self-Help Books Could Ruin Your Life!,” TheDaily Mail online, August 15, 2011, www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2026001/Self-help-books-ruin-life-They-promise-sell-millions.html#ixzz1ovSZDP2z.

2.FormoreaboutHope’shealing journeyandadifferent setof toolsthathavehealedavarietyofphysicalandemotionalsymptomsatthesubconscious source, see my bestselling book The Healing Code(Hachette,2011),coauthoredwithDr.BenJohnson.ForthoseofyoufamiliarwiththeHealingCodes,youmaybewonderingwhymywifedidnot use theGreatest Principle tohelpheal her healthproblem.First of all, it wasn’t quite ready yet. It took me several years todevelop it enough to use it in my practice, and I was still in theprocess of discovering and developing two of the Three Toolsdescribed in thisbook.Butperhaps,more important, Ihad tried somanythingsonherbythetimeIdiddeveloptheGreatestPrinciple(andnonehadworked)that,quiteunderstandably,shewastryingtofindherownway.Notlongafterthat,theHealingCodesarrived.

3.CortA.Pedersen,UniversityofNorthCarolina–ChapelHill;KerstinUvnas Moberg, The Oxytocin Factor: Tapping the Hormone of Calm,Love,andHealing(Pinter&Martin,2011).

4. “75Years in theMaking:Harvard Just Released Its Epic Study onWhatMenNeed to Live aHappyLife,” FEELguide,April 29, 2013,http://www.feelguide.com/2013/04/29/75-years-in-the-making-harvard-just-released-its-epic-study-on-what-men-require-to-live-a-happy-life/.Thisarticleincludesasynopsisofthestudy,butthefullfindingscanbefoundinGeorgeVaillant,TriumphsofExperience:TheMenoftheHarvardGrantStudy(BelknapPress,2012).

5. Anders Nygren,Agape and Eros: The Christian Idea of Love, trans.PhilipS.Watson(Chicago:UniversityofChicagoPress,1982).

CHAPTER1

1. DanGilbert, “WhyAreWeHappy?WhyAren’tWeHappy?,” TEDTalks (video), February 2004, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTO_dZUvbJA#t=54.

2.DanGilbert,StumblingonHappiness(Vintage,2007).

3. DanGilbert, “WhyAreWeHappy?WhyAren’tWeHappy?,” TEDTalks (video), February 2004, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTO_dZUvbJA#t=54.

4.BruceLipton,TheBiologyofBelief(HayHouse,2008),98.

5.Youmaybethinking,WhoishetotellmethatwhatIreallywantisaninwardstate?ThereasonI’msocertainisthatIdidmyownpersonalten-year study with every single client in my counseling practice,whereIwouldaskeachperson,“Whatdoyouwantmost?”andthen,“Whydoyouwantthat?”Foreveryresponse,Iwouldcontinuetoaskthem“Why?”untiltheyranoutofanswers.Whentheyhad,wehadinvariablyreachedaninwardstate.

6.ViktorE.Frankl,Man’sSearchforMeaning(Simon&Schuster,1959).

7.Ifyoustrugglewiththeideaofprayer,IwouldhighlyadviseLarryDossey M.D.’s wonderful book Reinventing Medicine, in which hereviews double-blind research studieswhere prayer yielded, as youmightsuspect,miraculousresults—evenwhenthepeoplehadnoideatheywerebeingprayedfor.Ifyoustillhaveaproblemwithit,simplymakearequestofyourheartratherthanahighersource.

CHAPTER2

1.“MedicalSchoolBreakthrough,”DallasMorningNews,September12,2004.

2. SueGoetinckAmbrose, “ACell Forgets,”TheDallasMorningNews,October20,2004,www.utsandiego.com/uniontrib/20041020/news_z1c20cell.html.

3.Ibid.

4.Ibid.

5.Ibid.

6. Paul Pearsall, Gary E. Schwartz, and Linda G. Russek, “OrganTransplants and CellularMemories,”Nexus 12:3 (April–May 2005),www.paulpearsall.com/info/press/3.html. See also Claire Sylvia, AChange of Heart (Warner Books, 1997). For more anecdotes fromorgan transplant recipients and the connection to cellularmemory,seePaulPearsall,TheHeart’sCode:TappingtheWisdomandPowerofOurHeartEnergy(BroadwayBooks,1998).

7. Bruce Lipton, “The Biology of Perception” (video), 2005, www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjj0xVM4x1I.

8. Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power ofConsciousness,Matter,&Miracles(HayHouse,2007).

9.JohnE.Sarno,HealingBackPain:TheMind-BodyConnection(GrandCentral Publishing, 1991), and The Divided Mind: The Epidemic ofMindbodyDisorders(HarperPerennial,2006).

10. Andrew Weil, Health and Healing: The Philosophy of IntegrativeMedicineandOptimumHealth(HoughtonMifflin,1983),57.

11.DorisRapp,IsThisYourChild?(WilliamMorrow,1992),62–63.

12. Your Brain, A User’s Guide: 100 Things You Never Knew, NationalGeographic,specialissue,2012,p.50.

13. This statement has been attributed to sources as diverse as theTalmudandAnaïsNin,butregardlessofitsorigin,thisinspirational

quotecannowbeviewedasascientificfact.

14.Ibid.

15. As a side note, some people just need some information orinstructionsinordertotakethenextsteptowardsuccess.Receivingcounselingforinformationregardingcareer,relationships,andsoon,isterrific—whenindividualshavenosubconsciousvirusesregardingtheissue,butjustneedmoreunderstanding.

16. Alexander Loyd with Ben Johnson, The Healing Code (Hachette,2011),123–124.

CHAPTER3

1.WilliamCollinge,SubtleEnergy (WarnerBooks,1998),2–3.Quotedin Donna Eden (with David Feinstein), Energy Medicine(Tarcher/Penguin,2008),26.

2. “Cancer Cases Set to Rise by Half by 2030,” Discovery News,February4,2014,http://news.discovery.com/human/health/cancer-cases-set-to-rise-by-half-by-2030-140204.htm.

3.1Corinthians13.

4. Source: www.mahatmagandhionline.com/, accessed September 19,2013.

5.JoanneV.Wood,W.Q.ElainePerunovic,andJohnW.Lee,“PositiveSelf-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others,” PsychologicalScience 20, 7 (2009): 860–866. Alex Loyd and Ben Jonson, TheHealingCode(Hachette,2011),177.

6. According to Dr. Irving Kirsch of Harvard Medical School, “Thedifference between the effect of a placebo and the effect of anantidepressant is minimal for most people.” He went on to clarifythat it’s not that antidepressants are ineffective, but theireffectivenesscomesfromtheplaceboeffect(thepowerof thebelief

in a positive untruth, that this pill will make me better), not thechemical ingredients in the drug.His research has also shown thatthesameistrueforanumberofotherissuesaswell:irritablebowelsyndrome,repetitivestrain injury,ulcers,Parkinson’s—evenchronicknee pain. “Treating Depression: Is There a Placebo Effect?” 60Minutes, February 19, 2012, http://www.cbsnews.com/news/treating-depression-is-there-a-placebo-effect/.

7.Twodouble-blindstudiesoutofYaleandtheUniversityofColoradohaveindicatedthat“affirmations”canhelpclosethegenderandracegaps in academic achievement. If you state positive truths aboutyourself, it makes sense that your performance would improve,especiallyifyouhadbeeninastateoffearorstresspreviously.SeeGeoffreyL.Cohenetal., “Reducing theRacialAchievementGap:ASocial-Psychological Intervention,”Science313,5791 (2006):1307–1310;andA.Miyakeetal.,“ReducingtheGenderAchievementGapinCollegeScience:AClassroomStudyofValuesAffirmation,”Science330,6008(2010):1234–1237.

8.CarolineLeaf,WhoSwitchedOffMyBrain?ControllingToxicThoughtsandEmotions(ThomasNelson,2009).

9. “About Lester,” Lester Levenson website, www.lesterlevenson.org/about-lester.php. Levenson’s student, Hale Dwoskin, developed aprocesscalledtheSedonaMethod.SeehisbookTheSedonaMethod:YourKeytoLastingHappiness,Success,PeaceandEmotionalWell-Being(SedonaPress,2007).

10. EbenAlexander,Proof ofHeaven:ANeurosurgeon’s Journey into theAfterlife(Simon&Schuster,2012).

11.DianeCameron, “Doseof ‘VitaminG’CanKeepYouHealthy,”TheDenver Post, May 4, 2009, http://www.denverpost.com/search/ci_12281410. When I published my first book, The Healing Code, IreceivedsomecriticismforconnectingGodandspiritualitytohealth.Some assumed I had a religious agenda, which I don’t. I do haveanotheragenda,though—yourhealthandhappiness,andthehealth

andhappinessofeveryoneIcanpossiblyhelp.ImentionGodinthiscontext only because I have seen unmistakable evidence that apersonal connection to God/source/love is the most powerfulvariable in our success and our health, and the scientific evidenceprovingthatpointisabouttoexplode.

12. The conference was the Association for Comprehensive EnergyPsychology. Paula E. Hartman-Stein, “Supporters Say Results ShowEnergyPsychologyWorks,”TheNationalPsychologist,July24,2013,http://nationalpsychologist.com/2013/07/supporters-say-results-show-energy-psychology-works/102138.html.

13.JamesFranklinonTheDanPatrickShow,January14,2014,http://www.danpatrick.com/dan-patrick-video/.

CHAPTER4

1.ItisalsotruethatIbelieveprayerandbeinginalovingrelationshipwithGod/source/lovearethemostimportantthingsinmylife.Inmyopinion, these supersede everything else Imention in this book. Infact, I believe theyare the sourceof everything I’vewritten in thisbookandeverythingofvalueIwilllearninthefuture,whichiswhyI always encourage everyone to give themselves the opportunity toreceive the transformational aha before they try the Three Tools.ThatisnotatalltosaythatyouhavetosharemybeliefsaboutGod/source/loveorprayerforthesetoolstoworkforyou.Youdonot!

2. Donna Eden (with David Feinstein), Energy Medicine(Tarcher/Penguin,2008),23,32,76–78.

3.M. AndrewHolowchak, Freud: From Individual Psychology to GroupPsychology(Rowman&Littlefield,2012),chapter2.

4.Dr.MitsuoHiramatsu,ascientistattheCentralResearchLaboratoryat Hamamatsu Photonics in Japan, led a research team thatdiscovered our hands emit more energy (in the form of light, orphotons) thananyotherpart of ourbody, asdetectedbyaphotoncounter. In a study published in the Journal of Photochemistry and

PhotobiologyB:Biology, they also noted that detectable photons areemittedbyourforeheadsandthebottomsofourfeet.SeeKimitsuguNakamuraandMitsuoHiramatsu,“Ultra-WeakPhotonEmissionfromHumanHand: Influence of Temperature andOxygen Concentrationon Emission,” Journal of Photochemistry and Photobiology B: Biology80, 2 (August 1, 2005): 156–160; and Jennifer Viegas, DiscoveryNews, September 6, 2005, www.abc.net.au/science/articles/2005/09/07/1455010.htm#.UaNAhLWIGCk.

5. Please forgive me. I have chosen to use the ungrammatical term“unforgiveness”throughoutthebook,ratherthanWebster’spreferred“unforgivingness.”Lettherecordshowthatmyeditorshaveproperlyadvisedme,but“unforgivingness”justdidn’tsoundrighttome.

6. Dan Gilbert, “Why AreWe Happy?Why Aren’tWe Happy?” TEDTalks (video), February 2004, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTO_dZUvbJA#t=54.

7.Yes,thisstatementistrueevenforthoseanimalsthathabituallykilleach other out of instinct. They are behaving exactly as they aresupposed to, andas theyareprogrammed toact. Instinctualkillingwouldnotbehealthyprogrammingforahuman,however.

8.Youmaywonderwhy“havingcontrol”isthedesiredoutcomeofthestatements,particularlyifyou’resupposedtogiveupcontrolovertheend result. However, here you are allowing the statement toreprogram you so that you feel like you have control over youractionsinthepresentmoment;youarenotusingyourwillpowertotakecontroloftheendresults.Thisisthedifferencebetweenhealthycontrol and unhealthy control, which will be explained further inchapter5.

9. Alexander Loyd with Ben Johnson, The Healing Code (Hachette,2011),63.

10.Ibid.

11. Rebecca Turner and Margaret Altemus, “Preliminary Research on

PlasmaOxytocin in Normal CyclingWomen: Investigating Emotionand Interpersonal Distress,” Psychiatry: Interpersonal and BiologicalProcesses,62,2(July1999):97–113.

12.Sources:CortA.Pedersen,UniversityofNorthCarolina–ChapelHill;KerstinUvnasMoberg,TheOxytocin Factor: Tapping theHormone ofCalm,Love,andHealing(Pinter&Martin,2011).

CHAPTER5

1. Lombardi, HBO Sports and NFL Films, originally aired on HBO,December11,2010.

CHAPTER6

1. “Facts and Statistics,” Anxiety and Depression Association ofAmerica,www.adaa.org/about-adaa/press-room/facts-statistics.

2. For more about Dr. Peris’s New England Centenarian Study, seewww.bumc.bu.edu/centenarian.

3.DanGilbert,“TheSurprisingScienceofHappiness,”TEDtalk,April26,2012,www.youtube.com/watch?v=4q1dgn_C0AU.

EPILOGUE

1. “75Years in theMaking:Harvard Just Released Its Epic Study onWhatMenNeed to Live aHappyLife,” FEELguide,April 29, 2013,http://www.feelguide.com/2013/04/29/75-years-in-the-making-harvard-just-released-its-epic-study-on-what-men-require-to-live-a-happy-life/. The full findings can be found in George Vaillant,TriumphsofExperience:TheMenoftheHarvardGrantStudy(BelknapPress,2012).

2.DianeCameron, “Doseof ‘VitaminG’CanKeepYouHealthy,”TheDenver Post, May 4, 2009, http://www.denverpost.com/search/ci_12281410. For more about neuroscientists Andrew Newberg andMarkRobertWaldman,andtheirbookHowGodChangesYourBrain,

seechapter3.

3.Foralistofalltheeffectsofthefailure/stressresponse(governedbythe release of cortisol) and the success/love response (governed bythereleaseofoxytocin),seetheintroductionandchapter4.

4. Michka Assayas, Bono: In Conversation with Michka Assayas(Riverhead,2005),204–205.

ABOUTTHEAUTHOR

Alexander Loyd holds doctorates in psychology and naturopathic medicine. His privatepracticehasbecomeoneofthelargestofitskindintheworld,withclientsin50statesand158 countries (and counting), starting out of his basement with little money and noadvertising. He believed that to truly resolve symptom issues in life, underlying spiritualissueshadtobehealed—andhedevelopedaprogramtodothatstartingin1988.Dr.LoydhasbeeninterviewedliveonABC,NBC,CBS,Fox,andPBSnewsasanexpertinhealingtheunderlyingsourceofsuccess,relationship,andhealthproblems.Hisfirstbook,TheHealingCode,isaninternationalbestseller,currentlyinprintinmorethantwenty-fivelanguages.