bj mckay · 2020. 8. 19. · ego is the enemy “you are the center of the universe” - the ego....
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XSELF AWARENESS: THE EGO’S ANTIDOTE
BJ MCKAY
BJ MCKAY | LEADERSHIP CONSULTANT | ADVISA
YOU ARE NOT
ENOUGH
EGO IS THE ENEMY
“YOU ARE THE CENTER OF
THE UNIVERSE”- THE EGO
WHERE DOES MY EGO LIVE
EGO PROTECTS MY VULNERABILITY
A
DOMINANCE & VULNERABILITY
TEAM IMPACTINTERNAL SELF CONFIDENCE
Let me include others and collaborate
Needs:Independence
ControlChallenges
EXTRAVERSION & VULNERABILITY
B
INFLUENCE DATA
EXTERNALSELF CONFIDENCE
Provide me time to think it through.
Needs:
Social acceptanceSocial validation
Social connection
PATIENCE & VULNERABILITY
C
VARIETYPROCESS AND FAMILY =
SELF CONFIDENCE
I need variety.Needs:
TIME
ProcessFamily
Stability
FORMALITY & VULNERABILITY
D
FLEXIBILITYCORRECTNESS = SELF CONFIDENCE
Don’t box me inNeeds:
Clear expectations
Performance Feedback
Fairness
YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE WHAT YOU
UNDERSTAND
WHY IS THIS A PROBLEM
“WE SPEND SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES
REACTING TO LABELS, OUR OWN AND
OTHERS”- ANTHONY DE MELLO
What labels am I busy defending each day?
• :90 exercise• List as many labels/roles that you
carry rapid fire• EX: Mother, Daughter, Teacher,
Boss, Co-worker, Mentor, Athlete, etc
YOU ARE MORE
EGO THREATENS HEALTHY WORK
CULTURES
WHAT IF WE CAN’T MANAGE THE FORCE?
STOP.BREATHE.
BE.
10 MINUTES
EXERCISE:PICTURE YOURSELF
OVERLOOKING A RIVER
PRACTICE:FOUNDATION OF
SELF AWARENESS
PLAN
3 COLUMNS
5 MINUTES
HOW MUCH IS LEFT HERE?
YOUR GOAL:SEPARATE REAL FROM PERCEIVED
THREATS
THE VALUE RANKING BATTLE
WE SEE THINGS AND PEOPLE NOT AS THEY ARE, BUT AS WE ARE.
PRESENCE +
LISTENING+
VULNERABILITY
ACTION• 3 minutes• Think + write down 3 actions you
intend to take based on your personal notes from this session
• SMART style • Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant
and Timebound
IT’S TIME TO EVOLVE
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THANK YOU
BJ MCKAY | LEADERSHIP CONSULTANT | ADVISA