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APPAR Adlerian Congress

Brasov October 2013

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Understanding The Child

An Adlerian Perspective

Joyce Callus

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4VIENNA NATIONAL CEMETRY JULY 2011

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Adler in Psychologies today

Unity of Personality- systems

Decision maker- cognitive

Private LogicLife style- Schemata- road map

Teleological - drawn by the future not past

causes

Apperception- as if - existentialist, ( Sren

Kierkegaard) Social embeddedness, Soc Interest-- it takes a

village to raise a child,

Group counselling , child guidance clinic,

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tasks of life

work

Socialrelations

hips

Intimate

relationships

self

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SP

SC


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Life is not being but becoming

A.A. No experience is a cause of success or failure.

We do not suffer from the shock of ourexperiencesthe so-called traumabut wemake out of them just what suits our purposes.

We are self-determined by the meaning wegive to our experiences, and there is probablyalways something of a mistake involved whenwe take particular experiences as the basis for

our future life. Meanings are no t determ inedby si tuat ions, but we determ ine ourselvesby the meaning we give to situations. A A

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Understanding The Child

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Why Do Children Behave The

Way They Do?

Why Do They Behave

Differently with DifferentPeople?

Is Behaviour Inherited or

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Behaviou r is a Cho ice

Behaviou r is a choice w ith a

Purpose

Behaviour is a Message

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Every Child Needs

To feel loved

To feel belonging

To feel secure

To move from a minus to a plus =

To feel significant

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TOGETHER WE LEARN

PLAY

AND GROW

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Attention /contact Undue attention Sk

Power over self Power / others,rebellion

Self protection Revenge

.. Avoidance ofFailure

Positive

Approach

Negative

Approach

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GOAL ONE

ATTENTION SEEKING

CAN BE APPROACHED

IN A POSITIVE

WAY

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Undue attention seeking is a

negative approach

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Undue attention seeking

THERE IS NO END OR L IMIT TO THIS

CREATIVITY

THE MORE UNDUE ATTENTION A

CHILD RECEIVES, THE MORE HIS

FAULTY THINKING IS REINFORCED

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GOAL TWO

PERSONAL AB IL ITY

OR POWER OVER SELF

POWER OVER SELF CAN HAVE

A POSITIVE APPROACH

WHEN THE CHILD IS GIVEN

SPACE

TO MOVE FROM A MINUS TO APLUS POSITION

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BUILDING SELF- ESTEEM AND

SELF CONFIDENCE

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POWER OVER SELF CAN TURN TO

POWER OVER OTHERS

AND REBELLION

THERE ARE NO WINNERS IN POWER

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GOAL THREE

SELF PROTECTION

HURTS CAN BE - PHYSICAL

VERBAL

PSYCHOLOGICAL

NEGLECTREJECTION

BELITTLING ETC

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TOO MANY HURTS CAN TURN INTO

REVENGE

YOU HURT MEI HURT YOU

BACK.HOPING

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GOAL FOUR- LEAVE ME ALONE

Very discouraged person

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Leave me Alone

THERE ARE NO POSITIVE

APPROACHES TO THIS GOAL

The adu l t feels concerned and helpless

And

The ch i ld gives up . Looses trus t in selfand others

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THRILL SEEKING

Low self esteem , lack o fassert iveness,

giving in to peer pressure etc may lead to unnecessary r isk taking

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Identifying Negative Goals

How did you feel ?

How did you correct ?

What happened after correction?

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Identifying Negative Goals

Feeling Correction Result Redirecting

1.Annoyed

Angry

Nag,rescue

explain,

Stops, beh

is repeated

Ignore, give

att for pos.2. spiteful

Threatened

Punish,

Push back

Power

struggles

solution

game,

choice

3. Hurt Focus on

own hurt

Neg beh

intensifies

Trust, love,

prof help

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Don' t worry that ch i ldren never

l is ten to you ; worry that they are

always watching you .

~Robert Fulghum

THANK YOU

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NOAHS RULE

PREDICTING RAIN DOES NOTCOUNT

BUILDING ARKS DOES !

W. BUFFETT

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Adlers tasks of life

work

Socialrelations

hipsIntimate

relationships

self

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A DYNAMO OF OPTIMISM & BUBLING

ENTHUSIASIM

INVITED BY FREUD IN 1902,TO JOIN WEDNESDAY MEETINGS, (Adler one of the original four members,

Kahane, Reitler & Stekel)

PRESIDENT OF THE VIENNESE ANALYTIC SOCIETY &EDITOR OF THE FIRST PSYCHOLOGY JOURNAL TILL 1911

STRONG DIFFERENCES BETWEEN ADLER AND FREUD

1911 ADLER & NINE OTHERS RESIGNED AND FORMEDTHE SOCIETY FOR INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOLOGY.

1919 ORGANISED CHILD GUIDANCE CLINIC IN VIENNA-FAMILY / TEACHER / GROUP COUNSELLING

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ALFRED ADLERTHE MAN

BORN IN VIENNA, FEBRUARY 7TH1870 SECOND SON, OF A WELL OFF JEWISH GRAIN MERCHANT

AVERAGE STUDENT, PREFERED OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES

MEDICAL DEGREE IN 1895, SERVED AS A DOCTOR IN WWI,

VERY SUCCESSFUL GENERAL PRACTICE

PRATER OPHTALMOLOGIST, TURNED TO PSYCHIATRY 1907

MARRIED RAISA EPSTEIN 1897, HAD 4 CHILDREN,

CONTEMPORARY OF FREUD & Jung COLLABORATED TILL

1911

KURT(92) DIED IN 1997, Alexandra (99) died 2001

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