Building Healthy RelationshipsChapter 11 (Grade level: 9-12) (Age 14-18)

Rochelle Rich

AyawtaTaylor

Kristi Caruso

Healthy Relationships

Cooperation

Working together for the good of all

Compromise

Each person gives up something to satisfy everyone

Give and take

Strengthens relationships

Healthy Relationships

Traits of healthy relationshipRespect

Acceptance

Honesty

Trustworthiness

Dependability

Loyalty

empathy

Family Relationships

Communication with parentsSetting boundaries

Building trust

Opening communication lines

Acknowledging their accomplishments

Family Problems

Dealing with a broken homeFilling in gaps of a missing parent

Surviving a breakup

Custody

Family Problems Cont..

Wanting more freedom

Finding out who you are

Running away

Family Problems Cont

Media taking parental role

Family Problems Cont..

Domestic violenceSpousal abuse

Child abuse

Family Problems Cont

Relationships with siblingsRespecting each other’s space

Learning how to resolve conflicts

Show consideration for each other’s feelings

Being supportive

Strengthening Family Relationships

The family as a systemEach person has a role

Functions of a familyPrimary support system

Meeting emotional needs

Instilling values and religious beliefs

Passing on traditions and customs

Building Healthy Family Relationships

AffirmationTrustCommitment Time togetherCommunicationRespectSolving problemsLove

Developing Responsible Relationships

Friendships

A significant relationship between two people based on caring, respect, consideration and trust.

Friends share the same interest, hobbies, or aspirations as you

Vary in importance

May be hard work, but well worth effort

Building a Foundation

Communication and SharingListening Skills

Being an active listener–Really paying attention to what

someone is saying and feeling. –Not making any judgments or

interrupting while other person speaks.

–Reflective listening, clarifying, encouraging, and empathizing

Building a Foundation

Communication and Sharing

Speaking skills

Clearly stating what you mean

Voice pitch

Using “I” messages–Tells how you feel using the

pronoun “II

Building a Foundation

Respect and Trust

How to handle disagreements

Give the person a turn to speak

Each deserve a chance to speak, be open

Use “I” messages

Express how you really feel

Stick to the subject

Don’ t lose track of the issue

Keep the tone friendly

Remember this is your friend that you value

Dealing with Peer Pressure

The control and influence people your age may have on you.

Positive peer pressureRole model

Can show others what not to do

Negative peer pressureManipulation- sneaky or dishonest way to control others

Dealing with Peer Pressure

Manipulation typesMocking or teasing

Making threats, or using blackmail

Using guilt trips to get desired results

Resisting negative peer pressurePassive way

Aggressive way

Assertive way

Romantic Relationships

Our first commitment: SelfHealing the inner child

Content with self

Know yourself

Attracting the right partner

Romantic Relationships

Healthy RelationshipsGaining respect

Setting boundaries

Resolving conflict

Taking responsibility

Confronting partner when they upset you

Respect individuality

Importance of compromise

Romantic Relationships

Healthy RelationshipsReceiving and giving love

Growing together

Honesty and trustworthiness

Be reasonable and realistic

Sex is voluntary and not coercive

Constant communication

Romantic Relationships

Unhealthy relationships: Codependency

Focusing completely on other person

Defining self by relationship you have with others

Using partner for emotional needs

Fearing loneliness and abandonment

Needing and loving not same

Romantic Relationships

Emotional AbuseBeing manipulation and controlling behavior

Feeling ashamed of yourself

Placing unreasonable standards on other

Forcing compromise

Romantic Relationships

Emotional abuseUsing deceptive ways to control partner

People disguise true intentions

Using guilt trips

Communication Tips

Express your feelings without attackingListen Focus on solving issue not being rightAgree to disagree and move onBe aware of body language and voice toneExpress true feelingsTake responsibility for mistakesApologize

Communication Tips

Don’t invalidate the other person’s feelings

Listen to what is being said