Building Mutual RespectBuilding Mutual Respect

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OverviewOverview

• What are the dimensions of respect?What are the dimensions of respect?

• What are the values of tolerance and What are the values of tolerance and understanding?understanding?

• How can you improve group effectiveness?How can you improve group effectiveness?

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Have you ever felt that someone had judged Have you ever felt that someone had judged you based on your appearance or something you based on your appearance or something you did rather than on what’s inside you? you did rather than on what’s inside you?

Write five sentences about howWrite five sentences about howthat made you feelthat made you feel

Share your reflection withShare your reflection withseveral classmatesseveral classmates

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Dimensions of RespectDimensions of Respect

• Respect is the attention, regard, and Respect is the attention, regard, and consideration given to people and their consideration given to people and their rights, property, and ideas rights, property, and ideas

• Respect means accepting differences Respect means accepting differences

• You earn other people’s respect on the You earn other people’s respect on the basis of your words and actions basis of your words and actions

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Dimensions of RespectDimensions of Respect

• Americans believe that Americans believe that every human being has every human being has basic, inherent value and basic, inherent value and rights rights

• You are obliged to respect You are obliged to respect others, and they are others, and they are obliged to respect youobliged to respect you

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Dimensions of RespectDimensions of Respect

• Mutual respectMutual respect is the two-way is the two-way relationship that develops between people relationship that develops between people or members of groups after the lines of or members of groups after the lines of communication are open and trust communication are open and trust develops develops

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Dimensions of RespectDimensions of Respect

• People develop respect for others when they People develop respect for others when they feel that others respect their personal feel that others respect their personal dignity dignity

• Personal dignityPersonal dignity is the internal strength that is the internal strength that helps people feel connected, worthwhile, helps people feel connected, worthwhile, and valued and valued

• A lack of respect breaks down personal A lack of respect breaks down personal dignity dignity

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Ways of Showing RespectWays of Showing Respect

• On the personal level, one of the easiest ways to On the personal level, one of the easiest ways to show respect is simply to be courteous. Say:show respect is simply to be courteous. Say:

– ““Please” when you ask for somethingPlease” when you ask for something

– ““Thank you” when you receive somethingThank you” when you receive something

– ““Excuse me” if you accidentally bump into someoneExcuse me” if you accidentally bump into someone

– ““Yes (or no) sir” or “Yes (or no) ma’am” to adultsYes (or no) sir” or “Yes (or no) ma’am” to adults

– ““Good morning” or “Good afternoon,” especially to Good morning” or “Good afternoon,” especially to people older than you arepeople older than you are

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Ways of Showing RespectWays of Showing Respect

• Other examples of personal respect include:Other examples of personal respect include:

– Holding the door for an elderly person or a childHolding the door for an elderly person or a child

– Standing when an older person enters the roomStanding when an older person enters the room

– Not interrupting peopleNot interrupting people

– Taking off your hat or cap when you’re indoorsTaking off your hat or cap when you’re indoors

– Taking off a glove before you shake someone’s handTaking off a glove before you shake someone’s hand

– Removing your sunglasses before speaking to someoneRemoving your sunglasses before speaking to someone

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Ways of Showing RespectWays of Showing Respect

• Some other ways to show respect on a Some other ways to show respect on a professional basis include:professional basis include:

– Dealing with people in a cooperative wayDealing with people in a cooperative way

– Communicating clearlyCommunicating clearly

– Listening activelyListening actively

– Giving constructive feedbackGiving constructive feedback

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Ways of Showing RespectWays of Showing Respect

• Some more ways to show respect on a Some more ways to show respect on a professional basis includeprofessional basis include::

– Being flexibleBeing flexible

– Creating opportunities to teach and learnCreating opportunities to teach and learn

– Sharing behaviors and feelingsSharing behaviors and feelings

– Viewing situations as win-win scenariosViewing situations as win-win scenarios

– Using inclusive language (saying “we” instead of Using inclusive language (saying “we” instead of “you” or “they”)“you” or “they”)

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ToleranceTolerance

• ToleranceTolerance isis respecting people’s differences respecting people’s differences and values and values

• You might compare tolerance and mutual You might compare tolerance and mutual respect with a two-way street:respect with a two-way street:– The traffic moves both waysThe traffic moves both ways– You show tolerance for others and they show You show tolerance for others and they show

tolerance for youtolerance for you

– But you might encounter barriers on this street But you might encounter barriers on this street

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ToleranceTolerance

• Among the barriers to tolerance and Among the barriers to tolerance and mutual respect are: mutual respect are:

– PrejudicePrejudice

– DiscriminationDiscrimination

– A failure to value diversity A failure to value diversity

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PrejudicePrejudice

• PrejudicePrejudice is an unfair opinion or judgment of a is an unfair opinion or judgment of a person or a group of people person or a group of people

• Prejudice shuts down critical thinking Prejudice shuts down critical thinking

• You assume you have a person or situation figured You assume you have a person or situation figured out in advanceout in advance

• This leads you to make blanket assumptions about This leads you to make blanket assumptions about an entire group of people rather than looking at them an entire group of people rather than looking at them as individualsas individuals

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Reasons for PrejudiceReasons for Prejudice

• People aren’t born with prejudice any more People aren’t born with prejudice any more than they are born with the ability to readthan they are born with the ability to read

• Prejudice is Prejudice is learnedlearned

• You pick it up from the people around you You pick it up from the people around you and from the messages society sendsand from the messages society sends

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Reasons for PrejudiceReasons for Prejudice

• Fear—Fear—people are afraid of people, ideas, and cultures people are afraid of people, ideas, and cultures that are different from their ownthat are different from their own

• A group’s belief that it is better than or A group’s belief that it is better than or superiorsuperior to to other groupsother groups

• MisunderstandingMisunderstanding—an innocent gesture or word in —an innocent gesture or word in one culture can be an insult in anotherone culture can be an insult in another

• HistoryHistory—you had a bad experience with a member of —you had a bad experience with a member of another group, then blame another group, then blame allall members of that group members of that group

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DiscriminationDiscrimination

• One danger of prejudice is that it leads to One danger of prejudice is that it leads to discriminationdiscrimination

• DiscriminationDiscrimination is unfair treatment based on is unfair treatment based on prejudice against a certain group prejudice against a certain group

• If someone says you’re “discriminatory” in If someone says you’re “discriminatory” in your attitudes, watch outyour attitudes, watch out

• You might be judging people on the basis of You might be judging people on the basis of stereotypesstereotypes

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Discrimination and StereotypesDiscrimination and Stereotypes

• AA stereotypestereotype is an idea or concept based on is an idea or concept based on oversimplified assumptions or opinions, rather than oversimplified assumptions or opinions, rather than on factson facts

• For instance, if you hear a friend just bought a pit For instance, if you hear a friend just bought a pit bull, you might immediately assume that it’s a bull, you might immediately assume that it’s a vicious dogvicious dog

• If another friend bought a kitten, you might assume If another friend bought a kitten, you might assume it was a cuddly little creatureit was a cuddly little creature

Both assumptions are based on stereotypes. Are all pit bulls Both assumptions are based on stereotypes. Are all pit bulls vicious? Are all kittens cuddly?vicious? Are all kittens cuddly?

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DiversityDiversity

• DiversityDiversity means variation or difference means variation or difference• When someone says that American society When someone says that American society

values diversity, that means: values diversity, that means: – Americans encourage variety Americans encourage variety – Americans live in a society that respects Americans live in a society that respects

differences among peopledifferences among people

• But if you read the headlines or watch the But if you read the headlines or watch the news, you realize that respect for diversity is a news, you realize that respect for diversity is a work in progress work in progress

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Religious RespectReligious Respect

• Nowhere is tolerance more important than Nowhere is tolerance more important than in matters of religion in matters of religion

• Demonstrating Demonstrating religious respectreligious respect is is honoring the right of other people to hold honoring the right of other people to hold their own personal beliefs their own personal beliefs

• It is not condoning or condemning, but It is not condoning or condemning, but just respecting, their rights just respecting, their rights

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Gender StereotypesGender Stereotypes

• Gender stereotypesGender stereotypes are limited ways of are limited ways of thinking about people on the basis of whether thinking about people on the basis of whether they are male or female. Gender stereotypes:they are male or female. Gender stereotypes:

– cover more than just the observable physical cover more than just the observable physical differences between males and females differences between males and females

– include cultural, social, psychological, and include cultural, social, psychological, and behavioral traits behavioral traits

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Gender StereotypesGender Stereotypes

• Gender stereotypes have at least two big Gender stereotypes have at least two big problems:problems:

– First, like prejudices, gender stereotypes halt First, like prejudices, gender stereotypes halt the thinking process. They deal with people on the thinking process. They deal with people on the basis of false assumptions or misleading the basis of false assumptions or misleading mental images mental images

– Second, gender stereotypes make clear Second, gender stereotypes make clear communication difficult, if not impossible communication difficult, if not impossible

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How Can You Avoid How Can You Avoid Stereotyping People by Gender? Stereotyping People by Gender?

• Be sensitive to language that might contain Be sensitive to language that might contain gender stereotypesgender stereotypes

• Don’t go with your gut reaction—it’s likely to be Don’t go with your gut reaction—it’s likely to be based on preconceptionsbased on preconceptions

• Take time to thinkTake time to think• Avoid using hurtful words or expressionsAvoid using hurtful words or expressions• Don’t fall victim to peer pressureDon’t fall victim to peer pressure• View everyone as equalsView everyone as equals

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Demonstrating ToleranceDemonstrating Tolerance

• Overcoming prejudice and discrimination Overcoming prejudice and discrimination begins with each individual begins with each individual

• Ask yourself: Am I treating them the way I Ask yourself: Am I treating them the way I would want them to treat me? would want them to treat me?

– How would you feel if others made fun of your How would you feel if others made fun of your skin color, ethnic background, hair color, skin color, ethnic background, hair color, religion, or the region you are from? religion, or the region you are from?

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Demonstrating ToleranceDemonstrating Tolerance

– How would you feel if you were denied a place How would you feel if you were denied a place on the team, an education, a job, or an on the team, an education, a job, or an opportunity, simply because someone decided opportunity, simply because someone decided you belonged to the wrong group? you belonged to the wrong group?

– How would you feel if others refused to be How would you feel if others refused to be friends with you, to eat in the school cafeteria friends with you, to eat in the school cafeteria with you, or to live in the same neighborhood with you, or to live in the same neighborhood with you because of prejudice?with you because of prejudice?

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Improving Group EffectivenessImproving Group Effectiveness

• Establishing mutual respect, being tolerant, Establishing mutual respect, being tolerant, and valuing diversity are important:and valuing diversity are important:

– For each person on an individual levelFor each person on an individual level

– Equally important at the group or Equally important at the group or organization level organization level

• Work towards common goalsWork towards common goals

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Benefits of Accepting DifferencesBenefits of Accepting Differences

• If a group or team is to function effectively, its If a group or team is to function effectively, its members must accept each other’s differences members must accept each other’s differences

• The best team is a unified wholeThe best team is a unified whole

• No team can be whole while any of its members No team can be whole while any of its members holds assumptions, false impressions, and holds assumptions, false impressions, and stereotypes about fellow team members stereotypes about fellow team members

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Benefits of Accepting DifferencesBenefits of Accepting Differences

• Communication is key to breaking down the Communication is key to breaking down the barriers and accepting others’ differencesbarriers and accepting others’ differences

• A diverse group of people can usually come up A diverse group of people can usually come up with much better solutions than can a group of with much better solutions than can a group of people who all think the samepeople who all think the same

• But to come up with the best solutions, But to come up with the best solutions, members must trust and listen to each othermembers must trust and listen to each other

• They must see diversity as a strength They must see diversity as a strength

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Evaluating and Measuring Evaluating and Measuring Group EffectivenessGroup Effectiveness

• The first step is to establish clear goals The first step is to establish clear goals

• The second is to decide whether the The second is to decide whether the group is meeting those goalsgroup is meeting those goals

• Constantly seeking a measure of resultsConstantly seeking a measure of results—or movement toward results—is a —or movement toward results—is a necessary part of team building necessary part of team building

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Some Tips for Greater Some Tips for Greater Group EffectivenessGroup Effectiveness

• Forgive mistakesForgive mistakes• Hold members accountableHold members accountable• Foster trust and commitmentFoster trust and commitment• Don’t make excusesDon’t make excuses• Make the hard decisionsMake the hard decisions• Seek concrete answers and solutionsSeek concrete answers and solutions• Respect differencesRespect differences• Constantly strive toward mutual respectConstantly strive toward mutual respect

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ReviewReview

• RespectRespect is the attention, regard, and consideration is the attention, regard, and consideration given to people and their rights, property, and given to people and their rights, property, and ideasideas

• Mutual respectMutual respect is the two-way relationship that is the two-way relationship that develops between people or members of groups develops between people or members of groups after the lines of communication are open and after the lines of communication are open and trust developstrust develops

• On the personal level, one of the easiest ways to On the personal level, one of the easiest ways to show respect is simply to be courteous show respect is simply to be courteous

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ReviewReview

• ToleranceTolerance isis respecting people’s differences respecting people’s differences and valuesand values

• People aren’t born with People aren’t born with prejudiceprejudice any more any more than they are born with the ability to readthan they are born with the ability to read

• Prejudice is learnedPrejudice is learned

• One danger of prejudice is that it leads to One danger of prejudice is that it leads to discriminationdiscrimination

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ReviewReview

• Overcoming prejudice and discrimination Overcoming prejudice and discrimination begins with each individualbegins with each individual

• No team can be whole while any of its No team can be whole while any of its members holds assumptions, false members holds assumptions, false impressions, and impressions, and stereotypesstereotypes about fellow about fellow team membersteam members

• Communication is the key to breaking down Communication is the key to breaking down the barriers and accepting others’ differencesthe barriers and accepting others’ differences

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SummarySummary

• What are the dimensions of respect?What are the dimensions of respect?

• What are the values of tolerance and What are the values of tolerance and understanding?understanding?

• How can you improve group effectiveness?How can you improve group effectiveness?

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NextNext

• Done—building Done—building mutual respectmutual respect

• Next—common Next—common visionvision

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