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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    WITH VOLUNTEERS AND CHAPTERS

    A Quick Guide for Associations

    By Allen Liff, Consultant

    Association Experience PLUSBlog.Getaliff.com

    [email protected]

    (202) 427-5294

    GETTING

    STARTED

    The two questions you must ask!

    GETTING IN SYNC WITH

    YOUR PARTNERS

    The most overlooked

    stage in partnership

    building!

    ESTABLISHING AND

    MAINTAINING TRUST

    A systematic aproach.

    MAKING IT

    REWARDING

    Satisfaction versus

    disatisfaction.

    FOUR COMPONENTS

    TO PARTNERSHIP

    BUILDING

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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    Successful collaboration between staff and volunteers,

    headquarters and chapters, the association and its commercial

    members is an essential element of association success. The

    process of building productive partnerships, however, can seem

    confusing or daunting. To help guide you, I offer this simple

    resource. Good luck!

    ALLEN LIFF, CONSULTANT

    Association Experience PLUS

    In addition to my many years working with associations, I have a unique set

    of experiences and skills that can help any organization build productive partnerships.

    AssociationExperience

    Served on the staff of twoassociations. Worked inmarketing, chapter relations andvolunteer training.

    More than twenty yearsconsulting, working with boards,strategic facilitation, team

    building and special projects.

    Co-mananged the ASAEFoundation's EnvironmentalScan project to examine futuretrends. Co-authored two majorASAE publications.

    PLUS

    Trained as a community organizer.Worked in low-incomeneighborhoods , experenced incommunity problem solving.

    Taught the principles of Trust-BasedLeadershipTMin a program for the

    City of Fairfax Police Department.

    Participated in the InnovationUniversityprogram, visiting leading-edge companies to learn, first-hand,their practices. Also certified in theBottom-Line InnovationTMprocess.

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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    There are four components to

    Partnership Building.

    Letsexplore each one of these...

    GETTING

    STARTED

    The two questions you must ask!

    GETTING IN SYNC WITH

    YOUR PARTNERS

    The most overlooked

    stage in partnership

    building!

    ESTABLISHING AND

    MAINTAINING TRUST

    A systematic aproach.

    MAKING IT

    REWARDING

    Satisfaction versus

    disatisfaction.

    FOUR COMPONENTS

    TO PARTNERSHIP

    BUILDING

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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    GETTING STARTED

    THE TWO QUESTIONS YOU MUST ASK

    Fortunately, there is a simple way and effective way to begin. Asking two simple

    but powerful questions at the onset will set the stage for a trust-based

    partnership.

    QUESTION ONE: LISTEN FOR THE DRIVERS OF SUCCESS

    Helps you discover what volunteers and chapters need,

    thereby laying the groundwork for a win-winrelationship.

    QUESTION TWO: LISTEN FOR WARNING SIGNS

    This question provides an early warning systemfor

    problems that might derail the partnership process.

    ASKING THESE QUESTIONS PROMOTES HONESTY

    By asking these questions, you are taking the initiative to promoting an honest

    conversation, at the start of the partnership, about potentially difficult topics.

    What are the two or three most important things you want

    me to know about your situation so I can help you succeed?

    What are the biggest questions or concerns on your mindthat you need to share with me or someone else on staff?

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    IS THERE CLARITY BEFOREWE PROCEED?

    DO WE AGREE ON WHATSUCCESS WILL LOOK LIKE?

    ARE WE READY TO MAKE ITHAPPEN?

    Do we agree on the facts?

    What opinions or assumptions dopeople hold?

    Are we clear about the roles ofeach party?

    Do we share and are we committedto the same goals?

    How will we know if and when wehave suceeded?

    Do we agree on measurements,milestones and accountability?

    Do we have the right mix ofresources and skills?

    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    GETTING IN SYNC

    MAKE SURE EVERYONE IS ON THE SAME PAGE!

    A few years ago, I had the opportunity to work with Bob Foxworthy, developer of

    the Trust-Based Leadership MethodologyTM

    . While conducting a training program

    for a local police department, I was impressed by the amount of time invested

    during the first stage to answer the types of questions listed below. It was anunhurried process; we made sure everyone was in agreement. It was time well

    spent. Unfortunately, most organizations get impatient, overlooking or rushing

    through this stage. Remember, building partnerships takes time!

    SOME QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU GET IN SYNC

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    Is thispersonsincere?

    Is thispersonreliable?

    Is thispersoncompetent?

    Is this

    personinvolvedwith me?

    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    ESTABLISHING AND MAINTAINING TRUST

    A SYSTEMATIC APPROACH

    There is a logic to developing and maintaining trust (for more on this, see Building

    Trust between Boards and Staff on page 11). A systematic approach to building

    trust begins with these two techniques.

    KNOW THE CRITERIA PEOPLE USE TO ASSESS TRUSTWORTHINESS

    How does someone judge if you are trustworthy? Here are the four criteria most

    often used: sincerity, reliability, competenceand involvement.

    ESTABLISH AND INVOKE GROUNDRULES

    Want to maintain trust? It helps to haveagreed upon ground rules you can

    invoke. This is especially important when

    conflicts or misunderstandings arise. To

    create ground rules, use these questions.

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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    MAKING IT REWARDING

    SATISFACTION VERSUS DISSATISFACTION

    RULES TO MAKE IT REWARDING

    1. WIIFVS AND WIIFCS: Ask, Whats in it for the Volunteer? and Whats in it

    for the Chapter?

    2. Catch them doing things right: Recognize success and hard work and show

    genuine appreciation. Its okay for staff to be excited when volunteers and

    chapters do a good job.3. Build bridges to the future:Invest the time, now, in building relationships that

    will pay off a year or two down the road.

    4. Write the dictionary together: Listen carefully to the needs, hopes and

    aspiration of volunteers. Listen for the key words that define what success will

    look like and build upon that vocabulary.

    Want to make thepartnership rewarding? You

    need to pay attention to what

    motivates (i.e., drivers of

    satisfaction) as well as what

    demotivates (i.e., causes of

    dissatisfaction)

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    BUILDING PRODUCTIVE PARTNERSHIPS

    ARTICLES

    A selection of articles I have written about

    building trust and strong partnerships.

    NINE QUESTIONS TO MEASURE THE STRENGTH OF THE HQ -

    CHAPTER RELATIONSHIP

    QUIT TORTURING YOUR VOLUNTEERS

    A STORY OF HOPE IN REPAIRING TRUST

    BUILDING TRUST BETWEEN BOARDS AND STAFF THREE REASONS YOUR CHAPTERS AND VOLUNTEERS MAY

    NOT TRUST YOU

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    NINE QUESTIONS TO MEASURE THE STRENGTH

    OF THE HQ - CHAPTER RELATIONSHIP

    What does it take to have a strong, vibrant relationship between HQ and Chapters? What questions

    might you ask of chapter staff and volunteers to measure the strength of that relationship?

    To answer that, I began with a set of questions from the book, First, Break All the Rules(it outlines a

    study by the Gallup Organization that studied 80,000 managers in 400 companies to identify the

    characteristics of a great manager). Gallup discovered these twelve questions give an organization the

    most important information it needs to attract, focus, and keep the most talented employees. They are:

    Do I know what is expected of me at work?

    Do I have the materials and equipment I need to do my work right?

    At work, do I have the opportunity to do what I do best every day? In the last seven days, have I received recognition or praise for doing good work?

    Does my supervisor, or someone at work, seem to care about me as a person?

    Is there someone at work who encourages my development?

    At work, do my opinions count?

    Does the mission/purpose of my company make me feel my job is important?

    Are my co-workers committed to doing quality work?

    Do I have a best friend at work?

    In the last six months, has someone at work talked to me about my progress?

    This last year, have I had opportunities at work to learn and grow?

    Nine Core Questions

    Using the above as a foundation, I have created a set of nine questions that can help you measure the

    strength of the HQChapter relationship. If your chapter staff and volunteers are able to answer yes

    for most or all of these questions, then congratulations, you have a healthy partnership!

    Do I know what is expected of me at the chapter level? Are we in agreement about: a) which

    activities and functions should be done only by the chapter; and; b) those activities and functions

    that should be done only by HQ?

    Does HQ provide me with the materials and support I need to do my work right?

    Does HQ understand and appreciate the priorities of my chapter?

    In the past three or four months, have I received recognition or praise, from HQ, for doing good

    work? Does the staff at HQ seem to care about me as a person? Even better, do I have a friend at HQ?

    Is there someone at HQ who encourages me to take on a new challenge or to learn from a failure?

    Do my opinions count at HQ?

    Does the staff at HQ feel the work of the chapters is important? Do they make me feel important?

    In the last six months, has someone at HQ called to check in and see how we are doing and whether

    the chapter is meeting its goals?

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    QUIT TORTURING YOUR VOLUNTEERS

    Oh, the things we ask of volunteers! But what happens when there is a misfit between duties of the

    volunteers and their strengths or talents? Lets take a look at two association boards where thevolunteers found themselves in a torturous situation.

    A Big Picture Board is Tortured by the Financial Details.

    Here was a small association in dire financial straits; in fact, they were in danger of bankruptcy if they

    failed to turn things around. To assess the Boards strengths and weaknesses, the Leadership Spectrum

    Profile was used. The profile identifies six types of priorities a person is likely to favor and how that

    priority influences his or her decision-making process:

    Leadership Spectrum Profile 1998-2002. The Leadership Spectrum Profile. Enterprise Management Ltd. All Rights Reserved

    Priority Actions

    Inventor Innovation and survival Develop new ideas, products and services

    Catalyst Fast growth Gain market share and win customers/new members

    Developer Manage risk and establish orderBuild infrastructure, create systems and processes for highperformance

    Performer Maximize resultsImprove processes and procedures for effective resourceutilization and return

    Protector Maintain successDevelop committed workforce, build capabilities, & supportculture/identity

    Challenger Position for the futureSurface assumptions, practices, and issues; and createstrategic options

    As you can imagine, the associations situation required individuals who were Developers and

    Performers. It turned out all the board members were either Challengersor Inventors. In other words,

    they were big picture thinkers but not well equipped with the skill set or temperament to meet the

    associations current challenge.

    A Detail-oriented Board is Tortured by the Big Picture

    In this case, the association represented the administrators for facilities heavily regulated by both the

    state and federal government. No wonder a detailed oriented personality was required in order to be

    successful in their work. Now imagine this Board, consisting of such individuals, being asked to

    brainstorm about the future and envision multiple scenarios for success and develop a missionstatement and broad strategy. Yes, it was a jarring mismatch. As one board member said, This is torture

    for us. Our minds just dont think this way. The lesson: at future strategy meetings, it was agreed to

    invite outsiders with both industry knowledge and planning skills to coach the board.

    The Bottom Line: After reading this article, ask yourself, are you torturing your volunteers?

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    A STORY OF HOPE IN REPAIRING TRUST

    Is it feasible to repair trust once it has been lost in an association? I believe so. It is a lesson I learnedfrom Bob Foxworthy, developer of Trust-Based Leadership (with whom I had the pleasure of working on

    a project for the City of Fairfax Police Department). Bob is best known for his work in building a

    partnership between Tropicana and CSX railroad. This case was discussed in Monty Roberts book, Horse

    Sense for People. Monty is a world famous horse trainer whose Join Up technique with horses has

    been a model for strengthening relationships in the workplace. Many companies, including Abbot

    Laboratories, Volkswagen, AT&T, Toyota and Disney have studied Montys techniques for use in their

    organizations.

    As for the Tropicana/ CSX partnership, it was the story of a turnaround in a 28-year, bad-business

    marriage. Orange juice, being a perishable product, must be shipped quickly from Tropicanas

    processing plants to their distribution centers. Over a 28-year period, Tropicana had been dependent on

    the rail carrier CSX for those deliveries. For a variety of reasons, it had not been a good relationship.

    With Bob Foxworthys help, management at both companies formed a Partnership Committee to build

    trust and focus on performance improvements. I know many readers will groan and say, Another

    committee, big deal! However, the results were impressive: In the first year, they realized $0.8 millions

    in increased revenue for CSX and reduced costs for Tropicana; increased the number of railcars shipped

    out the Bradenton plant by 50%; and established a high-speed, cross-country delivery system cutting

    delivery time from 12-to-14 days to seven days.

    The keys to their success included:

    Information was shared openly so both companies thoroughly understood each others business

    nothing is sacred.

    Partnership Committee members were given training in the principles and practices of trust-building

    (i.e., they were given the necessary skills and tool-kit for practical application).

    As part of the Partnership practices, all employee of either company were encouraged to catch

    someone doing something right and present them with a peer award.

    They developed a scorecard so they had metrics: that way they could track success, levels of

    perceived trust, etc. In other words, they adhered to the maxim: if you want more of something,

    measure it.

    Simply put, they took a systematic approach to repairing and building trust. Four months into the

    process, Gene Zvolensky of Tropicana addressed a meeting with representatives from both companies.

    Weve been doing business with you for twenty-eight years, he said to his CSX colleagues. And in the

    last four months weve actually been partners.

    The Bottom-Line: This story serves as proof that it is possible to achieve a trust-based partnership, even

    after years of poor relationships. If Tropicana and CSX were able to do it, then there's hope for your

    association and its chapters.

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    BUILDING TRUST BETWEEN BOARDS AND STAFF

    Trust is the fundamental quality of a successful, productive and sustainable relationship. Without trust

    between the board and staff, an associations ability to serve its members suffers. This leads to the

    logical question, how can the executive approach, in a systematic manner, the challenge of building

    trust to achieve performance? Here are some facts to consider:

    Ninety-one percent of employees rated being trusted to get the job done as the most

    important thing to them in their work setting (2001 Randstad North American Employee

    Review)

    A Watson Wyatt Worldwide survey found only half of employees trusted senior management.

    Watson Wyatt also found that in terms of performance, companies where employees trusted

    top executives posted shareholder returns 42% higher than companies where distrust was therule.

    While I know of no research that documents relationship between trust and performance in

    associations, I have no doubt there is a close correlation. The following shows the differences between

    two organizations, one with high degrees of fear and distrust versus one where the culture is built on a

    foundation of trust.

    Culture of Distrust and Fear Culture Built on Trust

    Minimal collaboration High levels of collaboration

    Turf Battles Open Sharing of Information

    Low Morale High Morale

    Negative Gossip Positive Gossip

    Ridicule Respect

    Low levels of innovation High Levels of Innovation

    Crisis Anticipation

    Sabotage/Behind the Back Gossip Disciplined Communications

    As I look over the left-hand column there is an air of familiarity about it. Sad to say, many of the

    behaviors in left hand column are all too common in the realm of board-staff relationships.

    Recently I had the opportunity to work with Bob Foxworthy, a consultant who has developed an

    approach he calls Trust-Based Leadership. His work with companies such as Tropicana, CSX and

    Hewlett-Packard has won awards such as the George Land Leadership 2000, World-Class Innovation

    Award and Rail Business Magazines Railroad-Shipper Win-Win Award for customer-supplier

    collaboration.

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    My experience working with him on a leadership training program for a police department in Virginia

    opened my eyes to techniques and approaches that can be used by associations. Here are three ideas I

    would like to throw out for your consideration.

    Idea #1: Develop and invoke a set of ground rules to build trust

    Ground rules are a way to clarify and codify the answer to four questions:* How do you want to be treated?

    * How do you think you should treat others?

    * How do others think you want to be treated?

    * How will we resolve conflicts?

    Unfortunately, most associations have no ground rules to guide the relationship between board and

    staff. And those with ground rules seem to pay them lip service. If people in an organization cannot

    answer the four questions above, they will be seriously constrained in the ability to achieve levels of

    performance.

    While there are no off-shelf-ground rules (each association should develop its own set), the followingcontains a list of rules for your consideration:

    Volunteer - Staff Relationship Ground Rules

    1. Our number one purpose is to serve our members to the best of our abilities. All of our actions,priorities and words must be judged against that. Therefore, we conduct every board meeting as if theentire membership was watching and we ask ourselves, would our members be proud of how we haveconducted ourselves?

    2. We seek to gather all the facts before entering into a discussion or making a decision. Weacknowledge that the quality of our actions and decisions are only as good as the quality of ourknowledge about the situation.

    3. We believe in accountability, not blame. We acknowledge that mistakes and failures will occur andwe will use these as learning opportunities.

    4. When a mistakes or failures occur, we remind ourselves of rule #1.5. We work hard to catch each other doing the right thing. We will celebrate our successes.6. Hidden agendas and gossip are forbidden.7. Each of us agrees to listen with full attention when another person speaks.8. We are careful to delineate the appropriate roles for board and staff by asking: What is it that ONLY the

    board can do or should do? What is it that ONLY the executive (or staff) can do or should do? Whatareas require collaboration to achieve success? By asking these questions, we demonstrate ourrespect for each other's experience and expertise.

    9. To improve board staff collaboration we agree to ask the following kinds of questions:- The board will ask the staff: What is the impact of our decision on you? Have we listened to your

    perspective and wisdom about the implications of this?- When the staff brings forth an item for decision-making to the board: Have we explained this

    clearly? Do you feel you have enough information with which to make a good decision? Have welistened to and addressed the big questions you have raised?

    10. Every person takes responsibility for the successful outcome of a meeting or interaction. Theseground rules can be invoked by anyone whenever necessary.

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    Idea #2: Develop a Set of Measurements

    There is a maxim that whatever you measure, you get more of. So, if you want board and staff to be

    clearer about their roles, do a better job of communicating, be more active in sharing information and

    work together for a common goal then it makes sense to have a way to measure those things. Here

    are some indicators you might use to measure trust in your association:

    Clarity of roles:Are the roles of board members and staff clearly defined?

    Communication:Are the lines of communication and process for communication between board

    and staff clearly understood by all?

    Open sharing of information:How well do board and staff share information vital to making

    sound decisions?

    Shared Purpose:To what extent do board and staff feel they are working towards to the same

    set of goals?

    It is worth emphasizing the importance of measurements. You can and should measure the factors that

    shape trust in your association. Doing so allows you monitor wha t is happening, pinpoint trust

    fractures and take corrective action.

    Idea #3: Have an annual game plan

    Trust is a perpetual process that must be continually renewed among people and within organizations.

    Many times, I have heard an executive say something like this: When I was first hired five years ago the

    board knew and trusted me. But now, due the turnover, I feel they no longer trust me.

    With this mind, an executive director should have a game plan each year designed to build and maintain

    trust between the board and staff. Asking the following questions will help you develop the game plan:

    Are we invoking the ground rules for board-staff relationships? Do new board members (and

    new staff) have the opportunity to explore and discover why the ground rules are important? Are we measuring and monitoring key indicators of trust? Am I using those measurements to

    facilitate better communication and collaboration?

    Am I paying attention to my personal leadership and communication styles? Are there aspects I

    need to change or new skills I need to learn to become more proficient at creating an

    environment of trust?

    Finally, I would like to share, courtesy of Bob Foxworthy, seven characteristics of Trust-Based Leaders:

    1. They work to build trust with others in all they do.

    2. They demonstrate humility and authenticity when interacting with others.

    3. They tell the truth to their peers and their followers, even when it is personally painful to do so.4. They are open, honest and direct in their communications.

    5. The demonstrate respect to others.

    6. They consistently act in an ethical manner.

    7. They are courageous visionaries committed to becoming the best that they can be and /or

    leading their organization to greatness (measurably defined).

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    THREE REASONS YOUR CHAPTERS

    AND VOLUNTEERS MAY NOT TRUST YOU

    Are you trustworthy? Do your volunteers and chapters see you as sincere, reliable and involved with

    them? Of course! you respond. The staff at HQ strives for professionalism and to earn the trust of

    volunteers and chapters each time we interact with them.

    Let us now ask this in a slightly different way: Given the context of their daily life experiences, what

    might create the perception, in the mind of a volunteer or chapter executive, that you, or another staff

    at HQ, are not trustworthy?

    To answer this, I will present three examples, utilizing snippets from a day-in-the-life of a volunteer or

    chapter executive, to illustrate how trust can be unintentionally undermined.

    Why Jane doubts your sincerity

    Jane is the chapter executive for the Terabitha Chapter (which is famous for its annual bridge building

    contest). On Tuesday morning, she called customer support about a software issue. After numerous

    rings, her call was put on hold with a message that began, Due to high call volume and concluded

    with, your call is very important to us.

    My call is important? Do you sincerely expect me to believe that? Jane muttered to herself.

    That afternoon, she called to find out about a major policy change under consideration by the national

    Board. Local members were concerned and she had been trying, for the past week, via email andunanswered calls, to get more information. Finally, she gets you on the phone and you tell her, I

    sincerely apologize for not getting back sooner; weve had a zillion calls about this policy issue Jane

    mutters under her breath, Yeah, due to high call volume.

    You hear the agitation in Janes voice so you try to reassure her, Jane, I value your opinion as I do all the

    chapter executives. At that moment, Jane is having a wicked bad flashback to her earlier call: all she

    hears is, your call is very important to us.

    Jane, for easily understandable reasons, begins to doubt if anyone at HQ sincerely cares about her

    opinion.

    Why Hank thinks you are not reliable

    Hank is a volunteer with the Hyboria Chapter and serves as the Chair of the National Membership

    Committee. Wednesday morning, he has a doctors appointment scheduled for 11:30. He knows, from

    prior experiences, the doctor will not actually see him at 11:30. It will be more like 11:54 or sometime

    after noon. As he sits in the waiting room, rereading the July/1995 edition of Sports Illustrated for the

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    37th time, he recalls how, last week, the cable guy showed up 90 minutes late. People arent reliable,

    he thinks to himself.

    That afternoon, he checks his email. You had promised him the agenda and support documents for the

    upcoming committee meeting by COB of that day. He calls and you apologize. You go on to explain, The

    materials are almost ready. Unfortunately, there was an urgent request from a Board member yesterday

    high priority so I was pulled in to work on that. I will have your materials to you no later than

    tomorrow afternoon. That night, you work late so you can deliver the materials first thing in the

    morning. It was delivered late, but heck, it was just a little bit late. Under the circumstances, you feel

    okay about that.

    Hank, meanwhile, has mentally put you into the same category as his doctor and the cable guy. HQ

    staff arent reliable, he thinks to himself.

    Why Harmon thinks you are not involved with him

    Harmon is the new staff exec at the Narnia chapter. It is his first job in associations, a lot of issues and

    problems are brand new to him.

    Friday morning, he drops his car off for repairs. He has a new mechanic, Sal, who was recommended by

    a neighbor who said, I totally trust him. Sal greets Harmon and says, Tell me everything you can think

    of about the problem. He listens without interrupting. Then he starts asking questions , lots of

    questions. Finally, he says, Chances are it is one of two issues. The only way I can be sure is if

    That afternoon, Harmon picks up his car it runs perfectly. He reflects on Sals ability to listen, and

    realizes it is the ability to ask lots of questions, the process of getting involved, that makes Sal a good

    mechanic. Thats why his neighbor trusts him completely.

    Meanwhile, Harmon has been struggling to get up to speed on association type issues. He calls you for

    advice and begins the conversation by unloading all the background details. You realize his questions

    can be easily answered with a series of FAQs you have written. Besides, your schedule is packed and you

    conclude that a long conversation with Harmon is not the most efficient use of your time. You politely

    cut the conversation short, directing Harmon to the FAQs. You hang up, rush to your meeting, thinking,

    It would have been nice to chat, but thats why we have FAQs

    Harmon, meanwhile, is comparing his experience with you to the conversation he had with Sal the

    Mechanic. Unlike Sal, you didnt bother to ask a lot questions, you didnt take the time to get involved.

    Harmon shakes his head and realizes he would rather talk to his mechanic than to you. He picks up the

    phone, makes a call and asks, Hey Sal, what do you know about associations?

    The Bottom Line: To build trust with another human being, you need to consider the context of that

    persons daily life. Everyday, your volunteers and chapter executives encounter and assess the

    trustworthy of a variety of people. Those experiences create a filter through which they learn to trust, or

    distrust, othersand that includes you. The more you understand their context for assessing trust, the

    more success you will have.