bullies are everywhere : power issues at home, work, and school part i: theory stuart w. twemlow, md...
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BULLIES ARE EVERYWHERE :Power Issues at Home, Work, and School
Part I: Theory
Stuart W. Twemlow, MDProfessor of Psychiatry
Baylor School of MedicineHouston, Texas
Bullies Are Everywhere
“Power Does Not Corrupt People, People Corrupt
Power”
Andre Gide
Bullies Are Everywhere
Bullies Will Only Do What Bystanders Allow………
Bullies Are Everywhere
Why Care About Bullies
• Bullying, Shame, and Humiliation Lead to Violence
• Bullying Reduces Achievement
• Creates Reactive Groups Rather Than Work Groups
• Reduces the Quality of Life in Communities, by Creating Special Interest Groups
Bullies Are Everywhere
The Circle of Power
ALL ROLES ARE CO-CREATED
FIXED ROLES ALL PEOPLE BECOME REPEATED VICTIM VICTIMIZER OCCUPY ALL PATTERNS ROLE ROLE ROLES AT DIFFERENT TIMES
ROLES ARE NOT DIAGNOSES
Bullies Are Everywhere
Power Dynamics Theory
• Power Dynamics Drive Individual and Group Behavior
• Power Dynamics are often an Unconscious
Trialectical RelationshipBully-VictimizerVictimBystander
Power’s Coerciveness Ranges from Everyday Insensitivities to Mass Murder
Bullies Are Everywhere
Social Context or Crucible
• Power is Enacted Socially within Contexts• Bystanders Are Causal Ingredients in Problem
Not Passive Observers• Power Conflicts Are Always Shifting• Coercion Evolves from Frozen Dynamics• Leader Can Be a Bully-Victim-Bystander• Climates Form Within Social Contexts• A Dysfunctional Social Context Impacts the
Individual
Bullies Are Everywhere
Bully Role: Victimizer
• Sadomasochistic Enjoyment of the Pain of Others
• Lacks Empathy
• Enjoys Dominant Status in Social Context
• Uses Humiliation to Improve Social Status
Bullies Are Everywhere
Bully Typology
• Sadistic: PsychopathicCold, Popular, Manipulates Others (Enron)
• Depressed: Bully’s Sidekick (homophilly)Unkempt, Socially Insecure, Attaches to
Sadistic Bully to Gain Status
• Bully - Victim: Bullies by Being a VictimClass Clown, Attracts Negative Attention,
Gains Power by Being a Victim
Bullies Are Everywhere
VICTIM ROLE
• Submissive
• Masochistic
• Driven to Please
• Rescue Driven
Bullies Are Everywhere
BYSTANDER ROLE
• The Audience for Public Humiliation
• Can Identify with Both Victim and Victimizer
• Humiliation is the Critical Ingredient
• Can Be an Individual or Group
Bullies Are Everywhere
BYSTANDER TYPOLOGY• Bully Bystander
Excited by Actions of the BullyCheers On or Laughs at Bully’s Shaming
• Victim BystanderSheepishly Looks On as Bully HumiliatesOffers Comfort only AFTERWARDS to Victim
• Abdicating BystanderUsually a System, Leader, or Governing BodyTakes No Action to Stop BullyBlames Others for the Problem
Bullies Are Everywhere
Redefining BullyingDYADIC
• Victim-victimizer primary focus
• Individual’s role as bully or victim is seen as fixed
• Audience is passive observer• Purely external/social definition• Bully-Victim are behavioral
roles
• Focus is on behavioral change• Intervention targets individuals
TRIADIC
• Social context of bully-victim-bystander (focus on bystander)
• Bully-Victim-Bystander roles co- created and in flux (always changing)
• Audience has an active role in violence
• Stress the role of unconscious power dynamics & processes
• Bully-Victim-Bystanders have complex combinations of roles & unconscious affiliations
• Focus is on Mentalizing• Intervention aimed at CLIMATE
Bullies Are Everywhere
Some BystandingRoles
VICTIM VICTIMIZER
Active roles Passive roles
DESTRUCTIVE BYSTANDING
HELPFUL BYSTANDING
•Bully Bystander
•Puppet master
•Sham
bystander
•Victim bystander
•Avoidant bystander
•Abdicating bystander
Peaceful Outcome
Violent Outcome
•Self Awareness
•Reflective Mindsets
•Accurate Reading of Others
•Impulsivity
•Concrete thinking
•Misread Danger signals