bullying prevention presentation - noblesville schools

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Bullying Prevention

Presenter: Pam Larkey LMHC, Olweus Trainer [email protected]

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Bully Prevention Programs

For information on different bullying prevention programs go to:

www.samhsa.gov• Bully Proofing Your School • Bully Safe USA• The Don’t Laugh at Me Program• Steps To Respect Program• Olweus Bullying Prevention Program

http://www.samhsa.gov/

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Possible Legal Concerns�• State laws related to bullying/bullying prevention

�• Civil suits brought against schools/school systems

�• Risk management issues for schools

©© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004

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Bullying is defined by 3 parts:

1. Bullying is repeated

2. Imbalance of power-you are afraid

3. Bullying is intentional-they do it just to be mean

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Rough Play Real Fighting Bullying

Usually friends;often repeated(same players)

Usually not friends; typically not repeated

Typically not friends; generally repeated

Balance of power

Power relatively equal

Unequal power

No intent to harm

Intentional harm doing

Intentional harm doing

Affect is friendly; positive, mutual

Affect negative; aggressive, tense, hostile affect

Affect negative; aggressive & differs for victim and aggressor

Adapted from Teacher Handbook �– Chapter 4; Pages 14-15.©© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004

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BULLYING = PEER ABUSEBULLYING = PEER ABUSE

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Direct BullyingDirect Bullying�•�• PhysicalPhysical

�•�• VerbalVerbal

�•�• NonNon--verbalverbal

�•�• Hitting, kicking, Hitting, kicking, shoving, spittingshoving, spitting�…�…

�•�• Taunting, teasing, Taunting, teasing, degrading racial or degrading racial or sexual commentssexual comments

�•�• Threatening, Threatening, obscene gesturesobscene gestures


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Indirect BullyingIndirect Bullying


�•�• PhysicalPhysical

�•�• VerbalVerbal

�•�• NonNon--verbalverbal

�•�• Getting another Getting another person to assault person to assault someonesomeone

�•�• Spreading rumorsSpreading rumors

�•�• Deliberate exclusion Deliberate exclusion from a group or from a group or activityactivity

�•�• CyberCyber--bullyingbullying

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Cyber bullying• Instant Messaging: Users can see who among their friends is

online and send messages and images instantaneously• Buddy List: A list of friends’ screen names that a user can

instant message by clicking• Text Messaging: Users can send typed messages to cell

phones, pagers, and email addresses• Chatroom: A public or private space on the Internet where

buddies can have lengthy typewritten conversations• ISP: Acronym for “internet service provider.” Examples

include AOL, Hotmail, Earthlink• Social Networking Websites: A complex web of friends

connected online by common interest. Example, MySpace.com, Friendster.com

• Blogs: Short for “web log.” An online journal that is frequently updated and intended for the general public

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How Does How Does CyberbullyingCyberbullying Differ Differ From Other Traditional Forms Of From Other Traditional Forms Of

Bullying?Bullying?• Cyberbullying can occur any time of the

day or night• Messages and images can be distributed

quickly to a very wide audience• Youth can be anonymous when

cyberbullying, which makes it difficult (and sometimes impossible) to trace them

• Kids don’t tell their parents about the cyberbullying

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Suggestions For EducatorsSuggestions For Educators• Be sure that your school’s anti-bullying rules and

policies address cyberbullying• Educate your students, teachers, and other staff

members about cyberbullying, its dangers, and what to do if someone is cyberbullied.

• Closely monitor students’ use of computers at school. Use filtering and tracking software on all computers.

• Investigate reports of cyberbullying immediately. • Notify parents of bully and victim of known or

suspected cyberbullying.

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Suggestions For EducatorsSuggestions For Educators

• Talk with students about the harm caused by cyberbullying.

• Contact the police if necessary• Investigate to see if the victim of

cyberbullying could use some support from a school counselor or mental health professional.

• New laws concerning cyberbullying

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Video

Cyberbullying

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Peer Risk Factors Peer Risk Factors for Being Bulliedfor Being Bullied

Lack of close friendsLack of close friends©© The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004The Olweus Bullying Prevention Group, 2004

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�“�“Passive VictimsPassive Victims�”�” Tend To..Tend To..�•�• Be quiet, cautious,& sensitiveBe quiet, cautious,& sensitive�•�• Be insecure, have little Be insecure, have little

confidenceconfidence�•�• Be physically weaker than peers Be physically weaker than peers

(boys)(boys)�•�• Develop earlier (girls)Develop earlier (girls)�•�• Be afraid of getting hurtBe afraid of getting hurt�•�• Find it easier to associate with Find it easier to associate with

adults than with peersadults than with peers

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The Bully/Victim or The Bully/Victim or �“�“Provocative Provocative VictimVictim�”�” Tends to Be...Tends to Be...

�•�• Hyperactive, restless, have Hyperactive, restless, have difficulty concentratingdifficulty concentrating

�•�• HotHot--tempered, attempt tempered, attempt to fight or answer to fight or answer back when they feel back when they feel attacked or insultedattacked or insulted

�•�• Clumsy and immatureClumsy and immature

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The Bully/Victim or The Bully/Victim or �“�“Provocative VictimProvocative Victim�”�”

�•�• Has difficulty reading social signals.Has difficulty reading social signals.

�•�• Often is actively disliked by adults, Often is actively disliked by adults, including their teacher.including their teacher.

�•�• May have reading/writing problems.May have reading/writing problems.

�•�• May try to bully weaker students.May try to bully weaker students.

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ShortShort--term Effects term Effects of Being Bulliedof Being Bullied

�•�• Lower selfLower self--esteemesteem�•�• Depression & anxietyDepression & anxiety�•�• IllnessIllness�•�• AbsenteeismAbsenteeism�•�• Thoughts of suicideThoughts of suicide


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Lasting Effects Lasting Effects of Being Bulliedof Being Bullied

�•�• Lower selfLower self--esteemesteem

�•�• Higher rates Higher rates of depressionof depression

�•�• Higher rates ofHigher rates ofPost Traumatic StressPost Traumatic Stress


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VideoEffects of Bullying

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Risk Factors for Bullying

Family

School

Peers

Individual


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Family Risk Factors Family Risk Factors for Bullyingfor Bullying

�•�• Lack of parental warmth and involvementLack of parental warmth and involvement

�•�• Lack of parental supervisionLack of parental supervision

�•�• OverlyOverly--permissive parentingpermissive parenting

�•�• Harsh discipline/physical Harsh discipline/physical punishmentpunishment


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Children Who Bully Tend To...Children Who Bully Tend To...�•�• Have more positive Have more positive attitudes toward attitudes toward violence than peersviolence than peers

�•�• Have quick tempers, Have quick tempers, are easily frustratedare easily frustrated

�•�• Have difficulty Have difficulty conforming to rulesconforming to rules

�•�• Be stronger than peers Be stronger than peers (boys) (boys)


NOBULLYINGALLOWED!

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Children Who Bully Tend To...Children Who Bully Tend To...

�•�• Appear tough, show Appear tough, show little compassion for little compassion for victimsvictims

�•�• Be aggressive to Be aggressive to adultsadults

�•�• Be good at talking Be good at talking themselves out of themselves out of situationssituations


NOBULLYINGALLOWED!

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Short and Long Term Short and Long Term Effects of Bullying Effects of Bullying

BehaviorBehavior�•�• Often part of a conductOften part of a conduct--disordered behavior patterndisordered behavior pattern

�•�• This pattern may continue This pattern may continue into young adulthoodinto young adulthood

�•�• Olweus study: Were 4 timesOlweus study: Were 4 timesas likely to have 3 or more as likely to have 3 or more convictions by age 24convictions by age 24


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Children Who Bully Can Children Who Bully Can ChangeChange

�•�• Bullying behaviors Bullying behaviors and victimization and victimization experiences are experiences are relatively stable relatively stable over time over time if if there is there is no intervention.no intervention.

�•�• BUT, appropriate BUT, appropriate intervention can intervention can change behaviors.change behaviors.


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The Bullying Circle: Students�’ Mode of Reactions/Roles in an Acute Bullying Situation

B

C

D

V

G

E

F

AStarts the bullying and take an active part

Takes an activepart, but do not start the bullying

Supports the bullying, but do not take an active part

Likes the bullying, but do not display open support

Watches what happens * Is none of my business * Doesn�’t take a stand

Dislikes the bullying and think they ought to help, but don�’t do it

Dislikes the bullying, helps or tries to help the victim

The one who is exposed

Victim

Bully/bullies

FollowerHenchman

SupporterPassive Bully/bullies

Passive Supporter

Possible BullyDisengagedOnlooker

PossibleDefender

Defenderof the

victim


Teacher�’s Handbook, Ch.3: Pg. 21

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Discussion QuestionsDiscussion Questions

�•�• Where do you see most children in your Where do you see most children in your school/community in this circle? Are school/community in this circle? Are these roles static?these roles static?

�•�• What keeps more children from being What keeps more children from being defenders?defenders?

�•�• What are characteristics of defenders?What are characteristics of defenders?�•�• How do adults usually respond to children How do adults usually respond to children

in positions B, C, D, E, and F? in positions B, C, D, E, and F?

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Kids Who ObserveKids Who Observe

What do you usually do What do you usually do when you see a student being bullied?when you see a student being bullied?

�•�• 38%38% Nothing, because itNothing, because it�’�’ssnone of my businessnone of my business

�•�• 27%27% I donI don�’�’t do anything, butt do anything, butI think I should helpI think I should help

�•�• 35%35% I try to help him or herI try to help him or her


As reported by 4th As reported by 4th �–�– 6th graders in South Carolina. Source: Melton, et al. (1998)6th graders in South Carolina. Source: Melton, et al. (1998)

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Changing Social Climate

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What can we do at our What can we do at our school?school?

•• Survey studentsSurvey students–– Hot spotsHot spots–– % of bullies% of bullies–– % of victims% of victims–– Types of bullying (victim and bully)Types of bullying (victim and bully)–– Teacher and school supportTeacher and school support–– Are kids telling? Who are they telling?Are kids telling? Who are they telling?–– What students would do if they see bullying?What students would do if they see bullying?

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• 48% Hallways / stairwells�• 32% In class (with teacher absent)�• 29% In gym class/locker rooms�• 27% In class (with teacher present)�• 24% In lunch room�• 17% In the bathroom�• 15% On the bus�• 16% On way to and from school�• 8% At the bus stop

Common Bullying LocationsJ. Unnever et al., (2001). Survey of 2,472 Students

Grades 6 – 8 in Roanoke, VA.


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•• Look at results Look at results –– Develop a plan to increase supervision in hot Develop a plan to increase supervision in hot

spot areasspot areas

•• School wide bully boxSchool wide bully box•• Post signsPost signs

(example(example-- rules, definition)rules, definition)

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Against Bullying�•�• We will not bully others.We will not bully others.�•�• We will try to help students who We will try to help students who are bullied.are bullied.

�•�• We will include students who are We will include students who are easily left out.easily left out.

�•�• When we know somebody is being When we know somebody is being bullied, we will tell an adult at bullied, we will tell an adult at school and an adult at home.school and an adult at home.

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•• Incorporation of bullying themes across the Incorporation of bullying themes across the curriculumcurriculum

•• Consistent use of positive and negative Consistent use of positive and negative consequencesconsequences–– documentationdocumentation

•• Weekly Classroom Meetings!!!Weekly Classroom Meetings!!!• ParentHotline• Show and model empathy

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•• Crime Stopper LockerCrime Stopper Locker•• SupervisionSupervision•• Praise positive behavior Praise positive behavior

(example(example-- Student of the Month, Student of the Month, Character Coupons) Character Coupons)

•• Know the studentsKnow the students

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What can do at our school?What can do at our school?HOW TO INTERVENE WHEN BULLYING OCCURS

1. Speak Up – Stop the Action!When ever you see bullying occur, immediately tell the student who is bullying to stop

2. Support the student who was bullied Allow the student who was bullied to “save face”

3. Name the bullying behavior and give immediate consequencesSay, specifically, what behaviors you saw or heard

4. Support the bystandersLet them know that next time they need to tell an adult or stand up for the student who was being victimized.

The immediate intervention should be very brief and to the point. It shouldn’t take more than a few minutes. Don’t ask the students what happened or their side of the story.

You should only stop the bullying, support the victim, impose consequences, and empower the bystander. A follow up intervention can be done to follow up with the

students involved on an individual basis.

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Video

Mediation

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What can we do to support What can we do to support the victim?the victim?

• Praise the student for their courage to discuss the incident with you

• Ask the student what they need to feel safe• When you are aware of a bullying incident communicate

with other staff members who will be working with the student so that they can make sure any further incidents do not occur

• Don’t force a meeting between the student who was bullying and the victim

• Encourage the student to make friends• Get parents involved • If necessary, talk to counselor if you feel a mental health

referral is needed • Encourage the student to report any further bullying

incidents• Follow up with the student who was bullied a few days

after the bullying incident

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What can we do to help the What can we do to help the bully?bully?

• Make it clear to the bully that bullying will not be tolerated in your classroom or in the school

• Model and discuss empathy as much as possible• Get parents involved• Refer to school counselor• Develop clear and consistent rules and consequences

against bullying• If necessary, talk to counselor if you feel a mental health

referral is needed• Encourage the student who is bullying to get involved in

prosocial activities such as clubs, music lessons, nonviolent sports

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What can we do to empower What can we do to empower bystanders?bystanders?

• Discuss with students what they can do to support the student who is being bullied:– Don’t laugh or join in the bullying– Find a way to physically move the child being bullied

out of the bullying situation– Don’t repeat the lies or gossip, the name calling or

other bullying behavior– Include the child being bullied in your activities– Be supportive to the victim in private– Tell an adult what you saw and heard– Talk to the bully in private– Be supportive to the victim in the presence of the bully– Confront the bully about their behavior in public

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What can we do to empower What can we do to empower bystanders?bystanders?

• Explain to students that you expect for them to report any bullying that they see

• Help students better understand their role as bystander in the perpetuation of bullying behaviors

• Discuss with students what stops them from reporting bullying incidents

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Who will protect the children?

�• YOU can make a huge difference in a child�’s life

�• YOU can prevent bullying on your bus

�• TOGETHER, WE can bring bullying to an end at our school

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Resourceful Web SitesResourceful Web Sites• www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov• www.samhsa.gov• www.clubophelia.com (girl bullying)• cyberbullying

– www.isafe.org– www.cyberbullying.org– www.wiredsafety.org– www.stoptextbully.org

http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/

http://www.samhsa.gov/

http://www.clubophelia.com/

http://www.isafe.org/

http://www.cyberbullying.org/

http://www.wiredsafety.org/

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