cadet revelation complaint

Abuse Revelation Unusual Circumstance

Accuser: Kevin Bradley German (Capt, CD, Retired) Accused: Captain Theresa Mae German, CD – CO 533 Sabre Sqn Captain Bentley Barr – DCO 533 Sabre Sqn Sergeant Crista Richelle German – 533 Sabre Sqn

Abuse Revelation – Unusual Circumstance – Kevin B. German –

Abuse Revelation – Unusual Circumstance

Abuse Revelation – Unusual Circumstance.................................................................... 3 Participant Details ....................................................................................................... 3 Executive Summary: ................................................................................................... 3 Notice of Specifically Cruel and Abusive Behaviour................................................. 4 The Final Straw........................................................................................................... 5

Victim Impact Statement ................................................................................................ 9 Forward ....................................................................................................................... 9 Conclusion ................................................................................................................ 11 Unacceptable Life Experience .................................................................................. 12 Experience and Conclusion....................................................................................... 12

Correspondence............................................................................................................. 13 Subject: VERY SERIOUS WARNING (Resend) .................................................... 13 Open Letter to Fiends & Family ............................................................................... 15 Subject: Maybe the Problem is Somewhere around Here?....................................... 16 Subject: FW: Scars.................................................................................................... 18 Subject: Answer ........................................................................................................ 20 Subject: Family Gossip Update ................................................................................ 22 Subject: Custody Issues ............................................................................................ 23 Subject: Reality Check.............................................................................................. 24 Subject: Religious Text of King James Bible 1 Timothy, chapter 2 ........................ 24 Subject: Insight on What's Happening...................................................................... 28 Subject: Reality Check Mano-a-Mano...................................................................... 30 Subject: FW: Oil on Troubled Waters ...................................................................... 32 Subject: Re: Sqn Flying: ........................................................................................... 36

Supporting References .................................................................................................. 37 Mission Statement Of The Air Cadet League (Excerpted) ....................................... 37 Air Cadet League Of Canada – Philosophy.............................................................. 38 Distorted Content Excerpted from the Internet......................................................... 39 Runaway Political Agenda Example ........................................................................ 39 Flight Safety Preventative Philosophy...................................................................... 41 Public Denouncement of My Own Wife and Daughter............................................ 43 Gratuitous Sympathy Shot ........................................................................................ 44


Abuse Revelation – Unusual Circumstance

Participant Details Victims: Kevin Bradley German (Captain, CD, Retired) Bernard Joshua German Accelerated Solutions Inc. Geographic Air Survey Ltd. Northern Material Engineering Ltd. Alberta Senior Citizens’ Housing Association U of A Non-Academic Staff Association Dale Weir (crew member/non-pilot) Accused: Captain Theresa Mae German, CD – CO 533 Sabre Sqn Captain Bentley Barr – DCO 533 Sabre Sqn Sergeant Crista Richelle German – 533 Sabre Sqn All accused jointly and severally of emotional abuse by way of wilful disregard for, and hindrance of, the rights of a man of God’s Love and True Honour in the performance of his duties as is his right under the Laws of the Dominion of Canada, the professional ethics of the Air Cadet League of Canada, and the authority vested to a reasonable man in his interpretation of the Word of God before the eyes of a judge.

Executive Summary: In short, I am being denied “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” to borrow the term from the American experience, for no other reason that that it is being unreasonably withheld to justify irrational logic and the defence thereof. I cannot be happy without a family. In particular, I have a duty to rescue my son from an untenable situation in the making, even if the uniformed members of the family would rather be at Camp Wright than camping with their own father. My love and sense of commitment towards Capt. German and Sgt. German are easily reciprocated in practice, if not in spirit. This is actually a necessity for maintaining an intact sense of command and authority – a necessity in my professional arena. It can’t be both ways at once. This is the voice of experience and I will NOT have the point denied or debated. It is the point.


Notice of Specifically Cruel and Abusive Behaviour I regret to inform you that I have witnessed and have been personally subjected to conduct unbecoming of officers and men, which I find personally deplorable, and against which I must take a stand in defence of my own personal interests. Specifically, the conduct of Capt. German and Sgt. German has evolved, for reasons contained herein and outside the scope of this complaint, into an ongoing situation where active and passive wilful sadism is being employed to effect my personal disempowerment, out of principle and simply as a matter of family policy. This situation has evolved as a result of Capt. German’s overindulgent participation in the Air Cadet Program. The family stresses became too great and so she simply “put up a new shingle” in my absence to pursue this interest at the cost of her own family’s stability. I find this action to be personally humiliating, and generally deplorable when viewed in proper context. As I am a good and loving man, and as my then-wife was a good and loving (if misguided) woman, the situation has cycled and degenerated into an extreme situation over the years. A milestone was reached in August, when Capt. German decided, on her own accord, to move my family out of my own home and into hers as a means of maintaining control over our shared lives. Without getting too deeply into the particular events leading into the period, we had been having domestic difficulties arising largely out of the time spent on her cadet activities. I know that this is not entirely unheard of, and in fact, some marriages may reach the breaking point over the stress. What makes this incident unique is that we had, at several times, thought about the idea of legal separation. In the event, I returned from a flight away from Edmonton to find that my wife had bought a new property and that a forced separation was inevitable. Although we had other issues (as does every couple), the Air Cadet movement was the lion’s share of our issues. So, in my mind she left me and took my children from out from under my roof to further her cadet interests in relative family peace and harmony (now minus my direct and meddling participation in their idyllic cadet world). The after-effects of this decision are startling… As an example: It has now become a form of sportsmanship for my own daughter to publicly berate me, even going so far as to say outright "I laugh at you" on the way to Church. For her defence, she relies on her mother's unfailing charity, and this uncontrollable interpersonal dynamic has led to a situation that has gone well past the limits of acceptable human behaviour for Sgt. German and Capt. German, respectively. It is actually raw animal “pack behaviour” in action, now encompassing every member of the family in a struggle for self-interest (as opposed to self-discipline or self-development). In effect, the battle for family supremacy has become a free-for-all and my own nine-year-old son has even tried to publicly admonish me on the ski slopes to try his hand at the game. As for myself, it seems that I have reached the point where I am no longer entitled to even a modicum of basic human dignity, as this has become a "shades of grey" issue in the eyes of the women in the household.


I know this, as I have been specifically directed and informed

(on Christmas Day no less) that it is a UNANIMOUS DECISION, of the members of the family, based on gender lines, that:

I AM SPECIFICALLY NO LONGER ENTITLED TO DEFEND MY HONOUR OR

DIGNITY AS A PARENT, AN ADULT MAN, OR EVEN A HUMAN BEING EVEN THOUGH I SUFFER PSYCHIATRIC AILMENTS

AS A RESULT OF BEING EXPECTED TO CONFORM AND ACQUIESCE TO THIS ONGOING, WILFULLY SPITEFUL AND DAMAGING TREATMENT.

What is particularly irksome is that Capt. German and Sgt. German use, as their moral authority, high-sounding values as espoused in the Air Cadet League’s own manuals and also such documents as Vimy Ridge Academy’s Code of Honour. This allows for a “Holier-than-thou” approach to negotiations and the definition on acceptable conduct in uniform, in school and in civilian (family) life. However, when actually called upon to act in accordance with their own stated principles, I am informed that these principles are really only published to look good on paper. They don’t really mean anything in the year 2001 – especially when it comes to treating the father of the family with at least a little respect. Therein lies the issue… The logical, natural, spiritual and legal value systems have all been inverted simply as an exercise in unstoppable willpower. It is now each participant’s personal duty to carry this game to it’s logical extreme and if, in so doing, and innocent man is destroyed, there seems to be no sense of moral culpability because, in my unique and specific case, the victim is not entitled to defence by virtue of his attempts to be a “member of the family”. I believe that only Capt. German and Sgt German could possibly even attempt to justify this as reasonable, fair, loving or rational. I can’t help but reach the conclusion that the rules don’t apply here somehow, and I believe that this rationale can only have one of two possible defences:

1) because in this case, I’m the victim, or 2) because in this case, they’re the tormentors (mutineers in my own eyes).

The Final Straw The final straw came on Christmas Day, 2001. As is often the case during life’s changes like this, we were making up family plans on-the-fly. We had just been to Midnight Mass the previous evening and Mrs. German offered to have me over for Christmas dinner. I was really looking forward to the event. As events unfolded, my daughter took a natural conversation and escalated it by steering the topic into the dating arena, where the slightest mis-cue or mis-statement on my part could touch off her emotional landmines in waiting. She told me that there is a “Crista’s ex-boyfriend club”, and when I simply suggested that wasn’t really a good sign to me (making light of a serious red flag) she exploded that I was “calling her a slut” etc. I believe, had I said nothing or something along the lines of “that’s nice” she would have taken the conversation one level deeper – for instance, saying something like “they’re fun to play with”… whatever it takes to wilfully attack my sense of masculinity for sport in her defiant, natural, somewhat maladjusted teenage mind.


Either way, she’s probing to test where or if there’s any limit at all. She won’t stop until she finds it or she leaves me completely berated and defenceless and humiliated as a person as she giggles in joyful glee… it’s her idea of Family Fun for the Holidays… she KNOWS it’s what a dog-fighter calls “a turkey shoot” a.k.a. shooting ducks in a barrel… so I talk to my son beforehand and now I’m “playing games with the children”… they’re PLAYING GAMES WITH ME!!!! Of course, once the ensuing (predestined) explosion arrives, Ms Mom immediately accuses me of being intolerable… she fumes on the couch and “calls off the armistice”… HE BLEW IT AGAIN!!! she fumes… totally unaware that she’s been snookered. Once I’ve left the picture, Sgt German feeds my son for me and laughs behind my back… (“Look how happy my kids are once that prick’s gone”, Mom thinks...) I have, as in so many situations in the past years, no right answer because the social dynamics are such that my personal failure is now predetermined and guaranteed by design. I will not say that this is intentional on the part of Capt. German but I know for an absolute certainty that it is in the case of Sgt. German. My daughter, Crista Richelle German, has developed into a sadistic child who toys with her father, her mother, her brother and the family dog as personal exercises in active and passive control and influence. I believe she needs professional assessment and treatment at the earliest opportunity, but by definition, such a suggestion would only aggravate the situation. For those who might doubt me, I can make available the sound of my nine-year-old son explaining how he’d just finished begging for mercy simply for the purpose of Crista’s amusement. Would you like this young lady babysitting your children? How about your L.A.C.s? Should there be a different standard? If so, which should prevail? The larger question: Why does a 14 year old “Leader of Tomorrow” have a nine-year-old-boy in tears and begging for mercy in the first place? Capt. German’s answer: He bounced a ball in a manner that offended her. This is absolutely appalling supervisory assessment by any standard. Nevertheless, it is the only explanation available that suits her understanding of the world she lives in (i.e. her paradigm of parental authority and control). Sgt. German has also waved a knife in my face to force her point. She truly believes that it was my fault that she do so. (I was simply using a trick from her own magician’s bag.) Your standard, which Sgt. German waves in my face as her claim to moral superiority, states “…However, the League is also of the view that there is a place in our society for an educational program which is not entirely permissive, which requires the participants to meet certain standards of dress, appearance and behaviour, and which expects our young people to accept a full measure of personal responsibility for their own actions….”

This is NOT a shades-of-grey issue.

If you do not demand better from your cadets, then I, at the very least

demand better for my own son.


Neither is it acceptable to say “it only happened once”. Especially, not after she had her own father excommunicated from his own family’s dinner table on Christmas Day just to prove to herself it was possible. This is truly an unbelievably cruel way to treat your fellow human beings. I would bet that, of the 800,000 people in the Greater Edmonton Area, I was perhaps the only person thrown out of the family for expecting a daughter to at least respect the Golden Rule towards her father on Christmas Day. This was, in the event, truly too much for Capt. German and Sgt. German to offer a guest, or father, ex-husband or my person in any light or role you would care to cast me in. My only real option was to remain totally non-conversant with my own daughter and take the chance that she would find some other trigger to set off the show. I believe my daughter will someday be unfit to lead Officers and Men, as her mother is currently unfit to lead by virtue of having no moral limitations or ethical standards when pursuing her personal agenda and self-interest. None of this would likely be more or less significant that what other marital pairs might endure, if it were not for the fact that I am a pilot by profession. As such, I am exposed to operational situations quite unlike that of the general public (specifically, being in command and control of an aeronautical vehicle, in flight) and it is in this regime where my most serious conditions occur. In any event, I now feel like a “survivor” of 18 years’ mental enslavery. As a result, I have a survivor’s insight into issues that are deeply personal, sometimes disturbing, and somewhat embarrassing to expose. Still, I am prepared to tell a story for the benefit of others, in keeping with the philosophy of the DND Flight Safety Programme and Transport Canada’s Aviation Enforcement programs – both of which I am intimately familiar, having spent time in each in an official and investigative capacity. I also believe that this situation resulted from a confluence of personalities and that there are no real “bad persons” in the picture. There are only misguided persons and it is the purpose of this expose to determine the cause factors and set a recommendation for future action. I personally believe that this confluence has led to two suicides in my immediate family, as this standard method of interpersonal relationship will eventually drive the “weakest person in the pack” to the edge of self-destruction. In this home, my strength is automatically interpreted as Capt. German’s weakness and so I must now remain without right to personal dignity, by definition. In my own case, I have, at several points in the past (1985 and 1999) sought treatment for the anxiety disorder and was medically restricted for some time to fly “with or as co-pilot”. I now know this equated directly to being the unwilling “co-pilot”, subconsciously, in my own mind. This is part of The Human Condition and as a man of love, bound to a woman with no ethical limitations I now find myself having a mental health problem that I need some outside assistance in resolving. Otherwise, I believe that my mental health will fail as a matter of destiny. I am therefore trapped by my concurrent needs for rational sanity and human dignity. It seems I can now have only one or the other – not both – as this is apparently reserved for Air Cadet Officers and their charges only, not pilots or loving, honourable fathers with CIC Officer wives and problem children. It’s a battle of wills, simply, and I now believe that the situation has reached the point where there is, in the mind of Capt. German is only one possible course of action: concede that we have irreconcilable differences. My strategy is therefore to make changes in her reality that she perhaps doesn’t want to have made, if it is for the better good of the family unit. In any event, this situation can no longer be tolerated. As a matter of principle, I must take some action to restore some natural order, in order to be able to claim my dignity as a person.


I now know with certainty that there is a causal relationship between this casual humiliation (having my wishes ignored, or spiteful bullying by my charges that are subordinate in the eyes of the Courts, the Military and the Word of God), and the anxiety disorder, which I have suffered for some years. Still, Capt. German and Sgt German see this as a minor issue, and this seems exactly in defiance with the laws of the Dominion of Canada, and the values and principles of the Air Cadet League of Canada, as well as the Vimy Ridge Academy Code of Honour. If left unchecked, this process will lead to the destruction of an honest man's family and a custody battle for the sole guardianship of my son, who I believe destined to lead an abnormal life as a result of being raised in an environment where human right are so flagrantly flouted, and for no other reason than having witnessed my excommunication from the family – a decision Capt. German made when at Camp Wright, “doing me the favour” of having my children in tow with her. The situation has carried on so long that it has become long past deplorable, and it has been a cycle 18 years' in the making. I am using this complaint in order to “turn the table around”, and in doing so, would ask the readership to consider whether these actions are legal, moral, ethical or in keeping with the Word of God. As we are all a product of personal experience, and as I have a variety of talents at my disposal, I will address this issue herein as a matter of legal, moral and ethical standards. Editorial Notes: This document contains some excerpted personal correspondence in the form of emails exchanged between my wife and myself. There are clear lines between legal and ethical admissibility. Here I am playing the direct approach and am specifically aware of the appearances. As this was initially not intended for a public audience, some of the language contained in these exchanges is profane. However, I trust that the readership will read these words in context. The dates are not in any particular order but the chronology is enlightening. Specifically, there was a brief period where Mrs. German wore her wedding ring again and told me we were “rings on, no going back”. What she meant was, there was no going back to reconciliation -- but she needed to buy some lead-time with the lawyers. Is this not the most incredibly, unbelievably cruel and deceptive behaviour regarding what I believe should be life’s most valuable bond? What could be more hurtful to a loving man? And she sets the standard for the Squadron now – and her and my own daughter. I am also not a fundamentalist in my views on religious doctrine, other than to say that I as raised in the Roman Catholic faith and my views are very close but not entirely in-line with that denomination. I am a “free thinker” philosophically, in the tradition of Benjamin Franklin and Bertrand Russell. I am something of a disciple of both Jesus (His message, if not entirely convinced of the Resurrection) and Mr. Russell, who I’m sure would argue that the Miracle of the Ascension is not worth the effort of debating. Believe what you will but believe well is my message. To paraphrase: Walk the Talk.


Victim Impact Statement

Forward As a man of some experience, and as a professional, I believe that our actions are interrelated and certainly affect those outside the family unit.

Recent Past In our case, the tug-of-war between the cadets and our personal interests cost me considerable sleep and stress, and this occurred right in the middle of a flying contract where I had to be at work at sunrise each and every single day, without a break, for six months’ straight. This occurrence, had I been in DND at the time, would have cost me 6 months’ grounding, by policy. I rode it out, relieving the unwelcome stress any way I could and now have a reputation for anger issues as a result. Capt. German seems to think I am not entitled to the normal reactions inherent in the Human Condition. I believe I have the right to act at least in a manner consistent with a normal human being who finds out, for instance, that his family has been in a car accident. In short, Capt. German believes she has the right to control my response to unwelcome stimuli, and in doing so, holds me to an impossible standard. This is emotional cruelty – active torture for a man who loves his family. I still had to work on 2-3 hours sleep a night. My photographer and the clients of my personal, incorporated company (Accelerated Solutions Inc.) are all under contractual obligations, and are all therefore in this picture. I know from my FS background that a pilot should not fly “with bees in his bonnet” and I had an angry hive to contend with. This presented clear danger to my passenger or financial and medical destruction to myself. I (my company) have lost my best client and it cost my aerial photographic company an estimated $4,000 in lost revenue for me to attend the SINGLE session of therapy we’ve been able to coax Sgt. German into attending. Returning from this mission (bad luck, it was sunny that afternoon) may have cost me my next summer’s employment. We sold the previous residence; there was no point in staying there alone anyway. I didn’t need the overhead of a mortgage when I didn’t have revenue potential as this incident has COMPLETELY blocked my mind and has cost me three months’ productivity and counting. You have a CO and a sadistic sergeant who calls herself “Miss_Perfect” on the Internet. Capt. German has a son who misses his father but is being trained to despise him, and will, I believe, in time if I do not win custody. (I suspect this is one of Crista’s long-term goals. Perhaps I just believe it’s a logical certainty as everything I do has proven to be simply not acceptable, given enough time.) I have no home, no family, few clients, possibly no flying contract for the spring… I have been more than a little impacted by Capt. German’s efforts in support of your agenda.


Far Past In 1999, I was a student pilot on 408 Sqn, under training to fly the Griffon helicopter. At the time, Capt. German was highly involved in the Cadet exchange to Quebec and also, had a large amount of other personal work. To make a long story short, she left for six weeks French Language training for the social aspects and so, as I like to say, “she could order pancakes in French”. Due to events beyond my control (unplanned software change) I was also under a huge personal load at the time in question. I expressed my wishes specifically; that I needed her to stay home a little more to effect my own goals and personal happiness. Her answer: “Oh honey, you’ll do fine”… and she left for the lessons. My response: Degeneration into clinical depression on the realization that the slightest Cadet extracurricular activity takes precedence to my own mental health (read: marriage). The aftermath: Six months Class “B” so I could be grounded for stress relief, after which I got two quick flights and was released as “unsuitable for further service”. In hindsight, I can see where that was intended to be my opportunity to “ditch the bitch and get on with life”. In the larger picture, I have, since 1985, suffered from a variety of masked effects including an anxiety disorder that was never diagnosed – or at least not disclosed to me by the professionals at the time. The events of the summer have proved with certainty that this condition was directly attributable to Capt. German’s ethical standards (or lack thereof) vis-à-vis accountability, honesty, loyalty and commitment to her word as a wife, a mother, a lawful citizen of the Dominion of Canada and as an Officer.

The Present The same dynamic was happening this summer, and it was her decision to ascend to the CO’s position that led to my wanting to take some drastic step towards realigning our family priorities. In effect, her decision to take over the squadron led to my dissatisfaction such that Capt. German told me the following (paraphrased) on my return from the trip away over my birthday: “If you aren’t satisfied with what little time I give your needs now, I will put you in the doghouse permanently, cut you off from having sexual relations with me and sleep around on you when I eventually find the time for it. You can stay on my dental plan and visit the kids as often as you want to.” She bought her own property when I was out of town, and had Capt. Barr and her work party (all cadets) move my own furniture out of my own home when I was defenceless to stop it. I have to admit that this treatment is less than what one might expect, even in dire circumstances. The present situation is this: I need to maintain at least a modicum of human dignity and this is not forthcoming. If this is unreasonably and sadistically withheld, it will lead to my destruction as a person of value to the world in which I live.


It will be confirmation – positive confirmation – that I am not entitled to basic human dignity, by virtue of the very fact that I married Theresa Mae Braconnier some 18 long years ago. Do you want a Commanding Officer who lives in a personal reality that demands that I remain completely emasculated in order to spend time at the Christmas table with her and her daughter? That’s what you have in both of them. My son wants Christmas dinner with his father, and he can’t have it. So, as it happens, while Capt. German today works towards her CD2, my son sits alone and I also sit alone in a different postal code.

The Future The future remains to be seen, and depends on whether this chain of events will continue on to the complete destruction of the family unit. The Commanding Officer of 533 Squadron seems steadfastly determined to prove her point. So does Sgt. German. I’m placing my first interest in my son… to ensure that he will no longer be an indirect victim of the Air Cadet League and its misdirected staff.

Conclusion Perhaps CHAP is for cadets only… parents and fathers can sit out in the cold??? Possibly, and this would certainly be in keeping with my professional advice on the topic… but not without my son. He is already a victim of Sgt. German’s psychological torture and Capt. German’s motherly dereliction of duty. It is my duty as a father to put my future efforts into reconciliation as a first and preferred option (still only one “right moment” away and all the lessons learned and dealt with) but if this is not possible, then a custody battle for the future of my son is inevitability. I cannot lose my son without losing my aviation medical (bread & butter) in the process. And I do not deserve this predicament. I suffer here so that 533 Sqn may prosper under the worthy(?) command of Capt. German. Please consider this and act within your own ethical standards and best judgement.


Unacceptable Life Experience Narrative follows: Father: “Son, let me show you a little trick for crossing the flat snow” (advice) Son: “Stop treating me like a five-year-old” (admonition) Father: “I’m not treating you like a five-year-old; it’s just advice” (correction) Son: “I never said you were treating me like a five-year-old” (denial) Father: “Son, you just said “Stop treating me like a five-year-old” (correction/defence)” Son: “Sister’s right, you are a jerk. I hate you” (spontaneous hatred for my effort) In effect, at that time I had better keep my mouth shut and let him ski or walk as he sees fit or he’ll hate me for trying to be a good father. There is no right answer.

Experience and Conclusion I was accused of showboating by my son on a ski hill. I had an issue with this… Specifically, it would be hard for me to put on a Flight Safety hat and tell other pilots not to showboat, as it’s unprofessional, when I’m being told the same (and in the same tone) by my own son. I’m supposed to supervise my son, not the other way around. Capt. German doesn’t see why I have a problem here, or why, in fact, I have a problem ANYWHERE where she doesn’t think there should be one. I am quite literally and figuratively “not entitled to hold an opinion” other than her own. Let’s cut to the chase: If we were to seriously go to marriage counselling (and we’ve been for the show of it, that’s all), we would make a list of “boundaries” and issues for which we want to make a stand. Capt. German would insist that my side of the page remains blank, if I want her attendance at the negotiating table. The only issue is how much more I’m willing to bend. I’ve already bent to the edge of personal sanity as Capt. German furthers the goals of the Air Cadet League. This is the voice of experience, which I can back with medical documentation, and I think you can see it’s pretty obvious from casual observation as well that this is an untenable condition to endure. So in effect, she places her right of self-direction first – Maslow in action – and defies her husband, and the values of her Church and the Air Cadet League in the process. This is starting to look more like a dictatorship than anything resembling moral or ethical behaviour on her part. In fact, it’s runaway egocentricity in action. Bottom line: Capt. German heeds her own calling over the Word of God, her agreements with her husband, and the stated principles of the organization she claims to represent so well.


Sgt German uses the opportunity to be wilfully cruel for her own amusement, simply BECAUSE SHE CAN. Correspondence -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 17, 2001 9:21 PM To: Glenys Edwardes; Bentley & Claudia Barr; Cris German; Terri German Cc: Fred D'Amico; John Hautmann; Tom Langeste

Subject: VERY SERIOUS WARNING (Resend) Folks: It just occurred to me that Terri was discussing the possibility of me having bi-polar disorder tonight. This might have been in response to my suggesting she's paranoid to some degree or another. First point: ANYBODY in a life change like this is going to be paranoid to some degree. Welcome to the Human Condition. There has been ample evidence that she's afraid of things happening that simply don't. I'd call that the proof-in-the-pudding. Second Point regarding my condition: NOTE THE FOLLOWING CAREFULLY THIS IS HER OPINION AND SHE IS NOT A FLIGHT SURGEON. THE IS OVERSTEPPING HER MEDICAL AUTHORITY TO DIAGNOSE ON HEARSAY EVIDENCE. STOP DISCUSSING MY MEDICAL CONDITION *** IMMEDIATELY *** OR FACE POTENTIAL LAWSUIT ACTION AT SECOND OFFENCE. THIS IS LIBELLOUS BEHAVIOUR. What happens if I'm reported to Transport Canada? It's an offence to fly with a known medical condition, and unfortunately, they don't have an office in Salem, Mass. That's the FAA's jurisdiction. I'd potentially be grounded and unable to extricate myself, as just another unfortunate side-benefit of being legally bound to her. Be Elmer Fudd: "Be Vewwwwy Vewwwwy Careful". I've been medically restricted on account of her TWICE now. I'm better now. You better believe it. Please advise if you are unclear of the ramifications of this warning. I am also forwarding this email to Transport Canada Aviation Enforcement as a pre-emptive measure.


Kevin German PS: For Tom: I don't have Tamara's e-mail address on her card. Please forward as a favour, thanks. This cannot be allowed to happen at all, period. For Fred: Just sit on this, ok? Feel free to call me at 707 7678 if you have any concerns. Thanks....


Open Letter to Fiends & Family To friends & family -- all those who care about Terri's and my kids' interests: I want you to know that I'm meeting with my lawyer tomorrow and planning for a divorce ASAP if there is no other alternative. However, I am prepared to try to go over her head to the courts if possible (and I really I hope it doesn't come to this) and petition that she's legally incapacitated by being obsessive-compulsive towards the Cadets due to her personal history. It's possible that she has a real medical condition; one that happens to real people like you and me. However, the side effects amount to the destruction of the family unit. The proof: It already happened and I was out of town at the time. I didn't even get the chance to debate and that's clearly a very shitty thing to do to ANYONE, let along a John Lennon Clone like me. You get the point... I think her behaviour is irrational, but my advisors & I all know she also takes her lead from a bunch of irrational role models. I'm looking for professional back-up and I think it's pretty much in the bag by now. (Details are personal and I may still be very wrong.) Due to her very nature (and ironically it's the reason I married her in the first place) I need to play hardball in every way I can -- I call it "negative reinforcement". Others might see it as "an eye for an eye". I don't really care about the optics except for the special case of those who I trust as advisors, and oddly, Terri's counsel would qualify at the top of the list. It's total war until one of us caves, and it won't be me. I need to win if I want to keep my Aviation Medical, which means "bread & butter" for me and my kid(s). We're in what's called a "Mexican Stand-off" if you're familiar with the term. Or MAD... Anyway, I am hoping to play the ethical high road, not the legal route. It's thinking "outside the box" but it's in the best interest of us all. Then I hope we can kiss and make up. She'll need some TLC along the way, from everyone. Cross your fingers, folks... Kevin PS: And to show I mean tough-love, the "cc" on the list is her legal counsel. He may disagree with my assessment but at least we're all introduced.


Steve: Maybe this should be required reading for all Cadet junkies... not directed at you personally, but I think we've maybe lost ourselves somewhere in the trees here... Food for thought... Kevin -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 25, 2001 4:11 PM To: Terri German; Cris German Cc: Bob Bondarevich

Subject: Maybe the Problem is Somewhere around Here? Capt. German & Sgt German: I found this at the Air Cadet site. I'm building my case for the courts. They had this on-line: * * * * * * "REMEMBER THE CADET" -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A cadet is the most important person. A cadet is not dependent on us - we are dependent on them. A cadet is not an interruption in our work - they are the purpose for it. A cadet is part of our business - not an outsider. They are human beings with feelings and deserve to be treated with respect. A cadet is a person who comes to us with their needs and wants - it is our job to fill them. A cadet deserves the most courteous attention we can give them. They are the lifeblood of this organization. We would have to close our doors without them! Author Unknown * * * * * * Sounds good, eh??? I think this is the most twisted, self-serving garbage I've seen since the GST debate. Yes, let's remember the cadet but let's also remember what THE CADET HIMSELF IS SUPPOSED TO STAND FOR.


Let's re-examine using the Leadership Theory your own manuals expose to see these words in a new light... 1) >> A cadet is the most important person. << Sorry, no... the cadet reports to a Superior Officer. 2) >> A cadet is not dependent on us - we are dependent on them. << = We'll take needs and direction, by definition, from them (and stop drinking when they stop sniffing gas, in a different tribe). Perhaps the lunatics are running the asylum here? 3) >> A cadet is not an interruption in our work - they are the purpose for it. << Part of our work is to instil good ethics in them and make sure it sticks even when they're in civilian clothes. Also, uncovering this kind of bullshit and exposing it for what it is. 4) >> A cadet is part of our business - not an outsider. They are human beings with feelings and deserve to be treated with respect. << Parents, on the other hand, are different somehow (and so is God's Word), 5) >> A cadet is a person who comes to us with their needs and wants - it is our job to fill them. << What do we get to ask in return??? 6) >> A cadet deserves the most courteous attention we can give them. They are the lifeblood of this organization. We would have to close our doors without them! << Yes, and you'd have to lose the war without the Private. Doesn't make them all little generals, folks... I think, if you'll put some thought into this, you might agree that you should be embarrassed to have this disgraceful twisted reality on your website. Capt. German (for Real)


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 15, 2001 9:42 AM To: Glenys Edwardes Cc: Cris German; Terri German

Subject: FW: Scars Ms Edwards: Here's an older e-mail from my records. Terri was out somewhere at the time, and it was a chilling conversation to have with my own daughter. This was only about 10 days before Terri's birthday. I doubt Crista, B.J. or Terri is willing to readily admit the conversation even occurred. B.J. suffers in silence to lighten Mom's emotional load. Until the 6th, he was simply copying my gentlemanly behaviour. Crista's using the opportunity to train him like a dog and he doesn't have the social skills to deal with the stresses. Therefore, he says to me privately "I hate my life"... which I think you'll find is a red flag warning for potential suicide. Also, when I said the Terri "I need help" in the past, her response was always "Oh, honey, you're doing fine". Perhaps B.J. just knows there's no point in even bringing it up. Her response may just always the same cheery, motherly encouragement I got from her myself. It sounds good but it makes the whole "I need help" statement rather moot. In fact, it hurts more to be brushed off then neglected. I know this first-hand. Please think about this and pass your comments along to Social Services (cc'ing me). Yours truly, Kevin German -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: November 28, 2001 10:56 PM To: Terri German Subject: Scars Terri


Before you make any decisions regarding tonight's issues, let me tell you that Cris told me, almost in so many words, that she has scars from her bullies (maybe even me?) and this, in her mind, entitles her to scar B.J. with impunity. Certainly, she would scar me with pleasure if she could. She doesn't even consider this at all evil (the dreaded e-word). You seem certain that these are only minor issues and that it's all under control. You think about what's illusion and what's reality, and let's discuss a solution. Kevin


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 6, 2001 4:16 PM To: Terri German

Subject: Answer Terri: Why I was in your (our) house: You asked me to get out of your life. That's the mission assigned by the CO (you). I need to get there sometime today when you're not home. I am entitled to the one picture of my father I have and also to "some" of the others. You have plenty left. I'll bring your speakers back. I'm only following the CO's orders and you're mad at me for doing it. I'm thinking my father committed suicide rather than having live under someone like you for the rest of his life. Ever get the sense that there was a cover-up? Point to ponder: How many people have an aneurysm at the hospital? How many die of self-poisoning, getting sick for a while, then dying there (with a pension for the kids, which I did consider at one point)? I'm a better man than my father. B.J. will be a better man than your father was, in my opinion. We differ in opinions. I'll prove mine for the first time in 18 years. I have no choice, as per your request. Happy birthday. Kevin - - - - - PS: Using an arbitrary and fixed milestone in YOUR life as a deadline in mine is purple, and also classically passive-aggressive. You have no choice when my milestones are set. I'm playing both sides of the fence so you know how it feels. (Difference: Ethics)


Blue response: Stimulus = Happy 40 and CO's request to fulfill Response = your self-destruction as a woman Food for thought


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 9, 2001 5:23 AM To: Wayne & Naomi Pickford; Doug German

Subject: Family Gossip Update Folks: Thought I'd let you know that Terri & I are now "rings on, no turning back" due to a bizarre and twisted turn of events that might have been steered by the hand of God himself. Basically, what it boiled down to is that I left her life for good (in her mind, due to a misunderstanding of words - pilot lingo basically) and while she thought I was out stalking the boy, I was in fact putting together a surprise 40th birthday party for her cadet crowd. Pretty nifty alibi, eh? ;) Her 40th was CO's Parade at the squadron too. She was full of mixed emotions at the time, and I'm told that she did well with the brave face, but I guess almost lost it (heartbroken I hope?) as the band played "Happy Birthday". It was weird. Afterwards, the officer friends and her came over to the Legion for a drink. I had told them I'd bring something small (very political hot potato here as the whole situation boils down to Cadets vs. basic family values if looked at from an unflattering perspective). As it happened, the party was a rousing success. Black Forest Cake & Candles, set-up in the back room and I even had the Airforce March on the computer 'cuz it's on their Internet site which I host. see http://533sabresqn.org but it's a bit of a chuck to download (10 mB) Go get a beer while it downloads and join the toast. "Per Ardua ad Astra" - "Through Adversity to the Stars" ergo: "We can't go on together with suspicious minds" <== Elvis/Fine Young Cannibals "Surprise - Surprise - Surprise" <== Gomer Pyle All's Cool ;) Kevin


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 19, 2001 7:48 AM To: John Hautmann; Terri German Cc: William Fecteau

Subject: Custody Issues My Worthy Opponents: Please note that my current thinking follows: 1) We removed my mother and her husband as guardians in our will, as they're loony-tunes... 2) Terri's family are also, for the most part, White Welfare Trailer Trash and that's where my kids will vacation instead. They'll see where auntie's husband #4 (what's-his-name) might have been the best choice so for. Why? Terri won't be welcome on Vancouver Island until Jack (now my step-father) is happy with how my son is being raised. And that's my folks' chance to make amends for NOT converting ME to rabid Catholicism and concurrent racism, sexism and homophobia (add neurosis to the list here: ____________.) 3) On Terri's side, the family quality is such that I actually urinated on Terri's mothers' headstone in response to the truck incident. I had to, as a form of family therapy and stress relief. Otherwise, I would have lost my medical FOR THE THIRD TIME because of her two-faced behaviour. The anxiety disorder: I got the feeling, subconsciously, that I couldn’t trust ANYTHING -- not even the structural integrity of the main spar joint on my aircraft. I think that's enough of a feel to show that these people really do destroy other people's lives by their very nature. It's combat-love (minus the love) in every home I see save one, and Terri doesn't talk to Tracy anymore anyway... 4) Terri's now trying to carry the style to her own unfortunate children. 5) She won't do this to mine. I don't want Crista's future husband pissing on Terri's headstone, as I ended up doing to Sharon's in defence of my own mental health and career. This doesn't mean I'm keeping Crista, but you better know that the Man of the House is not disposable like a cheap plastic razor. B.J. will lean the true value of a good man, even if the Bracconnier women can't. Perhaps it's simply for that reason alone. Plan to lose.


Kevin -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 18, 2001 5:22 PM To: Glenys Edwardes; Terri German

Subject: Reality Check Terri & Glenys: I know B.J.'s doing well, other wise I'd be on you for more progress reports etc. Now, don't pretend this has nothing to do with any of the events that have transpired since I first called her. My question: Where would B.J. be now if I was not at the PT conference and the whole issue was blown away as simple awkward kid stuff? Or in the house to actually hear him begging for mercy for Crista's entertainment? Willing to pass this along to your accomplices so they could see the effects of their own hands? B.J. would be in a different world if I'd have left town about that time. Also, I've been telling him specifically that I'm NOT going to leave him behind -- make him man of the house etc. Don't reap what I sew as your own doing. He'll live a better life with me. You can get over losing him as easily as I can. At least you have stress leave. I NEED my medical and I need HIM for it. Don't pack just yet, tho'. Kevin -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 23, 2001 4:15 PM To: Terri German

Subject: Religious Text of King James Bible 1 Timothy, chapter 2 Terri: Below follows the text of two versions of the bible. Slightly different but same message as you'd expect.


See http://etext.lib.virginia.edu/toc/modeng/public/Kjv1Tim.html Line 12, I believe, is the Word of God in two flavours. God's Law and Man's Law are both squarely behind me now. If course, I'm a moderate and always want Mother's eyes smiling. Maybe the reason they haven't been in the past years is tied in closely with the fact that we're a little late in meeting the lady at Tim Hortons? Something to think about especially on a Sunday. Otherwise, we're perhaps telling God himself "screw you"... I don't think that's a wise choice. With love, Kevin - - - -

1 Timothy, chapter 2 Compare with Revised Standard Version: 1Tim.02, which follows below 1: I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; 2: For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. 3: For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour; 4: Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth. 5: For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; 6: Who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time. 7: Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and verity. 8: I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. 9: In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10: But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 11: Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 12: But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 13: For Adam was first formed, then Eve. 14: And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. 15: Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. 1 Timothy, chapter 2

http://etext.lib.virginia.edu/toc/modeng/public/Kjv1Tim.html


Compare with King James Version: 1Tim.02 which follows above 1: First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all men, 2: for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life, godly and respectful in every way. 3: This is good, and it is acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, 4: who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. 5: For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, 6: who gave himself as a ransom for all, the testimony to which was borne at the proper time. 7: For this I was appointed a preacher and apostle (I am telling the truth, I am not lying), a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and truth. 8: I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; 9: also that women should adorn themselves modestly and sensibly in seemly apparel, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly attire 10: but by good deeds, as befits women who profess religion. 11: Let a woman learn in silence with all submissiveness. 12: I permit no woman to teach or to have authority over men; she is to keep silent. 13: For Adam was formed first, then Eve; 14: and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. 15: Yet woman will be saved through bearing children, if she continues in faith and love and holiness, with modesty.


Terri: How come when I say "This kind of double-standard really irks me and I just can't take it anymore" I'm the asshole? You just can't deal with the fact that this is Christmas, and for God's Sake Kevin, a good Dad would eat the turkey to be with his son even if we stuff it with Human Excrement just for your benefit. You're the only one who eats the stuffing anyway, so Cris' now using our ladies' special recipe for you -- hope you enjoy it. If not, then well, I guess you just don't love your son... you're an asshole... Cris keeps the stuffing for later. She can feed B.J. little spoonfuls and out-do Chris. He fed B.J. rabbit excrement and I did something about it. Cris feeds B.J. her shit and you think that's being a good Big Sister like you were to Trevor. Poor, foolish souls you are... "Oh Pity Thee of Little Faith"... Father


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 18, 2001 7:51 AM To: William Fecteau; Terri German; Bentley & Claudia Barr Cc: Cris German; Glenys Edwardes

Subject: Insight on What's Happening Folks: Think about this. Point-in-time "A": Terri & I agree (concurring) on a course of action. Terri concurs because she respects my judgement and wants to please me. She really does... she's been trying for most of our 18 years together. Point-in-time "B": Terri changes her mind for some reason -- like being in Uniform and thinking with a different "personality" (role). Point-in-time "C": Terri doesn't want to appear to be dishonest and not a good "wife", so she does whatever she wants anyway and hides it from me. Like when she bought a beater pick-up truck, for camping, and hid it at a friend's house for 5 months and counting. NOTE: The truck was a public humiliation to me behind my back. This is NOT bedroom details here -- it's a fuckin' VEHICLE. Her friend called me to tell me my truck wouldn't start; I didn't even know we HAD a truck. MY own mother was in the kitchen when I took the call so it really burned me. And when the beater broke down, I took time from my clients to rescue her on the roadside. No income; only gentlemanly obligations that I didn't agree to in the first place. Other option: Leave her on the roadside with a broken vehicle and take the $$$ from the college fund to pay for towing and service. I'm the prick no matter how it gets sliced and I didn't want the truck anyway. You do the math. Point-in-time "D": Terri gets found out somehow (as in "C"). Point-in-time "E": I'm angry that she went out and did her own thing AGAIN. Enough's enough and it DID lead to an anxiety disorder that was never diagnosed. (The professionals all agree it was harmless -- like a phobia of elevators -- but that's small comfort when you need to ride elevators for a living.) Point-in-time "F": Terri thinks I have anger issues and am possibly bi-polar. So, she rationalizes that she did what she did 'cuz MY judgement's now flawed. Her judgement's at Point-in-time "B"; mine's still at Point-in-


time "A". I just haven't changed my mind because I still think the reasoning is sound. She's mad that SHE can't just change my mind by inserting a new opinion like a cassette tape. My mother did the same to my father; my step-father did the same to his son. Terri's mother did the same to her father, except that her father didn't always agree either and tried to get his point across to Mom Sr. It was always impossible for him too. They had HUGE domestic issues. As a result, I believe, Terri's folks lived in separate postal codes for much of their lives and I've told Terri many, many this is NOT an option for a man like me. She still thinks it is the ONLY workable option and tried to sell it to me in stages after I didn't have any real choice anyway. So, as it turns out, you guys did all the heavy lifting for me. Point-in-time "G": Terri tells everyone what a (potentially) dangerous person I am. Point-in-time "H": I need to confess my sins before anyone will let me back into their lives. - - - - The problem was that I had absolute authority in the cockpit but no real status in my own home at all. It's a social condition and I'm not the only man in the family who the women try to treat this way. I've just put up with it the longest so I now am the shit-funnel for the family. Everybody's now in the habit of blaming everything on me and making stuff up to do so if they have to. Also, she would consistently add more and more load to the Cadet Basket, and tell me she doesn't have a choice. She will budget a small amount of time which she can sell to me at point "A", or just tell me outright it won't be a problem. When the reality turns out to be much more (in keeping with my prediction at point "A") then it's still not her fault; we're at point "B" now. 18 years was enough of that. Kevin PS: Terri will be mad at me for slighting the reputation of two dead welfare recipients. The effect or her summer project, if unstopped, will be to turn her healthy soon-to-be-ex into a living welfare recipient with no reputation. Ask her, and I'm sure she'll tell you I'm still the bad person here -- 'cuz my reputation is the doormat on which everyone wipes the shit off of their shoes. No more...


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 16, 2001 5:36 PM To: Bentley & Claudia Barr Cc: William Fecteau

Subject: Reality Check Mano-a-Mano Folks: I'm really sorry for the issues here but I'm really in a pickle... Remember as I said in the blister-gram "suicides in the family"? Don't assume by this I mean Terri's family. There were, I suspect, TWO in my immediate own, my father and my mother's next (current) husband's son. It's very real, very scary stuff when it's your own kids. The personalities, ages, genders etc. all match like identical pieces of a chess game on two separate boards. Difference: I'm a pilot and Dad was a wanna-be pilot who didn't have the drive to make it all the way. "His math wasn't good enough". (Incidentally, I got 100% on my scholarship exam for powered and was inexplicably denied the course by the board. We tried to get an answer and were denied. The Rotary Club gave me $4,500 cash from their party fund to compensate and I got a standing ovation at the dinner for it. I flew out of Campbell River that summer whenever I felt like it. My boss let me leave the job at my leisure.) Anyway, right now I don't mind being a little rude to make a point. Still, if you were assuming I meant to tack the garbage on her side of the family, then you're just joining the paranoia bandwagon, ok? That's understandable; there's lots to go around. My take: I'm not who she thought I was -- oddly enough, I'm actually a much better person than that. Oooops... Anyway, if you want to deal with a scary email, I'm just passing along "family news" on how my call with my own mother went, to keep Terri informed of Mom's emotional condition. We really do all care for each other but there's something really wrong in the bunch of grapes. I'm trying to build bridges to lead us all out of the trap she set for all of us -- her, me, the kids, the Cadets, my passengers... Time for Big Thinking, folks. Let me know your position as I really can't trust Terri's info on it. I'm only trying to let you in on a need-to-know basis, actually. I know you don't want to be caught in the middle but "your fingerprints are on my son's bed" so you're kinda in the tar with the rest of us... By the way, I meant "tactical", not "tactful" the other time. Spell checker (damn). And this barrage of e-mails are in direct response to


her request to "get on with my life". Pitter, patter.... you folks take the hits I guess. Kindest regards, Kevin


-----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 16, 2001 9:36 AM To: Terri German

Subject: FW: Oil on Troubled Waters FYI: If they'll put a drink on MY tab at the Legion, I can call them my friends. Otherwise, I'm simply your Patsy, and that ain't gonna happen... I'm trying to unravel this knot we've all created anyway. My thread's the biggest. Kevin -----Original Message----- From: Kevin German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 16, 2001 9:05 AM To: Bentley & Claudia Barr Cc: William Fecteau; Glenys Edwardes Subject: Oil on Troubled Waters Steve: You're stuck in the same mess with all of us, and I'd like to extend a hand of help by way of a prediction. Long story follows, but as insane as this situation is, it's completely predictable and the case history is enlightening for anybody with children... Unfortunately, our family life's journey had bad timing a couple of years ago when I was away on the Jet Ranger course. Terri, head of the household for the time in question, got a dog "for Crista" in my absence. I like a nice house for my kids and wife to grow up in. That's what she married me for anyway. As it happened, the dog became a real problem for me, as it would urinate in the house -- especially as soon as I got home -- and Terri was too busy to keep ahead of the messes. The dog was also used as a carrot to help the kids become more responsible. Of course, Terri and Crista promised they'd keep my house clean enough to satisfy my standards before we get the animal... Good intentions, but if you don't "walk the talk" I get angry and that's not fair. Now it's MY anger issue -- not their dog's urine stains and broken promises. I tried to get Terri to take to dog to a new home, which was the humane thing to do. Crista refused to allow it to be removed from the house. Mom, stuck in the middle, sided with the girl in spite of about 100


demands on my part that this was THEIR dog and THEIR problem to address to I could be happy in MY house. I always lost. I couldn't take the dog away myself; it was Crista's and both she and Mom would have hated me for doing so. What kind of an asshole would take the dog away? That, in her mind, is like stealing the candy from the baby. She might even have left me over the issue. In the end, it was the Cadets instead. Anyway, long story short: Crista learned that the harder she wails, the more power she can suck from Dad and into her own needs. What Terri refuses to acknowledge: B.J.'s already caught and Mom's next once I'm gone for good. Terri caters to Crista anyway so this is not even likely to go noticed by either of them. Social Services mindset -- "take care of the kids first". This assumes Dad's an angry drunk slob, which I hope you can all see that I'm not. However, there are support groups for truly good men who get screwed in this dynamic and I know of several men who've basically been destroyed by the process. In my case, depression costs me my medical and I can't fly. Think about that next time I seem assertive. I haven't much choice at all. Anyway, a cycle developed where Mom's judgement had to be respected at all costs. If you know her at all, this will ring a bell with you I'm sure. Works well at the Cadets and on the job -- especially if there's a "how-to" manual around and no real pressure to perform. However, in my case, rather than develop some sort of inferiority complex she just said "talk to the hand". Crista picks up on this and a new generation graduates. In the end, I lose everything because I'm ticked at her reneging on her own commitments. Mom's not aware this is happening, and Crista thinks this is just how the world is supposed to be. And in her mind, yes, I am now lower than a dog in terms of value to the family's needs. Also, way too many hours of watching "Friends" etc. leaves the kids thinking that life should be a rollicking adventure from one nutty, fun, doomed relationship to another. It's brainwashing. I've been saying for years that the kids watch too much T.V. (but somehow it's my fault that they still do). My life is often way, way too close to being a sitcom character for my own liking. I drew the line when my own 9-year-old son tried his hand at accusing me of show-boating while I was skiing. I know what his agenda was but I'll guard my opinion here. ( <-- rare event these days ) My issue: In my mind, this makes me look like Sylvester the Cat and I will NOT satisfy his demand with justification. "It’s okay, thon -- I know It'th thafe". What's next? And what lesson does he learn from all of this bullshit? Oddly, I haven't spoken to a single female caregiver to agrees with me on this point. I will not take public admonition from a 9-year-old son lightly. Like Terri, I have an image to maintain too. And I have to stop the cycle


somewhere. (Men maintaining an image is apparently seen as narcissism these days, by the way.) I think we need social services to break this deadlock, and it's a very complex case. Now, Terri's just doing her best but she's still driving the car long, long after the wheels have fallen completely off. And my career(s) are stalled until this is resolved. Remember, I can't even take a groundschool with this stress in my head so if I got a job right now I might not even be able to take it. It's not an issue this close to x-mas, tho' but it will be in January. Here's the prediction: Someone needs to get through to her that yes, the problem is on HER end -- not mine. I think she knows this now but she's stuck. She has some extremely skewed assumptions about relationships, which she gets from her own childhood. We all get our assumptions about relationships from our own childhood, so I'm especially cognizant of B.J.'s budding sense of masculinity and the game Crista's making out of toying with it. This is my problem. I think we can save this situation. I'm thinking about spending time with our grandchildren together -- not the next Camp Wright. If I get my way, she may lose B.J. for a brief time to my care if we can't patch it together over x-mas, 'cuz I'm NOT the bad guy here and I have the tiger my the tail. I really don't know what's next... Merry Christmas to all of you. Kevin


Babe: Here are the legal errors in your argument if I wanted to take this further down the path-to-hell (and I don't, but I'm bored and this is enlightening) >> You have tried to rally my staff to mutiny and take over the Sqn from me << I've told your friends and your lawyer that your words are dangerous, both to yourself (i.e. 533 Sqn) and to me. You're in a textbook conflict-of-interest situation and no, you can't have it both ways. Another example from the blue camp: My company is incorporated and so is legally also a "person" in the eyes of the law. You can't drag my computer onto your personal list of things to keep, even if you think you can. Legally, it's not mine like your sqn's saxophone isn't your property either. They're your friends when they move my furniture; your staff when you discuss my flying. You can't play both sides of the fence without me bringing in Bob Bondarevich for a lunch conversation -- and so I did. >> you have made threats towards the Sqn re breaking it up << Do you really think I have the authority to do that? Or just the coconuts to talk to people who could if they wanted to, but never would anyway? This is called "bravado" -- "bullshit for effect". >> I am responding in an official capacity to your request to come back << All I said was "feel free to call me if you need me" -- you're putting words in my head like Mother does... >> My staff and I wish you all the best in your future endeavours << At the time of writing, your staff wants me to get the hell out of Dodge, period... ;) Anyway, response is on other email. xox - Kevin -----Original Message----- From: Terri German [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: December 21, 2001 6:40 PM To: Kevin German


Subject: Re: Sqn Flying: Dear Mr. German; Your letter of resignation was very clear and was accepted by me in my capacity as Commanding Officer. It is also in my capacity as Commanding Officer to resind any voluntary agreement at any time if I no longer think the person is the best suited for the position in which we have had them working. You have tried to rally my staff to mutiny and take over the Sqn from me, you have made threats towards the Sqn re breaking it up and having 5 Officer Cadets run things. I am responding in an official capacity to your request to come back as a Sqn pilot to say no thank you. 533 Sqn thanks you for the time you have given to us and for the many weekends that you helped fly our cadets over the past several years. My staff and I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Sincerely, Terri German Captain Commanding Officer 533 Squadron St. Albert Air CAdets ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kevin German" <[email protected]> To: "Bentley & Claudia Barr" <[email protected]>; "Terri German" <[email protected]> Sent: Thursday, December 20, 2001 9:43 PM Subject: Sqn Flying: > Folks: > > I've gotten it off my chest now so the "taste of the last round at the > Legion" has left my palate. > > If you need a Cessna driver, call me. I'll save you the cost of a new > check-out for some other guy; maybe teach James some tricks like how to land > in only one try... > > No hard feelings, ok? > > > Kevin >


Supporting References

Mission Statement Of The Air Cadet League (Excerpted) To provide a voice in Canada for the Air Cadet Movement as a whole so that the Canadian public are kept aware of the accomplishments and capabilities of the Movement and of its ability to fulfill its aims. To study and initiate proposals from and to the Department of National Defence and other government departments which enhance the future of the Air Cadet Movement and which are consistent with Canadian economic and social objectives. To encourage discussion and resolution of any problems that develop within the Air Cadet Movement and continually endeavour to ensure that the movement will continue to progress and prosper. VISION The Air Cadet League envisions the Air Cadet Movement being recognized as the best – the most influential, innovative and expert organization – in the world community of youth movements, and being proactive in meeting the changing needs of youth, the environment and the challenges of economic change. VALUES The Air Cadet League of Canada fosters development in youth of the values of self-confidence, self-discipline, leadership and physical fitness.


Air Cadet League Of Canada – Philosophy 1.1.7 PHILOSOPHY The members of the Air Cadet League believe that training should be kept as completely up-to date and as progressive as possible, especially in view of the changing attitudes of today’s youth. However, the League is also of the view that there is a place in our society for an educational program which is not entirely permissive, which requires the participants to meet certain standards of dress, appearance and behavior, and which expects our young people to accept a full measure of personal responsibility for their own actions.


Distorted Content Excerpted from the Internet

"REMEMBER THE CADET"

A cadet is the most important person.

A cadet is not dependent on us - we are dependent on them.

A cadet is not an interruption in our work - they are the purpose for it.

A cadet is part of our business - not an outsider. They are human beings with feelings and deserve to be treated with respect.

A cadet is a person who comes to us with their needs and wants - it is our job to fill them.

A cadet deserves the most courteous attention we can give them. They are the life blood of this organization. We would have to close our doors without them! Author Unknown Editorial Note: I saw this on the desk blotter of one of the Nova Scotia ACA's a few years ago. It was entitled "A Cadet". Recently I learned that all correspondence in Eastern Region must contain the words "Remember the Cadet" in bold, upper case letters just above the signature block. I combined these two

Runaway Political Agenda Example Issue: The Women’s Movement has ended quite some time ago. The fizz has left the champagne; maybe it’s time to find another party.

FAST FACT #2

Females were officially invited to become members of Air Cadet squadrons in 1975 - but many units have unofficial participation by girls long before that - as early as the 1940s!

True equality is only achieved when the difference becomes a non-issue – not when it’s a high-profile issue. The logic is fundamentally flawed. Notice how there are NO SPECIAL INTEREST GROUPS for blue-eyed persons but blond jokes are popular? Focus on harmony, not status.


Cadet Instructors Cadre (CIC)

CIC Officers come from virtually all walks of civilian life. Some are students, others are homemakers, doctors, police officers, accountants, construction workers and ex-Regular Force military. But no matter how diverse their backgrounds, CIC Officers do have one thing in common - their dedication to the development of Canada's youth.

CIC Officers are rewarded by the accomplishments and achievements of their cadets. They also learn a variety of leadership, organizational and management skills that can carry over into their civilian lives.

To qualify for the CIC you must be a Canadian citizen; be at least 18 years of age; have completed a grade 12 education; be in good physical/medical condition; and pass an Enhanced Reliability (security) Check.

Join the dedicated team of Cadet Instructors Cadre Officers who are training the youth of today to be Canada's leaders of tomorrow. For more information contact a Sea Cadet Corps, Army Cadet Corps or Air Cadet Squadron near you. We thank you for your generous offer of volunteer services and hope you understand the legal and moral obligation of the League in reviewing the suitability of all individuals working or involved with youth. Full text at http://www.aircadetleague.com/VS/Introduction.htm …

http://www.aircadetleague.com/VS/Introduction.htm


Flight Safety Preventative Philosophy Determining cause factors is not an end in itself but a means of identifying and eliminating problems. Investigation results are analysed to draw findings which lead to recommendations. These must clearly specify the means required to improve the safety of the operation or identify resources required to eliminate hazards or deficiencies in order to minimize the likelihood of a repeat occurrence. In addition to initiating preventive measures, the lessons learned from an occurrence usually have safety education value applicable to other units. These lessons learned may have long-term benefit for future aircrew and groundcrew; therefore, the use of accident scenarios for training purposes is commonly exercised. The accident synopsis found at this site is provided for its training value. Similarly, lessons can be learned from the experiences of others who rose to the occasion by averting or reducing the severity of an accident with outstanding skill, devotion or professionalism. The CF Flight Safety Program includes the recognition of such deeds through awards and commendations. Last but certainly not least, aviators learn much from each other. The Flight Safety program incorporates formal education and training courses but it relies most heavily on flight safety promotion and awareness initiatives. These include unit flight safety committees, site surveys, personal and anonymous reports, information leaflets, publications, videos and venues like this site. The Flight Safety Poster page also provides an opportunity for submitting personal/anonymous anecdotes or reports from which others may learn. If YOU learned about flying from an experience you had, the rest of us can probably learn from it too.


MASLOW ESTEEM NEEDS When physiological, safety and social needs are basically satisfied, esteem becomes the dominant need. This need is twofold: the person must feel he is important and he must receive recognition from others that supports these feelings. Recognition is invaluable, for without it the person may conclude he is greatly overrating himself. When those around him, however. make it clear that he is indeed important, feelings of self-esteem, self-confidence, prestige and power are all produced. Of course, satisfaction of the need rests with the person himself. If he believes he is overrated by his peers, nothing they do will be beneficial in convincing him of their sincerity. He may continually feel inferior. However, if he has confidence in himself, respect and support from those around him will serve to justify his confidence. Research shows that as the United States moves toward becoming middle-class society, esteem-related needs such as prestige are more evident; people want to keep up with the Joneses and be viewed a important. This was clearly indicated in Packard's book The Status Seekers. Joining the right country club, or earning an advanced degree are some ways of securing thi prestige. For example, many teachers who hold a Ph.D. like to be called Doctor" rather than "Professor" or "Sir" because of the prestige the title carries. Power is another esteem related need. The power drive actual begins at childhood when the baby realizes that crying influences his parents' behaviour. Adler contends that this ability to manipulate other is inherently pleasurable to the child. Of course, during these early years the infant needs this power, because he is helpless without his parents and must have some method for ensuring their assistance. Maslow defined self-actualization as “the desire to become more and more what one idiosyncratically is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.” The individual attempts to realize his full potential at this level of the hierarchy. He is interested in self- fulfillment, self-development and creativity in the broadest sense of the word. Of all five needs, the least is known about self-actualization. This is because people satisfy the need in so many different ways that it is difficult to pin down and identify it. However, as Hersey and Blanchard noted, competence and achievement are closely related motives, and extensive research has been conducted on them. White has concluded that human beings desire competence because it gives them a form of control over their environment. As they mature, people learn their limitations and capabilities form experience, and they work within these confines. For example, it is rare to find an intelligent adult seriously overrating his abilities. He basically knows what he can do and he remains within these parameters, choosing an objective that is attainable such as job mastery. The man pits himself against the work as a goal that is challenging but not beyond attainment. This competence desire is related to the self-actualization need identified Maslow. Another such related need is achievement. Some individuals will] accomplish more than others because their need to achieve is greater. McClelland and his associates at Harvard have been studying this need for over 25 years. They have found that high-achievers are neither low not high risk-takers. Rather, they set moderately difficult put potentially achievable goals for themselves. They like a challenge, but they want some influence over the outcome. They are aggressive realists. In addition, they are motivated more by the accomplishment of a particular objective than by the rewards associated with it. Money, for example, if merely used as a means of measuring or assessing progress. High achievers also have a strong desire for feedback on how well they are doing. They want to know the score.


Public Denouncement of My Own Wife and Daughter

CRISTA RICHELLE GERMAN, MY OWN DAUGHTER,

IS TORMENTING ME AND TRYING TO WILFULLY PREVENT ME FROM FULFILLING MY DUTIES AS A MAN OF LOVE AN HONOUR.

SHE IS DOING THIS TO FULFILL HER OWN PSYCHOLOGICAL NEEDS

AND MOTHER IS ALLOWING THIS BEHAVIOUR TO CONTINUE FOR VARIOUS REASONS INCLUDING MENTAL INCAPACITATION

FOR THE FOLLOWING REASON:

SHE IS UNAWARE OF, OR UNABLE TO ANALYSE THE SITUATION WHICH SHE NOW FINDS HERSELF IN.

THIS BEHAVIOUR IS POTENTIALLY CAREER-THREATENING

TO MYSELF, AS IT WILL ADVERSELY AFFECT MY AVIATION MEDICAL CONDITION, WHICH HAS BEEN COMPROMISED FOR SIMILAR REASONS IN

THE PAST YEARS.

IN EFFECT, MY LIFE AND HAPPINESS ARE UNDER THE DIRECT CONTROL OF A 14 YEAR OLD GIRL WHO IS ENJOYING THE WRESTLING MATCH. IN HER DEFENCE, MY WIFE IS ENABLING THIS BEHAVIOUR AND THERE SEEMS TO

BE NO END IN SIGHT.

THEY DO NOT SEEM TO REALIZE THAT I HAVE LEGAL PARITY WITH, AND MORAL SUPERIORITY OVER THERESA MAE GERMAN.

I REFUSE TO BEG FOR THE MERCY OF A 14 YEAR-OLD-CHILD AND

WILL PUBLICLY HUMILIATE MY OWN DAUGHTER AND EX WIFE TO THE EXTENT NEEDED TO MAINTAIN THE CONTROL I NEED TO QUALIFY AS A PERSON OF SOUND MENTAL JUDGEMENT.

I TAKE MY LEAD FROM THE WORD OF GOD AND

AS A MAN OF HIGH ETHICAL STANDARDS.

I BELIEVE THE SITUATION IS ANALOGOUS TO A HIJACKER (14 YEARS OLD) TAKING OVER THE AIRCRAFT AND THE FIRST OFFICER MUTINYING IN

DEFENCE OF THE HIGHKACKER’S AGENDA.

WHILE THE CO-PILOT – THERESA MAE GERMAN – WRESTS GOD’S AUTHORITY FROM MY HANDS, THE SHIP IS IN DANGER AND IT IS MY CALL

TO ACTION TO ENSURE THAT THOSE WHO CAN SURVIVE THE CRASH, WILL.


Gratuitous Sympathy Shot

Here, B.J. and I were wishing for a Happy Christmas for the whole family. We’re “crying” because he’s sad that we’re still fighting with each other. He’s hoping Santa can help Mom & Dad reconcile in time for Christmas. Rationale: If UNICEF can get away with this sort of thing, so can I….

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