Cannexus 12Tami Anderson

Knowledge defines all we currently know and understand; Imagination points to all we might yet discover and create. ~ Albert Einstein

Affect: when something produces a changed result in something or someone else

Effect: when one thing is the result of something else happening

Are we causing the change or waiting for the result

Freedom Identity Adventure

Mentors Lifestyle Money

Self worth Growth

Friends

Learning Importance Purpose

Direction Status

Excitement Travel

Retirement

Challenge Stimulation

Flexibility Helpfulness

Promotions

Education

Diversity Meaning

Value

Respect Appreciation

Values Creativity

Social Improvement

Comforts

Recreation Security

Ethics

Independence Fun

Safety Autonomy

Power

Health care Benefits

Structure

Car Variety Humor

Prestige Responsibility

Compassion

Belonging

Esteem

Love it!

Need an income The job itself Fulfill other needs

Job / CareerIndustry Chose and match all

threeCompany

Internal Causes: Life happens Opportunity knocks Other personal

External Causes: The job The company The people

Aware Acknowledge Accept Action

◦ Internal◦ Build new◦ Come back in

Organization

Employer

Employee

Company , Personal & Employee

Needs

Personal Needs

Finances Product/Service

Employer + Employee = Organization

We help employees We can help employers and organizations Create healthy and happy workplaces Common purpose

Removing the victim◦ Triangulating ◦ Internal Strength

Creating new tools ◦ Awareness / Knowledge ◦ Choice◦ Acceptance◦ Honesty ◦ Boundaries◦ The big picture

We don’t know what we don’t know until we know it

(And, neither do ‘they’)

Conscience /Remove self /Boundaries /Self Care / Courage /

Freedom / Independence

RescuerPersecutor

Victim

Assertive / Fair Compassionate / Helpful

When we remove the external, we are left with just ourselves

Internal source To thine own self be true Becoming a pearl

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou 'canst not then be false to any man ~W Shakespeare

Employee Controls Employee needs to know

Own thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions

Attitude and behavior Treat other people

◦ Customers & Coworkers Ability Productivity

We don’t control◦ How others feel, think,

act or react Employers are people Default position In the middle Manager ≠ Leader Leaders are not all

managers

The most important gift of all We choose to work - do not have to Job/career, industry, company - choose wisely Our attitude - minute by minute; day by day Fit in the organization Pride in our work What is for our best How to leave a job

My #1 job – life as life is ◦ Acceptance is the answer to all my problems ◦ Person, place, thing or situation

Actions and reactions have a direct effect + or – Stress and difficulties are normal I can never change the past The control I do have

About who I am Past and present From the toes My feelings and thoughts

◦ Positive and negative My behavior from my thoughts and

feelings What I want and need

I control what I say by what I think Clear Direct Honest Respectful What I say

◦ vs How I say it

We teach people how to treat us Definition

◦ Keep me whole ◦ Flexible – change in size, severity, length

Pain is the touchstone to change!◦ Pain causes conflicts, problems, behaviors ◦ We all have pain – kind and amount varies◦ Can be buried and unknown – even generational

Who’s right? Yours, mine & ours Bubbles If nothing changes; nothing changes

To avoid pain at all costs forces us to reject half the lessons life can teach.~ Jan Pishok

Human Condition Spirit Condition

Beyond our control

Disease, health, mental health

Pain and suffering Past Experiences External things – weather,

economy, accidents Other people (all of them)

Within our control

Thinking – self & Others Behavior - actions and

reactions Our power and strength Resilience Flexibility Compassion Understanding

We give away our power ; then we are angry at those who take it

Cause

Someone criticizes work

Manager adds on workload

People gossiping about me

Someone shouts at me

Feelings

Anger = hurt or maybe shame

Frustrated = fear or shame

Hurt

Afraid, hurt

Instinct

Strike back Gossip

Fume, resent

Avoid, gossip, confront

Shut down, worry, fight

Choice

Discuss, get clarity, ??

Say what can do or when

Chat with, win over, ignore

Walk away, discuss

PassiveI’m sorry Maybe I did do it I’ll do what you

wantI made you upset

Do nothingCry

AggressiveIt’s your faultYou’re responsible Not my job-forget it!You made me upset

Stomp or throw Yell or shout

AssertiveLet’s discussI’ll check it outI can do this one partI can see you’re

upset

Stay calm till solution Set time to discuss

Beg◦Please…

Barter◦If you do this, I’ll do…

Bamboozle ◦Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah

Bully◦Push, pull, manipulate, lie

Whatever!

Life is fluid yet at moments we stop You are here x on your journey

◦ Where will you be a moment from now? Just for today (re-start your day at any moment)

This too shall pass Work is an extension of us; not a definition

We are an integral part of a wholeWe create our life – and it’s a lot of workAttitude of GratitudeGive backMove through with dignity and respect

The Biggest Picture

Dig deep to discover your pearl

Thank you for

sharing these

moments of your life with us.

Enjoy the rest of the

conference!

(Special thanks to Amber Ali Photography for many of the photos)