cbi october 2015 kolenu

1. How much have you loved? 2. What do you love doing that you aren’t doing? How could you get paid for doing what you love? 3. What person or type of person would you choose as a life companion? A witness to your life?4. Where do you want to live? Are you happy with your life where you are? Could you be happier somewhere else? 5. What do you want to accomplish? And most importantly, why – what's your motivation? 6. What do you want to be remembered by? Write it down. This is the man/the woman who . 7. What kind of life would "make you jealous?" And why? If you could start over, what would your life look like, right now? 8. What adventures do you want to have? Can you list five? 9. If you had to add something to humanity, what would your contribution be? List at least one. 10. What are your ghosts? Your unspoken demons? The stuff you keep in your closet under a lock? What are you most deeply afraid of?11. What are your favorite memories? Can you picture four or five instances in your childhood you are fond of? Is there a common denominator, the deepest statement about you and life that lies at the core of them? How can you live from that same belief now? How can you transform your current experiences so they begin with that same idea – that fueled your most cherished childhood memories?12. Who do you love the most ? What 10 people would you put on a lifeboat in case of a universal tsunami, asteroid, zombie attack or any other realistic end of the world? Make a list. 13. What worries you the most? Why? What are you worried about? If any of these worries came true, do you think you could survive? 14. What type of people inspire you and make you come alive? What people – at this point in your life – add to the truest equation of you?15. What type of people bring you down and make you hate yourself? Break up with them. 16. Who are your mentors? What have they taught you? Can you make a list? If you know them personally, thank them.17. What is your cosmic elevator pitch? Who are you – raw, unedited, wild, ordinary and extraordinary you? What does it come down to? And why?18. What issues can you help with? (continued of page 7)

October will be a very exciting and monumental month for our B'nai Israel Family. We have been creating Jewish memories on the Jersey Shore for 65 years, and on Tuesday, October 13, we will all come together to celebrate this wonderful occasion. As we continue to create wonderful memories at Congregation B'nai Israel, let us reflect back on the last 65 years of our life here at B'nai Israel, and also reflect on our personal lives, as I present this month, the full list of questions that I referenced on Yom Kippur morning from the blog entitled, "30 questions to ask yourself before you die," written by Andrea Balt, writer, wellness consultant, as well as the co-founder and editor in chief of Rebelle Society, an online hub, reporting life passionate ideas and acts of creative rebellion. Andrea Balt wrote this blog when she turned 30, and they present an interesting approach for all of us to analyze where we have been and where we would like to go in our personal lives, and in our communal lives.

Words from Wolintz-Fields

30 Questions to Ask Ourselves

October 2015

Kolenu Congregation B’nai Israellarwy y nb tlyhq

Tishrei–Cheshvan 5776

Upcoming EventsCelebrate CBI's 65th AnniversaryTuesday, October 136:00–10:00pm

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October 2015 Tishrei–Cheshvan 5776

Congregation B'nai Israel Service Schedule

Friday/Holiday Evening Services: 7:30pmFriday Junior Congregation: 7:30pmShabbat Morning Serivces: 9:00am

Shabbat Junior Congregation: 10:15amSunday Morning Services: 9:00am

Monday through Friday Morning Minyan: 7:45am

October 2015Tishrei–Cheshvan

Friday, October 2, 2015Candle Lighting 6:19pmNew Member Shabbat DinnerJunior CongregationEvening Services

Saturday, October 3, 2015Chol Hamoed SukkotShabbat Morning ServicesAuf Ruf of Amy Miller and Steve Kravetz

Sunday, October 4, 2015Hoshanah Rabbah ServicesCandle Lighting 6:16pmEvening Services

Monday, October 5, 2015Shemini Atzeret ServicesYizkor 10:30amDance the Horah with the Torah 7:00pmCandle Lighting 7:13pm

Tuesday, October 6, 2015Simchat Torah ServicesDance the Horah with the Torah

Friday, October 9, 2015Candle Lighting 6:08pmAnniversary ShabbatEvening Services

Saturday, October 10, 2015Parashat BereshitShabbat Morning Services Torah Study Group

Friday, October 16, 2015Candle Lighting 5:57pmUSY ShabbatEvening Services

Saturday, October 17, 2015Parashat NoachShabbat Morning ServicesTorah Study Group

Friday, October 23, 2015Candle Lighting 5:47pmEvening Services

Saturday, October 24, 2015Parashat Lech LechaShabbat Morning Services Birthday ShabbatTorah Study Group

Friday, October 30, 2015Candle Lighting 5:38pmEvening Services

Saturday, October 31, 2015Parashat VayeraShabbat Morning ServicesBat Mitzvah – Cameron Fields

Clergy

Rabbi Ellen S. [email protected]

Hazzan Steven [email protected]

Rabbi Richard Hammerman, D.D. Rabbi Emeritus

Cantor Daniel GreenCantor [email protected]

Staff

Office Manager/BookkeeperLaurie [email protected]

Administrative AssistantChristine [email protected]

Officers

PresidentBob Van [email protected]

1st Vice PresidentMichele [email protected]

2nd Vice PresidentJeremy [email protected]

TreasurerFred [email protected]

Financial SecretaryPosition Open

Recording SecretarySteve [email protected]

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Welcome to Part II of Judaism's Big O' Month O' Holidays. It's kind of hard to imagine that sitting here writing this before the High Holidays actually begin, but by the time you are reading this, we will have started the month with a blast on Rosh Hashanah. Ten days later, we will have commemorated the extended director's cut holiday of Yom Kippur when we fast slowly until sundown or hypoglycemic shock sets in, while we hopefully fit in some time for self-reflection on our past year, and plans for the upcoming one. And we still won't finish September until we begin the pilgrimage holiday of Sukkot where we celebrate the first Jewish Eagle Scouts who built booths in the desert. (Attention Sam and Ben Edelson: is there a merit badge for building a sukkah?) By the time October finally enters, we are full swing in this agricultural extravaganza, and hopefully our allergies haven't completely debilitated us.

But Tishrei isn't finished with us yet – Hoshanah Rabbah is an opportunity for those who haven't completed what they started on Yom Kippur, and Shemini Atzeret allows us to focus on our place in the global Jewish world and environment. Finally we come to Simchat Torah, which is often translated as "Rejoicing in the Law." This might sound like a fun event for those who work in the courthouse, but I never particularly liked that name. The word torah (תורה) is connected to the word yareh (ירה) which means "to aim" as in archery. (Side note: the antonym of yareh is het which means "to miss", but is often translated as "to sin.") So the point of Torah is not to view it as dry list of rules we have to follow, but as a how to book to aim higher in life, and to give us a (one?) direction in which to direct our energies.

I personally don't believe that there is only one Meaning of Life that fits everyone, but I do believe that Torah and a Jewish lifestyle can be used to help find your own personal meaning of life. With that in mind, Simchat Torah is all about rejoicing in finding our own sense of purpose and meaning in a Jewish life. If you haven't yet discovered yours (and keep in mind, it's okay for the meaning of your life to change at different points in your life) then I suggest maybe some Torah study could at least help raise the right questions, if it doesn't necessarily give all the right answers.

If you're looking for opportunities for Torah study, I direct you to the numerous offerings that Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz Fields is offering for Adult Education, or join me on Monday mornings after the Holidays to learn about the morning minyan service. For our younger congregants I suggest you "aim" to come to our tuition-free Talmud Torah or Hebrew High.

Hazzan Steven Walvick

Shana Tova! Talmud Torah and Hebrew High school are also off to a smooth start for the year.

Rabbi, Hazzan, and our Board of Education have worked tirelessly throughout the summer to prepare a successful program for the High Holidays and the new school year. USY, Kadima, and Tzofim are bringing the younger members of our synagogue to extend and experience Jewish life with other young Jews.

Now is the time for us to contribute to our Congregation B'nai Israel Kehilla, to insure our children, our grandchildren and all their children will continue to have a home. A place where they can learn, pray, share simchas, perform tzedakah, and come together to mourn and recite Yizkor. We need to continue to support Congregation B'nai Israel so

there will always be a place to come together as Jewish families together with other Jewish families.Thank you to all who have responded with a pledge for our High Holiday Appeal. Several members have generously

pledged to contribute a percentage of every pledge we receive. To those who have not, there is still time to make a pledge.Making a pledge does not mean you need to write a check today. Please speak with Laurie and Christine in the office and

they will make arrangements for you to extend your pledge payments throughout the year. Payments are accepted with cash, check, and credit cards. A perfect way to get a tax deduction and at the same time to earn points for your next cruise. And at the same time supporting your Kehilla. Please contact the synagogue office or mail in your pledge card as soon as possible.

We are also asking you to pledge your time and to participate in keeping our synagogue running by coming to our daily morning services. Too often our members are not able to recite Kaddish due to a lack of attendance. Come once a week, even once a month would a mitzvah.

On behalf of my wife Bonnie and I and our children we will pray for a year filled with blessings and peace. "Le'Shana Tova Tikatevu V'Techatemu!

A Message from Our President Bob Van Bochove

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Sisterhood

Start the Jewish New Year off by shopping in our

CBI Judaica Sisterhood Gift Shop

Forget buying at the local malls in NJ or small strip malls. Keep it within the CBI family and shop with us instead!

(no big markups and no sales tax)

New beautiful merchandise has arrived, much from Israel. Don't delay many – original one

of a kind pieces! We can also special order from our catalogs or online if the order is

large enough to permit.

For more information contact Terri at 732-864-1566 or Susan at 732-279-0443.

You're Invited to Join the New B'nai Israel SisterhoodWe hope that you'll want to be a part of Congregation B'nai Israel Sisterhood's "reboot," for the 2015–2016 year, which we're sure will have something for everyone–and it'll cost you only $36 for a whole year's membership! Some of Sisterhood's activities and events have been running on an ongoing basis and some are new, so please show your support by joining Sisterhood–it's time for the women of B'nai Israel to get to know each other a little better and, by the way, we don't plan to exclude the men of CBI, who'll be invited to participate in many of our upcoming activities, which are:

• Year-Round Sisterhood Book Club (for camaraderie and stimulating conversation, cake, and coffee too!)

• Pre-Passover "Wine-Tasting With Friends" (you can purchase....and the guys are invited)

• Judaica Shop (for all your Jewish needs)• Support for the Jewish Theological Seminary (which safeguards

our future)• Movie Nights ( just for fun–and the guys are invited)• Chanukkah & Purim Fairs (for the kiddies)• Send Passover packages to CBI college students (for a taste of Home)• Help supply Rosh Hashanah, Chanukkah and Purim treats for CBI

youngsters (yumm....)• We're in charge of CBI Library (we know how much you enjoy reading)• Sisterhood & Men's Club Shabbat

Congregation B'nai Israel SisterhoodDues Payment & Membership Sign-up

2015–2016

Please complete this information form and mail it in (or drop it off at the synagogue office) to Congregation B'nai Israel,

1488 Old Freehold Road, Toms River, NJ 08753, with your $36 check made out to CBI Sisterhood.

Name

Address

Email Address

Phone #

Questions? Suggestions? Please contact: Marion Pardes at 732-363-4521 or email at [email protected]

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Men's Club

October 2015 Update by Michael Perks, Men's Club President

As we move into the month of October, I hope that everyone looks back on having spent Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur at Congregation B'nai Israel with a sense of community and wholeness. On September 24th, Men's Club completed its High Holydays work cycle (setting up and taking down chairs and books), flawlessly accomplished by our volunteers – thanks very much, guys (you know who you are)! And thanks, also, to everyone who participated in our September 26th "Sisterhood–Men's Club Shabbat," with special thanks to Marion Pardes and Michael Collins for doing a really terrific job. Please be sure to check my Men's Club Kolenu article every month, so you can update your calendar and plan to participate in all the activities, events and celebrations that we've planned for this year. Of course, we hope to see everyone present at the Congregation B'nai Israel 65th Anniversary Celebration on Tuesday, October 13th!

Everyone has received Men's Club's dues/membership form in the mail. Please support Men's Club by mailing in your $36 for 2015–2016, thank you!

Upcoming Men's Club Events:

Tuesday, October 6th9:00am Hy and Megina Mittleberg will be honored as Chatan Torah & Kalat Bereshit at Simchat Torah Services.

Tuesday, October 13th 6:00pm–10:00pm B'nai Israel 65th Anniversary Celebration

Sunday, November 8th 5:00pm Wine, Steak & Scotch– everyone (aged 21 and older) is invited. Please see announcement in this issue on page 5. RSVP required.

Congregation B'nai Israel Men's ClubDues Payment & Membership Sign-up

2015–2016

Please complete this information form and mail it in (or drop it off at the synagogue office) to Congregation B'nai Israel, 1488 Old Freehold Road,

Toms River, NJ 08753, with your $36 check made out to CBI Men's Club.

Name

Address

Email Address

Phone #

You can also pay via the "Men's Club" check-off box on your new synagogue dues bill.Thank you! If you're interested in volunteering for Men's Club activities and events, or have a constructive idea/suggestion, please contact Men's Club President, Michael Perks.

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Birthdays & Anniversaries

Anniversariesאני לדודי ודודי לי

October 4 – Howard & Maureen FriedOctober 8 – Martin & Cheryl GertnerOctober 10 – Adam & Michelle RepoleOctober 12 – Kenneth & Wendy EhrlichOctober 17 – Gabe & Lee Subai

October 18 – Christopher & Shayne WinnOctober 23 – Bob & Bonnie Van BochoveOctober 24 – Daniel & Ruth GreenOctober 26 – Herbert & Charlotte Katz

Birthda�sיום הולדת שמח

October 1 – Dr. David Eisenberg Leah Kempton October 2 – Lauren Lindenbaum October 3 – Cantor Ruth Green Michael Yavener October 6 – Morris Hirsch Marlene Perlmutter Dr. Assif RozovskyOctober 8 – Arielle Mallen Bonnie Van BochoveOctober 9 – Myra Drozdoff Rhoda Kuflik Harry LevinOctober 10 – Dr. Jarrod Kaufman Jacob Marshall David RepoleOctober 11 – Alyce WeissOctober 12 – Howard Butensky Betsy LewinsonOctober 13 – Robert TaffOctober 15 – Jimmy Givens Jeremy LewisOctober 16 – Alan Baum Manfred Lindenbaum Sherry SteinOctober 17 – Aileen Stone

October 18 – Dr. Kenneth Ehrlich Lillian Levine Michele PardesOctober 19 – Michelle Repole Newton RodmanOctober 20 – Dr. Harold Isaacson Steven ManelaOctober 21 – Fred WeilOctober 22 – Joseph Gordon Benjamin MusicantOctober 23 – Randy Dempsey Randi Kempton Margaret Pelcman Elaine PerdeckOctober 25 – Michael Brody Harold LowenfelsOctober 26 – Andrew Singer Joshua SingerOctober 27 – Marvin KerrOctober 28 – Bob Van Bochove Sandra WelsherOctober 29 – Bernice JacobsOctober 30 – Elaine Caplan Matthew RiechelsonOctober 31 – Joshua Werner

Mazel Tov

Jonathan Fields & Rabbi Ellen Wolintz-Fields on their daughter Cameron marking her Bat Mitzvah.

Carol Wolintz on her granddaughter Cameron Fields marking her Bat Mitzvah.

Fred Weil marking the anniversary of his 67th Bar Mitzvah.

Irene Wolinsky on the birth of her greatgrandson, Ethan Vincent Wolinsky

Kiddush Fund

Evan & Monica Winderbaum in honor of their 21st anniversary

Irwin & Phyllis Natter in honor of their 56th anniversary

Elliott & Sue Ellen Kleinman in honor of their 37th anniversary

Our Condolences

Sadie Gibbor, mother of Michael GibborMax Yurman

Join PJ Library!

PJ Library is a Jewish family engagement program implemented on a local level throughout North America. We mail, high-quality Jewish children's literature and music to families across the continent on a monthly basis.

PJ Library is a program of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation, made possible through partnerships with philanthropists and local Jewish organizations. Today, families in hundreds of communities across the United States and Canada are able to explore the timeless core values of Judaism through books and music. The Jewish Federation of Ocean County is the local funder for this program.

All families raising Jewish children from six months up to six years old are welcome to sign up. Grandparents and other relatives can buy subscriptions on line for children who do not live in our community and do not have a sponsor in the child's families community.

www.pjlibrary.org

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19. How can you express yourself creatively?Starting with the belief that we are allcreative animals by nature, what's yourmedium?

20. How do you manage your time? Whatworks for you? Can you make a schedule,write down your routine (to help you stickto it), come up with a productivitymanifesto of some sort?

21. If you were to leave the world today, what'syour manifesto? What would you tell yourchildren if you were forced to abandonthem unexpectedly?

22. What makes you come alive? What ignites you? What makes you forget time, andspace, and love, and food and water andeven why – if taken to extreme?

23. What are your most painful memories?Are you still replaying them in your mindand using them as an excuse to fuel yourfear of getting hurt again? Do you thinkthey might be keeping you from trustingyour heart again?

24. Why do you eat the way you eat and the things you eat? What do you think youshould you eat that you're not eating – andwhy? What can you put in your body thatgives you pleasure and also respects andnourish it?

25. What ignites your brain? What turns yourlight bulb on?

26. What physical exercise makes you sweatit like you mean it and enjoy both, theprocess and the afterward feeling?

27. What does your body need in order tofunction at its best? Can you make a list ofwhat makes you feel healthiest andfunction optimally and try to practice itevery day?

28. What feeds your spirit? What gives yougoosebumps? What makes you fall down toyour knees in awe (and weep)?

29. What are you proud of so far? What haveyou accomplished?

30. What is the meaning of life?

I hope that we can all spend 5776, in good health and happiness, pondering these questions, both on a personal level, and also as a family at Congregation B'nai Israel, as we celebrate together 65 years creating Jewish memories on the Jersey Shore.

Words from Wolintz-FieldsIf You are Doing That – 30 Questions to Ask Ourselves (continued)

Please RSVP by Monday, October 13th and mail this reservation form, with your check,* to: Congregation B’nai Israel, 1488 Old Freehold Rd., Toms River, NJ 08753

*Please make your check payable to: CBI Men’s Club(if you note "Wine" on your envelope, it would help greatly–thanks!)

Name(s) Payment Amount Enclosed $Phone # Email AddressPlease Check Your Menu Choice (one per person): Steak Salmon

If you have any questions, please contact either Michael Perks at 732-657-6407 or by email at [email protected] or Hy Mittleberg at 732-206-1862 or by email at [email protected].

SundayNovember 8, 2015 5:00pm ‘til it’s over

Congregation B’nai Israel Men’s Club invites you to join us for our annual

Wine, Steak and Scotch w/Chef Mark Silverstein

All men and women of CBI are invited! Open to non-members as well, so please invite friends and family.

Come and enjoy a delicious 5-course dinner prepared by our Master Chef, Mark Silverstein (and crew)….please choose from the following entrée selections: cooked-to-perfection steak or salmon….(and, of course, a delicious dessert will be served)….we promise that your palate will be pleased!

Cost: $50 per person/$90 per couple

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Talmud Torah

Poignant Points from the Principal by Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields

Shalom. We are often to a great start of the 5776 Talmud Torah School Year!

The following are our teachers this year: Morah Judy Kessler – Kitot Gan (Kindergarten) and Alef (First Grade)Morah Hadar Lewis – Kitot Bet (Second Grade) and Gimmel (Third Grade)Morah Ingrid Nadell – Kitah Dalet (Fourth Grade)Hazzan Steven Walvick – Kitot Heh (Fifth Grade) and Vav (Sixth Grade)Morah Sarah Salmansohn – Kitah Zayin (Seventh Grade) Morah Renee Kitay – First StepsMax Silverstein is my assistant and the Hebrew Tutor.

I want to remind everyone of the Talmud Torah Service requirements. Students in Kitah Heh and Kitah Vav are required to attend 18 Services over the course of the school year – 4 of which must be Junior Congregation. (Those Kitah Vav students who have had their Year in Advance will attend the main service, and that will count towards the Junior Congregation requirement.) Students in Kitah Gimmel and Kitah Dalet are required to attend 15 Services over the course of the school year – 4 of which must be Junior Congregation. Students in Kitah Bet are required to attend 10 Services over the course of the school year.

The following are the dates of Junior Congregation, which this year will be led by Max Silverstein, and will be 10:15–11:30am on Saturday mornings, and 7:30–8:30pm on Friday nights: Friday, October 2; Saturday, November 21; Friday, December 4; Saturday, January 23; Friday, February 5; Saturday, March 19, Friday, April 8; Saturday, May 14.

Students may fulfill the requirement of attending a Service, by attending any Service at Congregation B'nai Israel. There is a

prayer Service at CBI 365 days a year, sometimes twice a day! Therefore, there should be no excuse that a student cannot fulfill his/ her service requirement! To fulfill this requirement, since there are so many to choose from, they must be attended at Congregation B'nai Israel, and if it is a Service that lasts an hour or less (such as a morning service, except on Shabbat or Jewish Holidays, or an evening service, except Kol Nidre or Neilah, the evening services on Yom Kippur) the student must arrive on time, and remain for the entire Service. (Hence, arriving at 9:15am for a Sunday morning service does not qualify for fulfilling the Service requirement.) Please remember, for students in Gimmel through Vav, four of these Service requirements are Junior Congregation Services, three of which may be fulfilled by attending First Day and Second Day of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur Children's Services, at Congregation B'nai Israel. Each student will have an attendance sheet, and a sticker will be put by their name when a Service is attended. Please see Rabbi Wolintz-Fields when you attend, and if she is not available, see Hazzan Walvick, and if neither are available, notify them within 48 hours of the Service you have attended at Congregation B'nai Israel.

The dates we have Talmud Torah in the months of October and November are the following:

October Wednesday – 7, 14, 21, 28

Sunday – 18, 25November

Wednesday – 11, 18Sunday – 15, 22

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to call me at 732-349-1244) or email me at [email protected].

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First Steps will meet on the third Sunday of each month. For more information and to register, please contact the synagogue office at 732-349-1244.

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Bat Mitzvah Spotlight

Cameron Fieldsאהובה צביהOctober 31, 2015Parashat Vayera

Be a Patron Oneg or Kiddush SponsorCelebrating? Any occasion – be it important events in your child’s life, your work life, or your home life; a graduation, anniversary, anniversary of your Bar/Bat Mitzvah, birthday, engagement, retirement….

A Patron sponsorship is designed to allow you, the congregant, to celebrate special occasions with your congregation family when you are not inviting many outside guests. The food provided by a Patron sponsorship will be ample for the usual number of congregants attending Shabbat Services plus a few invited guests. Consider becoming a Patron sponsor of a Friday night Oneg Shabbat or a Saturday morning Kiddush. Just contact the Synagogue Office to make arrangements for sharing your simcha with our whole Congregation!

Thank you to Men's Club and Sisterhood for sponsoring the Kiddush Luncheon on September 26 for Men's Club and Sisterhood Shabbat.

Thank you to Carol Wolintz for sponsoring our Oneg on October 30 in honor of her granddaughter Cameron marking her Bat Mitzvah.

Thank you to Jonathan Fields and Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields for sponsoring our Kiddush on October 31 in honor of their daughter Cameron marking her Bat Mitzvah.

Cameron Elizabeth, Ahuva Tzvia, was born in Hoffman Estates, Illinois, on Saturday, November 8, 2003, the 13th of Cheshvan 5764. She was a 30th birthday present for her dad Jonathan.

From a week old, Cameron attended Shabbat Services, for she was named, in her mom's arms, at the Torah, the Shabbat after the Rabbi literally labored on Shabbat. Cameron and her entire family will surely be missing her Poppy, Dr. Arthur H. Wolintz, of blessed memory, as she chants the same Torah reading and Haftarah he chanted the morning she was named on Parashat Vayera.

Cameron will be leading Morning Minyan Services and reading from the Torah (leyning) on Monday, October 26, 2015, the 13th of Cheshvan, her actual Hebrew birthday at both 7:45 am and 9:30 am at Congregation B'nai Israel, followed by breakfast after both Services. All are invited to join her that morning. On the morning of Cameron’s Bat Mitzvah, she is anticipating receiving her Yad, Torah Pointer, from the Congregation B’nai Israel Men’s Club, through their Yad Shel Chai Program, which gives a Yad to anyone who has chanted from the Torah 18 times.

Cameron tries very hard to succeed, and is an extremely conscientious student. She attends our Talmud Torah and is in the 7th grade at the Solomon Schechter Day School of Greater Monmouth County, where she serves as the Bus Safety Officer, plays on the school Basketball Team, the Flames, and last year served as Vice President of the Student Council. Cameron is also an avid skier who goes to Camelback Mountain in the Poconos frequently throughout the winter months.

Cameron is co-president of Toms River Kadima, and loves attending HaGalil Regional Kadima Events. During the summer she attends Pine Grove Day Camp.

She has a heart of gold, and is always willing to give a helping hand, a listening ear, and a thoughtful word. She is far wiser than her age, and is the epitome of a mensch. Coby and Sammy are very lucky to have Cameron as their big sister, who they adore. We are all very proud of Cameron and extremely excited to be able to mark this incredible milestone in her life, and our lives, with our B'nai Israel Family!

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Around the Synagogue

New Additions to the Library

Ocean County has been a great place to call home. Now is the time to make it your permanent home!We never know when the end of life will come. The only thing we know for sure is that our own death will be at a veryinconvenient time. Let us admit that it will probably be our spouse or our children who will have to make the funeral and burial arrangements. But do we even own a burial plot?

If we do not make these hard decisions during our own lifetime, our family members will have to do so without being able to ask our opinion. And they will have to do it hastily. Is that really what we would want?

End-of-life decisions should be for each of us to make – not anyone else. We ourselves deserve to choose our own burial placeand funeral arrangements. Let us not leave these for others to decide in haste.

Congregation B'nai Israel urges you to visit our synagogue office or main lobby and take home a copy of our B'nai IsraelMemorial Park Guide & Policies. Then contact our Cemetery Chairman to reserve plots for yourself and loved ones in ourbeautiful Jewish cemetery, which is lovingly maintained by dedicated volunteers from our congregation. Your family will beeternally grateful.

B'nai Israel Memorial Park is located at the corner of West Whitty Road and Old Freehold Road in Toms River. For more information please contact Fred M. Weil, Cemetery Chairman, at 732-797-0197 or [email protected].

Sisterhood Book ClubTuesday, October 20 at 7:30pm

The Sisterhood Book Club will be meeting on Tuesday, October 20th at 7:30pm. We will be discussing the book Single Jewish Male Seeking Soul Mate by Letty Cottin Pogrebin. The meeting will take place at the home of Irene Wolinsky.

"Grief After Loss" MeetingEvery Monday, 1:00–2:00pm

Jewish Family & Children's Service of the Jewish Federation of Ocean County in conjunction with Congregation B'nai Israel is pleased to announce the continuation of:

"Grief After Loss"Every Monday from 1:00pm–2:30pmat Congregation B'nai Israel

For more information, or to register please contact: Jewish Family & Children's Service at 732-363-8010.

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Congregation B'nai Israel Gratefully Acknowledges the Following Contributions

Rabbi's Discretionary Fund

- In memory of Aaron and Ruth Jablon - Edna and Michele Jablon

- In appreciation for her family for the repair of Sefer Torah - Carol Wolintz

Educational Endowment Fund

- In honor of Irwin and Phyllis Natter's anniversary - Meryl Natter McCusker

General Fund - In honor of the birth of my great grandchild - Betty Richman

- In memory of Bernice Goldberg - Anna Goldberg

USY Fund - In honor of the birth of David and Elaine Yelner's great grandchild - Judge Milton and Janice Gelzer

- In honor of Hy and Megina Mittleberg on their honors on Simchat Torah - Judge Milton and Janice Gelzer

Mitzvah Care Fund - In honor of the birth of David and Elaine Yelner's great grandchild - Marilyn Gitlin

Yahrzeits - In memory of Marcia Kendler - Neal and Beth Appel

- In memory of Bernard Becker - Melvin Perlman Becker

- In memory of Mollie Perlman - Melvin Perlman Becker

- In memory of Bernard Rosenzweig - Melvin Perlman Becker

- In memory of Betty Berman - Barbara Berman and Clifford Lee

- In memory of Edward Sanders - Barbara Berman and Clifford Lee

- In memory of Harry Cohen - Carole Cohen

- In memory of Rose Davidowitz - Irving Davis

- In memory of Charles Wolf - Selma Davis

- In memory of Simon and Anna Dingott - Michael Dingott

- In memory of Julia Miller - Lucille Goff

- In memory of Lillian Fenyves - Marty and Irene Goldstein

- In memory of Heinz Guenzburger - Ruth Guenzburger

- In memory of Flora Freiberg - Rabbi Richard and Sharon Hammerman

- In memory of Murray Hammerman- Rabbi Richard and Sharon Hammerman

- In memory of Frank Rosenblum - Marcia Jacoby and Geoffrey Jacoby

- In memory of Hans A. Ehrmann - Gloria, Randy, Hilary, and Sara Jett

- In memory of Sam King - Barry and Marsha King

- In memory of Sol Wasserman - Steve and Sharon Lieberman

- In memory of Melvin Londner - Theresa Londner

- In memory of the Mandrowitz Family - Joseph Mandrowitz and Family

- In memory of Joseph Siegel - Jack and Lenore Matin

- In memory of Isabel Meyers - Phyllis Meyers

- In memory of Sophie Miller - David and Sharon Miller

- In memory of Shimon Naim - Ben and Barbara Naim

- In memory of David Karpen - Penny Peters

- In memory of Frank Rosenbloom - Shirley Rosenbloom

- In memory of Bernard Salzberg - Carol Salzberg

- In memory of Paul Schulman - Heath Schulman

- In memory of Jack Schwartz - Joe Schwartz

- In memory of Ellie Sherman - Roslyn Sherman

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Synagogue Funds

Arielle Eytan Memorial Fund: Provides materials for the Nursery School Program. Mitzvah Care Fund: Helps needy families and individuals within our Congregation. Educational Endowment Fund: Perpetual support for our Talmud Torah educational programs. Esther and Frank Simon Youth Lounge: Provides and maintains items and furnishings in our Youth Lounge. Harry and Molly Garson Fund: Used for special annual programs for the children of Congregation B’nai Israel Talmud Torah. General Fund: Used to support the ongoing needs of Congregation B'nai Israel. Goldsmith Endowment Fund: Used for the education of our youth. Memorial Plaques: Installed in the Sanctuary to memorialize dear ones who are deceased. Music Fund: Provides for musical programs and ongoing musical needs for Congregation B'nai Israel. Prayer Book Fund: Used to purchase Chumashim and weekly Sabbath and High Holy Days prayer books. Books may be dedicated to specific individuals.

Rabbi's Discretionary Fund: Used for needy individuals and causes.Ramah-Youth Scholarship Fund: Provides scholarships for summer educational and cultural programs for our youngsters (Camp Ramah, USY on Wheels, Israel Pilgrimage, etc.) Ritual Fund: Used to purchase new siddurim, tallitot and other ritual items needed to benefit and assist the Congregation. Rosen Adult Education Fund: Perpetual support for Adult Education. Talmud Torah Fund: Used to support the Religious Schools of B'nai Israel and to enhance our educational program. Tree of Life: Leaves may be purchased in honor of special occasions and family simchas. USY Fund: Used for scholarships toward regional or national events and programs for the youth of our synagogue. Yahrzeit Fund: Supports Talmud Torah in memory of dear ones. Yizkor Fund: Memorializes dear ones who are deceased. All requests must be in writing accompanied with payment to the Synagogue Office.

Yahrzeits (continued)

- In memory of Mark Shulman - Evelyn Shulman

- In memory of Lindsay Mintz - Lillian Sokolow

- In memory of Lottie Taff - Shirley Taff

- In memory of Ruth Abramson - Stanley and Anita Tutnauer

- In memory of Marsha Rugoff - Trudy Weisman

- In memory of Harold Winderbaum - Evan and Monica Winderbaum

- In memory of Sam Estes - David Wolff

- In memory of Morris Wurtzel - Phyllis Wurtzel

Congregation B'nai Israel Gratefully Acknowledges the Following Contributions

This is a perfect time to share your simchas of your loved ones by dedicating a Leaf for those who you love. Please consider adding a Leaf to our Tree of Life now. Your check for $150.00 each is made payable to Congregation B'nai Israel. You get 4 lines and 29 spaces per Leaf. Share your children and grandchildren's simchas by adding a Leaf to our Tree of Life with any simcha. What a lovely gift!

The Leafs are falling from our Trees outside and it is the perfect time to add to our Tree of Life while helping our Congregation. Add a leaf to our Tree of Life or reserve some for the future. Please call Arlene Neugarten at 732-929-0545 or call the office at 732- 349-1244 for more information. You can also chip in with friends to share a special birthday, marriage, anniversary, bar/bat mitzvah, graduation, birth of a child or grandchild, etc. Hoping to hear from you.

Thank you to those who added the following to our Tree of Life:

THANK YOU MEGINA MITTLEBERG

FOR YOUR LOYAL ASSISTANCE

TO OUR CLUB

FROM CBI MENS CLUB

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CBI Academy for Learning and Journeying 5776

Women's Rosh Chodesh Study Group 10:30am–12:00pmJoin us for an informative, lively, and confidential gathering of women sharing in the celebration of the new Hebrew month. Rosh Chodesh is a time for women to gather for insightful study through various activities and conversation on the topic of the new month. Coffee and nosh are always served.

Wednesday, October 14 – Rosh Chodesh CheshvanWednesday, November 11 – Rosh Chodesh KislevWednesday, December 16 – Rosh Chodesh TevetThursday, March 10 – Rosh Chodesh Adar IIThursday, April 7 – Rosh Chodesh NisanMonday, May 9 – Rosh Chodesh IyarThursday, June 9 – Rosh Chodesh Sivan

Lunch and Learn iEngage 2.011:30am–1:00pmEngaging Israel: from the Shalom Hartman Institute Lecture Series – A video produced by the Shalom Hartman Institute, featuring Hartman scholars discussing these topics, will be watched and then discussed. Lunch at each session will be served. Please RSVP the Monday before each session. These programs are open to men and woman.

Thursday, November 19 – Religious Pluralism and Human Rights: As a democracy, Israel is committed to being religiously pluralistic and to providing equal rights to all of its citizens, Jews and non-Jews alike. Does Israel's Jewish dimension serve or hinder these commitments? What principles and ideas ought to govern Israel's policies on these issues?

Thursday, December 17 – Values Nation: Israel is the project of the Jewish people, in which Jewish values and ideals meet the challenges of governance and everyday life. What resources within the Jewish tradition can contribute to the shaping of Israel as a paragon of moral and democratic values and help fulfill the aspiration of Israel to be a nation of values?

Thursday, March 17 – The Jewish People as a Tribal Family: Explores how the Jewish tradition conceptualizes the Jewish people as a tribal family. It recognizes that Jewish collective identity has always been a divided and tribal one, requiring the balancing of collective consciousness with individual and tribal sensibilities.

Thursday, May 19 – The "Orthodox" Jewish Tribes: Explores two Jewish tribes within Israel that conceive of orthodoxy as the only authentic form of Judaism: the ultra-orthodox and religious Zionists. It presents a nuanced understanding of the defining characteristics of each tribe, the challenges they face, and their place within the broader mosaic of Israel society.

Monday, June 6 – The "Liberal" Jewish Tribes: Examines the four Jewish tribes within Israel that reject the monopoly of orthodoxy – Masorti (traditional), "Jewish" secular, Israeli secular, and "Jewish Non-Jewish."

Evening iEngage 2.0 - Central Themes of Dilemmas of Faith 7:00pm–9:00pmWednesday, December 2 – What Does it Mean to Believe? The Challenge of the Rational and the Reasonable: Explores the challenges of faith in a world defined by personal choice. What makes a life of faith compelling? Rabbi Dr. Donnie Hartman argues that modern Jews will only choose faith if it is both rational and reasonable.

Wednesday, March 2 – Dilemma of Biblical Theology: What is the Redeeming Idea of Monotheism? Explores how the Bible wants us to understand God and holiness. Dr. Micah Goodman suggests that biblical monotheism is about the absolute uniqueness of a God who is beyond nature and beyond the world. Since our beliefs in God shapre our vision for humanity and the world, Jewish theology strives to instill the ethos that perfection is not possible in the human realm.

Wednesday, May 11 – Dilemma of Theodicy: Where is God in the Midst of Suffering? Addresses the problem of understanding God, God's power, and God's goodness in the face of evil. Rabbi Lauren Berkun suggests that there has never been one response to the problem of theodicy. She offers several different traditional Jewish approaches to the question of evil and G-d's in the world.

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October 2015 Events Calendar

KolenuSunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

1 Chol Hamoed

7:30pm Executive Board Meeting

2 Chol Hamoed 6:00pm New Member Shabbat Dinner6:19pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services7:30pm Jr. Congregation

3 Chol Hamoed

9:00am Shabbat ServicesAuf Ruf of Amy Miller and Steve Kravetz

4 Hoshanah Rabbah

No Talmud Torah6:16pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services

5 Shemini Atzeret/ YizkorOffice Closed10:30am Yizkor Service7:00pm Evening Services

"Dance the Horah with the Torah"

6 Simchat Torah

Office Closed9:00am Morning Services

"Dance the Horah with the Torah"

7

Talmud Torah6:00pm USY Board Mtg.7:00pm USY Event7:30pm CBI Board Mtg.

8 9

Anniversary Shabbat6:08pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services

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9:00am Shabbat ServicesTorah Study GroupUSY Opening Dance

11

No Talmud Torah9:30am Jewish War Veterans MeetingKadima Regional Event

12

No Hebrew High

13 Rosh Chodesh Mar Cheshvan1:00pm Hadassah Board MeetingCBI 65th Celebration

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Talmud Torah10:30am Women's Rosh Chodesh Study Group6:30pm Tzofim Opening Event

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USY Shabbat5:57pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services

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9:00am Shabbat ServicesTorah Study Group

18

Talmud Torah11:00am & 4:00pm Federation Jewish Film Series

19

Hebrew High

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1:00pm Hadassah Mtg.

21

Talmud Torah6:30pm Kadima Event

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5:47pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services

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Birthday Shabbat9:00am Shabbat ServicesTorah Study Group

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Talmud Torah1:30pm & 7:00pm Federation Jewish Film Series

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Hebrew High 7:45am & 9:30amMorning Minyan

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Talmud Torah

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7:45am Morning Minyan

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5:38pm Candle Lighting7:30pm Evening Services

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9:00am Shabbat Services Bat Mitzvah of Cameron Fields

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