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CFC Youth For ChristChapter Heads Training

Program Schedule

Morning8:00 8:30 Arrival8:30 9:00 Worship Workshop9:00 9:30 Opening Worship9:30 9:45 Setting of the Training Objectives9:45 10:25 Session 1: The Beloveds Calling

(Vision-Mission of Community Base)10:00 10:30 Ice Breaker10:30 11:00 Session 2: Portrait of a Leader

(Roles and Responsibilities)11:00 11:45 Lunch

11:45 12:00 Break12:00 - 12:05 The Angelus12:05 12:30 Afternoon Worship12:30 1:30 Communication Workshop (Appendix A)1:30 1:45 Ice Breaker1:45 2:45 How to Lead a Prayer Meeting Workshop

(Using the Chapter Assembly Manual and Household TopicManual)2:45 3:00 Ice Breaker3:00 4:00 Session 3: The Banquet

(Structure and Cycle of Activities with the new formation

Track)4:00 4:30 Open Forum4:30 5:30 Session 4: On to Mission5:30 6:00 Preparation for the mass6:00 7:00 Holy Mass7:00 8:00 Dinner Break8:00 9:30 E-Night9:30 10:00 Closing Praisefest10:00 Home Sweet Home

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SESSION 1: THE BELOVEDS CALLINGVision and Mission of YFC and Goals of Community-based Program

Objective:

To let the chapter heads own/embrace the mission and vision andmake them personal

To honor the calling that God has called them to be as a chapter head

Speakers Profile:

YFC MCG member

Preferably, serving in community based.

Has a personal vision in the community.

Dynamics/Activity:

After the talk, allow the chapter heads to create a drawing on how do

they see there self, there family and there community for the next 20years.

Materials:

Bond paper

Drawing materials

Talk Outline:

What He requires of us is this: to do what is just, to show constant love

and to live in humble fellowship with our God. (Micah 6:8)

Each one of us here right now is secured that God loves us very dearly.We are blessed to be chosen by God through His only son Jesus Christ.He chose to die on the cross to show us the most sincere, mostconsistent love you can ever imagine. He did all of this because we areGods sons and daughters. God even chose us, to lead the flock in ourchapter.

THE BELOVEDS CALLING

As his sons and daughters, we are simply called by God to give ourentire selves to Himevery move and action that we make, everythought and word that we speak will only be for HIM.

It is stated in Micah 6:8 what God asks of us, it says What He requiresof us is this: to do what is just, to show constant love and to live inhumble fellowship with our God.

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Let us respond together as Gods beloved in fulfilling our personal callfor Him. We witness as

His sons and daughters

A son and daughter in our family A friend to your friends

A leader for you to take good care of your chapter

CFC Vision/ MissionVision: Families in the Holy Spirit Renewing the Face of the EarthMission: Building the Church of the Home and Building the Church ofthe Poor

(At this point, the speaker will have a personal sharing about thevision/mission. Explaining that this is not just a mere statement but a deeper

and personal understanding)

CFC Youth for Christ is a family ministry of Couples for Christ, a Catholiccharismatic community and family life movement. It owes its existenceidentity, mission and vision to CFC, as it exists as a partner in evangelizing theyoung.

YFC was formally launched on June of 1993, 13 years after CFC wasestablished. YFC has 6 different programs: Campus based, High School Based,TORCH, SIGA, YCOM and Community based.

Community based is the biggest and the first program of YFC aside from

other programs.

THE GOAL YFC COMMUNITY-BASEDRENEWAL IN CHRIST THROUGH RAISING FAITH COMMUNITIES.

Raising faith communities is bringing and renewing our FAMILIES inChrist

Raising faith communities is bringing and renewing our BARKADA inChrist

Raising faith communities is bringing and renewing our CHAPTERS in

Christ Raising faith communities is bringing and renewing our HOUSEHOLDS in

Christ

The goal of raising faith communities can only be fulfilled if each andevery one of us will respond to Gods personal call for us. The reason why ourcommunity grows so much and reached this far is because there people aheadof us who stood up, believe and commit themselves to the vision.

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What we need to do now is to:A. PRAY

We need to pray. More than anything else, we need to seek Godsguidance and wisdom. We need to pray for this vision.

B. ACTA C T actually stands for A Call To God always provides but Hehelps those who help themselves. WE NEED TO DO SOMETHING!

C. SERVEBring people to our Youth Camps and Prayer Meetings. Attend yourhousehold meetings.

As members of Youth for Christ, as His beloveds we are called to bea witness for God, a fool for Christ. We dont need to becomesomething or someone to be able to make a difference. As Chapter

heads we believe that we are the best catalysts for change. Do yourpart in changing this world. Do it wellwith a passion unparalleledwith EXCELLENCE for GOD!

OUR PRAYER Lord, allow us to move and respond to your call with this vision notonly in our minds but also in our hearts and in our hands. May you useeach of us to really bring everyone closer to you everyday and togetherwe will see the great promise you have in store for us individually andfor this community.

Activity: After the talk, allow the chapter heads to create a drawing on how do

they see there self, there family and there community for the next 20years.

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SESSION 2: PORTRAIT OF A LEADERRoles and Responsibilities of Chapter Heads

keep watch over all the flock which the Holy Spirithas placed in your care Acts 20:28

INTRODUCTIONDo you remember your first experience of Gods love? Do you remember

how it felt when God embraced you for the first time and whispered to you Hiswords of love? Do you remember how it felt when He answered your prayer?

When He healed you from your sickness? Or perhaps when He gave you agood grade in one of your difficult subjects?

Remember how it felt? God wants us to do the same with our membersover all the flock He has placed under our careour CHAPTER.

THE CHAPTER

God did not only give us His flock, but He has also given us a placewhere we can tend our sheepand that is, our CHAPTERS.

Our chapter is the environment where our members first experiencecommunity life after their youth camp. This is where they begin their fun,

exciting, and spirit-filled journey with God. It is also in the chapters where ourmembers are given more opportunities to grow in their love for God. Thus, aschapter heads, it is our responsibility to provide our members with a strong,Christ-centered, support environment in our chapters.

But first, it has to start with us as the CHAPTER HEADS. We need tounderstand first what our roles and responsibilities are so we can effectivelytake care of our members.

TENDING THE SHEEP

We have 3 major roles as CHAPTER HEADS: as a PRIEST; as a FRIEND;

and as a SHEPHERD.

1. PRIEST Life of Prayer

Looks after the spiritual needs of the chapter. We pray and intercede for allmembers in our chapter.

Provides opportunities for members to grow more in their love for God.

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Sets the example by living an active prayer life. Not only do we teach ourmembers how to pray, but we should also show them how to live a life ofprayer. Prayer time is very important to each chapter head as we lead theyoung people in our area. (leading a chapter will not be easy if we dont livea life of a prayer)

Encourages members to serve and participate actively in YFC.

Strives to imitate Christ in his life. The best way to lead the members to Godis to witness to them how it is to LIVE for Christ. Embodies and lives out theYFC core values.

SEVEN CORE VALUES OF YFC

Passion is our love for God, His work and His people

Endurance in our mission

Integrity in our person

CREATIVITYin pursuing results

EXCELLENCE in our service and studies

EMPOWERMENT in our roles

UNITYand TEAMWORKin our endeavors

Co-pastor with the Chapter Coordinator to the unit heads. Makes sure thatmembers attend regular households, assemblies, fellowship and other YFCgatherings. We look after their spiritual growth.

Together with the Chapter Couple Coordinator prepares a pastoral plan forunit heads.

As a PRIEST, Living a life with a PRAYER, is living a life of PURITY andbecoming a Life to HOLINESS.

2. FRIEND BUILDING RELATIONSHIP

More of a FRIEND. Be a friend to everyone. Get to know them,their concerns, their situation, and their victories. Be involved intheir personal lives.

Reaches out to all members in his chapter. Seek to always buildrelationships with your members. If they need anything, it is seldom

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that they come to you for help. Reach out and offer help to themeven if its difficult for you.

Should be LOVING in relating with members. This is our highestcalling as chapter heads, to love our members unconditionally.

Source of ENCOURAGEMENT. Our members need our

encouragement more than our judgments. Should be a LISTENER. Sometimes, its better that we listen towhat our members have to say rather than disagree, argue andeven sometimes, we tend to insist on what we think is right. Theyfeel more loved when people listen to them.

Should be AVAILABLE at all times. Always make time for yourmembers. Spend time with them more. Serve with them, hearmass with them after assemblies, go out with them for fellowships.

Our Coordinator is also our friends, our co-pastors and our parentsin our chapter we need to build a deep relationship with them.Proper communication and respect in terms of decision making.

Listening to our partner is very important in our partnership. Weneed each other, in pastoral matter, building relationship, and interm of decision. And be sensitive to the need of everyone.

The Chapter provides a strong foundation for YFC members in the Community-based program. A big part of a persons growth as a Christian depends on thesupport environment that he/she has and also the friendship he/sheexperiences from brothers and sisters in YFC.

Friendship plays an important role in the life of the young people. They needreal friends who can help and support them.

Remember that our service comes second to our relationship with oneanother. Even with God, we serve because we have a relationship with Him.Its easy to serve without being relational but its much more fulfilling to serveGod if we already have a relationship with Him. The same goes for ourmembers, we serve them because we seek to build relationships with them.At all times, we are called to be a FRIEND to everyone.

3. SHEPHERD LEADING THE FLOCKAs a shepherd, the chapter head leads his flock. He should then know

where hes bringing and leading the members.

Should have a VISION. Know where youre leading your members.

Together with the Chapter Couple Coordinator, he/she plans,organizes, and implements YFC activities such as youth camp,chapter assemblies, that will help our members grow in their spirituallife.

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Together with the Chapter Couple Coordinator he/she isresponsible in preparing for the chapter assembly. We contactresource speakers and gather materials needed in the assembly.

Makes sure that regular household with the members happenonce every month.

Monitors attendance in households and in all YFC activities. Leads the chapter service meetings with the couple coordinator.

Keeps the directory of all the members in his chapter. It becomeseasy for us to monitor our members if we have a directory.

Groups the general membership into households and secures a listof the different household groupings. Consider age, maturity, andinterest of members when grouping them into household.

Strengthens relationship with the parish. We are responsible insustaining good relationship with the parish/es in our chapter.

Ensures involvement of his chapter to all general YFC activities(e.g. Mission trips, Conferences)

Identifies, and trains household heads. In getting householdheads, consider spiritual maturity and attitude towards service (i.e.willingness to learn, availability, commitment, etc.)

Source of unity within the cluster. As a shepherd, he createsopportunities for his members to get to know other YFC membersfrom different chapters in their cluster.

Seeks nourishment from the cluster. It is very important for thechapter head to always seek guidance and nourishment from theelders so he can continually equip himself as he leads his flock.

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CONCLUSION

Our calling as Chapter heads Is Gods gift to all of us. We didnt chooseto be chapter heads, but it is God who chose us. He personally choseYOU. He is counting on you. He calls each one of us to be a PRIEST, aFRIEND, and a SHEPHERD to our membersthe flock placed under ourcare.

Dont let Him down. Remember, that He first became a PRIEST, FRIEND,and a SHEPHERD to all of us. Let us do the same with our members.

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SESSION 3: THE BANQUETStructure and Cycle of Activities

Objectives:1. To make the YFC Chapter Heads appreciate the basic YFC structure and

understand better the underlying principle behind the YFC activities.2. To inspire the YFC Chapter Heads and move them into doing their best

as the top leaders of their respective Chapters.

Speakers Profile:1. A YFC Community Based Leader (Cluster Head up)2. He/she must be in YFC long enough to appreciate the different YFC

activities. Preferably someone who held different YFC positions andunderwent all the basic formation tracks.

Note to the Speaker: Stress the reasons behind the structure and

activities.

Suggested Video Support:Prepare a power point/flash presentation of the talk points and the

structure and cycle of activities.

I. INTRODUCTION

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In life, there are things that are important for a human beings survival: food,shelter, clothing, to name a few. Among those mentioned, probably the mostimportant is food. It is essential, nay, necessary for survival. Without it, thecontinuance of life wouldnt be possible.

Food basically nourish usprovides us with the nutrients we need for growth;strengthen usfuels us to go through lifes daily demands; and make us brightand happy.

In the same way, we sustain every YFC member by letting them partake in thebanquet. The banquet includes the structure of grace and the platter ofactivities.

II. STRUCTURES OF GRACEAs a Christian community, YFCs strength lies in personal connection and

relationship. It is about creating a family and building each other up. Thestructure of grace is the support group where every YFC member is takencared of and the family who sees to it that they are loved and encouraged totheir full potential. It is where the grace of god flows to each and everymember of our community.

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Excerpt from:STRUCTURES OF GRACE

There are two elements that make up the YFC Community-based ProgramStructure: (1) Pastoral Structure, (2) Service/Functional Structure.

A. The Pastoral Structure

At the heart YFCs being, you will find that its basic mission is to care forand bring people to Christ. More than making sure that all activities andevents in the YFC Program happen effectively and efficiently, YFC leadersare first called to genuinely love and care for their members. After all, weare in the business of loving. Thus, the first thing we need to prioritize inbuilding and sustaining YFC Community is the PASTORAL STRUCTURE.

1. The Household

As in all YFC groups, the most basic part of YFC Community-based Program is the household.

What is a HOUSEHOLD?

The household is the most basic, concrete, and tangible expression ofGods love in Youth For Christ. It is a support group by nature and itsmain purpose is to foster a venue for growth in Christian maturity. It iswhere YFC members experience being cared for and learn how to careand give love.

Our Couple Coordinators serve as the pastoral Household Heads of theYFC. They are primary in forming our YFCs because their experience andguidance as an adult is crucial. Although we say that our CoupleCoordinators are the pastoral Household Heads of our youth, we stillplay an equally essential, crucial and necessary role in pastoring ourYFCs, as their partners. We are Co-Pastors to our coordinators.

B. The Service Structure

The Chapter Heads are the channels of unity for the cluster. They shouldactively help build the cluster, not just their chapters. They are

implementers in their own right of the Programs plans as well as thegeneral directions of YFC. They are stewards of their territories andmembers.

I. THE STRUCTUREA. The Community-Based Program of Vacouver is composed of 3 clusters with

4 mission areas (Kamloops, Terrace, Victoria and Whistler)Each Cluster has 3-5 chapters.

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Each Chapter has 4-5 units.Each Units has 4-5 households

B. Levels of Household Groups:1. The Cluster Couple Coordinators are the household head of the

Chapter Youth Heads with the Cluster Youth Heads as Co-Pastor.2. The Chapter Couple Coordinators are the household head of

the Unit Heads with the Chapter Youth Heads as Co-Pastor.3. The Parent Coordinators Household Youth Heads directly pastor

the members.

NOTE:a. In Youth for Christ, we believe that the parents are the pastors

of their children thus the Couple coordinators are semi-pastors.b. It doesnt follow that the service head is the pastoral head. In

forming the household groups, we take into consideration thematurity needs and well-being of the person.

C. Youth leaders with the Couple Coordinators

In Community-Based Program we have YFC Couple Coordinatorsas service partners of the youth heads.

In pastoral formation, the youth heads assists the YFC CoupleCoordinators in pastoring the members of their core.

Refer to appendix B

III. PLATTER OF ACTIVITIES

It is also essential to the life of every YFC that they GROW in theirrelationship with the Lord, GO in service to bring more people closer to God,and GLOW in love and joy together with the other YFC members.

The platter of activities is the venue where the YFC members arenourished spiritually and motivated to grow in personal relationship with theLord, where they are moved to share the love that they experienced and bringother young people closer to God, and where they can experience the fullnessof life with God and His people.

A. Annual Cycle of Activities

Excerpt from:Cycle of Activities, A Plenary Session from the Cluster Heads Level UpWeekend

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The activities of the YFC Community-Based are not an end in itself. Theyare not just created and implemented to provide the YFCs to have somethingto do. Significantly, they are venues for evangelization. They were designedto answer the needs of the YFC in the communitiesparishes, villages, publicand private institutions among others. They are also made to help YFCs to

remain true to their calling in evangelizing other people. They areopportunities to love and care for other people and for bringing Christ and Hisfaithfulness to other people as well.

When Jesus ascended to heaven, He commissioned Hid disciples tocontinue what He has started. In YFC, we are given the chance to answerGods call through the activities that we have, and we can do.

II. MAJOR ACTIVITIES OF CFC-YFC COMMUNITY-BASED

Level-Up Cluster Heads Weekend (Yearly Cluster Heads Training)

Chapter Heads Overnight (Yearly Chapter Heads Training)

Red Carpet (Yearly Formal and Honoring Night for coordinators

and youth heads) Chapter & Cluster Couple Coordinators Training

Basic Couple Coordinators Training (BCCT)

Chapter Heads must attend the following trainings1. Summer House Training2. YFC MCG Retreat (Entry point to all new MCG members)

III. YEARLY CYCLE OF ACTIVITIESOur YFC Calendar always starts with the YFC International LeadersConference (ILC).

JanuaryYFC MCG Retreat

FebruaryNational Leaders Summit

MarchRegional Youth Conference

AprilYouth CampsInternational Leaders Conference

MayCluster Heads Level UpChapter Heads Overnight

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JulyYFC National Conference

AugustSHOUT

OctoberYouth Camps

*this is on top of the formation track

B.2 Monthly Cycle for Community-Based Leaders 1st week: Chapter Assemblies 2nd week: Free Time 3rd week: Chapter Assemblies (Collective H.H. Assembly) 4th week: YFC MCG

For Chapter Heads, the Chapter Assemblies are the venue for them totake care of their members and see to it that they are good stewards of theflock entrusted to them. On the other hand, as one of the top leaders of YFC,they attend the YFC MCG Assembly because this is where they are nourishedin fellowship with the other YFC leaders.

Collective Household Assemblies are assemblies when the chaptergathers and people break-out into Households, after a topic or immediatelyafter the worship if the household heads have their own prepared topics.

B.2 Monthly Cycle for Community-Based Members 1st week: Chapter Assemblies 2nd week: FREE 3rd week: Chapter Assemblies (Collective H.H. Assembly) 4th week: FREE

Note:a)Sector will be conducted ONLY if there is a need.b)Our goal is for each YFC member to attend 2 households (including thecollective H.H. assembly) and 1 assembly per month. Their other pastoral

H.H. could be held on either FREE week.

Every chapter MUST have the following activities, which are crucial tothe formation and life of every YFC:

a. Worshipb. Teaching/Household/Sharingc. Fellowshipd. Evangelization

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IV. LIFE OF A CHAPTER

The Community Based Chapter of YFC is concerned primarily in thegrowth and sustainability of the chapter. It is basically inward-looking,

focusing on the strengthening of the fortress, as compared to the focus of thecluster, which is primarily outward-looking and concerned with linkages.

The life of a chapter, just like the life of a human person, grows anddevelops through the years. Wherever our mind will take us, it is basic thatwe know that every activity of the chapter must embody the FOUR NON-NEGOTIABLE ELEMENTS, namely: (4 Fs) Fun, Friendship, Faith, andFreedom.

V. CONCLUSIONAs YFCs, we are not only served food to eat, we are being asked to

partake in the banquet. The banquet is the feastthe ultimate showcase offood for us to savor and enjoy. And as Chapter Heads, lets us bring ourmembers to the banquet and let them experience the joy of dining with theLord.

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ON TO MISSIONClosing Exhortation

So keep watch over yourselves and over all the flock which the HolySpirit has placed in your care. Be shepherds of the church of God,which He made His own through the sacrificial death of His Son.

(Acts 20:28)

INTRODUCTIONWe have been chosen and called by God and now we are ready to

respond to this calling through raising faith communities. By praying, acting onour calling, and serving God in our areas. We have also been reminded on howto tend the flock God gave us. It is by having a prayerful life, buildingrelationships, and by being a servant-leader to our members.

Indeed, this weekend has truly been an affirmation of Gods love andpromise for all of us. His love is so generous that despite our shortcomingsand inequities, he has still blessed us with far greater things than we canimagine even this privilege of serving Him in the areas He has appointed usinto. Believe that your being a leader in your areas is truly a special anointingand it is only by Hid grace that we are where we are now. Know that we donot deserve anything; we are not even worthy of anything, but His grace stillreaches us wherever or at whatever circumstance we are in. And He hasentrusted us with even so much more.

THE GOAL AND MISSION(Focus more on this. Explain in simple terms and have a personal sharing foreach.)

The goal of a renewed society through raising faith communities is notone mans dream or two or three, it is OUR dream. And Gods way of callingyou in sharing in this vision is a manifestation that He will equip you, He willequip you with His love. And only by that love can we be moved to do ourmission and allow others to share in it, too. How do we get to that dream?What is our mission?

Building the Church of the Home and the Church of the Poor

Building the church of the homeThe Lord is calling us to renew the lives of the people whom God has

given us. He wants us to pursue the love He gave in every person, throughbuilding and restoring relationships. He is also inviting us to journey withChrist and making Him the center of our lives.Building the church of the poor

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We must live by Christs example as he loved and served the peoplewho need most of His love, the poor. We must let them feel how much Godloves them and how He is willing to have a personal relationship with them.And most especially, He wants us to lead others in bringing back the hope toour world and letting everyone know that through Christ, we will rise up to the

challenges our world is facing.

COMMUNITY BASED THRUSTS

Renewal of HeartsRestoration of RelationshipsRebuilding of the Nation

RENEWAL OF HEARTS. Ask for a new heart. A young heart dreams. Ayoung heart is expectant and hopeful. A new heart is open to how God willwork, gives its best and leaves the rest to God. A renewed heart sees thateverything is an opportunity, and thus works to harness a new synergy, a newvitalism, dynamism. A renewed heart moves forward.

RESTORATION OF RELATIONSHIPS. We move, we pursue. We talk aboutthe heart of the work with the people who matters in our lives (parents,brothers, and sisters, boyfriends, girlfriends, our youth leaders, our members,YFC coordinators, CFC leaders, the parents of our youth members, ourrelatives, etc.)

REBUILDING THE NATION. Always look toward the future. Always think ofyour work as connected to CFC. Lead others to vigor, to the vision, not todespair and bitterness. See the vision and work towards the greater life forour SIGA youth. We build from what we have inherited. We move with the

GRACE. Go on a higher level of searching. Its about the condition of ourhearts that matters. Know that God is the eternal wellspring. Pray for a newseed. A new challenge. A new dynamism. A new purpose in your life.

A revolutionized and more dynamic Community-Based Program through:

Prayer

Joy in the Lord of the service and not in the service of the Lord

Creativity and resourcefulness in the sue of our talent, time andtreasure

Unconditional love

NEW BEGINNINGSWe believe that the Lord is revealing to us a promise. A promise to you

and to the Community-Based Program. And He is calling us all to share in thatpromise. A promise that we should start achieving with a revolution ofchange. WE WILL REVOLUTIONIZE COMMUNITY-BASED PROGRAM! And youare a part of this transformation. All it takes is for you to:

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a. SURRENDER-There are certain things weights in life you simplycannot carry. Our Lord is asking us to set them down and trust Him.Know that in trusting God through prayer and faith, He will take goodcare of everything. He will always be with you.

b. HOPE- We must know that God have great plans for you andeveryone. Believe that the power behind us is greater than the taskahead. Persevere in loving everyone and know that everything canbe done through Christ who strengthens you.

c. ACT- The time to act is NOW. Make things happen for you and foreveryone around you. Make the vision your own, and embrace it witha passion. When we pray, god gives the desires of His heart andgives us the grace to make it our own. Be an honest witness of Godslove and faithfulness in your life. Only when we are able to walk ourtalk, and are able to witness to all these things can we make others

see and long to know Jesus as well in the same way that you do inthis community.

Make things happen for Community-Based. Take your commitment to ahigher level. Go higher, deeper, and wider. Higher commitment to Godand to His people. Deeper relationship with the Lord. Wider, goingbeyond yourself and your family, that is going out to the poor and be alight to them, bearers of hope and love. Then, you can make thingshappen for Community-Based.

CONCLUSION

Great things start from new beginnings. We are all meant forgreater things. The Lord has made us special and for special purposewe are called to fulfill. Let us all fulfill it with a passion unparalleled.You are the new generation who will fulfill Gods promise. Take courage,brothers and sisters. We have a trusting Team Captain. A strongCommander-in-Chief. Just believe the unbelievable. Receive theinconceivable. Beyond your wildest imaginations. Come with greatexpectations before the Lord for your life, and for your areas. LET USWORK TOWARDS RENEWAL, RESTORATION, AND REBUILDING IN US,AMONG US, AND THROUGH US.

Appendix A: COMMUNICATION WORKSHOP

Objective:

To know the importance of developing and practicing good communicationskill through speaking, listening and giving feedback.

Dynamics:

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Activity:Role Playing (by twos)1. One will be the cluster head and the partner will act either as:

1-co-cluster head/ partner-(discuss about your household topic)

2-parish priest (YFC presentation)3-couple coordinator (talk about a member with studies or family concern)4-non-YFC (invitation to youth camp)

2. Give at least 15 minutes

Processing of the activity: (15 mins)Ask what happened in the activity.-Do they find it hard or easy?-How was the flow of communication?-Was the topic/message delivered properly?-Give feedback

Talk Proper

Introduction

Communication is integral for any relationship, be it at home, with friends, in school or atwork. The foundation of solid interpersonal skills is not just making yourself be heard butalso involves an understanding of where other people are coming from.

Communication should be an act of love, which liberates all who take part in it. It isultimately meant to glorify God. In that sense, all communication is an act of worship,

praise to God through the shared word and action of a community living in theconsciousness of Gods presence. Christian communication is challenged to witness toGods transforming power in all areas of human life.

In YFC , we communicate with our members, with our co-leaders, couple coordinatorsand with different people. Without communication skills we are unable to let others knowwhat we think, feel, or want to accomplish. We are unable to build partnerships,motivate others, or resolve conflict.

I. There are two parts to communicating effectively.Speaker- one is being able to express yourself so that your message can be heard.Listener- the other is listening in order to understand the needs of others and what theyare trying to say.

I. TIPS FOR COMMUNICATION

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A. WATCH WHAT YOU SAY (YOUR WORDS)

7% OF COMMUNICATION IS THROUGHACTUAL WORDS SPOKEN.

"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver" (Proverbs 25:11)."Grievous words stir up anger" (Proverbs 15:1b).

Choose your words carefully. Avoid mannerism utterance Avoid nagging (the act of reminding someone to do something when you know

he or she hasn't forgotten). Avoid quarrels. No side comments Use words that are easy to understand Ignore insults.

Be considerate, patient and kind. Know who are you talking to, so that you will know the kind of lingo to use

"A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it till afterward"(Proverbs 29:11).

B. WATCH HOW YOU SAY IT (YOUR TONE OF VOICE)

38% OF COMMUNICATION IS THROUGHTHE TONE OF VOICE.

"A soft answer turneth away wrath" (Proverbs 15:1).

"Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).

Wrap your words in the proper tone of voice. Avoid hysterics. Dont yell, mumble, ramble, talk too fast, or speak inaudibly. Avoid sarcastic intonation.

"A soft tongue breaketh the bone"(Proverbs 25:15)

C. WATCH HOW YOU SAY IT (YOUR ACTIONS)

55% OF COMMUNICATION IS THROUGH ACTIONS.

"A wicked man walketh with a perverse mouth.He winketh with his eyes, he speaketh with his feet,

he teacheth with his fingers" (Proverbs 6:12,13).

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Facial Expressions (smile, show interest) Gestures (open, warm, natural, welcoming) Eye Contact (look into others eyes) Posture (relax, lean toward other person) Physical Contact (soft touch, hand clasp)

Negative actions include frowning, avoiding eye contact, angry gestures, glaring, turningaway, crying, and tenseness.

We often send confusing messages because our non-verbal communications contradictour words.

D. WATCH WHEN YOU SAY IT (YOUR TIMING)

"A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth;and a word spoken in due season, how good it is"

(Proverbs 15:23).

Dont try to solve problems if you are hungry, exhausted, upset, or have a limitedtime before an appointment.

Define the issue so you both will know what is involved. Set a definite time. The word lateris not sufficient. Think through what you want to say and how you want to say it. Be prayerful. Learn to listen Avoid butting in. Let the person finish his point.

"Set a watch, O Lord, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips"(Psalm 141:3).

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK.IS IT KIND?IS IT TRUE?

IS IT NECESSARY?

COMMUNICATION CHECK LIST

Which of the following do I use in communication?

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POSITIVE TACTICS Attentiveness Understanding Patience Kindness

Warm gestures Eye contact Sharing of blame Sincere smile Soft voice Well chosen words Good timing Closeness Self control Prayer

NEGATIVE TACTICS Angry gestures Sarcasm Excessive talking Fake smile

Avoid eye contact Silence, sulking Butting in Changing subject Dragging out "dirty linen." Pretending to be absorbed with TV Pretending to be asleep Faking a headache or fatigue Refusing to talk about the matter Loud voice Crying

Excuses Shifting blame Nagging Belittling Nervous laugh Keep distance

THOUGHTS ON COMMUNICATION

The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but toleave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. Nevill

Never hold any one by the button or the hand in order to be heard out; for if people areunwilling to hear you, you had better hold your tongue than them. Chesterfield

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they would like tosay something. Plato

The talkative listen to no one, for they are ever speaking. And the first evil thatattends those who know not how to be silent, is that they hear nothing. Plutarch

We often say things because we can say them well, rather than because they are sound

and reasonable. Landor

The more ideas a man has the fewer words he takes to express them. Wise men nevertalk to make time; they talk to save it. Esek

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Appendix B

LEADING A PRAYER MEETING

Objectives1. To provide a general knowledge about Prayer Meeting.

2. To give a background on how it is to be a Prayer Meeting Leader.

Speakers profile- At least a Cluster Youth Head who has already led or supervised a YFC PrayerMeeting.

Dynamics- This teaching will delivered as a plenary discussion.

- After all the points are presented, an open forum will be conducted.

Talk Proper

I. Introduction

YFC members are always excited to go out of their house and meet with theirfriends. Thats why whenever there are activities; they are always on the go. InYFC we provide them alternative set of friends and wholesome activity. Wemake sure that in all of our activities the 4Fs are experienced. This is notachieved in one time big time activity. For that reason, we make everygathering a great experience to YFC. We see to it that every prayer meeting willbring our members into Gods presence.

II. Elements that make a Prayer Meeting

A. Relationships

The prayer meeting is a venue for everyone to build and nurture relationships.This is the opportunity for the new and old YFC members to see and bond witheach other. At the same time this is also the chance for the coordinators to getto know the YFC members that they are taking care of and to be one with othercouple coordinators.We encourage that the prayer meeting leader should have a good relationship

with the people attending the meeting along with the other friendly YFC leadersand couple coordinators.

B. Worship

The worship is the time when the people get to be in Gods presence. This iswhen everyone couple coordinators and YFC members will have a personalexperience with God. In our community, we worship with songs of praise andhear the message of the Lord.

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The role of the worship leader is very crucial in leading the worship. His goal isto encourage and bring everyone to pray. Moreover, he will set the posture ofthe people of what the Lord wants to convey. (See brief teaching about Worshipin Appendix A)

C. Talk/ Activity

The talk or the activity develops the whole message of the prayer meeting. It isimportant that this will be delivered in an easy-to-understand to the youth way.For chapter assemblies, the topics that will be given can be taken from theChapter Topic Manual while for household prayer meeting it can be taken fromthe Household Topic Manual.

D. Sharing

The sharing is conducted to enhance the message of the prayer meeting. Thiswill help the listeners understand and capture the points. It is encouraged that

the sharers will be YFC members so that the listeners can easily relate with themessage. This usually talks about the victories, challenges/trials, conversions ofour members.During chapter assembly, the team can prepare two sharers and encouragemore on the day itself. For those who are on-the-spot sharers, the team shouldlisten first of the sharer before allowing it to share in front.

E. Summary of the activityThis is when the prayer meeting leader connects all the parts of the prayermeeting from the worship, talk/activity, and sharing. This is where the groupprays, responds to God. If there are any birthday celebrants, this is also the part

when we will pray for them.

III. Types of Prayer MeetingHousehold (twice a month)- House to house prayer meeting is done from one house of HH member toanother.

Collective Household Assembly- Is a form of household wherein when the chapter gathers together in oneassembly to worship and then disperses for household group sharings.

Chapter Assembly (once a month activity)

- is a form of prayer meeting wherein the chapter gathers in one assembly toworship and listen to the specific teachings.

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IV. Prayer Meeting Program

Set-up 1 hourGathering/Teaching of Songs 30 mins.Exhortation & Worship 20 mins.Talk/Activity 45 mins.Sharings 30 mins.Summary/Closing Prayer 10 mins.

V. The Prayer Meeting Leader

A. Roles of a Prayer Meeting Leader

1. Welcomes the YFC members

2. Introduces the Worship Leader

3. Introduces the Speaker

4. Call on Sharers

5. Summarizes the whole prayer meeting activity

6. Calls on the Closing Prayer Leader

7. Announces the reminders

8. Makes sure that everyone is at ease and comfortable in the prayer meeting.

9. Brings people in Gods presence.

B. Skills of a Prayer Meeting Leader

1. People Dynamics

It is good that the prayer meeting leader knows what works best for people. It isbetter if he has a good stock of stories, jokes and anecdotes. One of his roles isto keep the attention of crowd and excite them of what is about to happen.

2. Getting people to shareThe prayer meeting leader is expected to say something encouraging (like astory or an experience) to get the members to want to share. He can call outnames or site some exemplary members who are inspiring or had beenstruggling but still holding on to the Lord.

3. ListeningThe prayer meeting leader should be the most attentive in the prayer meeting.

He needs to listen to sharers, speakers, and to the prophecy. Mainly becauseGods Word is spread out in so many parts in the prayer meeting. He thenconnects all the points that God said during the whole meeting. Thats why it isimportant for the leader to listen intently.He can carry a pen and paper to scribble down sharings and important points inthe talk

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4. Exhortation

The prayer meeting leader is expected to excite people and give them reasonenough to give praise and thanksgiving to God in whatever state the crowd is atthe moment. There are two kinds of exhortation:

a. Exhort people to worship (3-5 mins)This exhortation can be a story from the bible or a personal experience. This willencourage people to be in the right posture for the worship to honor Him,listen to Him, and to praise Him.

b. Summary based on the sharings and the talkThis exhortation encourages people to respond to Gods word. It challenges themembers to respond. The Prayer Meeting should say something like, This iswhat God said, and I believe brothers and sisters that HE is telling us toThat should be ended with a prayer.

VI. Important Notes

A. The ideal seating arrangement in an assembly is square or oval whereeveryone can hear the speaker in front.

B. Avoid having the listeners face the door or window so that they wont getdistracted by the people entering/passing by.

C. Gathering songs are intended to gather members---No matter how manypeople are there during the prayer meeting, the Music Ministry should start

singing or teaching songs.

D. Dont start with an apology, Start Confidently!

E. Once people are gathered, before you introduce the start with the worshipleader, introduce and recognize new people, freshmen students to the group.

VII. Conclusion

Now that we know the basic and essential parts of a prayer meeting, let us notkeep this to our notebooks. Rather let this be our guiding formula. The Lord has

provided us ways how we can have effective prayer meeting. This is His gift tous; let us make this gift a blessing to us and to other people especially to theyouth.

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