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CHOOSING YOUR LIFE PARTNERPr. Charles N. E. Amoah

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By Pr. Charles N. E. Amoah, [email protected]

ARE THEIR SMILES GENUINE?

Why do you think so?

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ARE THEIR SMILES GENUINE?Why do you think so?

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ARE THEIR SMILES GENUINE?Why do you think so?

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A FEW ISSUES TO BE CLEARED

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1. All or part of this presentation is available at www.slideshare.net

2. I keep updating my presentations but are sometimes reluctant to upload them

3. How come we spend so much learning how to choose careers that facilitate the achievement of our fullest potential but cant make time to learn how to choose our life partner.

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A FEW THOUGHTS ABOUT MARRIAGE

a group which consists of: a master, a mistress, and two slaves, making in all, two;

'We stay together, but we distrust one another.' 'Ah, yes...but isn't that a definition of marriage?'

Malcolm Bradbury (1932 - 2000)

A lady's imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.

Jane Austen (1775 - 1817)

A loving wife will do anything for her husband except stop criticising and trying to improve him.

J. B. Priestley (1894 - 1984)

It is a very good way to promote civilization - if you get a good wife you will be happy, if you get a bad one you will become a philosopher

Socrates

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AND A FEW FIGHTS

I was chopping tomatoes for dinner and my husband thought I was doing it wrong. I finished cooking dinner and he refused to eat it. Instead, he ordered pizza with every single topping I don't like. — court&john

We had a standoff for almost a week to see who would give in first and finally buy toilet paper. For the record, I won. — steve+mel

How to pronounce Cameron Diaz's name. I said "dee-oz" and he insisted it was "dee-as." Who cares? I didn't speak to him for the rest of the night. — mcnam002

We got into a fight while assembling the furniture in our new house. If we made it through that, we'll make it through anything! — AubreyDub

Whether or not to tuck in the sheets at the end of the bed — every time I make the bed, I tuck them in, and every night, he untucks them. — KDTully

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FIRST THINGS FIRST

Partner – An associate in an activity or endeavour or sphere of common interest

Life – The course of existence of an individual; the actions and events that occur in living A life partner can be understood to be an

associate or partner who goes through the course of our existence with us because of a shared interest or common interest in the endeavour of life

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DIVINELY INSTITUTED

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

King James Version (Red Letter)

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UNDERSTAND WHAT CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE IS AND WHAT ITS NOT

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GOD’S INVITATION TO EVERY ONE

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MARRIAGE ORDAINED BY GOD

According to Scripture marriage is ordained by God as an intimate and permanent partnership between a man and a woman in which the two become one in the whole of life. The ideal is an active lifelong monogamous heterosexual relationship.

Sexual, emotional, physical and spiritual fulfillment are important goals of a marriage relationship that places God at its centre. Christian marriage is the ideal foundation for the birth and raising of children.

Some key biblical passages on marriage principles: Gen 1:26-28; 2:21-24; Mt 19:6; 1 Cor 7:1-40; 13:1-13; 2 Cor 6:14; Eph 5:21-33; 1 Th 4:3-7; Heb 13:4; 1 Pet 3:1-7.

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WHAT IS MARRIAGE?

a. Ordained by God b. Must unconditionally be given time for enjoyment and

nurture c. True marriage attracts God’s favour d. Indispensable for preservation of the human race e. Jesus sees breaking marriage as a criminal act f. Marriage is an antidote for sexual temptation g. Marriage is not a sin. Marriage is the only thing that

express complete oneness i. Forbidding marriage is an act of the devil j. No one should remain unmarried without a biblically

acceptable reason k. Desecrating marriage is tantamount to God’s judgment.

J Balisasa

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A BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE OF MARRIAGE

Biblical Framework for a God-pleasing marriage relationship

When these principles are chosen by a husband and wife in harmony with their relationship as born again believers, this brings about a Biblical marriage. This is not a lopsided relationship (a relationship where one is more important than the other), but one that is in balance with the concept of Christ as the head of the man and the wife together. Therefore, the Biblical concept of marriage is a oneness between two individuals that is a picture of the oneness relationship of Christ with His church.

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GOD CELEBRATES MARRIAGES

God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator the Creator of the universe. "Marriage is honorable" (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the first gifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adam brought with him beyond the gates of Paradise. When the divine principles are recognized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and happiness of the race, it provides for man’s social needs, it elevates the physical, the intellectual, and the moral nature.

{PP 46.3} White, Ellen Gould: The Story of Patriarchs and Prophets as Illustrated in the Lives of Holy Men of Old; Conflict of the Ages Series, Volume 1; Patriarchs and Prophets. Pacific Press Publishing Association, 1890; 2002, S. 46

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God has placed men in the world, and it is their privilege to eat, to drink, to trade, to marry, and to be given in marriage; but it is safe to do these things only in the fear of God. We should live in this world with reference to the eternal world. Many take upon themselves the sacred vows as thoughtlessly as they would enter into a business transaction; true love is not the motive for the alliance.

Messages to Young People, p. 456. Ellen G White 1930

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IS A HAPPY MARRIAGE POSSIBLE?

Sadly, so many enter marriage with no understanding, no preparation, no training and no idea of how to achieve a lifetime of happiness with their chosen partner. Many couples spend far more time planning for a one-day wedding than for the lifelong marriage that should follow it.

As a result, over half of all marriages fail, ending in divorce, often with former partners becoming mortal enemies! Other couples are just as unhappy, but perhaps cannot afford a divorce, or stay together only because of the children or other social or business reasons.

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Question 1

HAVE YOU FACED THE MYTHS OF MARRIAGE HONESTLY?

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MYTH 1: WE EXPECT THE SAME THINGS FROM MARRIAGE

Unspoken Rules Everyone lives by a set of rules that are

rarely spoken but always known Unconscious Roles

Just as actors in a dramatic performance follows a script, so do married couples

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MYTH 2: EVERYTHING GOOD ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP WILL GET BETTER

Each of us constructs an idealized image of the person we marry.

We need to realize that our marriage is not a source of constant roomance so that we can enjoy those moments of romance that come to us from time to time

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MYTH 3: EVERYTHING BAD IN MY LIFE WILL DISAPPEAR

Many people marry to escape from an unpleasant situation Marriage usually does not heal the soul or

massage the spirit Marriage however, can become a

powerful healing agent or environment for Uncovering and Resolving issues

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ENMESHED RELATIONSHIPS

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DISENGAGED RELATIONSHIPS

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INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS

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INSTRUMENTAL ROLE OF FAMILIES

Society

Family

Family Famil

y

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MODERN EXPRESSIVE ROLE

Individual

Individual

Individual

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KNOW WHAT LOVE IS AND IS NOT

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LOVE IS…

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WHAT IS LOVE?

A strong positive emotion of regard and affection

A deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction "their love left them indifferent to their

surroundings" Any object of warm affection or devotion

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WHAT IS LOVE?

The very basic difference in real love and what is passed for love in our society is the truth that love is not a feeling, love is a decision, a commitment to a person.

There is a feeling associated with this commitment to another person. The emotion, on the other hand, may come and go depending upon the immediate circumstances.

That is why some people fall into and out of love as often as others of us change shirts.

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TWO CHRISTIAN PRAYING WHEN THEY SHOULD BE FLEEING.

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WHAT IS LOVE?

1Co 13:4 Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swollen head,

1Co 13:5 Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always "me first," Doesn't fly off the handle, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,

1Co 13:6 Doesn't revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

1Co 13:7 Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.

1Co 13:8 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit.

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Infatuation- loving feelings

towards a another that are largely based upon fantasy and idealization (instead of experience). Often when partners get to know each other, infatuation diminishes.

Romantic Love- An abiding love for a partner with whom you feel passion, attraction, caring and respect.

Eros- a passionate love usually involving sexual feelings for a love interest.

Companionate Love- feelings of warmth towards a friend with whom you love to spend time

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Conditional Love- A love

that requires specific action or conditions in order to be maintained.  The love is based on outside conditions and when they do not occur, the love is withdrawn.

Unconditional Love- A type of affection and caring that is so strong that you feel it consistently, regardless of what that other person does. This could also be called Agape Love

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE *Agapē (ἀγάπη agápē) - Means "love" in modern day Greek, such as in the term s'agapo (Σ'αγαπώ), which means"I love you".

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Puppy Love- A childish, innocent temporary crush on someone that you don’t know well.

Maternal Love- This term usually connotes love that is nurturing, accepting and protective. In actuality this love can also be given by a father, etc.

Paternal Love- This term connotes love that involves guidance and some authority. 

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE

Spiritual/Divine Love- This type of love recognizes the Divine light in everyone and everything.

Love of your country or patriotism- This is love for the place you live or the place that were born. 

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Self-Love- This is a positive

feeling that you have about who you are and what you deserve. 

Brotherly Love- This term connotes having a feeling of love for your neighbor, because all humanity is considered to be part of a larger family of human beings.

Tough Love- This term is used to describe a love that is expressed by setting boundaries for the good of the other person. They feel that this is an act of love because it stems from a desire for their son’s ultimate good and happiness.

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Platonic love - this is the simplest

of all types. There are no strings attached and no sexual intentions either.

Unrequited love - is a love filled with heartbreaks and one that almost all of us have experienced. It’s the dreaded one sided love, where you like someone and you know that person will never like you back.

Storge Love - is often described as a comfortable old shoe relationship comprised of natural affection and a sense of belonging to each other. Many couples dwell in storge love for years and misunderstand it as mundane or boring

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE Obsessive love - is usually

experienced by the novices who experience love for the first time, probably after having to deal with the scary unrequited love. Obsessive lovers are scared, insecure, and obviously obsessive about the relationship.

Selfish love - is smart. And though it involves two people to create that relationship, selfish love also involves two people who are in love with one person. Your partner loves you. You love you.

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Unconditional love - Blessed are the lovers who experience this special type of love for each other. It’s not easy and it’s definitely not something most people even want to try. Do you love someone more than you love yourself?

Phileo love - This cherishes and has tender affection for the beloved but it expects a response. It is a love of relationship, comradeship, sharing, communication and friendship. They share each other’s thoughts, feelings, attitudes, plans and dreams.

SOME TYPES OF LOVE

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SOME TYPES OF LOVE

Crushes - Ever had a crush on someone? The first crush is a memorable experience, one that’s filled with confusing jolts in the stomach, sudden urges to throw up and a stupid sense of grinning satisfaction each time you see your crush

Limerence - Limerence, on the other hand, is rather close to a crush but much more intense and “weird”. Have you ever liked someone madly, but didn’t ever want to express your love for them, like a school teacher or an actor, or even a crush?

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What is the difference?

LOVE VERSUS INFATUATION

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THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND INFATUATION

Infatuation Leaps Into Bloom. Infatuation Is Accompanied By A Sense Of

Uncertainty. Infatuation takes your focus from Jesus Infatuation Lacks Confidence. Love Leads You Up. Where is the focus of your heart? Is it on the

Lord Jesus or is it on popularity? Is it on acceptance by the crowd or the "well done" of the Lord Jesus? Examine your own heart carefully and in light of scripture. Where is the Focus of your Heart?

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GOD SAYS “NO WAY!” TO THESE THINGS

FornicationAdulteryLoose talkIndecent Bawdy jokesIncestMasturbation

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GODLY YOUNG PEOPLE ARE SAYING NO TO PREMARITAL SEX

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KNOW YOURSELF

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KNOW YOURSELF

Your Background Physical Attributes, Career, Health, Finance, Family, Religion,

Background Your Personal Character And Values

Honesty Faithfulness Hardwork Wealth

Your Dislikes About Yourself

How You Feel About Children Touching Godly Living Talking

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THIS DETERMINES WHAT YOU EXPECT

What Do You Expect Him To Be Christian Tall, Athletically Built, Sensitive, Affectionate, Stockbroker, Nurse, Wont be angry

forever

What Do Expect Her To Be Christian Figure-eight, Gentle, Artist, Empathetic, Hardworking Homemaker Considerate

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YOUR PAST

Any past relationships? What lessons? What made you appreciate them?

Any role models of the opposite sex? What do you admire about them What have you learned from them What about people you dislike?

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KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR ACCORDING TO PROVERBS

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GOOD FRIEND

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GOOD FRIEND

1. A GOOD FRIEND IS FAITHFUL. Prov 14:20; 19:4,6,7). brother is born for adversity (17:17)(18:24)(27:10).

2. A GOOD FRIEND REBUKES US WHEN NECESSARY. There are things which may need to be said to a friend that are not easy to say. IA true friend is the one who is honest enough to tell us what we need to hear, rather than to flatter us.(29:5). Better is open rebuke Than love that is concealed. Faithful are the

wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy (27:5-6). Why is it, then, that we seem to think that a wife should never criticize

her husband? Is it not better to be corrected by our closest friend than by an enemy? Sometimes the kindest thing a wife can do for her husband is to tell him that his idea is absolutely ridiculous--in a gracious way, of course.

3. A GOOD FRIEND IS THOUGHTFUL AND TACTFUL. A good friend is sensitive to our needs and speaks in such a way that we are encouraged and enriched. His sensitivity is demonstrated in his understanding that gaiety and goodwill is not always appropriate nor appreciated. “It matters not only ‘what’ we say, but ‘how,’ ‘when’ and ‘why’ we say it.”34 (25:20) (27:14).

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GOOD FRIEND

4. A GOOD FRIEND SHARPENS US. Not only do we need to be criticized when necessary, but sometimes we need to be probed or stretched in our thinking. A good friend does not allow us to become intellectually stagnant, but prods us on to higher and greater thoughts. Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another (27:17) (20:5). Isn’t this true to life? Don’t you seek to develop friendships with

those who will challenge your thinking and present you with new avenues of thought? Why should one of these friends not be your mate?

5. A GOOD FRIEND OFFERS US WISE COUNSEL. Those whom we choose as friends should be marked by wisdom and thus have godly counsel to offer. Oil and perfume make the heart glad, So a man’s counsel is

sweet to his friend (27:9). David, Nabal, and Abigail in 1 Samuel 25.

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A BAD FRIEND

We should shun the following 1. WE OUGHT NOT ASSOCIATE WITH A FOOL.

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm (13:20).

Leave the presence of a fool, Or you will not discern words of knowledge (14:7).

2. WE OUGHT NOT ASSOCIATE WITH THOSE WHO HAVE AN UNCONTROLLABLE TEMPER. Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-

tempered man, Lest you learn his ways, And find a snare for yourself (22:24-25).

3. WE SHOULD NOT ASSOCIATE WITH THOSE WHO ARE EVIL: Do not be envious of evil men, Nor desire to be with them; For their

minds devise violence, And their lips talk of trouble (24:1-2). He who is a partner with a thief hates his own life; He hears the oath

but tells nothing (29:24).

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GOOD FRIEND

4. WE SHOULD NOT ASSOCIATE WITH ONE WHO IS A REVOLUTIONARY. My son, fear the Lord and the king; Do not associate with those

who are given to change; For their calamity will rise suddenly, And who knows the ruin that comes from both of them? (24:21-22)

There are some who are always out to change things--society, government, other people. It is not wrong to try to improve things, but the revolutionary is more bent on removing than improving. The revolutionary wants change for the sake of change, not change for the sake of improvement. Incidentally, some seem bent on finding a mate who needs improving--a sort of life-long project. Proverbs does not recommend it.

5. WE SHOULD NOT ASSOCIATE WITH THOSE WHO HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THEIR APPETITES. He who keeps the law is a discerning son, But he who is a

companion of gluttons humiliates his father (28:7).

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GODLY WIFE

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THE CHARACTER TRAITS OF A GODLY WIFE

1. A GODLY WIFE IS GODLY. Godliness begins with a proper relationship to God. A godly wife is, first and foremost, a woman who fears God.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised (31:30).

In contrast, the woman to avoid is the one who does not know or fear God. She is sometimes referred to as a “strange woman,” that is a foreigner, one who has no knowledge of the God of Israel (cf. 2:25; 5:3,20; 7:5) 5:6).

To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress (6:24).(12:4; 31:10).

2. A GODLY WIFE IS WISE. You will recall that wisdom is personified as a woman in the Book of Proverbs (cf. 1:20-33; 8:1-36; 9:1-6). So also the ideal wife is characterized as a woman of wisdom.

The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands (14:1).

She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue (31:26).

The opposite of the godly woman is the woman of folly. The woman of folly is boisterous, She is naive, and knows nothing (9:13). As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, So is a beautiful woman who lacks

discretion (11:22).

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3. A GODLY WIFE HONORS HER HUSBAND. A man who has married a godly wife has a wife who will bring honor to him. She is truly a helper to her husband. An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him

is as rottenness in his bones (12:4). The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack, of gain.

She does him good and not evil All the days of her life (31:11-12). An ungodly wife humiliates and harasses her husband. She is not a

helper but a hindrance to her mate. She is “as rottenness in his bones” (12:4). By her haranguing, she makes him miserable: (19:13).

4. A GODLY WIFE IS GRACIOUS. One reason honor is given the godly woman is that she is known for her graciousness. A gracious woman attains honor, And violent men attain riches (11:16). The ungodly woman is spoken of in very unbecoming terms. She is

vexing, due to her contentious nature: It is better to live in a corner of a roof, Than in a house shared with a

contentious woman (21:9; cf. 25:24)(21:19).

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5. A GODLY WIFE IS FAITHFUL TO HER HUSBAND. This is most clearly shown by contrast with the woman of folly who is an adulteress. To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress

who flatters with her words; That leaves the companion of her youth, And forgets the covenant of her God (2:16-17).

To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress (6:24).

“Come, let us drink our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with caresses For the man is not at home. . . ” (7:18-19).

While it is not stated explicitly, it is implied and assumed that a godly wife is one who maintains sexual purity. She is a woman who is virtuous or excellent (31:10), in whom her husband has complete trust (31:11). She does her husband only good and not evil (31:12).She teaches her son the virtues of sexual purity (31:3). Certainly she is a woman of sexual purity.

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THE QUALITIES OF A GODLY HUSBAND

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1. A wise husband is kind and compassionate (12:10).

2. A wise husband is honest (29:24). 3. A wise husband is hard-working (12:11;

27:23-27). 4. A wise husband is truthful (12:17,19). 5. A wise husband exercises self-control

(12:15; 16:32). 6. A wise husband has a gentle tongue

(12:18; 15:1-2,4). 7. A wise husband is generous (14:21; 28:27).

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THE QUALITIES OF A GODLY HUSBAND 8. A wise husband is willing to be corrected (even by

his wife) and listens to counsel (12:15; 15:12,31-32; 28:13; 29:1).

9. A wise husband is a man of integrity (19:1; 20:7). 10. A wise husband is faithful and reliable (17:17;

29:3; contrast 25:19; 31:3). 11. A wise husband is forgiving (19:11). 12. A wise husband is willing to admit he is wrong

(28:13). 13. A wise husband is humble (15:25,33; 16:18-19;

18:12; 29:23). 14. A wise husband is not contentious, but a

peacemaker (17:1; 18:1,19).

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15. A wise husband has control of his temper (14:29; 16:32; 17:27; 29:11).

16. A wise husband is a man who avoids excesses (20:1; 23:20-21, 29-35; 31:3-9).

17. A wise husband has a concern for others, especially the poor and the oppressed (29:7).

18. A wise husband can keep a confidence (17:9; 26:20).

19. A wise husband fears God and is obedient to His Word (13:13; 14:26; 16:20; 28:25; 31:30).

20. A wise husband is not a jealous man (27:4). 21. A The wise husband has a positive outlook on

life (15:15; 17:22; 18:14).

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A FEW OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS

A person who is hard working and persistent is likely to be financially well off or well on their way to it.

A person who has strong moral values is likely to be spiritual.

A person who is dogmatic and traditional may be religious.

A man who can make more than his wife can spend will have a happy marriage

A woman who can doctor her expectations to meet with her husband’s capabilities with have a happy marriage.

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A FEW OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS – WHAT QUALITIES SHOULD YOUR PARTNER HAVE?

Persistence? Industriousness? Compassion? Affection? Determination? Honesty? High Integrity? Sensuality? Sexuality? Self-discipline?

Which of these is most important?

Vivaciousness? Out-going? Intelligence? Wit? Worldliness? Knowledge? Conversant? Sociable? Entertaining? Loyal

Which of these is most important?In what order of importance?

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CONSIDER WHAT HE/SHE MUST NOT HAVE

Dishonesty? Lack of integrity? Laziness? Social ineptitude? Disorderliness? Indiscipline? Infidelity?

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KNOW WHERE TO LOOK

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SOCIAL NETWORKS OFFLINE

At school At church At work At play

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ONLINE SOCIAL NETWORKS

Face Book Yahoo Mail And Chat Rooms Online Groups These also abound with scammers and

419ers. So seeing is believing

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WHEN YOU FIND WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?

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APPLICATION

Society thinks women should not be the one to approach first

Men should approach wisely Don’t be brash, proud, or timid

Strike the iron when it is hot If at first you don’t succeed, try again Accept defeat early

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THE RELATIONSHIP

Make haste slowly Watch out for a woman who offers her

body Watch out for a man who pressures you

for sex Be as independent as you can as a

woman Be as courteous as you can as a man Consider the other person’s challenges

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A FEW QUESTIONS TO ASK

Does this relationship help me do what God wants me to do?

Do his/her people like me, manage me, accept me or hate me

Do I feel proud to introduce him/her?

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CAN YOU TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT?

You can trust the following: God Yourself Your loving concerned parents Any wise, Christian married older person

you have learned to trust over the years. For balance you can check with someone of the opposite sex too.

An age mate who worships with you and who can be trusted

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All in all the buck finally stops with you but you must be considerate when making your final decision. Consider your family Consider your fiancé(e)’s family Statements made by well meaning

individuals including your parents. In Africa, we don’t marry individuals – we

marry whole families and communities.

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CAVEAT EMPTOR

A person’s relationship with their parent of the opposite sex usually transfers to their spouse. This is true for a lot of couples. If its good, you’ll enjoy.

If the family does not accept you at the outset, doesn’t change as the relationship progresses, expect it to get progressively worse with time. Sometimes it may even seem that your spouse has joined their family against you.

If your fiancé(e)’s past is not clear, get to know. Avoid pleasant or unpleasant surprises in the future when you least need them.

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IN ANY CASE, IT SEEMS MORE ADVANTAGEOUS TO MARRY AN OLD

FRIEND WHO IS NOT AFRAID TO SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIVES WITH YOU THAN

TO MARRY A NEW AMOROUS INTEREST.

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SORRY IF I HURT YOU…

However unpleasant some of the information given above may seem, please keep in mind the following: They are provided to help thoroughly furnish you

unto all good works in your marriage The potential pitfalls in relationships can be avoided If you ignore the stops then you should know what

to expect. There is no perfect marriage anywhere under this

sun However, taking precautions increases the

satisfaction, fulfillment, progress and peace in your relationship

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WHICH OF THESE COUPLES ARE MATCHED AND WHICH ARE MATED? HOW DO YOU KNOW?

Finally there must be An Urge on the Verge of a Merge. At the end of the day the two of you must be MATCHED and just not MATED.

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THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME. ANY QUESTIONS?

May you have a successful search that results in a satisfying match. Thank you very much.

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