What are Love Languages?

Different ways people express love

We each have a primary way that we must

receive love in order to feel loved

Our deepest emotional need is the need to be

loved

What are Love Languages?

Couples have different love languages

If you want to keep love alive you need to speak

your partner’s love language

The key is to find your partner’s love language

What are the 5 Love Languages?

1) Words of Affirmation

2) Quality Time

3) Receiving Gifts

4) Acts of Service

5) Physical Touch

5 Love Languages

1) Words of Affirmation

Verbal compliments, words of appreciation

Verbal compliments are greater motivators than

nagging words

Receiving words of affirmation are more likely to

be motivated to reciprocate and do something

that your spouse desires

5 Love Languages

• Words of Affirmation- Different Dialects

Verbal compliments

Encouraging words

Kind words

Humble words

• Words say one thing / Tone says another

• Your partner interprets based on tone of voice,

not the words being said!

5 Love Languages

2) Quality Time

Giving your partner your undivided attention –

focus on what you are hearing

Doing something with your partner where you

are giving them your full attention

Purpose is doing something together!

5 Love Languages

• Quality Time – Different Dialects

Quality Conversation – focusing on your partner

and giving them your undivided attention when

you are talking to them

Quality Activities – doing things with your

partner and giving them your undivided

attention while engaged in an activity

5 Love Languages

3) Gifts

Visual symbols of love

Expressions of love

People whose primary love language is gifts like

the idea that someone thought enough of them

to give them something

Cost of the gift is not important

5 Love Languages

• Gifts – Different Dialects

Gifts that you buy – anything you give your

partner will be an expression of love

Gifts of self – gift of presence – being there

when your partner needs you

Do not wait for a special occasion

If physical presence is important – tell your

partner!

5 Love Languages

4) Acts of Service

Doing things you know your partner would

like you to do

Require thought, planning, time, effort, energy

We can request things of our partner, we can

never demand things!

Requests give direction to love – demands

stop the flow of love

5 Love Languages

5) Physical Touch

The need for physical contact

Loving touch from your spouse - anywhere/anytime

Your partner knows best what he/she perceives as a

loving touch

5 Love Languages

• Physical Touch Notes:

Men sometimes mistake physical touch as their primary

love language because they desire sex so intensely

Male sexual desire is physically based

Female sexual desires are based by her emotions - if she

feels loved, admired, or appreciated

If a man does not enjoy physical touch at other

times it may not be his love language

5 Love Languages

• Now it’s your turn…..

What makes you feel most loved by your partner?

What does your partner do that hurts you the most?

What have you most often requested of your

partner?

In what way do you regularly express love to your

partner?

How do you relate to each other?