Coaching throughCoaching through TransformationWest Midlands Coaching

Conference 2010

John Whitmore

2nd November 2010 www.performanceconsultants.com

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Past Experience

Recall a grandparent or teacher who had a very positive impact on you.

What did they do that you liked so much? (attitude and behaviour)much? (attitude and behaviour)

How did you feel about yourself?How did you feel about yourself?

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TheyThey …

Treated me as an equal

Listened to my point of view

Believed that I could …

Challenged meChallenged me

Fun, enthusiasm

Safe, cared for, support

T st espectTrust, respect

Gave me time and full attention

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Special

I felt ….

Special

Valued

Confident

Self-belief

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OUR WORKING CONTEXT

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is an attitude a way of beingattitude, a way of being

C h b h Coaching is a behaviour, the practice of EQp Q

Both are valuable life skills which can be developed

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POTENTIAL

How much of our total potential 40%do we normally express?

40%

What is the principal inner

FEARp p

obstacle that prevents it manifesting?manifesting?

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The opponent within one’s own head isThe opponent within one s own head is

more daunting than the one on the

other side of the net.

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Our performance equals our potentialOur performance equals our potential

minus our internal interferences, of

which fear of failure is the greatest.

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The primary goal of the coaching is toThe primary goal of the coaching is to

eliminate the internal obstacles to

performance, learning and enjoyment.

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AWARENESS RESPONSIBILITY

“Self“Self--Realised Realised “The Choice to “The Choice to

High Quality High Quality Commit to take Commit to take

Relevant Input”Relevant Input” Action”Action”

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The Global Context

Quantitative external knowledgeQuantitative external knowledge, or technical advance, has decimated our Qualitative internal wisdom.

Wisdom ensures that we use our knowledge responsibly for the good of all We failedresponsibly for the good of all. We failed.

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Fifth : Integral Psychology

All there is; Whole systemAll there is; Whole system

Fourth : Transpersonal Psychology

Third : Humanistic PsychologySelf Realisation - Responsibility

Third : Humanistic PsychologySelf Actualisation - Awareness

S d h i l & C i iSecond : Behavioural & CognitiveChange outer behaviour

First : PsychoanalysisWe are our history

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We are our history

The Transpersonal

It is a whole system psychology,y p y gy,

One that includes the spiritual

Carl Jung, Roberto Assagioli

Asians make no separation.

A d i h l i f ili Academic psychology is failing us by denying or ignoring it.

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Maslow’s Hierarchy of NeedsMaslow’s Hierarchy of NeedsSelf-Realisation

1800 2000

Self-actual

1800 2000

actual.

Self-Belief

Status & Recognition

Social & BelongingSocial & Belonging

Security & Shelter

Basic Survival

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Developmental JourneyDevelopmental JourneyTHE

HIGHER CRISIS OF DUALITYSELF

CRISIS OF DUALITY

CRISIS OFMEANING

Psychological / Quantitative/Achievement

MEANING

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Psychological / Quantitative/Achievement

passionvalues passion

role

purpose

skills role model

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The Global Context

Hierarchy is in decline and decay toHierarchy is in decline and decay, to be replaced by Self-Responsibility.

Corporate and Political leadership has lost public respect and support globally. One of the key outcomes of coaching is personal responsibility, and the profession exists to meet this need .

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MULTIPLICITY

‘There are times when I look over the various parts of my characterthe various parts of my character with perplexity. I recognise that I am made up of several persons andam made up of several persons and that the person that at the moment has the upper hand will inevitably pp ygive place to another’

S t M hSomerset Maugham

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“Who are you?”

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CAST OF CHARACTERSCAST OF CHARACTERS

f ti d• fanatic• rebel

• crusader• bitch

• hedonist• nice guy

• bully• charmer• nice guy

• perfectionist• charmer• control freak

• skeptic • victim

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SUB PERSONALITIES

Are identifications with:

Roles (father, worker, boss)Functions or job titles (accountant doctor)Functions or job titles (accountant, doctor)Objects (house, car, collections)Personality states (joy, anger, anxiety)Psychological formations (winner, victim)y g ( )Cultural, racial, social, political groups

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S b P litiSub Personalities

are constellations of habit patterns, traits,

exist at various levels of complexity,

some are opposites, some interrelated

they emerge, develop, integrate, reform

their core is a need and a quality

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4 Phases of Harmonisation4 Phases of Harmonisation

1. Recognition

2 A t2. Acceptance

3 Cooperation3. Cooperation

4. Integration

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SelfSelf--ManagementManagement

Th ‘I’The ‘I’

Sub-personalities

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Characteristics of the “I”

Consciousness (Awareness) Humility

Will, Choice (Responsibility) WillCoaching Jim Collins

Self-accepting, self-directing Free from distortion, restriction Individuality, identity Stillness, constancy, continuity

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The Global Context

Consumerism, (ever more production, consumption and emission) is totallyconsumption, and emission) is totally incompatible with Eco-Sustainability.

(Govt seeks 80% reduction of emissions by 2050)

The capitalist notion of continuing economic th i t i bl d i ibl Tgrowth is unsustainable, and irresponsible . To

meet the goal, we need a huge global recession!

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Social Justice

People Serve the Economy nowbut in the future

The Economy must Serve People

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V lValues Values emerge from within during Values emerge from within during

personal development

Values that are not adopted from parents social norms or religionparents, social norms or religion

Values that are all inclusiveValues that are all inclusive

Ethical behaviour that reflects those values

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C diti iConditioning

Religious imperatives

Parental Expectations

Conforming to Social norms

Old assumptions and beliefs Old assumptions and beliefs

Cultural conditioningCultural conditioning

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Whole Systems Change at level of consciousness

deeper than its manifestation. The whole system must be addressed.

Natural Systems Natural systems are those that

mirror biology from which we must learn; known also as Bio-mimicry.

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Qualities of New LeadersE ti l I t lli Emotional Intelligence

Coaching principlesf Wisdom before knowledge

Intentionality and passion Whole system vision Natural systems application Agility and Resilience Authenticity and Humility Servant Leadership Self-awareness, self-knowledge

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