1. Coaching with Presence Jeff McKenna Roger Brown Agile Camp Silicon Valley 9/21/13 2013 Roger Brown and Jeff McKenna

2. What is Coaching? Coaching is a relationship in which one person is primarily dedicated to serving the long term development of effectiveness and self-generation in the other. - Doug Silsbee Service Learn Change Grow 3. What Tools Does a Coach Have? Mechanics Soft Skills Leadership Tools Questions Advice Models Listening Guidance Frameworks Facilitation Discovery 4. How are These Tools Applied? Observation Choice Action 5. What Do We Observe? Individuals Situations Systems Places Teams Ourself 6. How Do We Observe? In the beginning. by paying attention As we grow. by cultivating the skill of Mindfulness to access the state of Presence 7. What is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is the rigorous attention to observing ourselves in action to become fluid, intuitive, aware and exquisitely responsive. - Doug Silsbee 3 Levels Sensation (physical) Emotion (feelings) Mental (meaning, rationalization, use of language) Active mind plus observing mind 8. What is Presence? Presence is the underlying state we access through mindfulness that allows us to be the best person we can be. - Doug Silsbee Experienced as - In the moment - Present Tense - Timelessness - Witnessing - Beside yourself - Self-awareness Presence is always accessible 9. Contact with Presence: For ourselves To manage attachments and aversions To learn, change and grow ourselves To be a coach, not just do coaching To be aware of choices For our clients To make appropriate choices To influence their state of being To nurture mindfulness in them 10. A Place to Start: Posture Posture sends a subconscious message of energy. When standing, put your right foot forward and feel your toes. When sitting, sit up straight and feel your toes. Try leaning a bit forward as well. 11. Exercise: Physical Awareness Choose a partner. One partner is going to relate a challenging experience from work for which coaching could have been useful. The other partner is going to use their listening skills to learn about the challenge. When you hear a chime, we will ask you about a particular physical aspect of the encounter both coach and client. Both of you will note things about that aspect that they noticed, felt or wondered about. 12. Presence is Essential to Coaching Tools Choice Observation Mindfulness Presence 13. Approaching Mindfulness Mindfulness is a practice that takes practice Mindfulness is essential for successful coaching Presence is here. Experience it. Being mindful will enhance our lives and skills, improving our Agility Accountability Resourcefulness Resilience Authenticity Vitality 14. Resources The Mindful Coach and Presence-Based Coaching by Doug Silsbee The Leadership Dojo by Richard Strozzi-Heckler Coaching with NLP: How to be a Master Coach by Joseph O'Connor The Human Side of Agile by Gil Broza 15. Presenters Jeff McKenna, CSC and CST agile.action@gmail.com www.linkedin.com/pub/jeff-mckenna/0/29/71b Roger Brown, CSC and CST roger.brown@agilecrossing.com www.linkedin.com/in/rogerwbrown