collaborative communication talk - from 9 jun 2016 sydney agile meetup
TRANSCRIPT
Using Collaborative Communication for Teamwork and Transparency
Shari Elle Communication GroupNicholas Ho ING Direct Australia
“The Hook”
CC Enables Human Connection
Collaborative Communication is Most Useful When
• There’s conflict
• Opinions are Diverse
• Need for Calmness
• Understanding of underlying drivers
• Feedback
What makes your work worthwhile?
Difficult Situations- Uncovering Needs• “That team is clueless. They don’t know what
they’re doing.”• “I didn’t learn anything. That training was
hopeless”
Difficult Situations- Uncovering Needs• “That team is clueless. They don’t know what
they’re doing.”• “I didn’t learn anything. That training was
hopeless”• “How did they ever think that they could release
this?”…. NIC – can we make this more specific example
Thoughts / Judgments
Observations
Feelings
Needs Connection
How we use Collaborative Communication
• Gain inner clarity ~ emotional• Directly communicating with others
O – ObservationF – FeelingN – Need / ValueR – Request
Four Part CC Process
“This report isn’t right. You guys say you care about contributing to the wellbeing of children but really all you care about is the bottom line.”
How the 4 pieces work together
Observation - When I see the vision of our organisation is“to enhance the physical and emotional wellbeing of the children we work with”, and then I see no mention of how children’s lives will beenhanced in this report
Feeling - I’m nervousNeed - I’m wanting alignment with our vision AND
trust that this vision is actually what we all want.Request - Would you be willing to redo the report and
include how taking this action will contribute to children’s welfare?
How 4 pieces work together
Observation
• Factual and non-judgemental• No interpretations• No emotion
Observation
When I see the vision of our organisation is “to enhance the physical and emotional wellbeing of the children we work with”, and then I see no mention of how children’s lives will be enhanced in this report
How 4 pieces work together
Feelings
• Physical sensations• Not thoughts
Feeling I’m nervous
How the 4 pieces work together
Needs
• Core drivers• Share the same needs• Not strategies (not how)
Need I’m wanting alignment with our vision and trust that this vision is actually what we all want.
How the 4 pieces work together
Request
• Offer or request ways to meet need• Unlocks new possibilities• Requests, not demands• Most effective when specific
RequestWould you be willing to redo the report and include how taking this action will contribute to children’s welfare?
How the 4 pieces work together
Scenario 1
O – “When you see the report not reflecting your actual performance”
F – “I’m sensing you’re feeling upset, and frustrated“
N - “because you want to show to yourself how well your team is performing”
R – “Can I change the report so it better reflects your team’s velocity”
O – “I noticed that you’ve been working quite hard in our team”
F – “I am feeling concerned and worried“
N - “Because the team needs to know what we’re all working on and the work needs to be visible”
R – “Can I offer to help make your work visible to the team?”
Experience at Merck Pharmaceuticals• 100% of participants report increases in their
and others’ efficiency.• 100% of participants able to resolve issues that
would previously have been unresolvable.• A reduction in the number of meetings by 50-
80%. • Meeting times cut in half• Helped with cross-cultural differences
https://workcollaboratively.com/resources/report-cc-2012/
Next Steps• Read the book Nonviolent Communication
~ A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg• YouTube Playlist• Attend a workshop on Collaborative Communication• Schedule a conversation to explore CC and how you
may want to apply these skills for you or in your team.
Closing
QUES
Questions