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COUNSELINGWHAT IS COUNSELING?

It is a process wherein a helping relationsbetween two persons takes place becauseone person feels the need for specialhelp with a problem which he has not been toresolve by himself.

It is a means of helping people acquire theknowledge and skills to solve their ownproblems. Counseling could be conductedwith individuals, groups, and families.


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WHO ARE INVOLVES INCOUNSELING?

A. Person who needed help (helpee)

Almost always initiates relationship

Part of the problem solved because he acknowledgesproblem and seeks help

B. Counselor the person who provides help (helper)

sometimes initiates the relationship by letting the clientknow that he/she is there if needed

Responsible for helping the client solve his/her problems


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THE EFFECTIVE COUNSELOR:

Attitudes and skills of anEffective Counselor Traits of a Good Counselor

1. Acceptance

2. Understanding3. Building rapport4. Empathy5. Attentiveness

1. Friendly, warm2. Open-hearted/minded3. Attentive, good listener4. Has skills in communication

(listening and responding)5. Can establish harmony with

client6. Can get clients trust 7. Understanding8. Non- judgmental


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STRATEGIES USED INCOUNSELING

1. Setting the proper atmosphere2. Understanding the clients expectations 3. Building a trusting relationship4. The use of silence5. Listening for understanding6. Observing non-verbal behavior

7. Identifying the right problem and facilitatingunderstanding8. Making referrals9. Evaluating the session with the client10. Ending the session


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HELPERS CHECKLIST (When Handling Crisis Situation)

1. Display a calm and relaxed behavior2. Communicate clearly3. Demonstrate interest and concern4. Provide a sense of reassurance and

safety5. Use calming and encouraging

statements such as: please speakslowly, its okay, Im here to help,

etc.


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6. Demonstrate ability to assess situation

7. Provide appropriate action on the basis ofassessment.8. Make fast and appropriate decisions9. Attend to immediate needs of clients10. Demonstrate control of the situation11. Demonstrate presence of mind12. Allow client to ventilate/express emotions

such as anger, crying13. Show non-emotional involvement and yet

able to empathize.


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COUNSELING WOMENThe basic principles, values, and skills needed inhelping and counseling is based on the framework thatthe person in need and the helper will work togetherto address the problems that cause stress and other

manifestations of it.In working women, the helper needs to consider theclients capacities, capabilities, and vulnerabilities.

Meaning, the helper needs to relate to the client inmanner that is appropriate and relevant to the cliets understanding. Again, this is important because theyhelper and the client must work together.


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ATTITUDE AND SKILLS NEEDEDIN COUNSELING WOMEN

1. The helper must develop a warm, friendlyrelationship with the client, in which goodrapport is established as soon as possible.

2. The helper accepts the client as he/she is.

3. The helper establishes a feeling ofpermissiveness in the relationship so thatthe client feels free to express his/herfeelings completely


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4. Helper is alert to recognize the feelingsthe client is expressing and reflects

those feeling back to him/her in such amanner that he/she gains insight intohis/her behavior.

5. The helper maintains a deep respect forthe clients ability to solve his/her own

problems if given the opportunity to doso. The responsibility to make choicesand to institute change in the client.


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6. The helper does not attempt to direct theclients actions or conversation in anymanner. The client leads the way; the helperfollows.

7. The helper does not attempt to hurry thecounseling session along. It is a gradualprocess and is recognized as such by thehelper.

8. The helper establishes only those limitationsthat are necessary to anchor the counselingsession to the world of reality and to makethe client aware of his/her responsibility inthe relationship.


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GUIDELINES IN INTERVIEWING

1. When the client presents for interview,they are likely to be feeling anxious, fearfulor nervous. Thus, it is very important forthe helper to help the client feelcomfortable and at ease. Demonstratethrough reassurance that you understandthat the clients is feeling uncomfortable.Younger clients or children may need to play

freely; this helps them to relax and feelcomfortable. For adolescents, a general talkabout their hobbies and interests will servea similar purpose.


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5. Rephrase misunderstood questions.Repeating the question may be taken as anindication that client has given an incorrectanswer and the client may change hisanswer.

6. Use a language or other ways tocommunicate that the client can easilyunderstand, e.g., if the client is a child youmay have art play and story telling.

7. We need to know about their world that isdifferent from ours. It helps to rememberourselves at their stage.


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LEARNING POINTS:

Listening is an important counseling skill whichinvolves not only hearing what the helpee issaying but also understanding the meaning ofit. It involves understanding the verbal and

non-verbal communication and respondingappropriately. It involves the body, the mindand the feelings. This is called activelistening.

In active listening, the helper enables thehelpee to understand him/herself bycommunicating warmth, acceptance and

understanding.


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One of the most fundamental skills incounseling is interviewing. The four major

techniques of interviewing are: observinglisten, questioning, and exploring.

In counseling, it is important to understandfeelings. Empathy is the ability to see andfeel as other s do. It is entering into anotherpersons frame of reference and feeling whatis like to be that person.

A good helper is able to tolerate silence. It isimportant skill in counseling.


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SKILLS NEEDED IN INTERVIEWING

1. OBSERVINGIn the pre-interview phase, observe the clients non verbal signals, physical and personalappearance, posture, facial expression.

In the interview proper, facial expressions occursimultaneously with verbal expressions. However,many times there is discrepancy between verbal

communication and facial expressions. The mostaccurate communication of true feelings occurswhen verbal communication and non- verbalcommunication reflect the same basic meaning.


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2. LISTENINGInvolves hearing what the client is sayingliterally and understanding what it meant

To understand completely, the helper must beattentive and concentrate on what the client issaying; understand the meaning of words,language, facial expression and non-verbalcommunication

The helper must be sensitive to emotionallyladen words, to have a clear picture of theclients problems and conflicts and the reasonsthey exist.


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4. QUESTIONING

purpose :a.) to gather data

b.) to understand the clients situation

c.) to motivate the client to pursue aspecific topic or subject matter

d.) to help the client clarify thoughts


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4. EXPLORING

This means delving into a topic in depth.It lets the helper and client share theclients experience for as long as the

client is willing. It can be used to help theclient express powerful feelings that areessential to resolve the crisis.

The purpose of exploring is to encouragethe sharing and expression of feelings aswell as to gain information

TWO DIFFERENT SKILLS ARE


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TWO DIFFERENT SKILLS AREINVOLVED IN QUESTIONING AND

EXPLORING:1. Timing the ability to know when to

ask question without interfering withthe flow of the clients conversation.

2. Formulating or phrasing questionsshould be designed to encourage theclient to express feelings openly andfreely.


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OTHER CONSIDERATIONS FORQUESTIONING AND EXPLORING:

Tone of voice

Use open-ended questions

Language and vocabulary use should fir the clients educational level, age, and frame of reference

An indirect method is to form a question as astatement, e.g., That sounds really hard for you.This kind of questioning is used to get the client toshare more feelings. Its is used when the client maybe a little reserved or reluctant to express painfulfeelings.


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Use of comparative questions. For thewife who says her husband does not love

her, the helper could say, by love, do you mean affection or concern for yourwelfare? The question stimulates the

client to think about what love is andabout whether there are some positivethings in the relationship. The directquestion, What do you mean by love? could make the client defensive andreactive basic feelings of being unloved.


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In formulating direct questions:

a. The sequence of questions should progressfrom the general to the specific.

b. The questions should progress from the less

personal to the more personal

c. The questions should be worded to elicitanswer of a sentence or more and to avoid

yes and no responses

d. The questions should be worded to avoid bias.


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